LIVING ROOM RETURN & RESET | Decluttering through Grief | My Decluttering Journey

I almost didn't post this video. The friend who helped me with clutter mountain talked me into it. The voiceover is a mess, LOL. Happy new year!
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[@emmajane7745]

Put your Christmas decorations in a box and label it for now. Any cardboard box. You don't need a special container for now x

[@aliceglazner1538]

I agree

[@keelienne]

YESS! And keep it simple, but most important: together 😃 Put the CDs in a cardboard box too, label it from ALL sides and put it next to the CD shelve.

[@gigipaz5959]

Hi Mira, My heart goes out to you during this difficult time. You have experienced great loss in the past 2 years and it is understandable that you cry often. I do feel a sense of relief after a good cry and I feel that it cleanses and heals my heart also. I do pray that your heart is filled with love and peace❤ I was going to suggest using the tissue paper to wrap your decor to protect it and to use an empty cardboard box for temporary storage. I would also suggest labeling the 4 sides of the box to easily locate it when your closet is ready. Five minutes a day makes a huge difference to the area that needs attention. It also makes a positive impact on your mood to have a clean space. One day at a time, dear Mira.. Block those people that are not showing you love and kindness. You don't deserve any hateful people in your life.

[@annamariabo8963]

This! Don't buy new stuff you feel you need for organization. Cardboard boxes are perfectly fine. Put things in a box, label it (!) and put the box on the bottom on the hallway closet so it's in the right spot even if you haven't the shelves in there yet.

[@someonesimple104]

Yes! You could use your scrapbooking skills to decorate your christmas cardbord Box. Then the box becomes a unique Style and you will find it better again, especially you're a visual person. Different boxes helps me , as a ADHD women with some cludder isues.. (sorry for my english, i'm not a native speaker)

[@johnwolfe2616]

Sue Wolfe- I'm so sorry for your suffering, Mira. I use clear plastic containers with a piece of packing tape on the side and top to write the contents on. I don't use cardboard as they attract bugs because of the glue. Mira, remember that you are a worthy person. You deserve to live in a nice, clean environment, free of the things that hold you back. As you move ahead and clear and clean each space, please remind yourself that you deserve to live in a safe place. This is so important to how you feel about yourself! You are so worthy and deserving of it. Don't let bad thoughts convince you otherwise!! Keep on with the good work! Here for you and cheering for you! 👏👋👍💪♥️♥️

[@PeelingAwaytheClutter]

Thank you for this lovely, encouraging comment. I appreciate it so much!

[@monicadziuk5635]

Yes to the clear containers with labels! I think Mira is a butterfly (from Clutterbug). So am I! Clear containers are the way to go.

[@patriciagluscic6816]

I just love You ❤

[@SharaLee60]

Mira, I'm so sorry you're still feeling bad. I understand it's hard, especially losing your Mom & your beloved doggie close together! I loss my parents within a 1yr of each other & I think there was an animal too. It was very hard for me then for a while. This has been several years ago. I just keep going & the help of my husband & family & friends I got through it. I still think of them every so often, & I have a good cry, then I go on. Maybe make a journal for your Mom & doggie. I know you're a crafter. That would be so neat! I love making Junk Journals. Also put each category like DVD's, you're collectibles, your clothes, papers to look at in a box & Write on all sides & top what's inside. You deserve to be in a nice clean environment & not let things hold you back. You're doing great! Just keep at it. Maybe set a daily goal to do 1 thing or more. You keep it going. Thanks for sharing! ♥️☺️🫂🐾🍄🦉✨️

[@lozzy8821]

Maintenance cleans are so important, you are strong 💪 don't doubt yourself 😊

[@PeelingAwaytheClutter]

Aw, thank you!

[@ellenfields-sischka7441]

My mom used to say socks are the larval form of hangers 😅 It's good to cry as you need to grieve. It's so nice to see your honesty, openness and vulnerability - you are so special. Also I've learned in my life that no one can tell another how long they "should" grieve. You'll grieve as long as you need to - don't let anyone tell you differently.

[@PeelingAwaytheClutter]

What a lovely comment. Thank you so much!

[@cat-mum-Jules]

I agree 100%

[@uhohlilbit09]

De-cluttering does not mean you don’t get to buy and enjoy new things. You are graciously sharing your life with us and don’t need to feel pressured in anyway. You’re buying with a purpose (even if it’s just because you like it) and you DESERVE to. We are here with you

[@madzabinga8382]

Oh gosh, you have really been through it. I am so sorry you lost your Mom and Cupid. How awful. Proud of you for getting up, getting dressed, and moving.

[@sallygombita]

Honestly, that's half the battle! It will get easier as time goes on.

[@coastalnana2766]

Good job tackling the living room even though you didn't feel like it. I'm sorry that you are suffering so much. My suggestion is work on closets next now that you have some clear space in the living room to sort. It will be much easier to stay organized and tidy when you have usable storage spaces. Keep your chin up!!

