Look who’s doing better than you

[@artfromalthea]

I just recently deactivated all of my social media accounts (except for KZbin) due to this exact topic. I want to feel proud of my friends, not envious of them.

[@imaraoctavia]

I limit myself on all social media and LinkedIn, because I definitely have felt like everyone is successful and surrounded with love and I’m failing and lonely

[@artfromalthea]

@@imaraoctavia yes, those thoughts are so hard to deal with!! Especially if you also have depression, anxiety, or any other mental health struggles

[@aguy7566]

Ayyy! No socials gang

[@bobbyybobby2630]

me to expect my roblox deepwoken is to important

[@YoyleCakeFactory]

honestly a good idea for everyone atp

[@rafaelgarcia5797]

I really like Uncle Iroh's saying, "Shame is not the opposite of pride, it is its source. True humility is the only antidote to shame." Comparing yourself to other people is an egotistical thing to do; you start to believe that because you are you, you should be doing better, or that things should be doing better for you, but if you understand that life will continue and that one day you will be able be in a better position, you can start to become a better person and thus consequently, have a better life. Chasing the feeling of validation, superiority or hell even happiness is futile. Feelings and emotions come and go, trying to hold on to those emotions and feelings is like trying to catch water by clenching your fists in a flowing river. Life keeps going. It will change. Always.

[@Christan_Revolution]

Uncle Iroh is the most wise cartoon character ever

[@forcetz]

Well said

[@ZaiDrizzleDrop]

DAMN

[@crazycookie4645]

Gotta disagree with you there. Comparing yourself to others is not an inherently egoistical thing to do. More often than not, people compare themselves to others out of anxiety, depression, and being told that they should, not because of personal egotism. They don't think they deserve better because they are them, they think they SHOULD be doing better simply because others are. We've unfortunately built a society that glorifies competition and outdoing everyone around you. This is despite the fact that "doing better" is an incredibly subjective term. So everyone is chasing after a vague goal that can't be properly defined because everyone has a different definition of it. You can be the most humble person ever and still feel like failure who lives a terrible life. Feelings can overlap. It just kinda feels like you're ignoring the source of why people REALLY do this. I also think that detaching yourself from emotions and calling them "futile" isn't a very good or healthy way to live. That sound less like someone who is enlightened and more like someone who walks through life numb; afraid to truly feel anything.

[@highdog943]

@@crazycookie4645 I disagree with some of the ways you interpreted it. I believe that things such as self-doubt and fear are also related to one's ego, not just pride or arrogance. Here's the Oxford definition: "a person's sense of self-esteem or self-importance." Basically your self-esteem or importance could go either way. In your 2nd point, you said you feel like OP is ignoring the reason why people compare themselves; Everyone is competitively chasing a vague goal of success in our competitive society, but because success is subjective someone can still feel like their life is terrible whilst being humble because feelings can overlap. I disagree. Not with your reasoning as to why people compare themselves, but to your claim saying that OP is ignoring that reason. You guys' comments almost seem to agree, OP's comment fully pointed out that competition you spoke on, just from the perspective of a more "arrogant" ego. All OP advocated for was to realize that you won't always be down and out of luck, thus you can stop comparing and subsequently become a better person and have a better life, whatever that means to that person. You said: "They don't think they deserve better because they are them, they think they SHOULD be doing better simply because others are. " That is still competing with people, it's just in the tone of someone who's "losing." If everyone was the same as them, they'd feel no need to compare/compete. Your last point is the one I disagree with the most (respectfully). That is not what I believe OP meant at all. You worded it as the detachment from emotions and calling them futile, OP worded it as the detachment of "CHASING" those emotions because "CHASING" is futile. Happiness and validation come and go no matter what, thus it's futile to try to hold onto those things because they'll come and go anyway with life's changes. There's no numbness or fear to feel anything, it's acceptance. Rather to do the opposite is what I'd call numbness and fear, one holds onto happiness because they're afraid to experience pain.

