Macho dad wants to raise his son more strictly compared to his daughter [Part 1] | K-DOC

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Daniel from Mexico dreamt of becoming a police officer ever since he was little. When he met his now wife Hyojung, he decides to settle down in Korea. But he doesn't know how to give up! Find out more about his story of helping others and raising his kids in South Korea, and see if his dream comes true!
All edits and translations done by Eunjae Lee.
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이웃집 찰스 [My neighbor Charles]
[멕시코 다니엘] Air Date: 2019.05.14

[@underrated3145]

Someone who comes from a Mexican family he is NOWHERE NEAR the typical Mexican macho man. His way of thinking is the opposite. The men in my family believe that you need to be strict and controlling of the women and the men get to roam free and do whatever they want. He is actually a good father compared to the ones I have seen in the Mexican community. He is correct about the macho culture in Mexico. From what I have seen he is nowhere near it. Yes, the strictness of his son is not good.

[@ilikebread7052]

Thank you

[@ontaes]

agreed! i was raised mexican and my parents were strict and hard on me, treated me like a maid while my brothers got to be kids snd have fun

[@underrated3145]

@@ontaes I grew up watching how the women in my family were shown no love and kindness by their parents, while the men were spoiled and given all the love they wanted. I was so stunned by the kindness and love Daniel was showering to his children because that is honestly never seen in Mexican communities or in Mexico.

[@underrated3145]

@@ilikebread7052 Of course. People should do their research on different cultures to understand why people from that culture act the way they are instead of knowing nothing and just attack the person.

[@ilikebread7052]

@@underrated3145 fr, I was shocked when I read the tittle tbh, cause usually the family is against the women side

[@kiwikorean]

I think they are a beautiful family. But as a father of a boy and girl myself. I believe we need to show the same amount of love and care to both children.

[@sambatra6162]

Well said

[@bonbons.]

thank you, some dumbass under my comments are saying otherwise 🙄

[@I_Smell_Like_Beef]

Yes, this.

[@j.c.8493]

Yes agreed. What if both kids were girls?

[@NusratJahan-yt5dm]

R8

[@blushsun5234]

He’s a good father, he’s just a little traditional and he doesn’t have the toxicity that comes with being traditional👍

[@skillbopster]

Traditional is best. Liberalism is toxic.

[@paulidson1483]

This is normal. Moms treat sons better and dad's treat daughters better Not hugely but there is a difference. That's why you have sayings like momma's boy and daddy's girl

[@iiii8947]

​@@paulidson1483 thats not true, im a girl and my mum treats me better and I know many people who are this way too. Although I think it has something to do with my culture because in my culture a dad will give the boy more affection and attention because he wants his son to be like him, and a daughter is more of a reflection of the mother and not the dad so he just finds the daughter useless

[@FM-dm8xj]

nothing wrong with tradiational

[@niapawina]

exactly. Nothing's wrong with traditional if it's done correctly

[@tionne4945]

His father leaving him clearly had a huge impact on him and you can see it in how he raises his son. Differential parenting will always have negative effects.

[@paulidson1483]

This is normal. nothing to do with his dad leaving. Moms treat sons better and dads treat daughters better. Not massively different but there is a difference. That's why you have sayings like: momma's boy and daddy's girl My family was the same, my mom was more affectionate to me and my dad was more affectionate to my sister.

[@racccoo7847]

He knows that the gender that need more discipline is the male gender cause guess what he is a male himself! Societies have been raising male kids better than females and here we are with the deadbeat fathers, pedofiles, rapists etc! He propably has seen so many bad male examples everywhere that he doesn’t want his kid to grow up and be like that! I have a neighbor family who has 3 boys and she was very strict with them! Taught them to take the trash out, be responsible for any action, cook etc! The boys are grown up and I have never ever met more respectable, untroubled young adults in my life! University educated, never did drugs or anything just straight up amazing young adults

[@web3wizard381]

He wants to do to his son what his Dad did to him, some sort of sick vengeance thing. This kid needs to be taken away from him.

[@tyun553]

@@racccoo7847 You clearly don't know about the reality behind pedos and r+p!sts. It has nothing to do with being spoiled, it has to do with abuse or traumatic events in their childhood/adolescence. It has to do with the brain and with their life experiences. Do you think that if someone is loved by their family, they will end up killing or abusing people? There's just some cases where the culprit had an actual good life, however in those cases the culprit has some mental condition (something they born with or that they developed with the pass of the time.) But the majority is because they didn't have a good role model and were abused or neglected by their parents or a family member. Ofc it doesn't excuse the horrible things they did/do, but atleas we all need to understand why those things happen. If we don't realize the actual problem, we will never be able to solve it.

[@mercym1733]

@@web3wizard381 why are you so sensitive?

[@knpreram1719]

I don't know why people are complaining about father. He seems to me like a really loving n responsible person

[@mrc_w]

yeah compared to my mexican dad he’s doing just fine.

[@rozhin6055]

He seems to be doing amazing in every regard but the toxic masculinity he's instilling in his son is not okay and will affect his son negatively. Boys & girls should both be loved, taught to be responsible and most importantly to learn & be able to express their emotions. He's comparing his kids which as the MCs mentioned is not good for the kids & even worse favours his daughter. As someone who's mum favours her son over her daughter I can guarantee you he will not be able to & most likely will not want to have a relationship with his dad in the future! 😔

[@aznthy]

Not if he makes shit people, he will make his son resent him, he will explode as an adult and make his mental life tough.

[@sambatra6162]

@@rozhin6055 true

[@Kleur]

@@rozhin6055 lol that's a lot of prejudice from an 9 minute segment lol

[@happinoys8713]

No such thing as a perfect parent. This man is a good father.

[@sarcasmcafe9860]

I like this dude: handsome, supportive, caring, does chores, cooks and looks after the kids. Perfect husband. Also I kind of understand where he is coming from. I mean, he is just trying to teach his son to be responsible.