[@gh-terri5707]

Progress over perfection. 💖💖💖

[@PeelingAwaytheClutter]

So true!

[@aliceewrwr9484]

I have a saying I tell myself often. "Perfect? No. Better? Yes." You made your space better and that's great. Some days, you just breathe, and try again tomorrow. Grief sucks.

[@TiffaniNikiforos]

At the time I watched this video there were 5,847 views. When you picture that hallway with all the scary doors and overwhelming grief. Maybe consider an idea that what is really behind each of those doors is a wonderful memory. That memory may stir grief and feelings of loss. But what you might not have seen is for every door you see there is at least one of us viewers who is waiting in that room and would hold your hand and be with you through it. As of this moment 5,847 of us have proven that to be true. We are with you. And I encourage you to be pleasantly persistent and full of grace for yourself and the goals you set. Flowers bloom by digging thru a little dirt with their roots and taking time to soak in the sunshine. 🌸🌸🌸

[@PeelingAwaytheClutter]

What an absolutely beautiful comment. Thank you so much, really. I am truly grateful.

[@ellenfields-sischka7441]

You're doing great. The holidays are such a hard time when you add grief to it all. I'm so sorry.

[@PeelingAwaytheClutter]

Thank you!

[@dogmothercoffeelover]

Mira, the fact that you experienced two great tragedies in such a short time, and still have managed to continue peeling away clutter, and also take the time to record it and edit and upload to KZbin?!? That is no small feat. I’m honestly very impressed by you! Those people who leave judgemental comments are beyond ignorant. The vast majority of us are not let down by you I promise. We are impressed and inspired by your strength! Keep it up girl ❤️

[@Moonlight-nq4wy]

🛍️👍It is TOTALLY OK to purchase new things when you need them! The unused/ unneeded things are what needs to go. Even extreme minimalists need new things sometimes. It takes time for new habits to set. You're doing great! 👍💟🐾🦋🐕

[@susanlaughlin2081]

Grieving is both normal and unpredictable. Getting back to your declutter and taking the time to re-declutter the living room is a great step. That way you will regain the sense of accomplishment that you did when you first saw your beautiful living room. Cupid would be proud that you are clearing the floor that he was able to enjoy running around on! You are a very special woman who has taken on a project that many people can't. Congratulations and Happy New Year!

[@PeelingAwaytheClutter]

Thank you so much!

[@sarahharper-fi2mx]

When I lost my son, I felt like all I could do was cry. I got so annoyed at myself cause I was so over crying! But then I heard you laugh after you cried and it reminded me of my journey. There's lots of laughter these days, lots of jokes to get through. Some days are harder than others, as we all know. I'm so proud of you for saying you were going through grief bit by bit, just like your decluttering! Yes! Excellent! Keep going, you are so loved and appreciated. ❤️

[@talesfromthenuttery]

Clay is such a good boy. ☺I recently realized (also in the grief process) that I need to see my things, or I can't find them again. All my storage bins are clear now. It helps me so much because things aren't hidden anymore. I use them especially for crafting materials and for holiday decor. The clear containers stand out more than the previous boxes I used. This may help you! Thinking of you and inspired by all you have accomplished! 🙏💖

[@wendyeskelin8765]

I'm glad that these voice overs are bringing things to light for you, which is so therapeutic.

[@RadCenter]

Tidying is an act of self-care. It's a gift you give to your future self. When I know I will be facing an especially hard day, I will make sure my bed is made so when I get home I will have a calm space to retreat to. Clutter amplifies every negative emotion, making me feel sad, angry, and hopeless. My living room right now is literally making me sick. I've been tackling it for a few minutes every day. I'm starting to be able to walk into it without clenching my abdominal muscles from stress. Here's to my future self-and yours!

[@susanbrowning5325]

You mentioned in a previous video that your mom was proud of you and told you that you’re inspiring others. She was correct. You’re not only helping yourself, inspiring others but honoring your mom by not giving up. Grief is so hard! Cry all you need to. I lost my mom in 2010, still have a grief wave some days. I’m proud of you Mira! ❤

[@DonnaO3184]

Mira you are in a place right now,that you have to give yourself grace. Going back & doing a reset of your living room was a fantastic idea. Before you tackle a project, a touch up makes you see accomplishment. Even if it's trash & recycling. Take one day at a time & give Clay all the love you can.

[@Anberel]

I’ve really struggled since becoming disabled. I used to be so on top of things. My new motto is “progress, not perfection .” The book How to Keep House While Drowning literally changed my life. It taught me to focus on function rather than appearance. If my kitchen doesn’t function it needs work. If my kitchen is functional but not spotless I can give myself a pass.

