Lost & Found: No More Secrets S1/E4 - Bruce's Story

[@lijohnyoutube101]

So thankful to hear the mantra of people should know their truth. My grandma was ‘adopted’ as farm help and was not treated very well. I truly believe it benefits society that we have become far more open as not having secrets can explain actions at least in part. Especially in situations where there is injustice/trauma etc. it may not say it was justified but just having some knowledge as to a potential ‘why’, can offer some comfort to have information.

[@melindatracy8831]

Thank you Bruce for sharing your story! I love hearing all the stories especially the difficult ones. Great job Laura and Heidi!

[@dnangelsorg2544]

Melinda, you are this week's contest winner! Thats two weeks in a row! Congratulations, look for a DM from me.

[@brianakessler5410]

Great episode, thank you for sharing Bruce

[@dnangelsorg2544]

thanks for watching

[@LindaSchreiber]

NOT entered for the contest ;) Don't need the prize, and give it to someone who does. I recently discovered you guys, and love what you are doing. I found my biofather, and my half-sister's biofather a few years ago through DNA. And have helped a number of others. The process is amazing.... I think my favorite bit was when I let a DNA match know that *Yes* her father was indeed her father. She was worried.... But the 35-ish cM single segment we shared on a particular chromosome was a proven Workman segment. Her dad was a distant related Workman. Wahoo! Got thank yous from both daughter and dad!

[@KatC666]

Thank you so much Bruce for sharing your story! I hope everyone who watches follows your sound advice!

[@pennybailey8763]

I really appreciate all you do to help people discover their unknown parents. I'm trying to figure out the parents of my mother's bio dad. My mom was adopted at age 5 after her father deserted the family and she and her younger brother were given to an orphanage. They were adopted at ages 5 and almost 3, respectively. The 2 older sisters searched for them and finally found them as young adults. So we know a bit about the parents, but the bio dad's stated parents (on ss application) don't match up. So he's got the npe(s), I suspect. Thanks again for all you do, and thank you, Bruce, for sharing.

[@carolmurphy393]

Thank you for sharing your story Bruce ❤️

[@TracieKolb]

Thank you for sharing. My husband and I have both experienced being NPEs. we both have different outcomes but it is true that he really doesn't talk about it. sometimes it feels like he is still surprised when we talk about it.

[@carlacrazymom]

Bruce...great job. I want to send you a hug because I was adopted in Texas in 1964...i am a "state" secret...dang near need a FBI clearance to find out who I am. It seems that your case, though different from mine, was also a mess to figure out. Congratulations on finding the answers. The other thing is, interracial marriage was illegal in Texas until 1967, so that would have very much affected your birth. I am sorry for your long journey and years of confusion and mistreatment in some ways. I hope the rest of your life is filled with blessings and comfort. Thanks for sharing your story.

[@dnangelsorg2544]

You are not alone.

[@loramorgan-bliss8840]

Bruce, great advice. I thank you

[@LorieCousin]

Such an incredible story!

[@FreshGrey-pm4vw]

Its shocking how many people hold grudges and project meanness onto other generations who had nothing to do with family disagreements. I may never find the truth in my family simply due to the hatred of my grandmother by my cousin who lords the family secret over many of us out of spite.

[@dnangelsorg2544]

It's really disheartening how family dynamics can create such deep divides. I hope you find a way to navigate through the complexities and uncover the truth eventually.

[@FreshGrey-pm4vw]

@@dnangelsorg2544 thank you- your work is so important!

[@SueC56]

Point of clarification.... does the 16. 7% include when you find out that the parent/grandparent was also an NPE or are you just talking about the immediate generation above the testing person? thx

[@peachygal4153]

I would like to know too; I know I showed as a DNA match to a 5th great grandfather but not his wife. (descendants of her siblings) Was he married twice? Did he raise a nephew? (which I was told when people died young, often siblings raised nieces and nephews but were listed as their children) I don't know