EP.65 Mona Monyane on 4 year pending divorce, losing everything & rebuilding with God

[@TumiModise945]

2020-2021 i lost so much of weight due to stress and depression, i lost confidence, scared to go out. Nothing seemed to impress me, i was loosing hope day by day coz my problems were adding up bit by bit. 2021 on the 31st of December, i prayed so hard for God to change my story in the 2022. Come 2022 my emotions healed magical, all my problems went off my mind not knowing how, but they were still there. My debts were still there, not working, still loosing things, but in my mind I was ok and felt just ok emotionally. Everything was just ok emotionally and spiritually and in my heart, and i could not understand why. I started to gain weight day by day, my confidence picked up and i was really happy even though i have financial problems. 1 day 1 sit down and that's when it came in to my mind that all ths changes came because of the prayer i prayed on the 31st of December, that's when i started praying every other day, thanking God for everything. I'm still not working, but no debts anymore, but I'm surviving each day. I'm thankful to God. God answers guys.

[@nhlentini404]

I love you 🥰

[@chumilesimelane6192]

Much love and Glory to God

[@rethabileree231]

❤

[@Blessed_for_life_2023]

Absolutely, God answers mysteriously ❤

[@vuyelwajeanettdikane372]

Somebody said we should not take for granted the prayers made 31 December, I can't wait 🙌

[@KayM-Naudé]

She’s so beautiful. Her beauty is so underrated. Also, her dress is absolutely fine.

[@MissB-749]

I couldn't agree with you more, she's smart and sounds like a lady that knows herself. so confident and comfortable with herself.

[@Tleho]

People have such weird expectations of others that they cannot stand it when someone is being themselves, authentic, raw, vulnerable, unfiltered and not afraid to show up this way. You want it packaged a certain way to suit your palates. This isn’t a telenovela or someone reading from a script they have practised, this is her REAL life.❤

[@LeboMekgwe]

She’s absolutely amazing

[@bongythwala9840]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂Musa ukumkhohlisa

[@ramadimetsephale8276]

❤❤❤

[@OmphileRamasehla]

I love Mona. I love that she's radically herself. She's not posturing for celebrity. I enjoy that she is just existing and it's funny that people are upset because she does not care to live up to societal standards for fashion, beauty, language and nothing. More love, more healing and more power to you queen. POW!

[@dindip]

If you haven’t been through what she has been through, it is going to be hard to relate. She’s making so much sense to me.

[@Dearchuma]

Same Same… I understand her completely.. this woman is phenomenal ♥️♥️♥️🔥

[@sejweboshielo1113]

True

[@sejweboshielo1113]

True

[@zubaidahmotlhabane6089]

As women, we need to be careful not to lose ourselves in the process of loving somebody too much

[@itumelengmochai]

This one of the best episodes i have watched this year.Packed with so much wisdom and worthy of being listened to multiple times🙏. Looking forward to the book Mam !

[@zinhlezwane1753]

It was one of my best also, tjoo this was powerful

[@philiswashereenmkhatshwa6833]

I could listen to her speak all day …her words are so inspiring and touching ….

[@neopooe6042]

This was beautiful and I think Mona will make an excellent writer , her sense of humour and style of using words is amazing ❤

[@poshy3045]

I love the fact that she lives to tell her own story, her experiences, and discoveries . Beautiful 😍

[@LeboMekgwe]

We use marriage as a hospital to heal our brokenness-- This!!!!!!! The truth in this

[@MashianeTshepiso]

13:22 It hit me when I got to relate that He will crap something from you to get your attention, because he is God who can give back whatever he took... the story of my life. I call this season of my life "the wilderness " God taught me that separation is kingdom language. Separation is not a bad word, though we gonna feel it. Is actually meant for our empowerment. Abram had to separate from his hometown and almost everything he knew, for God to keep his promise, Because of that separation he was now not a blessing for himself but for others/ generations. Moses had to be separated from the land of Egypt for him to see and hear God, and after separation he became a blessing to others. David had to be separated from what he knew, he had to always be on the run. God made him a blessing even for other. With all bible characters that we read about and God use mighty not for themselves only but for others.

