The Struggles Of Being Bisexual Are Worse Than You Think

[@eternalagony3076]

As a bisexual girl, I always heard things from my parents like " you can only like boys or girls. Not both" or "usually bisexual people cheat" or stuff like that. And it annoys me so much. But at least I am not alone. 😅💜 Edit : and they says that I only think about sex which makes no sense but ok.

[@meli_andrea]

👐👐👐

[@raymightbeafrog7367]

Girl same. I didn't come out to my parents, but my friends be annoying.

[@crystal672]

Ikr like imagine a world where when you grow up you can literally like anyone without the need of identifying where you belong in the 'LGBTQ community' cause I do feel like if the world was actually like that as well as young people not having to decide who they are gonna like because tbh I feel like you can love everyone without having to say who you 'like' or 'prefer'. That doesn't really make any sense but you get my point:)

[@lSheena]

In my case, when I came out to my parents they said ''You'll end up choosing one, bisexual people always end up choosing one gender''. Im glad they dont think bisexual ppl are more likely to cheat, but this shit is still biphobia

[@nananaaaaaaari]

same, when i tell my mom i was bi she automatically said "YOU ARE GAY?!" and i was like "mmm bi mom, bi" and afterwards she start speaking about sex and how a woman cannot satisfied another woman and bs like that

[@connies3450]

People can't understand that being bisexual itself is not easy. We are not cheaters, we are not easy, we might tend to like one gender more than the other. That's okay. Figuring out your bisexuality is also not easy. If everyone else is sceptical towards bi people, imagine what we can think about ourselves. Please eduacate yourselves about the spectrum of sexualities and gender identities. It is very important.

[@LukeAlexander]

Κικη Π. Yes preach sis!

[@pippoppa8497]

Stop using the word “we” many bisexual men are like that

[@Riviwriter]

"Are you straight or gay?" "Yeah."

[@LukeAlexander]

Rivi D I’m always like “a bit of both”

[@sologuache3602]

That is so true that it hurts.

[@shyguitargirl]

*EX-FUCKING-ACTLY*

[@speyederdreams1747]

@@LukeAlexander same

[@mokivalera3563]

"its just a phase" from a idot

[@auroramazzoli2982]

as a bi girl when I had a crush on a man id ask myself "what if I'm straight and I've been faking it?" and if I had a crush on a woman I'd ask "what if I'm a lesbian and I've been faking it?" so the fact that society tend to put people in boxes and label them is real and asking us bisexuals to 'choose a side' is one of the worst things we could ever hear, because our patriarch misogynist and biphobic society wants to erase us

[@davidcarter8269]

Love is spiritual, gender shouldn’t matter. Deep down, I bet everyone is bi

[@auroramazzoli2982]

@@davidcarter8269 same

[@collan580]

@@auroramazzoli2982 Its not a woman only thing. If you are a bi man that means you are "gay" and you are just in denial. And some woman are weirded out that a man may f*ed you and its not manly enough.

[@auroramazzoli2982]

@@collan580 you're absolutely right

[@oliviaandersen4727]

Ppl will literally be homophobic or biphobic and then be all uncomfortable when you call them out like “oh I didn’t mean to” “oh that was nothing”

[@jm4rs]

We go through ‘Am I gay or straight?’ And that transitions into ‘Am I pan or bi’ it’s an always struggle. Shit ain’t leaving

[@sunmoon539]

This!!!

[@TheFuschiaDragonfly]

I know it too well sis...

[@lizh190]

******THIS*****

[@hihowyadoin509]

I know there is a difference but im still so confused if im bi or pan

[@nothankyouthanksforasking]

@@hihowyadoin509 It's the same damn thing. Bi implies sexual attraction to both genders, "pansexual" is just woke tumblr shit. Unless you want to fuck frying pans, then I guess you can describe yourself as pansexual in therapy.

