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[@amandav9753]

Loved pelvic floor therapy 🙌🏼 also none of those things are “gross” let’s refer to normal womanly things as just that, normal, blood isn’t gross ❤

[@dreamchord4544]

I mean it's not shameful and women are not gross for having menstrual cycles, but I think acknowledging that you find it gross is fine. Poop, pee, and snot are all perfectly normal parts of human physiology and I find them gross.

[@erb611]

Some people find blood gross and that’s also normal

[@CandiWare]

couldn't agree more! YES!

[@amandav9753]

@@dreamchord4544 yup agree with all that, I think it’s just changing the narrative around these things when talking openly about them because a lot of men find it gross to talk about and I think that’s sad. We need to grow up and be able to talk about poop, pee, and blood when referring to these events without getting grossed out. Just my personal opinion and what I’ve come across with, with men and talking about periods and birthing.

[@dreamchord4544]

@@amandav9753 my husband is in the medical field and all his friends are very used to it, so I don't have that rhetoric from men in my life at all! I see where you're coming from!

[@rebeccamills16]

This might sound odd for core strengthening and development, but when I went through pelvic floor therapy, that really helped my core tighten up. I highly highly recommend pelvic floor therapy.

[@brubie535]

Hi I think you have a couple typos. Did you mean "pelvic floor therapy" rather than "public floor therapy"?

[@CandiWare]

I also had a girlfriend with the same afterbirth experience that needed the same therapy and it really helps with the core your right!

[@user-qg2dz5tm3g]

As someone who doesn’t like the gym or traditional exercise I find the Grow with Jo Dance Workout playlist a super fun way to intentionally move my body (dancing really targets your core)

[@brittanychanelle]

was going to say this too! love Grow with Jo

[@jesssmall6128]

I don’t know what this is like in Canada (I’m in the US), but I cannot recommend pelvic floor therapy enough! A pelvic floor therapist can help with core rehabilitation, heaviness during ovulation/period (I get that too due to a slight prolapse), and a whole bunch of other things. It’s been the most helpful physical help I’ve received postpartum/prenatal Also, thank you for sharing. I actually had a very very similar experience to you.

[@naturallyrach1447]

Student midwife here, I couldn't agree more! Pelvic Floor Therapy is soooo important!

[@kimbystone]

I need to keep my eyes on Christ this time postpartum. Thanks for the reminder Delilah. I'm glad that made a huge difference for you

[@hopevitale8050]

My postpartum was actually really good! I also had a quick recovery due to a smooth sailing birth, only bled three weeks, lost my baby weight pretty much right away, didn’t have super crazy hormonal symptoms, etc. Overall the hardest part was some anxiety and sadness early on but it subsided by 6 weeks and wasn’t severe, so I don’t consider that to be postpartum depression. I know that a positive experience can feel annoying when you had a hard one and want someone to relate to, but for those mamas wondering if it’s possible to have a good experience and want that hope I wanted to share!

[@hannahbentson9374]

I’m sorry, it’s so hard when you want to lose the weight but your body isn’t there yet. I have no tips but I just want to say you are not alone in this.

[@buddiesdog]

My 2nd was born the day before Annie. I'm still unable to lose any weight no matter what I do. I'm hoping weaning will be the ticket this time around. The weight practically melted off with my first so this has been a surprise.

[@alliewonders117]

​@@buddiesdoghas anyone tried intermittent fasting? I know it can be a concern while feeding baby, but once you are done i highly suggest it! I fast all morning and eat maybe 2 healthy meals a day, lots of water don't eat past 8. Some healthy snacks if needed but i have lost weight this way, I just wanted to kindly mention!

[@hllymchll]

​@@buddiesdog try cutting carbs. it's the only thing that worked for me. I'm 9 months postpartum and gain 70lbs with both of my pregnancies. I started this pregnancy at 137 (which was overweight for my height) and got up to 200lb. at 4 months postpartum I was back to 137 with doing nothing but lowering carbs and nursing. after my first I couldn't lose weight for almost a year and it's because I was overeating and eating too many carbs

[@WhimsicalCrochet]

@@hllymchll please don’t suggest this to people. It’s not healthy. It’s fine if it worked for you, but that is not healthy for most people. Delilah has a history with eating issues, the last thing you should be doing is suggesting her to restrict the food she eats. It is such a slippery slope, especially if you’ve already fallen down it before.

[@WhimsicalCrochet]

@@alliewonders117 that’s not healthy for most people, please don’t suggest that to someone who had a history with eating disorders. Only eating 2 meals a day & filling your stomach by drinking a bunch of water is horrible advice to give anyone, let alone someone who has a bad past with eating issues. Dieting is not the solution here.

[@AloraLacen]

Pelvic floor therapy has been a game changer for me - & I didn’t start seeing my PT until nearly 2.5yrs postpartum! She’s helped me so much with quite a few things, one of which is working on my deep core & rebuilding my core strength. I think you’d find it so helpful, especially after having 4 babies. Can really be life changing!

[@jeuen6933]

Thank you for this video, I'm 9 days postpartum with my first and suffering quite a bit, especially from a vaginal tear, contractions and pretty severe anemia. This video gave me a bit of peace and made me turn on some christian music and lean on the lord.

[@easyyokeacres467]

Praying for you!

[@iolan3]

Hey, it's early days and it's hard right now but you will be amazed how your body can heal. My first delivery gave me a 2-3rd degree year and I felt broken beyond repair. Two years later I had another baby and tore again but knew this time that I would heal up soon enough if I rested and took my time - peace of mind is such a precious blessing. The Lord gives peace to those whose minds are fixed on him :) your body is amazing and your God made it fearfully and wonderfully to bring life. Bless you, new mama!

