Sooo, about dating.

Dating is the topic everybody loves to discuss. It feels like we covered everything in this conversation. Dating according to our “types”. Dating non-Christians and the like. Why men aren’t “choosing” and more…
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[@palesakhena]

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[@hey2930]

Man I was chilling with this man and he -Was baptized -Goes to church - Great dad And this man COULD NOT keep is hands to himself and was too hyper sexual! I IMMEDIATELY went home. Like that’s embarrassing. I cried because dating as a Christian is heartbreaking with people who KNOW God but don’t follow all of his commands. Edit: I LEFT AND LITERALLY 4 DAYS LATER GOD SENT MY HUSBAND! I WAS OBEDIENT AND GOD BLESSED MEEEEE 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 I JUST WANTED TO SHARE MY TESTIMONY I WILL BE GETTING MARRIED 5/11/24

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[@hey2930]

@@ariseandshinewithsonia285 THANK YOU❤️❤️🙌

[@joabphilosophy2138]

Dang I ain't no woman but what her mom said is deep! "A fine man that doesnt act right will always become ugly"

[@bohlokoamile991]

Louder🔊

[@anissa2361]

Yes this is so true!

[@MiilyGarcia0119]

And I think the opposite applies as well, he may not be all that in the looks department but if he love God, act right and work hard he’ll become handsome.

[@joabphilosophy2138]

@@MiilyGarcia0119 😆

[@Mere...Greene]

As the saying goes, "Handsome is as handsome does."

[@carolinejepkorir9653]

"until a man proposes,he is not your husband"felt this one

[@israeliana]

Yes and really, until you're married before God he is not your husband. So many people jump before the finish line. It's better to marry than to burn. And some men will propose just to get husband privileges

[@queengkzi3942]

@@israeliana honestly i think people forget that sex is marriage biblically speaking

[@NaijaCINE]

This isn't given?

[@NaijaCINE]

@EliteAthlete15 you should have the wisdom to interact with women towards exclusively dating one person towards marriage

[@israeliana]

@@queengkzi3942 yep and that's why we should not be having casual sex. Why tie ourselves physically to people in a spiritual marriage if they are not our spouses

[@ThinkingLikeAVIRTUOUSWoman]

“If we’re confused, it’s because we wanna be confused”. - You’re right. God is always speaking, but it’s up to us to listen.

[@TheWayWalker]

I disagree. Some people genuinely want to hear God but have difficulty discerning the voice of God. This can be due to immaturity or also due to blockage from spiritual warfare. It may also be that God is being silent due to the person being in the wilderness time of testing. It is not as black and white as it seems on the surface.

[@QuesaDia05]

💯

[@alexisperdue2125]

😮‍💨😮‍💨

[@lydiarogers5828]

“Everybody isn’t a hater. Some people are just discerning.”

[@victoriasarandis3301]

CHILLS🔥🔥

[@________1516]

🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯

[@carolyn5701]

🙌

[@tewanalynch4571]

That stood out to me too

[@Sandrinarhonda]

Exactly!!!

[@AshleySampson]

"Impatience can lead us into all kinds of idolatry" WOW WOW WOW. This is good!

[@charlotterandolph1973]

That part!

[@drivensw1]

Facts

[@86Kera]

And I would like to add fear as well

[@priscillalynn1330]

Preston pouring his heart out : “ I prayed for you”🥹 Jackie: “blush” 😐 y’all crack me up

[@HereComesTheSonASL]

Ahahaaahahh

[@mikaylalemons2181]

Lol 😂

[@NanaHoneyB]

🤣🤣🥺🤣🤣😭🤣 so wholesome

[@MalSpeaks]

“Maybe your spouse isn’t saved yet” changed my whole mindset

[@QuesaDia05]

Crazy thought

[@therealkirko96]

Man… this has been a thought for me

[@Miss_DaniD]

I was prayed over at a church conference this weekend, and my intercessor mentioned that too. I began to pray for my future husband and ask the Lord to break all chains of bondage and sin.

[@SharonAtTheBar_]

Everyone is a “christian” until they want to encourage you into sinning against God with your body. Often times they are handsome, smart, motivated and work hard but don’t KNOW God and want to drag you into sin with them. Choosing someone who doesn’t know and love God leads to sin so will end in pain and heartache. Stay STRONG!!

[@krii998]

Yeah but christians are not any better, everyone is messed up. I know christian women who married non christians and they treat them better than a christian would. Oftentimes christian men become toxic and abusive. Plus not to mention the sexual problem. We are not supposed to die from loneliness and burn with passion our whole lives. What if that "magical christian prince" never comes across? Some women are sadly mistaken thinking waiting for such a long time is good. In biblical times ppl didn't have this problem because they married at 16 but nowadays it's nearly impossible for young people to wait until they're 30 and above to get married and stay celibate at the same time. It's unrealistic.

[@ogechukwuokpala9607]

What I find confusing is born again Christians who are encouraging you do tow close to the line of purity?! I'm like are you not reading the same Bible/listening to the same preaching? 🤔

[@jaybrick8973]

yeah I fell for a beautiful woman that led me into sin she was a christian which I believe she was she told me how are we going to be together an we not having sex an we wasn't married at the time I was confused at the time an should have stopped talking to her but lust is a strong emotion an just was blinded by her beauty wish I was stronger in my faith

[@alyssawesley3137]

🙌🏾

[@pitulovelive]

THANKS FOR YOUR WORDS. GOD SPOKE TO ME THROUGH YOU. THANKS YOU❤❣

[@vanessajanik4623]

Jackie’s point at 20:52 is 🔥 If God can save your unbelieving husband he surely can bring you a candidate who’s already saved.🙌🏼

[@Actavella]

Except when he doesn’t and you’re almost 40. That’s when your faith is really tested but God is still good. And even if a husband never comes, living for God is still the only way to live and totally worth it! God is good!

