Loneliness - What Its Like Having No Friends

#Alone #Loneliness #Lonely

[@morning_dew_manna]

I literally have no friends either but no friends are better than fake friends!

[@jcbanbury]

All my friends WERE fake, now I'm left with nothing. Thanks people. Thanks alot.

[@morning_dew_manna]

@@jcbanbury Same really.. they were fake.

[@yoginikaltri333]

AMEN🤙🏽🤙🏽🤙🏽🤙🏽🤙🏽

[@lemonchan2013]

hi hon, im learning in my psychology courses at college from a wise professor that changed my life that besides the “viscious cycle”, we often forget that there is such thing as the “virtuous cycle.” it’s about doing good for others that in turn make yourself feel good. it’s actually amazing how easy and simple it is- participating in volunteer work like food drives, helping homeless, animals if you like, anything charity related. i think you should try it. it’s an opportunity for you to meet people, and then write about how you feel after when you come home!

[@eljefe308]

⁠@@lemonchan2013such great advice, also journaling is proven to boost your mental health

[@Kelly-oe8kr]

I really hate it when people say everyone feels lonely now and then. What is being described here is completely different. I'm 43 with no family and no friends and haven't had any in 20+ years. I couldn't pick up a phone and call someone even if I wanted to. I am alone.

[@AkwaIbomDoll]

you’ll find your tribe soon ❤️

[@andreatoppi5627]

@@AkwaIbomDoll When? In the next life, probably. Dont say "you'll", please, we already know that it cant happen. Expecially after a certain amount of years, (35-40)

[@tjfSIM]

You’re right. This isn’t just ‘feeling lonely’, it’s being alone, isolated. It’s real. I hate it too when people just don’t get that - especially when they say ‘you need to get out there and meet people’. Honestly, if it was that easy, then people wouldn’t be going through this. Loneliness saps the life and motivation out of you, it takes away your confidence and your self-esteem, so it almost feels like you’re in a spiral. There needs to be much more work done to provide better support to people in these situations, and properly understand what they’re going through. Best wishes to you, hope you’re doing ok.

[@Kelly-oe8kr]

@@psx2514 No, not at all. When I was in my 20s I was a single parent to my brother after the death of my mother. My mother was an extremely manipulative and coercive controlling sociopath who sabotaged friendships, had me fired from jobs etc. so I wouldn't have any demands on my time and could be her personal servant... cook my food, clean my house, run my errands, babysit my kid for free, then at the end of the day get out of my house 'you don't want to be a part of this family remember'. I have struggled with coercive control and abusive people who treated me like their servant and demanded I put my life on hold to take care of their obligations. Not everyone choses a life of isolation, it can be the legacy of a lifetime of severe abuse.

[@bella.mayy_359]

Kelly, you're 100% correct!! The profoundly isolating experience of having no friends and no family isn't the same ass what average ppl experience. I feel for your!! I got no answers or even suggestions at this time. I can, however, hear you, hold space for you and maybe you could do the same for me. 😶

[@polciaczek1499]

Ty for making this video. At least for 9 mins I felt some human connection.

[@eapitzer]

I hope you have been able to find another, big or small, since expressing this, friend.

[@georgefindlay1982]

I used to have loads of "friends" when i had money and when the money dried up.......off they went and what a shower of users they were and looking back i bloody hate myself for being such an utter utter MUG.

[@jodycavaness7404]

@NUFC TV are you the sweet man that made this video?? If so, what is your name, if you don’t mind. I have tried to find it but didn’t see it🌺

[@hannahsmith-dg9jt]

@@georgefindlay1982 taken me some years to realise this too as when I was successful for years had too many people to keep in contact with, never had the time, when the crap and years of tragic issues hit the fan, not one person has been a rock, except my parents which sadly do not have either now, yr comment is spot on.

[@user-ks7qj5dz5c]

so relatable ur not alone i felt like this many times and I do have kids and partner and can still feel this way social media make me feel worse too I deactivate my account especially fb its all so fake

[@colinloh6427]

I’m like you too, bro. The thing about me is that I intimidate a lot of people without even trying. They automatically assume I’m bad based off my looks. So superficial. I also have severe terminal trust issues. I move on a different plane and existence that not many or none understands.

[@Mada_94_]

Stop thinking all people are happy. We're all struggling, everything on social media is fake.

[@YT_HATES_FREE_SPEECH]

Bt thats the point, some people wish they could even fake it and cant. Most people are struggling thanks to the ruling class, bt theres those who dont have any paint left for the smile 🤡

[@cashpower3365]

speaking out on loneliness is true strength.

[@Joe_334]

He has such a calm voice. Sounds like that customer who would ask for directions, find what they need and go their own way, instead of starting crap in public.

[@danspears9607]

Hi Saying how you feel and acknowledging it is a good step forward x One can get to a point with isolation that when we do get involved again it feels strange But we must keep on trying we will have set backs maybe more than moving forward but that's ok and we must hang on to those forward times and more will come believe me. Re social media and alike what we see isn't all sunshine and roses And we must not compare our own lives to it. I know it is hard at times But we must keep trying Have faith in yourself Have faith in others. Take care x

[@Joe_334]

@@danspears9607 Wow! Bless you so much, Dan! Thanks for pointing it out and not being condescending about it. Seriously, I know these are just words. However, may many blessings come your way!

[@betina6624]

Yes. He really does. He is a lovely person

[@hallaisvanessa5863]

Hello, alot of people these days have no friends - you're not alone! I understand loneliness very well, but it you have a few hobbies it helps. Anyway, you seem lovely to me.

[@grahams_number]

Very true. Hope you’re having a nice evening Hallais

[@ummbongo1634]

Judging by your comment I don't think you have a clue about loneliness.

[@johnrajmichael8749]

@@ummbongo1634 so true

[@ArtChannel80]

I feel this. I have zero deep connections in my life. No kids. No woman. Being alone is a different level of feeling bad.