[@MegaTelenovela]

I love that you mentioned how reading to the bible helped you mentally handle the challenging and sleep deprived hormonal first few months of pp with you 4th ❤ I need to reduce my phone and KZbin usage especially when my toddler is awake. I will try to cling to the Lord like you did and hope he will deliver me from this addiction 🙏🏻

[@hannahrosescott362]

I'm 17 months PP and not a work-out person, I have started going for a 'run', the first 20 minutes of my day. I jog most of it, walk some, and I am hoping to build up to be able to run the while 20 minutes. So far it is really increasing my energy for the day and I'm hoping it will knock the last bit of weight off

[@iolan3]

The UK NHS couch to 5k programme is incredible - so well paced and guides you up to running 30min continuous. I don't know if it's available free of charge outside the UK but if you can get it, it's great! I used it to get back to running after both my pregnancies. It's not helped me lose weight but I feel much stronger and it does wonders for my state of mind 😊

[@awilson8521]

This is the way! Plus, trying not to eat until you're hungry.

[@WhimsicalCrochet]

@@awilson8521 most people don’t eat unless they’re hungry? What even is this comment? She’s clearly not overeating.

[@paytonferguson9014]

Hi everyone! I haven’t had a postpartum experience with a full term pregnancy yet but I am hoping I will in the future! But I had a miscarriage at 10 and a half weeks later so I have wanted to share my story for anyone going through miscarriage ❤️ you’re still postpartum in that stage and it is a lot on your body ❤️ you’re not alone in that friend. I just had my first normal cycle and we lost our baby seven months ago. Previously I’ve had cycles that had extra clots, were I didn’t know if I even ovulated. Crazy hormonal mood swings. My cycles ranged from 45 days long to 20 days long and were so unpredictable. It was so stressful for someone wanting to get pregnant soon. I feel like I am just now getting over that hill of my hormones being so out of wack. If this is similar to your story I hope it’s comforting ❤️ I’m praying for you!

[@rebeccaguenther5044]

Thank you for sharing friend. I’m sorry you lost your babe. 🩷 Praying for you too sister. I lost our 2nd at 10 weeks 7 months ago as well. Thank you for the reminder that we are still going through postpartum.

[@soccermoose]

thank you for sharing :( i’m so sorry for your loss😞💔

[@buzzi2k]

Really important for more people to know this, thank you for sharing

[@silvanasobral7615]

I'm so sorry for your loss, but thank you for sharing! I've been in the same situation and wondering and worrying when will my body be balanced again. I wish someone told me sooner it would be normal to take several months to get back on track, and not only one or two cycles as I've read in lots of heatlh sites and forums. Thank you!

[@jacquihart8791]

I just wanted to say that it’s okay to not be a work out person, it’s okay to not be ready to “lose the weight”, it’s okay to just start accepting your new body than try and get the old back. As we age, have more babies and less time it becomes harder to “spring back” but that’s so normal! I didn’t feel ready to exercise (for the first time since well before TTC) until 20 months postpartum once I finished feeding and really craved that time for myself. Again I was not an exercise person but the benefits of it far outweighed the fat loss. The strength was insane and being able to do anything I wanted with my toddler, my sleep, my eating habits, my mental clarity and even my relationship ALL was so much better because I made time for myself, I gained a new confidence and appreciation for my body. It’s okay to take time, it’s okay to try different things until you find what you truely love. Showing our kids that keeping active is important but it’s just as important so we can continue to be around to teach these lessons. I’ve lost 25kg in the last year but I must admit, I’ve been wanting to lose that 25kg for nearly 6 years and until you’re ready and your body is ready, it’s so hard! Work on getting a walk in every day and some core exercises and I’m sure you’ll start to see a difference over time 🥰

[@laurac3575]

I gave birth to my fourth 17 months ago and the extra weight didn't budge until I started walking on my treadmill four to six days a week for 30 minutes. I tend to walk at 3.1 or 3.2 mph and I also do yoga for 20 minutes a day most days. Both of these activities have helped me gain muscle, feel more energetic and they're slowly helping me take the extra weight off.

[@bonjyb]

Such a great video. The internet needs more honest post-partum content! The comments have been really helpful too

[@ejvob]

I really like Ashley Keller's post pregnancy workout program. It is very approachable by people who are not hard core at working out and she is very open about her Christian faith. Having structure is a huge help to me.

[@lekasa1508]

I was just about to comment the same thing! I went through her program and I was actually stronger after I graduated the 12 week post pregnancy plan than I have ever been in my life! She is incredibly motivating and not only gives great health advice, but also sneaks in nuggets for parenting and faith! Her program is called glowbodypt ! Cannot recommend enough!

[@lekasa1508]

She’s trained in pre- and post natal and specifically focuses on healing diastastis recti in the postpartum plan. All her workouts are completely safe and start off super easy and progress in intensity to make you strong!

[@sofiyasaakyan5967]

I was going to recommend her as well! I am currently on week 8 of her post pregnancy plan and I feel so much stronger as well! So thankful to have found her last time I gave birth, it’s my second time going through the program after my second pregnancy:)

[@chelseasmit5186]

Yes! The 12 week post pregnancy plan was a game changer for me. I then went onto some of the free Caroline Girvan programs and am feeling super strong one year post partum from baby #2.

[@anyamuenchgrieser8686]

Yep, Glowbodypt

[@tannerking5454]

Delilah I’m so sorry you went through all that hemorrhaging and I’m so glad it eased eventually. I love how thoughtful and reflective you are and I’m happy you’ve had a happier pp experience with Annie. I’ve been late a couple times too and even though I’ve not felt ready for another baby yet there’s always a slight disappointment when my period finally comes. Hugs to you💞

[@maggiehermanson6298]

I just got diagnosed with PCOS, 4 years after my 4th kiddo. Just stay aware that sometimes there's more behind the "not the norm" stuff. I enjoy watching your videos :)

[@ashleyschultz6217]

I started lifting after having my son.. started with just two 5lbs..it's helped so much! I'm now the strongest I've ever been in my life! My son turns 3 in October. I also just do 10/15 minutes in the bathroom before my shower..so easy to do.

