Reverse Culture Shocks - Returning to the USA after 6 Years in Mexico

[@MaddieGold]

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[@monsterpig3270]

You're right about the driving here in the US. After the pandemic, it turned people into angry drivers. Be careful, I have seen a lot of road rage incidents.

[@2GringosOnTheGulf]

I'm going home for one month so see family, (mostly my dad he's 87) I was used to all the tablets and taps and apps before we left almost 3 years ago. I thinking the food is going to a big issue not because of allergies, just how awful it is haha. The cost of everything has skyrocketed as well I'm sure. Now keep in mind I'm going to Northern Canada where it's even more expensive than anywhere in the USA. I'll also be going in July so I don't freeze my a** off hahaha ( a little nervous about traveling alone this will be my first trip without my wife)

[@dissidentfairy4264]

I've basically been hibernating since the pandemic began so I'm certain it would be the same for me. Culture shock! lol (I'm an artist and work from home) On the upside, I never caught Covid, the flu, or any other virus. lol Are you still dating the Mexican BF?

[@LeTrashPanda]

Gee, I thought it was just me as an older Gen X person lol. I have all of the same issues along with a few more. Glad to have you back but wanted to swap with you as far as moving down south....I'd love to live / retire in Taxco but I understand that cartels have taken over there recently. Hoping we'll hear from you again soon, Maddie.

[@lindascott2008]

Looking forward to a video of Day of The Dead with your mother & her friend that you told us was coming, when you were still living in Mexico. I do understand about reverse culture shock. I lived in Japan 3 years & I had really adjusted to the culture & way of life. It was very safe & I was treated like a celebrity. I was in extreme shock to be back in the U.S.!

[@joyceacosta57]

Be kind to yourself Maddie. A lot of us here in the US are shocked and confused with these same things!

[@MaddieGold]

Really? Good to know it should be easier to make friends with these common denominators then 😅

[@pennylacombe4763]

I’m 82, what you are experiencing is EXACTLY what I experience every I go outside. I’ve chosen to live as a kinda sorta shutin because of the humiliation I feel when I go out….. from the gas stations to any other place other than just walking. Inside I’m just fine…. What is expected of me is undoable with any kind of grace so I’m laying low most days. It’s humiliating.😂 welcome home! Looking for E.T. ……

[@ticomadlynjoing7783]

relax enjoy life i lived in acapulco and suffered A DEVASTATING HURRICAN I LOST ALL ...APPRECIATE THE MOMENT.

[@atom22xy]

I totally agree, not all of us living here are easily adapting to all those changes. You are not alone Maddie! Hang in there, many of us are!❤

[@JB-pd3ir]

@@atom22xy Some, like me, do not want to just go along with what is being forced (to some degree) and are choosing (while we are still able) to to accept all changes (we can still to some degree) chose what we like to participate in.

[@stormtrooper346]

Storm Trooper here… Also known as Maddie‘s dad. Supposedly I’ve known Maddie her entire life… But I never knew she was allergic to the end of the alphabet (“XYZ”) until watching this video. (Maybe this was funnier inside my head)

[@MaddieGold]

Lol Dad 😂

[@intallpines]

Glad you are better and here to comment! Cheers, Dad! 🥰🥰

[@revelamarinelli883]

Nice to meet You Mr Maddie Daddy! I don't suppose you might consider retiring to Mexico? People live longer down here! And Happier!!! With Less Illnesses!!!

[@denissemedina2574]

Hello Mr Storm trooper. That "XYZ" was sooo funny hahaha

[@eunicepadilla4355]

😂😂

Maddie, I'm a 2nd generation born American. I was married to my beautiful Mexican wife for many years she passed away of cancer. One of the great culture values of the Méxican culture that I love is how Mexicans are so polite. The greetings from the Mexican people is so charming and I love that. I lived in León Guanajuato and having lived many years there I dig that very aspect. Here in the USA it's the transient aspect of the American society. People here in the USA, especially in large cities, could care less. It has to do with the values. How you were raised, the lack of community culture not raised in church. The selfishness of the American culture, not all but many. Sad! Still as a Mexican/American I love both cultures and countries!

[@garnaxaqueen]

I'm from Veracruz. When I was a kid I used to go run errands for my grandma (I lived in a small town), and I used to see a lot of elderly couples sit on their porches and as I walked from and back home I'd say "Buenos dias/tardes/noches" to them every time and they'd greet me back ❤😂 I miss that sooooo much!

@@garnaxaqueen I go to my ranch in Jalisco every other month or so and I still say, "Buenos días" es la educación que nos dieron nuestros padres. It's just in our upbringing.

[@Betty-my3tw]

Viva Mexico!

@@Betty-my3tw ¡Viva mi querido León Guanajuato!

[@marydawkins4190]

I couldn't agree more, except about being raised in a church. I have tons of friends not raised in any religion and they have fantastic values and are well mannered. But as for the rest of what you said, absolutely. Americans have become so selfish and feel really entitled to call people out for something they don't like. Like it's happened to me numerous times for really odd reasons. I've traveled in many countries and BY far, Americans are the most rude. We seem to have lost most of our social decorum in manners and dress. I am not bashing dressing casual, but it's sad to see just how little some people care about how they present themselves outside of their homes. You do not see that in other places unless you're homeless and have no choice.

[@DS-dw1wi]

I have major tipping fatigue. I'm most annoyed with default 15-20% tips at takeout checkouts. Having to hit extra buttons to say zero or no tip is infuriating. I'm done paying $5-10 because someone spent thirty seconds entering my order into their system. I no longer pay it and have even stopped patronizing businesses that do it. I'll tip at a sit-down restaurant or when someone goes above and beyond but I'm no longer paying extra for someone to do their job.

[@organic-artistic]

Bravo! I feel the same way.

[@OldLadyInFL]

I am not tipping at takeouts. It isn't going to happen. I ran across a place the other day that had no "Other" option. It was 20% and over or nothing. They don't realize that they're screwing their own wait staff.