[@Grapenugget]

"in a competition of someone's strengths vs your weaknesses you will always lose" damn

[@snr9365]

The "green screen on the floor held down with paint cans" is just... very good.

[@Skimmy404]

It’s iconic, imo.

[@dankaroos]

​@@Skimmy404 Yeah, should keep it even if when he gets a bigger budget or moves, it's basically his trademark

[@chriscory2049]

I reread my journal from age 17 recently. What really struck me was how much of it was written in this hyper creative way, attempting to be unique. I wrote a lot about wanting to be unique, and I remember writing certain poems and drawing certain drawings with the sole intention of being special. At age 25, I feel a little silly for all of that, mainly because the greatest joy in my life comes from being....normal. Boring. Average. I'm married to a good man; I draw in my free time; I take classes and eat food and care about my weight. As I got more into my faith, I found that most things I do in my faith have been done for thousands of years. There have been many, many young women my age in my circumstances praying the same prayers, reading the same words, singing the same songs. And that is wonderful; I am connected to them, to these women I don't know. Even when I had my first miscarriage, I felt a certain connection to billions of women throughout the world; we have shared the same sorrow. I know I cared so much about unique when I was younger, but the reasoning for why escapes me now. Being average has been a blast for the last few years; it means that other people can understand me. Being average: 8/10, would recommend.

[@allstones1462]

Damn even 8/10 is an average score (by most people's standards)

[@chriscory2049]

@@allstones1462 Lol!

[@theflyingspaget]

I feel like the song Part of the Madness (from Fionna and Cake) tackles the reverse of this, being dissatisfied with things being normal even though they're technically better. Sometimes it's fun to ride the rollercoaster even if the drops are lower than the highs because people like variety. But a steadier life is probably better in the long run.

[@Feet247]

This is so high quality???? Where are the 1 million subscribers??? KZbin get on this

[@VinluvAntonHandesbukia]

Remember, 1% of 7 billion is 70 million.

[@Skimmy404]

That sounds about right. Most people struggle with comprehending very large numbers. There's no difference between 1 million, 1 billion, or even 1 trillion for the average joe. They are all just BIG NUMBER, we cant distinguish the difference between numbers after they reach a certain point of big, so to speak.

[@VinluvAntonHandesbukia]

@@Skimmy404 yep 1% is tiny but one percent of an elephant weighs more than 1% of an ant. Steel is heavier than feathers.

[@Alexander_Grant]

@@VinluvAntonHandesbukia Always remember that 1 pound of steel is heavier than 1 pound of feathers.

[@VinluvAntonHandesbukia]

@@Alexander_Grant that is correct

[@h0110wkn1ght-y]

​@@Alexander_Grant wait... no it's not they both weigh a pound, my brain is not braining😨

[@carla9368]

I love how he can turn things that we don't wanna think about into funny videos, this is compensating the therapy thanks.

[@nostalgia_junkie]

chuckled out loud at that thumbnail/title combo

[@theeggineer]

i would be surprised if someone was jealous of how i live... and wonder why the hell they're jealous of me of all people

[@Praveen-meets-Youtube]

on paper someone might be doing better than you but you could very well have or do something they want for themselves. envy is a tricky emotion to spot in other people because we don't even admit it to ourselves when we're envious.

[@nokuno]

This is literally what the book “The Courage to be Disliked” talks about heavily. Like wow. Great video 🧡🥹

[@user-mu1ud3sd4g]

"she's a good friend and i'm glad shes in my life >:( >:( >:( >:("

[@86fifty]

12:00 - this bit actually helped me feel a bit better about my disability - I can't move as fast or as far as I used to, I can't drive a car, and I can't do a full-time job... But it's also not impossible for me to imagine someone jealous of me! I can sing, I can write, I can make people laugh, I'm really organized. Sure, I felt a little flattered that somebody would be jealous of ME with all MY struggling, but after a second, I felt kinda sad for them! Like, dude, it's just one skill, no big deal! And that turned my thinking around. That they might say that TO ME about their walking and running ability! "dude? Yeah, sure, I can RUN faster than you, but I'm tone-deaf! You can SING!" It just throws into sharp relief how value-neutral all the qualities we COMPARE are. I can dance, someone else can play piano. I can cook, someone else can ride a horse. I can stay organized, someone else can read Sanskrit. Like, there's no quantity on any of these things!

