I'm Getting A Divorce So Let Me Vent & Come Shop With Me At Target lol

[@Illuminate-to-heal]

Mai is so dedicated to decluttering, she decluttered her ex😂 Seriously though, I admire how you are handling all of this. My parents split right before I started high school, and I have so much respect for single parents. It’s hard work. I wish my parents asked me and my brothers what we wanted when it came to the schedule. My advice would be to ask your sons what they want when it comes to holidays and the schedule (as long as they are old enough to understand the situation). I personally felt far more comfortable at my mom’s (the step-mom hated me at my dad’s) and I wish my dad would have let me go to my mom’s more instead of forcing me to be at his home. It built a lot of resentment and was too confining.

[@Emmannie]

FWIW I've always admired how you don't sell your kids or (ex-)husband, and I now admire how you still won't sell them or your divorce details. Your channel provides a lot of value without depending on those who can't consent to have their privacy broadcast, and it's a reason I'm a fan. May the best happen to you all.

[@WeilleK]

my mom would say "when you discover you're riding a dead horse, the best course of action is to dismount."

[@MissGreenMadness]

I've heard the advice before that its good to refer to your ex as "my kids dad" or "their dad" when talking to other people because it helps train your mind to be looking at the situation from that perspective. Not focusing on the failed relationship but rather what his rule still is.

[@blueseptember2174]

It does give people the idea you're still together tho and you usually have to clarify your not together to new people. So ex makes it easier sometimes.

[@abbyp5211]

Couples therapist here! Sometimes going to couples therapy highlights what is going wrong and that it isn’t fixable for whatever reason which I don’t think couples go in expecting. I try to caution couples about how the outcome of couples therapy might not be what they initially intended 😬

[@melaniehill5468]

Best thing my parents ever did was divorce when i was a kid. My parents get along so well being divorced they live across the street from eachother haha. We had two happy households to call home and now at 30 I have the best relationship with both my mom and dad. Some people are just meant to be great co-parents. ❤️

[@MaiZimmy]

Love to hear this!!! thanks for sharing :)

[@SarahHam33]

As a child of divorce I think how you’re handling this so far and the way you speak about your ex is really positive. Remembering that your kids happiness is number one and being civil to each other makes the whole situation better. Also the friendly reminder, no child ever wants to see/hear you disparage the other parent so hold those feelings back in front of them. If possible. ❤

[@benz1920]

No do not call your self a baby momma. Just use EX. You were married.

[@MagpieMalone]

Agree. Baby mama sounds trashy imo.

[@bernadetteosias3992]

As a kid who came from a household where I WISHED my parents would divorce- my parents relationship was so TOXIC! & it negatively affected me so much even until now (they’re still together) You’re 100% right. No point in living in a household where nobody’s happy. ☹️

[@MaiZimmy]

So Sorry you had to go through that :( hope you're able to find a way to heal now 💕

[@samanthadurrant4904]

Same. My parents should have separated long before they actually did. “For the kids” is moot when it’s a negative affect.

[@MollysMindofficial7]

Love this perspective.

[@bernadetteosias3992]

@@MaiZimmy definitely still healing! I had a lot of deep rooted trauma show up in my 20’s literally thinking “I’m fine & healed now” got married in my early 20’s & I find myself almost repeating whatever I saw in my parents relationship. I’m luckily very self aware, went though therapy & I am a spiritual person (I consider myself a Christian) and through a combo of relationship with Jesus, therapy & generally working to be better! ✨💕 wish you all the best 🥰

[@Higginsadventurepack]

Same here! My parents are still together even though they should be divorced. I even talk about my parents like they are divorced. Do what will make everyone happy.

[@allisonroberts6610]

As someone who did marry the boy she has been with since she was 14 I can say its not been easy. People have this misconception that we must have the perfect relationship since we have been together forever but its been hard. Neither of us are the same people we were 20 years ago and we have changed together and separately over the years. In the end I would absolutely do it again but I won't pretend its been smooth sailing the whole time.

