LOW BUY CHECK IN | HOW TO KNOW WHEN YOU HAVE "ENOUGH"

Hello Beauties, I've got another #LowBuyCheckIn with you for the month of April. To be honest, I kinda (aka: I did) slipped up and spent impulsively in this month. I think the "scared straight" feeling I got at the beginning of the quarantine and shut-downs started to wear off, and I often found myself giving into things like boredom, anxiety, stress shopping and impulse "wanting" following inevitably by buying.
I found I really fell back into old habits and old ways I used to cope with boredom, anxiety, feelings of comparison and cravings. This is alongside still working in the frontline as a healthcare worker in the midst of a pandemic. The new and constant low-grade tension and sense of uneasiness in previously normal, everyday routines has been difficult.
Lately I'm really struggling with what it means to "have enough" and feeling confident and content with my own self, along with everything I have. Sometimes loving and using what you have is harder than I always try to encourage on this channel. I am often very used to "WANTING" and then "GETTING", as opposed to "HAVING" and then "USING". This is a new mindset I'm still exploring. I also realize that I am extremely privileged to even have these problems to dwell on, especially in the current climate we are all collectively experiencing. That fact is not lost on me.
Some thing I did find that helped as I reflected on my choices was TAKING ACTION. I found when I took my own advice and either exercised, made a video, cooked, cleaned, went for a walk, Zoom'ed a friend, or physically played with the things I had, it made me realize how MUCH I really do have in my life, and it made that feeling of wanting and craving subside, while a feeling of abundance and gratitude set in. Not all the time. But oftentimes this really helped.
I'm not mad at myself for what I bought this month, but I am really trying to remove the association I seem to always come back to between "happiness" and "stuff". I want to find what "enough" means for me, and be happy with that "enough-ness". I'm feeling much better than when I initially filmed this vlog on the weekend of April 18th, but still am looking for that place where I don't need to rationalize myself out of the guilt I often feel in order to justify every single thing I spend money on. This is taking continuous soul-searching and a deep dive into self-compassion.
How has your #LowBuy gone? How are you doing this month in self-isolation and quarantine? Are you feeling the fatigue? Have you found your feeling of "I have enough" and "I am enough"?
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[@Christinamychas]

Hello beauties ❤️ I had a hard time on myself in the month of April and feel I can get confused on what my goals are. But going into May a little more clear with actions I can take to reset and re-evaluate my goals and my self-compassion. How have you been feeling? Be well, friends ❤️

[@heatherp7836]

Omg! Words cannot thank you enough for this video! Ive been struggling this last month too and Im super bummed I let my low buy mentality down. The idea of 'when is it enough' was so on point for me. I feel like im buying to bring myself a little bit of joy right now because life seems to have that constant baseline tension. Thank you for your honesty...its nice to know im not alone. Be well lovely Xtina ❤

[@Christinamychas]

Heather P you are never ever alone, Heather! ❤️ 🥰

[@suzan_bond]

This might be my favorite video of yours ever. Gratitude, giving yourself grace and introspection are so powerful. Great reminders. Thank you!

[@Christinamychas]

Suzan Bond thank you Suzan. We are not in normal times on top of all of this and I still feel this tremendous pressure to continue to act and feel as if things are. Gratitude and grace don’t come easy, but things always seem to feel better when they are part of the equation. I hope you and your family are doing well ❤️❤️

[@suzan_bond]

style apotheca I feel exactly the same pressure to act normal despite being in unprecedented times. Living in NYC I hear the sirens all day and yet part of me goes back to the default of having high expectations for myself. Change is hard. Giving grace to myself and to others has really been helping. Sending loads of love. ❤️

[@madeleinepousar]

I can totally relate to this! When I am feeling sad during covid I almost go searching online for the thing that will make me feel better. I am just scrolling on instagram endlessly and beeing so vurnable to ads -_- Thank you for sharing you are not alone! ❤️

[@AstridTuesday]

Everything you described is how I’m feeling. I go down this rabbit hole of thinking I “need” something and obsessing over finding the “perfect one” to fit my “lifestyle”. The latest item was a laptop bag. I spent many hours on Pinterest looking for the perfect bag. And it was even on sale! But I implemented the 24hr wait rule and talked myself out of it. I already have a laptop bag that’s in great shape and what if it doesn’t look as professional and sophisticated as this one I want? I was shopping to be someone I want to appear to be. I knew I didn’t need it and I’ve already blew my grocery budget (big time) for the month so....didn’t buy it. But I still think about it. It’s exhausting this internal battle. So, I understand And thank you for sharing, I feel better knowing I’m not alone. And yes, I’m a stress shopper and have been online shopping a ton even through I pretty much cut it out completely before we had to shelter in place. Falling back on this old habit sucks.