[@Wee_Catalyst]

What you’re not mentioning is that most of the people you’re not tipping at the cash register aren’t making a living wage and certainly aren’t able to really save or invest much of their income The reason the screen tipping came into being was because it’s a band aid for the poverty most Americans are living in-most jobs don’t pay a living wage so what are most people supposed to do? Admittedly it’s a terrible band aid but the very reason they’re asking is the exact same reason YOU don’t want to tip them: you don’t have enough money/financial security either So maybe consider spreading what little “wealth” you have to people doing jobs you likely wouldn’t choose to take at this point in your life and yet still contribute to the life you want to live (going to cafes and other non-sit down restaurant experiences)

[@intotheblue970]

Why should i have to pay people? If they don't get paid a living wage them the people need to stand up to change the system. @@Wee_Catalyst

[@jeanie111]

Pay your bill in cash. Tip well per your discernment.

[@EveningTV]

As you get older you blame feelings like this on age, so this is a good reminder that things are changing. It isn't just me getting older.

[@mineralt]

@EveningTV - let's face it, the US sucks now.

[@steveshea6148]

yea, it's not you getting older

[@ericliford9293]

Mexicans don’t use apps, and they get their fuel pumped? Next you’ll tell me it’s Taco Tuesday every day! Twice on Tuesday.

[@wreckitralph4714]

Maddie!!!!!!! We all missed you!!!!!❤❤❤❤❤

[@MaddieGold]

Thanks for patiently awaiting my return and being an early bird to watch Jason!

[@stuart_oneill]

Loved seeing you,.Maddie! Be good to yourself!

[@ctjewett]

Yes we did! I was literally just thinking today when is she going to do a video from the states? And voila, she releases one. 🙂

[@SVAdAstra]

Thanks. Great video. It's not just Mexico that has better food. I lived in California for 20 years, and when I retired, I got a contract in Montenegro (for non-geography buffs, it used to be part of Yugoslavia.) I had Type 2 diabetes and hypertension. Both went away after I lived here for 6 months. I also lost 20 pounds. Here's my answer why: the food. They don't add sugar to everything. They cook with traditional fats and oils: olive, butter, lard, and tallow. (I can just hear the American Heart Association screaming about that.) People here eat eggs, meat, real sour cream, real cheeses, and bread that isn't just starch and sugar. There's no trend to become herbivores and eat like farm animals. Americans became fat-phobic: low fat this, no fat that, and substituted seed oils for cooking and carbohydrates for fat. Fat doesn't make you fat -- but carbs sure do! I feel I was betrayed by the dietary advice that created the Standard American Diet.

[@jazzbeaux6154]

Maddie, the reason we're talking about "sticker shock" is because within the last year or so prices have skyrocketed to an alarming degree even for us in the US

[@marthaobrien3742]

I agree but I think Americans are being taken advantage of. There are poor people here that work very hard. Our government should provide us with the same protection other countries provide their citizens.

[@Shenanigans_Afoot]

This is so true. I just went to buy a car and the days of the $250 car payment are over! It’s like a rent payment when you count insurance. SMH.

[@mjc42701]

I feel the price gouging started with Covid and has just gotten worse, corporations are taking advantage.

[@irenecohen8708]

It has gone up a lot here in Mexico too.

[@ralphlozano9177]

Funny how no is blaming the current corrupt administration in the white house, when in fact they are to blame for all the ills facing our country, there's just too many to list.

[@amyKallensandoval3334]

I'm so happy to see You in good spirits. You've been missed❤

[@MaddieGold]

It's been a really rough past couple of months but I think I'm finally seeing the sunshine behind the clouds ⛅️😊

[@sherryseehof6152]

Hi Maddie! You know so much about traveling in Mexico…have you thought about setting up travel tours for people to take them to Mexico? I’ve seen KZbinrs do that for shopping tours and they seem to be doing well with them. Just an idea. You are awesome! I can’t wait to see how this next chapter unfolds!

[@garnaxaqueen]

I want to do this for people in my state!

[@Chuck-yt7iq]

You are safe to travel to most main cities. Americans are welcome everywhere. Mex city has had an invasion from expats since 2020 so prices and service have been compromised in the expat areas. Do avoid cartel states (northern, jalisco and zacatecas) guanajuato is too gorgeous to black list. Just avoid rural roads.

[@stuart_oneill]

Absolutely! I believe I mentioned this one than.once.but that was Maddie-years ago. Excellent business idea.

[@jsr1296]

​@@Chuck-yt7iqAmericans are not welcome everywhere not anymore at least

[@christine4670]

I would totally go on a Maddie tour! What a great idea😄

[@OldLadyInFL]

This crazy inflation has only happened in the past couple of years. At one point, the stores admitted they are gouging us to make up for what they lost during the pandemic. But they've gotten that back now, and they're STILL gouging us because they can. I'm seriously thinking of moving to Mexico. I live on SS, and I may soon be homeless due to the rising rents. Still, it's not cheap to move there. It's so hard for people like me. Isn't it strange that there are so many more allergies in the US than other countries?

[@kellyname5733]

Yes it is on purpose that soooooo many people and all life in the US are sick and dying. The US has the most sickness than anywhere in the world. Lots of reasons but the biggest reason is Geoengineering-Aerial Spraying daily all over the US and the countries too. Learn at geoengineering watch. Also Peggy Hall at The Healthy American just did a series of vids on Geoengineering. Everyone needs to see what our Govt is doing. Im not surprised that Maddie is sick in 2 short months..

[@Papichulo6996-i2j]

Welcome to the RESET!! Trust me when I say this, there is no getting away from this because it is happening worldwide and we are all being hit at our pockets, I just got back from Queretaro to SD because of how expensive Mexico was getting based on the exchange rate.

[@JosePineda-cy6om]

My personal guess is that it's the food: it's got so many sweeteners and additives and artificial colors that ends up being toxic. I've known plenty of US folks who claim that after moving to Europe, East Asia or LatAm, they started losing weight without any real effort on their part - just eating more natural stuff. You know, prenty of food in the States has chemicals that are forbidden in the European Union, but sadly the US has made it so it's legal to bribe a politician as long as it's in the open via lobbying

[@donaldsanchez2279]

Increased energy costs so everything is inflated and not going down.

[@ljones98391]

@dsa2591. Toxic ingredients in US food. Over 100 chemicals allowed here not allowed in other countries.

[@W1LLi4m_]

Watching this video as I’m moving in to Mexico makes me even more convinced of my choice. You’re probably gonna regret your choice very soon, but you probably have to go through this experience in order to realize it.

[@nycbearff]

I'm sure she has permanent residency status in Mexico now, so she can move back if she needs to or wants to.

