31 y/o Single Mum Asked Tough Questions

[@H-m-1-1]

She failed to explain details regarding her husband's level of provision and care for his daughter. Something tells me we don't have the full story

[@AliHussain-od9fs]

Exactly. I’m sorry, if your a divorcee regardless whether your a man or a woman there are always two sides to a story. No party is completely innocent. If your a divorcee, you both need to take accountability/responsibility for your actions. Honestly, I cannot stand some of these women and clearly this women is still salty and hasn’t got over her ex husband/divorce. Women (and men) need to stop playing the innocent card smh.

[@Spec-b1e]

You will never have the full story, they’re all like this. They back out when the going gets tough.

[@thechosenone2786]

Accountability is like kryptonite to the modern woman.

[@DevinWSimmons]

You never get the full story bruv. Trust

[@sbk6052]

I'm a 21 married woman. Sisters I know also don't willingly want to marry divorcee brothers, let alone one with children. It's just human nature, we're allowed to have preferences. Nobody wants baggage, it's a two way street. And may Allah reward those who have expanded chests and are more merciful. Ameen

[@Spec-b1e]

What I got from this was she married because he was financially well off, but she wasn’t willing to cut costs and budget properly when tough times like covid came. That’s what happens when you marry someone you don’t care about, you won’t be willing to sacrifice with them to make things work.

[@AliHussain-od9fs]

Big facts 💯

[@thechosenone2786]

Selfish AF!

[@Truthiscrystalclear]

I think you are correct

[@niqabiartist6515]

I agree marriage is a two way street both need to work together been married for 18 years allhumdullilah seen tougher times than covid but managed to pull through with the help of Allah allhumdullilah

[@Spec-b1e]

@@niqabiartist6515 Mashallah, I’ve seen how my mother stood by my father during tough times even when he went through a couple lay offs. They’re still together and they’re happy Alhamdulillah. Sometimes life throws things at you that’s out of your control but Allah always makes a way for people to overcome these situations.

[@renatoc8377]

She said he wasn't providing, but then said he would complain about prices. She also said he made 3 times more money than her. Did he not provide or did he not provide the way she felt he should. Peel the onion layers. She said she compromised in the beginning with regard to the brothers height.

[@Spec-b1e]

She just didn’t care about budgeting his hard earned money. After all, he’s 5’7 and she feels he isn’t worthy to be with her anyways. As a matter of fact she feels like he’s lucky to be with her and that she’s better than him. So if he’s not spending his money or doing things the way she wants, even if it’s reckless and carelessly done, then he is not worthy. That’s how she feels about him. Take that in.

[@grinningchicken]

She out of vanity looked down on avg height guy making more than normal and not engaging in any serious haram behavior. He seems to have been providing but just careful with money after she lost her job. She then disobeyed Islam and left him and is reluctant to give back custody but wants another rich 6 ft Muslim brother take her an 31 woman with a child over a 21 year old virgin out of Islamic duty? You cant make this stuff up?

[@mohammadaman175]

The woman is speaking out her feelings. It’s not necessarily what actually happened. Anyway, may Allah make it easy for her.

[@Asad-zeetwo5241]

Long story short, she didn't really like the guy from the start. So it doesn't matter what he does or doesn't do, she'll find a way to leave him in the end!.

[@AliHussain-od9fs]

Facts. She absolutely didn’t like him from the beginning of the marriage and for whatever reason ended up settling with him and compromising so yeah.. absolutely doesn’t matter what he says or does. Wrong niyah (intentions) to begin with from this woman.

[@d.bcooper2271]

@@AliHussain-od9fs This massive discrepancy exists despite the fact that there is no gender bias in the law favouring females. Whether you like it or not, the welfare system forces you as a man to pay for single women, many of whom, as you know, are degenerates. Without welfare and all kinds of affirmative action promoting women in the workplace, women can't support themselves. The feminist welfare state just distributes the burden of taking care of women to all working men. So you, as a man, have the burden of financially supporting these women without any benefit in return, women who will berate you and call you an incel if you disagree with how stunning and brave they are. Basically, Western liberalism forces you as a man to fund the lifestyle of women drinking, sleeping around with a new man every night, popping antidepressants like candy, and going to the women's march on weekends to whine about how oppressed they are. You're literally subsidizing all that. Women being free is not free. Someone has to foot the bill. Islam says, no. No one gets a free ride. If you want to be taken care of, you have to be in a marriage as an obedient wife. And if you don't want to be an obedient wife, go be a burden on your father, who didn't raise you right. And if you don't want to live under your father's roof, go live in the wilderness or beg on the streets. See how long you last there.

[@sonyarose2982]

The wilderness 😂 Just get a job! Then you will be doing the same thing as any man.

[@Marklesfield]

There's more to the story with the marriage I'm sure. I've heard from many a woman who call their ex a bum and not a provider but it turns out the man waa providing all the while but was simple being financially responsible and not spending on frivolous things. She already stated that she believes she settled in the first place.

[@sweettea1193]

There are three sides to every story

[@AliHussain-od9fs]

Lol exactly

[@d.bcooper2271]

@@sweettea1193 why not four? Lol

[@thechosenone2786]

Accountability is like kryptonite to the modern woman.

