Low Maintenance Friendships | Real Talk

[@rburns1182]

most of my friendships involve hanging out maybe once or twice a year. I pretend to be cool with that but in all honesty, I like friendships where we can talk to each other more and maybe even hang out every month or every other. When it's a give and take friendship and not just me always initiating the gathering. (half of the time the friends are unfortunately busy, which I understand and respect but there's never any contact afterwards so it just feels like all my friendships will fall if I don't constantly do something about it) So I guess I've learned to adjust to being a low maintenance friend tho seeing this video, I appreciate there's validity in wanting more and hoping I can make more friends who may feel the same way.

[@KingLulzington]

I expect closer friendships to be more contact based but watching this video and hearing others opinions is opening me up to start looking at adult friendships differently and not from a point of how much attention i'm getting. it's wild to even read this after writing it and realize that I'm perpetuating a cycle i myself don't like by shutting out friends i don't hear from super often.

[@nikkie_a]

I think it depends. I'm definitely an inbetween and I think the balance is needed. I think when it comes to high maintenence, you have to give that to someone who deserves that because there is a bit of catering and self sacrifce involved. I think being dependable and reliable in friendships is a different conversation from high maintence and low maintenence. Being dependable and reliable are just attributes of being a good person which someone can be in both high and low maintenance friendships. Lastly, romantic relationships and friends while similar are not the same, especially when it comes to expectations. I need my mate to be a good friend, but I don't need my friend to be a good mate. So there are some differences with that. I think you can want similar intimacy in both instances, but the expectations are different. Overall excellet video. ❤

[@Daisyfluffinq]

Girl, PREACH. This video is so well made, I'm shocked it has less than 1,000 views. I love how kind and gentle you are, without saying that anyone is downright "wrong" or give the impression others are bad people, your attitude is really a refreshing sight on such a mean and judgemental and harsh landscape! As your channel grows please never lose your kindness and gentle tone of conversation! I'd love to see more :) I'm subbing, keep it up!!

[@darcycastaneda8864]

Loved this video Max!! I have had plentiful of therapy sessions dealing with friendships and how to cope with close vs. low maintenance friends. Like you said, lots of reflection was needed! Still growing and learning but I connected with you and a lot of your talking points. ☺️

[@Maxincoolin]

Thanks so much for watching Darcy!! And yes, it’s been a journey lol we got this though🙏🏿

[@Luvlee92]

Really appreciated this video and the thought process behind it I myself think I have high and low maintenance frindships. Love the vid 💛

[@Maxincoolin]

Thanks so much Patricia!!

[@farirai.natalie]

I absolutely loved this video, loving others how you want to be loved gives people the PERFECT example of friendship

[@Maxincoolin]

Yesss! Thanks so much for watching!!

[@NallahBrown]

8:16 such a good point!!!!

[@lexibrown1358]

Great video, Max! Love watching your videos.

[@Maxincoolin]

Thanks for the support Lexi, it means a lot to me 💗🤗

[@katrinamai7564]

Yes yes yes! This all resonated with me too. Definitely taking your tips to heart! ♥️

[@kyuubi7523]

People who are romantics don’t always see eye to eye with these high maintenance friends , they’re entitled and tiresome. Romantic relationship should be on a higher standard and is for plenty of people and I would never settle for someone who is up their friend ass too 25/8 like this is high school . (Thank God my fiancée and I are on the same page with this) because life should be a great reason and being a gamer as well who don’t like being interrupted & as someone who deal with depression from time to time (where I can shutdown and work on myself) will never be a high maintenance friend. Being a Leo man I require my attention/love and will never settle for less.When I’m social I’m very social (the type do can usually make most come out their shell) but I can also only live in my own world with ease.Takes too much energy for high maintenance friendship and tbh I don’t see the benefits. I get all my need of my women , family support, and other real low maintenance friends. That high maintenance behavior to me seems like it’s people who didn’t grow up with enough love or attention at home or one’s who came from troubled pasts where they’re friend become the best thing to ever happen to them. .idk for sure either way.This is exactly why I will never require more than what I can give.

[@kyuubi7523]

Good video btw ❣️ , always refreshing to see another’s perspective.

[@anweih]

These are all really good tips, really resonated with this!

[@kaylawilson-bailey1466]

good convo!!!!

[@amandaamanda6157]

For me i just dont understand how people have the energy to have friendship at the same level as a romantic partner. Like i talk to my boyfriend every single day both on the phone and over text and we often hang out multiple times a week and like thats tiring enough energy wise :') If i had even one friend who i had a phone call with every single day and hung out with multiple times a week i would not have any time left in the day and i would just be utterly exhausted :')

[@kaylarogan8988]

It’s all about balance.. it’s not easy, but if your friends are important to you, you will figure out a way to make time for them just like you take time for your relationship with your bf. One of my closest friends is married & currently in school studying to be a doctor. She stills makes the time to build with her friends. I’m cool with us not talking/hanging out everyday cuz we are busy but making that time once a month/ every 2 weeks is important.

[@necabibi3558]

I don't need my friend to give me the same amount of attention they'd give their husband or person they're dating. Like, we're friends, we are not going to become as one flesh, like you do with a spouse, according to the Bible. Sorry I'm happy with low maintenance friends. All these high maintenance friendships feel like people are trying to fill a gap in their life with friendship, when it shoulda been filled with other things. and it causes this unhealthy high need for attention from other people