[@rubenarias6538]

​@@nycbearff exactly not only that but she can always move close to a boarder city instead of really down south of Mexico a couple of hour drive but being able to eat is a good compromise.

[@destinationmax]

Hi Maddie ❤ it’s so great to see you. I totally get it about the greetings and lack there of in the US. I just went from January 10 until February 4 to visit friends in Missouri after living here in Mexico for two years. I’m so used to greeting everyone I walked past and making that connection. I really got looked at like I was crazy several times. To be honest, I’ve been on this earth 53 years and it used to not always be this way. It just seems it’s gotten more and more as time rolls on in our crazy world. There’s been a big shift since Mobile devices, tecnólogo such as kiosk checkout and the pandemic where people have isolated themselves so much from human connection. I was so happy to see my people in the US but the whole time I was there I felt high anxiety and could not wait to get home to Mexico. I also noticed a big change in my friends, and they all seemed not as happy as I remembered them before, and actually quite depressed. There is a heaviness there that is very hard to explain. The first thing I did when I got home was grab my bags and walk down to my little Tienda in my neighborhood to greet/visit with my favorite vendors, buy my fresh food and pay in pesos. I’ve become good friends with one of my vendors, and they always offer me coffee a taco, even some rum. 😅 and I always take them little gifts like chocolate and food that I make. It’s a beautiful way to live, and I could never go back to living in the United States. I hope that things get to a point Maddie where you can return to Mexico or somewhere that speaks to your beautiful heart.

[@JaimeOliveros-xi3io]

Hi Maddie! Welcome home, first and foremost. I've been here the whole time and I've had a hard time dealing so many changes in such a short period of time. Best of luck to you!

[@coralarce9816]

One of the things, my husband and I really enjoy when traveling to Mexico is going to the centro and just sitting on the benches, watching and talking to people. Also, listening to people when they tell you provecho when eating a meal is also remarkable. The pace of life is certainly different. Great video!

[@fhanoverartist]

I left for a month and a half and was a mess when I came back to Canada. People in Mex have far better etiquette. I was healthier. They are not regulated to death when starting a small business. Yes i understand “cartel” life. Here it’s called CRA. To start a little bicycle icecream business will cost you 3k just for the permitting process. There is no way for our locals to get ahead. We are regulated to “give up”. Food sticker shock, homelessness, lack of public art is a huge issue for me. Mex did mess up seafood everywhere I went this time. I just had such consistent bad luck that I lived in pizza and bagels. I couldn’t eat any fish (my fav) And yes you’re right. The food here in North America is like poison within two weeks I gained weight and have painful belly bloat. Our food in North America is full of garbage

[@destinationmax]

I totally agree with you about the stomach issues. I’ve lived in Mexico for two years and I just came back from a three week visit to the US the entire time I was there even when I supposedly was eating cage, free organic eggs, etc. my stomach hurt and was bloated the whole time, I’ve been home In Mexico for two weeks and my tummy is flat and feeling great again.

[@jackandblaze5956]

Our food in North America is full of Monsanto glyphosate.

[@Oksana1966]

I agreed with you too! If I have to choose between US/Canada and Mexico… Mexico wins 100%

[@lzaworski]

Mexico is part of North America.

[@kristym6516]

I think in Canada/US you have to be so much more picky with where your food comes from which is exactly the opposite of what people who are paranoid of Mexico think!

[@runawaytechgal1467]

It has become SO EXPENSIVE here. I feel for anyone in the middle middle-class and the lower middle-class. This is the group getting hit the hardest.

[@stuart_oneill]

Now thi k of a Senior on lower fixed income that used to be middle class. That's shock.

[@mider9996]

Sad to see society going this way.

[@wil_L]

When I was in Mexico for vacation, I also noticed that the food there wasn't giving me health issues. I thought it was just me.

[@pennylacombe4763]

This is why I went full carnivore: all my health issues completely disappeared after only a month. That was four years ago and my doctor is still impressed.

[@nycbearff]

I've been here nearly 5 years, and my health is better too. Yes, I think it's in large part the food quality.

[@adelavalenzuela2757]

Excuse me? The food in Mexico is healthier than in US, fruit, vegetables, meat, chicken, shrimp, fish, etc etc. If you are going to restaurantes, it depends. The worst thing in US is the fast food that many people eat, I don't like to see those companies in Mexico. Maddie once said, she was really sick, she could barely eat due to all the conservatives and pesticides, etc in fruits, vegetables, etc; in Mexico is the same thing with less ingredients. In Mexico you can find healthy stores too

[@ReporteMajo]

@@adelavalenzuela2757😂 problemas de comprensión lectora. Claramente el comentario anterior dice que la comida en México es mejor! 😂vuelve a leer para que te des cuenta que el sentirte ofendida está de más 😂

[@rcgonzalezf]

Yeah, I have the same situation my allergies go away in Mexico, this time it was ridiculous, no allergies for a 3 days trip, then came back and allergies after one hour at my house in US, maybe they are pesticides in the air to kill mosquitoes, or to get rid of the weed for our beautiful yards or you owe the city that doesn't happen in Mx

[@Papichulo6996-i2j]

Lived in Queretaro for a year and a half and just came back to San Diego and I literally waited for 10 mins @ the pump till I finally realized I was back home and needed to pump my own fuel lol

[@MaddieGold]

I'm glad I'm not the only one! lol

[@Papichulo6996-i2j]

But although I miss my Mexican adventure I sure missed my home crazy beautiful country lol

[@lorrielauer9231]

So true!

[@jairocuriele5864]

​@@MyMemories07 the thing is that we in México the gas ⛽ pumps have employees to serve You the gas, put additives, check the pressure of your tires, put water on your radiator, etc; and You get used to it! 😁

[@steveshea6148]

hahahahaaaaaa

[@ianbaldock4471]

There's always cash sweetheart ! The cashless society is the worst thing out there. Total control by the govt. Don't stress it. Welcome home....

[@down-to-earth-mystery-school]

Lease don’t call random women ‘sweetheart’, you don’t have permission to use a nickname, let alone one that’s often used to infantalize grown women.

[@mysticaltyger2009]

Exactly. That's what the apps are all about--Surveillance and control by both the government and corporations. The two are one in the same at this point.

