Dating Women of My Caliber

Season 1 Episode 11 | As we bring this season to an end, I invited my brother Cyhi on the show to discuss dating a woman of my caliber. Over the years, Cyhi and I have had countless talks about dating, love and relationships. I appreciate his perspective because he gives it to you straight, no chaser. Join us on the couch to listen to our raw and unfiltered conversation.
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Hosted by: Crystal Renee Hayslett
Producer & Executive Producer: Dinorah Peña
Co-Producer: Chanel Gross
Video & Editing: Kvle
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[@sheenaj]

Crystal, you different baby. It’s gone take that same energy to resonate and align with you. It’s going to HAVE to be a GOD thang. 1 of 1 type of situation. I know because I’m in the same position. Lol 🫶🏾

[@kimbrown8882]

You are so right. Chrystsl is so special. God's annointing is so heavy on her that she has no choice but to wait until the one God has created for her is ready to accept his assignment to go get her. HANG in there girls, i'm in that season as well.🙏🏽

[@sherrillbutler6095]

I remember writing letters to my boyfriend and mailing them to his house when I was 18 years old we eventually married and he saved all the letters and cards that I had sent to him❤

[@n.m.cfitnessnhealth9727]

As a 28 yr old man i do d same thing wit my gf write love letter nd it just makes her smile like just blushin but she d only girl i love d most bc i didnt send luv letter to other girls at my school bc they knew i just wnna hve sex...but my current gf being together for 9 yrs she d one i fell in luv wit

[@allathaalla-tha8450]

She can't put out enough content for me. I have been so inspired by her. ❤

[@laura_renee]

Same here!

[@discovertheknownllc]

Crystal, I feel really strongly that you are to be still and let your king find you. He's coming, he has no choice because it is his destination sent from God. You WILL have the happiness that a man and woman can provide each other, in Jesus name, amen! Love you!!!

[@KEEPDISCUSSINGCHRIST]

I pray you are able to receive what I'm about to say with an open heart, which I'm sure you will. When you mentioned getting ready for a date you said it's stressful because of the make-up, hair, getting dressed, etc. I thought to myself when I heard you say that, why doesn't she switch it up and don't do all those things. You are BEAUTIFUL! You don't need make-up, wear your natural hair and wear something dressed down with comfortable shoes. GOD is going to show out on your behalf when it comes to your husband, continue to TRUST HIM like you've been doing! Much love ~KDC~

[@chabridgettumusiime8994]

Me too 😊same thoughts. Why does Crystal try so hard she is beautiful...open an ice cream business and your hubby will find you 💕 you are given beauty as a Heavenly gift . Opening an ice cream business would be an great environment for other girls to meet with potential hubbies

[@annedumornay95]

Season 1 was Spiritual, Emotional, Hilarious, and felt like an online community. I really appreciate Cyhi's male prescpective. Shout out to a sensitive thug! 🥂🙌🏾🎯💯

[@NeikaBless]

Congratulations on ur first season Crystal...Love every episode. It was a amazing season with a lot of laughter🤣 life lesson❤ sad moments😢 and I know season two going to be marvelous...can't wait! May God continue to bless you Crystal Renee, nuff love 🙏🏽🤗❤😍🥂

[@sashalovecrazy1]

I’m kind of sad. This is the finale, but I know when season two Hit I know you’re gonna to come even harder. We love you, Crystal

[@DDD-re6vl]

Love the podcast, we still approaching the men that’s what I got from it!!! I heard his points and keeping it friendly

[@tdablack11]

@@DDD-re6vl Yea he never really responded to the actual question which was basically "how can a woman NOT have to approach men". His response seemed pointed more towards AFTER the approach and connection vs the beginning. His point was very valid, but did not answer the question.

[@askpam9558]

@@DDD-re6vl And some of these men are so ignorant, approach them and will try to make some women feel like shit. There's another one of these pod cast, woman hater YT videos -directing men on what they should do if a woman approach them first. Of course, its negative. I will post it if i find it again.

