Maintenance Man Waits in Coworker's Apartment | Miya Marcano Case Analysis

[@presseddepressed7478]

A case that will haunt me forever. I cry any time her dad speaks about her on his Instagram. Such a tragic senseless loss

[@lizajane2971]

Uggh, how terrifying to be changing your clothes, feeling safe in your own bedroom, only to be attacked by a monster like him! That poor woman! 😢

[@kitchenskills5427]

Why he was ever hired given his criminal background is beyond me. Once Miya complained to her employer, the matter should have been immediately investigated and he should not have been given access to her apartment. I hope the family sues the property management group for the apartment.. As a women who has been stalked, it is a terrifying experience that creates constant fear and anxiety for the victim. It should be taken more seriously as any other threat to personal safety.

[@icturner23]

What was his criminal background? If that was mentioned in the video I missed it. But people with criminal records have to have jobs, and low-skilled jobs have to be filled, so it would have to be something very serious to reject someone from a job like that. However, I agree that they should have investigated urgently and prevented him from being able to enter her apartment as soon as she complained.

[@kitchenskills5427]

@@icturner23 He threw a weight through the window of a woman who rejected him while he worked at another apartment complex. Yes, people with criminal pasts who have served their time and have been rehabilitated deserve jobs, but a violent predatory criminal like him should not have had his position. How was he rehabilitated? He should never have had the access he did and given his past, the management company should have taken her complaints more seriously.

[@Dwightstjohn-fo8ki]

@@icturner23 I'm "vulnerability cleared" in Canada and thought\ it has nothing to do with my maintenance job (a building full of ladies my age) I do not want to have access to ANY apt. without someone with me at all times. Maintenance does not need easy access to someone's apartment: the fire dept. has access keys and police will just kick the door in on any "wellness" check by an ambulance team. I am becoming an expert at door repairs.

[@Gigi-nw5yk]

@@Dwightstjohn-fo8ki how's that bass pond going for ya...? 😁

[@Jupitersios]

It's crazy how some people can get arrested just because someone identifies them, but then other people are let go with so much circumstantial evidence.

[@Reborn_Enthusist]

Ikr

[@sheilaisaacs981]

yeah justice is very iffy

[@meatsafemurderer7743]

It's because, for better or worse, eye witnesses are seen as more credibly than circumstantial evidence. It does make sense to some extent as circumstantial evidence is...well it's right there in the name, circumstantial. It's harder to come up with a reasonable explanation to eye witnesses identifying you.

[@Jupitersios]

@@meatsafemurderer7743 I agree with that! I just feel like we know the human memory isn't so reliable but it's seen as very reliable in some cases but inadmissible in others. I wish the justice system was more consistent in America

[@suzygirl1843]

@@Jupitersios China gives the final solution.

[@elizabethhamm5320]

She was just a baby. How tragic that she died especially in such a terrifying way. Armando should never have been given that position. He certainly should have been fired after his behavior. She had proof that he repeatedly tried to send her money. I hope that her family sues

[@jorgecrawford7419]

As a former maintenance tech I can say it was absurd how much access to residents apartments they have. The management company had very strict rules about privacy but very rarely enforced them as they were headquartered in a whole different state. The demand for maintenance jobs is very high so they'll hire just about anyone these days. edit: Rest In Peace Miya, the apartments could of did something to prevent this, perhaps they should be held accountable as well.

[@peacefreedom4930]

@@jorgecrawford7419 good to know

[@michaelperez9966]

@Elizabeth Hamm Being condescending towards someone after they were murdered isn’t very respectful.

[@DottieMinerva]

Her teddy bear she always slept with being in the closet broke my heart.

[@michaelperez9966]

@@jbates725 She definitely was. I look down on you people.

[@rullmourn1142]

“Caballero, who was much older than Marcano, appeared to be interested in Marcano and this made her extremely uncomfortable,” the lawsuit reads, adding that she shared her concerns with her manager. “Management at Arden Villas had a reputation for ignoring the complaints made by both tenants and employees.”

[@MusicJustin15]

Thank you for daily uploads. I know you work very hard around the clock. The consistent high quality of your content is astounding.

[@RooftopRecipes]

Yes!

[@AB-un4io]

It certainly is!

[@maxmeier532]

It's definitely better to be named Dr.Grande opposed to Dr.Smallish.

[@LizNeptune]

A coworker of mine just told me about when she was in her twenties, her neighbor was murdered like this. R*p3d and k!11ed by a maintenance man with a rap sheet a mile long. She believes the only reason why it wasn’t her was because she had a German shepherd who was fiercely protective of her and would always growl and snarl at the maintenance man in particular-there would be no way he could get in there with that dog. I suggest to all single women, especially if you live in a risky area, you MUST get a dog also, ADT so you ALWAYS know when your house is opened. At the very least, a very loud, aggressive chihuahua. Preferably a shepherd or Doberman.

[@whodoesntluvpapas]

I totally agree. Criminals have stated time and time again that a dog can be a huge deterrent when it comes to choosing a victim.

[@cakesinthecity]

Damn. Noted.

[@karifoto]

Really glad you covered the types of stalkers, Dr. Grande! So important. The police aren't very helpful when it comes to these crimes, unfortunately. A woman in my city who had video of her stalker breaking into her apartment didn't get any help. The cops finally did something when she had to shoot the stalker when he broke in again. The book, 'The Gift of Fear" talks about how the police don't help enough and the author, Gavin de Becker, has been working to try to change that. He came up with MOSAIC Threat Assessment Tool. I hope things get better in this area. I also wonder how voyeurism can play a part in stalking

[@nickyblue4866]

The gift of fear is a great book. Just read it last month.