[@sophiaa594]

@@Actavella Amen ♥

[@BluDrop5]

@@Actavella Don't be fearful that your age will preclude you from having children (if that's, in fact, what God wants you to do). If Sarah had a baby at 99, surely God can make it happen for you. Or, perhaps, there are other routes (or conceiving) that you and your husband can explore.

[@tiffanyhoag805]

Whew! Hope lept in me honey

[@janeg1575]

Amen 🙏🏻

[@portiamachingura4249]

Jackie : “I can’t imagine you running” Preston: “..from the police” 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@jaydontcare]

that part had me crying 😂😂😂

[@smg3250]

When you're from the south side of the Kingdom 😭🤣

[@tonikola20]

I missed him saying that the first time! After hearing it, I played it multiple times in a row 😂😂

[@laceywallace7726]

One of the best parts 🤣

[@kemotembwe8940]

I've been looking for a comment like this! Finally😂😂😂

[@BreenyLee]

"for the men who tie their shoes up really tight, that's a character trait" lmaooooooo 7 mins in and I'm crying!

[@narie__b4799]

I nearly passed out from laughing!!!🤣🤣🤣

[@elizabethboateng5467]

I was looking for this comment 😂😂

[@blessedtugz1252]

I’m happy to see Breeny here she inspires me ❤

[@recenew]

Lol

[@juanitaibisi3599]

“God is too good a Father to leave us confused, if you confused, it’s cause you want to be confused”🤯😂 so deep.

[@FayeInTheCity]

“I wanted somebody who probably sold drugs once upon a time but they gave they life to Jesus.” Same, Jackie. Same! 🥴😂

[@__princess_d_3]

Lmaooo same!!!

[@Lodeenie]

Me too

[@caligurl90]

Spoke to my soul!

[@MsRockstar013]

Love your channel Faye!

[@misskaykay1856]

A saved bad boy 😂😂

[@alloysa]

“A fine man that doesn’t act right will always become ugly” 💯💯💯

[@Bbrock1984]

So I’m not the only one that sees this?? Maaaaannnnnnn this see them everyday

[@graceabwooli3326]

So glad Jackie touched on the the fear of age and fertility in women. It’s easy to just finish these types of conversations with ‘be patient’ without any empathy or regard to real issues/concerns.

[@Varaidzo1]

Exactly thank you

[@dyanimoriah]

Absolutely! It is not talked about enough. It’s a very real fear. I have PCOS so my fertility is already on the line. But whatever is God’s will, so be it.

[@mikaylalemons2181]

@@dyanimoriahkeep praying and have faith 🙏🏾✝️ The Bible says that if you delight yourself in the Lord, then he will give you the desires of your heart 💜🔥🙌🏾 (Psalms 37:4 )….And also make sure that you’ve repented of your sins and is truly seeking God and turning from your wicked ways and trying to be a righteous person because the Bible also says that the prayers of the righteous availeth much; meaning that the prayers of a righteous person has great power and produces wonderful results 🔥👏🏾 Be encouraged sis 🥰

[@unamordiezdose5579]

NOPE. Smh And that's why women are not permitted to teach. When you do speak... it's usually right after making the wrong decision. If God is good (and He Is) AND, God Is all powerful ( That would be omnipotent and He Is) , AND you have FAITH that doesn't flex. THEN it doesn't matter how long a person needs to patiently wait on The Lord. Because In Him, all the limits, constraints, times, and boundaries are removed. I've heard Him called, "The God of the last minute!" LoL I regularly called Him, "The God of the last Second!" As I matured in my faith and grew in the knowledge of His Grace I realized "the last Second" still does not accurately describe His habits for His Word records that Jesus Himself spoke concerning this, explaining that there is purpose in His delay. ( Side note, "The Lord is not slow to keep His Word, like many understand procrastinate or dilly dallying. No, He Is patient towards you. Not wanting anyone to have to die and go to hell." My own paraphrase of 2 Peter 3:9 you see? There is Purpose in what seems to be His Procrastination. In this instance, it's "so that none would perish.") Read the accounts of Christ raising Jairus' daughter from the dead. All three accounts, in order, start with Matthew's. Then read John's account of Jesus raising His friend Lazarus from the grave after four days of being dead. And this is so important, the account of Issac's conception. From two people the bible says who's bodies were "as good as dead!😵 Heb11" If you would only believe, then, you would see. It doesn't matter ”when” you meet your spouse, or how old y'all might be. Because for those who delight themselves in the Lord, He knows the desires of your heart. Just like the one amazing night that God gave 99 yo Abraham and 98 yo Sara POWER (🥳🥴😴) to conceive Issac, so also as Eph3:20 again, my own paraphrase tells us that, "According To The Power That Works In You, He Is Able to give you good things beyond your wildest dreams." Couple things on that 1. According to the Power that works in you. Could be understood like according to how much faith YOU possess. 2. The use of the word Dunamis in this verse and the use of the word In as in ' The Dunamis at work Inside of you' versus ' The Dunamis at work Because of you' makes me consider that this verse is not putting the emphasis on how much faith one might have, but instead on the ability of God's Holy Spirit. So have faith! Because God is Good All the Time! That means even for the doubting Thomas out there! Who should instead have a greater level of trust in God yet still doesn't; BUT does sincerely, "delight themself in The Lord", it is possible to still be eligible for these wonderfully kind acts of God! Simply because He wills to do it out of the abundance of the Love, Grace, and Mercy that He has for us. He's the God that prepares a table for us, in front our enemies! Trust that If you think your time has expired, or you simply "always struck out." If it pleases God, He is more than capable of putting you on first base! Even of giving you HOME. 😎 😉 May God richly bless you Amen

[@Miss_DaniD]

This topic is so very important. When people keep asking me about having children, I adamantly tell them that my standard is to be married first (especially to a man of God). I refuse to bend on that desire. My desire to have children inside of God's Will, does not outweigh my desire to birth them in general. I have peace because I think of God's promise to Sarah.

