Wife wants husband to be nicer to their son like he is to their daughter [Part 2] | K-DOC

Part 1 : • Macho dad wants to rai...
Part 2 : • Wife wants husband to ...
Part 3: • Dad tells father-in-la...
Par 4: • Father-in-law's touchi...
Daniel from Mexico dreamt of becoming a police officer ever since he was little. When he met his now wife Hyojung, he decides to settle down in Korea. But he doesn't know how to give up! Find out more about his story of helping others and raising his kids in South Korea, and see if his dream comes true!
All edits and translations done by Eunjae Lee.
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이웃집 찰스 [My neighbor Charles]
[멕시코 다니엘] Air Date: 2019.05.14

[@shroomdalini]

I love how the son corrected the interviewer when they said his dads American. We love a cultured king

[@whoknows987]

YESS

[@eridaskunt1856]

relax

[@lilypeach5618]

hes Mexican

[@tsuyuasui7297]

i think it would be better for him to even speak in spanish to his children, instead of in broken english

[@lostsoul2586]

@@tsuyuasui7297 the kid would be trilingual 👍

[@kiwikorean]

Maybe I'm wrong, but I think their son is a little afraid of the father. Being soft and gentle in both speaking and actions, shows a lot of love and care. He's just a child who is still growing, still learning, and now is the time for a father the son feels comfortable being around. Being gentle doesn't mean you're soft or raising a son who is, it means you care, and your child will love you for that.

[@sammylee5474]

I don't think you're wrong

[@lucasgdrezes]

It was just like that to me. I was never comfortable around my dad. No wonder I do not miss him very much.

[@Sehaj24680]

Yes he is afraid.

[@dohajoon91]

You're not wrong.. He is afraid... This man believes one thing but does the absolute opposite.. Being passive aggressive and subtly misoginistic is doing more damage than he can imagine

[@jayceondelaluna9918]

You guys are soft he's a boy he has to be strong and then women wonder why most men are feminen now a days he loves his son ots obvious it's different cultures look at the guys in that country wearing make up and looking like girls

[@winter7091]

honestly the dad is super sweet. the family is lovely

[@optosc9387]

Its funny how the dad never checked Aston's homework on the internet until the cameras were rolling?

[@sd7785]

@@optosc9387 Yeah. Him calling the mum a billion times makes me think it's the first time he's helped them with their homework. The kids didn't like his cooking either, so maybe they're not used to it?

[@armveg4117]

@@sd7785 You’re defining peoples whole lives over a few minutes of chopped video

[@sd7785]

@@armveg4117 No. I'm watching a video and making inferences about whether the images shown are representative of their day-to-day lives.

[@dohajoon91]

🤣

[@einom1236]

As a foreign parent living abroad, I sincerely recommend the father to speak to his children in Spanish rather than his broken English. Especially when he communicates to his son in such an authoritarian way but one day won't be able to express himself at the same level of proficiency as his son. That will affect the image of the father in the boy's eyes and is likely to lower the respect that he feels towards his father.

[@yutirwsna7715]

Totally agree

[@deleted72636]

interesting perspective. makes sense.

[@kath_23_]

Yes

[@_Bubblefly]

Exactly

[@tsuyuasui7297]

YESSSS i completely agree too, to me it didn’t really make sense as to why he was communicating in english when english doesn’t seem to be his first language? i think it would be far more better and beneficial for both parties to just start speaking spanish to each other.

[@bongs26]

I think we need to understand that the father himself didn’t have one growing up, or what he assumed a father should/ could or wanted to be. For that fact alone everyone should be more understanding to his approach, and just understand that he’s still learning on the job and that in future both of them will understand where each other is coming from… cos it’s all coming from a place of love , weather you believe that or not.

[@pinanaaanglovesmusic7591]

@@mork4971 yeah same case dealing with as I'm still a teen

[@main_tak_becus6689]

@@pinanaaanglovesmusic7591 most parents have egotistical problem. My parents got married when they were young (mother 19, father 25). My father is temperamental and I still remember he smashed my toy when I was 5. I didn't want to go to school that day. I don't get along with him till now because we see things differently. He and his father were the same (rip Gramps) just like how I'm with him. Maybe it runs in our family, but I don't want it to happen to me when I have a son in the future. He never praise me for what I did and it made me rebellious (I don't do drugs or drink though).

[@dohajoon91]

I think we need to stop justifying damaged parents damaging their sons..

[@nabirahcorville550]

That’s not an excuse

[@web3wizard381]

@@dohajoon91 this, i dont get why people keep making excuses for an unloving angry father

[@YanasooSibarah]

Idk dad doesn't seem that bad. Told his son he doesn't have to be the best, just to pay attention in class. Also he's very involved. Maybe just a little constructive criticism on how to productively interact, but otherwise really isn't the worst parent... no where near it.