[@troy3456789]

You, and the tools you can get in the USA are some of the best ways to stay safe. People use firearms to defend themselves from criminals upwards of 2 million times a year in the USA. Stay safe; stay armed. When seconds count; the police are only a few minutes away.

[@kathryntitus9647]

Just thought you'd like to know that they want people to end up shooting somebody, that's why the cops don't do anything in most jurisdictions. They want to find every excuse they can in our society for people to kill one another, because it's profitable especially for the politicians and their owners.

[@malovina]

The trouble of this too is they are overwhelmed with requests and understaffed. I dealt with someone harassing and knowing a lot of my personal info. At some point my friend yelled at me and said I need to call detective because I should not wait until someone kills me for them to analyze what happened. Long story short… I spoke to a detective in city of LA and was told they are understaffed and unless this person has threatened my life and I have full proof of that, nothing they could do to even start investigation. Per their words they got a lot of cases like this and could not tend to each one and would focus on those whose lives were in immediate danger. Problem is stuff likes this can turn quickly and your stalker can show up randomly etc. Anyhoz, it’s super complicated .:(

[@juliemirous2714]

I recommend that book to all the women I know especially if they have teenage daughters. I re-read it every 5 years or so.

[@kathydove3148]

Thank you Dr. Grande for presenting this stalking case. It illustrates why employers must screen potential employees and look into their criminal background. I worked for a grocery store and a jewelry store that both did extensive background checks to make sure that I was honest and would not steal. I even had to pass a psychological test for honesty. In this case, the property mgt company should be sued for negligent hiring and supervision.

[@TheBOG3]

Wow! To work in a grocery store? I had a marijuana conviction, applyed to Kroger and filled out the application honestly. When the manager read the application and asked me about it, I told him what happened. He then proceeded to rip up my application in front of me and handed me a new one. He told me to fill it out again but this time to leave the conviction off the application. I was hired. This was in West Bloomfield, Michigan, a known wealthy area of one of the highest income per capita counties in the entire U.S.!!! I guess if you're a good looking 20 year old, who still looks like a teenager then that's all that matters to them.

[@whodoesntluvpapas]

That's incredible. It makes sense (for the jewelry store) I guess. I always wondered how they vet people and deem them trustworthy. I think this method could be applied to several other occupations, too. That being said, I took some "personality" tests while applying to two separate places. I was completely honest on the first one, and didn't get a call back. Then when I realized I was taking the same test again later (the 2 places where owned by the same company, which I didn't know at the time) I totally lied and just answered with what I thought they wanted to hear. Worked like a charm, got the job.

[@ellev11]

I've had stalkers.. it changes one's life in numerous ways and forever.

[@9livesmatter576]

I met a lady who had that happen to her about 30 years ago in Brunswick, GA. It wasn't the maintenance man just someone who broke in and hid in her closet until she came in from work. She almost died and he left her with permanent injuries. 😨

[@janinemccartha1811]

Hi Dr. Grande. Thanks for another exellent analysis of another psychonarc. There is once again no excuse for that behavior taking place, especially to someone who is obviously a decent person. What right does an idiot like that have to think he has the authority to murder an innocent person. Even though she may have given him her number, there's still no excuse. He probaly presented himself as charming like all crazy people do so they can plot out their plan to steal, cheat, & lie. I hope you're having a fantastic evening, peace to you & your family, love, Janine Smiley😀🤗😍😏😘🎵🎶🏡❕❗💯🆒️🌻🌷🌹🥀🚗🚘☕🥧☕🍩🦄🦓🐦🐻🐾🐨🐼🌚🌛🌜🌙🌠

[@browniehendricks3726]

I have never heard of the different types of stalkers. Very helpful . You are such a good teacher. Keep up the good work and take care.

[@anairasoul6139]

Thank you for your insight Dr. Grande. This case in particular really did something to me. I think of her parents and family periodically. This was one of the most tragic cases I’ve seen in my lifetime. May her soul truly Rest In Peace.

[@lisaa.4667]

It is incredibly sad. Miya was 12 days younger than my son. 😥

[@A.Krispy]

years ago there was a very sad murder case with a young 18yr.old girl on her moving day. The movers brought her furniture in and assisted with that; then one of them ended her life right there that first day. I guess the mover wanted sex and poor girl got caught off guard. How her mother cried in the video.

[@esteemedmortal5917]

Why on earth would a management company give maintenance or security the ability to enter someone’s apartment at any time without their knowledge or consent?! If you’re going to have work done, that access needs to be time-limited and with verbal consent from the occupant. Stalkers are scary enough, don’t make it easier!

[@CinemaDoll137]

I also lived in the area and the student complex I lived at would allow us to choose whether we wanted the maintenance man to come while we were away or not. I think it really depends on the complex but, I always considered Arden Villas to be one of the good ones along with my own. So, this was surprising :/.

[@Moodboard39]

If she knew that , or not . She could've stood with her family for awhile until get settle ..but guess not. Probably this wouldn't happened.

[@SoCalRegisteredNurse]

I had a stalker. We were just friends through a Facebook group. He’s 20 years older than me; his children are my age. Also, he was married. He doxxed me and called my home phone, wrote letters to me, I blocked him on my phone but he would call with a different number so I had to keep blocking him. He would leave the most disturbingly deranged and violent VMs. I saved all of that and tried to file a restraining order twice but since he hadn’t physically harmed me (and he claimed to be disabled) they weren’t granted. I changed my phone number and moved and canceled all social media. He harassed my now husband and his family, threatened to go to my mom’s house. You name it, he threatened it. Stories like hers are so tragic. She was barely older than my daughter. Her family must be devastated. It breaks my heart. I wish there was more that could be done to keep women safe.