[@Christinamychas]

Coffee & Film it does suck! But we have proven to ourselves before that when we have a healthy goal in mind, we can do it. I personally lost sight of what those were, on top of all this craziness that’s going on in the world. Def below my grocery budget last month too. We are not alone ❤️❤️

[@Hannah_Rachel_and_Kotik]

Thank you for a poignant video. Your words have been a soothing balm to me. I also am in the medical field and kept working as everyone else is quarantined. Throughout the quarantine l have been spending small sums on plants because they were the only thing available in the food stores. Recently l decided to put around $200 online at Urban Outfitters on home decore l am justifying it by coping with tremendous stress, needing to make my home even more a tranquil and posh space to rest in from this rough period and just upgrading some ugly home staples ( ordered an an amazing macrame shower curtain topper instead of a 15 year old quite pretty topper left from the apartment's previous tennants). Also bought white curtains courtesy of Walmart instead of my 15 y.o graying ones in the front window. While l was focused on repaying medical debts, l let these things go. With quarantine, and many debts paid, l couldn't look at these ugly things no more. Do l feel guilty? Not so much. Got to let the yoke loose a little, sometimes. Now is one of that time.

[@Christinamychas]

Totally agree. That’s my struggle as well, finding a time when I feel “okay” buying something vs when I know I “shouldn’t”. Thank you for serving your patients in their time of most need. stay well, hana ❤️

[@NedhuggenBjork]

Thank you for this video, for sharing your experience and thoughts. I relate to a lot in what you are saying. These last few months have been so difficult shopping wise, just because of the stress and mental states because of what is going on. I also had my 30th birthday so I explained away a lot of purchases to that. But it still results in a feeling of guilt and irritation over not being able to control yourself.. Feels really nice to be able to connect over this, hearing that more people are fighting the same fight and motivating each other! 😊

[@katiechasm]

i've been sewing during quar and it's actually kind of nice that i can't buy new fabric or tools, it's such a creativity boost to just use what i have out of my donation pile/fabric scraps

[@zoea2812]

I've been doing really good the past 12 months, I got myself out of shopping and had saved lots. But April hit and BAM! I couldn't seem to stop spending. So mad with myself, but know I can get back to where I was.

[@aimeebernadettedesmond7096]

Great Video. Very relatable. I was on an unhealthy spending spree from November to end of February. I haven’t bought a single thing for myself since the last week of February. It feels strange. I feel the impulse to buy, but it’s not practical for me right now. I remember that when I couldn’t stop buying I would make it seem okay by saying “oh it’s used, it’s pre owned, and thrifted”. But I’m slowly realizing it’s more of a balance and not an all or none thing. Thanks for your thoughtful process. Also Love the FB page.

[@KatherineElectrique]

Definitely relate to the constant churning fixation - find a problem and fixate on finding the perfect solution, then do it all again. I feel like I keep having to build more rules in to stop myself, but not being able to address the mindset change required to actually stop.

[@mademoisellejaime]

So I’m only part way through (and so late to watch but, mum life lol), and I wanted to say, there’s nothing wrong with having duplicates. To me it just signals that you have a strong sense of personal style, and a uniform look you like to adhere to. That’s not a bad thing at all! And while yes, you could essentially do the same thing with less, I think it’s okay to have variants of similar styles. That’s what my closet is mostly like, and I find it’s those small details which have a noticeable impact on my outfit - to me at least! But don’t be hard on yourself. You’re on the frontline and I can only imagine the stress that’s had on you. I’ve bought a lot more than usual too cos of COVID and also just being tired as a new mum. Strangely having some fun fashion pieces to play with give me a sense of normality and like I’m my old self (and not just a mum if you know what I mean). Anyway, I should get back to watching lol 😅😅

[@Dr_Dee_Sankofa]

This video is so wonderful. It's back to what I started to watch you for..advice and reflections on compulsive spending and debting. You do such a great job of describing the experience with such clarity. I appreciate your deeply personal sharing it makes a huge impact on me. Thank you so much for your vulnerability and openness. I don't think that your sharing is being "hard on yourself" it's more of being honest with yourself. Thank you again.

[@Bonnieerina]

I’ve been struggling with spending. I was doing so well but all of a sudden the urge to shop online for clothing or buying kitchen supplies has been overwhelming. I keep fixating on creating a spring/summer wardrobe for my new size. (I lost 65 lbs last year.) Even though I probably won’t be going anywhere and with everything going on, the last thing I need is to be spending. I really found your Anine Bing video helpful though. It reminded me that I can create new looks with the few things that I have. It is definitely my scarcity fears that have triggered this old habit. Everyone hoarding groceries and articles about supply chains shutting down and stores closing have reared up my old issues I thought I had made peace with. Thanks for your video. It helps putting it in perspective.