[@oliviawescott5049]

Thank you for talking about these issues surrounding bisexuals. I really needed this. I am only 18 and know I'm bisexual. Literally I've dealt with biphobia in so many instances. Thank you for being the bisexual icon I needed.

[@raymightbeafrog7367]

Same.

[@antereaw6178]

You said that like most people don’t know what they like by 18 lol

[@abbielee6618]

Laura Lee better take notes from that intro

[@selfcompassionate]

and i oop-

[@chanelghostin6060]

i stopped watching ‘tana turns 21’ for this it better be good

[@riel917]

you bet it's good. luke makes amazing vids YOU SAW THAT CLIP IN THE START OF THE VID

[@positiviteaspillp1334]

chanel ghostin it is

[@brittanys505]

His commentary or the actual show?!

[@knezfikol5010]

21?! No way! I thought she was at least 25...

[@AdrianaLRoura]

Luke I love you so much ! I am a girl that is struggling to find my sexuality because I am attracted to both men and women but have only been with men and I get it is scary to put yourself out there especially if you are latin all of our parents are too conservative and not to mention grandparents! But I love how you’ve helped me to get in tune with my sexuality! Love you 😘

[@eagerturtle4791]

I'm a gay guy, and 100% agree with you. I don't understand why some people find it so hard to accept that bi people exist. Also, it's so awesome how confident you are about your sexuality at such a young age. I was still closeted at 19 years old.

[@frankwest5388]

A late answer but I belive the reason why people have more trouble with accepting bi-people than gay people is because they dont fall into a "clear box". If someone is straight like me, then it is easy to connect them to me. aka put them in the "like me" while gay people just go into the "not like me" box (reversed for gay people but you get my point). But Bi-people are neither and both. This is confusing. It also comes with a "make up your mind" mentality. I dont want to sound bigoted here but i belive that people tend to think in these boxes and what doesnt fit in those gets pushed away.

[@randomme2032]

@@frankwest5388 why people want to put us in boxes?

[@CouchToBarkley]

Luke: "I kinda wanna be with a girl right now" Me: *looks up next flight to Australia*

[@kimberlylippington5648]

lol

[@claud9.0]

Luke: "Now I feel depressed cause I'm single" Also Luke: *playfully throws peace sign* Me: OMFG THAT'S SUCH A MOOD💀

[@chelz7373]

okay but does anyone else think that it’s harder for bi guys compared to bi girls or am I alone here?

[@bruhjime2675]

100% . Like they expect guys in the lgbt+ community to be either flamboyant or in the "wow you look don't gay" category so anything else or in between is just wierd for them.

[@ischristinaok]

Definitely like bi girls definitely have problems but bi men have so many issues and it’s soo messed up

[@bigghugges5684]

@kitten I'm a bi woman and my best friend is a bi man. We definitely get the same amount of shit, just different kinds of shit. People think we're cheaters and whores, and that they cant trust their SO's around us. I tend to get fetishized more, while my friend gets shit for being more of a feminine guy. But I definitely wouldn't say that bi dudes get it worse than bi girls. Bi girls are seen as "just experimenting" or "just doing it bc guys think it's hot" :/

[@froggy3268]

Noo ur so right

[@katherinecovington4850]

They both have their problems. I feel like females don’t really like bi guys for some reason. Maybe they seem less masculine? Bi women aren’t seen as less feminine. However, bi women are also fetishized so 🤷‍♀️

[@tyhouston3611]

I’m a straight girl, and would be so down to date a bi guy as long as he is an amazing person that treats me right!💯💜

[@siqiguo4892]

Agree 100%. PREACH!!

[@j.h170]

Same! I don't care as long as we get along well.