[@DivineLogos]

Mahdi knows thats a reasonable probability. He is sober enough.

[@ShareefusMaximus]

Food clothing and shelter is "refusing to provide for his family" to her. Taking his child to a entirely different land mass is him, "not really wanting to care for her."

[@Hamza-iq6gw]

A child is an extortion tool for women. A woman who says he doesn't want to see his kid is lying. Women hold kids hostage and say to their kid that their father doesn't want to see them. This woman has more red flags than a ski piste.

[@khairt1731]

She keeps saying "Islamically" BUT she divorced her because hes 5'7

[@Hamza-iq6gw]

@@khairt1731 the worst part was when she talked about mortgage like it was Sunnah

[@ob1kendobe]

@@khairt1731 she said she divorced him bc he wasn’t providing

[@Marwadear512]

@@khairt1731 She didn’t divorce him because he was 5’7”. 🙄

[@Marwadear512]

@@Hamza-iq6gw She mentioned that most men had mortgages. That’s it. Grow up.

[@OnePullUpKing]

The problem with these kind of conversations is that you’re only getting one side of the story, we do not know if she is being truthful. In order to come to a fair conclusion, you need to analyze both sides of the story and interrogate both on their claims. Evidence needs to provided too otherwise it’s just he says, she says. It’s usually taken up with an Islamic judge.

[@gloryandpraisefromkoran6467]

I can tell almost entirely she is not truthful

[@Jay-bc7kh]

No sister it's not just the Asian community, it's EVERY community and it's EVERY MAN. Men don't want to wife up scraps. Period.

[@bfa8750]

It is the Asian community. No one in my family struggled to get married 2nd or 3rd times with kids in tow lol

[@xander583]

You do realize Khadijah was a widow right? Carful with your words

[@spacecookiez5045]

Ya Allah please defend our honor when it is unjustly attacked! Who are you to generalize 50% of the globe? I don't look down on single mothers however I wouldn't marry one myself. Just because I don't want to marry one doesn't mean I look at you like you are some sort of cockaroach.

[@spacecookiez5045]

@B Fa for real my uncles and aunts got married literally a month after their divorce

[@bfa8750]

@@spacecookiez5045 Yeah usually divorced people find someone else pretty fast despite it being "harder". Cos they actually know what they're going for and how to get it. Never married ppl usually aren't ready yet or too afraid to get married lol

[@awaisali1016]

It would be better if her divorced husband would also be interviewed

[@TheOrganics01]

Yes

[@FarhatKCh]

Her story was so unbelievable. Then again, people are crazy.

[@ameerhamza1581]

Makes no sense at all, like how can as a man if you earn 3x your spouse salary and not provide for her. Like even if you earn the same as her, you still provide and tell her to stay home.

[@BlueBlue23]

@@ameerhamza1581 it does happen...that's why women...need to get her intentions right before getting married. They should not marry for the money...they might get tested with exactly that. Better choose a man who is responsible and knows how to make money

[@apexsom5954]

She is crazy and a full liar. According to her logic it's unIslamic for women to prefer rich men over broke men. She is an expired bint and should accept that rather than talking down on young sisters like she did, surprised Mahdi did not pull her up on that remark.

[@ob1kendobe]

It’s not unbelievable I know of way worse stories Some men (and some women) are actually just bums or worse straight evil hearted And some are pure munafiq

[@d.bcooper2271]

@@ameerhamza1581 *Liberal modernists and feminists will feign outrage, but their moral system is what creates this situation.* Liberal principles of individual choice, female empowerment, and destruction of patriarchy create a society of people who have no family to take care of them in their old age. The liberal feminist solution to this problem is to create more welfare programs. What this means is that they want the elderly to live alone in what are essentially pods, their only human interaction being with "care" takers to check if they're still alive once a week. Let me put it like this. The only human solution is for the elderly to be surrounded by loving family in their old age. The only way to get that is patriarchy, gender roles, and other limitations on individual freedom. But the liberal mind can not allow any of that. So the elderly will continue to suffer, and liberal feminists and modernists will continue to pretend like they care about humanity.

[@abujunayed]

🙄Everyone has preferences. For men one of those preferences are women without children. There's nothing "unislamic" about it.

[@captian_yousuf]

I was raised by a single mother. And this survery is true .

[@ammar675]

Except we don't have the father's side. She could be lying

[@mindmattermeaning]

She clearly brushed many details under the carpet. I doubt her and her ex-husband practiced Islam correctly. Allah protect the Wise and guide the Lost, Ameen.

[@Omer698]

I think it's more of a red flag that a woman is willing to give up her baby daughter to be with me than her actually being a single mum. It's clear there's more sides to this story and to this woman

[@18laila]

Women cant win, on the one hand Mehdi saying kids are supposed to go to their father when they're a certain age and then you have the likes of you saying women who give their child to their father is a red flag lol

[@Marwadear512]

She’s Islamically obliged to if Allah have her enough internal desire that she’s putting herself at risk of zina. In this case she has no choice. And a vast many women have this problem. The girl’s dad is equally her parent. It’s not like moms are more of a parent than dads. The father is her parent just as much. But if he wasn’t Muslim or would put the girl in danger and isn’t a fit parent, then of course the daughter shouldn’t return to him. Also, single moms of all sorts, including with girls, can find good Muslim husbands, if they’re open to single dads and men of different ethnicities. Or maybe there’s a shortage of good Muslim men where she lives. (?)