[@marietweedy2879]

This video was great! I so relate to the Myth of 'I don't have" I've been making excuses for not working out because I don't have a garage gym with a squat rack and lots of weights, or pull up bar. I dusted off my bike and have been going for rides around the neighborhood, and I can't believe how exhilarating it felt to be on my bike after a long winter. I also want to buy all the furniture and paint rooms since I've been working from home. It's hard right now. I need to stay focused on my goals: cut my spending and save. I've paused my debt free journey to save an emergency fund. I hope all of you are safe and well.

[@sheenacanoy9597]

It feels so nice hearing you talk about this. I’ve told myself I want to save money and make sure I stay on top of my goals but then the pandemic hit and things kind of just fell through. I appreciate how compassionate you are about the situation and the thoughtfulness. Thank you :)

[@crystalesha]

Same same. Thank you for being so articulate and open about that sense of “confused, sad,empty, not-enoughness” that I am feeling 🙏🏼

[@TexasGal.]

You have articulated the exact thing I go through often as it relates to buying. Especially the part about obsessing over the thing until you purchase it as if it will complete you in some way. It's almost like the shopping itself is a drug that you think you need, but then it really just brings you down. I do think that realizing it and acknowledging it is a part of the process. I agree that it's all very nonlinear. I think ceasing certain behaviors always happens very fluidly until you rid yourself of the behavior all together understanding that we are not perfect creatures, but can always strive to do better. Thanks so much for sharing. Your videos are really helping me.

[@janjanee]

I feel ya sista - somehow we’re all brainwashed that new things will solve our inadequacies and it’s just putting a bandaid on the problem rather than dealing with the baseline mental issue that requires a mindset shift like you were saying... but is obviously not the first thing we consider when we notice inadequacies. I feel ya hard. I spent $500 on jewelry this month and I don’t know what person (I’m also in debt) in their right mind can justify that. Thank god there is the option of returning!!!

[@emilyjeffcoat7019]

Maybe try a gratitude list! I write down 6 things everyday that I'm grateful for. I started doing this at the beginning of the year and I think it helps.

[@cswink1733]

Your video spoke to me. April was bad for me shopping-wise. After being completely on track January through March I am disappointed that I went a bit out of control in April. Although I didn't exceed my annual budget for spending on clothes, beauty, etc, I am bumping up to the limit and need to not shop for the rest of the year. Yikes! I use a mantra I learned from another You-Tuber, "2020, we have plenty" to remind myself I don't "need" anything. Also, doing the shop your closet exercises reminds me of how much I do have. I also remind myself, while staying strong we also need to be kind to ourselves during this time. Who thought 2020 could be some crazy.

[@elisabetbf6731]

We have been under a pretty strict lockdown in Spain for nearly 2 months now. The first month I didn’t spend much as I went into saving mode straight away plus I realised that the only thing I really needed was for my family to be healthy and to have food and water and electricity. 2 months later... I have already purchased some expensive loungewear and activewear as I got obsessed! thinking since I was spending so much time at home and exercising nearly every day (plus I hadn’t bought anything in really long time) I couldn’t continue with the old clothes I had. 😩😩 feeling between excited and guilty over my new clothes

[@susanvelez6534]

I have not purchased stuff just veggie and fruit seeds to plant a garden this year. So so far so good. I found starting this garden very relaxing. It has been very hard several months I agree with you darling. Don't be upset, were essentials and it is scary.

[@Marichela]

I agree, I also feel tense just going to my backyard and seeing my neighbor. Then again I'm in NYC, and have lost family members it makes over think and take precautions.

[@Christinamychas]

Marichela I’m so sorry for your loss 😔❤️

[@minecraftplayslmg9608]

I feel the same way. Going to the supermarket and grocery shopping used to be pleasant. Now I feel stressed with the face mask and gloves. Scary! I shopped too!

[@MsZanev]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts and experiences! I’ve definitely bought more this month than usual, not necessarily to cope with the situation but more so because I just found it so hard to say no to the discounts that are flying around everywhere. It was just easier to justify buying since the prices are so good. Totally not a good reason to buy things, though. I really like the idea of enough an it’s something that I’m trying to become more comfortable with.

[@rukhsaanashabudin9016]

Love that you mention the idea of “scarcity”. I totally get that and feel the stress and anxiety increases it. I have purchased items from sales I made and still I feel guilty about these things. So appreciate your sharing

[@BeeBaldwin]

I have been asking myself “Do I need it?” I also make lists of “things I don’t buy anymore” and frequently “shop my closet!”