[@WeeHgt]

He doesn’t seem that bad, true, but maybe he needs one special thing to bond with his son with that has nothing to do with discipline and macho male behavior. Just something pure and non competitive- like a favorite restaurant that only they visit, or a favorite band they can share. Nothing gaming related or competitive.

[@ninokikira3623]

@@WeeHgt he just thinks in an old Mexican thinking way of living for men. The boy doesnt feel a connection with him because he just reminds him he is a boy, so he has to do this or socialize like that. But as a parent, he doesnt just take them to the park, cinema or park and just let them enjoy being kids. I am a 33 Mexican woman and my father just was strict to my brothers about being strong and school, but they would just talk normally when eating together or doing stuff, not because they were men. It is easy for me to talk to him since I was a kid and we would just talk without thinking what to do or it was boring. I enjoyed being with him, even if it was watching TV only. Even I remember the times I would share a cup of freshly made coffee with him and eat cookies. He loves coffee and I like coffee, it is normal that Mexican children drink coffee or coffee with milk here with bread or cookies. He is not bonding with his children as if it was natural because they are family, he just wanna play the role of a male and a father. The boy needs a father, not being reminded his role is different for being born as a boy.

[@ryjn2024]

@@WeeHgt i think this more or less comes from cultural impact on him

[@AverageVideoGameJoe]

As someone with an older brother, I see the path that this father is going, and if he keeps it up, that son will become really resentful. He’s gotta ease up more when he grows up. It’s good he wants to be a strong father. It’s not good to keep that mode on 24/7. Parents need to realize that there can be psyche damage to a child when you’re really displaying favorable treatment towards another sibling too. You could negatively damage their relationship to their sibling. I speak from experience.

[@maligal19a30]

Wish he reads this

[@FM-dm8xj]

anecdotal 🤣

[@wowso4]

He seems the typical mexician father very loving and strict

[@Kleur]

so much projection lol

[@lisakoeun2261]

I am 30 now and til this day I have this childhood trauma. Growing up my father never gave me attention or ever played with me. To see him play with other kids has alway made me feel so insecure. I just wanted love like everyone else. The sad thing was…it wasn’t just me who feels this way, my sister too. So when the brother said “not good” when seeing his dad played with his classmates. I felt that. It hurts. We humans small or big need that emotional love no matter boy or girl.

[@PlentyofNiu]

I feel sad for Anton 😮‍💨 He isn't a bad father but his enthusiasm and discipline is putting his son under a lot of pressure

[@xpokeyx]

Honestly, its not that bad. I think its unfair to say he is a “macho” man simply from talking the sheet away from the son who isn’t paying attention in class. Any attentive parent would want their child to respect and focus on the teacher. So far, he seems like a pretty great dad who seems involved in his kids’ lives. Maybe, if he balanced the sweet talking between the two kids, it would be better. But, overall, I think he’s a good father to the two kids.

[@rachelcookie321]

I never had a day were parents visited my school but I could imagine lots of parents would of done that if they saw their kid not listening to the teacher. Him doing that seemed very familiar to me for some reason. It seemed very normal and like something most parents would do.

[@raquelfigueroa5539]

My dad was raised by my grandma alone. He’s the sweetest most loving father. It’s posible that his mom gave him adults responsibilities as a kid after his father left them. The so” you are the men of the house now” , line.

[@dohajoon91]

Nope.. He is an a... Ss

[@mochiandjams8761]

What we see actually isn't so bad I think, but the thing is that in another video he compares his 2 kids telling the older "look at your sister, she doesn't play around while eating". The girl also finishes eating before his brother so it's like he's telling Aston to be more like her even though he treats them completely different. I find sad and absurd that he believes that boys HAVE to be raised with a strict and firm hand while with girls, we NEED to be more gentle and caring.

[@kath_23_]

That's not issue here, the issue is his toxic masculinity. As a latina I know he grew up in the same environment as me, believing men shouldn't feel, men should be strong, boys shouldn't be gentle. When he said " is boys talk" he is implying his son shouldn't be treated the same as his daughter because he is a boy. That's toxic.

[@luci4087]

1:15 the kid wasn’t listening or paying attention, so his dad took away the paper which is what many decent parents would do. i know they called him “macho” dad because that is the way he is being presented, but i don’t like the fact that they called him a macho dad during this incident when it wasn’t even a “macho” thing.

[@hellokenize7019]

It was still wrong of him to do that

[@lizzie404]

I know the father means well but we have to remember that children most important stage of development for emotionally starts young. Seeing how “strict” he is to the boy compared to girl is going to impact them. We have to remember mental illness is real and have to think about how treating the children differently based on gender is going to affect them. We have so many examples around us on why children don’t have close relationships with their parents and how they turned out. It doesn’t necessarily mean that the children won’t love the parents but they won’t be able to have that emotional trust with them. I’ll put myself as an example.

