3 reasons NOT to adopt a child in 2024

[@Lucrecebundy]

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[@j-u-diy]

Soo spot on! Why something like this isn't mandatory *complete* viewing with psychology tests before all adoptions is odd to me..

[@lindsayerickson7293]

I don’t know about all adoptions, but fosters parents go through a psychological evaluation/interview, financial interview, home inspections, background checks, fingerprinting, etc. if they had a crazy outburst somewhere in their past it’d likely be found by medical records, psych records, arrest records, or during the psych eval itself. I don’t know how private adopt works personally but I have friends who went that route a few decades ago and said it seemed harder than getting top secret clearance.

[@lindsayerickson7293]

Hmm. I appreciate your videos. I’ve watched others in the past. I have an older daughter from a different father. However, my husband and I are infertile together. We have adopted our youngest daughter from birth. I can’t say I love one daughter more than the other. In fact, I fought so hard for our youngest daughter that I appreciate the struggle of fighting for her for 18 months more than the 9 month pregnancy of my first child. I love them the same amount, just in unique ways. Biological or not biological doesn’t make a difference in love and protecting, caring, nurturing, and parenting. In fact, this time parenting with a coparent is so much more calm and rewarding because I have a father who is by my side to raise our youngest daughter in her younger years. I can see how just not wanting to go through a pregnancy for the first time or again could be a very selfish reason for adopting. I can see how dealing with the “loss” of infertility could complicate an adoption with expectations. Perhaps your video is generalizing these categories. I’ll give you that. I just want other adoptive mamas and daddies to know that it’s absolutely likely they will love their biological child and non biological just as greatly! So don’t stop an adoption in progress just because you’re fearful your love will change. It won’t. It only gets stronger. ❤

[@erinp2945]

Agree!

[@kbran818]

My husband and I are currently in a situation where a family member is pregnant and doesn’t want the child. She currently has 4 other children that are not in her care due to drug addiction and financial hardship. The grandparents and other family members have asked us to adopt the child. We don’t have any kids and have been thinking about adoption. This video was so helpful. Please keep our family in prayer. Thank you for being so honest. We really just want to do the will of the Father!

[@legendarycoobbya5391]

Just found your channel and I love the acknowledgment and nuance perspective you bring to the complexities of fostering/adoption; as well as the feelings we need as parents for these kids

[@bms4654]

Just found your videos and me and my wife are in the process of adopting two teen girls here in the US. We have let God guide us and agree this space has very little if any faith. The self examination is super important and can be challenging if your doing it right. A second video to this could be "why you should adopt".

[@bms4654]

@@SB-vr2bc That is a lot of assumptions. We are not empty, and we believe that there are many types of "families" even if it's not blood. A adoptive child has loss, pain, and confusion. We want to walk with the child in there pain, guide them, and protect them. This is what we are all called to do for each other, we just chose to do it for the most valuable. If our kid wants to reunite we will be there by there said and if appropriate, expanded our family with theirs.

[@AntonAdams-t4d]

​@@bms4654adoption is greatest sh1t ever Abortion is better Also there is no god wake up

[@erinp2945]

Important to ackowledge that there are egg, sperm and embryo donor/adoptions now. A birthing parent is not necessarily biologically related to the child anymore!

[@lanawitmer4296]

Thanks so much Lucrece for the info and spirit with which you shared these things. I’ve subscribed and will be watching more!! May God bless you and your team

[@rebeccamurphy3516]

Thank you for this video and your insight. I feel that your ideas could be better explained, in that these three reasons should not be the ONLY reason why people adopt children, and that adoption involves a lot more than an ‘I want a child’ mentality.

[@KatieJerome7]

My husband and i have been dealing with infertility for years now and are considering adoption. Ideally a sibling set who needs a family. I've always wanted a family but never really looked forward to the newborn phase haha. Honestly we've tried to get pregnant because it was the cheapest option to grow our family, but Ivf is expensive man 😅

[@Chelelinda]

I didn’t particularly agree with you about not wanting to be pregnant or infertility because chances are the person wants to be a parent. I know some ppl can’t get pregnant and it could be an emotional thing that definitely needs healing. I think you should’ve pointed out or highlighted parents who just want to be parents because they are pressured from society. A lot ppl want to be parents for the wrong reasons. So for me personally I’ve always wanted to adopt since I was a child. I even wanted 10 kids. But I was also 7years old. Lol I have been pregnant before. But I got sick a lot and was extremely uncomfortable. I want to adopt because I want more children. I could careless about DNA. Whatever child god places in my hands. That child will be mine forever.

[@oldschoolguy80s]

You are right! I put my life to raise an ungrateful child who turned out to be disrespectful, lazy, rude, manipulative and selfish. I gave her the best childhood with gifts and holidays in great neighborhoods and great schools. Took her to all the doctors and dentists appointments, and I made sure she made it to college. Her younger brother turned out to be respectful, generous, hardworking, compassionate and I will bless him to be successfully in life. Never again!😢😢😢

[@jacquilauber5948]

I love love love this video! Thank you so much Lucrece for this amazing video. Excellence, have a heart for the children & about the Kingdom of God advancing! Amen & Amen.

[@GiftyJatuNeville]

Can I adopt my late sister kids from Africa?? I live in the us and my little sister had two kids but no men ever claim to father her kids. Our mother is also dead and I'm the only person, it was only she and myself.

[@FirefighterKWann]

Intresting video but I stopped right away after you gave the 3 reasons. You should really redo the title. It really is misleading. Truth is, my wife and I are in the process now, AND yes we want to save a child, but not how you say it. We want to bring love into the lives of kids, siblings, and show them that there is love for all out there, and with that they can be kids, and be taught how to be productive members of society one day. That’s saving kids, and sharing love. Huge difference…..

[@AntonAdams-t4d]

There is no love in this pagan world Only PAIN AND SORROW Also there is no god wake up

[@dominiquemiller1666]

I love her logic. This is amazing information.

[@SB-vr2bc]

I agree, with her. When we get in our feelings and fail to realize that not everything can be fixed, then we can live out best life. Adoption is a billion dollar industry or modern day trafficking business. There are so many bloody hands including the adoption agencies.

[@breckmst]

Also found out I would not have to report it as income because its considered an reimbursement according to the irs and if yo chose to keep the child 59 days you can file them as a dependent

[@breckmst]

I worked for an agency in texes called ocok in texas they have process for adoption, short term , emergency, respite and temporary placement. I now live in miami florida and found similar agencies im gonna go the respite and emergency placement route 30 days and less

[@kayleecarrington9270]

I have two sons already but feel called to adoption. However I did have very hard pregnancies and postpartum journeys. So I've always thought that a plus to adoption would be not being pregnant. However my main reason is the desire to be a family to a child that needs/wants a family. To love them and support them. Would you say that's okay? I want to make sure my head is in the right place before adopting.

[@thechris1102]

Thanks for wasting my time.

[@Handlename726]

Exactly 😂