[@anchoranchor6693]

Could you share what you do for weightlifting? Do you have a routine?

[@leahwinningham9281]

Same. Lifting weights helps burn calories throughout the day. And it shapes you. I’ve been lifting for a year and my son will be 3 in September.

[@amandarooth9549]

Im so glad you were able to have such a great birth with Annie & postpartum.❤ with my second I had blood clots shooting out after I had her as well, thankfully no need for me to get cleaned out so I feel for you! I had postpartum depression with my second so it made me quite hesitant to have more but with my 3rd in April it was so incredible my birth went perfect funny tho that I got super sick with a cold & the rest of my family did (not baby tho praise Jesus!) & then a flu it was a month of us sick, breastfeeding was hard so I pumped for 6 weeks but God is so gracious and I’ve had an incredible postpartum. No depression, a super content baby, my hubby got laid off for 3 months and has been a huge help to us im kind of in awe of his kindness. All my fears about birth were washed away, all thanks to Him! For any mamas that need to hear this if your birth or postpartum doesn’t go your way it’s ok God is still so good. With my second I prayed and prayed for my birth and had such a redemptive birth but I had such horrible postpartum depression I was like God why! But He had a reason now I can help others along their journeys, I can give advice bc I’ve been there, I can see Gods faithfulness that brought me through, and the list goes on! He maybe making your story this way to show others❤

[@CassMaxwell13]

Shivering can be a trauma response. It can be brought on by even talking about the trauma you’ve experienced. In postpartum we are very vulnerable emotionally and it could have been the way your body responded to any kind of trauma while you were newly postpartum.

[@cassidyserafini7097]

Yes! Even if you don’t feel “traumatized”. I shake every single time I give birth. I think it’s all the adrenaline running through my system coming to a quick halt at the birth.

[@imaybeanidiotbut9338]

It’s actually a very normal response to labor because of the amount of adrenaline you have during the birth process. Not saying birth isn’t traumatic but I’d say the shaking doesn’t always come from emotions. It’s just a physical reaction to the hormones in your body.

[@cassidyserafini7097]

@@imaybeanidiotbut9338 yes! This is my experience

[@CassMaxwell13]

@@imaybeanidiotbut9338 I was referring more to the shivering she experienced when walking into the store she mentioned. When I even talk about the birth of my daughter I get cold and I shiver bad till I calm down. It was pretty awful.

[@CandiWare]

Thank you for telling us your story, it really normalizes what we are all going thought and that we are all different. I had a crazy hard labor, sunny side up and 30 hours in labor. She was right there but not coming out so they had to cut me and vacuum her out. The healing from that was so painful and hard. I would look at my baby and cry and be so angry that she made me feel this way and that I hated my life now. 6 days pp I had to go into the hostel because where they cut me and stitched me back up got infected! Breastfeeding was also a big struggle, but after seeing a lactation consultant, chiropractor for my little one and working on her poor suck with mouth exercises everything was working as it should. What I remind myself is one day at a time! We all got this mommas and I'm so happy we can all be here for each other!

[@caranrobinette9958]

Thanks for sharing and being so open and honest! I’m 7 weeks postpartum with my first and it seems like everyone has such a unique experience. iI’s nice to know what others have experienced and even that the postpartum experience can be different with different babies.

[@annekimberleight]

My comfort youtuber❤ everytime I need a hug in the distance I reach to your videos❤

[@TamTups]

Same!

[@AllSchuckUp]

Exactly!

[@Ren382]

I’m 3 weeks postpartum as a first time mom, and hearing you discuss your journey with the PP weight made me feel so seen in the best way. Thank you for choosing to be vulnerable online and allowing us a peak into your journey! Know that it genuinely made at least this mama feel less alone in my own journey 🧡

[@emmalaughlin1521]

I had cold flashes after both of my births!! They always happened overnight & it scared me too!! I couldn’t stop shaking or get warm! It was wild!

[@lydiajohnson2156]

I had that for both my babies as well! It was scary, shaking so hard and not being able to get warm. Our bodies are built to go through so much, but sometimes things catch us off guard 😂

[@caranrobinette9958]

I also had the shakes/cold flashes at night the first few weeks postpartum. I let was a little unsettling and I often had to get in the shower to warm up!

[@rachelyvonne1792]

Yes me too!!

[@josefinenytofte5814]

I feel like it's important to not use words like gross in relation to the female cycle and symptoms related to birth. There is a very traditional narrative that birth, menstruation, the vagina is "gross" or "dirty" and I think it's important to talk about these things, but not connecting it with these annotations. But thank you for an honest video about your experience. :)

[@shueysmissus]

Beautifully put and I totally agree xx

[@Marfmellow88]

I think people can use whatever words they like. Dealing with continual blood clots and prolonged periods...sure yes, our cycle is a miracle of nature and beautifully intricate, but it is also gross .....it can get messy after all. Have you never gotten period blood all over your hand and fingers or have to empty a menstrual cup every hour for a day during an exceptionally heavy period day, poking into it to check how much of the cup is filled with large clots? After a while, you get frustrated, sore and tired and it is just plain gross and annoying after a while and you wish you didn't have to deal with it....

[@josefinenytofte5814]

@@Marfmellow88 I think it's not as much about our individual opinions of our cycles and what we have to deal with, but the common narrative that it contributes to. And if an influencer uses words such as gross in relation to birth and menstrual blood, then we have a long way to go in normalizing this part of the story. Additionally, it can make especially younger viewers feel "wrong" if they experience a similar story and it's associated with negative wording.

[@Marfmellow88]

@@josefinenytofte5814 well what youre trying to do is control others speech. We all feel yucky and gross when on our periods and like I said it is exactly about our individual experiences. It’s like you didnt read my comment. Stop being so fussy and controlling… it isnt a big deal.