[@nicoleraheem1195]

Exactly 💯

[@clarizahhh]

I agree. I have experienced this myself as well and I can tell you resentment is formed when parents treat children differently. It definitely affects their adult life.

[@annikatan378]

Agreed. On the same boat here.

[@QueenDavidCreative]

He doesn’t listen to his Father, because of how his father has raised him. As a father you need to plant the seed and your son will begin to gravitate towards your gentleness to him. “Parents do not provoke your children”. Tradition has caused a lot of division; tradition of (this is how things have always been done, this is how we think where I come from, it’s how my parents raised me etc). We don’t have to always do things cos it’s how it’s always been done, do things cos it’s the right thing to do. Raise your kids the same way, boy or girl. Kids learn love first from their parents before they go into the world.

[@bamdingayan3906]

Agree

[@rhoda4621]

Amen! i appreciate the Bible verse. God’s way is better than human wisdom

[@xiaorishu]

Iuno ..This dude seems like a saint compared to my dad lol.

[@20001born]

Yeah lol same when I was young I used to be scared of him big time

[@tsuyuasui7297]

@@20001born ESPECIALLY when they would start screaming, nothing scares me more than a man screaming 😭 like my mother screaming wouldn’t scare me at all but once it was my dadi was OUT.

[@20001born]

@@tsuyuasui7297 yeah fr fam, their voices are heavy and assertive so it’s kinda scary, now that I’m older, whenever some guy is screaming I just stay silent (the fear is not there anymore) but that’s prolly coz I’ve lived with that all my life sigh

[@xStarstargirlx]

From the videos, he actually seems gentle with his son (but yes, a little stricter). I guess he does need to show some more of the softness love towards his son (like giving affection to his son just like to his daughter). My dad was wayyyy more stricter than Mexican dad here. I was almost jealous of Aston (and I'm a girl). But if Aston is slightly afraid or feels a little tense towards Mexican dad, then yeah, he needs to tone down the strictness.

[@theklam6276]

I am fully confident that this dad isn’t showing us what he is truly like at home. After all there is a camera and a team watching you. This guy isn’t exactly stupid either. He’s a slimy guy and honestly I wouldn’t be surprised if he has hit his children - the son especially. My parents were like that too. Always lovely to strangers but hitting us at home. I now live in another country.

[@BatmanPwnage]

My moms korean and she was 100000000000 times stricter. My mom was not gentle at all. My dad's white army guy. Also strict but my mom was def a different level. My curfew was when the street lights popped on until I was 20 😂 I'm strict on my kids too but I show a lot of affection. It's about balance

[@thisisthenewme100]

@@theklam6276 How are you judging him to be a slimy guy and capable of child abuse from a 8 minute clip? While I agree he is a bit stricter to his son than his daughter based on some traditional views that I feel to be outdated, I haven't seen anything that would even warrant the suggestion of child abuse in any of the clips I've seen. I see a lot of projection from your post. Words have power. Try to use them carefully.

[@jce1392]

I think its important to treat siblings as equal as possible. My family is very similar to this. My grandfather treated his son stricter than his dauthers and it has brought so many unnesscesary emotional struggles...even if its just a little, it makes you feel loved less.

[@Artemis_jay]

The dad seems fine and not harsh at all I think it’s just a cultural thing tbh. Being American and exposed/lived with some Latin families they always treat the boys differently than the girls in the way they are brought up but in the end they are extremely family oriented and filled with love.

[@latinasawntop]

It’s normally different in Latin households, and in fact it’s usually the other way round. The son gets treated better than the daughter.

[@PaPa-ko1vg]

@@latinasawntop better is a relative term. I heard people make the same comparison with Indian families. what people tend to forget is that sons have more responsibilities in these families. So its only a presumption based on what you see on the surface that sons get better treatment.

[@kath_23_]

Latina here with friends that hate their fathers because " a man shouldn't be gentle" let me tell you, toxic masculinity runs in our countries. A child shouldn't be sad when playing with his father, that should be a core memory of happiness not sadness.

[@Nerubiru]

Yeah and that’s not fine. That’s just the reason, and there’s room for improvement and solution.

[@sambatra6162]

@@kath_23_ true

[@BearingMySeoul]

His son probably believes that the dad likes the sister more since he talks to her more softly. I understand men being harder on their sons, but that really has to wait until they're older, around middle school when they can understand it more. In the early years, they just need to know that they're loved!

[@mariama716]

2:38 this is the first time I’ve seen KDOC insert a meme LOL loved it

[@mckenna4725]

I don't understand the criticism. I think he's doing great. Very hands on and caring.

[@tsuyuasui7297]

i do see the problem tho, he is treating both of his kids different bc of their sex.

[@biblestudy4803]

@@tsuyuasui7297 dude, what ?

[@tsuyuasui7297]

@@biblestudy4803 you read that right, he literally said so himself.

[@biblestudy4803]

@@tsuyuasui7297 okay, thank you God bless you.

