Living within your means in Relationships | Malome's Mic Ep 10

[@reamogetsetjale2814]

Lucas is dropping gems . It’s extremely true “ as an adult you really need to think things through , we can’t be communicating everything “

[@Shane_101]

Lucas is Special no lie, these are the friends you need around. Friends that motivate you to work hard and friends that don’t let money blind them from realities....

[@meesheeli9107]

One thing about Tladi's laugh?-It's contagious😭😭

[@sizakelentshalintshali4288]

I fully resonate with Lucas in that I also believe in gaging how far I can get myself before bringing someone else into the frame. I get that the gents were advocating for the male perspective, but I'm here to say that there are girls like myself who also know and understand that I shouldn't just expect things, but not give to my significant other. I find it quite crucial to set standards that you are able to meet first for yourself, because failure to that only breeds these unnecessary vile and inconsiderate remarks towards men. Have standards, but be sure they're not something you wouldn't be able to give yourself even in your wildest dreams! Thank you guys!❤

[@nvsidambe]

I agree! Some of us just want a chocolate one in a while. When we are financially there then we can get flowers.

[@nelisilewriteous6068]

I love how self-aware Matladi is. This guy always know where he stands with anything, positive or not and he never tries to justify his stance. Love it..Great conversations as always. I love it here! One thing; I can't wait for Lucas to actually meet his person. He's such a great guy and every time he speaks, I get excited for when he finally meets that one person who gets him, like fully.

[@justt9054]

I really love the way Lucas thinks, he's really matured. I get him, 🤣🤣I'm that person. Jokes

[@mabenantokozo5433]

Hey Stranger on the net😂

[@nelisilewriteous6068]

@@mabenantokozo5433 😂😂😂stalker! Stalker!stalker!

[@mabenantokozo5433]

Me never 🤣🤣 just checking out them boys and read some comments and bamm you are here.

[@nelisilewriteous6068]

@@mabenantokozo5433 I'm so happy to hear from you. You have no idea. Glad that you're still alive

[@userkm-d3r]

Thing is, before going into a serious romantic relationship, you must establish a friendship with that person. There needs to be a certain level of freedom which will allow you to communicate what it is that you really want. It has helped me a lot.

[@thatochokoe4838]

I seriously hate how Thato's structure is strict on the podcast ending in 45 Minutes cos I seriously wouldn't mind 1H 20 Mins honestly 😂😂😂

[@galimashi3304]

RIGHT 😂, I mean we really don't mind 😂

[@thatomaake4491]

Neh 🤣 this is like background voices to me studying and fam I can’t just keep on studying for 45 min and then look for something else 😭

[@thatochokoe4838]

I hope he hears our cries😭😭😭 because its obvious that Lucas and Tladi always have more to say

[@pawumqingwana8504]

Yesss please! we will watch the whole hour if that’s what it is 🥺😂🔥

[@mathapelomarriam375]

Hope he takes this into consideration...

[@thatomaake4491]

“Motho must think” 💭 this really stuck with me , that sometimes I personally expect too much from people and I can’t even afford myself those things 🫶🏽 again and again I’ll say this these podcasts are very informative and funny 😆

[@ladi9868]

Flowers are beautiful, they smell good, they look good in any room you put them in, why wouldn’t I want them?

[@_liberatedwoman]

"I only have money to take care of my dreams" Tamn! Mara Lucas spits facts

[@bonginhlapo1399]

Starting as friends 🤝🏾 totally agree. My suggestion would be, as tempting as it is to want to impress from the get go, don’t do too much in the beginning and don’t rush into the relationship. Date before making things official: go on “affordable” dates like picnics lol😅, the movies, cook and she brings the wine idk man 😂 get to know each other, know each other’s expectations and what each one is able to bring into a relationship. After that maybe you can ask her to be your girlfriend coz it’s unfair having to bend over backwards to meet expectations that sometimes come with entitlement. Kinda set the foundation for the relationship with as little “assistance” from money as possible. Also just my opinion, hope it makes sense😅

[@boipelomatloga3376]

True it’s the thought that counts I mean we all expect good nice things as girls but it’s very important to under your partner’s pockets like you do with your parent that’s when you know your love is genuine

[@nakoseretse1569]

Lucas is not about to be scammed, not in this lifetime 👏🏾…Sharaaa’ts to you gents for being wise beyond your years 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@Priscillianqueen]

