Living with a schizophrenic for 40 years

[@raymondafernando]

"Reading all the encouraging comments to my love story with my late wife, Doris on The Royal Singapore and here on KZbin that's coming in every day, brings lots of tears to my eyes. You are well loved Doris, and so am I, I guess. . Thanks guys, you are awesome!

[@me-zaan2285]

You are an AWESOME man Sir.My brother had schizophrenia for 20 years before dying aged 35 , his illness was and still is the toughest thing we had to deal with mental illness doesn't affect the sick only but their family mrmbers too nut LOVE has a huge role to ease the journey, so seeing how you stuck around Doris , is really something speacial.

[@evaherreria8014]

Strong heart very motivated. In every circumstances there always a way out,very true..no matter what just walk through it 😊😊👍

[@pedtsukonin686]

you did a great job and your love to her was so big and immense that it touched us who heard your story. I've been in touch with a number of mental illnesses, depressives or obessives, these people are rather OK to handle, but schizophrenics and persecutory delusives are toughest to deal with, since there are occasions they simply lost their mind completely (living in delusions) and you can do nothing, that's really tough for the family and I wholeheartedly sympathize their plights. what I can do somehow is just to listen to those family members who want someone to talk with and blah everything out. That's basically what I could do for them.

[@TofuTeo]

What an incredible husband you were to Doris! She was lucky to have you.

[@sonyxperia7881]

Stay blessed sir ❤️

[@raymondafernando]

“I am deeply grateful with the uplifting wonderful comments on our love story - Doris and myself that was produced by the GREAT production team of The Royal Singapore which has been uploaded on Facebook as well as on KZbin. I am happy that our story is going viral- every day. Readers made the effort to write their heartfelt feelings. This is one way we can build a far better society. And I have achieved what I set out to do for 10 years - as a staunch mental health advocate - by changing perceptions where people fully understand the struggles caregivers and patients face when we take ‘the road less travelled.’ So that someday, some how, persons with mental illness can gain acceptance in society. Then we can become a truly inclusive society. Most certainly, I want to surround myself with people who can lift me higher. God bless all of you abundantly. You made the DIFFERENCE."' -Raymond Anthony Fernando -

[@teambl4dez]

Stay strong! I have infinite respect towards you.

[@sheilae.535]

Doris is lucky to have you as her husband. not all men can accept the extra baggage a woman has. my utmost admiration to your marriage!

[@williamy2058]

Fernando... thanks for the great sharing. I've forwarded this video to friends who are in similar predicament.

[@ksliang6072]

Hope TRS can change the title of this video. Doris was a wife , sister and daughter, much more than an illness. Society needs to realise that people with psychiatric disorders are sufferers themselves and not the disease. The title should be "Living with a spouse who had schizophrenia." God bless Raymond for staying on the narrow road of LIFE. Matthew 7:13-14

[@bluehaert]

@@ksliang6072 Agreed. There is a media guide published by NCSS about it in March this year. Hope The Royal Singapore will refer to it.

[@ellietv2958]

a lot of teenage or young couple always on tiktok saying they have couple goals. Guess what? This is the real couple goals!!!! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

[@raymondafernando]

Thanks, Ellie

[@olive1355]

Epic comment 💯👌

[@paviram1038]

True

[@rebeccagerber6370]

God bless this man. Doris couldn't have asked for a better husband. Much respect to you, sir.

[@raymondafernando]

thanks

[@earthcitizen4266]

Raymond, Doris left not because of schizo but pneumonia, you have succeeded. You left your job and take care of her and held her hand to walk the tough journey together. I am so touch. You are a good hearted man. Take good care, May God bless you in every way!

[@raymondafernando]

Thanks

[@raymondafernando]

Besides being a staunch advocate for the mentally ill and their caregivers, I have also become a kindness advocate. Such efforts require a great deal of hard work and discipline. Discipline of the mind is important for us to be pure in heart, to stay calm and not to harm anyone. Being disciplined means you stay obedient to God, be faithful to our spouse and give unconditional love to our children; and of course, to our parents who gave us life. Have a nice day, folks! Cheers, Raymond Anthony Fernando

[@raymondafernando]

20 years ago, I had a dream, and as difficult as it seemed at the time, I was hungry to fulfill that dream. Yes the key words in scaling greater heights is, Dream and Hungry. Don't allow obstacles or anyone to prevent you from being hungry to fulfill your dreams.