[@Omer698]

@@Marwadear512 it's scary to me the temptation of zina would make you lot give up your flesh&blood. Why would the guy you left your daughter for ever think you'd be a good mother to HIS children?

[@sweettea1193]

@@Omer698 Islamically, daughters are supposed to go to the dad after puberty, so why would this be a red flag, when this is part of the Sharia?? You're making no sense

[@Replis]

@@sweettea1193 Not puberty, the kids go to their father when they can be separated from their mother, which differs from madhab to madhab.

[@trademarkuk7504]

I think the cause of this divorce was the fact that the sister is not realising the devastating spiritual effect one suffers whilst indulging in a major sin i.e riba. I’ve been there myself & I couldn’t seem to be spiritually fulfilled whilst in a riba based lifestyle.

[@Replis]

What I don't understand is why are we discussing the life of this woman? This should be in private even if we don't know her.

[@trademarkuk7504]

@@Replis I’m not even interested in her life but concerned for the fact that Allahswt system of one’s contract in marriage has rules & regulations that need to be met - one of them highlighted was the fact indulging in riba - which destroys the foundation of a spiritual relationship between husband & wife that people don’t seem to realise in a capitalist society.

[@dad8102]

I do relate with this I used to trade a lot didn’t know it was riba I used to read Quran and namaz but no matter what I always felt like I’m being rejected and I’m not comfortable

[@kautharmohamed8455]

Why riba ?

[@BlueBlue23]

@@Replis people find it gratifying to find faults in others...makes them feel happier about themselves. If that's gonna translate into gratitude towards Allah fine...but as you can imagine, sometimes it just triggers ego, pride and self righteousness.

[@amirab45]

Idk. If I was a single mom I would prefer a single dad because you can get an idea of him as a father already. I know there’s pros and cons but I feel like you take a bigger risk when you introduce a strange childless man to your kids

[@banki8008]

“It’s unislamic” it’s BIOLOGY sis men want what they were designed to want.

[@smurfanb348]

Theres defo more to this story then what shes mentioning. Would love to hear his side

[@mehdisy3d]

Poor sister seems completely deluded or simply not being honest to herself.

[@mhassan9784]

What was annoying was Mahdi telling her that the daughters Father would take responsibility for her. The whole reason why divorce happened was BECAUSE he didn't take responsibility for them! Now it could be argued she was too demanding, and in fairness we have to hear his side. But let's assume she's honest and he was a bum, how can we advise her to give her daughter to him if he didn't do this the first time? 🤔

[@Alishankhan366]

Mahdi is not wrong. It is the right of the father to provide. If he is not providing, then she has the right to pull him to court. Society is not governed by emotions it is governed by law. Family is not governed by "my way or highway" it is governed by sacrifice. Clearly, none is considered here.

[@alizahm4260]

​@@Alishankhan366 true but why say give your child up.A young child who is 3 needs her mom. A father can never replace the biological maternal instinct that Allah has ingrained in a women. Nothing wrong with him financially providing and her being able to keep her child.

[@jcl9034]

How Is someone a bum when he makes 3 times what she makes did you watch the video?

[@mhassan9784]

@@jcl9034 it's been a while and I can't be bothered watching it again now. I do acknowledge women do use dumb excuses like "he's not making any money" when he could be working all hours of a dead end job just so he could provide for his family. It all comes down to hearsay. As long as either of them are not being abusive - then the couples should always stick together for the sake of the children

[@awaisali1016]

Nowadays most women doesn't want to be a second wife ,nor the 1st want her husband to have a second wife.

[@irfanshaikh9390]

"Single mums are more righteous". She's allowed pass judgement 3 ways to Sunday, but God forbid we criticise her.

[@elliotpolanco159]

I Never never complain to woman about money ever, that's not good.

[@abdalhaqq9465]

I wish you had pinned her down on some of the claims she had made.

[@smurfanb348]

Hold on, this sister intially says she compromised in her marriage by choosing a husband that was same height as her (5'7), then when asked by mahdi later on what height she wants for a future husband she says 5'7 minimum🤔

[@AliHussain-od9fs]

😂😂😂😂🤦🏽‍♂️

[@AliHussain-od9fs]

I clocked that too lol so dumb

[@d.bcooper2271]

Logic isn't women's thing

[@banki8008]

This is a reach. Even as a guy I understand what she meant by this. Most women want a taller man but are “willing” to settle for the same hieght at the bare minimum. So what she meant was she’s prefer a guy around 6ft but this particular man had more to offer in other avenues except the height department.🤷‍♂️ also I don’t feel bad for her for crying about being judged for being a single mother when she’s happy to judge men based on height. 😅

[@smurfanb348]

@Haji A i dont know man, she made it sound like it was a big deal, otherwise why mention it?

[@asaadhusein5063]

May Allah grant you a pious wife sister and make it easy for you and for him

[@ismailahmed2501]

Huh!!!!

