How We Raised Our Children

[@daniellebattisti3483]

Thank you so much Lori. I wish I could go back in time and do things over. I wasn't raised in a Christian household so I have to rely on God's mercy and grace. I had no self- control or very little. That's so important. My mom did her best with what she knew. Anyway, I was a single parent to 3 children as a result. No father influence. I had three prodigals now 2. My oldest died in a tragic accident. My daughter is living with another woman and my son lives with his girlfriend and they have 2 children who I love dearly. I've had such heartbreaks as a result of living outside of Gods will. God in His grace blesses me but there is that heartache. Can you expand on the shyness aspect? I never heard it put that way, that it is about self. That is very interesting. I never taught my children to be shy but I have struggled with it. Not as much today but I have a hard time being in crowds. Thank you for this!

[@LoriAlexander1980]

The two greatest commands are to love God and love others. This means we must discipline ourselves to be kind and loving towards others. When we are shy, we are only thinking about ourselves. In order to make friends, we must be friendly. It’s important to teach our children to not be shy but to love others.

[@growinggracehomeschool]

I'm so grateful for you teaching about this in great detail. I was not raised this way and my young children are unruly. I'm looking forward to taking control.

[@Girlgonewise]

My rule of thumb is…do not allow your children to do anything that will not be acceptable when they are older. I don’t allowed my littles to do anything that will bring me or them shame in the future. Disrespectful children are not cute at any age. I also let them know and understand that they are honouring God in their obedience to us.

[@mysonruns]

I really enjoyed this! Thank You for sharing how you raised your children!

[@dawnl.2513]

Thank you Lori for your faithfulness in teaching the younger! This is such wise, biblical advice that truly works. We have trained our children with these same methods. It makes parenting so much more enjoyable when you have obedient, respectful children. God bless you in your ministry!

[@Jacquelyn11]

Thank you for this video! So much encouragement in these years with little children.

[@vanessap7209]

Blessings to you Lori! This is an excellent video. Thank you for sharing. I always wanted to be a wife and mother. I am a wife and have no children, only stepchildren who are grown. Your sharing of training and raising your children blessed me immensely. God bless and keep you and your family♥️Thank you for blessing me today🌻

[@haleyturner8186]

Thank you for sharing Mrs. Alexander! I'd love to hear more about how you sleep trained your babies. I currently have a 6 week old baby who I co sleep with. Also, I feel engorged going 5 hours at night between feedings, do you know if this will this subside if I keep going 5 hours at night? Thank you!

[@LoriAlexander1980]

Moms on Call and Taking Cara Babies come highly recommended!

[@amangoinghisownway5839]

Many blessings for you and your family Lori 🙏

[@kaitlinpatti9738]

Thank you for your advice! Question for you, If your kids were starting grade school today, would you have them in public school or would you homeschool?

[@LoriAlexander1980]

Homeschool them 100 percent. There’s no way godless indoctrination institutions would be teaching my children.

[@sambailie4773]

This sounds like something the Pearls would say but I do respect a lot of what you say. I was raised to be kind and respect people and I'm always grateful for that... I would get a smack on the bum if I was naughty lol. I'm glad of that. Manners are very beautiful in children and adults. BTW, the word 'fanny' is a sexual dirty word in Ireland and the UK just in case any of your listeners are offended by that. X

[@LoriAlexander1980]

I love the Pearls’ teachings! Yes, I knew about fanny. In America, it means the behind! I forgot about that when I made the video.

[@Elenecarm76]

What are your thoughts on the gentle parenting movement (no time outs, not spanking, etc)?

[@LoriAlexander1980]

It makes parenting extremely difficult and most of them are sadly raising rebellious children who have no respect for authority.

[@preppermint]

What to do with teens... I came full hearted to God 4 years ago... LOTS of work to do... anything helps... thanks in advance ☺

[@LoriAlexander1980]

Try to figure out lies they are believing and help them replace those lies with truth. The only thing you can work with at this point are their thoughts. Pray!

[@sallysmolich5822]

Find a good family therapist

[@victorianouv4365]

Thank you 🙏🏽

[@skyek.1787]

Lori, I am pregnant with my first child and am wondering whether this method has resulted in each of your children staying in the church to this day?

[@LoriAlexander1980]

Congratulations!!! Yes, my children all walk in Truth and love the Lord Jesus Christ. We are close to all of our children and see them often. It's a blessing to have godly offspring. There is NO greater joy!

[@sambailie4773]

@@LoriAlexander1980 I'm so glad to hear that Lori xx

[@sarahd8292]

My 2 year old refuses to eat what I make, how do I teach him to stop being picky?

[@TheReallDonaldTrump]

Eat it or go hungry is what my mom would say.🤷 He wont let himself starve, so I wouldn't worry about it. He'll eat it once he gets hungry enough.

[@LoriAlexander1980]

Yeah, we left the food on the plate. They would eventually eat it. I was intentional about training them to not be picky eaters.

[@goodfood308]

@@TheReallDonaldTrump maybe for a 5+ year old but i honestly dont think a 2 year old has the mental capacity for the ‘eat it or go hungry’ approach to be useful.

[@TheReallDonaldTrump]

@@goodfood308 Thats all part of the training. You make them get used to it so by the time they are 5 you wont even have that problem.

[@holzmann-]

So you are a grandmother now?

[@LoriAlexander1980]

Yes! I have 15 grandchildren so far!

[@KuTEkOOlKaT09]

My husband doesn't believe in spanking and will not allow many of these methods to be used. What do I do? I'm tired of feeling helpless because my children (4, 2, and 3 months) will not listen to me 😭😭😭

[@livingunashamed4869]

Follow your husband, its much better for your kids to see a healthy marriage than to differ in punishment methods.

[@LoriAlexander1980]

You can raise good children without spanking. It’s just a lot harder and takes far more time. The key is to be consistent and firm.

[@holzmann-]

@@LoriAlexander1980 Yeah, hence why I would involve spanking.

[@LBelieveinJesus]

Yep I hear you 😊 I have 3 also around that age and it's not always the best approach when you have other stuff going on. My eldest has autism and some sensory issues so he doesn't feel things the same way you or I might. We have to discipline using time out and sitting on the step. That works here though because he's also afraid of missing out on stuff so the minute he's good again and listening it's back to fun with Legos. If your husband has the whole day with the kids his views might change but yeah you gotta respect that. Maybe he has a negative childhood experience or it makes him cringe in some way. I'm all for use what works when it works but the most important thing is your relationship and how you guys show you're one body.

[@nat4465]

I was a child that was spanked by my mother (as an older child, not very effective by that time I think), my dad was against it (he only “lost it “ on me like two or three times when it was too late and I was in my teens and I don’t consider that to be the biblical discipline) And I witnessed them being at odds with each other. She was disrespectful to my dad in other ways and i didn’t learn to be respectful to my parents instruction. I was very rude to them. I think Lori and the first commentators advice was very sound. (1 Peter 3-perhaps as you wait on the Lord and gentle and quiet spirit being obedient to your husband, he can have a change of heart) as a child I think I would have benefited more from having a godly order in the home, witness my mom being obedient to my dad and respectful to him. Maybe the Lord can give you wisdom how to bring it up in a way that is still love and respect to your husband. But yea please continue in subjection to your husband, wait on the Lord. I’m sure the Lord will come through for you and your family. (Even as Sarah obeyed Abraham and God came through for her and everyone involved)

[@madelineaguilar302]

Yet notice how all of them are abled bodied?

[@eatallnowsavenone4later342]

Sound like good parenting to me.😊