[@aynkhamal5096]

You will be blessed .

[@HbbH38]

I would love to have the chance to shake this man's hand. Respect. 🙏

[@raymondafernando]

Thanks, Henry

[@liskhasusandrapabendan7013]

Me too.....

[@dasyatdasyat5375]

Me too...

[@raymondafernando]

"One of the most important things caregivers of the mentally ill must remember at all times ,especially during loved ones' relapses is to ..Separate the illness from the person." -Raymond Anthony Fernando-

[@user-kc8qp1kh1d]

Mr Fernando, Doris is fortunate to have you as her husband. You are her guardian angel. I really respect you for not abandoning her this 40 years. I totally understand the life that you have been through. My mother has schizophrenia since I was young. For 20 years she has been with us and when she passed on with another illness, our house suddenly becomes so lonely. I guessed because life suddenly becomes a lot easier for us and we feel a sudden emptiness in our heart. Doris knew that you suffered a lot for her and she loves you and wanted to give back your freedom and happiness that she thinks you deserve it. I wish you to have a blessful life always.

[@raymondafernando]

Thanks for your kind words, my friend

[@rainbow-qs8ie]

When a family member passed away, there's a sense of desolation at home. The heart is bereft of the family member's presence. As the adverse effects of the illness no longer exist, obviously the family condition becomes less turbulent.

[@yellowsaffron7668]

Omg this braught me to tears. My son has Schizophrenia. And those around him love him. He is a wonderful man who takes his meds and embraces this horrible illness. Although he claims it's not to bad. When he is quiet I sit with him, and then bursts of my old son come out. He will never be the same again. We raised a soft beautiful cuddly little boy to manhood. Then this disease took his mind.

[@PeterLeo-m6w]

Yes, u can only love them till the day we all be renew n change in a moment, hope that day come soon, God bless ur family & may God restore all his lost years some day,❤❤

[@sammikaur9702]

people find excuses to walk out but you stayed...true gentleman

[@raymondafernando]

Thank you

[@krisnanstravelvlogscomings3893]

You’re a strong man mr Raymond both mentally and physically going through to take care of your wife you sir are a great human being sir

[@raymondafernando]

Thank you.

[@felix121984]

Yes a strong man is stamina not cage fighting.

[@miloo3969]

You are a good man, Raymond. Doris was very blessed because of you. God Bless you.

[@raymondafernando]

Thank you. God bless!

[@raymondafernando]

thank God within just 3 months there are more than 100,000 people on KZbin alone who love my story and are supportive of my efforts to de-stigmatize mental illness

[@brontel3004]

Their unwavering love for one another is truly inspirational and profound.

[@heathergalbraith7444]

Crying and send you much love from Canada. It's all anybody wants in this life is to be loved and never abandoned. You sir are the epitome of a great husband. God Bless you and God Bless Doris

[@yokes1648]

Oh! I remember this couple!!!! When I was hospitalised at IMH & going back for out-patient appointments, I’d see their photograph on posters as advocates for mental health & caregiver well-being. Glad to be able to hear from the man himself.

[@raymondafernando]

Thank you.

[@jinggwennlinn989]

He's a gem.

[@raymondafernando]

Thanks

[@karendesouza8610]

Dear Raymond, you have a heart like Jesus' ..... May God use your testimony to reach out to those who are going through similar situations and to save souls for the glory of His kingdom. Be blessed Raymond.

[@raymondafernando]

Thanks Karen God bless

[@sareevandanas7858]

Salute sir... As a person with depression and moods swings, finding a partner with a full of understanding is a Blessing. Your wife is so lucky to have you by her side. Mental health problems is not a joke.

[@madanarathimadangopal5890]

What a moving reminder on the power of true love through thin & thick times.