[@shivijie]

But making his daughter fucking free and sweet his son will compare his dad's love towards him and his dad's love towards his daughter 😩

[@eeee0477]

@@shivijie dude……………………………. that’s how Mexican parents are but it’s not a bad thing it’s just something that parents do but some cases are worst then others ( which isn’t okay) but it ain’t a bad thing like calm downnnnnnn

[@RealJudyi]

@@shivijie she will have no freedom when she starts to become a pree teen. Part of what you get.

[@priscillavelazquezs]

@@RealJudyi exactly, they are sugar and spice and everything nice, but when they are teens, a lot is expected of the girls. I thank God for those gentle years as a child because I had to get really responsible real quick. Boys however seem to be praised as they become the young man they were taught to always be. Just different stages, and different roles.

[@chin_chilin_1019]

I find it funny when he’s brushing her teeth and washing her face it’s so aggressive it reminds me of my dad showering my little brother 😂😂

[@jessecarrillo35]

im mexican, and my father raised me like he did and now we don’t have a relationship. the strictness and the lack of emotional availability pushed us away. not to mention the misogynistic comments he made about women and how he should be more gentle because they’re women but treat men like they don’t have feelings.

[@kuroxo1509]

Exactly! My boyfriend is latino and his parents are very tough on him even though hes younger than his older sister.. He always says its 'part of their culture" but that doesnt justify this toxic behaviour.. i always tell him i will treat him as an individual not as a 'man' and its okay to be open about his feelings and his downs.

[@albertopereira5329]

Beautiful baby ❤❤💐Beautiful baby💙❤accept Jesus Christ and you will be happy because Gos Jesus Christ is the only Holy and Savior🙏There is only one God and only Holy One the name is Jesus Christ mighty and Peace in the world Love and Save your soul

[@shivijie]

😩 exactly my both parent never tht much affection and attention so I am more attached and sweet to other family members

[@mz0g]

middle eastern here. same for me. i barely speak to my dad. there's a nuance between not raising a wuss and raising an emotionally screwed up child. i had it all: belting (like literally with a belt), locked inside bathroom, face slaps etcetc just so he can make a "man" out of me. i grew up with dad issues, and a victim mentality that even encouraged others to bully me. what he sought out to do made me the opposite. i am thankful i have a strong character and a sense of revenge to grow from it all. now in my thirties i am better off. i got emancipated at 22, when i traveled abroad and left my parents for good. he thought i would come crawling back. i paid for all my studies, landed a job and currently amidst purchasing my first very own home. he will never see me again.

[@iiammaria2044]

This is so my dad !! He is always mean to my younger brother and doesn't show his emotions one time I wasn't speaking to him and he got angry at me and said am so rude

[@MA-pb5bc]

I think most dads are softer toward their daughters and Moms are softer toward their Son. I have seen many cases like this. And Sons will be usually more into their mother side and vice versa for the girls.

[@sammylee5474]

Exactly what I was thinking.

[@rachelcookie321]

I don’t have any siblings to compare to but as a girl my mum was always softer with me then my dad. My dad was always the one who got angry at me quickly and my mum was soft and calm. I think my dad treated me a little bit like a boy growing up.

[@sambatra6162]

@@rachelcookie321 well just because he was strict with you doesn't mean "he treated you like a boy"

[@rachelcookie321]

@@sambatra6162 I’m not saying him being strict was him treating me like a boy lmao. I’m saying in general he treated me more like how boys usually get treated.

[@sambatra6162]

@@rachelcookie321 how do boys usually get treated?

[@rosya.traveler4269]

cute couple and cute kids. But it is sad that he is showing more love towards his daughter than his son. His son might feel hurt by that. No children likes that. He might feel less important. He might also grow resentment towards his sister.

[@Tae96]

Children always want to feel loved and special, especially by their parents. They tend to compare with their siblings and would feel sad if they are not given the same amount of love and affection as them. They are very very observant 😔 He is one of the sweetest and most caring fathers, so I hope he realizes this soon. All the love to this little family ❤️

[@yxyx2877]

Perhaps he took on alot of the responsibilities of being the "man of the family" since his dad left when he was so young. So can totally understand why he hopes for his son to have resilient character so the difference in how he chooses to discipline his son (vs daughter). In a way, maybe he is projecting the hopes that he had on himself when growing up. I suppose most fathers would certainly want the best for their children.. parenting is no easy task and its hard to "perfect" it especially when done in front of an audience on a tv show like this

[@greycat111]

Finally! An intelligent, unbiased answer. Thank you. Most of these comments are like people dumping their whole childhood onto a guy just trying to do what he feels its the "right" thing. I think there's wrong ways to parent definitely, but the right way can be varied.

[@takeru3937]

You shouldn’t bring a kid into this world just so you can heal from your trauma and live your life through them. That’s just bad parenting

[@aaronmontgomery2055]

@@takeru3937 he is not doing it to heal but he is doing it because of. The expectations he had for himself he put onto his son, which is fair. Maybe wrong but fair

[@lizzie404]

As a Hispanic girl I really disagree with his way of thinking. I know he means well but treating them differently and having different expectations for them is going to harm them emotionally. I find it that this way of thinking Male vs Female is a problematic part of our culture. It’s needs to end. Growing up I’ve seen how this mentality has affected guys and girls in different ways. Guys it’s 2022 why y’all still care about gender so much 😭

[@dohajoon91]

Exactly..

[@sd7785]

Exactly! Completely agree. Treating children differently is the route of the gendered issues in society. E.g. Men not expressing emotions, women being treated worse at work, etc etc.

[@koiue.g8709]

Stop with this *Hispanic* bllsht be specific not all the Latin American is the same

[@deleted72636]

That's because men and women have different roles in the family and sometimes in society. That boy will be a man one day and will be a father one day. So I believe there is a different level of responsibility he will carry. I say this coming from a Mexican family where I'm the oldest of my siblings and the only male. I know alot of you will disagree with these ideas since these days family values and gender roles have been completely disolved in our society.