I love how you dropped facts and not humiliating any gender into your conversations . Such pure, clean conversations are needed. I love all of your different personalities still. Thank you guys. ❤

[@paballodithebe147]

Malume KZbin le the guys are actually teaching me life😭 I like how every episode these are actual conversations we need to have as people.. y’all actually help someone pick their brains 🧠.. Thank you.. we don’t say this enough.. Thank you 🙏🏽

[@tshepisosehlabo]

Just 3 young,black,successful and intelligent friends who are having relatable conversations 🫂❤️Love to see it

[@lifewithslicey]

Lucas said it all. Jola ge o nale chelete yago jola adawise, tswa daar. I really love your podcast. I learn so much everytime. You guys are so relatable. I am so excited to see more from you guys.🥳🥳🥳

[@amukelanisiwela1358]

Its Soo sad how relationships have become, it's all about money money money and it takes away the core beauty of the actual thing. When you really are for a person and they are for you everything comes easy and you actually think/feel for them(sympathise). No unnecessary expectations and pressure that will push you outside of your means because you are being you.

[@sizwez]

I'd like to send a special thanks to Thato and the boys for touching on a very important subject. Being a varsity student and being in a relationship is super stressful (especially when you are a guy). These girls set unrealistic expectations for us, not understand that we (guys) don't have a salary and therefore don't have enough money to cater for all their disires. I don't know if they have dady problems or what but all I know is that their unfair expectations of how much a guy has to spend on them will make them miss out on a lot of wholesome guys out there

[@oatlegilecindi1001]

I’m obsessed with this podcast😭🤞🏿

[@kamogelomolekoa5619]

Speak on it Kings!! We live in a society(TWITTER CULTURE= INDODA MUST )that defines relationships in such a way it makes us compare and look down on certain things within relationships. It's important to be self aware and acknowledge that there are things you can do and there are things that will bring unnecessary stress. People are scared to say no, especially when you're in a relationship but the same way you've set boundaries in your friendships/family you should be comfortable enough to do so in relationships. Financial literacy is very important in relationships like Lucas said. People need to be considerate and have a level of maturity to have uncomfortable conversations about such topics and understand. Communication goes hand in hand with comprehension.

[@xolidywili701]

That last line💯 comprehension skills are very important.

[@siyandamacabela2750]

what did we do to deserve such a treat 🥺 so early in the morning ❤❤❤ halala✨

[@refilweleburu9982]

I've been in a relationship for 9 years and I think talking is really important, that thing yagore 'baby nna i can only take you out every second month, after moo ke felletswe' those conversations are really important. As much as o ma zama go naganela someone else, what you think is happening versus what might actually be happening may be different. This has worked for me in my relationship, batho ga ba tshwane so someone else's situation may be different

[@ShxwnM]

This was a dope episode and I learnt so much and I realised how fortunate I am as a student to date someone who understands the financial expectations that come with being a student. Also what you guys said with regards to being able to provide for yourself first made me realise I should be putting myself first at times. Thank you very much

[@mathapelomakoko3946]

Tladi 2.0 is too realistic 😂😅, But I like it. Hape he is blunt and consistent with his talking stages dayyyyymn!!!! Lucas O focused. Malume KZbin, Another Banger!! Lovely Topic Gentz 😊

[@deekayspace7557]

Lucas is well spoken ❤️🥺..

[@ayandashabangu7606]

I think living within your means has a lot to do with self-awareness and discipline. With self-awareness, it is a matter of acknowledging your financial means or capabilities and being able to make decisions that align with what you currently have while saving or trying to meet other goals. As for discipline, it is being able to say no and having discernment when it comes to money- whether it is with yourself or other people. I, for myself, struggle with these concepts because although I am technically living within my means, I lack the discipline to say no even after I have already used what I planned to, and end up dipping in on what was supposed to be savings. Loved the episode, I think maybe in the future financial literacy could be another great topic!

[@sheriffcee-jay7369]

what a better way to start a morning. I relate so much with your topics since episode 1. the amazing part about this podcast is that i feel like I'm there with you all the time

[@lm_dube]

Just when you didn’t expect it, boom: another notification from the podcast😁👌🏾🙏🏾 Thank you Thato

[@mshops7841]

Months back I declined a proposal to become his girlfriend and my main reason was, I was not gonna meet him half way through, because I understand a couple of things about "my means in a relationship". Lucas was definitely of fire🙌👌.

