We’ve been giving birth ALL WRONG | The Dark History of Childbirth

[@KateMcIrving]

When my cousin was 18 weeks she went to her doctor because she was having pain on her right side. Doctor rolled his eyes at her, told her it was pain from being obese and pregnant and that she should leave because he had actual patients with actual problems to see. She took herself to the er and they told her she had appendicitis and needed to do surgery asap. I’m not surprised so many women die, doctors don’t listen to women, pregnant or not.

[@ShopaHolli50]

And they always say it’s because of weight. 😢

[@breadbrown7708]

Research isn't even done on women first off,secondly male dr's are always trained to believe that women are over dramatic,if they are in pain it's not concerning and women are ment to tolerate pain because we are beasts of burden. Sad😢😢

[@joeb2384]

It's very odd their misconception I just got appendix surgery 2 weeks ago finally healed from a full recover but it was awful. I felt like I was dying in the morning and my sibling just took the pain as nothing thinking I was being over dramatic. I couldn't even stand. Get to the hospital and the check in person was extremely rude... even after 2 hours of waiting in extreme pain I just went up to the window and asked, "I'm in extreme pain, is there any way I can just know the wait time?" And she arrogantly responded YOU need to wait, just like everyone else has too. Got checked out finally after waiting 5 hours, and my symptoms were just push aside a bit and told it was a stomach bug, because I have a High pain tolerance it didn't seem that bad to them until they saw in the scan what it was. Thankfully there were some really kind doctors who took care of me overnight which I will never forget to this day. I've had a hard time I'm only 16 and left my parent home because they were extremely horrible, it's been such a struggle trying to raise myself for all this time and feeling like I was being mothered again made me feel better, Hospitals Def need to be better when it comes to people's needs, symptoms, and kindness, not everyone handles things the same

[@kingapilart]

Our pain tolerance is greater so if we say we are in pain male doctors and some females should listen 😤

[@dac6157]

I had a similar issue except I was 8 weeks and it turned out to be a tubal pregnancy, but the doctor said “your fine no s3x for a week” didn’t feel right to me went er

[@wootz4]

Several home births here, with the best midwife ever. She was also with me through an 11 week miscarriage and a 19 week one. When women are allowed to move and listen to their own bodies, it’s wild how they just know where they want to be. One of my babies was posterior all of a sudden, and my body just went into this kneeling, mostly upright, leaning slightly forward position, before we even knew, which made it way smoother. Male docs telling us what to do should never have become a thing.

[@shirala1972]

But what happens if there’s a medical emergency with you or the baby?? Would they call paramedics?

[@elle..xoxo..]

@@shirala1972yes

[@derekm424]

I as a male.... Approve this message, although I'm not a doctor by any stretch of the term 😊.

[@1sellout39]

😂can't we just make things change?

[@Brijeanius]

​@@shirala1972 licensed midwives have extensive education and training, especially in how to recognize and manage complications and emergencies. Including when to transport parent and/or baby to a hospital.

[@erinmees1530]

Did you hear about the baby that was born decapitated and the hospital staff hidden it from the parents and told them that they should think about getting a cremation? If it wasn't for the funeral home they would have never known what happened to their baby. You should look into this, it is very sad

[@sam-salami]

oh gosh 💔 was the hospital the one to blame for it or was the baby born like that?

[@ThePacificQueen]

Oh my Lord. I just looked this up after reading your comment. How truly horrific and heartbreaking. That poor baby, those poor parents. And that disgusting hospital.

[@TheKeeperMadz]

​@@sam-salamiyes it was the hospital that pulled on the baby during birth until it's head came off.

[@jeanellenosbisch]

I believe the couple won the lawsuit. But nothing will bring that baby back. It is so heart breaking for that family to go through.

[@barbaraaly6186]

This happened in a week after I had a C-section. My baby was in the NICU and I was still riding the postpartum hormone train. I was devastated for this family. I cannot imagine.

[@moirarector3054]

Thank you for speaking on the maternal mortality rate in the US, it is unreal. My mother has been a midwife for 40 years doing it in secret in the beginning & helping women who don’t have the money for a hospital birth or are terrified of a hospital birth. Midwives are essential to life & to bringing life into the world.

[@CrochetBaba]

Back in the nineties I had to have my baby at home on the downlow because it was illegal where I live. But I didn't care I get it anyways. It's about me and the baby and our safety.

[@CrochetBaba]

Yes yes they are!!