[@christinaoshaughnessy1974]

I'm in this situation now. Going on 24 years. He was 18 and I was 19. We are now 41 & 42 😢

[@Zzz_rose]

Wait just curious are you guys still together or no?

[@allisonroberts6610]

@Bianca-wx7zb yes 22 years now.

[@blueseptember2174]

​@christinaoshaughnessy1974 oh no, why the tear?

[@nikinac3546]

Good for you having a positive outlook on a shitty time in your life that will pass. Love that you keep your kids and private information private not a lot of KZbinrs do and you have my respect for doing that.

[@sarahjean4029]

I’m technically an adult child of divorce as my parents didn’t divorce until I was 20. But it was so traumatic the way the pitted us against each other, still do 10 years later. I don’t care that they aren’t together, I just don’t want to be in the middle of their drama anymore. You’ve been so intentional of being positive about your ex and I really respect you for it. I find you talking about your journey so helpful. To be real about the good and the bad of it all. Keep the DIL videos coming 😊

[@jaime7932]

Mai you are so friggen awesome! I am a child who grew up with parents who divorced very amicably. So much so that my dad who moved out, still came over for major holidays (Christmas and thanksgiving) and even would go out for friend dates with my mom. As I grew older my mom told me my dad wasn't a good husband (won't share the details but it was pretty bad) and I'm so thankful she put up with some of her resentment just so that we got to have our dad at all the holidays and we weren't being forced to "pick which parent" to spend with. Seriously would love to see you include some videos what you do when your kid free! I mean this is the first time you've been single in 17 years! 😍🥰😃

[@cinthiaham1517]

You look amazing! ❤ I deeply respect your take on keeping things private, and how you are trying to keep a positive attitude, you are such a sweet woman, wishing you the very best ❤️

[@MaiZimmy]

Thank you so much!!

[@lisaschreiber2893]

😢 I’m sorry for your troubles. I hope your life is filled with incredible happiness in the future.

[@MaiZimmy]

Thank you

[@BeautifulDisaster2121]

I love watching you. I’m currently in a psychology class and we got to a chapter where my professor said in this stage of life (the stage were both in) is when most couples either grow together or grow apart. ❤

[@emilyward6896]

My mum and dad divorced when I was about 7. Best thing they ever did. They are both incredibly happy in new relationships and it meant I have 4 parents who all get a long very well. We have all been able to enjoy the same gatherings and milestone events. Couldn't be more grateful.

[@nikkismith5228]

Girl I’m pregnant with our first and feeling like divorce is inevitable. I’m sure EVERY separation feels like it’s happening at the most inconvenient time possible, but damn this really sucks. ❤

[@misschanandlerbong92]

I broke up with my sons dad when i was 6 months pregnant. We hadn’t been together long and we didn’t get married but it was still hard and a lot of high emotions. It really sucked but after years of quietly fighting mostly because of his ex (gf/wife he got after us) since shes been gone for this past year we get along great. She caused a lot of extra drama and that relationship really humbled him and now hes nice to me. My son is 7 now and all he knows is two homes and we talk up how lucky he is he gets two bedrooms two families two birthdays two Christmas’ and two happy parents. My son only knows this as normal and it doesn’t feel like a broken home because we co parent so healthy. If you are seeing the red flags now run and run fast. The big question i asked myself was “if i wasn’t pregnant would i stay?” And the answer was a huge hell no so i left it wasn’t worth the toxic environment i was in. Find family or friends to help you so you have support but don’t lie down and try and make it work if you arnt happy 💕

[@TheSunBringsJoy]

Did you end up getting a divorce or was it just your pregnancy hormones

[@nikkismith5228]

@@TheSunBringsJoy not just hormones but unable to leave

[@ashleymaldonado8381]

Let me just say you look AMAZING! You can easily see the difference on your face, in the way you’re actually taking care of yourself, etc. You are literally glowing. I’m sure it’s hard to read that but I really mean it. You deserve to be happy and so does your ex and your children. And let me also say as a kid from divorced parents, they are better off growing up with divorced parents who are happy and thriving. They will have happy childhoods filled with love. They won’t understand it now but you are right, in 20 years they will thank you. I’m so sorry, this is so difficult ❤ And I also wanted to say, if I had married my 15 year old bf I dunno wtf it would be like. Sure, it works for some people but that is not the norm. You got this, mama!

