Losing my Mom in my teens | The impact on friendship, family and starting again

Hi Fam! With loss being a consistent reality during this time, I felt that it was time to share my "untold story" about losing my Mom during my teens, and the impact this had on my life.
**Watch till the end for a message to my husband.
Don't forget to subscribe, like, share and comment. Thanks for the support and love, we truly appreciate it! Keep safe #Grief #Healing #VulnerabilityIsStrength

[@katlegomnguni9397]

Mma Mokale you have a beautiful smile😍😍😍

[@lebohangmoshapo1205]

This triggered so much emotions in me

[@lebohangmoshapo1205]

I lost my mom when I was 6 and lost my dad last year when I was in matric. It hasn't been an easy journey but the Grace has covered me. It still hurts but with time it does get better. The biggest thing I have learned is that healing is a journey it will take time.

[@journeywiththemokales290]

Sorry about your loss Lebohang *sigh* I pray that God may be with you in this healing journey. And yes, one day at a time.

[@Msibi25]

I lost my dad a year ago. The anger within me is unexplainable and I do not know what to do about it. 😭😭😭😭😭😭 Thank you for sharing your story. ❤️

[@journeywiththemokales290]

*sigh* I'm so sorry Tholoana, I'm here if you want to talk. It's ok to be angry and go through it. Don't for one chance feel like you being annoying talking about it, the more you say it the easier it gets. The one thing my friends allowed me to do was to tell my story as much as possible. Whoever is there and willing to hear you out, share and get right with yourself.

[@KatlegoEvelynXaba]

Thank you for sharing this with us ❤❤

[@journeywiththemokales290]

It's a pleasure my Katli

[@keitumetsemoeletsi6382]

"I honestly feel like the world is ending".....this is such a real n heavy emotion to go through..exept the world isn't really ending...

[@journeywiththemokales290]

The world feels heavy at that time and it takes time to get to that healing place and start healing. The trick is actually going through everything and not overwhelming yourself to get to a good place quick.

[@keitumetsemoeletsi6382]

💗💗💗💗thanks hey...and Soooo true

[@veramokolokolo1012]

🥺❤ You are Wonderful...

[@journeywiththemokales290]

Thanks so much Vera :)

[@sibongilebulwane3635]

Thank you for sharing♥️

[@shorti2370]

I avoid watching this video since the day it was uploaded cause I knew how much it would trigger me. I lost memo in 2008 and I still haven't healed. I love how emotionally calm you are I would've burst into tears cause I haven't really dealt with her passing and I don't think I ever will.Losing a mom definitely reveals your extended family's real characters,unfortunately that has scarred me for life and I only engage with a few family members.My biggest fear now is dying while and leaving my daughter in this cruel world😭I pray everyday for God to keep me until she has kids atleast.There is nothing more painful then losing a mom😭😭

[@journeywiththemokales290]

God gives us healing my love, He does and in time you will pull through. The minute you do, the anxiousness and thoughts of your own passing will go away so you focus on today and making it through the day. I pray for you and with you. Loss is painful and we struggle so much with it but we gain another angel that will watch over us.

[@khensilegomba5593]

Thank you for sharing your story Tinyiko, I lost my mom when I was 9 and I never knew my dad, what a whirlwind my life has been. I remember experiencing that hole you refer to in the video, I thank God that He has never left my side cause only He knows how I have made it thus far....

[@journeywiththemokales290]

Glory to Jesus, I honestly don't know how I could exist without God. His love is unfailing.

[@ducymoshitoa645]

💕💕

[@journeywiththemokales290]

Hugs and Kisses

[@tshegofatsomodise8798]

shu.... you know how much I appreciate you...

[@journeywiththemokales290]

Aaah I love and appreciate you too Tshego!

[@baatile_20]

I was telling my friend kere God knew why I had to loose my mother at such a young age. He knew very well. And it's only years later when it all makes sense. I was very angry Omg only God pulled me out of that hole. And with that said we able to encourage others and be there for them. Yes, our experiences won't be the same but we can understand. Sending you a big hug, you strong and brave and someone is getting comforted by your story. ❤️❤️

[@journeywiththemokales290]

Thanks my Ati, you too are doing so well! Mama Milly is incredibly proud of you

[@thabisilemaseko1754]

Love and light to you. ❤

[@journeywiththemokales290]

Thanks Thabisele :) God bless you

[@lady_lebz3869]

please don't apologise for crying. at that age we/I did not know how to be there for you during that difficult time (lacked the emotional maturity). your mom was so beautiful and welcoming it was hard to see you hurt, you did what you could at the time so don't regret anything. everyone Grieve's differently. ❤️❤️❤️

[@journeywiththemokales290]

Aaah Mummy, ho lokile watseba. We were all so young and didn't know anything at that age. She was a blessing to everyone she came across, we truly thank God for her life and her teachings.