[@Doc-hp5wf]

@@tsuyuasui7297 and so he should becoz they face the world differently .Both genders have different struggles

[@hibak6857]

If he keeps this up his son will end up resenting him when he’s older, quite unfortunate cause the dad seems like he really tries but is convinced by traditional gender stereotypes which honestly shouldn’t even been applicable to little children maybe when there older for this “guy talk”. probably cause his dad left him which is sad but maybe he should have a chat which his son to make things get better cause his son is clearly uncomfortable even the mom and hosts are concerned. At the end of the day he is just severing the bond between his son but hopefully he can change.

[@hibak6857]

Oh and the whole he’s a “troublemaker” because he’s doodling is unfair he’s just being a normal kid. It seems like he’s trying to push this narrative on his son when he’s just being a kid.

[@lizzie404]

Yeah this

[@armveg4117]

@@hibak6857You people playing family therapist over minutes of video are weird

[@rachelcookie321]

@@hibak6857 I don’t think he called him a troublemaker just because he was doodling in class. He probably messes around in class a lot and they have heard it from the teacher. Just because they only show him doodling in this video doesn’t mean that’s the only thing he’s done. The way the dad told his son that he wants him to listen to the teacher more makes it seem like to me that this is a thing the boy struggles with a lot and not just a one time incident.

[@T0T91]

This guy is a good dad. However as someone who faced harsher critcisms and less affection from parents solely due to me being born first, I seriousy think it's wrong to treat your kids differently. My parents were strict towards me but showered my sister with affection no matter what she did. Im not a guy either. They still do this even though we are adults and I have resentment towards them. Not to mention, my sister is also super spoiled and entitled. I mean, what do you expect lol.

[@JuzzMe-xu4mu]

He is a great dad. I see him treating his son very well. I'm Latina and my dad would not have the patience he has... believe me lol

[@tonga05]

I feel like having an absent father could really affect your life in the long term. As you can see Daniel doesn't know how it feels like to grow up with one - if he did, he wouldn't do this to his son

[@Dovezlife]

Good parenting is everything, being harsh is not always the way to go

[@armveg4117]

This is nowhere near harsh

[@beefbeef8589]

@@armveg4117 if even the mom noticed it I would say it probably affects him even a little bit

[@RealJudyi]

He's a wonderful dad! Strict? Uh yeah he's mexican and he's actually very loving compared to a lot of parents I know. My dad didn't do homework with me but he always played and took us bike riding. He wasn't nearly as affectionate as this dad but was pretty great anyways. This is actually a very involved parent and his "strictness" is nothing out of the ordinary. Usually dad's by default are much more understanding towards girls because they want their daughters to find someone who will treat them kindly and have patience. With males they tend to teach them to be more confident and protective.

[@anasuzypereira2673]

my father is like him, I confess that sometimes I hate it, but I know it's for the better, like he just wants me to be the best version of myself.

[@shailajajha8013]

Freak! Daniel is nothing in front of my father 😂 back in childhood days, my father was way more strict than him! It's rather beautiful that he is making his child consistent towards his studies from the beginning itself :)

[@spencers4092]

This dad is super caring and loving towards his son. He's very reasonable. Now he may be requiring less of his daughter - I don't know - but he's not strict or mean to his son at all. At least not from what was shown on camera.

[@MS-iy9sj]

was not expecting that meme at 2:37 hahahahhahahaha whoever edited this needs a raise

[@seoul73507]

I hope the father sees this and realizes his treatment towards his son is unfair and make have a long term negative effect on him. I betcha the boy is hurting.

[@armveg4117]

Overreacting

[@sissi9100]

@@armveg4117 I agree

[@sissi9100]

Bro the dad is literally not that bad

[@sarcasmcafe9860]

I don't think his dad is that strict compared to what most Asian fathers. He hasn't raised his voice or hit him. He is caring and takes more afford to be a part of his children's life, feeding them, playing with them. Wish my dad did. One of my sad moments of childhood was when none of my parents ever came to the program while all my friends did. I would just finish the performance and wait for my uncle to pick me up.

[@idgaf4912]

That boy is so lucky to be born in a family like this :")

[@idgaf4912]

@@kath_23_ It doesn't look troubling to that extent, it is a bit annoying, yes, but the child is more likely to understand his father as he gets older. I have a very toxic relationship with my father, and compared to that, this is nothing

[@phatcoochie]

@@idgaf4912 or he could end up resenting him.

[@idgaf4912]

@@phatcoochie :D

[@tsuyuasui7297]

Or he could grow up resenting both his sister and dad.

[@clarizahhh]

Kids that have different cultures are so lucky! Get to grow up learning so many different languages!

[@jmb4408]

I feel like his dad is trying his best. Ofc it wouldn't be perfect but they're in the process of learning each other.

[@raquelfigueroa5539]

1:17 I guess he feel that his son is disrespecting he’s teacher by not paying attention. I get it.