[@Tleho]

This was so humbling for you to share and personal. Thank you for laying it bare for the masses to learn and grow. You put your wounds out there for public consumption knowing very well that you will receive scrutiny and critique about your life’s experiences and a journey so personal. God bless you for it all 💕. My take away is to seek validation and fulfilment from within. To continuously work on oneself until the point of self mastery. To be grounded in faith and God’s timing and the plans He has to prosper us. Not to succumb to societal pressures. Nobody is coming to save you, not even the marriage that has been in your vision board since you were 11, invest in yourself, heal your emotional wounds and psychological trauma, appreciate the love that is in your life now and live everyday like it was your last. Be kind to yourself and others. ❤

[@noni7151]

Wow, Aus Mona, this was a deep conversation, I loved your transparency. It shows how deeply intimate you are with your spirituality. Thank you

[@MissCombs1511]

Sometimes pressing restart is scary but so necessary. Sometimes it takes a crisis. But strength like yours Mona is how life is changed upwards! 🎉🎉🎉

[@leratosikhosana8261]

Sometimes pressing restart is scary but so necessary. Sometimes it takes a crisis. LOUDER PLEASE!!! I HAD to rewrite this because the truth you've just shared here sesi... bona👊🏾👏🏽👊🏾👏🏽

[@MissCombs1511]

@@leratosikhosana8261 yayiva ke ngok Chomi?? 🎉🎉🎉

[@MissCombs1511]

I saw a video years ago of Mona and her ex husband, very happy and I remember one of the things you both mentioned you had ancestral worship in common. I am so happy to hear you speak about God sooo much ❤❤❤ and Jesus Christ in particular.

[@funifetumani1741]

All good things come only from the Lord. It’s a lesson I’m learning everyday.

[@RayOfLetsatsi]

I hear and I understand her. Shoutout to her for telling her story how she wants and not conforming to yalls expectations.

[@amandagodivier3648]

Same here!🌸

[@nolufefedibete1900]

I hear and understand her too, what a brave and strong woman ❤

[@belindagoliath6476]

Learnt a lot from this interview. Thank you Mona for being vulnerable and sharing your experience and wisdom ❤

[@khumbudzomufunwaini2060]

Mona is quite a vibe hey And Thank you Madam Speaker for being such a great host, asking questions and allowing her space to respond without interjecting, it's such a rare skill many host struggle with

[@thabangmalepe1663]

Thank you madam speaker for bringing such an artistic, feminine, lovely spirit with such a beautiful relationship with God. No everyone can understand the narrative of a healed, spiritually matured person. I have seen 97% of failing marriages through her narrative. You spoke the scars, wound, pain and have really shown accountability. Maturity to top

[@royalqueen8679]

Couldn't have said it better, mu favorite Madam Speaker interview thus far🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤❤

[@naledisikhakhane3402]

Madam speaker, I love how you held space for her and asked the right questions, this is my first time watching your podcast, also love how clean the sound is when listening on earphones which unfortunately has gotten lost in the podcast space, its meant to be an auditory experience. Lastly I love Mona

[@nondumisomkhatshwa1165]

I love her hle ❤this woman is so beautiful 😍 inside and outside and she is such a beautiful soul. Have experienced her personally ❤she's such a force... love you Queen 👸🏾 you are an amazing human being ❤❤mommy did a great job in raising you... ❤️ strength to you my lovely Queen 👸🏾

[@NontuthukeloMokone-lr6gs]

I love the authenticity.... We see you and we hear you ...

[@nkhen_c357]

Few women reach this point of realisation, only few. She is not the typical women who blames their partner or ex with everything and dont take accountability....She will be fine this one

[@DKs_Journey1]

I will wait here. She has lost weight but her personality shines on❤

[@tanakamoyo2397]

Who is she

[@DKs_Journey1]

She used to act ko Muvhango for the longest time​@@tanakamoyo2397

[@luyandamali7330]

YoH I relate. I lost everything but God is great..Ill start afresh.Wound is still fresh...I owe my kids a happy mom.

[@BisoRaph]

This is definitely healing… Wow Mona👏🏽👏🏽

[@khanyisamajodina7684]

I can't even finish listening to this whole story i am not able to understand everything she is touching here and there 😮

[@thobekiledlamini]

And loud

[@naledindlovu976]

Tjo I'm about to leave the conversation and I was asking myself if it's just me cos I feel like I can't finish this video and decided to come to the comment section

[@nonhlanhlamahlahla856]

Same here,I tried shame 😢

[@palesamhlambi8478]

I think she wants to drop bars and be so deep and it's not necessary

[@shadimataboge5396]

I understand Mona clearly, love her personality ❤

[@buffalo_skies8490]

She's so likeable ❤❤❤❤ very articulate and smart.