[@erickaj7373]

“The twinkle was lust!?” 😂 Killed that man’s good core memory 🤣 Dang! Thank you for this podcast.

[@revinacheptala7650]

I was going to write this if nobody pointed it out 😂😂 I love the switch up haha

[@markmuchina]

Preston’s love island just took a tumble. 🤣

[@Sandrinarhonda]

😂😂😂 fr be killing his moments

[@Sarah_1Noemi]

The “why are we sharing this?” Took me out 😂😂

[@hlengiwekhumalo9926]

"The season you're in isn't punishment, rather it's protection. "

[@deborahcarter2123]

"...the season we are in is not punishment, but for our protection." Powerful, insightful and spot on! Say it again!!!

[@Miss_DaniD]

Amen

[@queenoulali]

This 🙌🙌🙌

[@Dlcm21]

"Th-the twinkle was lust?☹️" I lol'd! This video was a blessing from beginning to end. Thank you guys.

[@esherivers]

“Especially if your framework for being a Christian is theology and not fruitfulness.” My Godddd 🙌🏾😩

[@biiscuittea]

This right here , had me on the floor slainnnnn 🔥🔥🔥

[@JoshuaTCoe]

But the fruit of the spirit is... and against such things there is no law. 🔥

[@charmainehardy-hill1444]

This hit me 😢🙌🏾

[@txdiva09]

y'all are hilarious! this was a great talk. "the twinkle was lust, that wasn't the spirit" 🤣

[@ItsEverythingEuodia]

That killed me🤣

[@cguilla49]

So many funny moments but HERE is where I flattened! Lol

[@timbawangu3038]

😂😂Very hilarious. I enjoy these two

[@Agnes.shines]

Like I went 😂😂😂

[@2breezyrn74]

😂😂”what?!” Yo was hurt💀

[@DedraJenelle]

"with a bad credit score" I SCREAMED! LOL

[@emmamccoy8381]

I can tell you EVERYTHING Preston said about the trials of NOT being married to a man who loves God is true. When things go wrong you pray he gets a beer, you go to church with your kids then 1 day your kids say can we stay home today and he says sure you can. When money issues, work issues life issues come up and you need your husband to pray with you, for you and over you .... IT DOESN'T HAPPEN! You may think these things are ok and you can deal with that but you really don't know what that's like. As Jackie said DON'T be that person who says "I'll pray he/she accepts Jesus as their Lord and Savior" that could be 20, 30, 40 years from I DO ... believe me you don't want to go that route #beenthere #itisnotwhatGoddesiresforyou #waitonGod

[@walkingwithlisa]

Thank you for sharing this is so good! My husband and I get into it and when I’m mad I always think it’s the worst but one thing I always come back to is that I’m thankful he loves God because atleast he listens to God and let’s God grow him. I made that my top priority when dating guys and I’m glad I stuck with it!

[@thobilemhlongo6456]

I know this from experience

[@I.am.RosaMarie]

Thank you.

[@missjamerica6461]

Thank you for keeping it 💯. You’re a blessing

[@HerTruthSpeaks]

This was needed !!!

[@rohneshamhorne]

Jackie & Preston- Wow. This video hit home for me. I am 40 years old, never married and no children. I struggle with the fear of never getting married or getting married after I’m able to bear children. I was tempted to date non-believers but I just couldn’t do it… I felt like I was being disobedient and lacking in faith. I did determine that I’d rather be alone than to settle. This dialogue was incredible. Thank you both for your ministry. It’s helping us tremendously. God’s continued Blessings!

[@natarapssweetheart]

Sister just a word of encouragement. You’re on the right path. I pray that the Lord reveals to you his plans for your life in that area. If it’s not of the will of God for marriage, I pray that he uses you so mightily & that your life be extremely fruitful regardless of which. But if it is in Gods plans, I pray that you indeed have a victorious marriage! A huge testimony to go with it! And if there was any evil veil covering you from the eyes of your husband to see you, that it be removed now! Love you sister! God got a blessing with your name on it.

[@SL_5555]

I relate, sis! I’m 41 going on 42 and the only men I seem to be attracting are men who don’t know Jesus. I’ve been tempted to date them because it seems like I just don’t meet Christian single men who are interested in me. If I were to date a man who doesn’t know Jesus, I know sexual purity would be nearly impossible. I haven’t dated since I gave my life to Jesus (2 years now) and this been messin with my mind lately.

[@aubriellemorgan]

This is me 💯 Glad to know I’m not alone

[@dreadservicegetcrowned]

I know how you feel , turned 33 so the fear I totally understand.

[@dionment]

Tonight I pray for your strength...May God who saved you, continues to keep your mind and heart and grant you the desires of your heart according to His will.