[@izi.z2384]

Sometimes taking even more drastic measures like moving and laying low - such as you did in this case is required because it's just better to go above and beyond - to be safe rather than sorry. It's really just sad overall - you can't reason with crazy though.

[@mightymouse1005]

There is...its up to women, learn real self defense, get a pistol and good training. Keep a baseball bat. When in home or apt use a chair or another sort of lock thet u can only unlock from inside. It's up to US to protect ourselves

[@sandrafrazier7967]

I moved, twice, and unfortunately, the abusive ex-husband followed.

[@SoCalRegisteredNurse]

@@mightymouse1005 I have two semi auto pistols and a 12 gauge now with a concealed carry permit

[@chelongogan3904]

You shouldn't have led him on... this is partially YOUR FAULT...WHY did you give him your real name plus parents names ??? This was unwise

[@averagejohnson3985]

My girlfriend was living at that complex when it happened. After this went down, everyone was pushing for lower rent. Very funny how coldly everyone used a tragedy to benefit themselves.

[@DottieMinerva]

It’s crazy that they give these maintenance workers unlimited access to apartments. When I was Miya’s age I woke up to find the toilet in my apartment in the tub and no one there. Maintenance came in to repair it while I was asleep, maybe had to go get something, so they left with everything a mess and no note or anything. I was very uncomfortable with them walking by my open bedroom while I slept. I also had to pee and the toilet was in the tub!

[@eadweard.]

With good aim, you could have squatted directly over the soil pipe egress.

[@Dwightstjohn-fo8ki]

"they" should have policy in place: you don't enter without at least three days notice, and I don't like to be in anyone's apt. without my workmate with me. (he can go get the part or tool I need while I clean up). we have three types of "vulnerability" checks in my Canadian province: children, seniors, and vulnerable, in addition to criminal record checks. My parents built an apt. building in LA and DAD was the "maintenance man" for decades (and owned it clear title). Even he was reticent about entering without the entire family being there!!!

[@DottieMinerva]

@@Dwightstjohn-fo8ki unfortunately some places aren’t as careful as they should be with who they employee. There’s been a lot of cases where a worker was going into apartments while people were out and stealing things.

[@majesticgirlgames]

When I lived off-campus in college, they just walked in while I was half-dressed. So scary

[@rdpcl]

Dr. Grande, please follow the case of the Las Vegas journalist who was murdered by the county public administrator, he was arrested just today.

[@heilzelynsky9746]

Democrats silencing the media Putin style

[@mightymouse1005]

That's wild....I'll have to look that up...

[@Dwightstjohn-fo8ki]

@@mightymouse1005 apparently the County Admin. (a lawyer) lost his primary and this journalist has been aroun dVegas for decades and is known for very thorough work. Or was.

[@matts.6904]

Hi Dr. Grande: thank you for all you do: I really enjoy your videos. There's a case in Mississippi right now regarding a young man (by the name of Cory Patterson) who unlawfully commandeered a plane at the airport he worked at (as a lineman), threatened to crash it into the Tupelo Walmart initially, but then kept flying it in a rural area for another 4+ hours before crash landing in a field this past Saturday. Many people initially speculated this to be some kind of bonafide terror attack, but since then it has appeared that it was seemingly due to some kind of a suicidal mental breakdown: as all family, friends, co-workers, and acquaintances who have commented on the case have said he had a clean background: was an upstanding, amiable, loving person, and that this was completely out of character for him. Additionally, police and a few of his family members got ahold of him by cell phone while he was flying and were able to talk him into not carrying out his threat (was reported that his family was the most effective in persuading him). Police then had a private pilot on the phone that was instructing Mr. Patterson on how to land the plane at a nearby runway, but Patterson aborted this attempt shortly before almost landing and continued flying. Around 30 minutes before the end of his flight, and while he was clearly running out of fuel, Patterson managed to post on Facebook that said he loved his family, it wasn't their fault, and that he never actually intended to hurt anyone, ending with "Goodbye." However, not too long after, he miraculously was able to land in a field unharmed and with relatively minor damage to the plane. He was apprehended without incident and is facing charges of grand larceny and making terroristic threats. What has been interesting is that the response from the public has been quite varied: with many people taking on a sympathetic view of Patterson giving prayers and other encouragement, and well wishes for him to get mental help: while many other people condemn him vehemently proclaiming that his actions were so terrorizing that an explanation of a mental breakdown was no excuse in the slightest and that he deserves no sympathy and should get life in prison (or something along those lines/similar sentiments). Other people's perspectives have been a mix of those two responses to one degree or another. For me, what is interesting is here we have someone who was intending to commit suicide in such a public and potentially destructive way but through some miraculous circumstances survived: and now there's a chance to find out what was going through his head: especially regarding the threat to crash the plane into Walmart. It makes me think of the incident in Washington State in August 2018, where Richard Russell (another person with a relatively clean background with the act being out of character) commandeered a passenger jet and flew it around erratically before crashing it into a sparsely populated island, killing him. When things like that happen, it is really unfortunate that no one had a chance to evaluate such a person and find out what is going on in their head and how to help them: but here, that same type of person has survived! so I am very eager to find out what was going on with this individual. Is it possible that he truly never intended to crash it into the Walmart? however it seemed clear that he wanted to commit suicide so if he was feeling that hopeless (plus whatever other dysfunction that was going on in his head) than I could see how maybe he didn't care at that point and was going to do it possibly to take out angst/hurt/rejection he had experienced in life. Or was it just to get attention to shake severe depression/feelings of loneliness/mental numbness associated with his mental illness? And then, one also has to take into account that he could have carried out with his threat even after talking with police/his family but he chose not to- which I think some credence needs to be given (shows that the good in him/rational thought was able to win over his previous destructive mindset and intentions). I wonder what your perspective is on this regarding these factors: the psychology of someone who is suicidal and tries to do it in such a dramatic and public way, the reasons why someone in such a state and who has no history of violence towards others would make an extremely harmful threat, whether such a threat is always fully intended or more a ploy to get perceivably needed attention, and how much of these actions can be attributed to true maliciousness or mental/emotional dysfunction that warrants more leniency. All the best.