[@Conval-wi5eh]

I am so sorry. I am still in my twenties, no kids yet, I live in an apartment and I am very fit, but maintaining requires so much time and energy nevertheless. If you want to have clean and tidy surfaces and a tidy kitchen at the end of the day it really is a lot of work and it is just not doable in times when you world is falling apart.

[@kathyaakananabluebird]

Glad you are able to hear that 10 percent of your heart that says don't give up. HUGS I lost my mom a few years ago and our lovely cat a year ago He was age 17. Don't give up on your goal. The grief does get easier, milder.

[@ashleycaldereous5339]

I am soooo proud of you continuing to declutter even through grief. Losing loved ones is terrible and derailing for anyone. It shows how strong you are that you are continuing on and not giving up. For the decorations, it is okay to have a few off-season boxes of decor - just make sure those boxes are labeled and only for those decor items (no sneaky water bottles ;). I'd put the labeled boxes in a corner until you can put them in a closet or garage (do you have a garage?). It's great seeing you go through the living room again. The "what's it's purpose" and "where will it go" guidelines are fantastic! The living room looks so much better (not mountainous). You are doing a great job!

[@PeelingAwaytheClutter]

Those water bottles, always trying to sneak where they don't belong. I don't have a garage, but I can definitely stash the off-season decor somewhere. Thanks for the suggestion,

[@alicehooten1513]

My husband died in 2021 and it’s true you will get through it. I had my sister with me for the first month or so. She kept my house running while I cried and slept. You are doing it correctly, working on it as you can it will keep your mind occupied while doing it. I’d suggest clear plastic containers instead of boxes. Buy a couple as you can afford it. Don’t need to buy all at one time. Then put like things in them and label them. Much easier than boxes. I learned you have to be kind to yourself, not be hard on yourself at times like this. You will get there stay strong

[@meghanandersen3668]

I lose my sweet baby Teddy 5 years ago to thyroid cancer. It was the worst day of my life. I cried every day for months. I still cry sometimes. We have 2 pups we rescued but nothing will ever take his place. He was my first baby. We thought we couldn’t have children so he was my only baby. Now we have 2 beautiful children who have loved Teddy and remember him daily. He’s never really left us. I pray that you never forget Cupid but it will be easier every day to find the joy he brought to you. Hugs!

[@bonnielovestuxedos7929]

I lost my sweet Pazie today, my 15 year old beautiful Tuxedo kitty. He was my Buddy Cat. I share your sadness and grief. Keeping going, Mira, at whatever pace feels right.💕

[@lindagarner1320]

I inherited my Dad's tuxedo cat when he died 3 and a half years ago. He helped me get through the death of my Mom a year after that. It was hard when Bubba died several months ago. So sorry for the loss of your precious kitty.💔

[@gloriastroedecke2717]

@bonnielovestuxedos7929 I am so sorry for your loss. Although 15 years is a long time, the great love we have insists that there will never be enough time. The love is eternal. It is mutual. I wish you comfort and peace.

[@PeelingAwaytheClutter]

Oh no! I'm so sorry for your loss. Hugs to you.

[@kathymusgrove8518]

When I go through things I have a box cutter or scissors to flatten out boxes, a bag for trash, and a couple other things such as clothes baskets to sort into piles as I go. For example a basket for different rooms. I attempt to touch it once. I also have a tub with a lid to store decorations I am not currently using. I like the colored tubs because colors can mean different things. I also took a couple drawers and set up tissues paper and sacks to use for gifts . That has been a life saver. I don’t do wrapping paper as it takes up a lot of room, paper sacks are easier. I get either white or brown paper sacks from Joann’s or Michael’s and they can be used for any gift you need them to. I also use a robot vacuum each day. I still need to vacuum with a hand held one once a week but the robot vacuum is great. Mine is a shark brand. I have clutter too. Before the robot vacuum could run in my bedroom I had to pick up a few things off the floor. I was pretty ruthless with my clothes and came to realize that I really was only using 10-20% of my clothing. I got rid of everything with a stain, did not currently fit, and if I had not worn it in six months. I was surprised with that process. I did go through the clothes three times and it took me six months roughly to get to that end. You are on the way to a happier home. Less crap means less to clean. Best lesson I’ve learned so far. Take care!