[@tiffanymoss-robinson7407]

I can't believe this was the season finale. Your podcast was just what I needed. I can't wait until season 2. Thank you Crystal

[@DDD-re6vl]

@@askpam9558 thanks appreciate that you so right

[@kionaholmes1711]

All of Crystal episodes has been heartfelt and relatable so far throughout her season 1 podcast. Can’t wait for season 2!

[@knl5330]

The best part of this episode was after the end with Crystal's producer speaking in tongues and Crystal running due to the biblical conversation you all were having on sex and marriage. Love it!! ❤❤

[@NeikaBless]

That part 😂🤣😂

[@divinetruthmessages]

CRYSTAL YOU ARE A BEAUTIFUL WOMAN WITH A BEAUTIFUL AURA ABOUT YOU. NOT MANY MEN CAN ACCOMODATE A WOMAN LIKE THAT. IN FACT, GOD IS PROTECTING YOU FROM THESE MEN, SO BE GRATEFUL THEY DON'T APPRAOCH YOU. BE YOUR AUTHENTIC SELF, DWELL IN YOUR FEMININE ESSENCE AND WATCH GOD WORK!! THAT MAN IS EVEN WATCHING YOU PRESENTLY IN YOUR LIFE AND SOON HE WILL PRESENT HIMSELF. ALL THE BEST QUEEN!

[@lashundarice5869]

I love this

[@roslynevans4842]

"Making God your advocate." Building friendships before romantic relationships. Inviting men to the environment with other like-minded people to take the pressure off of dating, but enjoying life while having fun and becoming friends, then allowing those friendships to blossom into more. I love it! I have evolved so much listening to/watching your podcasts, Crystal. Thank you for the love ❤️ I'm looking forward to season 2. In the meantime, I plan to Keep It Positive Sweetie 😊♥️

[@AyaNichelle-gi9cd]

"Anything you gotta keep a leash on is not yours." FACTS!!! Say that brother

[@PrettyBrownRoseGold]

Congratulations on season 1 and thank you for your vulnerability and point of view. Can’t wait to see what’s in store for season 2. And shoutout to Cyhi…..one of the best lyricist PERIOD.

[@ogenna_]

“It’s difficult for people that grew up with both parents” 💯💯

[@andrewn7683]

I am a Jamaican living in Canada. I ain't the social media guy but I enjoy watching you doing your thing on KZbin. Keep it short and spicy as possible, let's us crave for more....

[@Mzzg]

I really love this episode. I loved hearing Cyhi's point of view. I love that he is so down to earth. The ending though🙌🏾🙌🏾😂😂

[@patrishasmith76]

I'm a lil 😢, this is the last episode! I have learned a lot. I will miss this! Thank you crystal. You have helped so many people through this broadcast. Can't wait for next season ❤.A+ for me.

[@DDD-re6vl]

Agree

[@Vybez01]

"Love is an art within itself" Real talk! Great conversation. Bruh speaking on it.

[@keeslermyers7338]

Your producer better preach!!!!! Being raised in the church, holiness at that….I did it my way. In 2019, I surrendered my “body” the temple of the living God back to Him. Sleeping with multiple people IS NOT OKAY and it separates us from God. When Jesus told the woman at the well (as the producer was saying…) go and sin no more…..God wants to be your everything before you give everything, especially to the wrong person. When you “ seek Him first” (Matt 6:33) you open the door for God to move and show you who they are before you commit. Sin separates us from God and His best. Love this episode as well as the others.

[@brendabeloved5501]

THE ENDING WAS EVERYTHING...STRAIGHT UP WORD REGARDING SEX OUTSIDE OF MARRIAGE...WITH THAT I SAY KEEP IT FRIENDLY...NO FORNICATING...LOVE THE REAL 💥🔥#WOMANOFHOLYSTANDARDS 💣

[@valeriebillings7248]

Great dialogue!! I have single friends that are experiencing the same issues. It’s tough out there but I still believe in the old school way of dating. Guys pursuing the woman. Nothing wrong with a woman shooting her shot if she feels it’s best for her. As far as going out of your way for a guy to see you I don’t agree. Trust me guys see you. It’s just the “right” one seeing you. As Crystal said keep it friendly. The right one will find you. Definitely believe in getting out there whether to cookouts to party’s. I agree with Crystal nothing like meeting a person through a mutual friend. I’m a bit weary of those dating sites as folks lie about their appearance and everything in between. I would say focus on getting yourself together and even if you have it all together still focus on you - mental health, self care , etc. So when your guy comes along you two can build a healthy relationship. If it doesn’t work, don’t force it. Let it go and Thank God he has someone better.