[@theriddick]

Yeah and its extremely common for males especially but can affect woman also but generally for different reasons and at different strokes. Btw in same boat as you, except probably poorer, lol

[@lemonchan2013]

hi hon, im learning in my psychology courses at college from a wise professor that changed my life that besides the “viscious cycle”, we often forget that there is such thing as the “virtuous cycle.” it’s about doing good for others that in turn make yourself feel good. it’s actually amazing how easy and simple it is- participating in volunteer work like food drives, helping homeless, animals if you like, anything charity related. i think you should try it. it’s an opportunity for you to meet people, and then write about how you feel after when you come home!

[@MarioG02]

I feel EXACTLY as you

[@izzyg5594]

Me too! One of his videos was suggested to me though the last one was 3 months old. I really hope he is doing okay. But yeah his other video not about Lexapro he took 97% of his words out of my mouth. I hope he comes back

[@georgefindlay1982]

@@izzyg5594 Me too.....a lot of the things he says hits home and im a wee bitty older than this guy...im 55 and i think he is 37.

[@Mloofylicious]

I would really love to know what happened to this man in the meantime. I hope he's ok. He's right about the effect of social media on your mental health and superficiality of people.

[@ecoleman5690]

In a world gone mad, a certain level of alienation is the price of sanity. ~ Terrence McKenna

[@timothydonovan4430]

Yes, I must admit, I feel the loneliness a lot now days.

[@murtithinker7660]

Man, don't be weak. There are so many things you can be doing.

[@gagalover2k10]

@@murtithinker7660 feeling lonely isn’t being weak but K.

[@jcbanbury]

@@gagalover2k10 that guy is talking absolute nonsense.

[@3055311255]

England may suck but here in America it's terrible. Making a friend here is almost impossible. Cheers.

[@karmacolonic]

I don't know how the mysterious KZbin algorithm put your videos in my feed, but I'm glad it did. You seem like a really good man -- lonely and hurting, of course, but also very thoughtful and sensitive. And I'm sorry that you've suffered so much recently. Your story and mine are very similar: single guys who have lived in different places and had unique experiences (that people at home often can't relate to). And as self-reflective, introverted types, we're prone to overthinking in ways that tend to do more harm than good. Like you, I've been involved in teaching English overseas, and my most recent TEFL job was abruptly cut short by the pandemic. And like you, I was forced to return home, even though I didn't have a job or other immediate plan for the future. Oh, and I'm about a decade older than you are. So please know that I have a sincere, empathetic connection with what you've expressed in your videos. And please know that your experiences really resonate with me. I have to say, though, you have a lot of strength and courage that I'm not sure you give yourself credit for. By sharing your thoughts and feelings so openly and profoundly, you really show genuine bravery and vulnerablility in trying to make a connection with others. Your authenticity shines through. You HAVE made a connection -- with me and probably with many others. COVID-19 has, as you indicate, probably done just as much damage (or more) to mental health than physical. And we're all trying to cope with a situation none of us could ever have imagined. And it hasn't been easy. The only thing I can say is that I hope you can start being a little more gentle with yourself -- to cut yourself some slack. I noticed (because I tend to have this problem too) you kind of fall into the trap of comparing your life to your where your peers are currently. I've done the same thing (although I used to do it a lot more ten years ago). It's a pretty self-destructive thing to do, because what you (and I) experience will never be the same as our friends who took a more 'conventional' path...and yet we still feel compelled to make comparisons. So maybe try to let that go a little. Their journey will always be different. For me at least, letting go of this grandiose idea of having a 'life purpose' helped immensely. Why do we torture ourselves unnecessarily by using this as some sort of metric for the success of our lives? Why do we psychologically punish ourselves for coming up short against some artificially constructed, self-imposed standard? (At least that's the view I have now.) My life isn't 'insufficient' simply because I haven't honed in on a well-defined life purpose. I think this idea is cleverly reflected in the movie "Soul" -- maybe life isn't so much about finding 'purpose' (especially when it involves some sort of social-status recognition that's ultimately meaningless) as much as being open to anything that 'sparks' our interest or enjoyment. Life is about living, not defining. It's supposed to be about being happy, regardless of how that happens. I can see you have a lot of passion and intellectual interest in learning/researching (about something new), and figuring out potential strategies for the best outcome. Plus -- and this is rare in your videos, but still -- you have the occasional chuckle or glimmer of (usually self-depricating) humor that betrays a kind, caring, appreciative soul -- traits that make a good friend. So I don't know how things are going for you these days (now that it's three months after you posted your video), but I hope things are looking up a bit. You're certainly the kind of guy I'd enjoy hanging out with and getting to know... over an occasional beer, even (though like you, not to get drunk ;-P ). I think you and I would get along very well and, maybe more importantly, relate to some of the same things and life experiences. I know many other commenters have reached out to you and offered to communicate in a more personal way. And if you haven't been somehow drawn to these offers of friendship, please know that I'm also an option. (IG: mslumike) You're a good man, and I'm already very grateful -- and a better person -- for knowing you. So, with complete sincerity as I say this, *thank you for being...you!* Through sharing these videos, you have already made the world a more connected, more empathetic, more compassionate place.

[@karmacolonic]

*** Hikikomori 2 *** for channel updates. The owner of this channel was locked out and had to open a new channel.

[@Spreadingwingsmine]

Thankyou so much i literally spent a good 16 mins scrolling through the comments on his videos to see if he made another channel or something and now i have the answer, also read your comment and it was so genuine and beautiful.

[@freekpeet]

@@karmacolonic Very nice comment! Can you link to his new channel? "Hikikomori 2" yielded no results when I searched.

[@lemonchan2013]

hi hon, im learning in my psychology courses at college from a wise professor that changed my life that besides the “viscious cycle”, we often forget that there is such thing as the “virtuous cycle.” it’s about doing good for others that in turn make yourself feel good. it’s actually amazing how easy and simple it is- participating in volunteer work like food drives, helping homeless, animals if you like, anything charity related. i think you should try it. it’s an opportunity for you to meet people, and then write about how you feel after when you come home!

[@tessa7778]

@@karmacoloniclink please

[@grahams_number]

I totally understand you, and can relate to all you’ve said ... wish I could say something to help. You seem like a nice person ... you’re not the problem.

[@juliecostantini993]

You showed me I'm not alone....yet still alone.