[@ianbaldock4471]

@@down-to-earth-mystery-school , relax , you are a sweetheart also ! Don't let a cute word like that offend you. It's not healthy. Have a great day and don't fret !

[@heronimousbrapson863]

More like contol by the banks.

[@MUISHAGGY572]

1:39 do i do the hokey pokey and let you scan my eyeballs 😂😂😂

[@tiltawhorled]

Merch. Tshirt idea

[@Wee_Catalyst]

😂

[@tamarabeck6350]

I was living in California when I visited Oregon and pulled up to a gas station where a man came to my window. I figured some BS was about to go down, but nope, he was there to pump my gas because in that particular county, drivers are not allowed to pump their own. Welcome back Maddie. You’ve been missed!

[@karinacarvajal9919]

Same thing happened to me. It threw me off so bad because I’ve never experienced that. When I saw he greeted a regular, I relaxed 😂

[@pennylacombe4763]

@@karinacarvajal9919 we’ve just changed it to an “option “ to have your gas pumped or not. It was voted in. I think it’s because some gas stations can’t afford a lot of help anymore. Wages and are too low, so fewer people apply.

[@bellebb8673]

New Jersey also has gas station attendants to pump your gas.

[@mysticaltyger2009]

New Jersey doesn't let you pump your own gas, either.

[@shewhothinks7603]

Best of luck to you being back in the USA. Imoved to Mexico six years ago, but in my case I'm never going back to the madness that is the US. Mexico is now my home and I love the people, the food, and the country. Mass shootings happen every day up there and I no longer feel safe when I travel to the US.

[@revelamarinelli883]

me too! I will never go back to USA, not even for a visit!

[@jstar1000]

Tipping has gotten so out of control I've come to the point I just don't tip anymore. The company you work for should pay your wage not me. They say if you can't afford to tip don't go out (which I rarely do) I say if you have to rely on tips, get a real job. Food quality and service suck so bad now its stupid so again I rarely ever go out anymore to eat, never eat fast food and very rarely tip. I will say on the very rare occasion I do go out and if I get exceptional service then I will tip the snot out of them but its so rare its really not a thing.

[@northernbohemianrealist]

YES! I am a lawyer and I can't afford to eat out. Recently I took a business friend to one of those breakfast style places. She had a chicken sandwich and I had meatloaf. FORTY BUCKS! Fifty with the tip. Arggggg!

[@BrandiWL]

Good customer service doesn't exist anymore. I rarely go out because of food quality/ allergens and when I do it reminds me why I don't bc of customer service and cheating on my diet doesn't even taste good anymore. Most restaurants might be gluten free but there are so many other things they still let slide.

[@trevorcorpus8720]

I was so excited to see this, thank you for posting!! I've lived outside the US for four years now and I think I'd feel a very similar set of culture shock experiences if I moved back.

[@amstergal]

Hi Maddie, this is both funny and sad and downright scary... pretty interesting that even those in the US feel exactly as you've pinpointed in point after point. Many conversations of "what is going on?!" .... And many conversations of... "move to the mountains, disconnect, hide, toss the smart phone... and should you need to deliver a message send the carrier pigeon." Good to see you back!

[@dianaj3139]

Hey.. I want a carrier pigeon! :)

[@Sarumaru]

Yay! Maddie is back! ❤ I just got back from Mexico again and coming back to eating the food in the states is the things I least look forward to. Especially the meat. In Mexico, I can eat meat all day everyday and no issues. However, the air quality in Mexico City messes me up every time too 😅 anyway, it's so good to see you post a new video. Would love to see a new live when you're ready 😊 Thank you for sharing your experiences with us!

[@j.cassavoy4661]

Go plant based, meat is not healthy no matter where you eat it. I have been vegan for the animals since 2010 and I feel great! Better for me, the animals and the environment, ❤

[@garnaxaqueen]

I was in Quintanaroo like two years ago, and I had been rushing from Minnesota all the way to Cancun and didn't have a chance to eat and I was pregnant. I had told myself I wouldn't eat from just anywhere to be safe, I was so hungry though that this lady got on the bus she was selling burgers, the burger was sooooo good, the meat tasted so real. This was my first time back in Mexico in like 20 years. I didn't get sick at all.

[@pennylacombe4763]

@@garnaxaqueen I went completely carnivore and all my health issues disappeared in a month or so. After twenty years of being diabetic I can’t tell you how fantastic it was to actually cure myself. My doctor was so impressed… over 4 years now and still off every medication I took daily for so long. (skinny too). A relative sent me a book. I think it was called lies doctors tell or something like that. I no longer need a doctor either.

[@TravelAlwaysOfficial]

I miss the food in America! I don't care for most of the food in Yucatan. When I visit America- whenever that is- I'm going to eat to my heart's content!

[@barbraconway1425]

100% agree with you Maddie. We are from South Africa and have been living in Tucson for 2 years now and are experiencing the same culture shock😵‍💫

[@lifeonearth9261]

I'm also experiencing the reverse culture shock after spending years in Mexico and abroad. It's so weird. The quality of the food (worse) and amount of processed food everywhere is wild. However, the ABUNDANCE of food (portion sizes) is also wild. The SUPER CONVENIENCE of buying stuff... Yet the dismal lack of social spaces / driving everywhere / car culture...

[@nancygreen6618]

Sounds to me like you’re better off here in Mexico ❤

[@MaddieGold]

Being around my family is priceless but I do miss Mexico 😏

[@braindamage70]

Viva las Mexico!!

[@gustavonavarro4205]

U can come back when ever u want and live in two countries, and issue resolved :)@@MaddieGold

[@marilynmcmillan]

Good to hear from you!

[@bettebrazel708]

I found reverse culture shock much more difficult than culture shock for the reasons you mentioned but many more that you didn’t mention like not having a neighborhood where you know your neighbors or a sense of community support or it being ‘normal’ to have a completely separate ‘personal’ and ‘professional’ life; your job being the main or sole focus of your life; eating to live instead of living to eat; the insane focus on job performance… Even after sort of getting used to it as soon as I got to opportunity to leave again I took it and only return for family visits.

[@2GringosOnTheGulf]

Oh this outta be good, Cheers from 2 Canadians living in Xalapa Veracruz. 👋🏽👋🏽 PS: Had a few laughs watching this and was waiting for you to address the food issues you had. Hope you get that sorted out sooner than later. Thanks for sharing.