[@rebeccaplasters2964]

I like that you circled back around to the living room. Keeping up the rooms that have been decluttered was my priority. For quite a while, I just re-visited by kitchen, living, and dining room because I didn’t have the motivation to go further. It was so nice to always have those rooms tidy even when I couldn’t emotionally do more. For you, that would be your living room, kitchen, and bathroom. To simply (not simply)maintain those 3 rooms would be a great gift to yourself. Even if you can’t go further in other areas. You’re right that the journey isn’t straight forward. Keep peeling away 😊

[@mariannedressler6784]

Mira, I can feel your sadness 😢I like to keep seasonal decors in clear totes. One day at a time sweet lady. ❤

[@prettycubby4764]

Regarding doing only small amounts of work: I have long gotten a lot of satifaction over small accomplishments, for better or worse. Some people think I'm lazy. My father however said that a little progress is still progress. He is dearly missed by my family

[@theresachristian4246]

I think staying busy helps with the grieving and your mom would like for you to keep moving forward. ❤

[@susanhoughton1104]

I just want to hold your hand for a minute and let you know that it’s all ok. Do what you can when you can. In everything, not just de cluttering. You need your living room as a staging area for things moving on. Please don’t forget that it might look messy, it’s progress. There weren’t the deep piles like clutter mountain, there weren’t tons of water bottles. Yup are doing what you can. That’s awesome!

[@jwb3136]

When I lost my last dog we had lost 5 before her but she was my soul mate (sorry to my hubby) and got the first time in 17 years our house was empty. We’d rescued her only one year nine months earlier just before her 12th birthday but I loved her deeper than any pet before her. I had to fill my house almost immediately because I couldn’t survive in the silence. Sending you much love. I’ve also lost a parent and many others. Thank you for sharing so much with us. ❤

[@roxanes43]

Grief brain is for real. Be patient and kind with yourself. You've made such an impact on so many people, including me. Wishing you peace and comfort in your warm memories 🙏🐾

[@trishb6895]

Those jeans are very flattering You sound very lonely and isolated. Please reach out to your support system daily. A five min chat on the phone can work wonders. When you fill up a garbage bag bring it out side to the trash. Don’t let several build up. I think the instant win of seeing a bag gone can motivate you or make you feel accomplished. The empty boxes need to go out. Your livingroom isn’t a dumpster so try to think about it as a living space. You are coming along beautifully. Keep up with that trash above all. The other items can go in good time. Getting outside to run even the smallest errands can be so beneficial for a change of scenery. Also being real about your grief is good. I think you feel the sadness over Cupid so strongly because he was your fur child. Please reach be out to loved ones and allow company to come over.

[@midnytemelody7822]

No-one is ever as interested in everything you do as your mother, or as proud of you. ❤ 🫂 ❤

[@blakesbasement]

i think if the decor isnt display worthy, consider letting it go. Do you listen to cds? if not, you can let them go. For grief, you have some open spaces now! how about setting up a shrine in honor of you ancestors and loved ones. as you find mementos and candles, you can use them there. also you can have a bell or light a candle everyday. much love and love the jeans!

[@PeelingAwaytheClutter]

Good point about the outdoor storage. Heidi is beautiful. Thanks for commenting.

[@victoriachristian4379]

Your 10% energy produced a LOT! Sending you love!

[@daniellebcraftingcorner]

Since you are a visual organizer I think you should get a clear bin for the decor. I'd say put it in a space you haven't worked on yet so you can come back to it when you have more storage options. I'm so proud of you for tackling the living room despite how hard it is for you right now. Always always progress over perfection and look how far you've progressed.

[@kathiritchey8138]

Hugs, Mira. Lost my mom 3 months ago, its the worst. ❤

[@PeelingAwaytheClutter]

Aw, I'm so sorry. It is terribly hard. Wishing you comfort.

[@poodlegirl55]

I personally don't keep anything in boxes, I don't like cardboard in my house and it's easy to forget whats in them. I sold all my Rubbermaid totes when I downsized. I have clear plastic sweater boxes that I keep my holiday decor in and it goes on the top shelf of my guest room closet. I only keep what will fit there which is why I don't have a Christmas tree. When you are further along in your decluttering you might set parameters for your stuff as in this shelf is for...this cabinet is for...and keep it to that. It is the number one thing that is helping me not to fill up again. I have two bookcases and if I bring home books they have to fit there or I need to find a few to purge.

[@PeelingAwaytheClutter]

Thanks for sharing.

[@Yeshanu]

I'd suggest clear plastic tubs with labels for the Christmas stuff. When you clear out the closet, you can stack the tubs. If you have the smaller boxes the items came in, I'd certainly suggest using them to keep the items from breaking. For now, cardboard boxes will work, so long as you label and seal them. As for the jeans and new clothes, O noticed them before you mentioned them. I was like, "Oh, look! Mira's wearing jeans and a sweater!" Looks good. You bought clothes that fit your body and your life, and there's nothing wrong with that.

[@mollyoutdoors]

Mira, a wider angle is so much more helpful to the people watching! It's hard to grasp what's going on when it's too close :) Just thought I'd let you know since you mentioned thinking the angle was too wide. You're doing a wonderful job.

[@PeelingAwaytheClutter]

I appreciate the input.