[@librarose319]

I have no friends either im sitting here crying searching for people who are feeling the same as me ...

[@justalittleyoutuber]

To literally have no one and wake up on Christmas morning is fkin awful. It's hard everyday yet alone Christmas day. And to know the whole day is going to bring no human interaction is scary

[@YT_HATES_FREE_SPEECH]

Xmas is just societle programming. I try wake up everyday with that xmas or birthday feeling w/o the family or friends, you should try it, might ease the concentrated feeling of no family on that particular 25th Dec day. I mean why should it be restricted to just once a year.

[@catiapb1]

KZbin doesn't show real life most of the times it shows what gets audiences. Several very successful KZbinrs took their life.

[@Weaklytune]

So true. I wish more people showed their real lives.

[@Bloodsport1]

It's the world, this world is not for decent moral, people.

[@Weaklytune]

Yeah i feel that. This is why we need our own safe space. Cause this world can be brutal.

[@nihilisticcannibal4477]

Weaklytune There's no safe space. You have to adapt and survive. It's the way of the world.

[@UToobUsername01]

I see it as the world is run by the devil in secret. "The greatest trick the devil ever pulled was convincing people he didn't exist" -the usual suspects It's not that "God is dead". It's that man is distracted by things to see the world clearly and identify the problem to do anything about it.

[@alecgurney9305]

@@UToobUsername01 what? Shutup

[@igormendoncacanga2569]

@@UToobUsername01 Indeed... the ancient Gnostics even stated that the main ruler of this dimension, the physical is evil or at least imperfect and demented... the real true creator is of a completely different dimensional plain where we all must ascend to... at this point it seems rather obvious or at least likely my friend... if only people understood objective morality and hermetic laws of correspondence, things would be better... God bless you and remember you matter in this existence... all of you do!

[@mariefortin1345]

Thank you for sharing. I cried a lot because I am feeling the same way . 😢❤

[@koni4990]

I suffer from the exact thing, finding people annoying, but at the same time lonely because you never feel like you fit in. Lack of motivation. short fuse on starting new things. Not wanting to leave home because of anxiety, but at the same time feeling trap and wishing to leave. All causing depression that continues to slowly get worse every year.

[@leapingjoseph8462]

koni, you just described me. Sending positive thoughts.

[@heavencantwait1218]

I Get it, I feel the same , hope your a doing the best u can .. i’m trying but it’s so hard .

[@giuseppepupella8895]

I feel you. Start looking for solutions and don't focus on the problem. Even having a little chat in the queue or at the grocery store, for example, is gonna make a difference.

[@joelewertow7115]

Yes. That human connection

[@keekstar2914]

Exactly ,, silly little things such as a chat in the local shop has a lot to be thankful for

[@JimmyLives1986]

I just wanted to say your words resonated with me on so many levels.. I am 37 and I have been fortunate enough be with a lovely partner for many years, own my own house and work an okish job. But having all this doesnt necessarily make you a happy fufilled man. A lot of the time i feel secretly alone, i have no friends, come from a broken family and feel an empty shadow of my outgoing, confident earlier years former self. I'm mostly unimpressed by all the compliances that life has to offer nowadays. I wish i didnt feel this way. It makes me feel so gulty and like im a living parody of who i used to be. Like you say people come and go/move on in life. Nothing stays the same. Nothing lasts i suppose. Anyway I hope you eventually find some inner piece bro and are able to break through the barrier. Trust me you are not alone in the search. Take care

[@lemonchan2013]

hi hon, im learning in my psychology courses at college from a wise professor that changed my life that besides the “viscious cycle”, we often forget that there is such thing as the “virtuous cycle.” it’s about doing good for others that in turn make yourself feel good. it’s actually amazing how easy and simple it is- participating in volunteer work like food drives, helping homeless, animals if you like, anything charity related. i think you should try it. it’s an opportunity for you to meet people, and then write about how you feel after when you come home!

[@JimmyLives1986]

@@lemonchan2013 Hi there. I've only just seen your reply. Thank you for your suggestion. I think I will give what you suggested a try. I do get a lot of Joy from giving so it would make sense. Thanks again

[@izzalrahizam8865]

been 4 years unemployed with no friend, i really need friend.

[@carolinespence15]

Age is only numbers, do not let it define you. I have felt the feelings you have and appreciate your honesty to share.

[@stinka4079]

I understand this. I can't even provide references for an apartment application. I don't drink, so I could never bond with people I worked with who went out for happy hour. Being socially shy is the worst feeling in the world. It's often misconstrued as being stuck up, or stand-offish. You may not have people immediately in your circle, but you are NOT alone. There are others, like me who are feeling the same way. I too, get along with the people at work, but it just feels one-sided. I made a pledge to reach out to and say hello and have a kind word, but it's never reciprocated. It's the worst feeling in the world.

[@tessa7778]

Same ! Work ppl can be so fake. Also same with the reference thing 😞

[@silent4fail]

I felt for the first time in my life that someone speaks the same language as me and understands the words coming out of my mouth just as I understood yours.

[@beachstreet101]

The irony is there are so many who are similar. They’re all in the comments. Imagine we all came together with this common theme.

[@djde4th877]

i feel you bro , only thing i have to live for is my parents . then ill be alone till i die after they gone

[@manojmaitydm]

We can make group and not be alone

[@JakeBayCity]

I’m in my late 40’s. I have maybe two real friends though we rarely communicate. I earn a six figure income but still live at home caring for a sickly parent. I have a tiny family, no siblings, and most of the people in my life are a lot older than me. I can’t seem to make a good decision about being independent. When the few people in my life are gone I’ll have no one.

[@dafyddwilliams8404]

Mate I can totally empathise, throughout my twenties I would socialise happily and easily, but due to severe mental health issues, most folk in my life have been pushed away, now in my thirties I live the exact opposite of my former life, day in, day out on the sofa, no motivation to even pick up a book, your not alone mate, stay strong .