[@BetterLoveMovement]

YES!!🙌🏽 We keep making excuses for men based on “well, it’s 2023”. Last I checked, a woman is still a woman. A man is still a man. Evolutionary psychology says not much has changed in 2,000 years. We keep letting “the culture” set the standard for us. God is the same yesterday, today and tomorrow. Consistency and stability is what His word offers us. We need to keep our eyes on Him. Friendship IS in fact the key to a healthy relationship. We need to get back to that. STOP giving men #freesex. Connect emotionally and spiritually first.💯

[@valeriebillings7248]

@@BetterLoveMovement Well stated! 👏🏽👏🏽💜💜

[@raymondbennettjr.8845]

Always appreciate your energy I express comments only for a selective few on KZbin because I know it helps the algorithm I just wanna give that genuine support to the people who deserve it looking forward to the next video tomorrow blessings queen

[@beez2013]

Congratulations on a beautiful, heartfelt, lesson giving season.thank you for putting God 1st n being your self n being relatable as the subjects you have discussed.season 2 can’t wait.blessings 🥰

[@felicia4933]

Oh, my word! The process of getting ready to go out might be taxing. That is the sole reason I refuse to date. I'm broken, and I attract broken men. I lost my husband 12 years ago, and I believe I never fully recovered. Being broken and feeling abandoned is not a good combination.

[@monique.thenurse55]

Crystal. In our age group and dating in this generation, and time is very difficult specially, when we got ourselves together, and we looking for that partner, that’s equally to us,is very hard. Old school with my grandparents were married for 67 years until they passed away a few years ago. That’s the type of love I want something else ever lasting I’m not settling so I’ve chosen. To remain single by myself for so long I just stopped having interest in dating right now because these men have motives That are not good intentions. To avoid being hurt by any man. I’ll just pray continuously and wait on God that’s it.❤

[@Clara-s6z]

I truly agree with "whom u want to share ur foundation with" well said.

[@darleneb02]

Congratulations Crystal! on Season 1, we're just as excited for Season 2 as we were for 1. We love you!!

[@kamishapayne1313]

Congratulations on your first season, which was a huge SUCCESS! I enjoyed every episode and can’t wait for season 2! Love you Crystal🫶🏾

[@jenillerichardson456]

I'm so gonna miss these conversations I've learned so much from you Crystal Renee you have truly change my life 💯❤️

[@renitab664]

I was waiting for the rest of the convo at the end, Crystal! You should have kept recording! 😆🙌🏾

[@alvinashikoyeni588]

The ending was so powerful spiritually ❤

[@traciemcdonald5757]

I always enjoy the podcast!! Thank you so, much for the positive vibes!! Continued Blessings Crystal❤❤

[@melissamanning8081]

Congratulations on your first season. Your podcast is awesome. It’s gave me so much. Looking forward to season 2. Crystal, you’re a blessing for so many.

[@aaliyahjanaeee]

Really sad that this is the finale but this was an amazing episode and a great way to end the season. You've taken us on the journey with all the podcast episodes from; emotions, laughter, advice, and even provided us with some information from your personal therapist, thank you for this podcast Crystal! I cannot wait for season two, I know it's going to be big and you're going to bring even more to the viewers.

[@landellecollins]

This episode was amazing! Both of you were great.