[@mysticalnomad6786]

You're editing is amazing. Your topics are engaging and you're answers to the problems you address are very thought out and helpful. Really hoping you continue posting and growing

[@AlexisChoquette]

I agree ☝️ be happy with yourself 😊❤because we alter all different

[@Peekoo3]

7:00 Fun fact: dear dumb diary actually explored thsi concept... With a character called Angeline. (When i was younger, I thought she was portayed as the classic mean blonde girl, bur rereading it, she was actually super nice, its just that the main character was jealous.)

[@stardust464]

Omg I loved dear dumb diary as a kid! And you’re right lol perfect example

[@quetzol2006]

I am praying on your success 🙏 I believe that what you share is a genuinely positive influence, and that's quite the opposite of most media. Keep being down to earth, may your messages reach the world 🌎

[@isishanford5437]

My best friend makes me envious because she's always travelling, to each corner of the country with different friends every week. And yet she also often says that she feels bad about herself for not being productive, struggling with her studies, etc. I think with her example, I perfectly see how people being happy on social media doesn't reflect how they feel about themselves... also, I feel like when I'm feeling truly happy I don't need to post it - I don't even think of Instagram. Yes I may do a small story later to remember this moment, but not vlogging or anything because at those moments I don't need other's approval to feel happy. (not saying vlogging is bad, but saying that some people can do it for bad reasons - and I've done it too at one point, when my everyday life felt boring, I wanted to romanticize it a little bit. It's okay, but happiness definitely doesn't equal lot of happy posting on social media)

[@QTLouie]

I think alot of the comparisons boil down to “Oh she has her sh*t together because she has a functional supportive family who had more wealth”

[@lonidiscovery]

this is so real

[@kevincika]

And there’s this dilemma of believing or not what you see on social media as well. For example, you know that not everything people post on social media is real. But you think like : Why they would lie about their lives ? They have to be really insecure to do so. Which is actually the answer of the question you asked on your mind. This mindset helped me to stop comparing myself with the others. Because in a world when there so much “fakeness” and people craving for attention, only self realisation is what you need to be happy. I feel proud of myself i’ve never fallen into this trap of posting fake stuff just for attention. Even if my ig feed was plain boring and dry. Btw, i love your channel and you’re so relatable

[@joshthefantasydude9254]

Honestly I think the onions to oranges comparison works better than the apples to oranges one. Apples and oranges are both fruit, they're both sweet, they're both hydrating, they're both used in the same types of food. They're too similar; I feel like I _can_ compare the two. Onions and oranges feel completely incomparable to each other.

[@duncanleonard6266]

You have good camera presence, witty writing, and good editing. Mark my words, you sir, are going to make it!

[@thenewsilverwolf]

Please never stop making these videos. You are the inner voice I've always needed. Thanks bud

[@dalenel8268]

hey no joke, this turned my mindset way the hell around, thanks man

[@bellasbasebangs]

How does this man NOT have more than 10k subs -- he's litteraly such a good speaker, so creative and yaps a lot (good thing)

[@mertholomy8414]

Fr 🙂‍↔️

[@1jessicaburrows]

comparison of social media 0:35 is this making you happy 9:50 the part of the video where we feel better about ourselves 13:57

[@saintpebble]

the swimming analogy was good script writing! went back and re listened to it a few times, honestly

[@lemonlordminecraft]

Yea, I remember Amanda is the Worst, the Nickelodeon show from the mid-2000s. Shame it got cancelled mid-season after it came out that Dan Schneider had broken into the studio and eaten 2 of the PAs.