[@stewart2589]

Veracruz>Baja peninsula anyday

[@noreenn6976]

The tip situation has gotten ridiculous. The original intention was to tip a server paid the server rate, below minimum wage. Fast food servers are NOT paid the server wage, many are even making more that minimum wage.

[@eileenann1510]

For streaming services I just get one, and binge everything that I want, then cancel it then get another one and repeat

[@rishalinda7165]

I have no desire to live in the U.S.A. ever again. I only want to visit my children once a year or travel there if there is an absolute necessity. Too much stress, not much friendliness, too much division, and way too many guns, and the food is not that healthy or affordable. I am happiest outside of the U.S.A.

[@doingtime20]

I'm mexican but I have driven a rental car in the USA. I find it insane how fast people drive in the freeways, like americans trust so much the car and other people not doing something wrong. I don't mean to sound rude but it seems everyone is in a big hurry to get somewhere. Other than freeways driving there is pretty orderly and nice.

[@prettybrwneyez7757]

No driving in the US is worse than CDMX and Merida

[@shea5702]

I was having lots of stomach issues when in USA, now I live in Albania and the food is much more natural. You should come here.

[@scottsquires4785]

Welcome back... Talking about food allergies, and how food affects our everyday health. I'm a truck driver, worked for a chemical company for a decade. This company had 3 divisions, food grade, industrial and farm grade. Frequently chemicals crossed over from division to division. This includes food grade, which is what most of our food is made or manufacture. A lot of the people who actually worked hands on with these chemicals are dead. Too much cancer! Chemicals are everywhere in the North American diet. 2 years ago after a close family member died, I changed everything about my diet. As long as one commits to this almost 100% it does work. After a week in Huatulco this year, the food made me feel so much better than the last year and a half, and my diet at home made me feel good.

[@virginiahernandez1329]

Good to hear from you

[@emilybh6255]

Forget the "apps". Pay CASH! It is the simplest, best for the merchants who don't have to pay transaction fees to the banks and best for you since you retain privacy and control over the transaction. Nobody can stop the transaction the way they can if you pay electronically.

[@stuart_oneill]

Gotten more into cash. Still prefer debit cards as you can make you bank funds so much.more secure. But I'm out on the wireless methods.

[@tootstoyou1]

I’ve been told that many places in the US don’t, or soon won’t, accept cash. When I was stateside last summer nobody paid in cash.

[@emilybh6255]

@@tootstoyou1 The people that didn't pay cash think it is more "convenient" not to use cash. What they don't realize are the dangers in giving up control of the purchases they are making that cash gives them and your Smart phone or credit card does NOT because there is ALWAYS another person or computer that will decide to authorize it or not authorize the transaction.>>> More and more people are refusing to shop where cash is not accepted - myself included. Just think what happened to the Truckers in Canada. >>>You know the elites of the World Economic Forum (WEF) want to take away cash and even take away banks and force everyone in the western world to have to go thru a few Central banks so just one small group of people will decide for everyone in the world how and when. and for how long, and how much money they will have access to, and the money will be called CBDCs or Central Bank Digital Currency. >>>Imagine someone or a computer program deciding not to let you have access to your money, That is what can happen. Look it up. It is not in anyone's best interest to go along with their plan to do that. If you do the research you will find MANY MORE advantages to a world where people can use cash than one where some politicians or elite or computer decides how much of their money they can have at any given time.The more often people use cash, the better their lives and everyone's will be..

[@kirogt]

When tipping keep in mind the tip is added after tax on your bill. I did not realize this until recently, so your actually tipping more if your not paying attention. Manually calculate the percent you want to tip based on the dollar amount you spent based on your service vs accepting the total the pay pad gives you, because you'll overpay a good 2-3% due to the tax included in the tip if your not paying attention.

[@MaddieGold]

YES YES YES

[@crystalgarcia2143]

Always carry cash for tips that way you leave the percentage you want

[@MsTimelady71]

Yep. I always pay tip based on pretax total.

[@JK-nq1dl]

Glad to see you!🥳

[@alantaylor6803]

Haven't watched in such a long time. I'm enjoying your honest authenticity . . .a returning viewer !

[@dianaford003]

Omg I could’ve written this same thing! I lived in Colombia for 4 yrs, and coming back was HARD! We’re moving to Mexico in 2 months and I can’t wait, because as hard as life can be as an expat, the life is still sweeter in Latin cultures. ❤

[@jasonjohnson6938]

You misspelled "immigrant."

[@luislicona386]

Omg I couldn't relate more! I'm from México (Pachuca to be specific) but I moved to the U.S. for college about 6 years ago. I graduated, then went back to MX, then decided to go for my Master's before it was too late. I did spend a couple years in Pachuca before moving back to Orlando, FL, and omg every thing you said is so true. Everything from the inflation, to that weird feeling of the car behind you rushing you and almost bumping into your car when at a stop light. It's so strange that a country could change so much after just 6 years of moving here for the first time. I suppose no place is perfect but I still love both countries despite their flaws. Huge fan of the channel btw! I never leave a comment, dunno why. I guess I'm shy. But thank you so much for sharing!

[@mariescott9853]

Had reverse culture shock after two years in Peru and coming back to where no one was walking, just cars everywhere.

[@MaddieGold]

So true!! No walking

[@monsterpig3270]

Awesome, Maddie is back!

[@NancyChasteen]

MADDIE!!!!! YEAH, you're BACK! Missed you SOOO much! I was hoping to see you soon, and saw ya on Facebook about Vegas, but no email, no YT was making me wonder about YOUR health... So happy to see your cheery face, and cannot wait to see what fun you had in Vegas. Happy Bday btw ☺

[@dianaj3139]

Great to see you back again... I just returned from two months in Puebla, MX On my last couple of days I was dreading coming back to the US... SO yeah... in just the couple of months I was away it would seem that Everything in the grocery store has doubled! So feeling your shock and really I feel disgust at having to use my phone at ALL!! I am sick of the AI listening and completing my sentences when I do text for example... UGH!! I seriously want to throw my phone out forever!! I already REALLY REALLY miss Mexico!!!

[@MsTimelady71]

I would say the US is better for single women safety wise and less machismo guys. And then there is the water situation-good showers are hard to find in Mexico. Maddie is lucky she can experience both worlds and I'm sure anyone who employs her/befriends her will be better for all her knowledge. Who knows-she could be the next Samantha Brown-travel host.