[@sd7785]

@@deleted72636 Oh, don't worry. There's still plenty of gender inequality out there for you to get off to

[@Pupuririi]

Comparing kids is bad parenting. My mom always love my brother better than me because in Chinese culture sons are king while daughters are unwanted, after parents raise a daughter they will give her away to her husband's family, so they consider daughter as bad investment while sons will take care of the parents when they are old at least financially. I know chinese parents think that way in the past and now it's different but because of that my relationship with my brother has become so distant, we talk like strangers and never communicate at all after both of us have our own family. He only contacted me for a very short chat when i was in ICU and i was dying because of septic shock but he never visited me at the hospital although his house is only 10mins away. We don't have emotional bond to each other. i read it somewhere, comparing your child each other is same way like you actually tear apart the family slowly. They will grow with a natural mindset that they are rivals for each other and when they grow up become adults they will casually walk out as strangers and even until now i still have trauma from my childhood experience. I don't feel confident and good enough in anything. Please be wise, invest in good parenting books because everyone can learn how to be a better parent if they want

[@rosya.traveler4269]

South Asian culture is like that also :( 'sons are king while daughters are unwanted, after parents raise a daughter they will give her away to her husband's family, so they consider daughter as bad investment while sons will take care of the parents when they are old at least financially.' - even though what usually turns out is that is the daughters who take care of the parents more than the sons.

[@xi.na_]

Even in eastern european countries it's common to see this

[@Scho-penhauer]

comparing isn't the problem, it's the difference in treating them. As if kids don't compare themselves to their siblings in everything!

[@FuckinCrazybtch]

I have chinese friends and this is exactly on point!! Poor girls, everytime I see them they complain about how bad the mother treats while the son is the king... even worst because they were raised in a western country, so they don't understand they way of thinking, they have this mixed feelings of how come things can be different, yet her mother chooses not to.

[@edtjjdgjohg]

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[@deleted72636]

I see nothing wrong with his way of parenting.. In fact he's not your typical macho man machista father. He's not afraid to show affection to his children, he's not afraid to cook or clean the house. He's actually the opposite of a typical machista dad. Looks like he's doing a great job.

[@aishabintpaul9737]

Agree 100%

[@yvonne3582]

He’s not a machida but the open criticism towards his son and preferential treatment of his daughter will eventually harm his children emotionally. He thinks that being a strict dad will fix the inadequacy he feels as a result of his father’s abandonment, but he needs to work on himself to fix himself.

[@niapawina]

exactlyyyy

[@jamesson1154]

@@yvonne3582 I disagree, it’s better to learn the harsh realities of the world from your family rather than the world teaching the boy.

[@tacha363]

@@jamesson1154 he can learn the harsh realities of the world from the world. Home should be your safe space. And if this was the case why doesn’t the daughter need to “learn the harsh realities of the world”?

[@ana-maria448]

He is a good man. I like he wants to educate his son well. Well done.

[@Belldandy722]

I'm not a parent, but I helped raise my little sisters. I've noticed that my littlest one was always trying to exit her seat. I realized she was just under stimulated. To this day, shes 7 now, she still does this sometimes. We just chat instead of quietly eating. Or I tell her to start eating, move about for a little (5 mins), and then I bring her back to finish her food. Little breaks seem to help the most.

[@Iamyou36912]

Sucks if they’re brats in public I’ve seen hell

[@peterkimcpams9385]

I love México and Mexicans!! A beautiful country with beautiful people!!!

[@albertopereira5329]

Beautiful baby ❤❤💐Beautiful baby💙❤accept Jesus Christ and you will be happy because Gos Jesus Christ is the only Holy and Savior🙏There is only one God and only Holy One the name is Jesus Christ mighty and Peace in the world Love and Save your soul

[@HELLOIMVIN]

he’s actually a great father!! my dad is crazy

[@bonbons.]

I means the only problem I have with the father is his way of thinking about which roles their children should become. These kids should be both treated the same way. Life is not easy, you have to be strong to get though this and not by being a fk stereotype.

[@deninerodarte1105]

Truth is you will raise your kids the way you seem fit and it usually comes from experiences of your own

[@sambatra6162]

@WOBINX EXACTLY!!

[@bonbons.]

@@deninerodarte1105 I means it's comprehensive to why he's like that. No dad figure to teach him around so he had to man up for him and his family. that really sad...

[@Scho-penhauer]

@@bonbons. as if he's the only one in the world grew up without a father! Most of the famous people in the US grew up without fathers or hated them or stepfathers, so why does everyone think it's a catastrophe?!

[@Cxs1a3]

The success rate is higher when you conform to society's expectation of u, he is correct u r not.

[@gigipalma2247]

You must give equal attention and equal decipline to your children. It can cause negative impact to both..

[@Brouwer-]

It really bothers me when parents try to educate boys and girls in a different way. In the end, they are putting a burden on the boys and setting boundaries to the girls. Really not fair. Both deserve same love and need to be taught about responsibility and life.

[@MoonstonePlains]

Ehhhh, hes really not that bad. He works hard puts in efforts much more than most men, hes actually involved. I get it sometimes parents can cause some emotional damage but nothing abusive or permanently damaging. If his son is able to grow up and learn to stand up for himself and the father learn to respect his son as an individual I see them all living happy lives. Yall expect every family to be perfect. Stop judging these men who are actually trying. Nobodys perfect.

[@Myumeful]

Why is your bar for men so low? Trying is not good enough.

[@MoonstonePlains]

@@Myumeful Ok, glad ur dad was perfect. Go home and give him his award and leave me alone. Learn to respect other peoples perspectives. The bar is low because Im being realistic. If u and all the men around u are so perfect go live in that world rather than being a Karen online.

[@jackiemccoy6282]

Agree!!

[@sd7785]

@@MoonstonePlains I don't have a dad (he was/is very uninvolved and abandoned us when I was 9) and I agree that you have a very low bar for fathers. He's just doing what involved father's do. If he was a she I doubt there'd be so many people praising him for looking after his own kids.