[@Startleftendright]

I feel exactly the same and can get really on edge just being surrounded by the fakery of the world. I have 4 dogs and take them out 4.30am just to avoid everyone. I'm super pessimistic and people can find me really blunt so they judge so easily but I am in the starting process of getting tested for Autism. This might explain why I dispise people and react the way I do. Just know, there are thousands of us, who avoid people, but won't ever meet people like ourselves because of this and I hope one day we all manage to meet other people like us, who we can just sit there in silent misery and not be judged. Who can talk through all our thoughts of random things without being judged. I would love to meet someone like you! I hope you meet people like you and find answers in whatever you may need. A solitary life is a bittersweet life xxxxxx

[@heatherwhite8691]

Very brave for speaking your truth.you are only 37. My best and only real friend is my wife.true friends are scarse. Get out of the city.modern life is toxic.you can be in a crowded room and be so lonley. God bless you Kevin

[@oliviamacpherson21]

This is the most realistic video of what loneliness feels like

[@cosmicfxx]

If there are so many of us out here that are longing for good friends and have the same struggles … why don’t we all connect and change?! It would be a start.

[@colin4215]

Very brave video being so open about your feelings. Remember that people might appear happier than they are on social media, it’s a fickle society. I am sure one day you will find peace and your path in this world.

[@Ultradude604]

I go to a Walmart and shop alone. Everyone in there is with someone. I'm walking there alone. Every. Single. Time.

[@tessa7778]

Hugs

[@paulalexander7156]

I feel for you man. I think you should consider getting yourself a pet dog. They are loyal, funny and energetic which tends to rub off onto the owners and are a great way to get you out of the house into the fresh air. Its also a good way to include yourself into the local community with other dog walkers where a simple hallow turns into a conversation about your dogs and over time your speaking about all sorts of things. Depression is a vicious circle which is hard to get out of I no I've been there myself but small steps lead to bigger. Your stronger than you think it takes guts to make a video about your feelings and let the world see a lot of people couldn't do that, you have my respect.

[@SmoltingWassie]

I'm 29 and can related to everything you're saying man, even the tone of voice we speak in is the same. It's a lonely road and I sadly have nothing useful I can contribute, as I truly feel the pain you're in and know that all advice given is always easier said than done. Wish you all the best, it's not easy to rinse and repeat day after day, hoping somehow there is something that changes for you brother. Much love from Aus ❤️

[@lemonchan2013]

hi hon, im learning in my psychology courses at college from a wise professor that changed my life that besides the “viscious cycle”, we often forget that there is such thing as the “virtuous cycle.” it’s about doing good for others that in turn make yourself feel good. it’s actually amazing how easy and simple it is- participating in volunteer work like food drives, helping homeless, animals if you like, anything charity related. i think you should try it. it’s an opportunity for you to meet people, and then write about how you feel after when you come home!

[@Polymath9000]

Cannot say for you but I have a lot to contribute to society but Narcs, sociopaths, phsychopaths and egocentric individuals run the society.Especially the Shopkeeper mentality people.

[@LaYulanka]

Thank you so much for uploading your videos. I cried while I was watching them because I feel the same way. I'm 35, and my life has been difficult.. since I was born. I don't know you in person and you don't know me, but I care about you. I see you have a poem of Mitsuo on the wall. That's a good poem! I just wanted to say hi.. from Tokyo :)

[@rlukinn]

Hi, yukahighbridge, What kind of troubles did you have in life? I was born in Russian Federation. I completed higher education and could not find decent job. I lived in poverty until 40 year old. That was crazy. I always was thinking about Japan as prosperous trouble free country.

[@LaYulanka]

@Apocalyptic Workshop Thank you for your reply and no worries! Also, thank you for sharing your honest thoughts on KZbin. I hope you've been doing well these days, and I'll patiently wait for your new videos :)

[@danpictish5457]

Greetings and thank you for being so honest. To get a friend you have to be a friend so don't give up just move over the border to Scotland. We're friendlier up here! Covid has certainly made things hard, sorry!

[@danpictish5457]

@Sarah Hodgins No, we invented Television. It's tough to imagine life without your favourite TV shows. ... Dolly the sheep. When creating a list of some of Scotland's greatest innovations, a sheep may seem like a strange choice. Telephone. ... Penicillin. ... MRI Scanner. ... Refrigerator. ... Toaster. ... Daily Disposable Contact Lens. ... ATM. ... Colour Photograph. ...AND Robert Burns so we can't be half bad!

[@BenjaminGessel]

😁😁😁😁👍👍👍👍

[@danielh6559]

I'm 19 and I've been like this for years. It's awful.

[@rRaiyan2]

Same

[@faranjaved4001]

I can totally relate, we are not alone, but connected.

[@atrophyresurgence8007]

You have 7 thousand subscribers you not alone the world is full of people living alone think of the bad things that have escaped you so much pain in this world and you have escaped most of it like the other day i seen a teenage girl in a wheelchair and had to think how some people just never had a chance count your blessings take a deep breath and give thanks

[@EricOmand]

Nice to know that we are not long in our lonliness... I'm convinced those who are lonely are the most human.

[@chrissyp7]

I related to you so much. I work graveyard shifts alone, the last time I hung out with anyone was about 2 years ago and the last time I even used my voice was several months ago (besides talking to myself). I'm in so much debt from hospital bills etc I cannot get ahead in any aspect, if anything I'm going backwards and I don't see a way out beyond the one way we're always told not to. I have zero family, zero friends, I try to talk and people ignore me, I work to pay bills and have zero money left afterwards, and I'm about to be living in my car. I see no way out and likely won't be here this time next year

[@arnoldschwarzenegger1527]

Move to Canarias and live in a cave by the sea for free.

[@marciadias899]

How are you ?

[@Lazh-_-]

I am in my twenties and I resonate with this a lot. I have no friends and the people in my surroundings and my classmates, I do not find any thing in common between us and I find them annoying. It's a mystery how people find like minded people .

[@OnderHassan]

I'm the same age as you mate and in a similar situation. Except I have hobbies and go out. The issue is not that we can't make friends, but that we're smart and aware enough to see through people's manipulations, selfishness, and the natural need for them to want to use people for their own benefit. Not to say that everyone's like this. But the reality is, there are more bad people in the world than good. Now you could say to just avoid the bad people and focus on the good. But the time it takes to meet and get to know people long enough in order to figure out whether they're good or bad takes its toll on you. And you quickly lose the patience for it the older you get. Especially if you've had a bad streak. Beyond your parents, friendships and relationships are conditional. Because we understand that, we have a hard time trusting people and making an effort. So we prefer to be alone.