[@HelpDHelpU]

“Our impatience is not leaving any room for that person to come along because we’re busying ourselves with people who aren’t good for us” 🙃🙃 I have a really bad habit of doing this… im in a situation now that I know I shouldn’t be in this just confirmed even more that I need to let it go 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@Christelletv]

Literally

[@HelpDHelpU]

@@Christelletv Girl I am a witness that, that was a word! Literally right after this episode I cut that person off & now a year later I’m in a happy relationship! I say that to say, if you have someone in your life that you’re dating or, a situationship that you’re considering ending because it isn’t serving you, let it go! Make room for God’s pick to come! 💜

[@butterflybri3168]

@@HelpDHelpUWOW, congratulations sis!!! That gives me so much hope. I done cut them ALL OFF and I’m like okay GOD it’s just you and me (which I love) but I am ready for more 🥲

[@Lynn-fu7fs]

I like how real this couple is.

[@medline5140]

The right timing! Dating is so hard these days!! There are not enough quality men out there. If I meet a Christian man they are usually not in tune or abuse the word of God to their advantage. There are a lot of Christian men who aren’t waiting til marriage nor have a solid foundation with God. I defiantly dated unbelievers and believers (they say they love God but live their life differently) and it was still hard and it didn't work in the end. I’m 29 years old and it’s hard when I hear the comments about why am I single as if something is wrong with me. I am focusing on my career and bettering myself but I also desire marriage in the process. The path to success can be a lonely journey but I refuse to settle! This video was exactly what I needed to hear to stay encouraged!

[@ChiChi-sb4ys]

I’m turning 31 in 30 days and I’m a single woman practicing my walk with God. I’m not a perfect Christian but I’m working on fixing my relationship with God. It’s hard being single at this age but like you said, I WILL not settle. I’m trusting that God hears my prayers and will do what he does best and show out!

[@AshleyLoiseau]

It’s nothing wrong with you but what are your actions/ saying in these relationships? Are you feeding his flesh or his spirit? Did you say you was a Christian but finding yourself compromising or sleeping with him? Im not saying these are what you’re doing. This is just food for thoughts. Because, no men will respect you once they feel like they have a hold on you with their sweet nothing talks manipulations or even you giving up the cookie. No matter how powerful tongue speaking or word of God they have in them, as a woman you need to guard your heart. Like she said, don’t start acting like a wife until there’s a ring on your finger. Until he is committed to you because is He who find a wife finds a good thing. Not, he likes you, Date for 3 years and then makes you his wife. No, a wife he has already found in you and now he’s talking that step to make you his wife. Because who we are to God? ..His bride. So if you’re not preparing yourself and being faithful to God in your singleness and not using discernment, it’ll be an endless cycle. Let you find the right one not the one. There’s no such thing as the one but the right one for you that God place in your life.

[@fumsy50]

I feel u sis it is bad in the western countries. The solution is intercession for men and for our future husbands

[@fumsy50]

@EliteAthlete15 I agree. Both genders are traumatised and need healing

[@afuayeboah9149]

@ Medline🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@EWA765]

Please can speak also about friendship?? Because people can settle for friendship who don't edify them and don't be in alignment with God's will. Thank you for this video , is really great

[@AthenaIsabella]

Op! I need this!

[@lowkey_babe77]

THIS!!!

[@jezreel.chesed]

A video about friendship would be good I agree!!!

[@Ibelieveinmyself100]

!!!

[@uniquely_kylee1859]

They have one now!

[@redrubbies09]

Jackie is so honest. Thank God for realness and transparency in marriage, it’s refreshing to see. Pray this couple reaches many💐

[@elenachavez408]

I was tossing and turning not able to sleep over a guy I recently spilt with & thinking about all the things that I checked off that I thought were right about him and how the Jesus box was never checked off . God directed me straight to this podcast & 15 minutes in I knew that this was what God wanted me to hear. Immediately subscribed. Praise God 🙏🏼

[@meljesticlife9622]

I idolized marriage in my teen/young adulthood God knocked me right into reality when I got married.

[@sophiaa594]

Thank you for sharing.

[@las8883]

Same here

[@whitneymoore4507]

What is something you wished you knew before you were married?

[@iluvmari238]

Explain😭

[@nicoles4257]

Same

[@deebestest100]

I stopped entertaining unsaved guys because they just don’t get it 🤷🏾‍♀️ I had one guy stick around for months because he thought I would change my mind and have sex with him. Change my mind? On Jesus? Not gonna happen bro, especially not over you.

[@Godmysalvation123]

I love this!!! YASS QUEEN!

[@XxMercuriiXx]

They’re horrible

[@deebestest100]

@@XxMercuriiXx absolutely

[@shanx4170]

👏🏾👏🏾 Yess sis.

[@pampeeleshelton3401]

"That Part"

[@Superiorman923]

Jackie said something that hit me in the first minute. The pressure to praise God the way that others do.. and feeling like I could never be like them

[@Luwizi26]

Thanks for empathising with Christian singles. In my season of singleness it gets discouraging for me time and time gain but listening to you am encouraged. I am turning 39, have had fibroids removed and there is pressure to get a child because of my fertility issues. Love from the 254 Kenya🇰🇪.

[@afuayeboah9149]

@ Lucy, don’t settle because of the surgery. I’m 46 and had similar experience but I’m determined to wait for God’s timing. Remember He knows everything about you before you came into existence. Psalm 139:16b All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of the came to be.