[@raymondafernando]

Thank you.

[@sathyavani2296]

This is what we mean by genuine love! Sir u have accepted her as a whole, for who she is. We are proud of you.

[@raymondafernando]

Thanks & God Bless you

[@yeanyt]

Such a sweet story. True love exists

[@raymondafernando]

thanks

[@lilychua7866]

Thank you for showing us what unconditional love is, Mr Fernando! May God Bless you always.

[@sienna3830]

He is such a pure soul! This is the real definition of marriage! Unconditional Love & loyalty … may God bless him abundantly ❤️

[@ivyarul5012]

Such a loving husband. Doris is watching over you from heaven.

[@aynkhamal5096]

Your late wife was really blessed to have such a great husband who had loved her despite her adversities.Bless you Mr.Fernando

[@aynkhamal5096]

Not many partners are compassionate and willing to scarifice.I hve battled through an illness more than 3 decades that I decided to quit work.

[@tereneng9858]

Hi Raymond ! I have had the wonderful opportunity to meet you many donkey years ago when we gathered at SPH Centre to promote our books. At that time, you did mention your beloved wife Doris and had spoken of her condition. After watching your Love story on KZbin, I am immensely touched by your devoted love to Doris, to love unconditionally and care for her since Day 1. Not many men can do what you had selflessly done. Please take good care of yourself and stay strong. You ARE Wonderful !

[@raymondafernando]

thanks , Terrence, yes, I have spoken about her condition, openly, many times in her presence such as when I gave talks to a wide audience, on TV where she sometimes participated with me in the interview /s. and now after she passed on. We both had a purposes,- to free the mentally ill from their prisoners and to counter prejudice.

[@caroconga]

You, Sir, are an extraordinary man. Your devotion and dedication are remarkable. Thank you for shining such a loving and compassionate light on the struggles caused by mental illnesses. Your wife sounds like a wonderful woman.

[@raymondafernando]

Thanks , Indeed my late wife was AWESOME!

[@n0ah49]

Hi Raymond, i was going through my books the other day and came across your book and thought to myself -- how have you been? just grateful i found you here and knowing TRS covered your story and reaching out to thousands more! i must admit i teared watching this video. thank you for continuing your mission to help the community. Keep writing and keeping you in prayers!

[@raymondafernando]

i am coping , Noah , Which book of mine, Noah?

[@n0ah49]

@@raymondafernando Loving a Schizophrenic. u stopped by our church @St iggy's and we were at the first morning mass.. so glad to know you continue to create awareness . Take care !

[@raymondafernando]

@@n0ah49 Thanks Sister

[@foghornd1059]

I am a 60 years old dude. I cried after watching this video. This is what true love is about. Mr Fernando, my salute to you sir

[@limgl.7526]

My brother in law is schizophrenic for more than 30years and i've realized that the really important thing of this kind of illness is you need to support him, love him, taking care of him because this illness is a lifetime. Right now he's not taking any medication since the last 10years i guess we used to manage him but sometimes there is a relapse but most of the time he is controllable but the auditory hallucination is always there. He always whisper and keep on noding like there is someone talking to him. God bless you sir for not abandoning your wife since her last breath. Your truely a guardian angel to her.

[@rainbow-qs8ie]

Medication controls the adverse effects of the Illness.

[@raymondafernando]

Thanks & God Bless you

[@rainbow-qs8ie]

@@raymondafernando Do u hv a dedicated website?

[@PeterLeo-m6w]

Its great u all understand n support ur bro in law, at least makes it a lite easier on ur sis, God bless u all!❤❤

[@azakisma.1.mo_ago]

Love anyone you want as hard as you want, because no matter how strong the love is, one day you will be separated.

[@raymondafernando]

true

[@PeterLeo-m6w]

U are an amazing soul Raymond, u be rewarded abundantly in eternity, God bless n thank U so so much for taking care of Doris, u r the best gift of God to her!❤❤

[@chongyoumoicarlot9692]

I salute you, sir! You are such a strong guy mentally and physically! You are the angel guardian of your wife, she couldn't be happier without you! God bless you

[@raymondafernando]

Sure, God bless you for your kind words.