[@lindalorton4334]

Grief is the price we pay for love! How very sad it is to lose our parents but something we all share together as no one lives forever! All of us that have lost our parents and a beloved pet understands your pain and loss! It's absolutely crushing but you can make it! Lean on your friends and family and all of your YT family who love and support you! Honor both your Mom and Cupid by making your home a warm and cozy safe haven where you can relax and enjoy your hobbies in a clean and clutter free space. You are already doing a fabulous job and I know 2024 will bring you blessings! You are strong and brave! You Go Girl!❤

[@pennysaufley8974]

You are doing so well. After each time my parents died, I couldn’t do anything but go to work for month. Barely even paid bills. It’s ok. But I’m SO glad that you are developing those habits. I think clutter is like alcohol or over eating (that’s me, btw), it feels good in the short term but long term it hurts. Having that bowl of ice cream (me) or swimming in water bottles, may help for a moment, but doesn’t do anything with our feelings and only prolongs the agony. Crying with you.

[@0497311]

❤ alles braucht seine Zeit. Auch die Trauer. ❤ Zum Verstauen z.B. von Weihnachtsdekor nutze ich klare Boxen und Ziplock-Beutel. So habe ich alles sicher und sortiert. Herzliche Grüße Gaby aus Deutschland 😊

[@PeelingAwaytheClutter]

You're so kind, Gaby. Thanks for commenting!

[@kdk38]

Mira - you are so vulnerable and real, and so dang brave. I take strength from your strength. And you are strong, but that doesn’t mean that you don’t hurt. It makes sense that the grief is still hitting you but I am in awe of the work that you are doing to move forward. That doesn't mean that you are forgetting Cupid or your mom, but you are honoring them by living your life. You go girl!

[@hazel1766]

I am so sorry for your losses. Gentle Hugs ❤.

[@PeelingAwaytheClutter]

Thank you!

[@MsArtistwannabe]

I really like that you clean the floor when you’re done decluttering for the day.

[@katehamb439]

Give yourself grace, if you can’t bring yourself to throw away blue confetti now, it’s ok, you can do a second or third pass in a few months and you might be able to do it then. I’ve a suggestion as someone who’s been through grief and decluttering - not at the same time - create a sanctuary space, one chair, one corner that you try to keep clutter free (picture Gandalf standing there saying to clutter You shall not pass). It gives you a safe, clean calm space to retreat to.

[@MikaDoesStuff23]

There was a screenshot going around of someone sharing that resolutions can be FUN. One year it was fruit-based. Any time they saw a fruit they'd never had, they ate it and read the wiki page about it. Another year was pasta, eat as many different pasta shapes as they could find. It was a fun twist on resolutions I'd never thought of before :)

[@PeelingAwaytheClutter]

This sounds so fun! Thanks for sharing.

[@KarynDavis-vg4nm]

A few years ago, I went through a period in my life when everything was out of control. Taking care of my father=in=law, who had Alzheimer's, while my husband suffered a relapse after being sober for 24 years. We had sold our house and most of our belongings before we moved 200 miles to live and care for FIL. Along with that, we were named conservators/guardians for my mother-in-law, who was in memory care, and that paperwork and reports requirements demanded more and more of my time. I felt so deserted and abandoned, and kind of like a hostage to the whole situation because I had nobody else to depend on. My husband had been my rock and even he was lost to me. All that to say this. I found during that time that if I could feel even one moment of being in control of something for myself, it made me feel better. I thought of all that while watching this video, Mira. You have lost so, so much, but yet you found a way to get control of something. I watched as you got through the clutter in your living room so much faster now, and I, along with so many others, were rooting for you, so proud of you, so empathetic with your grief and your losses. I think we have all been through some crushing times and not everyone gets through it with the grace and self-reflection and honesty that you give yourself. I am so, so inspired by you, your journey, your humor, your determination, and I send you lots of love and light and prayers. The raw pain of grief will pass, as you know, but in the meantime please do not feel the need to apologize or defend your decisions or your needs. Know that the critics out here are talking about their own feelings, not about yours. I feel sad for people who lash out, and know that they must be so miserable in their lives. You are loved. Hang in there.

[@PeelingAwaytheClutter]

What a lovely comment. Thanks so much for sharing your experience. I appreciate it so much!

[@annadanya2585]

you are doing absolutely fantastic ❤ such a strong lady 😊

[@PeelingAwaytheClutter]

Thank you!

[@hanna7644]

I noticed your jeans right away, love them! Hugs to you in your time of grief. Maintenance of your LR, kitchen and bathroom is a way to celebrate your progress - declutting can come later....

[@LaurenSmith-tb6ye]

Hey, great job! I had noticed you weren't wearing sweatpants and that you seem to be losing weight. It must be so motivating to keep moving forward. Don't let the negative comments get to you. No one is perfect. You can shop if you want to. A work in progress. ❤

[@KelleeYouPersonalOracle]

I’m so sorry for your losses. The fact that you’re still working on picking up your house is huge! That is progress over perfection.