[@buhlemahlambi6212]

yho pls i love Lucas.🥺

[@palesabashman1232]

Thanks Tladi for the translation today because Lucas was not for English today sana 😂

[@leratoradebe8770]

Matladi raised an important point, understanding. Malapa ha tshwane which also translates to a person. There needs to be consideration, grace and understanding in a relationship. You need to date someone o enengqondo.

[@BePar_]

What a dope conversation gents. Funny story, I was in a long term relationship, partly as a student and then graduated(unemployed 😅). We never really had money issues because we had dates here and there, I was certainly not living below my means though. Broke up and I started a new job months later, also went back to school, now I'm single with some coins, but I weirdly feel like I've only got enough for myself.

[@Progression_not_Perfection]

The relationship part I fully agree with what Thato said, it’s important to date people that you can afford,or that can afford themselves. Yes people do tend to be unreasonable in relationships however I do think if you have introduced a certain lifestyle and behavior, you can’t just switch it up without communicating. Like valid I’m going to think gore Yoh this and this happened so obviously we have that, but you can’t just now stop doing certain things without communicating. Eg if you’re used to coming back with a KitKat for her every time you go to the store, you can’t go to the store and not bring back a KitKat, unless it’s been communicated that you’re cutting costs. Also attempt to fill that void if not buying that KitKat with something else. Ultimately it boils down to communicating, unspoken expectations lead to disappointment. I hope that makes sense

[@tsheppydisipi8211]

A relationship should be a 50/50 and there should communication and understanding...I agree every relationship should begin at a friendship level to build trust...As ladies sometimes we expect men to always give while it should come from both ways

[@_liberatedwoman]

Facts! Girls take kindness as more than what it is

[@MaifoAsi]

I liked what Thato said gore when you tell a woman the things that you like, she will get them for you 'coz women are naturally caring and want to make people around them happy. I don't understand how a lot of guys complain gore women sort of always want to be receivers. Tell your woman the things you want and if she really loves you she will get them for you provided gore you also get her the things she wants 'coz some men are scammers these days esp if you're an 'independent woman' they take advantage of that coz they know women can go all out for someone they love.

[@lesediletebele9739]

I'm so proud of you guys, such mature and great views yol have. I enjoyed Matladi's pointers on how he learnt that marriage is not only about financial transactions. How can I forget the ever so humble smart bro, Lucas! Such a breathe of fresh air. And Malome T you are doing great with this fire content. God bless you guys

[@noncebasiyongwana3161]

i love it jokes n gestures with straight answers ....however what happens when u r depressed n u do u cant afford to cook n u r rather now forced to live above ur means n buy takeaways .......

[@coolgirlchris]

I can not be the only one who played back 30.32...hell and back for whatever she wants😭 sign me upppppp. This is the bar now. I've been fishing in the wrong part of the sea!

[@goratamorapedi9504]

“I only have money to take care of my dreams”🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@anna_patjane]

not Matladi giggling 😂😂😂😂 y’all are funny . great chats 🫶🏽 you’re right in saying it’s so much better when you both in the relationship understand each other then things like expectations and living out your means don’t come in the way

[@noziphokhwela25]

❤Please bring siza and mzwandile.

[@mathebek659]

Thato!!!😂 That sweater could have been nicely folded....it's possible you know Plus, majita please listen to Lucas......ahhh prime- time!!!on point Tladi started speaking to me when le Bua ka means within family

[@zenkosicingo7051]

Yeeess Lucas🔥🔥! I share the exact same sentiments on why I'm not in a relationship. I know I'll go all out for my partner when provided the opportunity. Some days you really sbwl but you know what keeps you grounded. Also, I don't want to be umthwalo on him. So until I get that figured out/ready, I'll join the mjolo gang.

[@AM_sPorty_UPdates]

You and Lucas should link up everyone will take care of themselves

[@graciousmotlhabe3307]

More of the relationship conversations please! Fire content bro! Side note: It would be nice to have someone who's in a committed relationship on the pod

[@_liberatedwoman]

Can't wait until y'all decide to post more often a week!