[@NrsgGal720]

We love a strong Independent queen! My parents separated later in life (when my siblings and I were already adults) and EVERYONE was so much happier after the fact...wish my mom had the strength to have done it sooner. You are making the best choice for you and your family. Keep the videos coming, we will continue to support you! You got this Mama!

[@petravyoralova4152]

I don't understand why a man would divorce a woman like you - very beautiful, fun and pleasant to be around, who cares so lovingly for family and household. I don't think he can find any better! But I really cannot relate to these divorce things (fornunately never happened in my family). I just want to tell you that you are wonderful woman and you deserve a man who will value that.

[@lish8591]

With you being happier outside of the marriage, you have the ability and time to work on yourself to be the best mom when get your boys.

[@jessicapacella2937]

My parents didn't divorce until I was 30 and it was 17 years overdue. Thank you for doing the thinking and doing the right think for your family unit and especially the right thing for your kids

[@squeegeeb7370]

This video format of questions with errands is brilliant! I love the vlog feel. I'll hang with you doing anything but loving the food journey ❤️Keep it up Mama!

[@Vick77777]

SOOOOO SORRY your grandparents went through such a tragedy. Happy they have survived and thrived.

[@danixoxo8637]

Nope not spending $60 on jeans with holes. Holes come with wear I need my knees and jeans to cover all of my legs.

[@kitw76]

Glad you are able to get along with your ex. Wow you were together for a long time. I did not marry my high school sweetheart and now looking back glad I did not. I met my hubby when I was 32 and we married 1.5 year later. We definitely went through stuff previously so when we met we both were clear on what we wanted in a relationship and life. Now married for 11 years! I hope 2023 will be a great year for you! Glad you are in a divorce support group!

[@beccataylor4693]

Thank you for continuing to share your life!! I think you’re giving your boys something amazing by giving them a happy mama! 💜

[@caymanraemsch1881]

My heart hurts for you Mai but I'm so proud of you for doing what's going to be best for you and your kids long term, and I admire your strength so much!

[@taras3379]

really respect and appreciate you being open and honest about your divorce!! feels like there is a stigma or shame around it when there SHOULD NOT be especially given how common it is these days. and because of how it is the best decision for you & your kids. i grew up in a household with parents with a TOXIC relationship and it was awful. good for you for making the tough decision that will be the best for them in the end.

[@sinaain]

It’s so important to remember things like the Japanese internment camps so I think speaking about it on a non history channel is fantastic so that not only people who specifically are searching for it hear about it. If you feel up to it, maybe you could share a bit more about it, maybe with your mother if she would like to partake or showing some mementos of your grandparents? Though it is of course also understandable if you prefer not to.

[@Kringeladida]

In my experience a good therapist helps a lot because he/she asks you the right questions so that you can understand your own feelings/reactions better and see the situation from an outside perspective. Good friends are awesome but they can only help to a certain extent.

[@cantocant2346]

It's so much better to have happy parents! You are going to thrive once you get through this painful patch. So happy to see you and sending you a thousand hugs!! 💘💝💖💓💞

[@a.blanco7680]

I wish people who are in toxic relationships/marriages see this & see HOW WONDERFUL LIFE IS AFTER DIVORCE!!! Some people are just stuck or feel scared to move on..its beautiful guys!! If youre happy, your kids are happy!!! Congratulations!! There will be bumps when the road when the kids start asking & feeling some type of way about their New life but my sugestión is be positive & honest!