[@callarose9432]

Very interesting post! I too, wonder what went on in his head. I also can't help but think that we are all just a bad week away from doing horrible things that we wouldn't otherwise do. It's a scary thought, to say the least.

[@lnc-to4ku]

Such a heartbreaking and terrifying case! Thank you, Dr. Grande, for sharing your wisdom with all of us!

[@estelle9414]

I think your description of the 5 types of stalkers is helpful and good information. Thank you for a thorough treatment of this very disturbing and often misunderstood type of behavior. You do great work, Dr. grande!

[@DottieMinerva]

I loved the video Miya’s family took. Armando was sh!tting his pants while the family called him out. They were not letting up on him til they found Miya. The blanket he took out of the car was Miya’s that her grandma made for her.

[@tgin7100]

"unauthorized modification to her apartment" God love you Dr Grande

[@84Shadows]

But seriously, when I did have an apartment, the painter guy was super creepy, looking through my windows, called me “red” I told my landlord, she did nothing!

[@temposhop8739]

People don't seem to have a lot of empathy for women who live alone. I've witnessed neighbors and hoa meetings where eyes were rolled and paranoia was claimed in reference to a single woman complaining about maintenance men. I've had lawnmowers let themselves up to the gated upper part of my deck and pop up 6 feet away from where i was in my kitchen in my pjs. For no reason. Another time, a landscaper asked me if I live alone and if i work, and if i work from home. I just made a mumbling noise and reported it to my hoa. They ignored me and asked if maybe they had seen tree branches to clean up. No reason to open my gate! Women, regardless of how your landlords may respond, still report it to them and let others in your life know. I'm sorry we all have to deal with this.

[@A.Krispy]

why can’t these freaks just do their job? Why such mf?

[@gazels11]

An "unauthorised modification to her apartment" haha you are a hoot Dr. Grande!

[@84Shadows]

Gosh, I live in my truck on the streets and all these stories about apartments getting broken into scary!

[@mightymouse1005]

Don't wear ear buds when running or walking, you can't hear someone behind you and your distracted. Be very aware of surroundings. Be proactive. Be armed and trained

[@Dwightstjohn-fo8ki]

Be Alert. the world needs more lerts.

[@lindawilson4625]

Pass keys are one of my major concerns about apartments, hotels, etc. You never know what kind of freak has access.

[@leylamoody3177]

That poor girl...😢 Excellent analysis, Dr. Grande. ❤️

[@linisin2083]

Sue the fuck out of that complex

[@Mandooze]

Ppl thought i was nuts for rejecting a compliment from a person that makes me uncomfortable. Like its rude to decline a compliment. Its not. Seems like anything women do is taken personally to these stalker types. I have more stories. Getting killed is a real danger. This dude seems like he felt entitled to her.

[@TheBOG3]

Depends on the compliment.

[@rullmourn1142]

Doesn't sound like the Apt managers did any criminal background check on him. A violent offender should never have been hired to begin with. Hope her family sues the apartment managers/owners.

[@loriloucks-loricanhelp2771]

You can tell how much work and preparation you put into all of your videos. This one was exceptional and very educational. Thank you. So sad for Miya and her family. May she Rest In Peace.

[@julieyoung3315]

You are right on target with those different types of stalkers. I had one and the type he was, he had all the personality disorders you attached to his type

[@andreahaberma4637]

Dr Grande, please consider studying recent cases of women runners who have been killed. What is the psychology of someone who commits such crimes?

[@warmbeergamingdude]

Obsession’s of various kinds.

[@jenesaisquaa]

Omg YES! Chelsea King was jogging when she got murdered. It happened near my high school, the entire school district was mourning 🥺

[@panushjo]

He won't get into the recent one because there are obvious things he won't get into

[@nickyblue4866]

@@panushjo which recent one?

[@panushjo]

@@nickyblue4866 The memphis one.

[@Infomanica20]

this has to be the darkest storie ive heard in a long time

[@dogcat2994]

As usual...the master of articulation and logic, sharing information with the world. Thank you thank you! We love your work in this household!

[@annalisegiovanni7032]

Hey Dr. Grande💞 Thank you for the new video! I very clearly remember watching not only an episode of Dateline on this case & then a documentary about Armando. It's actually Terrifying that he was even allowed to have the job & the free access he was given. However as always, these late night video treats from you are gems🥰

[@annalisegiovanni7032]

@Orien Willis ~good Morning! Yes, this sure was preventable! With the past that that sicko had, he should have never ever been allowed to work on people's homes and especially the fact that he had open access to people's Apartments is literally mortifying. There was a part that always did bother me though and that was the fact that he had her phone number. I always thought to myself well now I wonder if she gave him her phone number because they were friends before or something. But yes I definitely believe the apartment complex has blood on their hands as well. Completely Reckless with who they hire.