[@taraa4281]

It’s interesting how you talked about obsessing over your health and fitness and that causing you to want to shop. I used to have an eating disorder and once I had physically recovered I obsessed over shopping and clothing my new body! And now I’ve realized whenever I feel bad about my body I end up spending more money on clothes/shoes/bags/skincare whatever! It’s a REALLY hard cycle to break. Obsessing over restricting food has turned into obsessing over spending money.

[@Christinamychas]

Tara A I can totally 100% relate - it’s really difficult. I think self compassion is the key, which is bloody difficult. I’m rooting for you, Tara ❤️

[@rukhsaanashabudin9016]

So appreciate your honesty and vulnerability! I think being compassionate with yourself may also be another learning area for you as well as myself!!! So much you say resonates with me. Thank you for voicing these issues

[@louisetrenchard2459]

Finding your videos is really helping me. I have never really found a way to talk about these things and the role of shopping in it all. I've been bingeing your videos over the last few days and I'm really enjoying them.

[@stylebyliberty3683]

Thank you. It is good to know that others go through/are going through these same struggles and feelings of guilt. And You are correct, life is not linear. It is fluid and ever changing as are we. It’s ok to slip up or adjust to new circumstances. And in the big picture as more and more people become more aware and mindful and begin making a conscious effort to be better in their spending or environmental footprint or whatever their angle is, the big change will happen. In the LBB group I see so much support and positivity and proof that our slip ups are minute in comparison to many people working together to change the idea of needing more to be satisfied or worthy. ❤️

[@torim2605]

I can really relate to your experiences! My mind feels like it’s always spinning on what to buy to either solve a problem that can be solved in other ways or to fill a void. Thank you for making these videos and giving advice

[@amandarussell6298]

Thank you for your honesty - I have really struggled during this time. I just recently got laid off due to a staff reduction due to the current situation and I am now faced with a bunch of packages I ordered whilst working. I know they have to be returned for many reasons. I like the idea of doing rather than thinking - I have the mindset that I have to figure it out before I act - maybe that needs to be flipped - especially right now.,

[@acminkus]

I totally hear you… Every day is just this pile of problems that I need to figure out, from the tiniest to the largest. And it never stops ever. Not too sure how to fix this. And part of it is just who I am an artist and academic so my whole raison d’être is figuring out problems, figuring out questions. It’s a heavy load. And now that I’m a bit older, it just seems that even with eating healthy and having great workouts, I now have all of these problems I need to fix in my body. Solutions are not found in the regular places. I often have to research them on my own because my medical providers just don’t have the knowledge, or they really vastly differ in approach. I also just want to have things done. I also just want to be finished. And that is so elusive. And yeah, I’m probably a pessimist too.

[@Samantha-jb6ln]

Totally understand what you are going through. Its a process. You are not alone. I almost bought a pink dress but im WFH in my lounge wear all day, why do i need a new dress? And i wear black under garments and clumsy with food, and i want a pink dress? Clearly im anxious about something else and going back to old habits to self soothe. We can do this. Don't be too hard on yourself.

[@helenehelene1321]

I so relate to you, it's crazy.. You've been fixated on that bike, meanwhile I'm fixating now on my hair growth and decided the I needed a Mason Pearson brush (about $250!!) to ensure long healthy hair..ugh.. so the good thing is that I'm "saving" for that brush now and not buying anything because when the impulse comes I remember about the brush and stop myself.

[@pixiethistle]

I bought a Mason Pearson hairbrush 15 years ago & I haven't had or used another hairbrush since. Saving up for it is smart so you don't exceed your budget! I viewed it at it as a long-term investment hair care tool. I bought the pocket mixture bristle brush because it was less expensive ($68 then) and smaller, making it easier for me to use than a larger brush.

[@helenehelene1321]

@@pixiethistle Thanks for sharing your experience on that. Did you feel that it helps minimize damage and does well at distributing oils? According to their website I would need the 100% boar bristle because my hair is fine. But I might get a smaller brush because I don't have a huge amount of hair anyways. It will be a challenge for me to save for a few months and definitely will feel like a splurge once I'm ready to buy..

[@mysticfox1563]

I’ve never heard of this brand so I had to do a quick google. You can get a 100% boar bristle brush brush from the drugstore for under $20. I’ve had mine for 10 years. I guess I don’t understand where the extra hundreds of dollars play in when it’s made of the same thing.

[@GrayWithMe]

I am so far in debt and spent money this month as well. I feel guilty. I also will get stuck on an idea, like you. This month it was a Cartier tank watch. I didn’t buy it but I spent two days researching. Why? That’s so ridiculous. I ended up buying a vintage Dior tank watch and guess what I don’t need it. 300 down the drain that I could have put toward my credit card debt or car payment. It’s sad.