[@marleyjz5379]

I think using the word "macho" to define him in this situation is not correct. It's being used as a stereotype since he is Mexican. He might be a bit strict but the child was not paying attention or doing his homework. Which is a normal reaction for a parent to have. I feel like the language barrier is the issue. He should have teach & spoke to the children in Spanish first since that's his native language. It would have helped with their relationship and engagement with each other. Otherwise communication could get misinterpreted and results into this.

[@phatcoochie]

if you watch the other videos of them. he clearly favors his daughter and is a lot more softer to her than his son which will cause his son to distance himself from his dad. He can probably see the difference in how he gets treated versus his sister.

[@gigigiooo]

In my experience in Korea they took the word Macho from English (as funny as that sounds) and in America they use Macho as “manly man” so Koreans also take it as that meaning. When I explained to my Korean friends that it’s a Mexican word AND that it doesn’t have a good connotation in Mexico, they were surprised. They thought it only meant manly man.

[@trrt2719]

@@gigigiooo i mean English got it from Spanish and Spanish got it from latin meaning male/masculine but it arrived in English through Spain even before colonialism

[@vlogswithjojo876]

If he's dad wasn't in he's life he should be more involved with his son i mean teaching him responsibility and such is good but do it a more kinder loving manner ... This make so mad when parents plays favoritism with kids ...

[@mheekkim2901]

As a Korean who had a father like him, I have a very different image of my father compared to my sister. She loves him as she is his little princess, to me he feels more like a teacher, mentor than a father. Not someone I can openly tell my feelings or troubles to.

[@bre4483]

Ok purr They steppin up the editing 💀💅🏽

[@syre97]

My mom wouldn’t even have said anything…one look and I would be the one taking the paper away from my damn self 😂.

[@2niiMo]

As a parent... Don't know if it's a cultural thing (I'm Mexican so can relate to the dude) but I imagine it's probably a universal thing. Image, the way your child behaving is s reflection of your parenting. I can guarantee he wasn't being macho to the extent that it means. He was trying to correct the way his son behaved in the classroom. Paying attention, being focused and participating in the class rather than being distracted. He and his son have language barriers that may hinder effective communication. Being from a multilingual home, I know what it's like to be raised primarily in one language and being taught another at school and while the language taught outside of home is practiced more, it also stunts the primary home language and hinders communication as a child leans into the language their most comfortable in. He's also very direct because it's the most effective way to let the child know that something is important. Doesn't make him a bad father but he and his wife need to get together and talk to his son, communicate the importance of paying attention and why rather than expecting the child to understand with short curt words. He's trying and that shouldn't be discouraged. His wife definitely addressed the situation and they can both work together to improve parent to child communication.

[@ballerinojongin3790]

It might be too presumptuous of me to say this since we're only seeing short clips of their life, but the dad coddling his daughter and favouring her while making her older brother into an outsider does not mean that he's a 'good' father like they said in the last clip. And he said it himself too, he thinks girls have to be raised with a 'softer mindset' because we're somehow weaker than boys and can't handle the same things they can. If he keeps going with these harmful gender stereotypes, I hope he isn't suprised when his own son resents his him and his sister. It's like he's punishing his son for his own dad leaving him when he was younger. Being present and giving your children basic necessities and raising them with equal love and care doesn't mean you're spoiling them it's literally your job as their parent and we need to stop applauding parents for providing these basic things.

[@ballerinojongin3790]

@@AlexClayland1232 I know you don’t want to hear this but it’s better I pop your bubble before someone else does, the little boy’s unfair treatment and the dad’s strictness of him is toxic masculinity which is inherently born from misogyny. The father thinks if he’s more gentle with his son, then he’ll grow up too soft (a trait the dad considers feminine; i.e misogyny).

[@QueenDavidCreative]

@@AlexClayland1232 I don’t see a spin here of turning it into a woman thing. Read again

[@bonbons.]

@@AlexClayland1232 Nah when a girl who actually feels like a girl get told that she looks like a man meant she's not feminine enough to the person taste. And not bcs she's ugly or something..

[@ballerinojongin3790]

@@AlexClayland1232 homie now you just want to argue for the sake of arguing, the dad clearly made a distinction in his own words about the reason he raises his son and daughter differently in the last clip and if you missed that then its your problem not mine. Also internalised misandry will NEVER be a thing so nice try 🤨

[@majpanik]

@@AlexClayland1232 you won't win pal this video and the previous ones comments section is full of soft as shit woke idiots who see toxic masculinity (sigh! I really hate that term!), sexism, racism and every other ism in literally everything. They can also predict the future as apparently they know with 100% certainty that the son will hate his dad in the future. These clowns can't be argued or reasoned with so don't waste your time. For what it's worth I agree with you at least 😏 😉

[@de20]