[@Anberel]

I hate shopping for jeans. I found one style of one brand and I just keep buying them online in all the colors that I like. If you can find ones that fit without having to wrestle them on in a changing room it’s a huge win. The thing is, you’re doing things consciously now. You’re thinking about how your stud serves you. Good work!

[@hollyedmiston3332]

I really commend you for working so hard to maintain the spaces you’ve already decluttered even though you don’t even feel like it. Small, consistent effort really does pay off. I can’t wait for the day when your craft room is done and it’s after Christmas and you can immediately take all the tissue paper to exactly where the tissue paper lives. That’s gonna feel so good for you! And by the way, you can’t be doing it “wrong” because you’re doing it for yourself for your own reasons, so it doesn’t even matter what anybody else thinks, ever.

[@PeelingAwaytheClutter]

Thank you so much!

[@Zombie-adventures]

Hang in there Mira. We got your back. Praying for your peace of mind, loss is hard but you have been a champion. We may never meet but please know you and your videos are such a blessing! ❤❤❤ P.s. shake that confetti when you have milestones. It would be fun!!

[@PeelingAwaytheClutter]

That's such a fun idea for the confetti. Thanks for commenting!

[@annamariabo8963]

You got so much done in this video! That was nothing but a hill, you conquered mountains before. It didn't have a chance.

[@em1775]

Hi Mira, When you are ready, open your home and heart to another dog that is sad and lonely. I lost my most beloved dog, too, and as soon as I could, I went to adopt a dog, and this action helped with my broken heart. I still remember my beloved dog, but I heart feels much better.

[@caro1141]

Hello Mira, you are not letting anybody down and you can buy what ever you feel like buying. We all have our own standards. You don t have to fit into any category or box or whatever. You do your own thing and you are doing a wonderful job especially that you are still grieving! You are very strong and you should feel really proud of yourself just because you are sharing your thoughts and your home with us . No one has the right to leave you bad comments . You are such a sweet person! ❤❤❤ Take care and sending you lots of strength!!!

[@cyndyfabian7555]

Hi Mira. Grannie Cyndy from South Australia here. 72yo brand new subscriber who has battled similar things for the last 30 yrs or so. I would improve things but then slip back every time. Shame was a huge factor for me. I would do anything to avoid anyone coming inside my house. Finally I am getting there and now I'm down to the unseen areas. Only yesterday I emptied a tv unit. I couldn't believe that I had VHS tapes and lots of audio tapes in there. They are now gone and I have new available storage space. Win win! Keep it up, Mira. Thankyou so much for your honesty. 😚

[@PeelingAwaytheClutter]

Thanks for subscribing! Sounds like you are doing great! Grateful that you're sharing.

[@sheilarowan8664]

I understand where you are I lost a son but I can also understand the grief you are feeling for your beautiful pet our grief is different is so personal I also have lost beautiful pets and family the grief we feel is our own love your channel hope you have a great new year it can only get better xoxolove ❤❤❤❤❤

[@PeelingAwaytheClutter]

I'm so sorry about your son. Hugs to you.

[@judithclughen8955]

Oh Mira you are so brave to just keep on keeping on because your kind words to others at the end also apply to you. You can do it. You will do it. You are loved. We are right behind you. Xx and I had already thought how cool the jeans were before you mentioned them. Good purchase!

[@PeelingAwaytheClutter]

Thank you so much!

[@caroldenton1032]

Hang in there don’t beat yourself up. I have learned with my many losses there is no right or wrong way to grieve. You are loved.❤🙏

[@nolasavedmysoul]

❤ grief is so hard. You’re doing the best you can and that is enough

[@debby891]

Sending you lots of virtual hugs and please know that grief and tears represent the amount of love you had. I watch your declutter process, love your insight as you go but as a furbaby mom to two small dogs, Toby Bear and Half Pint I know how much it means to them to have space to run, play, find their favorite toys, etc and maybe that little 10% nudge you said you felt was from Cupid letting you know that’s he’s still watching you momma and the pride from your mom shine down. No news year’s resolutions for me as I was never able to keep them and found that they created unnecessary anxiety thinking about them and always failing at keeping them. At 65 I guess the only resolution I’m willing to commit to is being kind, having gratitude, compassion and empathy for others and just daily reminders that it starts with me in this crazy world. Do what you can, rest mentally and physically when you must and know that we love and support you so much❤ Debby, upstate New York

[@PeelingAwaytheClutter]

Thank you so much, Debby!

[@debby891]

@@PeelingAwaytheClutter you’re very welcome♥️

[@laurac56]

I think the fact that you notice and desire the clutter to be gone says a lot. The fact that you can take care of the stuff says even more.

[@hannahlewis1645]

Wonderful introspection. Hugs. I'm so sorry and also proud of you to keep showing up even in the struggle.