[@jucxox]

Don’t feel bad I just did the same thing for the Tempo Studio.

[@tashamoulton]

GURL...I always feel so alone because I have these same thoughts!! Like never content or never enough. THANK YOU for not making me feel like I"m crazy...and thank you for this video...It's a process and I hope I'll stop fixating on things I "think" I need. Ugh!! "Why can't I be okay with what I have?" --- YES!! WHY!?!?!?! I GET IT!!! I'm always looking for something new that I just NEED to have. :( I wish it would just go away from my thought process!!! LOL-I know this is an older video now but I've been going back and watching your videos since I just found you a couple months ago.

[@marykalina4817]

The most real video I've ever watched on KZbin. When is it enough? That's something I struggle with all the time. I am trying and it's refreshing to hear that you too struggle too. Thank you.

[@abbywilhelm4187]

I was watching this while considering buying a necklace instead of putting that money towards paying off my student loans. Thank you for inspiring me to sacrifice my immediate desire for gratification for the delayed gratification of paying off debt. (Credit card and car payment are gone, just now able to turn my focus to loans.) Love your honesty.

[@AmberSlemmer]

GRRL!! SAME!! I think the most important thing right now is to practice a little self-compassion (this is super hard for me, btw) and not to beat yourself up for whatever you are doing. I think now more than ever we (humans) need to take care of our mental health and actually practice a calm, healthy mindset because the fear and anxiety from the virus is constant and every day. It's funny because you're so intelligent, you know exactly what you are doing (falling into old habits) and you actually know what you need to do (get up even when you don't feel like it) it's just that you're not doing it! SAME!!!! A lot of peeps in this world don't even have that kind of awareness so bravo to you. If clothes are your happy place, then YES, play around in your closet some more! What about making a lookbook of all your best outfits, just for fun? I am also super bummed about exercise: I was taking dance class 2x a week and really killing it and now...nothing. So hard to get motivated at home. SO. HARD. I'm really feeling ya, grrl. HUGS.

[@jennyherzog9872]

It’s really hard not to shop right now when we’re home all the time with nothing to do. I’ve been making a list of clothing that I needed but I’ve been sabotaging myself and ended up buying more 😅 nothing too serious but I’m trying to save up more for the future. I can’t understand why we always want a new thing, this society tough us wrong with the adds and hauls. Keep your hopes up. It will pass! Love your videos and your honesty. 😘 from San Francisco

[@CoolSustainable]

I have been shopping as well and will do an update next week as well. I, like you, get fixated on a "must have" item and do start seeing it in black and white as well...this situations has made it worse as well since we ARE missing out on so much....it is totally a coping mechanism.

[@anavargas]

Yes! Thank you for talking about how stressful everyday activities feel and how staying home makes it harder to have healthy outlets. ❤️ I definitely need rewards and I’ve been spendy this last month probably to compensate. Some was planned like buying dresses so I can feel put together with almost no effort on low energy days. Others were more impulsive. And some of it was purchasing things I should have already had in my life but didn’t prioritize enough. It’s really helping me see areas of my life that were out of balance. Like you, trying to think ahead for May and get back into buying less.

[@katya_vee]

I was in a similar situation where I went from doing spin almost every day to none at all due to a forced move (pharmacy rotations). I decided to buy a used road bike for $200 and started distance cycling outdoors instead. I would do anything between 20-40 km and you can definitely get a "spin high" if you pedal fast enough! Just a thought. Stay safe!

[@Christinamychas]

Good idea! And always cool to know a fellow pharmie! ❤️

[@andreafelli6727]

Wow thank you for verbalizing the conversation I've been having with myself and recognize in myself also! I've been doing the very same thing of buying to pacify my fears. What I have done in the past with large purchases that I would get fixated on was to challenge myself to make due without the item for 30 days and if I attain the goal then I reward myself with it. Like if I am convinced I need a new yoga mat (when my old one is fine really) and havent done yoga in years - if I push through and start doing yoga for 30 days with what I already have then I will allow myself to get it. Just an idea that I've used in the past and I have to start doing again.

[@captainofthedarkseas]

As someone who subscribed based off of your “7 Money Lessons Learned from Debt” video I love this one as well! You’re honest with yourself and how you spend money and why. As someone who is struggling with this I really love this and will continue to watch. You’ve gore yourself one new subscriber :)

[@shrnpi]

This is soooo relatable. Your advice in some prior videos that's helped me through this time was that if I'm drawn to something, it's likely I already have something in my closet that is similiar. I found that completely true. Also the video you did on your closet inventory. I'm still planning on doing an inventory so I have to face the numbers of how much I have before I continue to add on.