[@josefinenytofte5814]

@@Marfmellow88 I assure you, I'm not trying to control anyone. I am voicing my opinion. I read your comment. And I reiterated my point from my previous comment regarding the video. No fussyness here, I promise ;) Have a great day!

[@jaedenxo]

Ooou, thanks for sharing!! I’m 3 weeks postpartum with my second and my core sounds similar to yours!! It was feeling very strange, empty, and foreign to me (especially when coughing!) but that feeling is now improving everyday all because of belly binding! I highly, highly recommend you look into belly binding and see if anyone in your area is experienced in doing it. Prior to my procedure, my diastasis recti in my upper and lower abs were 3 fingers wide. On day 3, they both had a 1 finger gap! I didn’t have belly binding done after my first but decided to have it done this time… it’s not the most comfortable procedure but I’m loving how it’s making my core feel and look!

[@papabear5506]

I never was able to get the baby weight off from my first pregnancy for years. After my third child we switched to an animal-based diet (i was vegetarian for 15 years) and the weight just dropped off like magic and my muscles just came back. We eat a lot of beef, bacon, butter, raw egg yolks, raw liver, raw cheese, yogurt, etc... It absolutely changed my life and the kids (who were already really healthy) are even doing better than before!

[@kcltube3]

yup! I was vegetarian half my life and when I eat red meat now it's like it gives me superpowers for real, i feel so good, my sugars balanced, my energy is solid and my mood feels better. red meat is so good for women especially if it's good quality. i'm not talkin' mcdonalds lol

[@papabear5506]

@kcltube3 i couldn't agree with this more! We started getting meat and dairy from local farms and we got laying hens and the difference really does feel like superpowers 😂

[@ChelseaLampinen]

Yep I was vegan for 5 years and my 3rd pregnancy and once I started eating animal based again weight started falling off (as well as when I was done breast feeding-18 months) I hold on to weight BF

[@papabear5506]

@ChelseaLampinen i haven't had a chance to see if breastfeeding affects me that way yet, I've only had a 1-3 month break from it before each next birth so far 😂

[@melinda4316]

I stopped being vegetarian after my first was born, and wow. I was so tired and lethargic when I was vegetarian. After reintroducing meat I felt so much healthier and also lost baby weight super fast!

[@kinnik92]

I was diagnosed with pcos after having my second child, and I get that gross feeling during ovulation. It can affect people differently but could certainly be something to ask your doctor about. Never hurts to ask! Especially because it can affect weight loss, skin, etc.

[@springlady8337]

Can you make a video detailing all of your birth plans?? What you wanted, what you actually did and needed, what you didn’t need or end up doing, things you’d like to add or take away, etc?? I’ve been seeing a lot of really detailed birth plans and was curious about your experiences 😊

[@ExcludedShadow]

She deleted A LOT of her personal videos just like that. I doubt she will talk about it again after purposely deleting them all.

[@madelynrose1731]

@@ExcludedShadow she has all of her birth stories still up so she might do one like this!

[@springlady8337]

@@ExcludedShadow This video is a postpartum talk though so she still shares about pregnancy

[@ExcludedShadow]

@@springlady8337 that is true she still talks about pregnancy, but she doesn’t go into specifics as much as she used to. At one point there was a video detailing her birth plan with Eloise, and I believe Theo eventually got one as well. Which both got deleted. If I’m remembering correctly.

[@hannahs3654]

with my first kid I was in and out of the hospital 3 times. I had high fevers ( the first time up to 106°F with meds) they never figured out what was wrong but the last time I was there they gave me a higher and longer dose of antibiotics and that took care of it. It was rough. my second kid is now 4 months old and it has been so great postpartum just not having fevers and being able to have a normal recovery.

[@Dana-mb1hd]

LOVE your q and a videos Delilah! You look beautiful 🩷🩷☀️☀️🩷

[@AllSchuckUp]

I am so happy I watched this video. I give birth this September (7/8/9 weeks from now) and I’ve honestly been dreading birth and postpartum because of my previous birth two years ago. Birth was so hard and recovery was utterly terrible. I took some valuable things away from this video that I’ll carry with me into this new experience. Thank you for sharing 💖

[@autumnclouthier3016]

Cold flashes and weight loss issues sounds to me like my thyroid issues. Could be something to get checked!

[@singthescripturesmusic7243]

Yup yup, I have half a thyroid and after birth had these symptoms but increased. Could also be a circulation issue

[@izannegeldenhuys4103]

Hi Delilah, thank you so much for sharing. You have a beautiful family and I love watching your videos. I am also currently working on healing diastasis recti for the first time after having my 3rd baby. I'm almost 9 months post partum and really struggled with weight loss this time and I don't really have time to exercise apart from doing the 15min core exercises. So, I started doing intermittent fasting as a desperate last resort (there are some great videos by breastfeeding moms on how they do it) and it has really worked great so far!

[@corablah9809]

I had the same experience after the hemorrhage after my twins lol, nothing is like that pain, I told my midwife "please don't stop when I tell you to, just get it done with, don't listen to me" 😅 it was a much easier recovery than my first surprisingly!

[@rosemarysuzuki7263]

I’m currently second trimester with my third baby. Each postpartum experience I’ve had, my stomach has stayed “out” like you are expressing until my baby turns one. Then between 12-18 months postpartum my body lets go of all the extra tummy weight. Maybe it’s an age thing? I had baby 1 at 28 years old, Baby 2 at 30 years old, and about to have baby 3 at 32 years old- I’m expecting the same tummy to hang on for a year again - you aren’t alone!!!