[@johnrajmichael8749]

so true

[@recuperacion420]

Its so sad

[@NeverGiveUponConfidence]

💯 spot on completely 👌

[@mountaintruth1deeds533]

57 here in the US , I know exactly the shadow loneliness cast, even the friends I had 20 years ago are gone, I have travelled in country and lost touch with almost. I have one good friend I've known 40 years but lives a few hours away , his wife just passed away and he is in his seventies and stays optimistic. But we are honest with each other, hardly anything lasts, he is fortunate to have a great wife so many decades.

[@d.lav.2198]

Sometimes travelling the world is a form of running away from yourself. Now you're standing still...you've got some work to do.

[@jcbanbury]

OMFG! I did that and my depression NEVER went away. Even in the most beautiful countries I was dying inside. It changed nothing. I was running and now I'm still the same

[@yuhao9091]

I don't have friends to call either. I sometimes feel sad about it. But I'm not giving up on myself, I believe I will still live a happy life even if I won't have any friends.

[@mariefortin1345]

I totally understand you. Anxiety, loneliness Avery hard to deal with. I too don't like being around a lot of people. I'm a lot older than you. I have been blessed to be on a disability pension in Canada. I'm now retired. One thing that has saved me is going to Buddhist temple where no one judges you. It costs no money. You might meet someone there who is caring, kind and understanding. You can join online if you don't feel like going there. I also have a dog who cheers me up and helps my depression and gives me the closeness and the love I need. I can relate to you and I feel and share in your pain. Don't judge yourself if you have no money. If someone is going to love you they have to love you for who you are. That is what matters most.

[@michael5089]

Lovely words ❤

[@SynfulDoll]

This really hits home!

[@HomelessWhiteMaleStartingOvera]

This fellow says he has no friends yet his channel has 450,000 views and pretty well all of us can relate on some level. He has made 450,000 friends here. How many of us can do that ?

[@nielsbal3385]

450k anonymous people. Lol. It shows great internet is fake.

[@clarak1778]

Im crying looking at how me and all these other people dealing with the same stuff . Were all struggling

[@lululemon1981]

Thanks for making this video! Feeling really down lately and lonely. I hope things are better now. All the best man!

[@lovinglearningearning]

There really is someone who gets it. Perfectly. Every single aspect. This video is golden to me, I wish we could be friends. Im in u.s.

[@lovinglearningearning]

@Apocalyptic Workshop Insights i am smiling ear to ear to see your reply. Im watching this video again bc id like someone to hang out and socialize with but i dont have anyone. Ive been feeling really lonely again. Its hard being an introvert and quiet yet wanting to get out and be social. Its a very strange contrast in feelings and it usually leaves me feeling overwhelmed when i go into public. Afterwarde, I enjoy going home and recalibrating haha

[@joelewertow7115]

You're not alone. Thanks for sharing your thoughts about loneliness. For me, when I'm in a positive place mentally, the feeling of being alone w/o friends is not as burdensome. Paradoxically, when I'm feeling depressed & filled w anxiety about the everyday pressures of life, family, health problems, etc, I want less to be around others. So, I think the central dynamic for me is self-love. From there, all the other stuff seems less important in the moment. It seems from past experiences, people gravitate towards others who have no other agenda than to love & be loved - as cliched as that sounds

[@justalittleyoutuber]

I'm scarily the same as you. Every word you say, I'm right there with you. But I can't help worry as you've not posted for 2 years!? I know it's KZbin but the majority of us that are here, care for your wellbeing. I hope you're ok

[@melindabraun6060]

I had to laugh a little cause I totally can relate to the predicament. one one hand I am all alone yet would feel rather annoyed by people I meet in groups or any other settings. and I often find myself attracting "emotional leaches" or "energy vampires". we should open our own you tube group ;)

[@PGOuma]

Omg yes with the energy vampire thing

[@patrikandersson9531]

KZbin group, are there such a thing? Or else one could try something called Discord... Take care.

[@jefflo8163]

Hey brother, you not alone, I have no friends either too. I am 43 and I feel sometimes be alone can focus on important things in your life. You can try to have friends but the relationship is yourself. Self care is most healthy selfishness thing to do. Keep strong bro 💪 🙏

[@andreward8510]

I am just like you brother. I can go without speaking to people around me for weeks and I live in a very big city. This however has never bothered me, I am anti social and I've accepted this. Find a hobby and focus on it, that's about it.

[@lemonchan2013]

hi hon, im learning in my psychology courses at college from a wise professor that changed my life that besides the “viscious cycle”, we often forget that there is such thing as the “virtuous cycle.” it’s about doing good for others that in turn make yourself feel good. it’s actually amazing how easy and simple it is- participating in volunteer work like food drives, helping homeless, animals if you like, anything charity related. i think you should try it. it’s an opportunity for you to meet people, and then write about how you feel after when you come home!

[@BrentTheGent1]

I truly hope that this man managed to stop comparing himself to what society says he should be living like although i have to admit that i also have very alike issues that stem mostly from chronic health problems. I would love to see an up to date post with some positive outcome though i have found in the past that there have been many people that post this sort of thing and are never heard from again so i can only hope that this young man did find his way out of such a dark and lonely place. I know only to well just how it feels to be cast aside and once any loving family we are lucky enough to have had are gone and your children show no love towards us it is not a good place to end up but i have seen it with so many older folks who are just left to rot away and that is exactly where i have been at for far to long now.

[@cmmgray]

Get your self a dog. They NEVER judge people and give unconditional love. I love my staffy.

[@mo-end-times-info]

There are so many people on youtube - many shallow and unpleasant and still some who are real and likeable. I am not drawn to many people, but I feel that you are a real and likeable person and you are coming across as genuine. I just came across you video today and looked on your channel to see what other videos you had put out and I see just three - hope you are keeping well now - I will watch your other video - having had encounters with the mental health "services" myself in the past and have experience of them - maybe they help some people - but I found many concerning issues with them - and I hope you are managing ok now and if not - maybe you'd put out an update video? Wishing you all the best.