[@nompumelelomadlala244]

Putting God first, Accountability Not loosing yourself in your marriage And making sure that you allow God to lead so you can teach and raise your kids in his ways. Thank you Mona❤

[@NozukoNdlovu]

She is a vibe yaz,I enjoyed watching this interview.. I have learnt a lot ,I pray this divorce gets sorted

[@philisiwerakomane8873]

You have refined free will, those who have ears will hear. Amen sisi

[@rachelandrews5746]

Mona you speaking the gospel truth. We want things out of this world and do not see we have so much from God. We compare ourselves to others and do not see the blessings around us. I love you sisters.

[@mslettiemathibe71]

I love her. The point about us being angry with our mothers... i hear her and that woman has held me down

[@rabelanirabelani2009]

Thanks Mona for sharing your story , is so easy to listen to you , so much wisdom in your words…😘

[@Itss_your_girl_bk]

I still don't think she's ok.I think she needs counseling 😢

[@welhelminamakara]

Exactly what I thought 😢

[@LeboMekgwe]

She will heal the way she wants and needs to. Not everyone wants to talk to counselors, God heals the broken hearted, if you are willing, that’s the route she’s taking and that’s fine.

[@matetemphela6594]

prioritizing a partner over God can hinder spiritual growth and intimacy with God. Thank you Sesi Mona for sharing your story😍😇

[@tebogor8334]

The way she narrated her life story was good enough... for descriptive details wait for her book and for the divorce to be finalized... meantime let's allow people to heal in their own way

[@elizamabasa5671]

Amen.. That's how I understood it to, it's OK not to be to explicit, descriptive etc, as the future is not to far where kids are cencerned.. It is about facing a reality one did not expect, learning through the pain and expressing as much as one can.,not for the tabloid but only through God's eyes&time.., she makes good sense if u truly incline. 💕... LIFE

[@ntangamunzhedzi1397]

We wish you the best on this whole process, may you finally get the freedom to just live your life ❤️

[@ThandoMathebula-jy4om]

Thanks Sisi for these life lessons indeed woman should know their worth and be wise God alone is God no one else

[@leighfant1874]

The comments are shocking. She is clear, aware, confident and stood on business. People just want someone to sound and express themselves in one way and cannot grasp the way she chooses to express herself.

[@Tleho]

They are not ready to receive her message because they are not where she is spiritually, mentally and emotionally. Only if you have also done the work yourself will you get it. Healing doesn’t end. I would love to see someone come in any platform and boldly say they are now a 💯 version of their higher self. It never stops. It’s like trying to give advice to someone who hasn’t evolved to the next step of their path, they won’t hear it, no matter how practical and sound the advice is 😅. Same thing is happening here ❤

[@thandimasilela8947]

Love Mona, she has a natural beauty, but I don't think she has healed what we see is a girl whose crying for help she really needs it. She wants to convey something but awumuzwa kahle ukuthi ufuna ukuthini. She's a smart girl but something is not make sure. The dress code is not also appropriate. She has a beautiful body but kuningi nje okungekho right. I hope one day she can reconcile with her husband and recover from what she's going through. She needs our prayers. Ngokubona kwami she's still depressed and she's still in love with her ex.

[@leighfant1874]

@thandimasilela8947 but what indicates that she hasnt healed? Who said she has to be healed? She is still going through a divorce which is difficult but making such assumptions and placing blame on her ngoba she hasn't healed...that is repetitive psychology bull we hear. What does healing even look like ? And who are we to deem dress codes as appropriate or not?

[@younginnovatorscenterofint8986]

In life you cannot be for everyone.. Those who are here being all negative jst know this was not for you. Thank you Mona, you spoke to me

[@sev7397]

She is gorgeous

[@mondeentlehadebe3041]

I pray for healing, forgiveness nd happiness for the both of them This has nothing to do with individuals It's a spiritual warefare Satan is after families Pls always pray for your families

[@Zine_Ngcobo]

Ohh I loved them so much, I was hurt by the ending 😢this was beautiful ❤

[@TebogoDhlamini-f9l]

I love it when she said sometimes we chase what is "honorable" because it has been indoctrinated. I learned this the hard way. The scripture that says your righteous is like a filthy rag. Made me realize it is by Grace and Grace alone. Never by works and we are stressed out and depressed because of the "honorable thing" which on its own nature is not sustainable

[@smallgirlBigGod-b8u]

I learned a lot and I relate with some of the things. I pray that she heals❤😊

[@chumilesimelane6192]

Much love for our chommy. We all been there and we picked us up and conquered chommy. It is well.. You will get it over!!

[@ZovuyoTini-z1k]

My gudness mona what a powerful testimony...The word says wth their testimony they defeated the devil..you have well done cc.