[@KshipsinKchups]

"these men who are trying" If he doesn't try he'll have to send huge money still for his wife to look after them. That's the bare minimum.

[@jadeheadphones]

He's doing his best and will learn more. There are some things that are still popular in society like finishing all the food on your plate and speaking with authority to ensure they're listened to but things are changing and hopefully he can learn the new ways. Kids are small and don't always need to eat as much. If there's something else wrong then they should talk about it and maybe solve it. When kids don't listen we adults have to understand that they might be focusing on something. If he's drawing we might think oh he's just doodling but it's a form of expression and that's giving him the emotional release. He's such a good dad. I hope he can bond with his son more though and not try so hard to be the best dad and just have more fun with the kids and listen to what they have to say even if they take time. I understand he's just trying hard to prepare his son for the responsibilities but i think he has so much time to learn that and it'll be alright if they try to bond together in different ways that isn't always focused on strength because it comes in so many different ways.

[@dhunu2949]

He is such a good father ☺

[@sunshinecommentswoop4902]

Brilliant he even called up Santa 😂🤚

[@genkers]

as someone who experience this with my dad. i can tell him now that his son and daughter will have a distant relationship because of this

[@rachzainhass]

If you raise your children differently, they will come up resenting each other and you.

[@ot7stan207]

we shouldnt talk about our kids in front of htem like they arent there... kids remember every single word. my earliest memory was when I was 4

[@ericadancewithme]

“Man has to do more than a woman - usually” what?!?! Excuse me? For someone whose Dad left at 7 that’s rich coming from a single mother household.

[@sambatra6162]

Exactly!

[@kooolkidninjamaster]

Maybe he feels like his mom shouldnot have had to do that much

[@animecookies8784]

Yes but I think because he was the only boy, he had to be the "man" and step up at an early age. This happens a lot. But he should acknowledge that the woman (like his single mother) will also work just as hard and sometimes moms work 10x harder than dads because they are working, raising the kids, cooking, and doing house chores

[@rozhin6055]

@@animecookies8784 Exactly!

[@RealJudyi]

When he said that I took it as, a man should be more responsible and provide for his wife. He needs to learn respect and have knowledge to honor his spouse. Maybe his words are a bit different than how he wants to say but you can tell that he cares for his babies and wife by cooking and cleaning while staying true to his masculinity. He sets a good example to both children of what a man should do. A woman's job is no less important than a man's but also have humility to take over when she is busy. I wish my brothers did this. My middle brother has always been treated like a prince but the younger one I raised and he has zero problem cleaning

[@isabellamontoya3750]

If you treat a boy that way just because of his gender you will make him insecure and even more when you are comparing him every time with his sister. When you treat a girl that way just because she is a girl, that will make her dependent on you and only you for everything, she will be no one without you. I know no father can be perfect and that he is not a bad father, but we can improve ourselves every day.

[@Linaelinaeya]

Exactly. my dad’s father was like that. He was like that to my aunt he pampered her like a baby, while he used to beat dad even for the mistakes that my aunt did(my dad’s sister) My dad cares about my aunt but he doesn’t particularly feel any love or anything towards her, because of it. I can say this is the best parenting method to make your children drift apart and to make them believe that they are superior, inferior, privileged or have it easy than others. No all of this are made up, no one is inferior or superior, and no one has it easy either. My dads a doctor, my aunt’s unemployed. She really was too dépendant and our grandparents only wanted her to marry a rich man. She found herself a really good man. But for some reason he didn’t fit our grandparent’s standards and they got her married to another man. Now he’s the most abusive shit.

[@kukat3728]

Criarlos de la misma manera creo que sería mejor para sus dos hijos. Crecí en un hogar mexicano donde soy la única niña y tenía tres hermanos. Siempre me trataban de manera diferente. Sentía más presión. Además, no deberías querer que tus hijos sientan que te gusta uno más que el otro. :)

[@cryzta1and]

exacto..

[@katyk6912]

I don’t understand the problem here, not moving around while eating is a proper common eating manner, the boy is old enough to understand that and obey that. He wasn’t harsh at all in my opinion. In my culture parents often punish their children with belts for misbehaving

[@sammylee5474]

I think if Danny had his own plate or bowl he could eat his food, and be done. He had them sitting on the floor when the table was right there. I think he just wanted to spoon feed them

[@sambatra6162]

@katy k just because such things are common in your culture doesn't make it right.

[@elpink5424]

@@sambatra6162 It’s not a cultural thing, it’s a safety thing. I don’t agree with beating/hitting children under any circumstances, (cause corporal punishment is stupid, does a lot of mental harm, and teaches nothing) however, there have been studies done on this. Young children moving around the room with their mouths full of food can cause them to choke on it, not to mention the amount of mess that you’re going to have to clean up afterwards because children tend to touch their mouths with their hands and then touch other objects, which can spread the food around the room that can spread bacteria and it just wouldn’t create a clean environment. Plus you have less stress when sitting still and eating a meal, you can properly enjoy it. It benefits digestion for the kids to move around the room *after* they are done eating

[@elpink5424]

@@sambatra6162 This is getting a bit long but the last thing I want to mention is: how many times have you seen a restaurant that allows their customers to get up and move around or start dancing in the middle of a meal? This isn’t normal behavior in anyones culture. It’s commonly accepted behavior to sit down at restaurants to eat, if you get up suddenly people will stare, and if people are staring, you’re doing something that’s either distracting or strange. I’ve watched other child care shows in Korea and I’ve seen ethnically Korean parents scold their children just as harsh or even harsher then he did his son for moving around. You teach them manners for the future so they know how to behave, his teachers wouldn’t accept it, people at public restaurants wouldn’t accept it, so why is his father expected to?

[@galaxyfanfan4333]

Maybe it’s a good idea to give the kids dinner on 2 plates and let them eat by themselves on there own pace

[@rachelcookie321]

Should sit at the table on chairs too so they’re not as tempted to move around.

[@eeee0477]

I agree but maybe he’s just tryna help but in a way to others it seems like it doesn’t

[@marianam7439]

The worst thing that you can do as a parent is to compare your son/daughter with someone else.