[@suredeydo]

Mira, I am aghast. Resetting your living room like this, doing the video, STILL MOVING FORWARD like literally the strongest person on Earth. You are my ABSOLUTE HERO. I'm still digging out of my depression and draw strength from the way you are handling everything. Keep moving forward and doing things like this! We are your cheerleaders and love to see it. You've inspired me to tidy up tonight. I'm wishing you so much success this year. Hope you keep uploading; it might not seem like progress but it truly is, Mira!

[@PeelingAwaytheClutter]

Wow, you are so kind. I can't thank you enough for this lovely comment! I also love hearing when people are inspired to declutter/tidy after watching my videos. I appreciate you!

[@charlottesemple]

Mira. Your description of grief as a hallway is close to nailing it for me. Mine is more like tidal waves of grief that just blindside me! And I miss my mom because she always had my back. No apologies for three up - one should feel comfy and wonderful in what you’re wearing especially when everything else feels SO HARD. What wonderful progress you are making

[@PeelingAwaytheClutter]

Thank you so much!

[@MichelleLieven-nr2ik]

For your decor question: just do whatever your gut is telling you to do now. There are endless ways and places people organize and store things. Do what you think would work best for you right now. If you find that way isn’t working for you later then try a different way. I think you’re making great progress and so glad you are working on maintaining and not letting areas you have gone through backslide. That’s a great challenge in itself. You will eventually discover a daily, nightly, weekly, monthly routine for your house. The main thing is never give up and keep trying ways that work for you.

[@mackimmy]

mira, i love you and your broken heart 💔 it’s hard being an orphan but your visual storytelling way of grieving is deeply poetic and powerful. i lost mama 21 years ago and daddy two years ago and the grief still taps me on the shoulder or gut punches. i’m so glad you have clay and friends to help you through. the numbness and apathy is grief protecting you from overwhelming pain. isn’t the mind amazing at how it protects itself and its owner? big hugs 🧸

[@susiesunshine6489]

So glad you found something that fits!! It is a little bit of joy that you deserve! Enjoy!

[@rhondap8683]

Sending you all the positive vibes in hopes that you will feel more sunshine than darkness in the days to come. ❤

[@M1326]

For the decor. I have a small closet in my foyer and I have a 4 tier shelf from Amazon. I allot 1 small bin for each holiday that I like... which is only 2... Halloween & Christmas... but it helps me keep it in order. I also use the shelf to hold items to return or donate so I can access them easily on my weekly outings. It helps keep it clean and easy to handle. Just sharing. I am very neat and organized, not perfect or minimal, and I still do monthly declutters of spaces or donation checks... You are doing awesome with the decluttering.

[@PeelingAwaytheClutter]

Thank you!

[@shannonw6604]

You are such a masterclass in self awareness and self acceptance. Sending you a big hug Mira. One day at a time,

[@pamelafreeman4548]

Grief has come in waves for me after.my husbands suicide 11 years ago dec 23. It is a process. Cry if you need to cry. Take a break if you need to. We are here to support you. You got a lot accomplished today! Those water bottles make me laugh too. I dont use water bottles, but, my yarn skeins show up in the wierdest places. 😅❤😂

[@lorikruse4565]

Mira so sorry for your loss!!!! Must be so so hard! Be kind to yourself! You did a great job today. One little step at a time! Crying is healthy. Let it out. It is part of healing. You will inspire so many who are working through loss! You got this!!!!

[@theropesofrenovation9352]

Just remember, you will be leaving behind a mess that someone will have to deal with on top of their grief.

[@laurac56]

This is the point of Swedish Death Cleaning, a concept I agree with wholeheartedly, but I find decluttering easy and am slowly becoming more minimal. I’m not sure that it is a concept that everyone would find helpful, though.

[@theropesofrenovation9352]

@@laurac56 Good for you! Don't think I was being mean, just pointing something out. =)

[@dianawells1308]

Grief is Exhausting! Be Kind to Yourself, give yourself the Grace you would a friend. So proud of you for continuing and strengthening your declutter muscles. I promise it will get better.

[@ritatharp5238]

Thank God, Grief is like a pressure cooker. We couldn't take everything all at once, so 😢grief comes out in small spurts when we least expect it.❤

[@mrsdscraftdesk]

Reuse the tissue paper to keep your decor safe in the box. You’re a sweetheart with so many genuine words of wisdom. Perfection is overrated and boring. And I agree with you about new year resolutions- don’t need to add more stress on purpose!

[@ketojo]

Mira, I see you as an incredibly strong woman who has great insight into her life. Greater insight than most people have. You are processing your emotions, which hurts but is so necessary to move on. You are setting healthy boundaries. Please look closely at your strengths, you have so many! because the grief can cloud them. The grief will lessen as time goes on, but you're doing everything right to work through it now.