[@thesolaraquarium]

Same here. I can empathise because if i did not live with family I would be the same. My family is all I have in life. I hope he finds Jesus. Jesus is the friend of all lonely people. He will love you when no one else will.

[@markforrest4900]

Im a little older but relate to you 100 percent. I have a job but i struggle weekly to even show up. Its strictly for food and utilities, in 20 years only 1 person has been in my house, my car broke down last month and i walked home 6 miles because i had no one to call, ZERO 😢, my famoly is all dead now and like you i used to be very social and outgoing but i cant even explain how or why it changed, i dont even care about fonding a lover anymore i just want a friend JUST 1, or a roomate just to kbow there was another heartbeat in my house, god is this all my future holds? Ots sad and scary, WHO WILL BURY ME??????😢

[@sociolocomtsac]

Hey buddy, I am "living" through something similar, with social anxiety and anhedonia. I think those of us who are well-traveled might be disillusioned with how the West works and operates. I've found I don't have social anxiety when I'm in Asia, especially because you're not judged by the same standards as the suffocating West (although I'm not originally from the West). Being an expat, working in a new country (not just traveling) opens up a lot of possibilities. Also, as you know, expats tend to be cooler and genuinely interesting to be friends with than the average bloke at the pub. Dating is a lot better, too, with more opportunities to run into new people. You don't have to be reminded of all the people who have moved on in your town, either. I met this guy called Brett Dev in Chiangmai, Thailand, and felt very similar vibes from you for some reason, like an alternate version of you. I Wanted to share cause I've found new perspectives always help with getting out of a rut: kzbin.info/www/bejne/sKrKe2uNhdJ1nq8

[@bill7853]

I've travelled the world ..looking for something ..don't know what but I guess it was peace of mind .Still not there at 57 hrs old..I do regular meditation and have a loving wife but never had any ambition , never wanted a career, a big house, children ..just wanted to get away from it all ,all the expectation , bullshit and superficiality . I have virtually no friends really and have suffered with depression,anxiety and became an alcoholic which nearly killed me . I also get really irritated by people ..maybe I'm jealous that they seem happy with mundane jobs, boring chit chat and 2 weeks in the sun each year. There must be more to life than that or am I just unlucky (that I haven't found any purpose in life ) Nowadays it's just existing really , worrying about the future and desperately hoping I'll find meaning before the curtains come down to make it all worthwhile .

[@briechilli4496]

Thanks for making this video and for expressing vulnerability, you may feel lonely but you are not alone, many people feel this way. You are a sweet and intelligent person. Keep posting x

[@mariefortin1345]

Keep doing your videos so many can relate. Doing videos take time and effort. It takes courage to share your feelings with the world. I will keep listening to your videos. I feel less alone already.

[@Dave4000]

You are not alone feeling like this. I've noticed that just about everyone I know finds love, gets married etc - and they boast about it on Facebook. But it never happens to me. Been single for years and years. No hope in ever finding "the one", so given up entirely on it. Being single means you got nobody spending your money and nagging you! Here's what I find really works: socialise with people on the autism spectrum cos they're very easy to talk to and reliable. Their conversations *don't* revolve around the usual boring stuff that non-autism people talk about - you know the stuff most people go on about: getting drunk last night, their work life, sport, their dogs, celebrities, reality TV and all that rubbish that's incredibly boring to hear about! Like you, I spend days alone, low mood and anxiety. But making friends with people on the autism spectrum has worked wonders. They don't get drunk, always turn up on time, they don't judge me and we can talk about interesting things in depth and go out places. I'm _not_ saying you're on the spectrum, but see if you can find local autism groups in your area (maybe volunteer once a week?) and at least give it a try; even if you only make one new friend, it's better than zero friends. Good luck. 👍 Btw, before I finish this comment... low vitamin D causes depression. Worth talking a vitamin D supplement with your breakfast everyday between October and May. No need to take them in the summer if you go out in the sun (without getting sunburnt!). They're so cheap to buy and it's safe (take the recommended dose on the label).

[@Txforever1845]

Sometimes I feel alone and helpless the way I grew up never felt worthy of anything or anybody sometimes I do feel like driving far away and just ending it all nobody would care I would be free

[@Thatperson-kt3mu]

Iv just randomly come across your video I think you should go easy on yourself Iv just been listening to you and I really think your outlook on your situation and putting this video out there is commendable. I’m sure you will make friends if you stop judging what people will think of you seriously if you have confidence in yourself no one will look at what car you drive or all that materialistic stuff. At the end of the day people just want a nice chat and we have all been in that situation sometimes saying something daft and then thinking did I really say that but laugh it off try again and most importantly Love yourself and be the average person you are and feel comfortable with it and you will attract positive people. I hope none of what I said offends.

[@lessthanperfectproductions9471]

thankyou man i feel less alone . as i am exactly like this good sir

[@FLAMESNSKULLZGAMING]

I m the same way even tho I have a wife. I have no friends no family either I understand completely understand how u feel. I play video game and make videos too. Most ppl don’t value friendship anymore at all. Being stuck in ur own head is terrible.

[@Vassasu]

It´s scary how we notice more and more people like this. I feel everything you said, very similar position. And its true that we get used to the loneliness, but its sad sometimes because you cant really express yourself and takes things of your chest. ITs good you made this video, we can all listen. Thank you.