[@kcmnky]

You are 💯right! My parents divorced when we were all adults in our 30’s and it was so traumatic. No filter bc we were adults so they involved all of us. I know that me and my sisters and my mom all wished it happened much earlier. We would’ve had a very different upbringing and everyone would’ve probably been happier. The high school sweetheart things is pretty spot on. I don’t know any that survived from my high school😬. Love your videos and love shopping and getting some cleaning motivation from you!💜

[@LejlaCikotic]

You are handling this awesome! You’re a strong and powerful woman ❤ I am married and we chose not to have kids but I am very thankful that my husband is not my high school sweetheart lol. That works for some relationships but I’m just glad that I met my spouse when I was in my late 20s.

[@melissapowers4780]

Therapy is soooooooo worth it. Do it do it do it! You can also see an intern type therapist and they are less expensive. Also if you have insurance usually therapy is covered. I’m Canadian so I know it’s different but mine is covered at 80% through work.

[@leighannestarks5787]

LOVE when I get a notification that you have posted. ❤️ I love your great attitude and from a divorced person I can tell you you will have your down days. Go for a walk and cry if you need to. I felt much better and I was better to my 3 as well. Take care of yourself!!

[@Wave2680]

Sending you love and hugs and you have a community of women who care about you!

[@kathywalker997]

Mai, I think I can say that all us are totally behind you and totally supportive of you❤. You are one of the most funniest, beautiful, intelligent woman and that is why I love watching you. Having the kids 50% of the time I get it that’s gonna be hard we are all here for you. this is a new chapter of your life. It’s gonna be tough sometimes, but not all the time. NEW chapter of my life here I come you can do this girl!

[@kamiifae]

Thanks for the retail therapy! Saves me some money living my life through you. Also can you do a quick chat about your fitness routine. I would like to see a realistic way of working out for busy moms

[@Katiedora122]

The healthiest adult relationship I saw as a kid was between my mom and dad, even though they split up when I was a baby. Like I had no memory of them together, but I only had good experiences of us being a unit when we were all together. That said, my mom later married and had my younger half sister, and for a variety of reasons decided to stay in that relationship "for the kids" even though it was a toxic situation that was actively causing pain for everyone involved. It was a pretty extreme comparison, but I think it's better for kids to see parents working together and cooperating, even if it means being apart from each other. I think the happier you and your ex-husband are, the better it will be for your kids and I am sure they will grow up and be grateful for you guys prioritizing happiness over forcing something that doesn't work.

[@patkern185]

I'm so impressed by the way you're handling this major change in your life. The bad and sad days will, hopefully, be few and far between if you stay positive and maintain a good relationship with your ex. Your boys love you both and it would hurt them to hear anyone badmouth either of you. I hope you can find affordable counseling options. You are an amazing woman and I wish you every good thing in life. Much love! XXOO ❤️

[@celinachats]

I was in a relationship from 17 to 25 and I am beyond thankful we never lasted. I am now married to the best man at 39 and we have a beautiful baby boy:)

[@estephanina]

Girl, you look radiant! Not that you didn't before but you look refreshed. Turning over a new leaf never looked so joyous. :) I'm glad you're having more good days than bad and are being proactive in thebdirection of your life. Cheers!

[@pastelsunny758]

Now you learned and can finally go out and form a healthy relationship with new people and you even got a mini family from him. You’re killing it!

[@leslieg6942]

We want to know why you’re divorcing 😭 no details needed just a couple simple words. It just seemed everything was going good! You had just gone on vacay, now you’re divorcing 😭😭😭 anyway, i found your channel months ago and i must say it’s the only channel i can stand watching declutter videos 😂, I literally go through your page to look for a video I haven’t yet watched 😅 Edit: i kept watching the video, my question has been answered 😂 and may i say I married my boyfriend that i met when i was 16 im 23 now😭😂😂😂😂

[@blueseptember2174]

In my experience, he usually entertaining other ladies or addictions. Read between the lines 😢

[@debbiemize2269]

I so admire you for keeping your private life private. So many today put everything that happens to them on social media. Prayers 🙏 and love ♥️ coming your way.

