Loss of Intimacy

[@dinacriswell7306]

You are such a blessing I am going through all your videos and healing a little more after each one. This one is huge. Thank you for helping understand I am human and its ok to long to hold someones hand and miss the hugs and dancing close being sang to and sharing a gaze into my persons eyes ... hoping to find this again , believing its out there!

[@krismills4393]

I am so glad I listened to this. This grieving thing is unbelievably brutal!

[@lindas.1751]

Looking back over generations - I am a hobby genealogist -- I see that nearly all of the women in my lines lost a spouse some time before they themselves died. And yet, nothing and no one prepares us, really for this loss. This particular loss, of intimacy, is one that you can't really work through with adult children, and rarely with other wives. Thank you so very much for targetting this particular aspect of widowhood. We long for them SO, even if just at the moment we wake up each morning and we can't kiss him, we can't chit-chat, we don't get the full-body hugs we shared, etc. In some ways this is the hardest part of grieving, for me.

[@ruthgreenwood-xp3lf]

Karen, u've hit the nail on the head with this topic, ive lost my soulmate of 30 years, losing the intimate part of our relationship is hard to bear, the trust, the love, just gone, where do you start? nights are lonely , it's a unique grief with a life partner, thank you for covering this topic 🤗💞

[@fembot521]

Thank you for this video! The loss of intimacy of even just having someone I can share all of my intimate thoughts with and not be judged is so hard. I don’t have anyone else in my life that I can share that level of intimacy with. The idea of not having that safety is so hard as well. I had two kids with my husband so my body reflects that and he loved my body and what it went through. I cannot imagine another man appreciating my body now after two kids and 46 yrs old! Never thought I’d be single with two kids in my life.

[@karensuttonwidowcoach]

Yes, I hear you. This was exactly how I felt too. But I was wrong, it is possible to find someone that loves you and your body again, if you want to. xx

[@pia9852]

And you are so right that most people don’t get it. Peter and I did not have children, and members of my family are spread out all over the US. People do get an inkling though of what I’m going through when I tell them that practically the only way I now experience human touch is if I pay someone for it (chiropractor, massage-therapist, etc.)! Then I see the light go on. I have found caring for pets to be very helpful, feeding, grooming, playing with, and petting them.

[@karensuttonwidowcoach]

Ah Pia, we all crave that human touch so much, it feels so good doesn't it, you must miss it terribly. I'm so glad you have found some comfort in pets, sometimes we have to think about what we can do rather than what we can't don't we? sending love xx

[@rachelwesterman1223]

This is such a big issue I can't talk about with anyone. We had only been together 11 years after both being in bad relationships previously. We were so close and loving. When he got ill he was in so much pain I couldn't even hug him for nearly a year and we barely kissed in case it caused more pain. We were both craving intimacy when he was better but he never got better and now I'm on my own.

[@teresaf221]

All of it…I loved all the things you said. I am building a life for me now without the person who reassured me, gave me the look, held hands big hugs, lots of love always in many ways. I have spent so much of my life looking for approval and love for the my self worth, I am worthy and I am going to take this time to figure out me, be good too me, be kind to me. Thank you

[@karensuttonwidowcoach]

I love this so much teresa, you are incredible and so very brave, Keep going, keep rising, you will create something good again I know you will xx

[@ImranKhan-tj3dr]

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[@helenmiralles4820]

Every topic you cover speaks so directly to me as a widow of five months. Thank you so much for you understanding and wisdom. This topic of intimacy was particularly important for me. You are really helping me on my grieving journey. Cheers from Helen, Perth, Australia.

[@julie-annehansen741]

Hi Helen -I live in Perth too...trying to find a grief group for widows" I am newly widowed , We had recently moved here from the USA....My husband was 84yrs old and had ed - he was no longer 'interested' He was 14 years older than I ..but the intimacy of touch and being so accepting of each others' bodies was lovely...just holding hands and his loving arms around me .....

[@pia9852]

Thank you for addressing this! In my experience this is never talked about and it is SO important!❤️

[@karensuttonwidowcoach]

You're right, this is rarely talked about. 🌻

[@jvorny5415]

I lost my gorgeous husband 10 weeks ago and I absolutely yearn and long to for that special feeling just to touch his hand and curl up in bed beside him. It is so painful I'm 58 we were together from when I was 15 and I am bereft you Karen are my go to for some help and solace!!!💔💔