[@amandadsilva5325]

So heartwarming, hope all the angels are watching over you Mr Fernando.

[@raymondafernando]

WOW, thanks , Amanda

[@lidyasesillia9457]

He is such an incredible husband. ❤️

[@raymondafernando]

Thank you & God bless!

[@raymondafernando]

20 years ago, I had a dream, and as difficult as it seemed at the time, I was hungry to fulfill that dream. Yes, the key words in scaling greater heights are, Dream and Hungry. Don't allow obstacles or anyone to prevent you from being hungry to fulfil your dreams. Toss aside naysayers, just be hungry and continue to dream.

[@hummit]

You have my respect Sir! Heartwarming story of enduring love despite trying circumstances. 👍

[@raymondafernando]

Thanks Edmund Choo

[@infallibleblue]

Bless you and thank you for sharing so others can know they are not alone.

[@ashleyw7021]

Thank you for sharing! You are so brave and strong

[@raymondafernando]

thanks

[@angelatee1601]

Hi Raymond, thank you for sharing your story which is so encouraging and definitely give hope to many people with mental illness as well as families struggling to cope with a family member having mental illness. I’m deeply touched by the love, strength and courage you and your wife had for each other to cope with the challenges life and the illness presented. Your unconditional love and care for her and full acceptance and understanding of her mental condition showed us that a person having mental illness needs as much love and acceptance like everyone to live well. Thank you so much! You are a great man!

[@raymondafernando]

Thank you so much Angela, God Bless you & your loved ones. My advocacy efforts continues as there are still a few people who discriminate and try to hit out at me.

[@unicorn8802]

Sending you love ❤️ thanks for this worderful life saving story. U help a lot of people

[@raymondafernando]

Thanks much God bless!

[@amya6781]

You are blessed with a good heart. Sharing your story is a blessing to others.

[@preciousbell4573]

What a beautiful mix marriage. God bless you.

[@raymondafernando]

Thanks

[@mahindarkaur9268]

such courage sacrifice n devotion you sir are an angel on earth Doris was lucky she got what every woman wants but may never get

[@raymondafernando]

Thanks

[@godsamazinggrace5331]

When a man truly loves a woman!!! Thanks Raymond for sharing your pain, sufferings, challenges which I believed you have had tried to camouflage all along! So sorry for your loss Please take care God bless you

[@ricbakar3890]

Raymond...Sir, I absolutely salute you. Your patience and perseverance is astronomical. The more I listen to your video, I am inclined to believe your love for Doris knows no bound and its that very essence of life - LOVE that propels you to be an extraordinary human being. It would be remiss to not acknowledge Royal Singapore. Thank you for showing uplifting and motivational real life videos that we can embrace.

[@raymondafernando]

Thanks

[@trcr5473]

Oh my god I needed this so much, thank you. I am so lost and my brother is struggling

[@geekhenggoh9978]

Just watched this video . Hats off to you ! You are a very special man. Doris is so blessed to have found you .

[@bozyman26]

Raymond, you are really inspiring me, i have a similiar situation but more lighter cases. You are really give me motivation to keep going in future and a truly agree "love is powering everything!" Thank you Raymond & Doris, May God blessing you both!

[@farihamohamedhilmy4700]

Raymond has such a strong heart and a force of will! I find this story very admirable by many. May god bless you for taking care of your wife with utmost care ❤️

[@raymondafernando]

Thanks so much, Fariha Mohamed Hilmy.

[@anam5581]

You are the kind of man that is an example for all the men out there!! A true supportive and loving husband

[@nyaiphonnira1042]

I was the same like him. Until now 36 yrs with my husband. He has the same sickness. My children and my grandchildren use to him when he is switch off.

[@singaporefoodreview9591]

This is so heartwarming and touching. Love

[@Potomacstud]

Love , pure love , amazing

[@joannecheong7833]

I can understand that you love your wife very much. As you would stand by her through thick and thin. This story has told me that no matter of all kinds of sickness, the love will dissolve all stolidity with the power of true loving. I am sure she is still there by your side no matter the distance in between you and her.