[@usmc_sunscreenqueen]

Please thank your sweet Mama for me....she must be a precious lady & I'm sure you feel blessed having her as a mother. You must love her so! ❤

[@iriswright5060]

I had a midwife for both of my kids births. She was amazing!!

[@caradelsol1]

Love that! I had my son with a midwife because 1.) The Midwife Model and Midwives themselves are Amazing and 2.) I refused to go into the hospital setting that my nerves and nephews were born into.

[@morganbean7068]

So you're telling me...women knew better about birth than men?! Groundbreaking.....

[@beepboop8374]

Wild right 😂

[@ciaralauren6156]

I am a doula and diving into this topic is crazy. The amount of women who experienced postpartum depression and postpartum PSYCHOSIS is wild. We really need to do better.

[@LaurenJones-lh2df]

I had postpartum psychosis with my first baby. With my second and third, I specified like as soon as I can eat, give me my antidepressants back. Both doctors acted like I was crazy. Like yeah, that is the point 😂 😬

[@mutoidliz2320]

PostPartum Depression has wiped me of 3 years of my almost 6yr olds life .I can't remember even giving birth,attending baby classes,or any of her firsts (steps,words,tooth) yet my partner remembers it all and rolls his eyes if I ask about her baby and early toddler days 😭

[@tara_m_e]

@@mutoidliz2320you’re not alone. I had postpartum depression after my 2nd that eventually led into just regular old depression. I look back through pictures of her & realize I really don’t have many of her just because I was struggling so bad. Night & day difference between her & my first. She was a preemie so her birth didn’t go as planned & I feel like we were robbed of so much. Then covid hit just a few months later & my grandpa had a horrific death (not covid). So yeah it’s been a craptastic 4 years with one thing after another. I’m just ready for things to return to “normal”.

[@jibyjiby5424]

I had severe prenatal depression. Hormone issues for women are still not addressed properly but it’s definitely better than the days women would get sent to asylums for lobotomies when experiencing postpartum depression.

[@leahv.2537]

​@@jibyjiby5424lobotomy because of depression, that's horrifying!😮😢 So they basically gave a woman an *intentional* traumatic brain injury, thus crippling her in a way and for what?!

[@JujulieHH]

Canadian here. Birthing a child is free. The whole 9 months of pregnancy, you have doctor's appointments for free and really thorough check-ups. It's pretty great!

[@CelleSleuths]

Nothing is free. Trust me you are paying for it in one way or another.

[@sabrinakelly7408]

@@CelleSleuths employer's pay a tax based on the gross total salary of the company and workers pay income tax etc. I prefer having amounts taken off from my income regularly (a bit like paying for insurance) than having to fork out a huge amount all of a sudden and stressing over the bill for added pain management (epidural) or extended stay for complications/nicu for premies etc.

[@CelleSleuths]

@sabrinakelly7408 we already get copious amounts taken from our paycheck and we have income tax as well. Taxation is theft.

[@JujulieHH]

You're confusing Universal Healthcare with theft@@CelleSleuths

[@breadbrown7708]

​@@CelleSleuths😂😂 taxation is theft,the problem we really have is that we don't get to see our tax funds working for us.😢😢😢😢😢😢

[@cindyhesson9213]

History has taught me one thing, men ruin everything. Thank you, Bailey ❤

[@khirsch5828]

@cindyhesson9213 Please remember that the hospital is there because of men.

[@cindyhesson9213]

@khirsch5828 Really?? Well, that makes sense. 🤔🙄🙄

[@cindyhesson9213]

@khirsch5828 Guess insurance is on you too, huh?? Thanks 🤬

[@Maya_hee]

@@khirsch5828 this is some bs right here bro. And also, hospitals mean nothing with no doctors around

[@arianebennion]

Strong bodies weak minds.

[@supklop1477]

Gave birth in Florida 8 years ago. Medicade provided a doula from the start and during labor the nurses showed me all the different positions I could give birth in with all the attachments, had nitrous oxide and they waited 3 minutes to cut the cord. Gave birth almost 4 months ago in Texas. The closest hospital that had nitrous oxide is 3 hours away and insurance would not cover it, the doctor stripped my membrane 2 days before my due date without telling me and they physically forced me on my back and cut the cord before even a minute.