[@CassidyParkerKnight]

I’m glad you’re doing well, but I hope that you’re not using the “other people have it worse” to invalidate what you’re going through. Other people have it worse than you AND what you’re going through is sad and hard and you’re allowed to be sad about it and complain about it. Telling yourself you shouldn’t complain because other people have it worse can make it even harder on yourself. I haven’t been through this, but I have done therapy and it’s really the best thing I’ve ever done, I hope you’re able to find an affordable option.

[@lind1107]

I'm so happy you seem to be doing so well! I got divorced when my daughter was 4 (now 12) and it was the best decision I ever made. We just are better friends than a couple. We have a very amicable relationship with a 50/50 custody split and it has been great. I ended up meeting an amazing guy pretty quickly who also is divorced with 50/50 split custody so we always have a week together and then a week with our kids doing our own thing. Keep doing you and being amazing, its so empowering having full control over your life.

[@yesiperez5548]

You are only human and grief is a part of divorce. I think we also grief the time that we gave something that ultimately didn’t work out. But as you stated he gave you those 3 beautiful kids and I’m sure there was a lot of love there at one point. So whatever the reason may be, just know that you did what was best for YOU and that’s all that matters. Can’t wait to see what the future holds for you! ❤

[@gloriabatista8619]

I stayed married because I thought that was best for my kids, but it was not, my kids now in there late twenties still hold me accountable for giving them so much sad drama throughout their lives.

[@laurawilliams1991]

I’m 57 and on my third marriage. Never had kids. I’ve found the key to a good marriage is separate bathrooms and separate bedrooms. It’s worked out beautifully so far.

[@juliabrooks6556]

marriage advice for someone who's been married 3 times! hilarious you have issues

[@laurawilliams1991]

@@juliabrooks6556 Ms. Brooks, no issues here. Life is good. I’m grateful for every blessed day. Hope you have a wonderful day.

[@shannonmccann3814]

One way to look at the time the boys aren't with you is it gives you time to reconnect with your self because their more to you than being a mother. Also you know their in good hands with someone who loves them as much as you do. Being with someone as long as you were sometimes we lose a bit of ourselves in the relationship and now the time to get to know yourself again and what you want in life in the next 5yrs or so no matter how cheesy it sounds.

[@anad5238]

Woah amazing video. Was patiently waiting for a Q&A. Lots of love from Canada🥰

[@SammieOranges]

Two things I've seen be positive on divorced families is 1) don't bad mouth them in front of kids and 2) help them celebrate their other parent on bdays, holidays etc.

[@latmcb9863]

You are so smart to realize that everyone will be happier if you and your husband divorce. I was the child of a very unhappy household and I promise you that you are doing the right thing. You're doing great - hang in there!!!

[@leahbrigeman9252]

My parents are divorced and I have an awesome relationship with them (I'm 20 now and they divorced when I was 8) they weren't perfect but it was better for me that they did. As far as holidays went we just sort of had 2 of both. For example I always spent Christmas Eve and morning with my mother and either Christmas evening or the day after with my dad side. I'm not sure how far your family is away from each other but having "2" Christmases wasn't a bad thing. Maybe when your kids get older they can be a part of the discussion too, I know it will be difficult at first but when they start having opinions about that sort of thing maybe it'll make even more special for you and baby daddy lol. Each having your own special traditions y'know 💖💖

[@debbiejester751]

Best wishes for you and your boys and ex., things will works out, YOU seem like an awesome lady. Glad you are keeping the details private.

[@monisharmuk]

Omggg you are in DFW! Gurl a meet and greet would be so cool!