[@alimamulma3sum14]

I think she's straight 👀

[@Ll_jfdk]

It’s so important to be honest even if it backfires. The truth will always come out anyway. People can tell.

[@hussienidris6322]

U killed the discussion at 4:00 🎉

[@renatoc8377]

This is what zero accountability sounds like ikhwan.

[@Suhrab10]

Ngl I respect her standards tbh she better than most single mothers who want 100k a year dude & 6 feet 💀 ANDD they are in their 30s 💀💀

[@BlueBlue23]

Why do you say most? Have you run a census or are you just blindly following what you have heard in this channel??? Stereotypes are never fair and are just that, stereotypes

[@kooshin6180]

@@BlueBlue23 Opra Winfrey and those kinda female shows made single moms believe they can bag such a man..

[@BlueBlue23]

@@kooshin6180 media in general, the motto is I want, I can. Present as well in children's books these days

[@thechosenone2786]

@@BlueBlue23 Isn’t that what you do here? Generalize most men but the first one to bark when you get a taste of your own medicine?

[@EzziiG]

There's two sides to every story 🤣 you can tell from what she's saying, shes not being fully honest.

[@rizwantarar4208]

Thats very childish of her to say i settle for a man of her height... + uk really is getting expensive isn't... i live in US ... i heard a lot from my extended family that it's getting rough out there

[@faree38green]

While I am sympathetic to the sister's plight, I do feel there more to this story than meets the eye..

[@sb106]

Speaking of single mothers, let's take a moment to remember sayyidatuna maryam, imam shafi's mother, imam ahmad's mother, and imam bukhari's mother. Undoubtedly, they did not leave their husbands, but this brings a different nuance to the discussion.

[@Abdullah-yc4ul]

People really need to stop living in some Disney world especially women they see some prince Chaplin over there and when it doesn’t turn out that way in real life they lose their mind

[@AliHussain-od9fs]

Unfortunately most Muslim women in this day and age are very delusional and have a fantasy/romanticised version of what marriage is and will look like.. absolutely pathetic and sad what social media, internet, Bollywood & Hollywood has done to these women. 🤦🏽‍♂️

[@AliHussain-od9fs]

This cowardly behaviour, when the going gets tough they run away..

[@d.bcooper2271]

One Hadith says unless if the mother is about to get married, she can keep the children with her. However, the problem is that in Islamic society, women (or men) don't live individual life like they do in secular liberal west. Divorcees in the west live alone outside family with their children, contributing this mayhem 16:22

[@nas4235]

He doesn’t want to provide for his family. He doesn’t want to see his daughter? He doesn’t want to take care of his daughter? If this’s true, what world is he living in?

[@earthynomad7160]

My childhood friend is called all kinds of names by men because of her hight. She's a 5.8 extremely beautiful girl but just born in the wrong place ( middle East) guys bully her whenever she leaves the house calling her a palm tree, manly, a giraffe u name it .which made her extremely quiet and shy . How can a man be intimidated by a very feminine gorgeous girl just because she's tall ?

[@spacecookiez5045]

Stop lying 5.8 isn't even that tall for a woman. I have plenty of aunts and female cousins of that height and they don't get bullied for that

[@fireblade9781]

@@spacecookiez5045 hol up mate. that doesn't mean he/she is lying just because your experience is different

[@karlhorrigan8201]

@@spacecookiez5045 Tbf there's load's of weirdo's about could be telling the truth 🤷🏻‍♂️

[@BitMan1010]

tall women are beautiful

[@BlueBlue23]

There was a king in some certain country and his wife was beautiful and everybody loved her. He felt bad about himself and replaced her with a...you know who I am talking about

[@mohamedibrahim1836]

when it is about her height it is Allah made her this way, but keep complaining about her ex height!! Also if a man complains about a girls weight it is body shaming!!!!!! Moreover, almost all single mothers claim the father do not want to do anything with the kids although most of them are the ones actively alienating kids from their father as a mean of revenge!

[@DaggerSecurity]

not sure what she means when she says its unIslamic for a man to PREFER women who have no children. The prophet (saw) literally recommended that men marry virgins. In any case its the man's CHOICE. Just like its a choice for women to marry into polygamy or not.

[@conductingintomfoolery9163]

Lmao, he wasn't tall enough. Dude makes 3x more money and stays at home. She's not telling the full story

[@ayoubkhalil1]

Since when is 5'7 tall for a female?

[@The.Sultan]

Average height for female is 5’4

[@0Takethoserisks0]

it really isn’t , but maybe for Arab / asian women it’s a little on the taller side

[@Marwadear512]

It’s not. Over 5’9” is tall. But for Desis it’s on the taller side though I know many Pakistani women who are taller.

[@The.Sultan]

@@Marwadear512 statistically the average height of a Pakistani man is 5’7 and 5’2 for Pakistani women. I’ve been to Pakistan multiple times and most people fall under that range

[@Marwadear512]

@@The.Sultan The comment just said “female” so I was talking about women in general. This sister should not limit herself to Desi men imho.

[@halimaavonpeeroo6561]

It's more a culture thing. What the sister saying is very true, and I can understand her coming from.