[@vintagegirl956]

Definitely feeling the whole cabin fever thing. Anxiety and depression. Since I’m already diagnosed with severe anxiety disorder and ocd going to let’s say Target to pick up necessities, wearing the mask causes a sense of claustrophobia which triggers my severe anxiety. I hate the feeling. I feel everything you’re saying. I’ve purchased “summer/spring capsule necessities” which seems pointless at this time but watching this video is making me realize I’m doing it to cope and that hole is never going to be filled. I believe you mentioned that phrase in one of your earlier videos on why you started low buy. I consider myself an outdoor plan who’s being forced to stay in. Your videos help a lot!

[@madditrue8452]

Thank you for this video! I've also not been the best this month with staying on track. I've indulged a little and this video was great motivation to get back on track!

[@ruthstrickland6679]

Your month has been our month collectively. Personally what I'm learning about myself now has even more resonance than normal which makes things seem even more of a big deal. Stay safe and sane xx

[@jennbatman]

Not to encourage spending, but as a mom of two who loved in studio yoga and spin but couldn’t make it work anymore, Peloton Digital changed my life. I can take my fave classes at home. I opted for a spin bike, cell phone mount, and cadence tracker from Amazon totaling about $400. Plus the monthly $13 subscription it has certainly paid for itself. Don’t forget to factor in time traveling to classes into the equation.

[@carlafabiano7383]

This is such a valuable vlog/video...thank you. All of what you are expressing is so relatable ... so me as well . Listening to you makes me feels so much better and enables me to feel stronger with accomplishing the low buy and being happy with what I have. Such awesome content on your channel. Stay well and healthy 😃

[@Christinamychas]

Carla Fabiano thank you so much, Carla ❤️ you CAN accomplish anything you want to - for me, I personally was losing sight of what my goals and intentions were. They are easy to lose in the noise sometimes. I’m glad we have each other and this community to inspire us and remind each other what we are capable of ❤️

[@mooretessie]

This was so relevant. I sometimes feel like I’m the only one going through what you’re talking about, so it’s really helpful. Thank you.

[@ModernChristianChick]

Your honesty is refreshing. I’ve have slipped up also as a direct result of this Covid culture we find ourselves in. Our struggles in regards to this are similar. Thank you for sharing. This helped me. Blessings.

[@tinastaniscia9057]

What a lovely, thoughtful video you created for us. I too did a bit of shopping in April. Remarkably, I felt no guilt since I was so pleased with my purchases. May is for re-grouping and hoping work returns to us in NY. Stay safe and well and please keep you timely content coming. Thanks so much!

[@corinacorina1888]

I am so glad I saw this. I thought i was the only one. So many things you said and did in April I thought "girl, same!" I felt like a failure. But it's how I deal with stress and I was not just stressed, I was flipping out. But we cant beat ourselves up constantly for when we slip up, we have to just notice the action, stop, and move on (Easier for me to say than do). Get back on track. Its a process. ❤❤

[@ssymck]

This has really helped me. Thank u for addressing topics on several levels =)

[@sandykwan817]

Thank you for sharing. Yes to removing yourself physically if you're starting to feel spendy. I've been cleaning the house A LOT lol. I've managed to maintain an extremely low buy for April. I'm allowing myself to do some shopping for May-June (shopping for Q2 2020 is restock skincare as needed and wide leg pants for work) but still very limited (sticking to my 2020 goal established back in January) My bras and undies are so sad and need a major refresh but I am waiting for the back to fall/school sales to restock at my favourite site (AE) so must remain strong. Just as we're getting ready to open up our "bubbles" here in BC, my skin started breaking out and I find myself constantly scrolling through skin care sites...I'm also fixating on things like fitness wear even tho the gym I had a membership had has gone belly up and gyms are not allowed to reopen yet (and frankly I can't imagine how that can happen any time soon) and I haven't gotten out for walks nearly enough.What I'm trying to say is I can totally relate. My beach body is def 2021 goals LOL Stay safe, sane and healthy!

[@mash12372]

Thank you for sharing how you're feeling

[@MicahRion]

COVID times are hard and I think it’s perfectly natural that I feel more of a draw towards online shopping than usual. Something that has helped me is to pull up my budget and see how I would pay for that item I want. Where would the money come from? is such a good question because it helps me see if the new item is a priority to me. Sometimes I make room in my budget for the item but other times I’m like, naw I’d rather add to my moving fund with that $50!

[@talesofahazzelnut9749]

This spoke to me so much ❤️❤️ I am feeling EXACTLY the same!

[@annapetalidou1006]

Thank you for your honesty!