[@sophiaisabelle027]

Must be difficult to internalize how easy it would be for the man to break things off with his wife due to her mental condition way before her passing. Instead the opposite occurred, and now he remains steadfast in his beliefs that you must stay firm at all costs, no matter how hard it could possibly be.

[@blessingfidelis2237]

God will comfort and continue to make you happy

[@claudibiscotti4710]

Beautiful love story from beginning, it does not end✨❤️ Good video, thanks for sharing.

[@yordistube3715]

You truly inspired others. Big respect!! 🙏🏼 Rest In Peace to your wife.🕯

[@JK-jm6kd]

Awwww what a beautiful couple Raymond's amazing with excellent understanding

[@raymondafernando]

Thank you.

[@VViv37]

I cried to hear how you walked through the journey with ur late wife, Doris no matter how tough it was. Your deep love for her moved me. Please take care, and be happy Sir ❤ There are still many of us who care about you and all 🌻🌈💪🏼

[@blackeywhiteyakilaforlife182]

I wish I met him too! In my life time! It’s truly inspirational and he’s an amazing human being.

[@lorenakelly6233]

This is what a true love is !! Thank's for sharing your wonderful love story that I'm sure will inspires a lot of people.🥰

[@catalinaortega4573]

I bought your book way back when there is a closing sale of books at the corner of China Town ...I think that was 2013 or later....once in a while I read it....but when my daughter bought it it took me about 3 months before I read the whole book....so busy with my grandsons and grandaughter at Ang Mo Kio Heights😍😘🤩 very informative and very loving....true love do exist😍😘🤩❤❤❤❤❤💙💙💙💙💙💚💚💚💚💚

[@beatneek100]

Wow.. such an amazing man of strength and honor, to be able to love this way and keep holding on even when times got tough . My deepest condolences for your loss and thank you for sharing your very inspiring story. It rekindles my faith in the intrinsic goodness of Men and that we humans are capable of loving truly and deeply .

[@raymondafernando]

Thanks so much, Phoeve Lim.

[@princesspikapika4219]

True love. Sending positive vibrations

[@raymondafernando]

Thanks

[@velvetbisque]

YOU THE REAL MAN!!!!! I salute you!!

[@kunasundarisuppiah2123]

OMG Mr.Raymond when everyone in Singapore is racing for money & pleasure, am I alive seeing a just perfect human.Mr Raymond.you have been so dedicated in your duty of taking care of your wife for forty long years. Salute your patience & love. You are just...... Amazing sir. Respect you to the summit.

[@raymondafernando]

Thanks . what U say is so true

[@BlackPearl-xo2dk]

I literally cried. Long live your's love... 🙏🏾

[@raymondafernando]

Thanks & God Bless you

[@ss.27]

Dedication,Love and Sincerity. They love each other so much. God bless.

[@raymondafernando]

Thanks, brother

[@shellyh204]

Raymond, you are one special man. I hope to one day find a husband like you. Once of the sweetest love stories I have ever heard. God Bless you Raymond and continue resting in peace Doris

[@foreverblessed6368]

I wish my mom has same husband like you, very caring walking her through the journey for the rest of her life. Never leave her alone to care for another woman. She will be very lucky i guess. Unfortunately not in the husband aspect its okay because i care n love about her very much with all my heart. But God has more love for her. February this year she's gone to heaven. I feel lucky to have her as my mom. Thank you for the happiness you give to your wife dorris. Thank you for the amazing you who accept even from the start when you're dating, sir. After she died you're still mourning for a year can't sleep. Its amaze me. Otherwise my father already laughing calling another woman planning to remarry. I'm so disappointed with him. No respect leave for him. But with you, I wish you joy, health and happiness you deserved, sir.

[@fannysoleh9615]

Hi ..Raymond ...tx u for sharing your story .....we have the same journey ....🙏🙏🙏

[@raymondafernando]

Thanks, take care, be strong and pray every single day

[@yanasaffron3877]

You both are very blessed to find each other.