[@jacksoncosta4031]

yes

[@tmcd6902]

They're literally learning 3 languages at once. Those kids will be prodigies.

[@myrandomtantrum]

I have a father and a stepfather, both born in Mexico. My dad is superfree spirited and open-minded and my stepfather was strict and very "machista". My mom divorced both of them for the opposite reasons. However, my siblings and I are close to our mother and I am close to my dad as well, but my sister doesn't like to talk to her father about personal issues and always uses mom as a go-between. My stepfather doesn't like doing what he consideres a woman's job and talking to his children

[@moonyaan]

yes, unfortunately most of the boomers here in Mexico are into the "machista" culture, my dad is one of them lol and I hate that but at the same time I can't control him and I just can protect my mental health

[@DarkButMysterious]

I understand the dad in how he chooses to raises his son . Do I think he should stop comparing his son to his daughter? Ofcourse! However and unfortunately, the world treats both genders differently. His son is a boy who will grow up one day to be a man who will mingle with other men. There are certain expectations that are placed on men and when young boys aren't prepared for that by their fathers it can lead to certain difficulties for them when they become men. Hence why it is important for boys to have father's in their lives. The dad most likely had to figure that out himself growing up without a father and wants to make sure his son is well equipped for what the world will throw at him once he becomes a man. Unfortunately, we aren't quite living in a world where everyone is just and fair and until then we should prepare our kids for such a world. Edit: syntax and grammar

[@lizzie404]

THIS

[@micaelaricaldi9194]

Exactly

[@donkeyslayer8370]

Finally a common sense take.

[@Mfbummmmm]

If the father keep doing that, the son will hesitate to joke with his father

[@NusratJahan-yt5dm]

Child is child . Never compare them because of their gender. There is no difference between son and daughter

[@diptanudebnath8555]

Felt bad for the boy .. The Dad's way of parenting need to be changed.. As it will have a huge emotional impact on the child... Being humble and soft spoken infront of children is what makes them cheerful and happy 🙂... I hope he changes.👍

[@dohazyadi121]

Literally where the dad's way was wrong in this video?! The kid was playing around,i literally can't see anything

[@stellahaynesworth5833]

He's a very good father/family man. He cooks good too 😋. The kids are so cute

[@PlentyofNiu]

Eso de estar comparando a los hijos le va a traer muchos problemas, ese niño tendrá problemas emocionales 😢

[@lucasgdrezes]

También es posible que empiece a enojarse de su hermana.

[@junem342]

Just with this clip, with son it is about table/eating manners vs. being more strict . His words don't match up to the "typical machismo" given he seems very nurturing and engaged. Note: Many girls women often date/marry men with similar behaviors/tendencies. They are their examples.

[@sakantiwoi]

omg, i fall in love to this familiy at the first sight. i hope i can watch any videos about this family.

[@someoneyoumightknow2795]

I mean, he got the macho thing backwards but with his good intention we can only hope it evolves in a good way when the son starts having his word into it I didn't even think he was a macho until he said this whole thing seeing how he's the one working for his wife, cooking, taking care of the kids...seems like the total opposite of macho xD which is great if everyone is happy like this! Macho has never been a good thing anyways, it's just another word for sexism

[@someoneyoumightknow2795]

Macho is an insult where I come from hm

[@tmm6884]

I feel for this guy. I was orphaned at 14 years old and literally raised myself. But, the only way to heal after a massive disruption in your childhood is to work through it. Being a stable parent yourself will not fill that hole.

[@MoshiiiMosh]

I’m from Dominican Republic and I disagree with his parenting style solely basing it on the genders. If he wants to teach his son to be more resilient and independent because of his fatherless childhood then he should be teaching both the same regardless their sex; the way he’s raising her daughter it’s to be be very dependent of men and have this unrealistic high expectations that everything in life will be gentle to her, while the son will grow up with insecurities. Both should be raised equally loved without distinction!

[@rachelcookie321]

The title made it seem like a big deal but it doesn’t seem like he treats his kids that differently. He just has the same mindset that has been common until very recently and is still ingrained into many people subconsciously. He seems to love his kids a lot and treats them both very similarly. It hasn’t shown him being particularly more strict to his son. Not to an unreasonable amount.

[@Scho-penhauer]

This show tries to create fake dramatic situations from meaningless events!

[@WeeHgt]

@@Scho-penhauer haha, yeah no one can deny shows do this, but it is still interesting to discuss parenting techniques. We all truly do have different approaches.

[@elpink5424]

Yeah he basically treats them the same and I don’t think the home is that toxic considering both parents work, cook, clean, and tend to the children. The kids are getting good examples of adult figures in their lives, and the dad isn’t overly masculine to his daughter. He does make slightly sexist comments and compare his kids, but that’s something that can be fixed in like a week, it’s not that serious

[@Fartsquad_]

The wife did express a bit of concern in the way he talked to his son,. She wanted him to talk to Aston the way he talked to Sofia. So without cameras rolling, there must be a bit more difference than what we’re seeing. But I can see that he does love both his children the same.

[@Phd366]

My husband is mexican and he was raised more strecrly than his sisters because someone would eventually take care of the girls.. so makes sense to me what he is doing. Is it fair? Or the best way? Maybe not. But he means well 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@lenanana8]

I see where you are coming from, but good intentions are not always correct intentions.

[@eeee0477]

@@lenanana8 then tell me is the Mexican father in this case physically abusing the kids ? Are the kids dying? To me they seem to be well off the dad is doing his best for not having a dad figure in his life may God bless him and his family as for you, you need to watch some documentaries or something. Everything this dad is doing is with good intentions lol trust me coming from an actual Mexican the way he’s treating is kids is not as bad yall making it seem yea it should change in someways but it’s not extreme… yall just reaching

[@famousamos]

lmao, the kids said "nah, it's bad".

[@exoticme4760]

I think he is a good father . The strictness wasn't even that bad.