[@themockalove]

As long as no weird stuff comes out later (eg Cody Ko 😅), this man is destined for KZbin greatness 👏 keep doing what you're doing.

[@user-np8xh8hb1o]

Wait what did Cody ko do?

[@bigolnoob5491]

This video is perfect. A lot of artists I meet need this. I found a gold mine. *Now I can share this to other people and gain attention by accepting this video and feel so good about it because I'm soooo aware :D* Because I JUST watched it ;D I have this issue with an artist I look up to and *ACTIVELY* improve and absorb this person's artstyle, and even give this person advice, and her art is legit Picasso of hyperpop. and is my age.., I already have this thought with extended torment, and I finally discover this again, amen to this video. I am yet to get to my hopes and dreams and not precisely my validations 💥

[@littleredrose-f2g]

I do a sport in which I am much worse than everyone else my age. I'm not self-loathing over it, just acknowledging a fact. but these people that are better than me at it have TOLD ME they are jealous because it seems I don't have to do more difficult stuff. But their easy is my difficult. I am proud of myself though, not for my skill level, but for my ability to KEEP GOING at it anyways. I'm way below average at the sport, but I make light and have managed to get rid of that pressing feeling of embarrassment. I feel that's the most important skill here, to know that being bad at something and keep going is a HARD thing in and of itself, and to respect yourself (and others) for that.

[@rem-05]

You make videos about concepts that i and the imaginary characters in my head ponder and talk about for hours. Its very entertaining to see actual people who do (basically) the same :) just in front of a camera instead.

[@libritoabierto]

THIS IS LITERALLY THE BEST THERAPY VIDEO I HAVE EVER SEEN IN MY ENTIRE LIFE. WWWWWWAAAAAAU!!!! 🎀🎀🎀💘💘💘

[@ddangerous]

Literally! I feel like my envy for anybody are now gone

[@anthonyernst999]

Im now jealous of the lavish couch you have, and now I'm even more sad. Thank man 👍

[@banquetoftheleviathan1404]

Weird, I found the more depressing aspect of social media to be seeing people struggle and need help.

[@SweetWitchNerd]

As an Amanda myself I can guarantee you, we do not have our shit together either

[@SomeguyonyoutubeV2]

2:02 mrbeast reference

[@TwinFlameGaming1]

FIRST OF ALL!! That was indeed good. 😂 Definitely following after watching a few of your videos and see that they are all good.

[@datmofodat]

I just love how you are agressively passionate about metaphors and analogys, my bro

[@MisterM4n]

I love how blatant your thumbnails are with the smile, it gives me a good chuckle

[@Void_Suzerain]

As Amanda, of course it looks that way from the outside. Internal struggles can't be seen easily, and ironiclly enough, when people see I'm not perfect, and I have tough struggles they... don't like it lol. Maybe its cuz i pick myself up and carry on, or maybe its because they dont like knowing that Amanda isnt perfect so suddenly that negative feedback loop of "motivation for perfection" goes away for them. It's a tough situation to be in. The best solution is to try to remember no one is perfect despite how it looks, and we all have issues.

[@akaithecreator7448]

The swimming analogy was indeed good.

[@RubyXIII]

it literally took me less than a minute to see a dude with a garage full of the cars i want i was shocked how fast it took

[@Fruitsnackthief]

onion individuals >>> apple individuals

[@worm2976]

Don't lie to me Fruit Snack Thief

[@carltheporcupine]

swim line went hard

[@LightnessJack]

Your videos are a mix of comedy and deep thoughts, I love it

[@naomi8380]

off topic, but i love your videos!!! your style of commentary has me bingeing your content lol. i hope ur channel blows up!

[@kiwiabcdefghijklmnopqrstuvw]

19:22 … we love you David

[@Iliadic]

"Don't work hard, that's a good thing to do." - David Achu, July 15, 2024.

[@spencerreed744]

Hell yeah dude I love the swimming analogy, satisfying transition

[@miigirii1598]

most slept on KZbinr- just found ur videos-binging all of them👏bec they are all bangers

[@turtle4llama]

I feel extremely concern for the person that looks up to me. They need professional help in every aspect of their life.