[@paradise504productions]

drop more of the behind the scene please!!!! the end was too funny. I'm ready for season 2 already

[@rashekawilliams5036]

Congrats on season 1 Crystal and the KIPS crew. See y'all soon for season two. Some amazing gems to re-watch, relearn and find what yo might've missed the first time. 😇😇😇🥰❤❤❤

[@safijae377]

We caught a run of a good word on the series premiere & the season finale ❤️😂 Absolutely lovvvve this podcast!! Can’t wait for the next season 💯

[@unicornqueen5694]

Been so busy I missed the premiere of this episode, but this season 1 was amazing I’ve learnt so much from this podcast. I love this for us. I motivate everyone to listen to KPS so ready for season 2! 🎉

[@kimbrown8882]

Lol......Thanks Dinorah for sharing the word with love😂...It's been such a beautiful season.....Be blessed KIPS Family....Let's see what God has instore for all of us next season......😘

[@user-mimic-w4u]

I’m new to the channel and I love it already! Congratulations Crystal 🎉♥️

[@stillirise4401]

The eye flutter and 2nd "I'm so sorry" LOL! Congrats on a successful 1st season :)

[@lovejessrob]

Y’allllll. I NEEED to hear that conversation with Dinorah and Cyhi 😩😂 she was talkin gooooooood

[@TheCommonSenseExpert]

He's in his late 30s and hasn't been in a relationship since his early 20s. Why is he giving relationship advice? This why so many people messed up listening to the wrong people.

[@eloisesmith1768]

Congratulations, on your first season on your podcast. I enjoy and watch every episode hope you continue on this path .❤️❤️❤️🥰🥰🥰

[@kenyatahall5682]

It was the ending for me 😂😂😂!! Speak the word!! Yessssss

[@ShandaLove-vd5rv]

I really enjoyed your podcast Crystal waiting til the next season . Thanks so much

[@nolimitlain]

who doing it like crys!?? NOBODY!!! 💐🔥

[@khadishab6381]

I can’t believe this is the season finale! 😩 Season 1 was beyond AMAZING! Thank you so much for this podcast and creating a community where we can all learn, grow and heal together. I loveee youuu! ❤️

[@towandacooke5700]

Thank Youu Cyrstal for Season I .. Season 2 gonna be either Better🎉 Blessing to you 🙏🏽 🙌

[@Trice_Marie84]

Awww finale already?!?! Can’t wait for the next season and more from you!!

[@maxinec1616]

Four minutes I'm and I already like what her guest is saying. "Be judicious in your approach, let a man know metaphorically that you like him ". Oooh that was good!

[@veedaboss]

Congrats! Cyhi made lots of good points. I really think yall should post the full conversation of that ending because thats some good topic right there

[@lakeshiaholley2018]

I loved every episode!! Each truly touched me in some way!! Can't wait to season 2!! Keep being a light and keep doing your thang!!

[@MarilynBlack-u8e]

Hey Crystal! I love your podcast it is so uplifting and positive!! Can’t wait for next season, I know it’s going to be amazing!! Love you and God bless ❤️❤️😘

[@Strength860]

I’m a man that just found God spirituality, mentally and emotionally. So I want a woman on the same type of timing with God as well. For me it’s okay if she has a pass that wasn’t good who am I to judge nobody perfect God forgives. I think as men/women as we get older we supposed to get wiser and better at making better choices in Life in which we have to find ourselves. Then we could do some soul searching and find our soulmate in which God will bless with one day we just have to be at the Right place at Right time. With that being said I want a woman who is goal oriented. Loves to laugh, spends time, laidback, and be Family Oriented.

[@TowannaLoweHarris-Realtor]

I understand his point about a man being emotional and getting the support of his woman. He may not want to discuss it at that moment but would rather us say “when you’re ready to talk I’m here”. However, I do think that he needs to open up and say something so she’s just not left hanging.

[@kimbrown8882]

Yay!!! Tuesday hurry up and come....Hi Chrystal!!....Last week didn't feel right without my KIPS Family💛

[@brendapkindred]

No, it wasn't the same without family!

[@tonyam8741]

Congratulations on Season 1!! Looking forward to the next one!! 🎥🎬🎞🎉🩷✨️

[@andreasanaya447]

Your episodes are definitely enjoyable, informative and interesting and I will miss your podcasts until next season. However, his perspective on certain topics was a bit skewed. I appreciate his transparency but couldn’t get with a few of his comments. Oh well… to each his own….