[@florc6433]

Escribo en español por si el padre lee y así me expreso mejor. Sabiendo además que todo es una edición y es hecho especialmente para resaltar cierto comportamiento y atraer más a la audiencia. Desde mi punto de vista no creo que haya un problema cuando le llama la atención al hijo por no quedarse sentado cuando come, de hecho está bien. Sin embargo, su modo de pensamiento arcaico es el preocupante, no, por mas que sea una niña no quiere decir que se la deba tratar delicadamente todo el tiempo, ni porque sea un niño hay que enseñarle a ser duro. Los niños hoy en día tienen una crianza similar para que después no estén mal psicológicamente. Un niño puede ser delicado, una niña puede ser dura, hasta los propios hosts del programa COREANOS se lo dicen, su método no es el indicado, menos para la sociedad de hoy en día. Lo mejor es escuchar a los niños, dejarlos hablar, crear un espacio de confianza mutua para su futuro. Espero puedan desarrollar mejor su relación y no se sigan haciendo estas comparaciones entre hermanos, ni tratar a una niña como alguien que no puede hacer muchas cosas. El pensamiento "macho" ya está bastante obsoleto y sabemos por la cantidad de jóvenes que fueron criados así, que no hace bien a nadie. Nadie tiene la verdad final, pero este señor al menos debería empezar por hablar con sus hijos y preguntarles el porqué de su comportamiento, antes que enojarse sin sentido. El enojarse no lleva a nada. Es prueba y error. Saludos desde Argentina.

[@qwertyytrewq2963]

never seen someone so lively ... :

[@jannatulbaki409]

I think in asia daughters are more comfortable with their father than mother. Fathers always treats their daughter like princess

[@WeeHgt]

Dad believes he should be stricter with his son, and I am ok with that, but he must have self awareness that casually proclaiming that “men shoulder more responsibility in life” is up for debate. It’s relative. And then to think he should be harder on a son in anticipation of future life struggles: well, what if the daughter has to face struggles which could also benefit from equally strict/challenging parenting then? The future is unknown. I respect strict parents, I just hope their reasoning is sound, and that they can communicate to their kids their reasons for being strict. In this age though, I wouldn’t want to raise up kids with extreme gender differences. I would give them some, the basics, and try to walk a balance between socializing them in what people generally expect, and letting them do what they want. It’s probably extremely difficult, but there is no point hammering the old fashioned in these changeful times. Just raise kids to be adaptable to change, and not to expect that people will put them in boxes actually. Just because the daughter gets princess treatment at home does not mean she should expect it later, for example. And the son could grow up and seek out a partner who will spoil him.

[@Lemoon27]

This, I can actually agree with a 💯%

[@estelleroo7493]

I don’t agree to what he is saying. But what he is doing is absolutely fine . It’s natural it happens. As an Indian , my dad has a soft corner for me and my mom has a soft corner for my brother. I guess it’s just a universal thing across all societies. Father-daughter bias and Mother-son bias. Maybe since his dad left him he wants his son to be a responsible adult.

[@kathytan2736]

seems the father adore his daughter more than his son, c'mon discipline but must love his son, dont be too strict like comparing in front of the son .

[@salmathecopt7969]

Good dad

[@cocobean6281]

He is far better than many korean fathers on this show , I dont see why he is called macho !!!

[@prasinoskosmos88]

Because he is Mexican, it’s stereotyped..

[@uwuowo7363]

Tbh I don’t see any problem with him nor did I see any favouring, I feel like the title is a bit misleading

[@PhyllisGlassup2TheBrim]

I am interested in the fact that they are still being fed like babies. Why aren't they able to feed themselves yet?

[@Esandeech2]

Poor girl. She’s just not that hungry in the morning.

[@mercym1733]

So many sensitive people on the comment… giving opinion is easy but being practically a good father is not. So anyway he is doing very well.

[@yeyosilver7067]

He's a good father

[@ertwro]

I’ll be harder on my son than on my daughter. He needs to progressively learn that as a man he is expected to earn his value.

[@humairahazlan1803]

In my family there is no way my dad will treat me so lovely and caring my dad treat me same as how he treats my brother 😌🤣

[@sammylee5474]

If your kid has a problem with moving during meal times, then have them sit in chairs instead, so they can get used to staying in one spot. Maybe Danny is just uncomfortable being on the floor or bored with eating, like I saw he fed them off of one plate, give them separate plates. Also, he could just be giving them too much to eat, they eat lunch at school, eat breakfast and dinner. It's a lot, especially if you're serving them a lot for those meals, plus kindergarten I'm sure you have snack time (instead of lunch or in addition to). Just a suggestion for anyone who has this problem, I was raised to not leave the table until I'm done eating or my food will be thrown away. Reasonably so, I had chores to do and had to goto bed. I felt in this episode, he wasn't really being as strict as they portrayed him to be, he literally scolded him once, lol. I do agree girls and boys should be raised differently, because they're different genders. "Old fashioned" not in the slightest, atleast not for me, it's just the correct way. I agree he should raise his son with more strictness, because he is also a man himself so he knows, despite not having a father figure in his life. I do feel that if he's too strict, his son would be likely to gravitate away from him, so maybe instead of scolding him more, he could teach him the right way without bringing him down. This reminded me of the hardcore soccer dad who couldn't keep promises. Please reply to this comment and contribute to this statement with your thoughts, because I see a lot of comments disagreeing with what he's doing and I want to understand the other side. Constructive comments only, no arguing. I do think it's wrong to compare your kids, no matter the gender, they're separate human beings of course they'll be different. Also, Daniel said "Mexican macho style", because he felt the hosts didn't understand him. Edit: He's not a perfect dad and maybe he says things that are hurtful towards his kids, all parents do that even to another person. I just fail to understand how he is strict lol, I desperately need another perspective, maybe I missed something.