[@siarrawemer]

I had a VBAC a year and a half ago and apparently have an umbilical hernia and diastasis recti this time around. I was told by a surgeon (for my hernia) during a consult that you’re more likely to have diastasis recti in pregnancies after a c-section because the OB’s often will be rough with your abs and split your abdominal wall more than they need to for c-sections and then the pregnancies after will be blamed. I’d recommend breathing exercises where you tighten your core in a mirror (so you can see that you’re tightening completely) and lots of compression over time. Ballet and barre classes are AMAZING and low impact on your core and pelvic floor though!

[@LaSabeille]

Hi Delilah, so sorry to hear about your experience with postpartum hemorrhage. Actually, when you said you were bleeding for a year as a teenager on your period and then also having 6 weeks full on bleeding after giving birth, made me immediately think of a coagultion disorder. Maybe something to get checked, along with your iron levels as you are having these cold flashes. You are so inspiring and i love how you go into honest details about all this stuff! ❤

[@megancurrier-ml3ed]

delilah, i had to share how the Lord used your most recent birth story! my son is almost nine months old and i had him ten days past my due date so i had just watched your story the day before before i finally went into labor. i ended up giving birth in the triage bathroom of my hospital 😂 a very similar super fast birth! thennn i had hemorrhaging from a retained placenta and a similar retrieval process. i cannot tell you how much your story was a complete gift from the Lord to prepare me for the precipitous labor and then the situation after that could have been traumatic. i had to process it all but now i can look back with complete joy over my birth story and i know you were a part of that. been a silent viewer for years-i’ve been pregnant with my three kids alongside you in your last three pregnancies and i’m just super thankful for you and had to finally comment! thank you for all you share 💛

[@ChannieTypeO-]

I’m going through pelvic floor therapy and it’s hard on me mentally. It’s crazy how little is known about it or supported. I was told by doctors I’d just need surgery but I advocated for physical therapy. I’m almost ten months post partum with baby number 2. My stomach is for sure soft but went down pretty good by month nine. I’m about 8 pounds out from my pre pregnancy weight. My boys are 17 months apart so back to back births are tough ❤ I am also cold all the time now too. While pregnant I was warm all the time.

[@bristevens.]

You are such a strong mama 💛 thank you for sharing your story! I recently started my motherhood journey channel and I would cry to one day have the community you do 🥹🥹💛

[@tinashanice3075]

I would love to follow you on your life in motherhood! Such a sweet gift! Nice to know we are all in this together. 🫶🏾💜

[@bristevens.]

@@tinashanice3075 omg thank you so much Tina I’m so happy to hear that and we are absolutely in this together!! 💛💛

[@Teenytinybudget]

I had a similar diastasis recti experience. I had a really painful separation with my second pregnancy. During the pregnancy I had about 2 months where it was soooo painful to do certain motions. I had to stop working out completely and going on long walks pushing my toddler in the stroller was also painful. Now I’m 5 weeks postpartum and also on my journey to healing it. You are not alone in this experience ❤

[@madelynrose1731]

Just wanted to comment to say that the time between ovulation and your period starting is the same every month (plus or minus one day), but the time from the start of your cycle until ovulation can vary widely and still be super normal! So you may have just had a cycle where ovulation came slightly later! I know you've previously mentioned practicing NFP so if you did know that you ovulated and your period came later than usual then it makes sense that you're suspecting a pregnancy, but just in case you didn't already know about ovulation being variable I wanted to leave a comment :)

[@hannahbentson9374]

Aww a new video just in time for my kids’ quiet time.

[@johnsonfamilynaturals]

Postpartum sucks but it is so worth it for our babies! I also had one large blood clot towards the end of Postpartum bleeding and then the bleeding stopped. My midwife told me to just keep an eye on it and it happening once and bleeding not getting worse then it was ok.

[@EmilyCyr]

thank you for sharing this ! very encouraged by how you intentionally leaned into the Lord to combat the difficulties of postpartum. it's a good reminder that brings hope for my next baby

[@bethanysexton4043]

Expecting baby #4 currently and the last few minutes of this made me cry! Thanks for sharing so beautifully! ❤

[@dianasdaugther]

I’m 11.5 months postpartum with my first baby and it just isn’t what I expected at all. I thought I’d be like my mum but I’ve found the weight just dropped around 6 months postpartum and my cycle just isn’t coming back (I am breastfeeding) and I get mad anxiety being away from my baby. It crazy how different postpartum is for everyone and it can be really hard knowing if your experiences are normal so thank you for sharing your postpartum experience

[@OliviaDzundza]

hey love! what you describe in your pelvis around ovulation & menstruating is something totally reversible often called uterine/ pelvic prolapse. There are heaps of ways to strengthen those ligaments and repair them, through modalities like True Core Health by Adelaide Meadow, even emotional work like German New Medicine. But there's heaps of options to aid that feeling xx

[@missyj5608]

I am 1 year postpartum as well with my 4th and I'm having the same core issues! So you're not alone!

[@raising_boys]

Your doing great Delilah! Thank you for sharing! The shaking at the store could be a let down of stress, it’s our bodies physical way of distressing or releasing the trama/stress that happened previously. I just learned about this in a book! I would shake insanity after natural birth too, and had moments like that randomly. I guess it’s a good thing as uncomfortable as it is. 😅

[@itscarolinemary]

Sometimes your period can be late due to stress or thinking about it too much. It's definitely happened to me. My periods have always been consistent but heavy the first few days and I deal with bad cramps. I might have endometriosis, I need to look into it but it's easy to delay it!

[@samanthasmith5106]

Yes I agree with others that pelvic floor therapy helps so much! And doing deep core workouts from KZbin have been great! I had a VBAC for my second birth in November and it was such an amazing experience! The postpartum period was extremely hard for me this time with ppd and a very fussy baby with nursing issues and allergies, but the Lord was faithful through the trials and worked so much good out of the hard circumstances.

[@justathumb]

a giant blood clot happened to me too! freaked me out! i called 811 (the urgent care line in QC) and they were super helpful, told me to come in if it happened again - thankfully it didnt!