[@stellakarlsson2326]

S A M E E E E E

[@evaleech1799]

This video covered so many important points and issues in our society surrounding biphobia, homophobia, sexism and toxic masculinity. Thanks for the amazing video

[@dayzedandconfuzed]

the “and i work at a grocery store” part of the intro was just beautiful

[@Maria-qh6cl]

It doesn't matter what I was doing, I HAD do click the video immediately

[@mothernature6790]

Ugh I hate it when my pants aren’t long enough to roll up🙄

[@LukeAlexander]

what does this mean haha

[@annafrech7934]

@@LukeAlexander sksk rolling up your trousers is like a bi thing to do, just like doing the peace sign w h e n w v e r you can

[@LukeAlexander]

Anna Frech ok but like I cuff all my jeans haha

[@joannacolaco480]

I feel hella attacked because I am only 4'6 and HAVE to roll up my trousers and the peace sign is a trademark thing 😂😂😂

[@ryanfoxx3142]

@@annafrech7934 this is a bi thing I do both of these alllll the time wtf

[@nottodaytay5858]

I just finished watching a bisexual Tik Tok compilation and was gonna look for more bi content lmao so this works out

[@bennyworm3380]

omg same

[@chimbirela]

“I like guys, but I kinda wanna be with a woman” Me, always.

[@LBGHughes]

bisexual gang where you at👇 we love you Alexander x ....especially me😘

[@embo138]

here

[@napatora]

WE OUTCHERE

[@azuku1780]

Here

[@bobby9548192]

Here

[@selenabodhnarain6582]

here

[@MikeS]

It's funny, I actually see more bi men ending up with women because of the societal homophobia. Even if it's harder to find an accepting gf, I think it's easier than being perceived as a gay man in society.

[@Amaling]

More bi men end up with women because there are statistically more accepting straight/bi women than accepting gay/bi men, and men can make biological children with women which is a plus. Heteronormativity is third on the list, and behind by quite a margin

[@collan580]

@@Amaling Depends on where you live. Where i live you cant kiss or hold hands as man-man couple. So yes its easier for me to be with a woman because i can live a normal life, on the other hand if i am in a relationship with a guy thats a whole different world. For me "proving" that im bi wasnt that hard because of my previous relationships, but i know that other bi people have a hard time especially if they are young and its damageing as well.

[@Serena-Vanderwoodsen]

Where the fuck do you see this? Lmao

[@golflefleur887]

Love this video and the message. I'm an asexual girl and acephobia definitely exists, and it's definitely problematic that there is so much hate towards people for who they do or don't have sex with. I'm sorry that you've experienced some biphobic behaviour but I'm super proud of you for calling it out, we need more awesome people to drop some truth like this. Stay fabulous!

[@Vitasaurus]

Honestly acephobia is, in my opinion, the dumbest thing ever, like why would someone hate on another person for not being sexualy attracted to anyone?

[@bri-kn8rf]

acephobia isn't real and asexual people aren't oppressed

[@idlesuperstition]

@@bri-kn8rf I'm sorry can you cite your sources, I wanna know just where in the fresh hell you got that from

[@idlesuperstition]

@Rebekah L from my own personal experience of being called disgusting and unnatural. It may not seem like it's a real problem, but it is. And it hurts. Badly. Especially coming from people who swore they'd never leave you alone, ever.

[@sunmoon539]

@@idlesuperstition that's definitely acephobia and not oppression.

[@gabriella2154]

As a BI girl..... I👏🏿COMPLETELY👏🏿UNDERSTAND👏🏿

[@pageantsmile]

GO AWF!!!!! as a bi woman, i appreciate you speaking out about the issues we face on a day to day basis.

[@chelseyasp]

I appreciate your openness to talk about such a topic. You genuinely bring up some points that I didn't think about before but need to be covered more. Amazing video as usual Luke. Keep up with the amazing work.