[@1Slie]

Yoh I loved every minute of this conversation. I resonate 110%. Not the being married part but the relationship was equivalent. The discussions with God, the process of healing, the court, eh ay shame but God! I will make sure my kids know God's love first. I will try my best because they shall not settle. Usatan is doing things out here. Yoh thina sina too many cuts and bruises, scars, we carry with us through life. And as she said we are very much accountable for our lives. And the healing can be a long process depending on how deep we got ourselves into situations. There is no shortcutting it because you end up repeating the either same mistake a different way or a nested mistake😅. Yoh ay this conversation was everything. Except where she said she is greatful that she met her husband. Eh ay no

[@thatoshikoane7387]

I don’t even understand what she talking about I expected formal conversation from her..but it shows that she’s still stressed let her heal and come back with descriptive conversation

[@zamokuhlemkwanazi5350]

Girl this interview 😢 bored me shame

[@mbalenhlebuthelezi3198]

Sometimes we try so much to be 'spiritual' and 'evolved' that we completely lose the plot.. just talk nje. uthini vele?? Lapho the comments are like 'wow, so healed' 🫤

[@palesamhlambi8478]

No substance at all 😢

[@SophieN17]

@@mbalenhlebuthelezi3198 I feel the same way….not to sound disrespectful or anything but just talk Mona !

[@VhutshiloNdwamato]

​@zamokuhlemkwanazi5350 there is absolutely nothing she is saying shame😮

[@RealTv.Q]

One thing I’ve learnt is that no matter who you are, healing is the fundamental key to success. The worst kind of success is the one that leaves you broken with all the materials in the world. Let’s normalise counselling💖

[@leratomahoshi1989]

When they say divorce is the hardest thing especially for a woman, she still needs to heal.

[@vinoliadieketseng3940]

🤞🏽🤞🏽🤞🏽🤞🏽🤞🏽

[@PebetseLekoane-fr3yb]

Im waiting too,how i loved her and been asking were she is,but she is strong and optimistic, she will bounce back definitely 🎉❤

[@sharonnavuga5039]

Thanks for the transcriptions Madame Speaker.

[@khanyisagura4377]

I am enjoying this chat shem. I get this lady. She is very intelligent too.

[@MphoSemfeng-q6k]

Thank you Madam Speaker for bringing this Wonderful intelligent woman of God ❤❤❤❤love you both❤❤

[@angien7779]

She is such a beautiful soul. Love your humour honey!❤

[@zamamjomle8894]

Really LOVED this episode

[@Lebza7]

Beautiful interview. To God be the Glory!!!! ❤❤❤❤

[@akhonavuma2379]

The authenticity in the story telling is a good vibe. She owns up to her role from beginning to the end of the relationship. I could listen listen listen, your draw my attention shame... "Ha ke divosehe!"

[@mbalenhlebuthelezi3198]

I hope she comes back once she has healed properly and received the help she really needs...

[@nthabi_royaltymasango4915]

Her understanding of spirituality and awareness sounds similar to Dineo Ranaka's. Praying for total restoration over her life she's definitely not 100% okay.

[@thabangmalepe1663]

Amen I couldn't find her match

[@nomvula573]

Sooo much light & wisdom...beautiful @ heart❤

[@TsheM]

Amen. Powerful that we don't stop praying for them to seek God too.🔥

[@ReignTravel-o4e]

All sort of trauma will shape so much about you. . . May we all find healing

[@ntokotom147]

Eish this statement

[@ntombigazi-mbeleni2583]

I watched ths episode for the sake of the podcast 😢

[@MapitsiThari]

😢 this conversation about husband not fighting for you and giving certain looks its painful because I know it

[@Sipithot]

i love you both... the guest is a total vibe

[@Grace-yr5oe]

Thank you Mona you are talking to me, God bless you ladies ♥️♥️

[@BonoloMasenya]

I really enjoyed most of the conversations😄

[@SophieN17]

Mona is very articulate but i personally ddnt like the way she narrated her story .I understand that she is a creative but i would have preferred the traditional style . Other than that she is a lovely person ,you can see she is working on her healing .I wish her all the best .

[@kitsokebaitse7814]

Maybe the way she was talking like she is joking made me not to grasp a lot.....she is surely not ok...God restore her

[@danietamailula5034]

That’s what I’m picking up….something isn’t quite right..

[@lizziesontsele6257]

I think it's trauma and I feel like she is still working through her stuff in her mind and heart. I give her credit for carrying on. She still has her personality

[@angiekhati9474]

I love Mona❤.May God continue to use you for his Glory. You heal us in so many ways Chomi

[@omphileprecious5159]

Someone please put where she starts her story?