Lol I wish my father was even half as decent as him. When I was 6 he made me sleep on the floor because I asked my mom why our relatives had nicer families than us and he overheard. I think that single incident says enough but yes he's abusive. Now I'm 22 and he asks me why I don't talk to him, wow, wonder why

[@WolfOfLosAngeles]

Same I grew up with an abusive father we still talk but there’s always that trauma or resentment

[@arwenjanarce6810]

For me, compared to other parents he is way better. The only problem here is that, he needs to be more gentle(?) in his way of speaking and acting towards his son, since he is still a child and still can not understand much of the situation. But when the kid is already in school age (6-12) or maybe when he is 10 years old, his ways of taking care for him would be great. There is no harm on being strict, as long as you do it in a gentle manner. Oh and I also like the way he said that "I don't want you to be the best, I just want you to listen to your teacher" because pressuring your kid at such an early stage is not really helpful.^-^

[@jessicapace9689]

These things can really cause issues. It's always good to meet a child where there at. Every child is different some become is it strength or are raising another toxic make. And one who doesn't know how to deal with his feelings

[@lynnchiam7099]

Whoever did this episode’a edit HAHAA I love your humour with the meme and comments

[@darkalligraph]

0:46 *me at school* the subtitles in this video are on point..🤣

[@beefbeef8589]

Some of y’all were raised in strict households and it’s showing. My mom never treated me any differently from my sister and we are extremely close. My cousins on the other hand did get raised differently. A takes up all the attention and B barely gets any as a result B stays to herself and isn’t that close to her mom like A is and tries to do everything alone even though it hurts her. A got bad grades and b didn’t even get asked how her grades where while her grades were good. Same for my cousin’s on my dad’s side C can do whatever he wants and can calmly sit around and do nothing while D needs to do most of the chores and cooking and can’t go out whenever she wants and it’s bc of her dad and now her relationship with her dad is strained. Treating kids differently can make them or feel distant or completely have no emotional connection with you. Y’all might say that it’s overreacting but a lot of the videos featuring this family shows that the girl gets some type of favouritism while he brother needs to be strong for no reason like it’s a kid teaching them to have confidence and be strong is good as long as they both get that treatment.

[@Doc-hp5wf]

Men are needed to be strong u agree or not. World doesn't give any incentive to any men . This is how it is , u may think they should be treated equally, no, they should be given opportunities equally. Boys need authoritative figures in their growing teen years other wise they end up in gangs and drugs . It's not the same with girls .

[@MoshiiiMosh]

Same to me, none of my dad and mom raised me differently than my brother nor viceversa and we have such a close and beautiful relationship (both our parents and my siblings). I come from a Latin American country same as the father in the video and I highly disagree with his parenting.

[@Colby807]

l love the edits😂

[@lightwings346]

2:33 WHO EDITED THIS LMAO I LOVE U

[@ryjn2024]

only thing about his dad is that he already has set of stereotypes on how men or boys should act, same as how my parents tells me about how I should act as a girl, while as I understand for my own parents, there was a major cultural and social impact which ig is same for aston's dad too, I don't try to yk argue with my parents, because it doesn't do a shit, they feel superior with all those values, so only thing that could be done was for me to shut up and move on with my life and move away the moment I get and break that cycle myself, I think the mother should often try to talk about this with his dad, and try to make him understand how it might affect his son's thinking or mental health and that men are allowed to be vulnerable. P.S. his dad is not that bad yk I have seen worse sooo yeahh...... including my dad.

[@notthemaincharacter]

I think as a dad he’s doing great! A little bit strict is ok for a naughty child in my opinion and As a parent you always should balance each other and they might be doing it well . Good luck on the future for this family

[@AMKsaysRJ]

the person who edited this is great at editing 💀

[@polly016]

No, that is not a way of raising up your boy child and it is completely stupid to say that men work more then women and have greater responsibility to behold, they are equally multi tasking and have their own part of responsibilities. The day this child grows up and gets on his teenage years, he will completely despise his sister for getting a handful good treatment and his father for being such discriminative. Being a parent, you never gotta do that. Treating a boy with such harshness will never make him a man and holding a girl with such softness, she will be unable to be independent. Equal damage.

[@ktwnrice]

Listen to ur wife man :( she gives good advice

[@elizanoshame2894]

i think the father is fantastic !

[@unregisteredhypercam2142]

i burst out laughing when he made the typo looking up the school

[@ssarasary]

The father, unequally love his child

[@gigipalma2247]

The father is hard headed beacause he was raised by his father the way he raised his son..

[@YVESBlueBeard00]

no he didn’t have a father growing up that’s why he’s so strict on his son, he said that in the last clip

[@lolalre]

this is the most funniest comment ever and it shows that you didn't even watch part 1 of this video😂😂😂 This father never even had a father growing up, so your comment is *COMPLETLY WRONG*

[@Naamy19X9]

I want to see a little bit more of this family. Is there a part 3?