[@ritatharp5238]

Mira, when you have known great love, like you have, you have a responsibility to pass that love on because love and memories never die. I want that on my gravestone. Seriously.

[@MiriNinety]

Your moments of self-realisation are so precious, Mira! I am training as a psychotherapist and can clearly see your journey. You’re doing so good, and I am amazed at your strength, cause you’re also doing it on your own, without psychological support! Always be gentle and patient with yourself, as you are doing now. That empty bottle on the sofa is a symbol of your self love and self acceptance and I am so proud of you right now. ❤️

[@PeelingAwaytheClutter]

Wow, thank you so much! What a lovely comment.

[@thedreadednyondo]

Thank you for sharing such raw grief. I’ve been there, where going through a loved one’s things and thinking about getting rid of them hurts too much to do. It gets easier over time…go slow, but keep going.

[@lisafeltmate5732]

I’m so sorry for the loss of your mother on top of the loss of your precious Cupid. It’s so much at once. You describe how it feels so well with the surrounded by darkness and the hallway with the rooms on the sides. I’m thinking of you as you go through this.

[@joycefernandezbaham8380]

It’s okay to have to start over again. It is okay to take it easy and take your time. I’m proud of you for pushing through

[@leahsjovold8296]

I'm so sorry for your loss and pain. My grandma always told me "the best way to honor someone is to live well". May you find strength to keep plugging away so you can live well in a clean and tidy home that brings you joy. Well wishes always.

[@brendajackson2651]

Grief can take over every aspect of your life and rightfully so. I find that focusing a small amount of time at the beginning of each day on what I’m grateful for helps my day be a bit more positive. A gratitude journal might help with that. You’re the best Miracles.

[@garmstrong4872]

Mira, I loved your visual description of the grief you’re feeling. Your words touched my soul. That you were able to tackle your living room at all is a testament to how strong you are. We’re here for you and will continue to watch and cheer you on your journey. As for storage, I recommend see through bins with lids. I can stack them but still see whats inside.

[@Conval-wi5eh]

What touched me the most was her realization that she is piling stuff where her dog used to sit. Yes Mira, awareness is the first step.

[@ashleysnedegar3268]

Keep the blue confetti. I am a minimalist but I have a diaper bag and no kids. Long story- I was a foster parent and used this diaper bag with all my kids. It's not special nor that pretty but some how my heart connects that diaper bag with my kids and I can not let it go. It's the memory that the bag holds. Throwing it on the ground to run to a playground or cleaning out gold for the 100th time out of it. Keep the confetti you need to feel safe and have memories to help you through your grief. You need time and love. Also about the pants I use to think hey I'm a minimalist I can't buy anything or I can't be a minimalist nope wrong. I buy things. Things break. They make some pretty I've never seen before. Oh I finally find clothes that fit yep I'm buying... you are doing amazing. Please keep living and laughing and loving. You will feel better a little at a time. ❤ You are making a change. The pile is smaller. You are using the bin. It's less bottles. You are working on the piles faster than before. You are not starting from the beginning you have some experience now. You want to feel his company and its ok. ❤❤❤❤ I would wrap up the Christmas decor in bubble wrap in a labeled box, even an Amazon box will work. I would put it in the space bedroom yes even if it's on a pile until you are able to work in that room.

[@hannahsampson4835]

I’ve always been told that crying is healing and while I’m sure that’s true I also believe that having those small happy moments (like when your puppy shows you love) in between the tears helps the most

[@futabulousco.3881]

I am so sorry for your losses. I totally can sympathize with what you are going through. It is so hard to keep going but you are making progress. You are also inspiring others to clean and organize their homes too.

[@kendra7706]

Mira, you are an amazing human being - encouraging people while going through what you are going through! Don’t stop your decluttering journey, you’ll get there on your own time! And grief is a long, personal journey - it will get easier! Been there, done it - still going through it after losing my husband almost 14 years ago! As always, hugs to you! ❤

[@michellejackson1445]

Mira, it's apparent that piles of stuff are just piles of grief, and yet you're tackling it again and still tackiing it. I said it before and I'll say it again--you are valiant! One day you'll look around your clean, uncluttered house and you'll see that the sadness in your life that is there through no fault of your own is more bearable because of how you've grown emotionally.

[@leashy1204]

My recommendation is to get rid of all the cardboard boxes. Store items in clear containers so that you can see inside them. This will help you more than you realize right now. 👍👍💖

[@dianesass9901]

Mira, I have a problem with storing seasonal things as well. I often wonder where folks who have tons of decor for every season and holiday keep all of it 🤔 I'm so impressed with you and your bravery to continue to push on with your journey. Also, with how you recognize where your feelings are coming from and your endless persistence to allow them to help you move forward. Give yourself a big pat on the back 👏👏👏👏 Your growth and progress are admirable, dear! ❤❤