[@jacquelinehutchinson9968]

Keep doing what you're doing Crystal. Sometimes when you approach a man first, they throw it back at you later! Be careful if you decide to make the first move!

[@queenbebe4985]

Love it . The ending had me cracking up . 💜 💜 💜

[@preannasmith5563]

There it is right there - Don't MISUSE someone

[@annedumornay95]

This was a Word 🗣

[@jatipp]

That conversation at the end 🔥

[@Reeses710]

Season 1 was amazing, can't wait for the next season.....Cyhi gave some good pointers for making yourself available & creating a comfortable environment to meet people--gotta pass that on to my girls!! Luv the episode, cont'd blessings! #KIFS #KIPS🌟

[@EshaRenee]

Love your channel and following your journey 💜 I really enjoyed this episode with your friend Cyhi and getting a male's perspective!!! Looking forward to seeing more great content!!! Your name is Crystal Renee and I'm Ieisha Renee🙂

[@larrytan73]

You gained all my mutha fucking respect! Cyhi! Cyhi! Mr."No Dope On Sunday" This is different! I love how raw and honest your content is!

[@veganladymyles5855]

I’m new to the channel and it has help so much thank you for sharing 🎉

[@Isabella_R.V]

Notification on Ma'am ❤

[@ebonyspencer7708]

I love getting a man’s perspective, it’s refreshing to hear what men are thinking or want. Keep it coming sweetie!!

[@valerielewis2986]

🗣️🗣️A Word Was Said In This Season Finale 💯 I Caught That !!💥💥🔥🔥🔥🙌🏽🤎🫶🏽

[@kimsjewelryjubilee]

I absolutely LOVE, LOVE, LOVE, you, your Crew & all of your guests! Keep up the Great work Crystal Renee...Much Love!

[@DaKiyaBanks]

Congratulations and many blessings to you Crystal and Cyhi thank you for this magnificent and insightful episode and season overall. Im so excited to experience more of the magic you're bringing to this space

[@knicholson8762]

This was definitely an insightful conversation. He has the most beautiful smile 🥰. Queen keep it coming I look forward to watching 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@razoraikens5567]

i love how his GOING THROUGH and his GROWING THROUGH meshed together... that made a lot of sense...Once he has removed the devil the growth has happened.

[@vanessabaker6747]

Sometime you or him just have to pray and let God, because he already have the right person for you or him, but you or him have to wait on God. Be patient and let God do his job!!!! Love 💕 you as always!!!!

[@charlottebryant]

Congratulations Crystal this season in your is amazing keep shining ✨️ your light on us 💕 thank you so much for every moment cant wait for season 2 blessings to you always ❤️!

[@HelenSanders-tu4fd]

Congrats on season 1!can't wait for season 2.I really enjoyed your podcast show!you are a great humble person in love that. God bless you. ❤.

[@MaryMSmith-ov3mj]

Let there be a second season! fr. I am enjoying/appreciating this show so much Crystal, your gusts are amazing and the insight/advice is invaluable. Thank you for doing this podcast; and looking forward to the second season should YAHWEH say the same. Peace and Continuous Blessings!

[@tannyshayearby8698]

I love what he said about creating an environment.

[@lifeandstyleatlanta8689]

I vehemently DISAGREE with Cyhi! He said women shouldn’t emasculate men, but in the same breath he says a woman should approach a man. NOT! The RIGHT man will approach YOU! Period. If he’s intimidated by your success or your energy, that simply means he’s not the man for you. The relationships I’ve seen where the woman made the first move never work long-term. Why? If a man is interested in a woman, he will approach her. Crystal, put yourself in a position to be seen by the caliber of man you want to date. Also, accept that your man may not come wrapped in chocolate wrapping paper.