[@karolinatwardowska144]

Thank you so so much for this video! I feel the same, I was in a good place shopping-wise before the pandemic, but last month I order beauty products and clothes - which just proves it’s stress buying. Now I’m trying to be more mindful and not beat myself up because of those slips 😌

[@itoshiibaka8267]

I completely agree! It really proves it's stress buying for me, too.

[@nuwangihettiarachchige7246]

I think i found my twin. I go through the same emotions when I buy something impulsively. Watching ur videos have helped me curb my shopping cravings 🤍🤍🤍

[@jucxox]

This is so hopeful you have no idea. Thank you!

[@ninazegarac2943]

Such a good video. You are my inspiration of the year.

[@t-time8543]

I understand and right there with you! The air is very tense with everything going on in the world right now woth COVID. I think it’s awesome you have been able to identify what a potential solution for yourself is, taking action when those feelings become more in the forefront. I too found myself having irrational thoughts/behaviors around shopping/buying especially while we have had such little visual stimulation then I think most of us have on a normal basis. Even if it’s just passing by window displays on the way to work. I loved the videos you did on recreating outfits you loved from muses! I would love to see more from that series :)

[@sarafontana2422]

Thank you for sharing. We are all in this together and I’m so grateful that I’m not alone on this journey. I have been browsing to take advantage of the sales too. I ask myself the questions and feel at peace.

[@Christinamychas]

Sara Fontana That’s amazing, Sara! I admit I often didn’t ask myself the questions. Need a major reset. Thank you for reminding me and others that we aren’t alone ❤️❤️

[@Voldemort-kx3sn]

This video was very reliable. It's very tough not to shop right now.

[@hannahbetts5934]

I really identify with this. My anxiety-related buying is hormone related - twice a month, an utterly fixated siege mentality in which yet another armoured self is required. Yet I very definitely have enough, an excess, in fact, which is itself stressful.

[@baylirhodes5602]

Oh my gosh yes, I can totally relate to this. Ive bought so many things that I don't need this month. Thank you for this video, I think its been hard on a lot of us latley

[@hannw7]

I identify with this video so much!!! Holy moly!

[@Carissa99Xo]

I think I did so well about a month ago but now I'm experiencing the same, all of a sudden I'm just seeing all the things I lack and can't get over the want of the thing.

[@marynorton6068]

I bought some things that I’d had on my wish list for a long time. They went on sale (75% off) and I bought them on the last day of the month. I’m not getting the urge to shop like I used to. I don’t really enjoy shopping online. Whether this will stay when life goes back to normal and I can have an in-store experience, I don’t know.

[@angesoie]

yeah the baseline stress is getting to be a lot. i also slipped up this month- i'm hoping to be better in May

[@mcgillshelby]

Lovely video. Thank you for sharing.

[@pezjunkie13]

I think it’s really great that you hold yourself accountable to your own values. However, I do think letting the guilt go is important. We live in unprecedented times, and not to excuse the behaviour but to explain it. So being hard on yourself and guilting yourself, easier said than done but don’t worry too much about it. You held yourself to account, which is the important thing! Keep going strong! ❤️

[@clairebibby6198]

Thank you so much for honest vlog. This past month in lockdown has become hard and even though I am working from home, there are times when boredom kicks in because of this feeling it has contributed me to look for clothes I just don't need. My only way is to look for a light at the end of this long tunnel, by telling myself I don't need this as it is just a quick fix as my long term goal is to pay of my last credit card. Be grateful what I have and I know I could do so much !ore with that money.

[@t0piel]

I bought no clothing this month, which is unusual, since I really like second hand hunting trips, but I can see I've been compensating in the organizing department. I bought a window cat bed (thank the universe, the cat actually deemed it worthy), I replaced one piece of furniture with another (to accommodate all my plants) and bought a couple plant pots which I didn't need but they were beautiful. My boyfriend bought a full-size gymnastic mat, since he can't roll with his friends in jiu-jitsu classes. I tell myself these were all reasonable purchases, they made me happy and they helped some local bussineses, and I still bought less than usual. Accept the reality and move on XD

[@heidimartin3129]

Thank you for posting this - I feel exactly the same xx

[@alicjazielinska2992]

Thanks for sharing! I’m feeling you.. 💪

[@silviaferretto4128]

This strange period was the occasion for me to understand how many things we need for everyday life. Very few, actually.. However, even if I thought I could save something, I did shopping also this month. But don't be so hard to ourselves now, if a new blazer can let you belive that life will come back again as before covid, let it be 😘

[@megnicholls9931]

I can totally relate to the bike spiral you talked about.