[@sarefsaref5889]

Such a love story indeed.. Salute to u sir.

[@wong6957]

Peoples can have a lots of love stories, but a life saving hand and God’s likes heart is not easy to find. God bless you sir 🙏

[@adelinegoh9033]

Mr Raymond , I salute u for being such a caring and loving husband . God will always Bless You

[@rosinakamis]

Wow! My husband said he was dumping me because of PTSD. Today, he is married to a healthy woman while I am suffering with a whole lot of medical complications. He truly is a loser. I never trusted a man again and settled for wiener dogs.

[@graceshum1892]

Life after PTSD may not be easy. If you can find comfort and trust in dogs, it may be a beginning of healing. May you find peace and trust in your own time and your own ways. Prayers and blessings!

[@sienna3830]

Hang in there Rosina! Totally ageee wiener dogs are better then men 🙌🏽

[@RonLarhz]

You are the loser. Nobody owe u anything,esp if he wasnt the cause of your ptsd. Some people can take the mental strain some cannot. He is free to choose how he live his life. Nobody in right mind wants to be in toxic relationships. i have cptsd/AD/dtd,pdd

[@Janedoe-cm6gg]

i cant stop crying. true love

[@raymondafernando]

thanks

[@silverbells4732]

@@raymondafernando Mr Fernando, I am a Muslim lady. frm malaysia. my sincerest sisterly advice to u is do not ever try to commit suicide. life is precious and everything that happens to all of us humans r live obstacles knownly tests thru our journey of life...... yr presence is very important to many others. u hv been blessed with a heart filled with so much of love, kindness and patience. these priceless self values that u possess can b shared to many more out there......bring happiness to those who need them...... i too hd gone thru a blast of turbulences in my life. and i also tout that my life was of no use at all. but i spoke to God Almighty....to guide me. and i then realised that what i was going thru was a life test.....and i strenghthened my faith and moved forward and went thru the tests......i steeled myself.....and so here I am today..... don waste yr time with sad memories. be happy and take pride in yrself that u were a good husband.....in every aspect. and b happy that u cared for yr dear wife with so much of love, kindness and patience. u r indeed a one in a million husband.....a candle in d dark that nvr allows its tiniest flicker to die out to bring shine to darkness.....thats who u r, sir......

[@raymondafernando]

@@silverbells4732 Thank you

[@nilanjanataraphder2178]

A real man!! A real human being 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏Doris was blessed.

[@maryasther4310]

U are a great person..God will bless u always

[@alfiedj]

4:11 Thank you for sharing. I wish you the best Sir. God Bless.

[@raymondafernando]

thanks

[@raymondafernando]

thanks

[@blace1200]

The authentic couple goals. Keep safe and enjoy life.

[@blackeywhiteyakilaforlife182]

Mdm Doris is always on our thoughts! And so are you!

[@Jeffrey.C]

Respect and touching.

[@zinahurst8500]

Your an amazing man love unconditionally my dad had paranoid schizophrenia

[@raymondafernando]

Thanks & God Bless you

[@karunakaranveeramuthu7081]

A big salute to you sir long life god bless you and her

[@whitedaisies9355]

beautiful.

[@raymondafernando]

thanks

[@kapridus1144]

You’re awesome, Raymond. Stay strong!

[@raymondafernando]

thank you

[@kapridus1144]

@@raymondafernando you're most welcome :)

[@narayani2357]

People cheat on each other,evn whn there's no problem and here you are❤❤❤

[@dan01]

Very touching, thanks for sharing.

[@raymondafernando]

Thanks

[@Johanna-qf1yx]

Amazing !!!

[@christinegitsham5012]

God bless your heart Raymond.💐

[@christ6957]

It takes extraordinary courage and strength to be the spouse of a mentally ill person

[@raymondafernando]

Thanks

[@59thanks61]

What a beautiful Love story. ❤️❤️❤️

[@raymondafernando]

Thanks & God Bless you

[@yxinz]

What a beautiful love story. Respect sir

[@raymondafernando]

thanks

[@yamingxie3451]

A story of true love.