[@anne-marieh6128]

Thanks!

[@miraclenichols4332]

What a sad, horrible story for Miya & her family-- no words for this--such a beautiful girl-

[@lucilu239]

I live near her building it was really sad to drive past her complex knowing everything that happened ): RIP MIYA

[@IngoPagels]

Front door should have had a hidden alarm or aditional lock. Can be kinda expensive but very effective.

[@Mainecoon_Izzy]

Many thanks Dr. Grande, I can only imagine it must be difficult sometimes investigating these stories and learning such tragic details with horrific results. You have a very soothing voice, with clarity (& sanity) the reason I love your channel 💯 💜 RIP sweet Miya 🌈🌤🌺🌸🌼💐🌻

[@icturner23]

She was born on the day I handed in my master's thesis, which was also my birthday. It doesn't seem that long ago to me. It's so sad that she lived her whole life in that timeframe.

[@Asia.Persuasia]

Nobody cares about your master thesis. Odd decision to make this situation about yourself on a video regarding a woman being kidnapped, assaulted, and m*rdered...

[@icturner23]

It’s ironic that Dr. Grande’s next video was about Elizabeth II, who was born 50 years and 05 days before me. It’s tragic that Miya had so much shorter añ life than her.

[@Amy-hp9nz]

I've never heard any one sound so thrilled about debt

[@asalane20]

Why are so many men so viciously predatory? Don’t they care they are destroying vibrant and precious lives for their own selfish whims?

[@eadweard.]

No.

[@nohanabil9220]

If they cared they wouldn't really do it, because they would be a functional human being and not acting like an unhinged animal.

[@spazmonkey3815]

There are woman stalkers too but men tend to be more violent than women.

[@Moodboard39]

Sins. Read the Bible . It would enlightened you .

[@TricieJay]

I remember this story. Beautiful young lady. So sad.

[@panushjo]

What if she weren't beautiful?

[@Z28-o4y]

@@panushjo Nobody would care

[@violetmoon6233]

It saddens me that these types of man get away with so much 🥺😔😢😭most of them have a violent history . My heart breaks for all the victims who are failed by the system . Such a haunting case. R.i.p 👸 Miya you had your whole life ahead of you. 😭💔🕯️🕊️😢

[@crabofchaos7881]

I am once again impressed by your sponsor integration. It suits your calm and almost accountant-like persona.

[@cats.addict6457]

"A kanye West" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 The parents worried qui soon after she was killed because she was flying that day to visit them and they were all looking forward to it. I knew this story but having your precious analysis on top of it make it all even more touching! thanks Dr Grande

[@unarmored9973]

I always clear the house every time I return home. I guess that kind of makes me a weirdo, but listening to these sorts of stories makes me feel like the 3 minutes to check all the rooms, closets and under the beds is worth it. Of course, I'm just a dude and not really worth stalking, but there are plenty of other viable reasons an intruder may hide in your home to attack you.

[@glow1815]

Can never be too careful.

[@whodoesntluvpapas]

dudes get stalked. and chances are they are taken even less seriously than when it's a chick. I often do the same thing since all I watch these days is Dr. Todd and Mr. Ballen, haha!

[@riseup6112]

I’m glad the family followed him

[@antonydrossos5719]

ONE THING about the Anti-Stalker strategies I have to disagree with. Taking a "Self-Defense Course" is just a bad placebo that MAKES people feel empowered, but does a poor job of preparing one for a combative situation. I have to insist that one should train in a Martial Art seriously, for about 1 1/2 to 2 years minimum. Regardless of the style or school one chooses, training holistically in a Martial Art will better train the mind and senses on how to be mindful of their surroundings & avoid dangerous situations. Be well.

[@troy3456789]

Decent Brazilian jiu-jitsu lessons and practice possibly have stopped him, but finding a good studio can be difficult and expensive. Also, it is possible that self-defense never occurred to her at all. She couldn't control how things would turn out if the idea of self-defense simply does not occur to her. We do not get to choose any part of our realizations, opinions, certainties or beliefs (zero free will).

[@Shad0wmoses]

yea dude taking a handful of classes so these people can fool themselves into thinking they can do anything. actual sparring and training in legit gyms will be the best way to get a safe experience of actual aggression from a human without the danger. or better yet probably get a gun and practice with it.

[@jhozthron4415]

@@Shad0wmoses Nah a gun would have done nothing, sure if you see it coming you can perhaps use it to defend yourself but she was in her bedroom changing clothes when he jumped out of the closet, literally zero chance for her to do anything regardless of what weapons she might have had.

[@Dwightstjohn-fo8ki]

@@jhozthron4415 "in the moment" you work with what you have, which may be nothing. You're surprised. I'm incredulous with all the American based comments that "if he/she had had a gun and unlimited ammo" all would be just fine. No, you're not "assessing the scene". I was just attacked by a neighbor and happened to have a drill in my hand. He ran his face into the drill, his groin into my knee, and his head kept banging against the drill bit. It didn't end well. But if I hadn't been putting up LED lights with that tool the result might have been that I would be the one in the hospital. His "nut case" rap sheet is 20 years long; he doesn't know boundaries. Or maybe he knows............now that I've arrived.

[@Moodboard39]

She could've stood with her family !! This wouldn't happened . She not aware he works in the building ??? She thinking it's not a big deal

[@bajiadavis3816]

Such a sad story

[@peacefreedom4930]

This is so sad. It’s just heartbreaking.

[@joseignaciorodriguez1207]

God bless you Doctor beautiful analysis and the narration as clear as water.