[@carow6244]

I think there's too much emphasis on 'labels' people like what they like in this day and age why can't people live and let live 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♂️🤷‍♀️🤷‍♂️

[@SamFioreMusic]

“I like guys, but I’m also kinda sick of them!!” Honestly a mood though!! I thought it was just me tbh!! Lol 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 😂😂

[@cierra7246]

i'd like to personally dedicate this video to: 1. the lesbian who called me "wishy-washy" in 9th grade for being a bi girl 2. my toxic ex-friend who would constantly make jokes at my expense and be fake sexual with me with the sentiment that i "probably liked it because i'm bisexual" 3. my ex who stayed worried about me leaving him for a girl and, 4. the multiple women in my life who have a problem dating bi guys because they find them less masculine

[@aliceadventure2954]

Just want to thank you for the video. I've recently got into a relationship with a bisexual guy. As a straight girl who's never met a bisexual person before, I did get scared with all the "he'll leave me for a guy" stuff going in my head. But we talked and he said pretty much all the things you did, but hearing it from someone who is not involved made me feel a bit better and kinda made me laugh at my fears. And I'm glad I went for the relationship after all, I'm very happy with my partner.

[@mikaylamani]

this is really annoying, i’m bisexual, everyone knows this, i’m very open about it yet my friends insist on calling me gay/ a lesbian. (insisting that i haven’t come out as a lesbian yet) i’ve explained that i’ve had multiple guys i’ve liked and literally told them about guys that i’ve slept with yet they still call me gay. yes at many times i may lean toward girls more than guys but that’s how bisexuality fucking works, it’s rarely 50/50. i know that they have no malice behind it but it’s getting really annoying

[@collan580]

It can be anoying, they shouldnt tell you what you love or who you are. Its really not a 50/50 cut. Sometimes i just get anoyed of "problems" with woman and just prefer guys and sometimes the opposite happens and then i will prefer woman.

[@katelynmueller4859]

I came out to my mom as bi three days ago, and she said that she went through the same thing when she was my age and that I’d get over it in a month

[@LukeAlexander]

Katelyn Mueller that sucks I’m sorry

[@lenixoxoxo]

As a fellow bisexual, thank you.

[@Bagelsarelife]

Thank you for speaking about this, I feel like nobody talks about these issues that so many bisexual people go through.

[@NayNay97xoxo]

A bisexual icon!!! thanks, this helped me confirm what I was already feeling about my being bisexual

[@jesstaylor7815]

You are on point most of the time but as a bi girl I’d like to point out that, in my experience, although it is initially a turn on for guys eventually it develops into jealousy. Like you were saying with straight girls, they become worried that potentially anyone could be a threat.

[@chelsie2767]

My brother and I are both bi and while I’ve definitely had my issues in the dating world, namely women thinking I’m just “experimenting” and men just thinking I’m in the closet or assuming I’m slutty. However, my brother has it so much worse. Lots of girls will call him gay, and he’ll try to open up to some guy friends and they assume he’s coming on to them. It blows my mind that even in 2019 people can be so obtuse about sexuality. Thank you for this video Luke. I stan. I normally don’t do this but I need you to know that you hearting my comment made my week. I think you’re amazing and can’t wait to watch your channel hit a million subs.

[@indiighoul]

both my dude best friends are bi and my other best friend is asexual and i love them dearly. i'm bi and i'm picky as hell (and i have rlly bad trust issues which doesn't help). in the past three years i have crushed on three people (two of which were out of my league lol) yay.

[@ryanfoxx3142]

"ReliGiOn 🤪🤙 iS a Social ✌😙CoNsTruCt✋mAde 🤘 by men 👊😮"

[@myesharose9819]

Agree, I'm a Christian totally see the bullshit with all religions including mine sadly.

[@stellakarlsson2326]

Sis yaaaaa

[@sau1_g00dman]

That is downright sexist

[@randomme2032]

@@sau1_g00dman how?

[@davidperrii]

Luke this sermon was so empowering and totally on point, Bi-Erasure is rooted in this system!

[@katiagrella7035]

Also I'm bi💖💜💙

[@MalMagLog]

Me too:)

[@mori5271]

Yea you and every other teenage girl lol.