[@FarhatKCh]

Why is she bringing Islam into this? “Islamically single mothers shouldn’t be looked down upon”, “Single mothers are more Islamic than younger women” and so on. I divorced when I was 21, and I swear I never had any delusions about men lining up. I never thought what people should or should not do “Islamically”. I was only concerned about my own actions and my account with Allah. In fact, I accepted that I’d probably remain single forever. Talk about feminism making women full of fantasies.

[@thechosenone2786]

Exactly!!!

[@muhammadsaeed6057]

This lady will not give daughter to her father because of the benefits she will claim because of being single mother : a house, a monthly grant sympathy. She already left 5.7 guy who didnt want to pay for luxuries, she didnt let father meet with her daughter men with working brains would run away

[@michaelzabala6739]

She seems reasonable but of course I'm coming from an American perspective after dealing with so many modern women

[@obaid653]

As rich cooper said. Never be a women's 2nd choice or a backup plan. This is what it leads to.

[@Muztang010]

Wauwww, never give up your daughter. I dont agree with you on this one Mahdi. I understand where you coming from bro, there is only one thing that seperates us from other people and that is we factor the hereafter heavily in when we make our choices. Everyone should look at his personality and judge if they have no issues raising an other man’s child. Some men have a strong character and they have no problem with it, especially when they do it for the sake of hasanaat. There is a majority who are the way you put it i agree, but there are men who will marry a divorced woman with a child as long as she gets trough the selection meaning no major issues in character and agrees with what the man is looking for.

[@juxtapositionMS]

Who wants to burn his hands let him do so. We don't take that risk. Why do you agree with Mahdi when this is basically the reason his channel exists.

[@awaisali1016]

2 sides this story has .she wanted tall guy mean taller then 5:7 .and now she has now no preference.what?

[@juxtapositionMS]

She sounds like she is a bengali sister. She needs to get in touch with reality. She is trying the best to follow Islam against all odds. But she is using Islam to back up her emotion and shame men.

[@muwahid589]

Bangladesh doesn’t exist. It’s east Pakistan and belongs to pakistan.

[@Humaaxxx]

Why am I just watching your content now, and I have to say I was wrong about you Mahdi lol, you make so much sense about many things! And this sister ma sha allah she actually sounds really nice and just wants to be happy! Normally a 5’7 girl would want a 6ft guy! But she’s like she doesn’t mind a 5’7 guy! Alhamdulliah. I pray everything has worked out for you sister since this video is a year old!!

[@zenkahnz3859]

Like how do divorcees and non virgins have high standards to begin with? 😅 I could never fathom that logic of LVW

[@a.bmin-ki3946]

Agree with yu

[@abakade8425]

No matter how beautiful you think she is no self respecting man would want that.

[@ghurabaa114xx]

The hadeeth of our messenger Muhammad Sallahu alayhi wasallam 💕 says marry the virgin because wa akallu khaban...they are less deceptive...that's what the hadeeth says, exact translation without any sugarcoating...& we take it as it was said. A widower or a divorcee she knows exactly what she wants & what she is looking for due to previous experience & mostly she won't budge...unlike the virgin who is content with a lot less & is open & easier to guide left or right...wherever u take her

[@Omar-jk8ny]

@@ghurabaa114xx faxs

[@Marwadear512]

Well, they actually have an easier time marrying than most men do. So…. Because they can.

[@jawaadshahid]

so dubious... was he not providing at all OR complaining about the costs? these 2 accusations logically contradict. Being tight is not the same as "not providing". This is such a serious accusation, as on the day of judgment, his failure to fulfil his obligations will be a sin for him. Brother Mahdi handled this well, asking her question to provoke empathy.

[@khairt1731]

She keeps saying "Islamically" BUT she divorced her husband because hes 5'7! For him not to claim that child and support it this might mean he doesnt think its his child. Shes lying

[@Marwadear512]

That’s not why she said she divorced him. Grow up.

[@thechosenone2786]

@@Marwadear512 You aren’t holding her accountable for her piss poor decisions how about you grow tf up already.

[@BigWelt]

Kevin Samuels wasn't wrong Ahki. He actually said exactly what you said. He said single mothers have a harder time getting the man they have a natural inclination to go for. The exact same thing you said to a tee. I am not sure the stats in the UK but in the US the stats are even with single father and nuclear homes... identical. However, I understand you are speaking for the UK fam. I am new to the page... definitely feeling the material Ahki.

[@ballistic2513]

Remove the sister from the thumbnail

[@DARTH-R3VAN]

Talking about height was cringe ngl mahdi. Although it matters, we Muslims are different than the non muslims and we as a nation should focus on criterias other than that.

[@MomoTheDisciple]

Women being so petty and silly in their criteria should enjoy their results

[@asraaliasad4943]

To be honest, my mother was raised by her mother without a dad, and her father didn't want her, and she is married to my dad and has total of 7 kids. Why do people nowadays compare muslim people to non-Muslims people I just don't get it.

[@khairt1731]

Everyone in the West is westernized. Muslims also. Most muslim women are just like western women. They behave and talk the same

[@asraaliasad4943]

@Khair T 💯 right .

[@Hundura-k3y]

Tough exchange, intelligent babe. Please , find the guy in question. Hear from him too. There is more too this.......