[@lashundarice5869]

You said a mouthful… love it

[@damilolaolarewaju1291]

He never said woman should make first move he said women should create an enabling environment

[@BetterLoveMovement]

AGREED‼️ If you want a man who will LEAD you effectively, he will pursue YOU! If you approach him or lead the initial interaction, you may find yourself continuing to do this. Last I checked, I’m a biological woman and I want to stay in that space. I want a healthy MASCULINE man, not a girlfriend.🙄🤦🏽‍♀️

[@lifeandstyleatlanta8689]

@@BetterLoveMovement 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@lifeandstyleatlanta8689]

@@BetterLoveMovement Love what you said. If we truly want men who lead, we can’t start out leading the relationship. We’ve got to fall back and allow them to be men. Too many of us are playing our position AND theirs too.

[@kehilajean4419]

I’m here for the last seconds of this video😂😭I loved it!

[@alaceyashley522]

Wait, I'm only 3 minutes into this interview and I had to stop and do my research. CRYSTAL, I love you girl but CYHI?! I remember the first time finding out about him at 106&Park Cypher or Freestyle Friday performance or something when I was like 15 years old. Wow, you're really doing God's work lol .. s/o to you! Back to the episode lol!

[@damiahwildgoose65]

I really enjoyed this season 1of your podcast it was fire very inspiring 🔥🔥🔥 can't wait for season two of your podcast ❤️❤️

[@chabridgettumusiime8994]

❤❤❤thank you Beautiful Crystal and your guest for this episode! Sending you love, light and good wishes from beautiful Kampala City, Uganda, Africa ❤️🙏

[@shelleygilbert8652]

Congratulations🎉🎉 Crystal on all your levels of success!! May I please ask where you purchased that amazing lucious sofa?? It's so generous with comfort; you have great taste!👊🏾

[@shereeslater980]

This Episode is such a God send!!! Thank you both for this #Blessings

[@HBSugar1106]

I love his point of being in a committed relationship and allowing his lady to get a hall pass knowing men go "soil their royal oats" at the same time. That's dope he said I would pay for the car service and the room lol. 😂😂😂😂😂😂 that's a mature, open minded, modern man. Someone schooled him lol. I respect that especially if you're on your way to getting married and settling down to raise a family together too. You need to know this person is all in 100 percent too. Great advice!!! ❤❤❤❤ and enjoyed this season.

[@imjustsaying670]

i didn't understand much of what he said. Love your braids and home...beautiful.

[@rwallace0110]

The end took me out. I would have loved to been and that conversation. 🤣🤣🤣

[@supportdmv00]

This episode was so informative. Thank you your guest Cyhi he was awesome ❤

[@mikemorris4950]

Really enjoyed that peace you was taking about..writing letters what made me who I am..😊

[@Techsi751]

Outside of the asking man thing, I loved this episode! It was extremely open and refreshing

[@tinawilliams9067]

Crystal we have the same birthday but decades apart LOL. You are a lovely person blessed with discernment and vision. Trust it.

[@cortneybrown54]

I’m so happy Cyhi is here 😭

[@krissit1874]

Good episode always good to hear a man talk about being vulnerable. I like to say women that’s trying everything to find a mate is the reason you’re not finding them focus on what’s in front of you not just being in a relationship and it will come out of nowhere and it will be the right one because you weren’t desperate for it. Most men go on dating apps for hookups never to find love and your conversation’s let them know you’re not looking for that so they go quiet.

[@sduduzosikhakhane9396]

Please invite Stephen Speaks for relationship advise even if it's a video call like the anxiety episode. It'd be nice to have you ask him a few things for your girls over here😅

[@philaneenfun]

Yes he is so good ❤

[@justkiyasway]

Agreed..love his books

[@ashleighhinton740]

Or Devale

[@katlark]

Yes he’s my relationship coach! He’s one to have on. Iykyk Ask him these same questions about men. He provides Godly sound advice!

[@philaneenfun]

@@katlark and he is licensed 🙌🏽 a-lot of people are just saying anything g without proper training and research.

[@natashaallen6358]

Congratulations Crystal so so proud of you and the things you’ve accomplished I’ve really enjoyed the first season of kips. I have learned so much from your podcast keep doing what you do love you sweetie ❤

[@NadiaPink]

BOOM MY ACTIONS SHOULD BE ABLE TO SPEAK FOR MY EMOTIONS! I am running with that, men are action based!