[@katlynh1999]

Pelvic floor physical therapist here! I would highly suggest seeing a pelvic floor physio (even virtually if that’s easier with all the kids!). Sounds like there’s some things they can help you with to address your discomfort with periods/ovulation as well as core stability.

[@amandajones788]

I didn't really losing the weight until 14 months postpartum and now at 25 months it's still slowly coming off! it was SO slow for me and I just let it be slow :) you're doing great!

[@ashleyaggie19]

Thanks for sharing! It’s nice to be postpartum and be reminded I’m not alone. Another symptom that’s new for me (5th time here) is the scalp itch. Never have I ever suffered from dry scalp or the hormone swings like this time and my scalp of all things, is suffering through it! Crazy times.

[@susap6441]

Expecting my second child, I find your insights really interesting. I now have a better idea of what might be different post-partum the second time around. Thanks :)

[@annabellevanee9132]

Oh my gosh im so sorry that happened to you 3 minutes in and im heartbroken Its so good that you share your story because mothers are so often mistreated

[@Briekowski]

Doing abdominal vacuum exercises really helps with my belly shrinking back down postpartum. It strengthens your transverse abdominal muscles which wraps around your entire stomach.

[@LindsayS_TX]

I’m also a mama of four. I have been weightlifting my entire adult life. I will say that for me, I always notice a plateau postpartum until I’m able to start working out again (6 weeks was not it for babies 3 and 4 so it was later once babies were sleeping more). Once I started strengthening again, that’s when my body started changing again and I began to feel more like myself. Though you mentioned working out isn’t for you, perhaps you could consider some low key strengthening workouts at home like Pilates. My best friend is in the same boat and that’s a great fit for her! You look beautiful, regardless!! ❤️

[@mamabehavior5516]

I get cold flashes every time!! Feels like a fever. I’ve read that your body temperature is higher with the warmth of a baby. Now that the baby has left your body you may get the shivers as your body adjusts to the sudden change 🤷‍♀️

[@hannahbentson9374]

Annie is so adorable 🥰

[@azerlynno]

I have a 2 year old and the postpartum depression was so bad. It definitely makes me nervous for next time. I also just recently experienced a chemical pregnancy and I’m devastated. We had been trying and I found out I was pregnant super early. Which gave me more time to dream and plan and be excited. I’m praying to get pregnant soon and I pray it goes well this time

[@Briekowski]

So sorry to hear about your chemical pregnancy. Praying you have a successful pregnancy soon. I didn’t experience deep depression per say but I had postpartum anxiety and pretty bad baby blues the first time around, and I really believe taking my encapsulated placenta pills this time has really helped with my postpartum mental health - and with my sleep and energy levels as well. Could be just a coincidence but I did nothing else different between the two newborn phases.

[@BrooklynJean]

I had my second C section, this time scheduled rhis last November and I can relate both with the diastasis recti affecting me a lot more this time, as my body too hasn’t let go of that bit of weight either and I have no strength in my core! 😂💖 also the blood clot, and the cold flashes!! No one talks about some of these post partum symptoms, I also was a little worried at first! 💖 praise the Lord you both are doing great, it’s such a blessing but also so bitter sweet how fast the time goes by!

[@nicolette-gawthrop]

You may have a bit of adrenal fatigue, which the cold flashes indicate. Also, it can just taken along time for hormones to regulate after pregnancy and breastfeeding. The belly weight could just be cortisol levels being a bit higher due to the stress on your body and raising babies! It’s an all a blessing and beautiful and even beautiful blessings can be physically stressful on your body!!!

[@laurasteele2423]

I’ve had a heck of a time this 2nd postpartum, 3 months now. After a very long, physically exhausting labor with little sleep for days, followed by postpartum sleep deprivation, we were welcomed home by the hospital with a stomach bug, and not much later what I think was Covid. I think all this was very hard on my body, and I dealt with some issues downstairs, thyroid issues, and vision issues that I believe stemmed from the hard labor, lack of sleep, and sicknesses all at once. Could use some prayer that these will resolve 🥰

[@sarahsabo6820]

I'm praying for you. I had a similar experience and really relate. Many prayers and a hug to you!

[@laurasteele2423]

@@sarahsabo6820 thank you so much🩷

[@gemflowergirl]

I have no idea if this is helpful for anyone, but I had a different experience after my third (she’s now 3 months old). A week postpartum I was feeling worse not better, and I could hardly walk without hunching over. I thought it was an infection and I was freaked out, but after a day in the ER and a ton of tests, I had a D&C to clear out everything that my body was struggling to take care of and I felt better immediately! It could’ve gotten worse if I hadn’t gone in, so if you feel like something is off, it’s worth just going in and making sure everything is fine! My healing has gone so well since then! Also, for everyone saying pelvic floor therapy, I also agree! My issue isn’t my pelvic floor or my core, but apparently my feet are really weak and need help! I would’ve had no idea and getting back to running was so challenging! Have someone looking at you specifically is SO helpful!

[@KatieJane31]

I’m in a similar place with you after having my 3rd. I want to have a 4th soon but I never lost the baby weight. What I’ve been doing is eating a high protein, calorie deficit diet. Working out at the gym 4 days a week (has childcare!) doing strength training 2 days and cardio two days. I’ve lost 10 lbs so far and about 20 to go.

[@forksofnature]

Thank you so much for being so open and vulnerable about your postpartum experience! I'm a dietitian who specializes in this area, but focuses on a holistic approach. I've seen a few others mention pelvic floor physical therapy and I could not agree more! I don't know how the process works in Canada (I'm in the US), but during my pregnancy I was able to easily find and work with a PFPT from 8 weeks pregnant to 5 months PP. Insurance also covered it! In the meantime, Nourish Move Love on KZbin has a lot of fantastic videos to continue building your strength.