[@ella-bellelillian4813]

Sacred Supreme you’re the type of person he’s talking about in this video

[@kfkkfk7995]

@@mori5271 yeah sure

[@mori5271]

@L lmao all the teenage girls getting triggered

[@gothicwitxh4918]

I remember when I came out to my parents. My parents thought I was coming out to be fitting in with people at school. I was like no that's not the case at all.

[@ur1truloverr]

When I came out as bi this girl I thought was my friend started bullying me because I should've only liked one gender. She also told me to prove it.

[@serenaramirez9563]

i stopped reading a fanfic for this

[@j.h170]

Now that's dedication. 👌

[@renashillingford2329]

Where I live, being bisexual is some sort of trend. Most of the girls say that they're bi when they're really not (I say They're not because I've been with a couple of "bisexual" girls who literally asked me to be their girlfriend, then after a while they stop paying attention to me and get a boyfriend or male crush while we're together) I used to identify as bisexual but now, I label myself as a lesbian but I'm starting to feel like maybe I'm just afraid of being bi because I feel like if I say I'm bi then I'm just trying to fit into the trend. My friends often say that I claim to be lesbian but my actions don't match up with my words and I usually get defensive. It can be really frustrating for me sometimes.

[@mmeyerson473]

with all of the El Paso and Dayton issues, i needed a Luke Alexander video.

[@nottodaytay5858]

I love my best friend and she's been one of the only people from my irl life to accept me as bisexual but when I told her I wanted a girlfriend she said "Yeah, you should experiment." ... With time this triggers me less because I know as a fact I would be extremely happy dating and yes having sex with a girl, and straight people never get questioned about if they REALLY ACTUALLY like an opposite gender crush before dating them.

[@ButterflyRoses-]

NotTodayTay I have a friend who is bisexual but she is more on the straight side but I love her for who she is

[@pilargarigali777]

Omg literally the other day we were talking with a friend of mine about “not being Gay enough” for being bi and oh god it’s such a drag it pisses me off soooo much thanks for this video love u

[@MollyLikovich]

from a fellow bisexual, THANK YOU FOR THIS VIDEO!!!!

[@PaigeMiehls]

that intro gave me whiplash

[@bhargavii.r]

thank you so much for this video. as a fellow bisexual and a woman of color, the struggles that i face are not often portrayed or even acknowledged often, and to see someone like you, an influential person and especially a bisexual man, speak about these kinda of things, is truly impactful. i related to it so much, especially when you talked about the acceptance of gay people vs. bisexual people and biphobia. thank you so much for making a video like this, it honestly made me emotional (but in a good way!)

[@dedoubecool]

3:28 that was so cute haha _I'm bisexual. Namaste._

[@aliciamoulder7989]

Despite the fact that I'm only like 4 years older than you, I've always felt this proud motherly feeling watching your continuing growth. You are amazing, and you set a great example (I promise I'm not an old lady). You do you, and keep on keepin' on.

[@girlwiththearchives]

"And honey, my response to that is.. porn." You crack me up Luke 😂😂

[@connies3450]

Thank you. You really try to put us bi people on the map as individuals. Everything you said is so on point. I hope people watching this video re-consider their views towards bisexual people. PS. Please speak more slowly, I had to add subtitles😂😂💖

[@ivanaisailovic1776]

I just want to gush over how amazing my mom is.Ever since she found out i'm bi when we talk about my future instead of saying husband she says partner and i didn't notice it at first since the transition was so subtle but when i finally realized i was really touched.

[@lejolilapin6287]

I really appreciate this video. I’m not bisexual myself, but these issues are really toxic to everyone and is honestly just setting us back in general. I haven’t seen your coming out video, but I admire you for making it and talking about your struggles. Coming out was hard for me because most people don’t even believe asexuals exist. But I do understand and identify with a lot of the struggles bisexual men and women have. Particularly people thinking you’re lying about your sexuality or that it’s a cover to cheat. Thanks for speaking out! You were heard by at least one! (Probs more than that because these comments are hella supportive! Keep up the awesome work!)