[@YOGIbeatbox]

El debería de hablarle en Español no en inglés! Simple así El Niño entiende a su padre de una mejor manera!

[@brittneyhall4000]

You are make a Perfect Married Couple make me smile

[@edelleaugustine2265]

The son looks so tired and pressured. The father must treat him nicely or else the kid could grow broken. He either end up "macho" or not but still broken inside. Even if the father tells him words like he doesn't have to be the best, he just needs to do his part, the father's action/treatment toward his son doesn't justify those words. As we all know, action speaks louder than words. Also, as I've noticed, in this generation of kids, the more controlling you are to them, the more they won't listen and the more they lose their respect to you. So that is why maybe when the father tried to call his son nicely, he said the kid won't listen because he already formed his image of being "macho" to his kid that even if the father changed the way he speaks to his son, his ( the kid's) perception of him has already solidified by the years of his "macho" treatment.

[@MVBNov]

I think the father feels very pressured to deliver and he wants so hard not to fail or make a mistake that he is putting so much pressure on his child. I totally get him. I felt very lost when i was confronted to be a foreigner and a parent at the same time, a lot of insecurities appeared, I did not have them when I was alone (just a foreigner). For example: Like do not knowing traditions, songs, costumes and not spoken behaviours which you should somehow teach your children. You feel like you have no references and one tries to dig deep to the past, to reach your center where you knew how it was when you were a child, but all is different and sometimes things just do not match. I feel that by being the dad and having the traditional view of a father, like the one who provides and protects, makes him feel very uncomfortable as he is in the "week" position by not knowing the language, he is giving his best and is not giving up the role of being the father and rase his children. I hope he can relax as he us doing well. Love should be first, all the rest will come. Children are smart and if they feel loved and secure, they will make it despite the circumstances

[@aragorn318]

I think she's right. The son might grow up resenting his dad for treating him badly.

[@rollercoaster8619]

wth people expect him to be lol hes an ideal man to me, good looking, caring, family oriented, calm, gentle. Him not joking around and acting cutesy doesnt mean hes harsh to his son

[@phatcoochie]

he acts a lot more loving to his daughter than his son and i’m pretty sure the son can see it

[@Doc-hp5wf]

@@phatcoochie yes girls need to know that men are loving and caring. The boys need to know how to treat women .

[@odduck2]

The meanest dad ever is one who leaves his wife and children. Namely, my dad

[@tonga05]

The school doors, looks just like the one in All Of Us Are Dead - does that mean most schools in S.Korea have those kind of doors. I think it's amazing!

[@rachelcookie321]

Have you not seen a lot about Korea? That’s very common for korean schools. Not all of them are like that but it’s probably the majority.

[@tonga05]

@@rachelcookie321 Nope. My second time seeing this.

[@pearlmusic5119]

the editor needs a pay raise istg

[@Livingbyfaith8192]

I have nothing against him about how he raises his kids, we grow up in different backgrounds and different cultures, so we must know this before we say something about how he handles his kids, adding to that he can do whatever to his family because he is the dad of the family

[@Livingbyfaith8192]

@@mork4971 i see nothing wrong with his Actions, But i respect your opinion

[@Livingbyfaith8192]

@Minni im sure he already awares of child abuse laws, So i think its imposible for him to beat his own child, you dont have to be over reacting Dear,,,,,,

[@tsuyuasui7297]

what for dumb logic is this.

[@Livingbyfaith8192]

@@tsuyuasui7297 have you seen my replies to other comment Dear? Bless you, i'll edit my comment don't cha worry

[@tsuyuasui7297]

@@Livingbyfaith8192 Yes i very much did, and your logic is still dumb sis😩

[@fulloflowers]

"i told you, it's a different way of loving the kids" well...

[@mayam6390]

I’m Mexican too and I grew up being the only girl and it’s true our father’s favor us but that’s just how they were raised

[@gb9247]

If you will constantly say to your son that he needs to be the best (in class, in study), it’ll give him too much pressure, it’s not right. You can’t pressure him like that, you can’t make your kid become a person who will pursue your dreams, they need to have their own.

[@maligal19a30]

He changes it up in the end Saying he don’t gotta be the best Just to listen to teacher etc

[@sakantiwoi]

I think this father has the right method to raised his child, to me i would love father like this, who ask me what happen at school, give attention, and this is really wise, i hope his child talented and be humble like their father. Actually my father doesnt care about his Child me, my brother, my sister he never ask me what do i do in school, never ask me homework, doesnt care about my report, even he never playing with us, he never cooking for us, so right now we are lost, he never give me advise. The way i grow up, i really insecure and shamed at the same time when my friend tell about her father, i have father but i never looked him like a Hero. My mom feel bad to me, my brother, my sister cause she has husband like that, make me lost way, not happy at all. So i think Aston have a lot thing to tell to his friends about his father, and i hope Aston being a good guy as his father, being positive, and care each other ✨✌️

[@skeletonflower5252]

Honestly I think the kid has attention issues and is a bit difficult to manage. I think the dad is not harsh with his words but because its English it comes off that way perhaps spanish or learning some korean wouldn't hurt. Of course fathers adore their girls alot more than sons doesn't mean they love them more but he is getting older and needs correcting when he isn't paying attention, rolling on the floor when eating dinner and doesn't know his homework. The dad is way better than most parents and people are blowing it out of proportion.