[@ZulyJac]

I love your videos! You are so relatable and I appreciate your honesty. I am definitely on the same boat, currently I am fixated on workout clothes, I purchased 3 lululemons and I want more! I found a cheaper version of amazing leggings from amazon (90 degree by flex) and They work just as good as lululemons!! I also feel guilty but I’m still learning to cope with all this. Thank you again for sharing your experience with us 🥰❤️

[@stylistcamilla]

I have actually bought zero in April. But I think that it’s normal to have this slip up. I think I buy comfort food and red wine more now to cope with all of this shit. You are doing good. This too shall pass. 🌷✨💞❤️

[@Miss.ducharme]

I was so exited to see this video !!!

[@annaveleva4844]

Don’t feel guilty you bought a bit more this month. We need accomplishment in our lives and getting something new can give that feeling especially if it’s at a great price. Simply look at what you have and sell something you are not into anymore.

[@freckledklutz]

I definitely empathize and relate to all your feelings! I feel guilty leaving the house but mentally I am very aware that it is good for my mental health but everything has an underlying level of anxiety accompanying it. I need to start going for daily walks and working out more regularly. I am doing online school and supporting students through the week and that schedule really has helped even though sometimes I feel like I am helping as much as I could in person. I bought some books and am getting back into reading as it brings me joy and I think I will get a few more as I budgeted for them. Ironically this month was my best for financial things but I think its because I can't just go to a physical store and return things and that makes me so nervous to buy something if I don't think its going to be amazing is that weird? The scarcity effect is so hard to reconcile in our minds but honestly I am looking at my things and being like if I get to enjoy summer that will be amazing period.

[@ewa281]

super helfpul! thank you very much. This is exactly how I feel right now

[@teriteri4971]

I'm trying my best but my overall stress level fluctuates all day but never makes it to zero. I had started intense on my debt. We've paid off about $18,000 since Oct 2018, but I found myself "buying all the things" in April. It was all in cash, but had none of this happened, it wouldn't have happened. But yes, nothing is the same down to even checking the mail (which i will only do once a week) I'm trying my best to keep up on the decluttering and simplifying of my house because the calm environment keeps me much calmer 💗💗💗

[@lizseville1]

Struggling ditto. Different life - similar feelings. Thanks for voicing it. Xxx

[@hanaticha9105]

I can totally relate to everything you say! So well put. Personally, I don't spend money on clothes right now but I eat nonstop. That's something that really bugs me but I can't help it. Man, it's not easy have some self-discipline these days. 😕 Thanks for the videos! At least I know I'm not alone in this. 👍

[@THEJENNIFERCOOK]

I think your low buy update from the end of last April you were also struggling with the low buy. I wonder if it might also be something around this time of year. Love your videos and you are extremely motivating with how open and honest you are.

[@evahalkova2859]

Hi Christina, sorry if I misspelled. It's ok to slip. We are all human and dealing with a difficult situation. I also slipped and bought some jewelery and shoes. Shoes were returned as they were crazy expensive and didn't fit me. Please continue doing what you do! I really like your channel and style.

[@amma7244]

This was so helpful thank you for your honesty. April was hard I think on reflection being online late at night challenges my low buy.

[@Christinamychas]

Sandra Franz totally agree and totally experienced the same ❤️ how are you feeling lately? 🥰

[@amma7244]

style apotheca we both work frontline health right now and in a country with a very short summer. May is better but I think the next six months low buy is going to really challenge us.

[@mermaidtango]

My Buy Free year went wayside all of April … mainly I bought eyeshadow, cuz you know, now seems the time to play with makeup, despite not going out at all. But going into May, I've reined it back in.

[@TanzaniteHayley]

I had an amazing April and then Payday hit and I spent all my disposable income (set aside for myself) before even May 1st 🙄 however my income isn’t as dire as I thought it might have been soooooo 🤷🏻‍♀️ yeah. I’ve put £200 each into kids savings and £300 into mine and should still have some left over so just as long as I don’t max out my disposable income and I’m still saving it’s kind of ok..... I’m not getting into debt like I used to and my shopping habits are better. I don’t double up on say a pink jumper, I have a knitted pink jumper so I won’t buy another whereas before I would if I liked it! Btw you’re younger than me 😉 x

[@Christinamychas]

MsJones my main source of income largely hasn’t been affected either, which is in part why I think I felt like I “could” spend a little more and indulge. I think a lot of us are feeling this way. ❤️❤️ and you really are doing great, there’s no perfection required - need to remind myself of that a lot 🥰🥰

[@anneevans4108]

I had much the same experience. I did really well until payday and in the last week I have slipped. Not too much damage financially but I could certainly feel myself slipping into old habits.

[@Whiskey_Jane]

I wanted the bike too... could also bike to work for free lol. I get stuck on it also and watching your videos helps. Thanks for sharing. 😊💜