[@85tv12]

Here in Oaxaca not only is it impossible to buy an Epi-pen but there is only ONE pharmacy in Oaxaca City that even carries epinephrine or adrenaline (in a little glass ampule that you snap the top off to draw up i to a syringe). It really makes me think that serious allergies must not be much of a thing at all here. Thankfully I have never needed to actually Epi and have been able to use homeopathy to pull me out of anaphylaxis each time, but I still make sure I have epinephrine on hand just in case. It looks like very few locals have need of it though. Which is astounding when you think of how many people, especially kids, in the US carry Epi-pens these days. The good part is that while Epi-pens bought in the US without insurance are many hundreds of dollars and ampule of epinephrine here is only the equivalent of $1.25 USD.

[@kristym6516]

Yes! I tell everyone with allergies to bring their own Epipens with them to Mexico. An acquaintance had a relative pass away because they could not find anything to treat an unexpected anaphylaxis attack in the PVR area. Having been in that situation back home in Canada with my sister and a happy outcome I could only imagine the horror of being helpless with no remedy.

[@shiroumxm2052]

that is a lie and a very absurd one.. tehre are MANY pharmacies in Oaxaca city

[@kellisuemontague8698]

​@shiroumxm2052 but do they carry epinephrine?

[@charleyu5506]

@@shiroumxm2052 You did not read the comment correctly, she said there are not many that CARRY EPI-PENS.

[@charleyu5506]

It's funny you mention that because it's something I've also noticed, I don't meet as many people with allergies in Mexico. I saw a video a while back explaining that it may have something to do with the trees in the US. They only allow male trees to be planted so they won't give off fruit and something with the pollen is what's causing all those allergies here in the US.

[@edwardcooke9413]

Maddie, you have such a Calming voice. If this video gig ends, consider radio/Pod etc which can capture your Voice 😊. You would be a most excellent storyteller 👍

[@MaddieGold]

What a beautiful compliment, thank you 💛

[@stuart_oneill]

​@@MaddieGoldgood idea, Maddie. A podcast about travel interviewing other travelers or? Another good idea.

[@revelamarinelli883]

@@stuart_oneill @MaddieGold I'd love to see you interview other expats who returned to USA

[@anitamendez116]

I completely understand your dilemma. I went back to the U.S. this past December from Mexico…I was in Arizona for only 2 weeks and I experienced culture shock. I am 65 years old, disabled and Native Hawaiian born and raised in Hawaii so the U.S. Continent is not a part of my culture anyway. I know you went back to Phoenix because of your Fathers Surgery and I’m sure because of other reasons, however, my tip to you is: Move Back to Mexico! I understand the frustrations, that’s why I still live in Mexico. I feel ya!

[@comicbookmann252]

So happy to see another video finally!

[@LorienDrechsler]

I agree with everything that you brought up....and I live here. The one that gets me is the tipping. Now, people are asking for tips for everything. Even in the drive-through. Want a burger at a drive-through? That's $10.99....would you like to leave a 20% tip? A tip for what?

[@MaddieGold]

Yes...a tip for WHAT! It baffles me when people ask for tips when doing nothing extra or just the thing you're already paying for.

[@loisaustin6200]

@@MaddieGold It's insane is what it is.

[@GrannyLinn]

These same things (such as too many choices) are also hard for an older person to adapt to. Everything changes so FAST.

[@pennylacombe4763]

Exactly. I’m 82 and not stupid, so feeling stupid all the time really pisses me off, because I know the truth and it’s being demonstrated right here in Maddie’s post!! Unite! This stuff isn’t new. Imagine what it must have been like back when the car was introduced…. No filling stations, no roads, no mechanics, no tire stores, and they initially were like wind up toys… 😂 🤣🤣

[@northernbohemianrealist]

At 62, I have noticed the lack of basic civility. Who are you to address me by my first name?!!! I started pointing this out - "We are not on a first name basis" - and get treated even worse.

[@ricoma6037]

Thank you, Maddiegold! ❤ Missed you! ❤

[@JLZwissRN1950]

Welcome back..I’ve thought of you often so was excited to see you were doing a video. We moved to San Diego from QRO in July. Mexico was a grand adventure but we are glad to be back. We’ve commented how there is so much less stress with day to day life. Example going to the bank is sooo much easier in terms of getting interactions done. Or phone interactions are less stressful. Because no issues with language barrier. Anyway happy you are still smiling. Can’t wait to see more from you.

[@bigredsbait]

I've been following your story forever,, love your content

[@BrieViews]

The struggle is real moving back to America and pumping gas! 😂 Everything you talked about food, traffic, ect is so true and was just like my experience as well. The food.... Girl... I gained a significant amount of weight within a couple months eating the same diet I had in Mexico. America's food is literally poison. My solution was to move back to Chapala, Mexico. ❤

[@joeshovel2]

You're spot on with the go, go, go, vibe!!

[@MsWileyfox]

My daughter was in Las Vegas around the same time you were, celebrating her 32nd birthday also. I’ll be in Scottsdale in March to visit my son. I’m looking forward to it. I hate all the apps for everything too. It was interesting to hear your culture shock points.

[@Kiowagoodfella]

Great to see a new video.

[@wsue1038]

Glad to see you!

[@paelzermaedche-px4qd]

You've got it. We don't go out to eat anymore, just too expensive. I had to put an App on my phone to get a certain discount in a certain store, but I have trouble pulling it up. We're both husband and myself are high in our 80's, and we have a heep of trouble with all that technology. We are to the point, that, if I don't find it in the store or something similar, we do without. Yes Maddie, the driving is awful. A lot of drivers do what they want, cut you off, going across 3 lanes, it's just awful.

[@fit2477]

Prices went through the roof in 2022 when everything started "opening" backup. In 2023, the size of items is reduced with the same high price or higher.

[@cindyk3076]

It's so good to see you, Maddie! Sorry about your food allergies returning and for the culture shock, much of what you mentioned is why I want to move to Mexico. I honestly don't know how families with children can put food on the table and pay all of their bills, I find it disgusting. It sounds like you are not planning on returning to Mexico for a long time and I'm kind of sad about that because you seemed so much at home there, but you have to do what is best for you. As always, I look forward to your next video❣

[@georgejetson9801]

So very happy to see your new video! I moved from Australia to the United States last year after being away almost 20 years and the culture shock was so bad that I wondered if I made a mistake in coming back. The food here also makes me sick. I have no idea what is wrong with it but it is definitely something.