[@Luwizi26]

@@afuayeboah9149 thank you for the encouragement. May God makes you visible in the eyes of the right partner and give you discernment in that season

[@leeshc5952]

(A year later) I just turned 40 and currently had an open myomectomy, single, waiting on the Lord. Praying but also losing Hope myself that I will ever become a wife or mother. Praying God moved in your life in the last year. ❤

[@tonimclean1299]

About waiting on God, the story of Sarah comes to mind. She was told that she would have a child and because it didn't happen at the time that seemed logical to her, she wen't ahead and decided that she's gonna help God. But she only ended up interfering with the events of prophecy. Sometimes we really just need to chill, pray and wait. Not easy but we will outline save ourselves so much disappointment. When we run ahead of God, we can't complain when it doesn't turn out how we expect it. We can use the waiting time to develop our relationship with God and develop our characters

[@itsyaaveragegirl]

The thing with Sarah is that G-d told her that she was going to have a child. G-d doesn’t guarantee that everyone will get married, actually the Bible says that we all won’t be married. So sometimes we feel like marriage is the end goal but Christ is the end goal. If you want to be married pray on it but don’t believe that just because you want it He’s going to give it to you. We also have to think to ourselves why would G-d give me to one of his children? What are the godly qualities I possess to even be qualified to be married and if I do not have them am I willing to pray and work on them.

[@-myranda-]

@@itsyaaveragegirl ❤💯

[@aisilrae]

"I am a very aggressive woman, I'm really dominant woman and so I need a man that is equally or more dominant than me." "It has to be clear that youre not afraid of me, then I can respect you" "You respect me but also able to hold me accountable." "Not a drug addicts, a drug dealer." "Pants sagging and you got hands but you love Jesus." bro she is speaking to me soul. my most inner self frfr all i want

[@alishasusanpacheco2403]

I now understand my issue

[@Lala-ht8ps]

Men that are sold out to CHRIST are never pinks. Unbelievers don't realize that.

[@GTwA819]

Im late to these 2. However, this absolutely hit me too.

[@daydreamerz]

What's hard for me, as a single person, is that the only people talking about the blessings of singlehood.....are married people. Where are the single Christians who are enjoying this season so much? This also made me chuckle. Jackie: Don't be impatient...single people have a unique blessing... Also Jackie: You're wasting your time and about to find yourself 40 and alone

[@aishamcdaniels2312]

Lol

[@mercymsezeni838]

That's it!

[@Ilayshaa]

My question also. The people who say to wait and be patient have the promise so its like… thats easy for you to say

[@sethsisneros8369]

Well, I've been single all my life (my dates & "situationships" don't really count imo) and I'm absolutely happy because of my walk with the Lord, despite 23 years of life with no real relationships. I struggled for years with being single and depressed but God worked in my heart through mentors and the Gospel. He changed my heart to make me realize that I must first be satisfied & happy in Him alone, because he is the only one who can wholly love us. In other words, if I'm not fully satisfied & happy in the perfect Creator alone, how can I expect to be satisfied & happy with another imperfect person in marriage? Paul's writing in ‭1 Corinthians‬ ‭7:32‭-‬33‬ (NASB) says: [32] But I want you to be free from concern. One who is unmarried is concerned about the things of the Lord, how he may please the Lord; [33] but one who is married is concerned about the things of the world, how he may please his wife, " He's saying that those who are single and following Christ have the freedom to serve God more and focus more on Him whereas married believers are focused on serving God & their spouse, meaning they have less time to focus on their walk with Him. That's not a bad thing for married believers btw, unless it gets to the point of idolization. My point in all this is that God is all we need and we should be happy to serve him while being single because we have the freedom to do so (this is also a huge point in Ecclesiastes)! Married believers lose that flexibility in life with their spouse, kids, etc.

[@kemotembwe8940]

Something can be better appreciated when you look at it from a distance. I think it's mostly married people who appreciate singleness coz they've compared the 'burdens' of singleness and marriage. But you remind me of Joseph Solomon. He gave me the vibes of "I'm single and I'm cool with that", but this was before he stepped out of faith and all. So maybe we need to search more of single people who are happy being single. Also, I don't think Jackie was being controversial or being as brutal as you put it. Remember the context; some single people date and go through so many people (many options).... Which is worse than patiently waiting for 'the one' and not fooling with anybody. The WAY you wait has consequences

[@melliemel32]

When she said “not a drug addict, a drug dealer,” I almost fell out my chair at work. 😳🤣🤣

[@c.j.promiseland6456]

Jackie was a blessing when talking about the patience needed while being single. Preston was on point about dating a saved person. As Jackie said, a person who is practicing the walk of Christ. We all seen those in church who claim to be saved and aren't. Nothing worst to pray and the Christian person you date won't pray, fast, read their word, and seek God for themselves. Waiting is worth it.

[@Cici-is9jk]

I agree. I’ve dated “Christan” men and was even engaged to one. But that lukewarm lifestyle isn’t it. You know how many imposters are walking into church, causing spiritual havoc to other singles in the church? Praying God covers us singles in our waiting seasons.

[@oreballin]

Marriages will face trials. Nothing worse than having to fight alone.

[@JeanineAmapola]

Hahahaha I love how honest she is about the lust in the end 😂

[@tatijoie]

I know! But you know what saddens me? That bunch of these comments are from single girls. I'm just wondering where are the guys at? Maybe there are christian guys but not in church? Lol

[@Sandrinarhonda]

@@tatijoie lol they exist in the military and some other areas

[@Sophie-jf1nl]

@@Sandrinarhonda ahh the military! And what other places?

[@Sandrinarhonda]

@@Sophie-jf1nl 😂 girlll I’m still looking myself but I would say Conservative men in general are more Godly than Liberal men . Church conferences such Transformation would be good too or other organizations.