[@alexanderbernhardt3625]

Love your Style of Video creating 😁

I don’t like it when people envy me for my lifestyle, which I get lots of compliments for. I feel unease coz I like when they feel good about themselves. But bro I know what you mean and I been there as well and thank you for your awesome video I just realized that know.

[@Hellojenii]

I really liked the swimming analogy lol so yes you're script writing is on point

[@KNEEHITV]

😂I had just watched your last video love the work keep it up

[@RM-yw6xe]

You are a very good script writer

[@phoenix6056]

Dudes youtube channel is like a William Haynes at home, just subbed 👍

[@lyssa4095]

14:00 , I subscribed after the swimming analogy, that was clever as hell.

[@russianbot8576]

i'm autistic. the idea of someone envying me made me anxious. it implies that person has some idea of me, which i cannot control, that puts me on some lofty ideal, which i did not ask for. they are, in other words, perceiving and noticing me way too much for my comfort. on one hand, it means they are envious of an image they essentially made up and this is not what bothers me. otoh, it means they see me as that image, and it is solidifying or solid and rigid. i think when we have these ideas of people that are rigid enough to idealise and envy, we stop seeing their autonomy and capability to grow and change, we start objectifying them (they become 'side character' status to your 'main character plot'). so when they deviate, we irrationally hold it against them, because most people dislike change or feeling like this person they 'know' and 'trust that they know' is now doing something that contradicts that image or is unexpected compared to that image. and that creates a hostility in itself. for me, as an autistic, there is the added layer of 'well, what the hell is it they think i am, what should i perform as?' because socialising/communication is hard for us, we put on social masking for non-autistic people to even be willing to interact with us, so like, what part of that mask struck out well enough to go from 'kinda odd, kinda off' to being seen as intrinsic to me and whatever image they envy? i do not relate to main character framing of life. it always freaks me out that people exist like that tbh. i don't want to be a main character. everyone is looking and thinking about them. gross. absolutely not. shit is hard enough without that. i would rather not imagine someone envies me. _shiver_ i have plenty of self-esteem and shit i am fine enough at. i just want that envious person to... go away now, please. go away and do not talk to me.

[@worm2976]

I'm not autistic, but I am depressed, anxious, and very untrusting of people. Only replying to say that I relate so strongly to your points about being "perceived" at a pedestal higher than what is real.....and my absolute certainty that they'll dislike my real self and get upset when I stop performing whatever it is they're seeing me perform. Most of what people seem to admire in me is just....false. It's me using humour to cope. It's not patience, it's apathy born of depression. It's not that I'm good at handling things going wrong, it's that I'm always scared and expecting things to go wrong, so when they do go wrong I can say 'ahh yes, just as I expected' and keep moving. I'm not "always cheerful", I'm just always masking around other people except I've been doing it so long that it's become automatic. I...just nice to see you explain it in words so well. I don't know how to get around this, and looks like you don't either. I hope we both find a more peaceful way to live someday.

[@hannahpipo7584]

You literally posted this yesterday and i already watched it three times love the content!! your video essays are super entertaining and straightforward

[@PanchoXXL]

new favorite channel

[@Itsobviouslylizzie]

I’m OBSESSED!!! Your channel is so good 😇😇

[@Chessmate1234]

Thanks bro.. i always use onion and orange example.😅😅😅

[@moono5027]

14:02 you definitly are getting better that was fire

[@Si_Mion]

I love you so much. I don’t always comment but your my new favorite friend on the internet ❤❤

[@CatLovesSoup]

The exact reason i dont use any social media other than youtube really, i have a twitter but dont really use it, the most i feel worse abt my art but yeaa

[@akimbo_K9]

BRO I LOVE YOUR THUMBNAILS

[@ramuk1933]

I'm not average. I'm not autistic (+ADHD DLC) and constantly philosophise on random nonsense and get 5s on Ap calculus exams without studying. Checkmate! I mean, sure, I can't recognize faces, but their voice is good enough. Yeah, I hate tags. They're scratchy and itchy and I hate them! Sure, it's hard for me to converse and make friends with those neurotypicals, but other autists tend to make for deeper conversation. My point is, maybe being good at one thing necessitates being bad at something else. I will be better than a neurotypical at doing something I devote large amounts of time and energy towards, but I will be worse at something I don't do much of than a neurotypical.