[@WolfOfLosAngeles]

I’m Mexican American same as my father and my dad screamed at me for not knowing a math answer lol this guy isn’t a bad father but the wife is right he needs to be more chill with his son.

[@yvonne3582]

The dad is not a machista, he’s just very controlling over his son. Probably over compensation as a result of being abandoned by his own dad.

[@bluelight8025]

I think he is sweet. He is not even harsh. Lol

[@chobusmin8202]

The dad should speak in Spanish instead of english. I think it will be more convenient and beneficial for them.

[@rachelcookie321]

He talked to them a bit in Spanish in the other clip. I feel like he probably speaks with them in both English and Spanish but was only speaking English because of the show. It would make it easier if they only have to translate English.

[@williamsmoo578]

A lot of people in the comment have obviously not done any study of child psychology… it doesn’t matter how the father is brought up… it’s the fact that you can see how his kid is almost pushing himself away from him… like he fears his dad… it’s obvious his intentions are good and he means well but his wife is only telling him to use his words more wisely so it wouldn’t impact their baby boy so much… and also I admire how much he actually is involved with his children bcs I never got that growing up but his ideology between gender roles really needs to be re-evaluated…

[@MN-jc7kd]

ahaha ahahahaa the subs and the memes I love

[@cherriemay528]

Tough love is a make or break your kids situation 😂

[@Idkk2250]

The father is super serious with his academics and like even when he had to do 30 minutes of exercise as homework he actually made him do it. Like he is only a child. He could have just played what his son wanted to play as a form of exercise. I mean there is nothing wrong with teaching your kids discipline from an early age. But i think he should tone it down. Let his kids loose a lil bit. But anyways he's father is not that bad he'll learn i believe. And everyone has their own way of raising their kids. And honestly we don't even know how he is like in real life maybe its the camera thats making him act more strict? Regardless the kids are very cute ♥️

[@teovu5557]

if she thinks her husband is too mean and macho to her son then I guess my father is Satan himself! This guy is super gentle with his son I dont know what she is talking about!

[@lolo9408]

So cuteeeee

[@ElmaGacha]

The son looks scared. I get that you want to raise a strong kid but your method is wrong. The son just looks uncomfortable around him. He thinks of what he wants to say before saying it because he's scared the dad will scold him Don't let that boy grow up that way because he will have a certain amount of hatred for you. One day, your son will also throw you into a nursing home because you are A STRONG MAN.

[@__haniii]

I miss those times when those are just my homework. College is not fun kids hahahaa

[@luadu255]

5:08 ese órale kajsjdkkdjkdkd siempre mi mamá me decía “órale ponte a hacer tu tarea y no me vengas con tus chingaderas de que te sientes mal”

[@adamariamaya969]

Anyone know what episode this is? Or how to search for it?

[@EleLoto]

He is so ensecure... Poor baby.

[@danneytee]

male and female are not created equal from physical - mental - emotional aspects. I have no issue with parenting them differently as long you sneak in "I love you" to both of them by the end of the day.

[@dunphy1238]

He really needs to not speak to his children in broken English. That will be the only version of english they will feel most comfortable speaking. Its better for them to learn two languages fluently

[@dada_nini_]

Se nota que Daniel realmente está intentando ser el mejor padre posible para sus dos hijos y que los ama mucho, lamentablemente tiene algunas creencias demasiado tradicionales y estereotipadas del genero y cree que debe tratar a sus hijos diferentes por ser mujer y hombre, eso podría generar mucho daño a largo plazo en sus dos niños pero principalmente en su hijo, tratar a un niño de manera cariñosa y comprensiva no va a hacerle ningún mal, tratar a los dos de diferentes maneras solo va a hacer que Aston genere resentimiento hacia Daniel y que se sienta menos amado que su hermana, tratar a ambos de la misma manera y con el debido amor y respeto es lo mejor, así ambos van a sentir que su papá los ama de la misma manera.

[@legorockstar2000]

2:35 whoever does the editing for this.. IM DEAD xD

[@lillyyana9910]

Poor boy. He seems very awkward with his father.

[@hyeniesy]

if he keeps doing that his son probably will grow up hating him 😂

[@frank8348]

Apparently everyone in the comments is a perfect parent and talk to their kids like they are infants.

[@Underview.]

잘생겼다

[@pfever]

0:14 He doesn't need to put the hand on his chest, because he is a foreigner. Just nationals salute when their nation's anthem is played.