[@bthomson]

Maybe before a maintenance worker is given a key to all the apartments he should be investigated and bonded! Landlords seem to have little care for the safety of their tenants.

[@cottontails9003]

Good afternoon Dr Grande. Yet again another senseless murder. I'm so pleased the parents worked on the murder too catch the killer. I feel so sorry for the family and loved ones, won't get the justice they deserved because the killer, took the cowards way out and put an end to his life. Thank you Dr Grande. Brilliant analysis. Tragic outcome and informative topic. Once again thank you Dr Grande, you are the best.

[@zenawarrior7442]

Hello friend. Great comment. Just listening to video, then to 🌜🛏. Have a great day tomorrow...😊💛🧡💛🧡💙💚💙💚🌷🌻🌷🌻

[@cottontails9003]

@@zenawarrior7442 Hello my dear friend i will. You have a great sleep and love and hugs too you and your mum from me and the family. 😴😘❤💙💙💙✉🌷🌷🌷🎇

[@LDiamondz]

@@zenawarrior7442 Nighty night, don't let the bed bugs bite, Zena! 😁 Hope to see you tomorrow, when we're both wide awake! ~HUGS to you and your mom~ 🥳🧡❤🤎💜💚💫💥☘☘⚘🌷🌹🌺🌼🌻🛡🏹🪃💃💃

[@cottontails9003]

@@LDiamondz Hello beautiful I have missed you so much. How are you and your daughter. Finally on the same thread😜😍❤💙💚💖✉🌷🌷🌷

[@LDiamondz]

@@cottontails9003 Hey there, lovely one! 🥰 How are you, Noah and the family doing? 👪 Isn't Noah almost 4 months old already? 🤔 Wow! That went quick! ~hugs to you and the fam~ 🥰😍🤩❤💙🧡🌻🌻🌻🌹🌹🌹🥀🥀🥀⚘⚘⚘🌷🌷🌷☘☘☘

[@jamiezebra23]

This happened many years ago so unfortunate

[@brigidspencer5123]

Isn't possible that Armando may also have had FASDE? I have worked with these types of young people and noted their impulsivity, simplistic way of thinking that sometimes leads to funny outcomes when committing crimes. As for stalking I certainly have had a stalker pursue me since we were both Grade 9 classmates. Several years ago I read a true story written by a British professor who had a persistent female stalker try to ruin his career and walk right in front & the side of his house frequently and stare at him through his windows! How does the mind of a stalker work and when does this type of behaviour tend to start in terms of age?

[@annedolan3050]

what is FASDE? I tried Google to no avail.

[@renaminginprogress6903]

Dr. Grande Can you please analyze the Saskachewan Stabbers?

[@rejaneoliveira5019]

This is a very scary and disturbing situation. Thank you for shading light on stalker behavior and personality. I think everyone should watch this video. Stalking can take place in different forms and can happen to anyone. Outstanding analysis of an utterly relevant topic. Thank you, Dr. Grande.❤️

[@llcooljj12]

I’ve been waiting for you to cover this for a while. I live right near where this happened

[@llcooljj12]

I actually have a friend that lived in those apartments

[@dissidentfairy4264]

PDS Debt sounds like post traumatic stress. lol The perfect sponsor for a mental health doctor:-) Miya's story is very tragic and disturbing. I remember reading about it but I didn't know all the details. She didn't stand a chance with someone like that stalking her. It's so sad. I wish you'd do the story of the murder of Imette Guillen and her killer Darryl Littlejohn. Wow! We we were surprised with two stories today:-)

[@ankank2990]

The police really failed. There were too many signs.

[@kitchenskills5427]

The apartment management really failed. Had they fired him and removed his access, it is possible she could still be alive.

[@eadweard.]

Where did you learn to say this?

[@ankank2990]

@@kitchenskills5427 yes… they also failed her. The first step was management. You are correct. The family should sue.

[@Moodboard39]

She should've stay with her family . She didn't take him seriously. A guy like that I would've moved or stay with family ​@@ankank2990

[@anditheeartist]

This is such a sad case that could been handled with greater care by the management company. I use to be a property managers and a lot of owners/ management companies would just hire anyone at certain points. Unfortunately I had to work with ppl who had been on the Sx offender list or ex cons. They would make the same mistakes they once had again. I decided to quit after realizing the company would doing nothing if it saved/ earn money for their business. On my last day I even had to preform a tourniquet due to one of my residents being shot at by a random drug user. Had a mental break downs for up to a year after leaving that job. I was sxulized a lot and even touched without my consent. It's not an easy field to be in. There needs be much more Tennant Protect laws. I always suggest residents have cameras in their apartments.

[@sarahholland2600]

That poor girl. My landlord wants me to cut a spare key for their handyman. I'm not happy. Legally any key should be with the landlord & only given out if a repair is needed, not on the handyman's permanent keychain so he could access my flat whenever. ( Handyman showed me his chain of every key to every property).

[@temposhop8739]

This should not be happening and I hope you have laws protecting your right to not have that key. You can get plug in indoor cameras for around $40 that can help you keep an eye on whether he ever comes in unannounced. I'm sorry, it is not paranoid to acknowledge there is a lack of documentation and many ex criminals in trades.

[@shawnnewell4541]

Thank you for mentioning all the different types of stalkers. I had no idea there were different types. It would have been nice to have known this 30 to 40 years ago when I was a young woman. Does age affect stalker behavior? I mean would a 66 year old woman ever find herself being stalked?

[@panushjo]

Reject a 90 year old guy at Bingo and find out

[@leewagner2945]

@@panushjo 🤣

[@shawnnewell4541]

@Ͳelegram@DRTODDGRANDE Hi Dr. Grande. I think I may have a male friend who falls into a stalker category. He's 58. I would put him in the incompetent boyfriend column. Do I have anything to be worried about?