[@MaddieGold]

George Jetson, hi!! So, do you still feel like you maybe made a mistake? How are you managing the food situation?

[@georgejetson9801]

@@MaddieGold I did make a mistake with the first city I settled in so I have moved to the west coast just a few days ago and so far the vibe is much better. With the food, I have just stopped eating certain things and rely on mostly vegetarian. It is so difficult to find things that aren't loaded with sugar or the HFCS. I agree with the prices being insane. Also, the tipping culture was difficult to get used to. There is no tipping in Australia.

[@ivanhannel]

Maddie, did you find a rental? If not, be in touch. I have a four plex in Central Phoenix (13th Ave and McDowell), so if you are needing a place, let me know!

[@MaddieGold]

I'm in a month-to-month rental but I don't mind keeping my options open. Price?

[@JCA51698]

Hey Maddie! I’m currently in Hermosillo, Sonora and your video came up at the right time! Totally agree with how polite the locals are in Mexico 🇲🇽

[@socalsunny70]

So great to see you again, Maddie! You look well. Keep making videos.

[@desertdweller8374]

Phoenix drivers are INSANE!!! We moved here after 30 years in Tucson and our car insurance almost doubled. I thought it was a mistake! But the drivers have me realizing why it's double! It's so scary to drive anywhere here. You are so right there is no one driving the speed limit and they run red lights all the time.

[@cathyhunnemeder3064]

Hola Maddie. Good to see you again. I’ve lived in Mexico the past 5 years now and find going back to the USA very stressful also! It’s too much! How can they say inflation is under control or only 3 percent! You know it’s not true !

[@brianweber4154]

Price gauging. Massive company profits. Massive corporate profits!!

[@vgee3926]

​@brianweber4154 massive money printing..lowers the value of the dollar...US dollar losing its reserve currency status...gov giving BILLIONS to other countries..

[@mexicanspec]

It is an election year. The story will change after the election.

[@passionfruitpassionfruit2034]

Biden stopped the corporate welfare the corporations retaliated with 35 percent inflation yet our wages have not gone up in 50 years

[@jackandblaze5956]

Biden says the economy is better than it's ever been before!

[@tiltawhorled]

Great video! Can only imagine replacing household items along with relocation and all the other stresses. You have probably already discovered thrift stores, but you can find almost new kitchen and household items while saving $ + helping the environment. I’ve actually found the apps to be very helpful. I know it’s not for everybody but you can avoid the kiosks if you have an app.😂 as far as meeting people goes, maybe try networking groups, or other interests like hiking and joining those groups. I understand how hard it is because I have relocated 4 times in the last 24 years. Everywhere you live has a different culture even if it’s in the same country. My best advice is to enjoy who you are and not try to change yourself because you won’t be able to change yourself. Just love yourself the way you are, if I had known that along time ago, I would’ve had a completely different life path. You can’t change for other people.

[@Oscarcarrillo001]

GOOD LUCK MADDIE 😎👍🏽

[@Cuernavacachica02]

You are so right, Maddie! As you were talking, I'm going, yep that's what I said!!! On the other hand, I just left Mexico last week to return to Georgia, and we've seen so many changes there as well. I live in Cuernavaca there, but the costs have risen greatly. Rents have gone up considerably and we don't even have a beach lol. Supposedly the people don't make as much, right? But, the clothes, shoes, furniture and things that people really need are just as expensive there as here in the States. The malls and tourist areas of the city are getting fancier and fancier, but the other areas are being neglected. I realize that this might have more to do with the particular city, but I've heard the same kinds of things from others in Mazatlan and say Playa del Carmen. The US is still some years ahead of Mexico, but Mexico is catching up quickly and, as you say, call me oldl fashioned, but I don't believe it's progress. It's good to see you back. A lot of our youtubers are leaving it behind. I think it must be harder to do this than more regular jobs. Best of luck to you in settling in. I know your family is happy to have you back!

[@legalmexican]

I retired early in Texas and moved to the middle of Mexico 24 years ago. I have not been above the border in 15 years now. I can only imagine the reverse culture shock I would experience were I to visit my old country again. But I have no intention of doing so, ever. I'm in Mexico for good. As for the high prices in the U.S., well, Bidenomics. Vote wisely this fall.

[@Roy01C]

i´m from Mexico and i agree with everything you have said!! All those cultural shocks happens every time i travel to the US, specially felt super relatable with the traffic comparison. Still i think you left one of the most important diferences i noticed between Mx and Us, its the security. In Mx if you get mugged, we dont trust the police to ask for help because sometimes they're the robbers, and in the Us you know you can approach an officer without problem because there is a state of law

[@MsTimelady71]

Yep. Just read about another tourist being shaken down by police in CDMX. Unfortunately there are some bad apples down in Mexico and the locals are well aware.

[@kimberlyhohncoaching516]

I agree with the kiosks and the price of everything. I would like to add tipping for EVERYTHING! You literally handed me a coffee and now you want a tip or even a 20 percent tip. It’s everywhere! I’m all for tipping (I’m a hairstylist) but this new tipping culture is giving tipping fatigue for sure. I’m in Mexico now, the driving is always an adjustment 🥴

[@JAW242]

Pressure tipping. I have absolutely no problem not doing it. At the Starbucks drive trough I just tell them straight up to run the card without the tip. Works every time.

[@kimberlyhohncoaching516]

@@JAW242 pressure tipping- great way to put it!

[@Miguel-r3r1x]

tipping is not a requirement.and those who chose to work in that line of work have gone to far expecting it like it was a law

[@OldLadyInFL]

Yes, and if you give less than 20% because the service was not very good, it's like you get put on a blacklist.

[@RJC369]

I liked your post. TIP ME🤣

[@sdscootergirl]

All of the choices for EVERY SINGLE ITEM in the stores gives me major anxiety!! I stand in front of 8-12 feet of shelving, 8 shelves high, just to pick out toothpaste! It’s just too much!