[@jeypollard1953]

@@Sandrinarhonda As a woman in the military, yes there are way more men then women but good luck finding a man of God.

[@kekegwambe7262]

I just prayed about a situation that I am in and the Holy Spirit led me to this video! Thank you 🙌🏾

[@alterbridgefan99]

Love it

[@PortiaTukayi]

I am just like you Jackie, i don't do big gestures when I worship and I pray really softly, and it honestly made me feel insecure that I don't shout and scream and jump around. it also made me feel I'm not Christian enough.

[@TylynnMusic]

Don’t let your impatience lead you to creating a golden calf .. come on here somebody!

[@jasminemccutcheon6837]

It is hard out here for us singles. That opening up to the world doesn’t work. I have tried in the past. Waiting is hard but it’s RIGHT!

[@JoshuaTCoe]

The working of your faith produces patience so that you're perfect and complete lacking nothing. Stay strong in your faith dear one.

[@blessed3862]

@ Jasmine I agree.

[@shanelllynn2225]

Right. And I believe God made me a beautiful Christian woman and I’m believing He has a handsome Christian man okay!

[@mendesrodrigo7866]

Thank you so much for everything I believe I trust and I have faith in you God father Almighty and lord Jesus Christ thank you for your loving kindness and compassionate thank you I trust the process of life I trust in the flow of life and I trust myself thank you I trust in the timing of Devine thank you God for working my life thank you so much for everything I am grateful for everything that I have thank you I trust in the timing of Universe thank you for working my highest good thank you for providing me everything that I need thank you for all my guardian angels for supporting me and guiding me and blessings me everyday I received it all thank you I am so grateful for all the blessings after blessings and blessings everyday I achieve it all thank you I am so grateful for all the miracles and my presence I received it all thank you I am so grateful for everything that I have thank you for empowering me thank you for loving me for who I am thank you for choosing me thank you for the power I can transform my life thank you I can uplift myself thank you I can blessed myself thank you for fighting my battles thank you for being with me all the time thank you for today thank you for saving my life thank you I am alive thank you I am thankful for my abundance that surround me. I lost my job 2 years ago due to the pandemic and I was about giving up, but knowing God has brought me this far was for a purpose and I kept on looking on to him..The moment I was about giving up, I was introduced to a business by a man I met in a seminar I went to in Florida. This was not my first time hearing of such business but I took the risk Investin 1ooo USD and it was worth it. information@markhanfarmer , COM 4 weeks later I kept on getting earnings and I started using the money for Gods work. I am very popular in Texas. Doing Gods work always give me joy. There is peace and joy in my mind . I am here to motivate you and tell you never to give up even though the situation seems so though. God has promised his children and he will surely do what he promised his children.

[@brandonmshrock]

"If we want to be confused its because we want to be confused" SO TRUE!!!

[@jeansmith6418]

As a single 42 year old Christian Woman I needed to hear this podcast.. It's good to hear two Christians in the dating process trails and tribulations while waiting for who God has for them.

[@thabelom.9653]

They are married🥺

[@evelynreyes6716]

You have no idea how much I needed to be reminded of these things. I appreciate Jackie’s sympathetic perspective of the reality of what it means to be single in today’s days.

[@mercyndambuki7595]

Yeah ,she actually gets it

[@KytiaLamour]

This was a great discussion, and we can always count on you two not to give a “fluffy” message that tells people what they want to hear. Having a spouse that God picked FOR YOU is so important and I can attest to that firsthand.

[@nahambohilma8598]

🙏🙏

[@katrinadodd9015]

"A fine man that doesn't act right will always become ugly" Come on mom!!!

[@incognito5827]

Jackie: I had a lot of experience in the dating pool cause again, I was a lesbian Preston: Really? Jackie: I thought I told about it Preston: I forgot about it 😂😂 Oh these two hahaha you guys are hilarious

[@shareenladd1048]

Jackie’s comment: if you can have faith that God will save your spouse; shouldn’t you have that same faith that, He will send you a saved spouse! This is the best comment! Sentiments of my heart. We don’t have to settle. If we would just remember that comment. Powerful 🙌🏾✝️💜

[@boluwatifeoladipo7245]

Mehnn, this is my experience. This dude asked me out a few days ago and I haven't accepted and he is talking about sex. I kept telling him that sexual purity is a top priority. Sex has become the big deal in this generation. Well, it is a deal breaker for me.

[@BluDrop5]

You won't need to tell him more than once, if he actually respected that guideline.

[@israeliana]

Don't worry that's a clear sign that he's not the one for you.

[@brijjitgundy3081]

Soon as u say it n they continue. Cut it off

[@Iamrodisha]

“Holy Spirit cardio” 😂😂😂😂 You guys are soo funny! I’m glad I found a community that I can relate to. I use to think and feel the same way! If I don’t run or shout then I felt judged or looked at as “not saved”. God had to show me that of course that isn’t true and worship is in spirit and in truth (coming from the heart) so the way it naturally comes out for me is fine. ❤️

[@user-pe1bb1if5g]

It's so comical of the ways we manifest the presence of the Holy Spirit.... like Grandma's cry "Hoyyyyy' and the 'boxing match' Sister.😂

[@emmamccoy8381]

Jackie -I can't imagine you running .... Preston - from the police 🚔 🤣 ......... You can teach a man how to dress You can't help a man be a man 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@megangarcia9013]

The WORSHIP talk. Girl. I had a ‘leader’ (I now call her a handler because she controlled everything) come up behind me and raise my hands for me in worship. That was traumatic. It now effects my entire worship experience.