[@jessw.6250]

Who fell deeper in love with Luke after this??? Maybe that sound creepy... But better than saying who hates him

[@Apathybutter]

I feel being anything other than straight is a problem. Even if your someone who doesn't think to much of it others make it a big thing. It's sad that people are so afraid to show what what they like and who they like because their family may not except them.

[@-orion-6359]

Thank you for making these videos!

[@lammylam203]

THANK YOU FOR SAYING THAT BI'S CAN BE PICKY!!! a lot of people have told me that I'm bi, so i cannot have a preference beause i HAVE to like everyone.

[@yasmintaylor7957]

I was the most confused person ever finding out my sexuality. I was really upset whenever I'd switch from girls to boys. It took a year for someone to tell me that I wasn't being some kind of weird player, which I thought I was, but I was actually bi. I didnt know it was a thing because no one told me.

[@carmen_rose_444]

Finally someone is talking about this. As a young bi woman i’m usually told i’m confused or slutty or edgy 🙄 i was once even told to pick a side, like ummmm no thank you, i’m not erasing myself and my identity for your biphobic ass PERIODT

[@blue-qh5ye]

I feel you dude, I’m in a serious relationship and unfortunately his dad has underlying worries of me cheating or liking a girl more even though I’m literally in a happy relationship. He’s getting better and means no harm but it hurts ya know? Like if I’m genuinely in love why on earth would I cheat? People just assume we will bc we like guys and girls but I’ve never met a bi girl or guy who has cheated...

[@DrJKrein]

finding this emotional truth preaching on a quarantine youtube quicksand is awesome. amen

[@soniafaust8]

This hits home. Recently came out as bi and no one in my family accepts it. They tolerate it which I’m thankful for because I know it could be a lot worse. But it really hurts when you overhear your parents saying that it’s just a phase and I’m just jumping on the trend. Also it frickin sucks cause I can’t have sleepovers with anyone anymore😂

[@aleportillo321]

Luke needs more subscribers ! So young and yet so wise.

[@saint_mau]

I know that gender is a completely different topic but being nonbinary I can relate to the struggle of the society telling you can only be "this or the other™️" or " you're just confused™️", and discrimination from even our own community

[@pauline1072]

THANK YOU for raising this subject. Its soo important and seems like so few actually think about how society works and why we act like we do. Kind of the first step to be able to make a difference. Awesome video!

[@mcleanephatha]

The Intro Was Everything😂😂

[@valenciahidalg0]

You spoke so much truth in this video.👏🏼 People are always trying to find something to judge you about. Can you imagine if everyone just minded their own business and let people be who/whatever they wanted to be? Wow, what a concept.

[@jaydeo7850]

"You're not bi! You're engaged to a man." Um, bi means both. I can be engaged to whoever tf I want. And I still think girls are cute, so. 🤷‍♀️

[@konokawaki1537]

yep

[@alexr.138]

I know it's an older video but thank you. Excluding being beaten by a few guys I thought were my friends when I came out to them, one of the most frustrating experiences was two of my gay friends I came out to saying if I've 'been' with a man then I'm gay and being with women in the past was just me hiding in the closet. I'd never been so hurt then when I was made fun of by people I thought would help me understand myself and also be myself. Your video let me know I'm not alone. (I know I'm not, but it was good to hear how I feel from someone else and put so elegantly)

[@mh3732]

Me: watching Georgia Bridger’s videos about being bisexual *Goes to subscription box...* Also me: OH MY GOD LUKE READ MY MIND

[@mh3732]

Frida Bradbrook 💖💜💙

[@tonkababic9826]

THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR TALKING ABOUT THIS. Honestly you said so many great things and not to mention lot of things that people are to scared to say. And maybe it's me but as bi myself I know so many bisexual that are turbo picky. I feel its mostly what happen with how media represented bisexuality.