[@PGOuma]

You sound very insightful and intelligent--I would be your friend. No one in my area share my particular interests either or lifestyle. Everyone I've known or seen are doing the fast paced, grind, and party lifestyle. I'm veryyy slow paced even when I eat or walk and can't keep up with others. Idk if it's my mental illnesses or personality or both. I feel the same way you do though. Sometimes I feel that others are annoying or quite mean or they find me too intense and/or harsh so they drop me quite fast. For those who stick around, they usually last 2 years and then leave or feel the need to comment unwantedly on how I am so I drop them instead. They try to change me to fit their needs and I stopped people pleasing once I left high school and my abusive relationship and decided to never go back to that mentality. I suggest getting into mbti and enneagram. You'll find people like you. Besides my mental problems, I always thought that it was just me and I'm the only one who goes through this and feel a certain way about life and people but then I found out I was an INFJ after studying mbti and taking it more seriously than back in college and high school (like I knew I was one back then but didn't care but then my interest in mbti came in like 2019 and I've been studying it ever since). Meeting other INFJs online and hearing their experiences or watching videos made me feel less alone and it helped me recognize toxic patterns I was in. It was so refreshing after so many years of feeling misunderstood to be around people who got me! Also with enneagram, I was able to identify where certain needs and motivations came from and that I was being an unhealthy 2. These two things help me want to become a better version of myself and made me feel at least a little bit less lonely. Yes, I still get lonely from time to time because I wished that I had irl friends to talk with and hang out with but at least I feel seen and understood for the first time in my life. And THAT'S a huge step forward for me in the right direction

[@Thankfuleveryday96]

It makes me feel better to know there are some people like me, god bless you, stay strong🙏🙏

[@joelewertow7115]

Exactly

[@mysakos]

Iam 24 and i have 0 friends for 9 years. Its so hard to live, to wake up every morning and force myself to go at least to my part time job or just live. Ive done some therapy and medication but at the end its on you if you have will to deal with it or not. Some people have the will, some not. I just dont know how long i can hold in this situation till my totally life burnout.

[@logangage4]

you should not apologize for not having any advice for others; you are amazing and you are worth more than any materialism and social status; keep your chin up - and DM if you need somebody to talk to

[@vaughanmccarthy6685]

Goodness knows, I’ve felt the same way and could identify with much of what you say at several points in my life. We’re introverts, so it is more difficult for us to connect with people. The one difference between you and I is that I’ve always maintained employment. I’ve never felt any passion for my work, but at least it’s helped me to maintain and even improve my social skills over the long term. It’s also helped me to set and maintain some goals, like buying a house, or travelling. Like you, I’ve always been the quiet one in a group. I’m 46 now and in earlier decades I’d always assumed my thoughts and opinions didn’t carry the weight that other people’s do and so I often feel foolish voicing them. But now I realise that most other people are pretty f’ing stupid anyway, so why should I think that about myself? Give yourself credit. I don’t know how smart you are, but you’re clearly articulate. Now in my mid forties, I’ve decided to get out and start dating and hooking up, after 25 years of believing no one could possibly want me, so why even try? Sound familiar? But last year I realised, if I get to my deathbed and haven’t at least tried to find someone to form a relationship with, it will be my biggest regret and I’ll now never have the chance. The idea of that truly depressed, even frightened me. So as difficult as it was to make myself do it - and it was extremely hard - I just knew I had to. I still haven’t formed a relationship a year later, but I’ve made some good friends out of it and proven to myself that I’m not the social retard I always assumed I was. It’s one less thing to regret now. You’ve only got this one life. You’ve still probably got more than half of it to go. No one is going to start helping you out of this hole you’re in, at least until you make a start to help yourself. Start thinking now about how to avoid any regrets at the end of your life and take some steps forward.

[@kanadchakraborty7434]

I am glad I found this video

[@sylviaplath8818]

I think you're a good person and unfortunately you don't know that you're this type of person. Remember that good people always deserve happiness from life, it's an inevitable thing. I'm your friend anyway, even from far away! I will tell to my friends about you, your beautiful attitude and your relaxing voice! Don't underestimate your beautiful soul and open your eyes, they're covered by a wrong version of the life, there's much more, if you are ready to appreciate the world.

[@sandywhat2429]

I have nobody right now either because I'm sick, at home, can't get around and just too sick to do anything with anyone. I think you can get over these issues, if it's social anxiety and being self-conscious. It's not easy though. The longer you're out of the game its harder, just like dating. I hate how social media has affected everything. It feels really fake. I hate it. I also think you could find a girlfriend too. Many women are looking for just a nice guy, no addictions. I often think women don't require as much as guys think they do. Hugs to you.

[@tessa7778]

Hope you’re doing okay

[@sandywhat2429]

@@tessa7778 me? No still the same trying to get healthcare

[@MelModica]

I grew up in the 80s and 90s and I also struggled with social anxiety but I always had a few good friends. Problem seems to be as we get older we lose touch with friends, people move away, have kids etc so it’s hard to keep in touch with everyone. Also the internet has made it worse because instead of focusing on people you know in person most of us have hundreds or more people on social media. When I was younger I’d say the average person had maybe 5-50 friends, depending on how popular you were but it was manageable to talk to a few people. Having contact with a 100+ people takes so much more time and effort and I notice our real friends can get lost in the mix! I don’t think we will ever go back to the way things were before internet so we have to adapt to different ways to socialize. The easiest way to find friends is join groups with common interests. I talk to people online that share my hobbies and I’ve met a lot of nice people in art and guitar groups. If you struggle with social anxiety remember that no one is perfect and it’s ok that we are not perfect. A huge part of my anxiety was always feeling like I had to be perfect but once I let that shit go my life has improved a lot. Also practice what you will say in social situations. Even sometimes before I text or make a phone call I will practice what I want to say, if you are going out in public think of a few ways to greet people and a few interesting topics you can discuss, most people are into art, music, sports etc and it’s a good way to feel more prepared and less anxious. If you are polite and treat people with respect anyone that is a worth while friend will appreciate you. No one is going to vibe with and get along with everyone. Having one good quality friend is much better than 100 fake friends. I wish you all the best and remember we are not alone, in these current times many people struggle with anxiety but we can find ways to manage it and live a better quality life.

[@cryptotrader2779]

Just came across your channel. I guess the KZbin algorithm knows my mind state right now. Life is hard, and I've been in a long toxic marriage where I never felt so lonely in my entire life, and that was being with someone ! I can tell you that living alone feeling lack of love, is way way better than being in a loveless toxic marriage. Way better. And due to my marriage I lost all my old friends too. I can count my true friends with one finger these days. Years ago I was always out and about having a good time every damn night. Anyway, more videos please. We all want to see more from you. Maybe you can make your YT channel your new purpose in life and help others in the same boat. Hell, plenty of scope for human contact via that if you set up a Facebook group and start chats. I'd join it 100% even though I hate FB. By the way, Social Media is 99.9% fake so forget that right away and stop letting it affect you. Once again - MORE VIDEOS PLEASE. If only to let us know you're OK. Thanks man.