[@LDiamondz]

Absolutely a 66 year old women can have a stalker. These people are crazy. Nobody is safe. Keep locking your doors!

[@ariesgirl9592]

@@panushjo you made me laugh out loud with that one 🤣

[@catmother4214]

Oh my goodness. That poor child. ☹️☹️☹️☹️☹️☹️☹️☹️☹️☹️. Thank you Dr. Grande for your analysis and descriptions of various types of stalkers.

[@alex_la_fantastica1632]

Dr Grande I enjoy your videos and appreciate how you share your knowledge on these difficult topics. I live in Orlando and vividly remember when this beautiful girl went missing. So painful and scary how she was later was found. Her family will never be the same 😢

[@humanspoder777]

I had the first type of stalker you explained, she was also schizophrenic. It was really scary, I did everything right and luckily it turned out okay. What's incredibly creepy is this was around 6 years ago and every so often I will still catch her trying to weasel her way into my life via the internet with a new account she made for the soul purpose of getting to me, needless to say all my accounts are private now.

[@btetschner]

I have never heard about the types of stalkers before, that was really fascinating. That guy seemed very persistent The murder was so senseless. Very interesting case and very helpful explanation and analysis.

[@halfrutter2226]

So nice to watch your latest video while I’m ready to go to sleep 😴 I’ll listen to some music to undo any distress and sleep soundly. 👍😊

[@akemi137]

I had 2 situations when i was stalked. The first was when i was a teenager in my home town and went for a walk in the park. A strange man kept walking after me and i wasn't sure if he was fallowing me ir not. I decided to stop and face him (from a safe distance of course) and he tried to hide his face. I returned to my walk and noticed he was fallowing me still.. so kept walking through streets were i could find lots of people and searched for a policeman. Fortunately i found one and told him what was happening and pointed directly to the stalker, and the man runned away. They couldn't get him but Police was positive he wasn't familiar and wasn't from my town. The second situation was nasty. I was already an adult and was working. I met a stranger in the internet (i usually only would chat with people from other countries because i like to learn about different cultures). This time i was fooled and the guy was from my country and i already had given more details about my life than i should: he knew my first and last name and my job. That was enough for him to find me, and believe me he had to phone to every single similar institution in my country to locate me, but he did it. How i found out that he located me? He went to my workplace trying to pass as an old friend from university. Fortunately that day i was not at work and my colegue got suspicious. He told me the man was much older than me so he couldn't believe he knew me from university. I told my colegue what happened and we alerted security so the man couldn't enter our building and i had a special place to park my car in ways i wasn't in danger. But the man didn't gave up. He found my personal phone number and sent messages all the time (i didn't answer) and he kept sending flowers to my workplace... and i got so stressed that my personal life went down the hole. My partner wasn't understanding and end up leaving me and even blaming me. I was alone and in fear and authorities couldn't acuse the stalker of nothing wrong they said. I had to change job, city, contacts and made a complain to PJ (it's like your FBI). I sent them an e-mail explaining what was happening to me and told them if i ever go missing you must look after this guy. I think i gained safety changing everything in my life but i know that if he wanted he could locate me again because in my country, there's not even 2000 persons with the same job i have.. 10 years passed and fortunately never heard from him. I don't know if PJ did something about it or not. But i still feel always suspicious about everybody. I hate stalkers from my guts.

[@fidatoresource5868]

I hate to say this, but property management is one of those fields where so much goes wrong. I know people who have had guns and knives pulled on them, and I know employees who have characteristics consistent with personality disorders. They continue to work at the properties where they are assigned, no matter if they are mediocre and make life hell for the people around them - simply because the company too often feels that it’s too hard to replace them. This is especially true for maintenance. Thank you for covering this sad story. It’s horrible that this young woman lost her life. I wonder if the property management made any policy changes after this? Sadly, I doubt it.

[@Dwightstjohn-fo8ki]

Right now I'm dealing with just that: a volunteer Board of otherwise wise men and women who feel trapped with the guy they've had for 20 years. I point out: you can make a decision NOW under some control, or wait for something to happen and you have ZERO CONTROL. Your choice.

[@glamazini]

RIP Miya 🇻🇮💔

[@gossamer9966]

That chilling last sentence of analysis is so true and nauseating, that stalkers hold all the power in their terrorizing behavior and rarely get consequences. Mia was sooo beautiful 🥺 I've always thought if ever had a girl I'd name her Mia, and this poor angel was young enough to have been my own. I can't imagine her mother's anguish and am sending love and prayers to her family. There are some wounds that time never heals. 💙

[@SprinkledFox]

This is why I abhore apartment living. It terrifies me that some stranger has complete access to my "home". It's so invasive

[@dogtrainer4645]

Love your consistent uploads/content, Dr. Grande! 🙌👏🏻💓

[@julieyoung3315]

Good Day, Dr. Grande.

[@Blake28267]

man your voice reminds me of bob ross soothing and calm.

[@dlc5166]

Stalking is a subject everyone should be aware of so thank you for posting your analysis. I lost a work friend to spousal stalking at the end of the 90s. It is difficult to prove and stop stalking incidents; however, being (somewhat) prepared can make all of us safer. Installing monitoring devices in our homes and apartments assists in reporting someone (such as maintenance personnel in this case) coming in/out of our living quarters while we are away and offers assurance no one has entered and/or is hiding/waiting for our return since we're able to monitor any activity while away. Simple tools such as a high lumens, mini flashlights (200 lumens) and a pen offer some defense if needed, that is, the flashlight can temporarily blind an attacker and a pen (God forbid) can be used to strike if attacked. Unfortunately, we do live in a world where we are forced to learn and take protective measures. After my work friend was shot in the parking lot of our workplace, advisors came in and told us what "could have been done" although she had reached out to the courts over and over again without getting any real help. It's easy to say what one should have done after the fact and then it's too late.