[@blaudaily]

I'm a first-time mom, and my son just turned one. I'm just now accepting that I have postpartum depression. It's not that I didn't realize it before, but I didn't like thinking I had it because I didn't feel I had the right to?? hahaha And something you mentioned is also happening to me - I have too much anger. My baby is very demanding; he has never slept through the night since he was born and wakes up every 2 hours at night. He's not interested in food and only wants milk. I know this is temporary and will soon be a memory, but I cry every day from being so tired and sad. I didn't think I could feel so miserable. I've lost 20 kilos, and people say I look good (because I've lost more weight than I gained when I first got pregnant), but what they don't know is that I don't feel healthy. I'm weak and don't know what to do. I just wanted to vent; I hope to connect with several moms going through something similar, so I don't feel alone :")

[@shelbys2750]

Have you gotten your period back? I had a hard time after my second until about 12 months pp when my period returned. I reached out to my care team at about 11 months and the first thing they recommended was a supliment called floradix, I don't know if it helped but I did use it. Please talk to your doctor about it.

[@blaudaily]

My period returned 10 months pp! and I went from being regular to irregular 😵‍💫 thank you sm for your advice!

[@georgiavice]

I really appreciated this video! I’m 7 months post partum with my second and I have 2 under 2. I find that early postpartum can feel a bit easier than late post partum for some reason. I tend to encourage myself to relax and take it easy during the first 6 weeks but after that I want to get back into a routine and tend to push myself a bit too much. I have experience post partum rage with both of my pregnancies and those symptoms have shown after the 6 week mark! For other post partum moms I encourage you to give grace on yourself and lean on God’s strength in your weakness post partum for the ENTIRE first year because there is so much going on during that year for you and your baby. ❤️‍🩹

[@SharaLee60]

I'm so sorry for your loss! I've never gone through that! I had 4 babies, too! The first one was about 5hs in labor. Not real bad. He weighted 8lbs 6oz. The second I felt like I was in labor, but not bad. I didn't want to go early like my first one. So I waited, I had her about 1hr after I got there. She was very easy! She weight 7lbs 11oz I don't remember much about post pardum etc. I did bleed a lot with some of them. My 3rd one she was alomost like my first about 5 hours in labor & weight 8lbs 10oz. My fourth was a lot different. I had preaclampia, & I didn't know much anout it. The drs wanted to see how it was after each contraction & monitoring it. It wasn't fun, that's for sure. He took 12hrs & he almost did cesarean but, he came finally. Thanks goodness! He weighted 9lbs 12oz. He was big. He looked like a 3 or 4 month old baby! They were all long 19- 22ins the boys now are 6ft 6" & 6ft 4" the girls are 6ft 2" & 5ft 9" they are in their 50's now. Boy I'm getting old! Ha! I'm glad I had them when I was young! I have a lot of health problems! You take care. Thanks for sharing! ♥️☺️🫂🌹🦋🐾🧶🪡🧵✨️

[@andreawiegman1492]

Physical therapy ❤🎉. That has been my bestie for my hips and abs

[@dawnm5834]

My youngest is now 12 and I saw a pelvic floor specialist for the first time last year. It was the best decision I made for my health. 10/10 recommend going.

[@megansnyder13]

I had the cold flashes after my most recent birth(last September) too. Something I didn't have with my first two and had never heard of before!

[@saras8446]

My physical therapist who does Pelvic Floor therapy. Says Pilates is great for core ! She’s been doing Pelvix Floor Therapy for about 20 years.

[@katrinalau4137]

The best thing ever was deciding to not look at my phone while I breastfed my fourth 🥰

[@missCurtisLake]

The bump plan postpartum! It's an online Pilates program. I started it when pregnant. I'm now 6 months postpartum and still working on my core slowly but I actually feel stronger than I did pre-pregnancy.

[@beckydunbar6730]

I have several children and after the last one the weight didn't come off. The best thing you can do is accept that this is your body now. It grew 4 babies and that's amazing. Try to be proud of what you have done with your body rather than try to change it. And buy pants with a stretchy waist band:) I exercise 5 days a week and had my last child 7 years ago and I still look like I'm in my first trimester. Acceptance is best ❤

[@intheflowerfields]

sometimes there are words i can’t hear but im glad you let us know before hand, that way im not eating while watching😂😂😂

[@carolynwaggoner212]

I have 6 children. My labors and deliveries were all a bit different except they were about 3 1/2-4 1/2 . hours. Pretty intense. Went into the delivery room with the fifth. My doctor was all ready there and set to go. 4 1/2 hours later the rushed me into surgery for an emergency C Section. That was the only baby I had some depression with and it had to do with feeling like a failure because I couldn’t even deliver a baby normally. I know it sounds silly. My 6th was a vaginal birth.

[@charlenedotsim8890]

I don't have any tips for post-partum weight loss, but I am fighting the struggle too. I have been over 150 lbs / 68 kg for over 6 years, and bc of medical complications it is very hard to lose weight. You're not alone in this. Also, I'm not a mother, and no where near close to being one. I don't plan on having children for a while, but I watched this entire thing. I think it's very important for women who want biological children that they learn about the female body and how it works, not just after pregnancy but also when you are or are not pregnant. One thing that this era lacks is education on our anatomy. I don't know what boys are taught about their bodies but I know I was never taught to use a tampon, or put on a condom. I was never taught that sometimes discharge can look different. It was always a sensitive topic and honestly I think that the women we wanted to ask didn't know much either due to the lack of education. It needs to stop being a taboo topic and become something thats normal, because if we aren't aware of our own bodies, how can we make ourselves the best and healthiest versions of ourselves? Thank you for posting your experiences because now I know more about the female body. Love your videos!