[@Justacupatea]

Just scrolling KZbin feck me I stumbled on you I'm living this now resonates so much... I'm so happy though that your in a better place surrounded with people who make you smile and your found your someone to share your life with happy days for you. BTW just watched bobs birthday at the cove top vlog brilliant x

[@thehermit761]

I have never had a girlfriend in my life

[@tommtommkin]

I find people run away from me, its always been that way. Why are there so many of us why??? We need a club. We need to build each other up. They have therapist but the only reason there are therapist is because the job that a therapist does used to be done by friends but people either forgot how to be friends or are too selfish to be a real friend. Hey if anyone here needs a shoulder or an ear I'm here ok? I'm praying for everyone here. Peace.

[@debbierennox931]

I totally understand you I feel the same being alone all the time having no one social media does make you feel worse but a lot of the stuff you see on social media is exaggerated. Yes we do all need someone to care and look out for us thank you for sharing your honestly and if it makes you feel better there are lots of people like you and me . I see some of your comments people saying go to the pub nooo don’t do that sitting in a pub getting drunk I would rather sit at home with a cup of tea and yes your so right people are all about what you have got and what you drive I have nothing materialistic so another reason no one wants to know me take care you seem a sensible strong person not a drinker or into drugs .

[@williamsdiane1385]

I am 63 female and alone. Have had a few 'close' relationships, never married, no kids, never wanted any. Feel I have nothing in common with people, especially women. I submerged myself in animal rescue, protection, etc many years ago. My male friend/companion who I lived with for 5 years shared a bit of my interest passed away in 2018 and left me so very lonely. I have one brother older than myself who is fighting cancer and I am very active in his life. I have never related to people with kids so that knocks out most of the population, right? So if it wasn't for my animals and helping my brother to be as well as possible, I would have nothing and would care about nothing. I can very much relate to your feelings/emotions and experiences. I retired many years ago and don't have the work relationships either. Don't miss the crap that comes with a job, but sometimes miss the hearing of other's experiences in their lives. There was significant diagnosed depression on my father's side, but we grew up in a stable loving environment. I don't have an answer for you, I'm sorry, but I wanted to let you know that I have the same feelings about life, and I'm willing to bet there are millions of us out there. Doesn't make it any better, but I don't believe this 'feeling' is uncommon. Be well, I hope you find happiness, you are still very young......

[@freekpeet]

Beautiful, honest comment. Hope you're doing well.

[@cezar-antoniocrintea396]

I`m literally just like you. Exactly like you. Everyday I`m thinking that I don`t have nothing to live for. The only thing, THE ONLY THING that keep me from not hanging myself is my dog. The only one, the only thing. IDK is super difficult to live like this. It`s not worth it. Life can only giving me heartache. Nothing more. I`m sorry and I don`t want to bring anybody down, it`s just that you`re not "alone" in this. I know what you`re feeling.

[@cristianm7097]

47, friendless since age 30.

[@bill7853]

I'm sorry I don't know your name but you come across as a good man who many would be grateful to have as their friend. Life is so fast these days and infused with superficiality so making good relationships is hard. I too have a similar problem ..I had numerous friends in the years gone by but they fell away one by one as I didn't follow the career, house , marriage, family path . Instead I travelled and had many adventures like you . I wanted to escape the mundane existence so many appear happy with. I suffered with anxiety for much of my life which lead to depression also and became an alcoholic which nearly killed me. I don't drink now and am married which is a blessing but still often feel lonely as I seem to be wired differently to other folk. Life is an abrasive arena and if you are of a sensitive nature it takes it's toll. I am chronically irritable too and people annoy me ...maybe I am jealous of their ability to find happiness in simple things..something that has eluded me all my life. I am happiest in my hammock in the middle of a wood away from it all. I feel for you and do hope your brave efforts to open up via these videos pays off as so many are in the same situation . I would love to talk to you as we have so much in common . You will know that depression and anxiety makes us isolate ..could you not find a local group where people talk about how they feel and share their vulnerabilities? I prefer to have no friends than many superficial meaningless relationships where people find it easy to let you down. If you would like to chat together, whenever ..no obligation of course ..I don't know if you even read this but send me a message via Facebook / Facebook messenger if you have an account and I'll get back to you as soon as I see the request . The link to my profile is facebook.com/profile.php?id=819797906 I hope to hear from you . May you be happy , may you be well,may you be free from suffering and at peace with yourself and all other sentient beings . ( Old Buddhist saying ) Take care my friend.Bill

[@stanrix]

I basically abandoned all of my friends many years ago because of social anxiety disorder. It was too unbearable and just giving up was the easiest option. Fast forward many years and I have conquered that disorder. I’m even beginning to make friends again at 38…. I’m not qualified to give advice, but therapy really helped me. I hope things have gotten better for you, sir. ❤

[@ratchowmein]

Dude, all people can be annoying. All people. Some can be interesting or pleasant enough to outweigh their annoyance. And if they have a sense of humor and they can laugh if their annoyance is funny, great. But most any person, I can only take for just so long, even my family. I eventually just need to be alone after a while. Unfortunately a lot of people don’t understand that or think it’s fucked up and might feel slighted.

[@tessa7778]

Same

[@JambuNanas-x2q]

There a lot of fake friends out there, they are ready to use u. Your time, your money, your trust everything

[@konfyd110]

I go out of my way to not make friends. I like my personal space and need no distractions. Sometimes I think I am way too comfortable with my own company, but hey, whatever makes my life worth living. I am blessed like that. My solitude and inner peace and freedom is all I need in this life until I die. Life's good, very good.

[@MrLue9]

Having no friends is a superpower. Don't be depressed. Don't focus on things that you can't change even if they are there(your past, no friends, etc). Instead focus on millions other things that you can change.(learn a new skill, meet new people , try new things, etc.)