[@daniellep6807]

So I don’t have experience with divorce but just a encouraging thought about holidays…..the holiday isn’t the date it falls on but when you are together with your boys. I had hard holidays during and after college when my sisters got married and started doing every other holiday every other year with our family. It was just my parents and me for many which felt very sad/lonely. I learned to enjoy the actual day if alone and enjoy extra when we were together. I think this all helped me last year with my boys when we last minute celebrated Christmas on Xmas eve bc we knew my husband would be plowing bc of a storm on Xmas day. You’re handling it all well! Keep that smile on your face😁

[@lucyroberts2800]

I’m sure you thought long and hard before you ended things . No one is able to live in your shoes and know how your feeling. Only you are able to know what’s best for you and your family . Sending love x

[@mollyrandolph1345]

Prayers hun. You are absolutely gorgeous! You go girl! You are going to be fine. His loss!

[@LovesOfJuneBug]

I’m a clinical social worker (now a SAHM) and I highly recommend searching for an MSW associate or MFT trainee for therapy.

[@chisquared100]

23:59 divorce dials out soul contracts. You’re a champion. You are light and joy. Handwrite a list of wants and needs. Sincerely, an expert

[@alysha808]

I've been following you for years and been behind on videos. Sending you love ❤️

[@virginiakingsford2232]

I know I’m really late to the party but I’ll tell you from a kid whose parents got divorced I am so glad they did. When my mom told me they were getting divorced I was so happy I almost cried. They were yelling at each all the times, meals were contentious and all I ever did was hide in my room. When they divorced there was quiet. The biggest thing I want to say is don’t talk crap about your ex. I hated when my parents did that. Both of my parents had flaws that I saw. I didn’t need to hear it all the time.

[@tinaroberts135]

Loved watching! I love that you answered questions for someone noisy such as myself. You seem happier.

[@LovesOfJuneBug]

Cheers to healing ❤️‍🩹 that heart and hopefully having some flirtatious fun as a grown ass woman in your 30s, Mai! I know it probably feels like a long way off, but if he was your first and only, there’s a whole life ahead of you, girl!

[@ERSwanger]

Girl that home finds aisle is called the aisle of shame and we all love it and are here for it. Lol

[@GeoffrytheButler]

My aunt and uncle have been together since elementary school. I won't say they have the happiest marriage, but they're still together. But I KNEW I wouldn't want that for myself. And I agree, it's not right for everyone. You two have been together for a very, very long time. You know what's best for your relationship and your family. Best of luck to you, and also I'm so getting those boots from Target!!!

[@jeanlee9569]

Been there at age 36 and I strongly recommend you do you and be happy w your decisions. Try to eliminate stress as I got some wrinkles doing that. I learned a lot about myself and now I’m happily married for 18 yrs. You can do it, hang in there!❤

[@lauramatsuyama9742]

in today's society, that is all about "me", so it's really great to hear that you both are trying to make a real effort for sanity and work together for your children. They need both of you regardless of the reasons for the divorce. They will Thank you one day for your strength and boldness in being the mother that they needed to be all those years. Hang in there and keep loving yourself. In order to be there for others you have to be there for yourself. Blessings

[@backpain4ever505]

16 years together and divorced in 2015. I have never been happier. We have 50/50 and not gonna lie, sending them babydaddy was excruciating for a long time. My kids were 5 and 3 and he was overexposing them to another women immediately. The divorce was very very stressful and contentious. I had to learn to gray rock and treat the relationship as a business deal because that is what divorce is. Now, we are much friendlier with each other, co-parenting is going well, he is remarried with 3 more girls, and I am still very happily single.

[@kellypruitt2362]

I love your channel so much and always look forward to a new video. Sometimes people just aren’t meant to be and that’s ok. ❤

[@sspiker]

5 kids with my ex... now my kids are about 17 years plus... all believe it was for the best and are happy that I am happier. Your kids will understand and anyone else doesn't matter. Be happy, wishing you a healthy start to a new life.