[@r.m5883]

That’s crazy.

[@cassiaomudu2736]

Whattttttt?!

[@megangarcia9013]

@@cassiaomudu2736 It sounds like an Aaron and Moses thing, but she said I wasn’t ‘expressing enough’ so she held my arms up for me- then shamed me for it later. ✨just culty things✨

[@telesamorrison2238]

My sister used to do that and others in church as well when I was little very forceful

[@anacaz97]

😯

[@rachellebattle]

I felt that! I’m right there, I don’t have time to explain why I’m choosing to wait for Marriage. Nor do I desire to deal with someone who is gonna lead me to compromise! I’ve tried and failed in this department and I can’t afford to fail anymore! It’s comforting to know that I’m not alone

[@sarynamontgome]

This was the most confirming, edifying and empathetic word for us in our season of singleness

[@corbanswain]

"I don't think it's God's heart to lead us apart from a community" So powerful!

[@Eringobraugh771]

Thank you guys for your real empathy and trying to understand... Too many married people try to minimize the struggle of singleness. So encouraging 🙌 "we start to feel as if the season we're in is punishment and not protection ...we have to be reminded that no, God really is good, He's sovereign and kind, and He's with me, I'm not alone in my singleness"

[@VanessaBasora]

THIS!!! 🙌🏽 🙏🏽 Ditto! 💗😊

[@misskaykay1856]

Absolutely well put ♥️🙏🏾

[@Adrenalean767]

Trust me,marriage isn't any easier.

[@Eringobraugh771]

@@Adrenalean767 Can they both be hard?

[@mmabath]

That part!!!

[@ailynpitt8986]

“How does this person help me to fulfill the Will of God in my life” yes yes yes 👏🏾

[@JanoreThaDon]

Recently discovered this couple. Thank God for you guys you guys are a real blessing to my life.

[@SheSharpNotFlat]

Requesting 1hr & 30min with the Perry’s please & thank you! 😂 Gosh, I love y’all!! The wisdom & transparency cannot be ignored. I appreciate y’all, fr!

[@MsTashamaria]

Can I second that!!!

[@iguana7050]

I love how well he receives her being real and correcting where corrections are needed. Yeah I'm gonna wait on God and pray on this more. I would love to be with someone with whom I can actually be a grown adult with and who can correct me when it's needed.

[@jsnow07grad]

I love that too!

[@flblackbutterfly1]

Dating someone who is not saved is not having crazy faith. It's disobedience to the Word of God. 2 Corinthians 6:14 Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?

[@philshamz]

When we can't find what we want sometimes we settle for what we don't need.😢😢😢

[@eboniarmstrong4401]

Honestly, this really encouraged me to wait longer (and to wait well- with my eyes on Jesus). Thank you guys for this.

[@francesmbewe8457]

"Everybody ain't a hater, some people are just discerning." 📌📌📌

[@jo__selyne]

“I needed somebody who you didn’t know if they were actually saved unless they opened their mouth.” I thought was the only one 😭😭😭 #mytype

[@johnnyeyong949]

As a Christian, my biggest challenge was being attracted to a Muslim, there's just so much difference between the religions, you think you'll figure it out with time , until you find yourself having to compromise on your beliefs , just to keep happiness between you two .

[@likeitsgoldn9200]

Haha the not wanting a corny man and wanting a man who “sold drugs in the past, but got saved” was sooo me, lol can’t even lie it still is. I don’t think it’s the actual drug dealing part we find attractive, but more of the qualities, provider, protector, leader, ambitious, street smart. 😂😂😂Loved this video, love y’all for giving your time and wisdoms to us youth 💗💗💗

[@kaylaali-joseph2303]

I was with a guy that she described. Sold drugs but got sVed, baggy pants but lacked work ethic and maturity and responsibility

[@likeitsgoldn9200]

@@kaylaali-joseph2303 praise God you got saved, won’t he don’t he do it!! Didn’t mean for it to be a blanket statement, but there are those that hold those qualities and those that don’t.

[@Silinganiso]

When Jackie said, “blush,” I thought she could be a comedian. 🤣🤣🤣

[@latresemilton6729]

She is one low-key 🤣

[@Lookandlearn123]

Wooow as soon as Jackie started speaking she said something that I fully understand. People really want you to worship like everybody else!! This is so true!!!!

[@misskaykay1856]

He prayed for a wife with natural hair 🥹🥹🥹… a spiritual wife. God heard you Pres ❤

[@VanessaBasora]

I appreciate you going beyond 30 minutes to delve deeper with this topic. The candor between the two of you is a blessing to me. 💗😊

[@kaneya1]

As a woman who's been married to my God-mate for 23 years, this is good stuff! Keep up the excellent work! 👏 BTW- You guys are hilarious! 😂 Laughter is good for the longevity of a marriage!

[@Sandrinarhonda]

Godmate sounds so cute , I’m using that . But anyways tell me more about how y’all met 🤍

[@kaneya1]

@@Sandrinarhonda 👋😀 Hi Sandrina, we met at church when neither one of us were looking. My relationship with Jesus was all that I was pursuing at the time but God in His infinite wisdom knew that my husband and I could do more for His Kingdom together than separately. He has us mentoring young couples, families and single men and women for His Glory! Blessings to you... 🙏🙏

[@Sandrinarhonda]

@@kaneya1 thank youuu girl , what’s his race

[@kaneya1]

@@Sandrinarhonda AA

[@touchnotthelordsanointed4356]

@@kaneya1 Is there anyway we can talk on instagram or something for some advice please. It\s needed

[@LuvEmmyxo]

I'm in this single season and this video really helped me. Thank you two so much!