[@indus7226]

why did she just categorise pakistanis indians and bengalis together lol, she does realise nearly most men have caution towards a single mother. literally weird

[@indus7226]

@@alghurraba it's not culture though its more of a mindset among men not exclusive to some list

[@earthynomad7160]

@Fid Dunya Wal Akhirah all muslim cultures treat women bad , trust me as a woman but South Asians are harsher on divorcees. Affected by neighbouring Hindu culture which treats divorced women the worst in the world

[@indus7226]

@@earthynomad7160 south asians aren't the same though, hinduism leftovers is pretty indian/bengali lol.

[@indus7226]

@@alghurraba pakistanis do not follow hindu cultures what are you talking about? lol

[@md.shahadathossain8880]

@@alghurraba in subcontinent, a taboo has been developed about polygyny.... The womem themselves developed it

[@Fatoobalilghurabaa]

The man who marries a woman who left behind her child better be prepared for her to leave him behind with any children she bears for him.

[@18laila]

Women cant win, on the one hand Mehdi saying kids are supposed to go to their father when they're a certain age and then you have the likes of you saying women who give their child to their father better be prepared to be left by her eventually

[@Marwadear512]

Such a woman is just following Shari’ah. Do you have a problem with Shari’ah?

[@Fatoobalilghurabaa]

@@Marwadear512 we hear and we obey. Explain what is in the shariah in regards to this matter jazakallahu kheyran

[@thechosenone2786]

@@Marwadear512 Feminist’s aren’t following sharia but use islam as a buffet line to pick and choose what parts they like and find other parts of shariah “ickey” and here you come to defend the downtrodden divorcees from taking accountability for their own poor decisions. Grow tf up already.

[@zenkahnz3859]

@@Fatoobalilghurabaa That a woman isn't obliged to have custody of previous children after she's remarried.

[@imrannazir6931]

She ended her marriage because her husband wasn't freely spending under lockdown when there was work instability. He wanted to budget and didn't want to think about it. Mine did the same.

[@dodgysmum8340]

Are you all mad? 35k is nothing. For a stay at home mum, if she has his baby, cooks his food and does his cleaning, she is already generating the economic equivalent of tht, and more. The sister sounds like she is already doing the right thing. Where r u stats coming from tht male single parents r better?

[@FikrNaqdi]

35k a month? Are you crazy?

[@dodgysmum8340]

@@FikrNaqdi pounds per year you dafty, not per more month.

[@dodgysmum8340]

@@FikrNaqdi obviously I’m saying £35k a year!! What world do u live in?

[@dodgysmum8340]

Commercially (and if u include the sex which I bet is horrible for her), she would probably have an equivalent of c£120/ annum for : cleaning, childcare, sex, emotional support/ therapy. I bet she doesn’t receive any significant non-financial benefits.

[@FikrNaqdi]

@@dodgysmum8340 I will never pay 2916 pound to a single mum. I can go to Morocco or Pakistan and get 20 yrs old.

[@Sarah-pw9bb]

You have to be minimum 5ft 8 to be a model, all the most beautiful women are the supermodels over 5ft 9 , so what’s with the tall woman thing? I’d rather be tall and slim. Diana was tall, Kate Middleton is tall , both over 5ft 8. Supermodels such as Bella Hadid , Gigi etc are all 5.9 & over - all these women are considered to be more beautiful than shorter women

[@sayeedakhtar8647]

SURE but are they good wives or mothers is the question. even porn star are considered to be beautiful. you giving example of models really shows your lack of understanding the situation.

[@Sarah-pw9bb]

@@sayeedakhtar8647 being tall or short doesn’t determine if you’re going to be a good wife. There are plenty of short women who are terrible wives as there are tall women who are. That’s not the issue. This is an objective observation about physical beauty.

[@niqabiartist6515]

My brain hurts....... is it just me or does any1 else think she is speaking alot of crap full of lies!! I would never give up my kids am sorry would definitely let them see the dad but would never give them up!!

[@nousername3846]

In islam, the man gets the kids so its not really your opinion that matters. Its already decreed by Allah

[@Marwadear512]

It’s Shari’ah.

[@niqabiartist6515]

@@nousername3846 I agree but if the man was not right if I knew he was abusive etc I would not give up the kids allhumdullilah am not in tht situation been married for centuries lol

[@niqabiartist6515]

@@Marwadear512total agreement

[@ghurabaa114xx]

@Cooler The Tyrant ....after the age of independence they go to thier father, yes It was narrated from ‘Abd-Allah ibn ‘Amr that the Prophet (Sallahu alayhi wasallam 💕 said to a woman who sought custody of her child from her husband: “You are more entitled to the child so long as you do not get married.” Narrated by Abu Dawood in his Sunan (2276); classed as hasan by Shaykh al-Albaani in al-Silsilah al-Saheehah (368) There's a chapter in Riyadh us Saliheen that goes thru this...when Ustadh Abu Suhayb was going thru it I was quite amazed...he mentioned just yesterday that the sister from the mothers side is like the second mother lol quite interesting 😊

[@saffyak6561]

It's so wrong that she puts all muslim men jn one boat. That's stereotyping and that's so wrong. Don't know whether to believe her side of the story... there's 2 sides to one story. It's only right that the brother has the right to defend himself too. If these men looked down at her as a single women then they are in the minority. There are plenty of good men out there who will be willing take on a woman and her children.