[@KatlehoMo99]

This is amazing! You’re a big story mfana. Many thanks for the content 🙏🏾

[@lungelodubazana02]

No this is my favourite episode because wow if everyone could think like thissss the world would be a better place!!!😭😭😭❤️❤️❤️

[@matlanatomabusela3237]

Really enjoyed this one, even opened up my eyes on how i should spend money especially on macheri, majwala off a small amount i get

[@johanna.shilumbu]

Ag, love you guys so much man. All your efforts and creativeness is appreciated, Thato. We see you. Thank you!

[@saviina02]

Lucas without glasses 😍😍😍 And also Thank you Thato for this podcast honestly, so greatful. ❤️

[@_liberatedwoman]

Cellphone banking! Once y'all start convincing each other things are cheap at a club just know you're no longer living within your means. As Tladi said once you decide to go to the club you're no longer living within your means LMAO

[@___mfundo]

I love this episode, i've put on like 5 people onto the podcast because of this episode and the topic is very much relatable especially if your still in varsity and navigating your way through relationships, and shout to Lucas for voicing out those fictional Twitter standards which I was also a victim off and now I know better. I love this podcast and thank you, gents...KHUPHUKA

[@elkoananane2163]

Out of all podcasts this one is fire🔥🔥🔥

[@missvbling]

Really enjoyed this episode again, all that was spoken about is so relatable. Shout out to all of you ❤️

[@khopotsomochaba4041]

I'm always intrigued how your laughs are in sync, it sounds like some melodynyana 😂

[@chapterswithkhanyi7309]

Absolutely loved this chat👌🏾👌🏾👌🏾👌🏾💯 you guys touched on everything. Thank you

[@tshepiso_mohube]

Everytime Lucas says "uuwwhh" ❤️❤️😊

[@officialellajones5401]

Came back after 4 days to make sure it’s really a new episode 🥺🥺😩 Shoutout to the Broers♥️

[@Zuriel2703]

I agree to the fact that men naturally want to provide for women. And just to add what Thato said, as a woman I love doing things for the person that I really like but many times men act like they don't need women to spend money on them. Its a masculinity thing, whereby some men feel like less of a man in a weird way.

[@moledwaba2797]

This conversation 🙆🏾🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@karenhlawe2250]

I could literally listen to y’all speak all day 🥺

[@twalu_x]

Very timely convo🤣in a relationship I'm like Lucas... Blesser on a budget

[@waleratoveronica]

i cant be the only one who realized there’s sth different about Lucas 😂I had to go to previous podcasts to see that he doesn’t have his glasses on🤣

[@1mr_percy]

Complete Chow Of Content👊

[@keamosinyi]

to answer the question for the girls why do I like flowers flowers make me happy you could be having the worst day ever but when you get roses you smile flowers are able to lift up my mood lets say im already happy then best believe ima be ten times happier flowers fuel up my spirit basically having flowers in my room makes me happy but back to the topic of discussion Lucas is so intelligent its always mind blowing this gent explains things in a different perspective ,in ways you never thought of, and Thato is right the minute you agree to give that P5 its gonna be 10 then 100 then a thousand its always best to say No when you cant because people never know when to stop they dont even think gre let me allow her or him to do this for themselves. Personally i feel like living beyond your means in a relo does more harm to the giver more than the reciepient ,its emotionally taxing financially taxig you could imagine a lot you are going to lose to please someone who is not even willing to do half the things you do for them its crazy and i believe Matladis mindset saves him from a lot of things but then again it doesnt allow him to experience being loved by the other party because he barely expects anything from anyone

[@andileandile288]

Theres So much value in malome's 🎤🔥🔥.

[@mmarenamphahlele3752]

Looove malomes mic 🤞🏾

[@_softking_]

Where has this channel been all my life. Such relatable content.

[@KoketsoMunonde]

I love the chemistry yall share, the dynamic is mic'ing!

[@KamogeloMaponya]

I actually find it harder to communicate within friendship. I often find that telling my friends no makes it seem as if I don't put in effort to go out with them or that I dint care. maybe it is just me and the way I have more pride within my friendships.

[@BalepiMosweu]

The booooyss spitting facts as usual😭😭

[@Theothersy]

I enjoy these convos. Really got me moving a bit differently lifestyle wise. Gig up gents

[@reitumetsereitu5702]

Thato to Matladi: “speak on it Queen” 😂😂😂

[@kananelomokobori5731]

As a hun (I speak for myself though), Thato is really on the money when he says a hun will spoil you as well. Mara le ena it will most likely be within her means or she will even go the extra mile. So the maturity factor is really important because you'll both know and understand where you are within your means.