[@shortypShortyp]

Hi Mai! I’m sorry you are going through this but glad you were strong enough to make the decision to be happy! Hope the rest of the process goes well (as much as possible) and it stay amicable! Take good care!

[@melissapowers4780]

My parents divorced when I was 14 and while it was sad it was for the best. They both weren’t happy and while they didn’t fight, the tension in the house was palpable. I’m so happy they didn’t stay together for us. Hugs xo

[@kellygurnee31]

I just fina lized my divorce last year. It was a 2 year process. We have 50/50 custody. We were married for 13.5 years and together for 15. I also have 3 boys!!! 💙💙💙my boys are 14, 11 and 8. I’m glad you’re happier now!

[@mrsi82]

Thanks you for sharing with us. It's a tough time but you seem to have such a positive attitude. Wishing you the best of luck x

[@Vick77777]

Hi Mai. THANKS SOOOO much for sharing all of this with us. Means A LOT to me. Love & hugs. God bless. All the very best.

[@cjordan919]

lol @ being depressed rather than paying these high therapy prices. sending love and encouragement. you're doing the thing!

[@jodischoolcraft9188]

My ex divorced me behind my back after 22 1/2 years… He gave me the gift of my life in the worst possible way ! ! Then the nut job kidnapped my cat for ransom… Yes I paid… Yes I have the canceled check as proof

[@lunagabriella213]

I haven't been married, but I had an ex who ransomed my car. I went in and held his cat till he gave me the car keys 🤣🤣❤️ I love cats!

[@TheModernJuggle]

Choosing happiness is so important!❤❤ The boots and dress looked soo good on you!! 🔥 🔥

[@jennyeddins7809]

I know you can't go into detail, but I've always wondered this about couples with children that split up, (and I don't mean this in any kind of a rude way at all), but if you couldn't get along as a married couple, how are you able to get along separated? Why not apply that same effort while still together? What makes it different/ easier to get along as friends vs husband and wife?

[@michelesusanne1]

Agree

[@lunagabriella213]

One of my exes and I were great as friends after the break up. No kids. Sometimes it's just how you go about life. For me it was partially that and partially the sex life. I'm not about being forced to party and do things sexually I don't like. TMI lol 😂

[@jennyeddins7809]

@@lunagabriella213 I guess it makes sense if you fall out of love with them, or was never truly in love in the first place. Then I could see myself just liking them as a friend. But with kids involved....maybe that wasn't ever an issue, but if it is, it seems like you still would have those issues, now you just have no leverage cause you're not together.

[@michelesusanne1]

Without knowing the details, it is difficult to know who initiated the divorce and perhaps one was was more willing to work through this difficult season than the other spouse. I am a little concerned it seems like Mai is deflecting her pain and minimizing the impact on her and the children. Her kids are so young, I doubt they will remember being an intact family, they will spend most of their life shuffling back and forth to different homes. I really do hope she gets counseling and doesn't jump into a new relationship, It's way to soon to be over a separation/ divorce and act this comfortable talking about it.

[@jennyeddins7809]

@@michelesusanne1 well it's funny because she said they've been married 17 years and my husband and I have also been married 17 years, but we got together when we were 21, not 15. Still young though. She made it sound like this was a long time coming, so that could explain her acceptance of it this soon. She could also be enjoying the time to herself and the less workload that's on her shoulders. If they can continue to get along, hopefully they can provide a better life for their kids than they would have been able to if they were together and not happy all the time.

[@rosevee2689]

Since you own your home, do you have future plans of renovating since you have only your stuff and the kiddos? Have you thought of renovating their rooms to be themed or anything? I love your videos so I watch them first, always. I own a home now and we have painted each room so far with its own theme. It just had me wondering because if you do, I'd love to watch the videos of the process!