[@alessamiridis5476]

I think the main “disagreement” many people who are commenting have, is the fact that he treats his son and daughter differently. Regardless of their genders, showing more affection and treating one child “delicately” while being more “strict” and giving more corrections and expectations to the other, will result in emotional trauma. You could see it as a type of “favoritism” from the son’s perspective. How come my sister doesn’t have to do ____? Why are you more affectionate towards my sister? etc. In a society where people are fighting for equal treatment of men and women, he will set his children up to keep the “different” or “old-school” mentality. And his son is likely to resent his sister. As a younger sister to an older brother, I would have found it deeply insulting if my parents expected less of me or gave me less responsibilities just because I am a girl. As a Mexican, his use of the word “macho” is very problematic, as it directly refers to the word “machismo” which is basically the oppression or superiority of men over women. He is not truly “machista” and maybe used the word erroneously. I genuinely hope the father realizes the effect his treatment will have on his children and makes some modifications. He clearly loves both of them, but if he continues, there *will* be long lasting negative effects on the kids.

[@sammylee5474]

@@alessamiridis5476 Now this makes sense, thank you

[@rozhin6055]

@@alessamiridis5476 Exactly! Well worded 👏🏻👏🏻

[@Tootisepop]

His wife is very pretty

[@lslithas24]

Boys are more physically active and push boundaries a lot more than girls do. Especially when they're young. I don't know if being more strict in that way helps but I definitely understand it.

[@Cytc33]

We need more fathers like him in this society, forreal.

[@anthonym6202]

I’m Mexican and my wife is Vietnamese and honestly ℹ spoiled my daughter because personally the girls are something special for us fathers and they become a father last true love. My son I love him as well and I would say I give him everything I didn’t have but I always tell him that he will have to learn to work hard for what he wants when he is older and that as a boy he has to be responsible for his actions. I guess the same goes for my daughter but I will be more patient with her because girls can sometimes be a bit of emotional reck at times. I want both my kids to go college and hopefully have a good career. I can’t control what they will choose to be when they grow up. All I can do is guide them.

[@Soreto23]

The question is why do u consider him as a strict father? Only because he told his son to sit properly when he is eating? Is it not the role of the parent to teach their children manners and culture so that they will not be spoiled and problematic afterwards? When a child causes problems, people ask 'where the parents were'? I do not think that there is an ideal model for raising children, the most important thing is not to hurt them,I realize it is a problem when men are expected to be tough and not show affection, however I believe that a father should show care and love to both his daughter and and the son, although it does not hurt to be slightly harder with the son in some cases, because in the future society will demand more of him

[@bwalyashulu2256]

I don't see what people are crying about here he's feeding a 7 year old boy for God's sake🙄 why are we here tryna pretend like fathers aren't softer with their daughters all the time, he clearly loves his son and his son will grow up to love him too Gosh he's a way better father than most of you commenting here give the man a break

[@alexss3661]

I'm a latina and I think he's a great dad but I also wish he could raise his children in the same way. He's way too soft with his daughter and girls also need a little bit of strictness in their life because they're also going to endure a lot and face many challenges as they grow up. Boys need to be raised with strictness but they also need to have a father who can be soft and nurturing with him. There needs to be balance for both kids.

[@marulanv]

If you want to mess up a kid just compare him with other kid

[@Tamil_Atheist2023]

😂🤣He looks like my Dad 💯

[@lendlalfred7870]

I think he is an excellent father. As a man, nobody is coming to save you. He wants to prepare his son for the rigours of life.

[@alioretra5872]

No this is stupid, and why not doing that to the girl then, he’s just doing old fashioned traditional shit that’s it

[@the_now_plan]

It's amusing how most of the comment section so far feel almost entitled to give their opinion on how fathers should raise their children. Your 'way' of life is subjective to your culture and upbringing. Accepting that everyone has a different background and upbringing will allow you to open your mind and prevent you from being a close-minded individual. Equality is a western ideology particularly more prominent in the western world; however, this does not mean that everyone agrees with this ideology. Learn to accept people who do not share the same mindset as yourself and free yourself from the self-centered perspective that everyone has to live by your life expectations. In this video, the father raises his children with love and compassion. We don't know his story, nor do we know his intentions. If your opinion causes more harm than good, then you should refrain from harmful speech. Peace and Blessings be upon you

[@sambatra6162]

Equality is not just a western ideology, its an ideology that whole world needs and I'm saying this as an asian. If you don't agree with something like equality then you're just a priveleged and entitled person.

[@the_now_plan]

With all due respect, you have proven my point about having a self-centered perspective. There are countless of ways to approach life and different ideologies people base their life around. Regardless of where you are from, it does not mean that people have to concede to your subjective way of life. Everyone believes their ideology is correct, and it is everyone's responsibility to accept that people have different beliefs, ideologies, and ways of life. Furthermore, it is wrong of you to claim someone is 'entitled and privileged' because of a difference in opinion. I don't know your story, and you don't know mine, so please bear that in mind when you reply to my comment. Peace and blessings be upon you

[@rozhin6055]

Yes, because teaching girls to be strong, responsible & independent is only for western girls, us eastern girls & women love being oppressed, seen as fragile & incompetent beings & treated like second class citizens! Don't you just love it? Men must never show their feelings or express their emotions because they're men, not humans with hearts & feelings who should learn how to deal with their emotions in a healthy way that won't worsen their mental health & lead them to su*cide. Yes, let's respect his approach & respect his culture of toxic masculinity & misogyny! 🤩

[@Cxs1a3]

@@rozhin6055 Bruh yo comment got deleted

[@rozhin6055]

@@Cxs1a3 It's still here!

[@samuelswagg_2346]

the paternal lack is reflected in the treatment with his son

[@wethebestmusic7948]

I see a lot of international couples a wife or husband always have a language teaching company an easy way to earn money 👍🏽💯

[@Linaelinaeya]

Oh my dad’s father was like that. He was like that to my aunt he pampered her like a baby, while he used to beat dad even for the mistakes that my aunt did(my dad’s sister) My dad cares about my aunt but he doesn’t particularly feel any love or anything towards her, because of it. I can say this is the best parenting method to make your children drift apart and to make them believe that they are superior, inferior, privileged or have it easy than others. No all of this are made up, no one is inferior or superior, and no one has it easy either.