[@MadisonNiederer]

This guy makes something that sounds boring, seem interesting. This dude seriously has magic ability in his throat.

[@kurarieshiiunanaliakaira1985]

im so happy i found your channel bro more power to you

[@kono152]

The thing I usually tell myself when I find myself comparing myself to someone else is that ultimately, comparing one's "value" (whatever that might mean) with someone else's value is intrinsically, for lack of a better term, a fallacy, since each human being is unique from one another, how can we begin to compare ourselves? We all have our faults and our qualities, and those are what make us us.

[@rosary6521]

Onion does become sweet when you caramelize it. Idk how that applies to the metaphor either...cook yourself on low flame ig?

[@eterty8335]

I got your more recent video about oversharing on social media recommended to me and it came off as too harsh and flashy for my liking, but I still watched it to the end cause it was kind off entertaining Somehow this one resonated with me from the very beginning, even though I don't even use social media at all lol also yes the swimming analogy was pretty good

[@FwSantanuh]

im not like other girls.. because i am a guy.

[@TheRetroFanatic]

I haven't achieved all the things I thought I would in my life. But the smart, athlete, nice and popular dude in school is only a car salesman. Some days that shit is keeping me alive. 😅

[@smritighimire8524]

yes the swimming analogy Was very good, very nice scriptwriting

[@damnedifidonut]

12:32 sleeping and watching KZbin 😌 👏

[@NicholasCosse]

This video deserves way more attention!! Maybe a title change would increase its viability

[@bosmicc]

Btw, I LOVED the learning to swim comment lol

[@dankaroos]

Onions to Oranges would be a sick band name

[@noltica1863]

The thumbnail alone warrants a sub lmfao

[@GIADALAZ]

I love these videos dude

[@krolowahejterow8965]

My friend what's with that hole in your wall

[@seeblu]

I love your content and channel

[@cyntiaoliveira8076]

WHAT HAPPENED TO YOUR WALLLLL?! 😭😭😭🤣

[@Koy4v]

I love your chanel man

[@stephenweigel]

Unapologetically Kierkegaard coded

[@epichickensoup]

THE ONIONS CAUGHT ME OFF GAURD 🤣🤣

[@Laleeeeeee271]

Bro your videos are great. The editing: I LOVE

[@lolololol7573]

This format is like a podcast but not really, you know? I mean sure you're alone and not talking to anybody but it works haha.

[@Skeptical_Nerd]

0:00 W beat

[@zekiz774]

6:59 That’s actually pretty similar to Joan Is Awful, a Black Mirror episode that is about an in-universe series with the same name

[@cjgilmore283]

This helped me a lot

[@Nameless.11]

I Like how the title and thumb nail aren't separate they complete a sentence what I mean is Title: who is doing better than you Thumbnail: EVERYONE

[@izaylalykan3646]

why the fuck is nobody talking about the extravagant fucking background hes reporting in?? where does this guy live?! i like love it but shit WHY IS NOBODY ACKNOWLEDGING THE DESIGN??? HELLO?!

[@username_ee]

You're mad underrated

[@noeauxokay]

What a title & thumbnail

[@undeadgator]

i love your videos so much pls dont die

[@lemonjuice.]

this is what these self-worth classes they give at school should be like. not soulless, cheap, "your life matters" crap. your life will suck, everyone's life sucks in some way. it's unavoidable and you need to stop trying prevent it, and adapt and make your way around it.

[@e11anora]

Thank you for this video. I related too hard, as with all your videos