[@Moodboard39]

If America take it seriously. This won't happen. To liberal , soft laws , people don't protest .!! But protest something else ! U find the root of the problem

[@nVolodimer]

Dr. Grande, That could be interesting to hear your analysis about Shoko Asahara, the Japanese guru who planned the Tokyo sarin gas attack in 1995. Thank you for your videos.

[@Iuxinterior]

her family is incredible for being so diligent in her case, i know they must feel so guilty for what happened to her but if any of them happen to see this you did not let this happen you did everything for that girl that you could and it was enough

[@presseddepressed7478]

I follow her father on ig and he does feel guilty. After her passing, he wrote in one of his posts “did I do something wrong?” And it was so sad to read. Truly heartbreaking

[@Moodboard39]

Somewat . They could've told her to stay with them Or she could've stood with them...

[@TommyBlackTB]

Great vid Todd

[@sandrafrazier7967]

Dr. Grande, I would love to have you analyze my ex-husband, who has been diagnosed with several mental illnesses, who will not let go after 43 years.

[@zenawarrior7442]

Another sad case, great analysis. Thanks Dr G😊💛💛

[@cottontails9003]

Thank you for the compliment I don't get many. Left a message for you 😢😜❤❤💙💙🌷🌷🌷🎆

[@zenawarrior7442]

@@cottontails9003 Oh sorry dear. More people should🤨. I found you, replied. Sending a 😊🌄💚💚💙💙💜💜

[@greatjob_barbara]

I was watching 2 years ago Dr. Grande when 4 minutes ago Dr Grande popped up

[@kathryntitus9647]

The people who hired the criminal should be held liable. That's what background checks are for.

[@user-fi6dc8dw9f]

I always change the door locks in an apt or use a buddy bar once inside bc anyone on a property could get access to keys. After this story, changing locks is best. Only once moved out give the new key to landlord

[@myusernamerocks3]

The apartment complex should be sued for hiring violent sex offenders and giving them access to the apartments.

[@nmartin5551]

A friend of mine had sent up a discrete camera in his apartment. He wasn’t suspicious of anything. He’d just gotten one as a prize and set it up. It picked up the maintenance guy coming in and going through his desk, and taking pics of things, like his social security card.

[@jad1079]

This is such a tragic story. Would a restraining order have helped? She seemed to have feared for her safety, because she had extra locks on her windows. No way he should've had keys to tenants' apartments.

[@TheMochaangel]

Thank you very much… I appreciate you Dr.

[@elizabethwarman9028]

I find this interesting, why would the own of the apartment complex give the maintenance man the master keys. I own rental properties, and I keep the master keys. I only give my handyman a key when maintenance needs to be done on one of my properties. This is very sad.

[@lancel71]

How someone could take a life just blows my mind!

[@edwardinzerillo1017]

Hi, Dr. Grande. Can you please cover the case of Robert Raymond Cook, the last man to be hanged in the Canadian province of Alberta, specifically answering the question of whether or not he was guilty?

[@Jeanninecomeau]

I enjoyed your thoughts on this case. I was/am being stalked for almost 4 years. I think it's finally over because he moved back to England. At least I feel safer now, but it's also a financial burden on the victim as well. I have bought everything from security cameras, to mase, to stun guns, even camouflaged knives.

[@eadweard.]

What's a camouflaged knife?

[@chelongogan3904]

Maybe she is over reacting....some women have delusions and like to " feel important ".... not everything is "stalking"

[@trentbrownstone1481]

Quit talking about me

[@Jeanninecomeau]

@@eadweard. It looks just like a pen.

[@Jeanninecomeau]

@@chelongogan3904 You're sick if you think people are saying they are being stalked to be "important".

[@elizabethwarman9028]

I really should watch the whole video. I was stalked years ago, actually stalking occurred three times. Onetime, a guy whom I have dated for three years. I broke up with him. He told me " God told me, we were to be together, to be married." I told him "God told me to run and get away from you." This man would come to my place of work. The police had to be called. He would park outside my parents home ( I lived at home). He would come to the door and ask to see me. He would call me, follow me. Finally, I called the police, they asked if there was a weapon on the property?. I said yes. They told me to show the man the weapon, threaten him about what would happen if he ever came back. Then the officer told be to find another church to go to. Sure enough the man came back and I did what the officer said . My sister and I left the First Baptist church of Downey and went to a Baptist church in Belmount Shores. Never heard or saw this man again. Truly a frightening experience.

[@DreamingInTechnicolor]

I’m really happy you were able to leave that situation, and I pray that you remain safe. I just wanted to offer a little advice if it’s OK. I think you should edit your comment and not mention the name of the church as you attend or currently go to. that has identifiable information that makes it easier to locate you; especially if you’re using a real name. Which I suggest you edit down to maybe your first name last initial or first initial last name. There’s a lot of individuals on the Internet that don’t mean well.

[@chelongogan3904]

@@DreamingInTechnicolor if he was such a bad guy...why did she date and sleep with him for 3 years ??? It takes 2 to tango...

[@A.Krispy]

@@DreamingInTechnicolor yes she should edit her comment; I think she may be revealing too much personal info.