[@mulisaratshivhombela8572]

Thank you so much for sharing, I can relate I lost my mom in my third year of varsity ❤️🤗. I thought life was over and not worth living but that’s when I started to draw so so much close to God and find myself. I also invested in godly friendships. And I thank God that he kept me and helped me through my healing process though it was not easy.

[@journeywiththemokales290]

Glory to God, we thank for being with you during that difficult time.

[@phindilenkosi5742]

Thank you for opening up and sharing❤️. I am crying right now😢. So much wisdom.... Love and light to your whole family 🥀

[@journeywiththemokales290]

God bless you Phindile, thanks for the love. Also, my Mom's name was Phindile :)

[@phindilenkosi5742]

@@journeywiththemokales290 I love it. I can tell she was a gem

[@mozzy2313]

Love & light to you, your heart, your family, your friendships, kea leboha ausi 🕯❤

[@journeywiththemokales290]

Thanks my love

[@naomilehlogonolo3437]

“A Wisdom Of A Mom”🥺👏🏾

[@journeywiththemokales290]

Nothing can compare. Teachings remain with us and we know what to do now as Moms

[@refilwesehlake]

Thank you for sharing with us.. Your mom is proud of you without a doubt, you've grown to be an amazing human💐

[@journeywiththemokales290]

Aaah thank you Refilwe, I appreciate this.

[@lebzi_enhlemadi9647]

Thank you for sharing this Tinyiko♥️. I lost my mom when I was 12 honestly think God knew why he had to take her away from me at that age, I honestly don’t think I could handle it rn at this age shuuu.

[@journeywiththemokales290]

I know what you mean, all things work together Ngwaneso and God knows what we need, can endure and cannot. May He continue to cover you in your journey.

[@katlegomnguni9397]

Really wish you could do a talk with teenagers who are going through this. I just shared your video now with my cousin's daughter. My cousin passed on 13 February 2021 and it was all so sudden. Her daughter is currently in Grade 8 (14 years old). And i would love for her to learn from your video. Kea leboga Mma Mokale

[@journeywiththemokales290]

Thanks so much Katlego, the fact that you shared this with her is enough. My door is always open for the young ones because they hold a special place in my heart. It's really my pleasure, stay as close to her as you can. She might look ok, but she will need you for the rest of her life.

[@Tshedza623]

I'm not ready to watch this but we like the video still because my favs always deliver

[@journeywiththemokales290]

We appreciate you so much!

[@bonolomoleli5281]

Just got time to watch this Madaaa🥲❤ thank you so much for sharing your story aus'Tinyiko❤❤

[@journeywiththemokales290]

It's a pleasure my angel :)

[@sheilamafale9502]

I have been watching without subscribing but today I finally clicked 😇. I love your content guys 👌.

[@journeywiththemokales290]

Thanks so much Mafale, welcome to the family!

[@LifeWithTheGlovers]

Thank you for sharing!!!🙏🏾 God you bless!!!!

[@journeywiththemokales290]

Thanks so much Glovers, we appreciate the love always!

[@LifeWithTheGlovers]

@@journeywiththemokales290 ☺️☺️

[@Ngwavie]

Thank you so much for sharing this with us ❤️❤️

[@journeywiththemokales290]

It's a pleasure Lilly :)

[@kholomogadime8299]

Thank you for sharing this.. Loosing a mum it's hard hey I knw the pain to deep but God is always there to hold us.

[@journeywiththemokales290]

Amen!!! "God is always there to hold us" No other truth

[@paleemodisane7323]

I forget what a great story teller you are…😊❤️ thank you for sharing Sis, still have so many videos to watch and will definitely watch every single one of them!! 🙌🏽❤️

[@journeywiththemokales290]

Thanks Ngwaneso, lol. No pressure at all :)

[@nolizwilanga]

Thank you for sharing sis. I can relate and through you-I have hope that I will see the light, having lost my mom five months ago today. May God continue to use you for His glory.