[@mohlagopilusa1953]

Take away? Never ever look up to what couples portray on social media! “I went into this relationship broken” but the captions & images were the total opposite. Shame man.

[@yaneliswakhoza5901]

Right people show us what they want us to see the hapoy side while in reality yoh yoh kuyanyiwa

[@zubaidahmotlhabane6089]

Shuuuu....Thank you Madam speaker for this episode. I really enjoyed it and learned a lot ❤

[@PorshyNila]

I'm grateful that she conquered all the tribulations presented in her journey of life without committing suicide ...

[@lethaborethabile3801]

Eix , I love this but yooh the way we are forced to read between the lines 😢

[@ModikweSentso-gr7nq]

Me too.

[@pearlmatlala8068]

The story doesn't flow so I found it difficult to grasp.thanks to madam speaker she helped alot in order to understand what the story was all about.

[@khanyisamajodina7684]

Is even boring me cos is like she is riddling

[@Kulani111]

I don’t think she’s ready to talk, she’s speaking in riddles a lot and trying a lot not to open up .maybe 3 years from now she’ll be fine for now she’s not ready ❤

[@naledindlovu976]

I'm lost in her story, I find it to be all over the place ...that's just me, she's well spoken though

[@pennylove278]

If you know you know ❤ we are greatful for this interview soo much growth faith forgiveness a lot of gems a lot of wisedom too ❤, nd if you dont know and your confused this was not for you its ohk just dont discourage ppl with your negative comments judging her dress code hau khante le bjang mara lona? Clearly you cant hear what Mona is saying maybe le slow or lenyaka mgozi or i dont know 😂 but please keep it moving thle 😂

[@Tleho]

And the thing is, if it is not your time yet to understand this message, you won’t get it. They are focusing on the wrong things

[@lifewithmissblaque9271]

Madam speaker hope u took it all in when she thanked u. When u r in a place of hurt it does wondersssss to have a perfect example of somebody who's been where u are n lived, survived! So I hear her well n feel it deeply when she's thanking u cz she was shown u to say if she's alive n has been where u are then I also certainly canake it out n go on to live an amazing life after

[@TshepisoMsimanga]

Wow! I love your Aura Mona your such a beautiful and brilliant storyteller ❤❤❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@leahlinki5683]

Some people come into your life with a strategy to use and destroy you, and that strategy is cloaked in love, 😮😮😢😢😢😢😢😢

[@takatsolebenya520]

All of you who don't understand her or get her point, you need to read more books and stop with TikTok and movies. You lack comprehension. Not everything should be in black n white.. learning from your experience Mona ❤

[@siviwejack6757]

Those who actually dont understand this lady are suffering from shallowness (possibly inexperience and lack of understanding.) Give it time and listen again please...

[@thabangmalepe1663]

😂😂😂😂 I really gave me a good teacher that gives you summary story and you feel like you were there 🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@angelmoyo4585]

I was hoping for a straight to the point story but we tell stories differently I guess

[@amandlangceba4514]

Zintlenwelezakho Mona. I am cutting mine end of this year and wanna have healthy growing hair like you.

[@graceunisa6132]

Great interview 👍

[@preciousmvundla5191]

I think I came here with a lot of expectations…

[@nomms9653]

Haibo what type of expectations babe?

[@hlowneyleigh4358]

Sending love and light sis❤ hotlo loka auswaka ❤❤❤❤

[@lindosimelane4336]

The way I got lost 😅.. she is creative shem 🤣🤣🤣

[@zubaidahmotlhabane6089]

Healing is a milestone journey it takes a long time to get BETTER because it's only getting better, the scars are getting better but they don't completely heal. I pray for her healing, as we call it "healing". This journey is hard and very painful 💔💔💔

[@mbhonimaboya5401]

Beautiful interview

[@pertuniamotlhatlhana4345]

The way I love her❤❤🥰

[@ntombiace2953]

Nah, I did the DIY and what she is saying doesn’t make sense. I filed the settlement agreement, guy was served and he had 30 days to contest and because he didn’t I took the settlement agreement to be approved by the children’s court and got a court date. If she says he didn’t contest the 1st time, it would have meant that he agreed with the parenting plan.

[@akhonavuma2379]

But she says there was none... So which parental plan was her husband supposed to have tacitly agreed to?

[@ntombiace2953]

@akhonavuma2379 that DIY settlement comes with a parenting plan