[@gloriabatista8619]

am 60ty years old just got a divorce after 30ty years of marriage, I agree with you, you should test the waters before making a commitment of marriage. Divorce is never easy, but as you say beating a dead horse will only make your arm hurt and that's about it. Love your realness!!!

[@trista11071994]

so sorry, Mai! glad you're trying to find the silver lining day to day 🖤

[@MaiZimmy]

I am! Thats all you can do :)

[@guerra_1355]

Do what makes you happy! 🙌🙌🙌🙌 my son came from a broken home. I was the mom & dad for him, I was there for him my entire life. I never gave him a step dad! He’s very successful young man! Live your life my friend! I agree with you that you should have experience a little more when you were younger but make up for it now 😂🙌

[@margerymcphillimey1724]

You go girl, You have such positive vibe I’m sure you will get through this.

[@xovanstahxo]

I recently split from my ex husband as well. It is tough, but I am much happier. And that’s all I can do for my son. For him to grow up with a happy mom. I totally get the whole sadness on splitting time (especially holidays). That is the worst part of this. But I tell myself that the time I have my kid is even more precious now and I always make the best of it.

[@nancycosgrove4005]

I’m always sorry to hear about divorce but sometimes you just have to. I got a divorce when my boys were pretty young- there was an alcohol problem. I’m glad I did- we were not able to be very amicable because of that. I was always very honest with my boys and never, ever said anything bad about their dad- stressed that we both loved them. Some other you tubers have recommended online counciling- I think it’s called Better Help. Best of luck to you- you are strong and your boys have 2 loving parents.

[@cutieclontz4994]

Not me crying actually realizing what only 50% of my time with my 2 yr old would look like should this happen to me. You can be like, "oh yeah I get my kid half the time" but when you look at what your week looks like with your kids and that they'd only be there half the time, it's so sad. I'm glad you're doing what's best. I just hate it had to be

[@lisahuntley9704]

You have such a fantastic attitude!!it’s definitely the right thing to do, whatever makes you all happier overall,it’s brilliant that you are amicable too,sending hugs xx

[@annelisenystrom4881]

I'm not sure if you qualify, but you could check out Open Path for therapy. It's NOT like Better Help (which exploits therapists). It's just a database of therapists that offer low-fee sessions. You could also check out a pre-licensed therapist. It takes a lot of training to be a therapist and pre-licensed therapists often charge a bit less while still being very capable. They get a ton of supervision and additional training.

[@mrsroseblack9310]

I’ve been with my husband since I was 15 and I’m 38. We are celebrating our 20 year wedding anniversary next week. I know it’s not for everyone but it worked well for us. We have both made God the center of our lives and he is very financially responsible and just a wonderful man so I know I am blessed and not every man grows up like that.

[@MaiZimmy]

Definitely amazing for some! My best friend is married to her high school sweetheart and they are amazing together 🫶🏻

[@jodikashansky1054]

Watched your video, sorry your going through a Togo ugh time! You seem like a tough strong woman!!! You will be ok!! Wishing you only the best!!! ❤🙏🏻

[@toriiilee123]

I think you are doing incredibly!! Being as amicable as you can be is awsome! I would feel the same if I had 50/50 custody with my older 2s father. But you have a really positive attitude and that is all you need you will find your rhythm!

[@ReviewnBuy]

Been with my husband since I was 13 years hold. We broke up for 3 years in our early 20s so he could “test the waters”. Now I am almost 30 and he in his 30s and we are getting a divorce now. I have NEVER been with anyone else. For some people testing the waters still don’t work. Thank you for your video on how I should choose to be happy, I need to get to that stage mentally for our daughter because being married was never going to make her and I happy.

[@sonyahubbard3226]

💜

[@amandapalmieri1271]

You're so strong! Let me tell you something: you are more beautiful than ever! Look at the "positive side": you can take the 50%time wirhout your kids to do something for you! Go out with friends, do something that you always want to do....