[@harmonyfuntime1082]

I know he means well with his parenting style, and just like he said he wants to be a good father to his children due to not having a father if his own, but I feel like the problem is that he did not have a father figure to show him how a father would parent his child so he must’ve just done what he thought should be done, still I hope he learns to treat both child equally :)

[@hopeuliv3658]

Why are the reporters so praising of the father when the father does the cooking but never when the mother does? It annoys me tbh

[@eeee0477]

Bruh maybe to encourage him? Y’all reaching

[@juliassession]

while i do not agree with his different treatments towards his kids because of their gender roles, I can see that he is not that bad of a father. Nobody is perfect and parenting is really a tough task. some people in the comments need to cut him some slack.

[@xsheccid2136]

Yes, in Mexico it is common to be raised in a macho environment, although most families consist only of the mother (the one who brings the money, the house, the food, the education and attention, god knows how). Positively, that is already changing with the new generations (the macho upbringing). I hope he puts that aside, he has great potential for being a good father, being a man does not mean that he does not deserve attention and affection, he is a child. I have the idea that he's like "men don't cry". I hope he can get help on what he had to go through and that he doesn't pass it on to his child.

[@gehadamr4137]

if the food doesnt taste good and they clearly dont like it, forcing them to eat it isnt the way to go. feed your children what they like just like how you dont force adults to eat food they dont like. also you're supposed to show love towards both children equally. I get Aston moves around a bit while eating but some kids just find it hard to sit still and Sofia is sitting peacefully because her dad is engaging more with her than he is with Aston

[@성이름-p9t6t]

You should raise a child before commenting on this. I agree with what you say, if it's to an abusive level, it's problematic. But you also don't know how kids can be capricious and refuse to eat one day and then want to eat everything and anything the other day. They also often refuse to eat healthy stuff because children are drawn to sweet things, and sometimes parents need to force kids to eat what they want to eat. This is an extremely common practice everywhere, including in the US. Sometimes, kids need to learn to do what they don't want to do. That's a part of education. That's called setting up a healthy diet so that your kids build a habit to eat healthy, not just what they want to eat. Unfortunately, many lower-class parents in the US, UK, and many advanced countries don't have the energy and time to do this and let kids eat whatever they want, so their kids and teens are disproportionately obese and unhealthy. So ask your older friends who have little kids or your parents if it's even sensical to let kids eat only those they want to eat, and see what they say. You're obviously a teen or someone in their early or mid-twenties detached from the reality of raising a child.

[@faiirysxng]

Being a “macho” man doesn’t mean you have to love the boy less ;(

[@Annie99IM]

My dad is like this, he has told me a few times “if you were a boy I would take you to work with me from the moment you turned 18” (he’s a construction carpenter btw) also every time I needed a scolding, he would tell my mom to do it, I remember him saying “I can’t scold you cause you’re a girl, if you were a boy I would do all the scolding but I can’t cause you’re a little girl, your mom has to do it”🙄 of course he has given me some life advice but in my 22 years he has NEVER scolded me and also would always spoil me a lot (still does tbh), I used to think that was cool but now it really annoys me :/ good thing he has no sons

[@robinrodriguezlopez]

My dad was the same way. He didn’t do much discipline with me but left it to my mom because I was the girl of the family. My brothers disciplining was left to him. This however left my mother and I with a not so good relationship. My brother however calls my mom every day. It’s just the culture I guess but I’m trying to not do this with my own children.

[@nidakato77]

I think they are a beautiful family, but he has to work on the past, because what his father did, he, in a way, passes on to his son. It is clearly noted the difference in treatment with the son and the daughter. He's a good person, but he has to work on the past with his father, otherwise he'll have problems in the future, the son... already notice the difference, and he'll have the same problem his father has today.

[@yoonsmaze]

the father reminds me of my father but a bit softer? He seems like the type I would argue with tho LMAO

[@WarriorNoldor]

Honestly, fathers have to raise boys differently from their daughters. Fathers need their boys to be strong men and future leaders of their families.

[@Alex-ow5bs]

Some people on the comments that are my Hispanics/Mexicans should know their own place. None Hispanics/Mexicans should know that our culture is different then others. Yes macho father's become strict with boys over girls or girls over boys. Not all macho parents take care of their children like that. From I'm thinking my mom is very strict towards my big sister and me because she's trying to "show is how to be a wife when we get married". But i know it's wrong to be treated some sorda useless female. Different cultures can make different house holds between some families. If none Hispanics/Mexican people reading this, it's better off not complaining about our culture the way parents act towards their children. Ik some parents are doing this for the good or bad.🤷🏽‍♀️ (I'm Mexican btw)

[@eeee0477]

But Mexican parents are that way so idk what you tried to say and I’m Mexican myself

[@itsme_mocha]

I think he got a little bit confused about raising his children. He should not discriminate his children based on their genders. Every human is unique and so are his children. He should embrace ways that suit each of his children well rather than being soft only with girls and stern only with boys. At the end of the day, we all want to be a good human regardless of our biological construction.

[@rodsalomon6524]

He’s a misogynist. I’m glad the Korean man commented on that.

[@Heytheredelisandwich]

My dad never even changed my diaper so… 😵‍💫 It’s actually weird bc my Mexican dad always said women had to do everything for the man because were… women. He’s better in that aspect but everything would be better if they were just treated equally.

[@raquelfigueroa5539]

8:35 what ?didn’t his mom raised him so she did more then the man, she was mom and dad. It’s not Machismo is sexism…. That’s what Im seen here.

[@haleduran1931]

Nothing wrong with his parenting! People are being butt hurt for no reason. And it’s his children and his parenting judge your own mom or dad before judging someone else parents.

[@rozhin6055]

I'll judge both 🙃

[@tentse3521]

The son looks visibly unhappy and he's already expressed in another episode he didn't like playing with his dad. The son also seems pretty sensitive and withdrawn already :(