[@kananelomokobori5731]

The friendship factor in relationships, speak on it Lucas! The level of honesty, trust and vulnerability that it brings to the relationship is top tier.

[@lonemathule3006]

Second ❤❤🎉 Notification Gang Babe ❤🎉🎉🎉 Definitely Something I needed to hear Thank You Guys For coming through ❤❤❤🎉🎉

[@_liberatedwoman]

This has got to be my favourite episode!

[@lebomapokgole5563]

Talk about perfect timing Just as I finished writing my last Exam and i receive such notification ahhhhhhh ke ya scream(a)🤣🤣💃💃💃💃💃

[@_liberatedwoman]

Tladi is dangerous lol. A re he's here for a short time but his press is for a long time. tjona weeeh

[@zinhlekhoza8326]

“IF YOU DON’T HAVE IT WHAT MAKE YOU THINK I DO?” Nawu umbuzo umile la😂. Lol I learnt to say no and it’s so weird but it has to be done because even though I feel bad when I say no , I felt worse knowing I am giving you my last R50 and I have no bread at home💔 . Lucas made me realise that it is absolutely okay to factor in that you can only afford yourself and your needs .

[@nompumelelosibeko8997]

I love it here...

[@Mandisabonani]

I agree women are different not every women will want flowers everyday same are better at understanding that this month I’m not good

[@lifeoflindo]

I must say,you guys bring so much happiness ♥️😩😂ALL OF EVERYONE!

[@boniswaelsie4062]

Sho! What an amazing podcast Mind blowing! I love the brotherhood bond. Thank you for having these transparent conversations they're life changing. And so funny literally my fav thing to watch 😅🤣

[@asiphebekwaphi8547]

I heard you kings♥️ Lucas always spitting FACTS!!👏

[@refilweleburu9982]

This is such an interesting podcast. I thoroughly enjoyed this podcast

[@botlhalepoopedi9331]

Love the podcast keeps us informed and I like learning new things on this platform ❤️❤️

[@yolandacurtis4250]

i really really enjoyed this episode. thank you boys super helpful.

[@Barista_Skills28]

i personally love this podcast big up guys💗

[@Farmingsheepandgoats101]

I love it boys ❤️

[@zenkosicingo7051]

I love flowers because I enjoy taking of them (responsibility)and even worse if it reminds me of the person who got it for me. Additionally, it's cute wethu and falls part of my love language (receiving gifts)🤗 That's my reason😊

[@yandisantlahla9190]

This is so true most of the time you only have money for yourself.

[@nonamefornow4595]

Lol Thato i feel you on so many levels 😂the mastering in your tolerance and covering things up is key.

[@nompumelelobuthelezi1513]

Not Tladi throwing so much shade about females taking care of their own standards 😂... As I said before you guys are worth supporting its an honor listening to you always.. so much knowledge, wisdom, intelligence its shocking because we all know all man do is dress good while they've got disgusting intentions behind their niceness....Their we go again I learn that talking stage is interpreted differently danko.. I swear if I was in your league I'd shoot my shot.. thank you gents you'll are a blessing in disguise.. 5 STAR ALL THE WAY

[@yandanimphakathi3373]

Let's go baby!!

[@tuduetsoeletang9956]

I really enjoy watching these episodes♥️♥️You guys are really touching on relatable important things, I'm learning so much while laughing in between 😅 Ohhh annndddd Lucas I wouldn't mind listening to you speak for the whole day, you are just... 😩Lemme go and look for the best word🏃‍♀️

[@craigbilly]

Top of the morning @malume KZbin making my Thursday morning with something interesting ❤️💯🔝🔝

[@zaneledhlamini3450]

Flowers are nice. I like them even though I am allergic to pollen. Also date people who can afford nice things for themselves. Then you won't feel the burden. They will also have the ability to spoil you also.

[@mohaumadisha9029]

I think it's very important to communicate your actions especially in the talking stage and yeah we adults we should know better by now but again we approach relationships differently, you might be going all out for a girl you like kanti she thinks you just being a friend,the next thing you see her with somebody else then you start getting confused