[@bossssss]

She did not sound unreasonable at all in my opinion.

[@alizcool1]

She's talking like she's 6 ft loool

[@Kal.El1]

I think I’m the exception there, my Brev 😬 I’m a taller guy & I like taller girls. Not into short women. If her ex-husband wasn’t providing & he’s of South Asian extraction then I suspect he was likely giving his money to parents, siblings etc. I’m all for helping your family out if you have the means to do so but not if it’s excessive & it’s keeping you from providing from your wife & children. The guy may be one of those men who sees daughters as a burden too, IF the sister is being completely honest about him. One of the main reasons men don’t want to marry a single Mother is because there is a huge potential for drama with the child’s father or paternal relatives. The same way women don’t want baby mama drama, men don’t want baby daddy drama. Divorce can happen even if you start out with the best will in the world but if you choose the wrong man to have a child with, it’s a whole lot of headache that no man wants to deal with. Even if he has kids himself.

[@hassanamir387]

I think the sister wasn’t being 100% truthful, just in this short clip she contradicted herself several times, the story doesn’t quite add up.

[@Kal.El1]

I suspect that too but even if she’s being dishonest, she’s still at a distinct disadvantage compared to a woman who has no children, even if that woman is a divorcee.

[@earthynomad7160]

My childhood friend is called all kinds of names by men because of her hight. She's a 5.8 extremely beautiful girl but just born in the wrong place ( middle East) guys bully her whenever she leaves the house calling her a palm tree, manly, a giraffe u name it .which made her extremely quiet and shy . How can a man be intimidated by a very feminine gorgeous girl just because she's tall ?

[@juxtapositionMS]

Nice simping right there.

[@SIGSEGV1337]

@@earthynomad7160 She married yet? If not how would she feel about living in the UK and how old is she?

[@sweettea1193]

As hard as it is, it's much better to give the kids to the dad and let him deal with the stress of juggling a full time job and full-time childcare all on his own. That's what I do if I was her. I do feel bad for tall girls though because it's true that our Asian men are the shortest amongst all the races, unfortunately. Not going to comment on the whole financial situation because I don't think she's being 100% honest...

[@muwahid589]

Especially Bengali men. Not all south Asians are short though. But I think that Chinese are even shorter than Bengali men.

[@muwahid589]

Lying and asking questions or saying stuff in a way to get the answer you want to hear is indeed a hypocritical characteristic in many women. You may think that it’s a vexation to not have children under your care but that’s because you’re not a mother.

[@sweettea1193]

@@muwahid589 oh gosh, yeah. Our men are really short sigh. It's unfortunate. I'm not a mom, but I'd still give my imaginary kids to their dad and let him have full custody, because firstly, I wouldn't want that stress, and secondly, because I don't want to be held accountable in front of Allah that I denied my children of their father. It's such a big sin that I don't want to risk it

[@0Takethoserisks0]

@@sweettea1193 most indian and pakistani men in the west are pretty tall actually, especially pakistanis. I haven’t met too many pakistani men under the age of 30 that’s under 5’10 lol

[@Marwadear512]

My bff is a 5’8” Arab American woman, divorced with kids. She recently married a 6’1” Pakistani man, without kids.

[@LaoZhang00]

Compromised = Alpha widow

[@aqqq4407]

In these issues there's always much more beneath the surface...

[@sergeyastov6353]

There is always 3 sides to the story.

[@n.n9035]

Can someone explain to me why children apparently do better in single father homes instead of single mothers home? Who looks after the kids when the father is at work Just curious how that works In certain countries the father has right to take children when either the mother re married or if they are over the age of 9-12

[@civildiscourse7626]

Perhaps discipline is a start

[@n.n9035]

@@civildiscourse7626 yea I agree,just find it hard for a man to physically be able to b there for his kids to begin with due to work...

[@naj1650]

Simple solution: Give the kid back to the father and u won’t have to be a single mother 💀 Subhannallah just like that……send it back to the store u bought it from

[@adamhussain6651]

This is an example of many single mums ...and alot of them ar far worse who dont want the father in their child's life . Children must be put at the forefront of any break up. . I Have sat with over 300 seperated parents. I been wrongfully accused of all of what this woman is saying yet wish i can play a bigger part in my child's life who's living 10 min away . I'm also a living proof of the Average Abdullah . 37 , seeing my child less than 34 hours a month been looking for a wife for 4 years ...women don't want a man with a child ...even with the limited contact I have . Even divorcees themselves ! . The search has ended in the UK and now seeking a wife from Asia . Women are happily ready to accept me who are even 10 years younger . Got to be careful marrying overseas but I could have made or break a marriage in the 4 years I spent looking with no success .

[@Omar-jk8ny]

She capping big time

[@AliHussain-od9fs]

Facts bro lol

[@bigdaddy7729]

Jesus, this woman got more red flags than a red army street march!

[@juxtapositionMS]

Communist celebration, right?

[@bigdaddy7729]

@@juxtapositionMS lol yep!