[@nycbearff]

I moved to Guadalajara nearly five years ago, and haven't wanted to go back to the US yet - even for visits. This video just confirms that for me. I have friends here, I live a simple life in a quiet and walkable neighborhood, the people are friendly, and I can find everything I need and most of what I want, except for good Chinese food and good quality sausages. Mexico does not do sausages well. But I can live with that. I do video calls with friends and family in the USA, but - no, I shudder when I think of visiting. Mexico's daily culture is just more friendly, more cooperative, more civilized, in spite of the very real problems here.

[@northernbohemianrealist]

I had dental work in Guadalajara last year and fell in love with the area. That zoo! At 62, I could not take the rush of the city, but I took my daughter to Chapala and found paradise. I returned to Wisconsin in a terrible snowstorm and cried for days.

[@BrandiWL]

What real problems? Is there racism? Do you speak good Spanish?

[@mariadelcarmenvaldezlozano9534]

If you want a sausage there Is a place called heidis at Chapultepec área at the colonia moderna i think

[@joeshovel2]

Love to see you again on KZbin, Maddy!!

[@Zeyek1]

omg yes I waiting so long for this im happy that your back!!!

[@D_n_J_n_]

Glad to see you back! We're here for whatever's next☺

[@DaddyGringuito]

Minimum wage has also nearly doubled in Arizona in the last 8 years, from $7.25 to $14.35

[@tiltawhorled]

And then add a 20% tip. I quit eating out.

[@MaddieGold]

Yeah it was about $7.25 when I first started in the food service industry in high school. $14+ is wild by comparison

[@crystalgarcia2143]

And I'm sure cost of living also wen up 3 or 4 times in 8 years

[@stuart_oneill]

And the $14 is still not a living wage.

[@nycbearff]

Well documented greedflation is a big part of the problem - companies saw that the pandemic was fueling some inflation - so they raised their prices even more and put that into windfall profits. The blamed it on workers getting a little more pay.

[@mnevarez3053]

I lived in Mexico for two years and had a similar experience with food when I came back to the US. There is so much I cannot eat here now without severe physical symptoms. I am still on my own journey of managing this with help of GI specialist and look forward to hearing what you learn on your journey. Good luck!

[@pretty.odd.]

Welcome back, Maddie! That was something I really had not considered, how your cost of living would triple coming back. If it's very difficult or unsustainable would you consider moving back? Or perhaps getting a secondary job for supplemental income? Also, do a lot of expats, repat and then expat again because of costs? It feels like it would actually be quite common.

[@Teamripper1]

Nice to see you back again. I genuinely wish the very best for you with the transition. You never know the doors that open in front of you.

[@maigallop]

Yay!! You’re back! We’ve missed you! You look amazing and your hair has grown so much. Glad to have you back!

[@MaddieGold]

Thank you so much! ☺️

[@JustinPratt1]

I have gotten to the point with tipping that unless you make a tipping wage (ie $2-3/hr, servers) you are getting nothing from me. If you want more money, go talk to your employer. Its not on me to makeup the difference the employer should be paying for you to do your job.

[@noreenn6976]

I only use two forms of payment - cash or card. Don't feel comfortable having payment info on my phone, especially with the new problem of sim card theft.

[@DiegoMonroyF]

The driving thing I can understand. As a Mexican that moved to Houston about three years ago (possibly top 5 worst drivers in the US), I was shocked by the amount of terrible drivers, especially in the freeway. That said, I’ve noticed that it’s usually just in said freeways and maybe in a couple of big roads. People drive very fast, but in most city driving people are quite calm and it’s MUCH better than in Mexico. Infrastructure in US cities is far better than in Mexico (potholes, topes, signs, etc.); however, speeds are substantially higher here, there are lots of intersections, and people are MUCH less attentive when driving, and that’s a perfect recipe for lots and lots of car crashes. Overall, I think you’ll eventually like it more in the US after the initial freeway scare goes away. At least that’s been my experience. And whenever I go back to driving in Mexico, I just wish we had a fraction of US (or any first world country) road planning.

[@LakeTahoeGem]

Yay. A new video

[@LauraGraham-m5t]

In addition to the bill being wrong at restaurants, I've also recently had a dramatic increase in erroneous delivery (doordash, walmart +, etc) services. I ordered three separate items from walmart last week, and two of them weren't delivered. Then my grocery delivery was missing 4 items. Prices are too high to have mistakes like that. I'm gonna have to stop being lazy and do my own shopping again ;)

[@nt6719]

I'm only going to touch on 3-4 things you talked about. Yes, there are a lot of streaming services. We don't pay for any of them nor do we have cable. There's lots of free content on youtube. Tubi and Pluto have at least some free content. That should get you started while you explore the others. On tipping. I think restaurants are trying to push the bar higher. The standard I'm hearing is 15% for good service, 18% for very good service and 20% if someone really goes above and beyond. If the service is bad and it's clearly the server's fault ( laughing and chatting with coworkers instead of taking care of customers is an example) they get no tip. If the service is bad and it's clearly not the fault of the server ( restaurant is understaffed for the volume) and the server is hustling and appears to be doing their best that's when I might go 22%. As for the food causing you problems. The US allows things in food that most other countries. It's possible Mexico didn't allow ingredients in food that are causing you problems and the US is allowing those things. As for cost of living overall. Yes there's been a big increase in inflation but there are ways to take control of that. Less eating out, being more price conscious with what you order, being more intentional with all your purchases, looking for some furniture like tables used, group errands to decrease driving and gas usage, etc.

[@mexicanspec]

A lot of the food served in restaurants here are sourced locally and don't have to travel across the country to get there. That helps a lot, fresh ingredients.

[@davidclaro152]

I feel the same as you as an American living in Japan, where there’s no tipping, lower taxes, affordable healthcare, and much more.

[@mamachicken1548]

I had seen some reports of some restaurants expecting customers to pay a percentage in a healthcare tip too. Crazy!!

[@brentpeddy4223]

Hi Maddie! 1000% the food supply in America is jacked!! Just about the only thing you can do is get all your food from local farmers. I work for True Food Kitchen which has great options and everything organic & grass fed mostly proteins but even with that said we're still using oat milk which is disastrous and vegan mayo with soybean oil. The entirety of our food supply still has the residual of Monsanto's (now owned by Bayer) GMO seeds and glyphosate detectable in everything! Thankfully Mexico rejected their products. GMO soy and corn are in everything and the seed oils also are killing us. My goal is definitely to get to Mexico. I've traveled all throughout and love life there!