[@natashajane8162]

Australia here, it’s free to have your baby here. The government supplies a “baby box” it has basic baby supplies, discount vouchers etc. when you return home a midwife will visit weekly for 6 weeks to make sure your healing properly and coping at home. If your not coping there are free services to support you. There is also a payment for low income mothers of aprox $1900 to help with the cost of having a baby. Lastly if you have a hospital birth a midwife is with you in the birthing suite at all time and a dr comes and checks on you regularly. I really think America needs to do better

[@trinitylace1101]

Wow. Yeah, I go on maternity leave soon and we don’t get paid while on maternity leave as well as that it’s just terrible giving birth and going home with no care towards the women. I’m so nervous to give birth but I know I’ll be ok💞

[@marnie9063]

Scotland does baby boxes too!

[@desireeadams1261]

Wow! For real. Wish I was there instead of here in the USA for both my births plus many other reasons!

[@natashajane8162]

@@trinitylace1101 you don’t get paid Maternity leave???? Seriously that’s crazy! We have 20 weeks paid maternity leave (includes if you adopt a baby) and 2 weeks parental leave for your partner (government pays this) you can also use your annual leave (vacation time) which is 4 weeks full pay a year.

[@Maracchan]

Baby box is a finnish invention, btw! In Finland you can choose an x amount of money (don't know the amount) or the baby box...

[@MeldaTheWitch]

I instinctually wanted to stand up when it was time to push, but the nurses insisted that I would be more comfortable laying down. They were wrong.

[@Caoimhe10]

Standing up using gravity to help is the best way to give birth. Here in the uk/Ireland the midwives (who deliver all babys unless its a csection/forceps ect) all advocate for being on your feet as much as possible. The way the USA does Borth is all wrong and too medicalised

[@Caoimhe10]

I gave birth on a birthing stool which is still used today here because its so much better than being flat on your back

[@get.sassyxd]

Part of it is because if you have an epidural, you can't feel your legs, and it's a fall risk. I think a birthing stool of some sort should be able to be used, you would just need assistance getting there, which let's be honest, most hospitals want as most hands off as they can't/don't care (in the US) Part of it also is everyone is sue happy so if someone did fall, they could sue the hospital. If I knew then, what I know now, I wouldn't have gotten an epidural or scheduled birth. I truly believe that's what led me to having to have an emergency csection and the issues that came along after. I suggest to everyone, let your body naturally do what it does, and then if there is an issue, go from there.

[@virginianielsen3480]

@@get.sassyxdthat’s the thing though, so many hospitals today (from what relatives and friends have told me) push really really hard for moms to get epidural because it’s more comfortable for the staff. No consideration into whether the mom wants it or if they got informed consent about the benefits/risks of it (because there can be benefits to an epidural! But there’s lots of reason you may not want one 😢)

[@JordanGood-xh2ii]

I wanted to be on all fours

[@runningformylifeful]

I am SO glad you're covering this topic! This is something I am so incredibly passionate about. Just had my 5th and last baby and I birth naturally. I had the most amazingly magical, primal, and empowering labor 🥹. I even caught my own baby after pushing for a few minutes while kneeling. What we are doing in childbirth isn't working, it's leaving women traumatized and even dead. 60% of women have birth trauma. Almost half have cesareans- most of which are unnecessary. Going to midwifery school soon to help make positive change.

[@JessicaCheape]

Best comment here. 🙌🏻

[@demilovatable]

Bravo! Thank you for your contribution ❤

[@BiancaBombshell]

Almost died during childbirth, rare condition that effects 3% : Retained placenta didn't deliver, almost bled out, had to be rushed to emergency surgery at 2am. If I wasn't at the Hospital, I would have died that night before ever really getting to hold my daughter. Thankful for the doctors who saved me & helped my baby.

[@breadbrown7708]

Did u give birth in that same hospital?

[@erikahaas8664]

This happened to me as well! I was sent home within 24 hours, even after telling my drs I wasn’t feeling well, was vomiting, couldn’t stand up. Finally my husband took me to my OBs office and demanded the take me and my symptoms serious. They did an ultrasound and rushed me to the ER for emergency surgery. It was so traumatic.

[@jennyjones-tw5hp]

My placenta was retained and I almost bled out a few minutes after my daughter’s birth. I guess they got it because all I remember is fading out and watching about 7 people crowd around my body. I got a transfusion and went home only to learn that they’d punctured the dura during my epidural, and so I was leaking spinal fluid and having the most painful migraines. Had to go back for a blood patch. (Where they draw your own blood and inject it, into your spine so it will form a seal in dura. Ugh. Bad times.