[@shayanneavalon7723]

this is very interesting, even my bisexual female friend said that when a guy is "bisexual" he's really just gay and her lesbian girlfriend agreed

[@keithm.3456]

@Anna Si - it's True Bitch

[@siobhanm9690]

thank you for discussing this and bringing awareness. i definitely think it’s harder to be a bi guy due to all the factors like heteronormativity you talked about. bi men get mocked and bi women are oversexualized

[@davidantoniobp4]

we need more representation for bisexual men PERIODT.

[@pagolainaki7175]

I love your profile pic.

[@georgemonroe]

people***** :)

[@gingerfarrah1207]

Love this video! While I am straight, two of my very close friends are bisexual. I really appreciate the representation and perspective. 💕

[@pollygotacracker9396]

I haven't watched the video hit I just want to say My sister is bisexual and when she started highschool (a girl's highschool) she made sure to tell her friends she was bi not that it's a big deal to her but because it may be a big deal for them. Anyway she found out a few new friends of hers were pan and gay. The reception was as far as I know positive so I mean I guess it just depends on the people you see on a daily basis and their perspective on sexuality

[@Definitelynotabot4]

For me being bisexual girl is hard because it just feels like you constantly have to prove your not just straight.

[@danikasweeney6818]

Omg yes this video is so good, I can't believe I'm just seeing this now. It can be really hard to be a bisexual and also hard to be a Catholic bisexual which is what I am. 😩 It's so hard to find acceptance from gays and straights. Also in response to 12:14 in Catholicism, fun fact, God doesn't have a sex or gender, we just call "him" by male pronouns because he's seen as a father figure in our religion.

[@fantasyflirt1811]

first -- Luke you are super cute/hot/attractive how ever i should say it lol i'm pretty open to whatever so i've always replied when asked that i was bi curious. I don't have enough experience with girls to know, but i'm not going to exclude it fully. I personally don't get labels when it comes to someones preferences because there are so many factors to consider. I hope you find the person to make you happy. I also hope the world would make it so all things would turn out well for us all.

[@serenaramirez9563]

another struggle, except this is more a personal struggle yet it's still pushed by media, that i've thought of is that some bisexuals are afraid to be in a heterosexual relationship or do anything the someone of the opposite gender in case they lose their 'gayness.' in the lgbt community, it you haven't noticed there's a lot of heterophobia at times and so bisexuals can feel pressured to just be gay and not fully embrace bisexuality, even though it's a valid sexuality.

[@hgumhold]

Luke... I love your style, I love your comedy, I love your commentary, I love your insights - how can someone have such a great personality?! You are a role model to me and I am already 24!!!

[@fatimahkhan7502]

No one : Me a bisexual : NODDING MY HEAD VIGOROUSLY BECAUSE SOMEONE FINALLY SOMEONE SPEAKS OUT ABOUT IT.

[@sagecholly6163]

you make so many good points in this video - really gets to the roots of why people have a problem with bisexual people I never thought why people had these views before

[@ischristinaok]

I get this as a bi girl and it’s definitely harder as a bi guy. Love you for bringing this to awareness.

[@cameronfindlay4136]

I love how unapologetic you are about your opinions. I completely agree with everything you said in this video and I love having a KZbinr who actually cares about and is informed about important issues ❤️❤️

[@bruhjime2675]

We get shit from both sides and for what? I was called picky because I want a normal person for a partner and I just... I'm an adult with a job looking for another adult with a job with a good fashion sense and decent time management skills why is that so hard to find ??? I do have crushes on people but I lieterally can't get turned on in any way unless I clearly see the other person is into it like I can't imagine doing it just because I personally want to.