[@alisatravels]

Thank you so much for your content ♥️

[@NatashaWendel]

Yay V-Back babies Good for you girl

[@sapphire965]

You are not the only one to have cold flashes!! I get them and I thought it was only me, I shake terribly and get extremely cold even in the middle of summer. I get extremely weak and tired feeling. Perhaps it's thyroid/hormone related? I have no idea. I also had an early miscarriage/chemical pregnancy.. I got to enjoy celebrating my newly found pregnancy for just under 24 hours and then miscarried.. it was like a period but more painful and with other various tormenting symptoms. ❤ Praying for a rainbow baby.. 🌈

[@yanka1650]

After my 1st baby, my body went back to shape like 2 weeks post partum. Even thought i have terrible pregnancies. With my second baby, its a hot mess. Difficult recovery. Im 10 months post partum, have not even started healing because my rib cage separated, i had issues with pubic bone, my pelvis lost all control, 4 finger diastases, lots of pack and hip pain, issues with downstairs. Its been all about chiropractic care for me, thats what saves me mainly. 😰 i do exercise but theres so many issues that it does more harm than good. My body holds on to hormones. Praise God i didn’t have post labor depression or baby blues, but it hits me hard around the time i started my period at 1 year. It’s been challenging to say the least. 😬 So grateful for my beautiful babies though. Wouldn’t change a thing, and what is our body here, it will age and get even weaker but we will be made new in heaven one day, so looking forward to that day. 😊 Thank you for sharing, very good to know that theres other women out there going through things and survive with Gods help. ❤️

[@ginakkarow89]

I found out I was pregnant with my second when my first was only 9 months old! I was terrified. I did not feel ready AT ALL. My first will be two on Sunday and my second is six months now. It's a lot but they are my biggest blessings!

[@WhimsicalCrochet]

Please be careful reading these comments Delilah… I know you’ve mentioned having a history of an ED, & some people who are commenting don’t seem to be taking that into account. After having my daughter, I slipped right back down that slope when I was just trying to eat as healthy as I could to lose the weight… ended up with orth*rexia. (Censored it because, yanno, KZbin🙄🤣.) Sometimes for some reason your body will hold on to fat stores in order to keep a backup supply to keep your body running incase you end up not eating enough while breastfeeding. A lot of women don’t lose the baby weight until after weaning because of this. Even if it hasn’t happened with your past experiences, I wouldn’t doubt it if that’s what’s happening now. I completely understand the self image issues you’re experiencing, I’m almost 2 years postpartum and still experiencing it myself. I definitely would reccomend to just keep doing your exercise videos that you’ve been doing! Patience is key when it comes to postpartum ab depression (can’t figure out how to spell diastasis recti for some reason🤣.) Once you feel healed enough and you’re ready to start strengthening your core (or if you’re already ready) I’d highly recommend adding another exercise video to the routine (maybe like a 10-20 minute core workout video.) Just do what you’re able to, & stop whenever you need to. Don’t push yourself. My favorite core workouts when I was working on restrengthening my core (I had ab separation too) was butterfly kicks, plank dips (easier for me than regular planks,) sit ups (try adding a weight on your feet at first to help keep them on the ground,) & Russian twists.

[@Hannahbud14]

I clicked on this video when I saw the mention of blood clots, because at 14 months postpartum I am still dealing with blood clots in my leg. Two weeks after giving birth my leg started to hurt like no other. I was in SO MUCH PAIN, like having a constant intense cramp in my thigh. Since then I’ve had several surgeries to get the clots removed, some successful and many others not successful. I even had a couple stents put in my iliac vein (the main vein that branches off to my leg). And I still have clotted after trying to go off blood thinners. I am currently in the dark about why this happened in the first place and why it is still happening. I’m waiting on more tests to determine if there is something more going on (I’ve already ruled out any common clotting disorders). This whole situation has been beyond frustrating and frightening because I have very little support to trust my own body anymore. I’m terrified that I might leave my children motherless and my husband a widower way too young. I’m mourning the idea that I would be a fully functional human being until my old age when health issues like this “should” happen. I just don’t know how to move forward because I don’t have answers and my future is uncertain while things now are so uncertain.

[@PinkKissedLips]

Delilah, the loss of strength you feel can be greatly improved by Pelvic Floor physical therapy!! Talk to you Obgyn for a referral. It should be standardize care for all birthing people! Also, it can be completely tailored to your specific needs!

[@Stormfal]

I had a hard first birth so Postpartum I was very sad, specially because I honestly had a bad birthing experience. sometimes felt like I wanted to stop being a mom, go back to my old life because my baby has been very fussy it was hard from me. I am much better now and sooo happy to be a mommy☺️ God was there for me 100%!l I on the other hand didn’t give God as much as I could.

[@angietorres107]

I didn’t have blood clots instead it hard to get all the lining after birth and went through the whole feeling of trying to all that inside me out. I absolutely sympathize with you and feel like that too was worse than giving birth. It’s funny you mentioned the whole freezing flash I had too but right after birth for like two days. Thanks for the video

[@hellosteph9206]

Hi Delilah! Pelvic floor therapy helped immensely with my core strength, DR, pelvic heaviness & urinary incontinence! I hope you can find one you love.

[@azaleasewing8373]

I also had cold flashes and piled all the blankets on top of me!

[@fionaelizabeth5169]

PIlates, pilates, pilates.This should be recommended as practice both during your pre & post natal journey. Also spend time focusing on TVA breathing.

[@ohmyameluz]

Pelvic floor therapy helps a lot with diastasis recti. Nancy Anderson has a whole program callled Ab Rehab. I plan to redo the program again after delivering my second baby in a couple of months. Just something to look into 😊 that might help

[@saras.9626]

The blood clot thing happened to me too with my third baby! It was a huge blood clot in the middle of the night when I hadn’t been bleeding and it really scared me. But I went back to bed and never had another issue. I mentioned it to my midwife at one of my checks and she said it’s normal to have a random blood clot around the time I had it and not to worry if it was just a one off 🤷🏼‍♀️