[@melxniex]

I’m training as a midwife, honestly I’m so glad you’ve made this episode. I’ve watched every single one of your videos I’ve been a long looooooong time subscriber for years. This episode has made me so so so so happy! So many people don’t know any of this and so many labouring women struggle, evidence suggests the optimal birthing position is “upright” it’s nature, it’s gravity. Educationnnnnnn. You educatorrrrr. This is what women need 🎉 there is rarely anything for the public to access on social platforms that are fact based and you’re taking a step to change this. I love my midwife role and the impact I make. It’s the most amazing career. ❤

[@marylhere]

Have you watched Call The Midwife?

[@amg4787]

Hi! My desire it to be a NP/Midwife. How did you go about finding programs/training?

[@jessicalynn6285]

"There is rarely anything for the public to access on social platforms that are fact based." While I agree that there is A LOT of misinformation online, there are MANY MANY MANY people giving fact based information on labor and delivery, including midwives and doctors. Google midwife and OBGYN KZbin channels. There are A LOT. (I know you said social platforms, which may indicate you are talking about Facebook, Tiktok, etc. Yet you said Bailey is taking a step to change this (lack of fact based education) and you are saying this about something she posted on KZbin)

[@emilybrown3893]

There is a pharmacy museum here in NOLA (it’s in the oldest pharmacy in the country) and they have a little section on midwifery and the rise of OB/GYN. And how awful Sims was. It is an AMAZING museum and AWESOME little section. (Even has an old school birthing chair that reclines or something)

[@nataliemcd9318]

I've been there!! (I'm a CPhT) Very cool place! I spent HOURS in there.

[@deannabaker9898]

As a retired midwife, I say thank you for this thorough episode!

[@usmc_sunscreenqueen]

Thank you for helping women with the birth of their precious babies. I'm sure every one of them remember you with nothing but love! ❤️

[@sweetlisajohnson]

Thanks for being there for us women.. my daughter had a midwife. I was worried..but she's did a beautiful job..better than my DOCTORS DID..

[@DarkFire1536]

Bailey, I think this is probably one of the most important Dark History episodes you have ever done. It is so vital for women to know that they have a choice of how they give birth. I think women finally started speaking out about birth experiences in the last few generations, and their bad experiences may have contributed to the number of women who are chosing not to have children. Not that there is anything wrong with chosing not to have children. That is every woman's choice. I realize there are many other contributing factors, but it is important for modern women to know that they are in control of their birthing process and their bodies. I had my 1st baby 23 years ago and did not know my options or even how to take care of my thyroid disease while pregnant. I had 3 very traumatic births. I want better things for women today. Thank you for making this episode. ❤

[@aubreyandsarahstanfield4326]

Perfectly stated ❤

[@lindapickford5062]

I really don’t want to have kids. Just the whole experience does not appeal what so ever. I don’t like babies at all. Animals all the way. All the horror stories i hear from my friends who have given birth. It’s hideous. One of the most scary, risky and painful things a woman will go through. And all these doctors and nurses seem to have no care or empathy at all. I get they see it everyday. But we’re people not statistics! No thank you!!

[@meghanm.5169]

I love women. I love you for saying this. I love how we so appreciate other women giving advice. Being a woman is so hard and we need to help each other more often.

[@DarkFire1536]

@@meghanm.5169 That is so kind. I agree. Women definitely need to support and care for each other.

[@briannataylor680]

After I had a traumatic birth in the hospital with my first child, I promised to never do that again. It left me with diagnosed PTSD. With my second I had a midwife. The midwives made my birth feel like a sacred ceremony as it is. Birth with a midwife was so healing. I was able to be in control of my own birth/ mind/ body. I felt so safe with my midwife’s. I wish everyone could experience outstanding care that midwife’s give.

[@k8marcella156]

100% this!! I just had my second/redeeming birth with midwives at a birthing center! So healing!! My hospital birth was awful!

[@beccawurfel6757]

This makes me so happy for you ❤

[@Random_posts23]

Yes! My first was traumatic. So I did my research and found Women and Infants Hospital in RI. They let me try a VBAC and it was an amazing and healing experience :) I would have done a homebirth if I could.

[@myadavis4560]

I agree, I wouldn’t say I had a traumatic birth with my first, but they were in a rush to have me progress (pop my waters) so that the ob could go home… i had midwife’s at the hospital, with my second birth I found a midwife who runs her own small business and she’s been doing it for over 20 years and she does home births, it was the best experience I could have ever imagined:)) highly recommend

[@supklop1477]

This is amazing! I was the other way around. My first birth was absolutely BEAUTIFUL and I was telling my boyfriend, right after she was out, I’m ready for #2 as soon as he was! I just had my 2nd almost 4 months ago and it was absolutely horrifying. They made me do many things I specifically learned to not do and they physically forced me into my back. I wanted a 3rd so bad but at this point..if we can’t afford a birthing center I’m going back to my home state to give birth and I’ll do it alone rather than doing it again where I am now.