[@zk4654]

Gold

[@ruzainpatel5993]

AHAHAHA

[@RyomaSakamoto79]

I compromised? She was dissatisfied with his height?! He was the same height as her! Unreasonable. Why did he refuse to support her?

[@eternalfaith4622]

Simple non brainer. Marry in the east, 18-25, virgin, 2 parent healthy stable nuclear household. Great relationship with her father! Jobs a goddun😊😊 😊😊😊😊😊

[@itaekumba33]

lol Madhi is swag out 🤣🙃 - what a perfect balance ma guy - spiritual and street at the same time -

[@junaidhassan7091]

The woman is the one who breaks relationships.

[@mohammadnasir6716]

How a man who make so much money but won’t support his own blood ? Idk I am confused here

[@mdhaneef9274]

Holy crap,even muslim women speak as girls from,fresh and fit and just pearly,no difference

[@mdhaneef9274]

@Bluelight bs

[@junaidhassan7091]

It's the place where you grow up. Europe is the worst place to live.

[@imranchaudhry4321]

5 feet 7 inches isnt that tall for a woman

[@Marwadear512]

If we’re going to follow Shari’ah, we have to follow it fully, as a complete system. Men and women around here are picking and choosing. Let me point out your mental incongruency - Men here all say women shouldn’t take alimony. Many men say women shouldn’t work or get a college degree. Men say a woman should go back to her parents after divorce or the death or her husband, or marry again, so she won’t end up homeless. But then, many men here are saying it’s wrong for a woman to return her kids to their father so she can remarry. They say such a woman isn’t trustworthy (despite this being Shari’ah). Women around here argue against polygyny. Here’s the problem - You’re all putting women into a deep pit of poverty or homelessness. Women whose parents are deceased or who don’t have mahrams to pay for them either must work a good paying job or be able to quickly marry again. If she has no degree then she can’t find good paying work. So her only option is to marry again. But then men around here say never to marry a divorcee or single mom or woman over 30. Many also say don’t marry a widow. Now many men in comments are also saying the woman has to keep and raise the kids. And then on top of that, Muslim women have cut off other women’s access to polygyny. So what in the world are women supposed to do??! You’re all trying to follow parts of shari’ah that benefit you, but then cut out the parts of shari’ah that keep women alive and fed, let alone happy or secure!

[@zenkahnz3859]

They all don't know the Shariah lol also most of us aren't really against women's education tbh, we're simply critical of the price it comes with...

[@Marwadear512]

@@zenkahnz3859 That’s understandable. I just wish men here would speak more directly and specifically about what it is you’re really against - because I also don’t think it’s education per se that so many of you are against. It’s factors surrounding the education. So talk about them instead. Try to make change for the positive, rather than throwing the baby out with the bath water and limiting women in such a way that they can be put into very difficult life situations.

[@zayn6725]

So bitter it’s mad

[@sajid7925]

Salam, listened to the whole thing really good talk. She mentioned she is looking for a husband, is it possible to maybe get her contact. As I know a brother who's looking to get married, don't worry he's 6'1 and has educational background age 31 😃

[@jcl9034]

Do not do it, you will ruin a brother's life

[@sajid7925]

@@jcl9034 😭🤣 she seems caring, she’s trying to look after her daughter

[@shebz2509]

Leave the brother out these women nowdays are fully clapped why you want to ruin his life lol

[@sajid7925]

@AAEraA bruhh 🤣

[@glitterrainbowunicornlove9489]

With the stats 80% women take responsibility of the children, 80% men don't want anything to do with the kids. I've seen thousands of court order where the father has not even bothered attempted to attend the court for their childrens custody or if the mother was deceased the children were handed to the custody of their grandparents (mainly the maternal grandparents). I've read thousands of letters, stating the child now grown up stating or younger children mother stating the child's father has had no contact with them so unable to provide their details.

[@anoxyt3140]

i will be honest 5 feet 7 in the asian community is tall. She has to lower her standards tbh. I think avg for men in here is either 5 feet 6 or 8 and women is 5 feet 4 or 2.

[@thetruth27786]

I dont agree with mahdi with alot of things but when it comes to women blocking kids to fathers alot of times women make it difficult because they upset as usually the men did oppress them and they had to leave

[@zahoorshah6528]

She bringing up islam every sec and when Islam told her that have patience and don't ruin your lives on the bases of interest for worldly desires..... Women ☕

[@Andy-hi3yt]

Is she divorced once she’s more able to do it again when one thing goes wrong

[@redemissarium]

Under islamic marriage law no man should be step-parent, when remarried the woman must return the kids to the father. Also even if woman not remarried on certain age (puberty) child must be returned to the father anyway

[@H1GHD3FF]

She thinks she's different but she is the same as others

[@AliTunio]

@mahdi id love to take on that mortgage question lol

[@thurayasheikhelbalad5629]

You're opinions are so invalid. Men should follow the example of prophet Mohammad whose all wives were either divorced or widowed except for Aisha. You can't suggest that she gives her daughter to her father who doesn't care for his daughter in the first place. Instead you should address men telling them how much reward they will have if they decided to take care of this little daughter after her father left her.

[@sieg6635]

Cope