[@user-nl5tx9jb7u]

As a girl who is new to accepting my own bisexuality, I found a lot of very educating points that applied to me. No one talks about this enough and I had to learn about this stigma the hard way. I tried coming out to my BEST friends (not in a sentimental way but i made a hypothetical but i think they knew where i was going with it) and i was dismissed as straight. They said stuff like, "You're the straightest person ever" or "would you have sex with a girl?" Instead of letting me be open about my emotions they went down a checklist as if there is a definite definition that they "know" I wouldn't fall under because I'm just "confused". This was the first time I was dismissed as straight and it hurt because i expected to be accepted. Because you went down to the details (in this video and your coming out video) I finally understand why I find it's hard to be accepted as bisexual. My rejection led me to be closeted (only one person in my life knows I'm bi... maybe some other ppl bc i blurted out my sexuality while drunk). I thought i was rejected because "maybe i am straight" but now I know for damn sure that it's because of a stigma that is not my fault. I like both and I'm not gonna fucking change that.

[@cicconna9814]

No one: Luke : HONEY btw you’re my fave youtuber 💖

[@haliwebb-shafer2056]

THANK YOU FOR MAKING THIS VIDEO I AM SO GLAD SOMEONE ONLINE IS REPRESENTING US BIS

[@laurenthedreamer]

first Jessie Paege makes a bi video, now this one. My bi self is living 💜

[@comfortb4style565]

This is spot on. I'm a feminine bi guy who is also picky and super loyal, and it def can be a struggle finding people who understand that we aren't confused, cheaters, or just gay. I feel like I'm invisible (or ignored) sometimes, or just straight up disliked by people who don't fully understand bisexuality.

[@gracehattabaugh2979]

Instead of "is" it should be "are"

[@sophiepike8161]

I think "are" is correct cause "struggles" is plural

[@_Maehem]

YES, THANK YOU 🙌🏼 this entire video is hella spot on, but especially when you mentioned that Lesbians won't date bisexual women because they feel like we're experimenting or claiming to be bi for attention or are more likely to cheat. I feel that on a spiritual level. {Warning: kinda long post} When I like a woman, I never want to mention that I'm bi because I feel like every time I have in the past, its just automatically disqualified me in their mind from being a potential partner. And it really fuckin sucks to be rejected based off of your sexuality rather than something reasonable, like idk, personality. Because of that, I feel like I'll end up with a guy in the long run, not because I'm necessarily more attracted to them but because they're way more accepting of bisexual women than lesbians are (though some for the wrong reasons). Which in turn most likely feeds into the whole "bi women do it for attention/are experimenting" stigma since the majority of us end up with men. And just because I have more "options" when it comes to potential partners, doesn't mean I don't have self control and will just go out and cheat every two seconds. Some people are loyal and picky as hell (like myself) and some dgaf and go hoeing around, it depends on the person but has nothing to do with their sexuality. I don't even feel like I'm a part of the LGBTQ+ community (even though I literally am) because I'm not "gay enough", or I've been made to believe I'm not. In the one place where I should feel the most accepted is where I feel the least. Figures lol Even though this post may say otherwise, I'm confident in my sexuality and I do feel accepted in my small corner of the world (San Francisco), so I'm good. I'm just salty as hell 😅

[@lailaj4011]

I’ve heard, correct me if I’m wrong, that one of the reasons why some gay people are so unaccepting of bi people is because they feel like it threatens what they’re fighting for, for example the idea that being gay is a choice is legitimised by the concept of being bi. (Not saying it’s okay to be biphobic though)

[@ZoeThomson00]

I hate the whole "But how do you know if you're even Bi if you've never dated/kissed/been with a guy/girl?" like BITCH I DON'T NEED TO CHECK!!! CRUSHES!!! IS THE ANSWER YOU'RE LOOKING FOR

[@antoninaivcenko7261]

One Person in my class: "BiSeXuAl pEoPle aRe jUsT cOnFuSeD." Honey, no.

[@lambdamale04]

totally agree