[@bearfruitstyle3152]

The dynamic is so fun. I laughed way more than I thought I was! Loved it.

[@alineassadourian1299]

I couldn’t stop laughing when you said “why are we sharing this” at the end 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@tamelynnebaartman7453]

The twinkle was lust, the twinkle of the devil! hilarious😂 This was so good, love the honesty and authenticity.

[@mals6386]

I just LOVE this convo! Much needed, thank you both🙏🏽

[@DAnnYettieGospelMinister]

I watched it to end and I can genuinely say THANK YOU. This was real & relatable

[@colleenr3358]

0:43 I'm naturally a quiet person and would feel so ashamed when the Bible study leader at my college would call out people in the group who "weren't on fire for God." Sir, I think a number of the people who are in here jumping and screaming and crying (Some, not ALL. Don't come for me) are just really good actors seeking your approval lol. Let me live.

[@sophiaa594]

Amen...

[@thisisjudith]

That part!!

[@07ikkin]

I've felt this before in church. "You ought to stand up and give God your best praise, you ought to shout, you need to use your voice!" . I can praise God without all the theatrics and jumping around.

[@latresemilton6729]

Jackie hit the nail on the head several times for me especially with the concern about fertility. Although I desire a spouse, I told a friend that I wouldn't be upset with God if a life of singleness is what He has for me. I'd be more saddened about not being a mother. I would love to adopt but my heart was crushed when my Pastor, God rest his soul, had a sermon on what a Christian family is and included what it was not was women having children on their own because they weren't married. I was heartbroken. It seems unfair. My friend, who is a great woman of Faith with her own family, gave me a different perspective. If you're a Christian, then you'll be raising a child in a Christian family. Jackie also made a great point that just because they are Christian doesn't mean they are your spouse or spouse material. The last guy I dated, I entertained too long because he was Christian, and nice but Holy Spirit was telling me something different. Didn't want to listen. Preston is right about some of these young Christian IG men with their internet ministries. They love the attention. It's just a mess out here! Stay strong single brothers and sisters!

[@srslymorgan]

Just want to throw it out there that I know more than one woman at my church that have adopted one or more children, even being single! I don’t know your pastor, but I know things are a lot more nuanced than we, as believers, sometimes acknowledge 🙂

[@latresemilton6729]

@@srslymorgan Thanks for that. I felt better when she told me that. He's resting now with the Father but he was a bit old fashioned in a lot of ways. He believed single folks shouldn't exchange numbers upon first meeting. I'm like sir if we didn't meet within the confines of my church where I know they are a member how are we communicating? Although I rarely give my number out, I may not see the person again if we're just out about in a store and we made a connection over small talk🤣I love him though but he was definitely stuck in the days before technology when it came to dating.

[@yolandabacon3662]

We so need more ppl to adopt. Please pray about it. Don't give up on it, if God put the desire in your heart.

[@flyman2608]

It's truly a mess out there. Dating is so complicated. Marriage is even more complicated

[@utamu777]

For things that are not specifically talked about in scripture we need to be led by the spirit. You should definitely pray about adoption, theres such a need for it. It’s very easy to take every word spoken from a pulpit heart but that can be damaging in the long run. Humans will always have their opinions but you need to be led by the Spirit

[@Amy-wh9dz]

Blessed by your podcast. 🤩

[@aishahenderson3518]

Thank you for your obedience!!!!! You guys are ministering to my soul!

[@shaylauren9419]

This was sooo amazing and so on time for me. Being a single Christian woman in her late 20s has been hard especially when it comes to dating. This definitely gave me peace to continue to wait.

[@samuelmulala838]

It's the random tongues from Jackie for me 🤣🤣 But I did connect to what she said, God literally spoke to me about my now Wife and as a confirmation, I asked the LORD to very specific signs and He was kind to show them to me. Hallelujah. Interesting podcast love you guys!!!

[@joanewuruje7055]

I was so blessed watching this. Thank you.

[@dfitzle]

I loved this! Stumbled upon it randomly, so much wisdom, please keep uploading!

[@qcobbin]

This has conversation actually helped me know I’m not being ridiculous. Also realizing that there were men who were Christians I knew but in all reality it wouldn’t have worked with any of them. As someone who has been abused there are specific things I need for the man to be that they wouldn’t have been able to check off on my list.

[@_iam_jev]

I pray you find him soon

[@sunshinesunflowerz1647]

Same sis.

[@BluDrop5]

I'm sorry to hear about your past trauma. I pray that you get the healing that you need.

[@edithsel2323]

I finally ended talking with a non believer because of this.. before we develop feelings because I know in my heart he is not God’s best for me. I will keep waiting on the Lord!

[@destineerocker8015]

I’m 23 and I desire a godly marriage one day . Seem like it’s not a lot of people around my age that think and desire godly dating

[@beamerrandlogistics3781]

Just what I needed at this moment; so much instruction and clarity

[@sassiabritish1613]

"There's this sense where it can't always be about everything I want because I can get all that I want and find out that that was not what I needed." 😊

[@KASIAVEE]

Went and listened to “The Idolatry of Marriage” podcast and it’s the perfect message to go alongside this one. Thank you both so much!

[@emilianaviela]

I can’t find it!

[@carolf24]

I cant find it as well:( could you please share it?

[@sophiehunt]

You guys are so funny together!! Thank you for being so real. 💛