[@journeywiththemokales290]

I'm so sorry Nolizwi for your loss *sigh*. I pray that God will cover you with His love during this difficult time. May this healing journey birth blessings that you need in your life as well.

[@ongezwadlulane2866]

I'm so sorry you had to go through that. I can relate I also lost my mom when I was a teenager.

[@journeywiththemokales290]

So sorry about your loss Ongezwa. We thank God for keeping us and show us He loves us, through it ALL!

[@zandilemakhubalo4177]

I think this was so comforting on so many levels, it really feels like there's someone out there who truly gets it. I lost my dad when I was doing my first year (2016)and I was just as angry. Someone also mentioned that it's time to get to know God on a different level-to allow him to be everything my dad was to me, it's NOT easy but I think I get it. Thank you so much for sharing ❤️

[@journeywiththemokales290]

Aaah man! The wisdom here, but let God lead your healing journey. It's a new journey of discovering who God really is in your life.

[@tovhowanimutshinyali850]

Thank you for sharing your story I can relate ♥️.I lost my Mom 4 years back when I was 6 months pregnant...♥️🙌and the grieving process was not easy at all🤞

[@journeywiththemokales290]

Shuuuu my heart :( I cannot imagine the pain. We thank God that you are here to tell the story. May God continue to bless you.

[@tovhowanimutshinyali850]

@@journeywiththemokales290 Amen..🙏.

[@OurFamAndMoney]

Oh thank you for sharing. I can only imagine how hard that period was for you and your family. Looking back and thinking of you during our matric year...you were "ok", given the circumstances. We thank the Lord for enveloping you and your family during that trying time. Modimo a bane le lona always and forever. You have an eternal angel looking over you ausi.

[@journeywiththemokales290]

Aaah thanks so much Georgina! Truly appreciate this, to think our Matric year is 16 years ago is bizarre, lol. We are forever young.

[@MrsMphoNgwenya]

Thank you for sharing your heart with us. I know it’s never easy sharing about loss. We appreciate you Mrs M🤗🤗🤗

[@journeywiththemokales290]

Thanks so much Mommy, I appreciate your consistent love!

[@tsakanimathye3376]

Oh Nyiko, been putting off watching this episode. Sending you and the family lots of love. Prayers to all who have lost a parent(s)🙏 ❤

[@journeywiththemokales290]

Thanks for your heart Tsakani, God bless you!

[@tsakanimathye3376]

@@journeywiththemokales290 ❤❤❤

[@lebohangmoshapo1205]

I'm still angry but I'm getting better.

[@Busiesholo]

Thank you for sharing your story. I am so sorry that you had to go through that. Your Mom was a wise woman ✨

[@journeywiththemokales290]

Thanks Busie :) God's will is painful but in hindsight, it's exactly what we need. Her wisdom remains in my heart forever

[@sheronndlovu2372]

Took this morning to just binge and I did not think I'd find myself so deep in my feels. Nothing can ever prepare one for the loss of a mother and when I look back, so much of what you have shared here makes so much sense. Even though lenna ntse ke mo llela almost 14 years later, I agree that the timing was right because now it would be so much worse and I probably would not be where I am right now if I was still under my mother's skirt or hothwe attached to her apron strings... hona moo. . I am truly sorry for your loss and thank you for sharing this with us 💐

[@Tiisetso_Kgomo]

Thank you for sharing sis! Thank you for letting us into your most vulnerable space. I could relate so much to this ...especially the loss of friendships part!

[@journeywiththemokales290]

Only a pleasure my love. It's been a journey but His goodness stands out in everything. We can never thank Him enough for his love.

[@nthatengseipobi9019]

So sorry you had to go through that. But whenever you mention your dad Tinyiko... yhooo, Modimo ale bolokele yena...

[@journeywiththemokales290]

Thanks my love, he is a treasure

[@lebohangmoshapo1205]

I get it a lot people are always telling me hore I never tell my story but they don't understand 💔

[@journeywiththemokales290]

and it's ok, God will make all right in due season.

[@MrsMphoNgwenya]

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[@Ngwavie]

Your intros 😭😭