[@KatieDwyerMusic]

Ok as a woman who had a hospital birth, a freestanding birth center birth, and two unattended, unassisted planned home births, I am soooo excited to watch this!!!

[@DutchyDutcherson]

Which was your favorite experience?

[@KatieDwyerMusic]

​@@DutchyDutcherson definitely freebirthing. I don't trust anyone more than I trust myself, and I knew the stats and history of hospital births so being a low risk healthy mama, I was happy to give birth in my bedroom.

[@vcheekv]

💕🌟👑

[@Ratty_boi]

Same!! I’m also a birth and postpartum doula so double excited!

[@KatieDwyerMusic]

​@@Ratty_boi I'm a birth doula and lactation educator and babywearing educator 💕 Im not currently using any of those skills unless friends ask me for help though. I imagine someday I'd like to be trained as a death doula, too. It's oddly similar from what I've heard.

[@JordanGood-xh2ii]

I have one child i will never have another one after the trauma and the way i was treated . Cant wait to see this love you Bailey!!! You are so smart putting these all together!!

[@zoecoote3746]

Same. One child. Horrific. I used to see pregnant ladies and feel afraid for them,

[@mlh19567]

Everyday I find new reasons not to get pregnant 😂😂😂

[@TheMightyBlackPearl]

I find new reasons to never do this again, and I'm due in July. I love my kids, of course lol, BUT I'm literally writing every horror down in a journal and reminding myself why two is a perfect number of children to stop at in case I have the crazy idea to ever do this again 😂

[@lolitagslay]

@@TheMightyBlackPearlI have 1 kid & if I could’ve just had pets, I would have!! I never planned the one I have now but wouldn’t change it for anything! So I totally agree with you / same page! I was due in July & my daughter was born the 12th instead of the 16th. Congratulations!!

[@aprilmason3328]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@mackenziegerdes5239]

Oh lord

[@PorchHonky1975]

Smart… 🙏

[@catincapaun84]

Me being pregnant at the moment and Bailey doing a video about everything I'm currently researching about pregnancy and child birth... is the best day of my life tbh🥰

[@AurielFord-lz8ku]

Sending well wishes and prayers for an safe and happy pregnancy and delivery.Congrations🎉🎉🎉

[@TheMightyBlackPearl]

Right there with ya ❤

[@vickie1986]

Congratulations on your new bundle of joy!

[@catincapaun84]

@@AurielFord-lz8ku Thank you so much✨

[@catincapaun84]

@@vickie1986 thank you very much ✨

[@kiasmith6040]

Got this notification for this upload while in labor with my first child 😅😂 love ya Bailey! So timely ❤

[@bariettaperez]

Before even seeing the video, I thought about how doctors have lied to us about how to give birth. It’s so unhealthy how it’s done.

[@MountainPearls]

It seems OBGYNs are either fantastic or terrible. I took me 12 years to get an endometriosis diagnosis-“medical gaslighting/shrugging off my symptoms). Yet, another OBGYN saved my friend and niece lives’ both because he knew his stuff and listened. (I go to him now…he is reasonable, listens, and always says “in the end it’s up to you.” He lays out all the choices and points you toward research if you want yo think on something. I have heard he* works with mothers to give birth as they want-from where ti pain and positions etc. He also oversees quite a few Midwives for uncomplicated pregnancies/birth-including home births). He also does “Gentle C-Sections” if a woman should need one scheduled. He refuses to steal a woman’s arms down unless her and baby’s safety calls for it. HOWEVER, with her first child, my first niece, I’m fairly certain she had a c-section because they gave her Pitocin too soon (after she had gone into labor naturally ON her due date). This was, apparently, to “move things along.” She’s researched since then, there is some literature to say you should avoid taking it when possible (not if you need to be induced or whatever. But not right away when you get to the hospital after going in your labor naturally). They should have just let her body be in labor for a bit longer before “helping her out” …she doesn’t think it gave her body time yo prepare itself for the birth (she was so close, almost like giving birth both ways).

[@whitneyanders5945]

Yeah so terrible… considering that death during or after birth has dramatically decreased in the last 100 years. Let’s go back to the olden days where women had a huge chance of dying during birth and where infant mortality was very common.

[@hannahleemarie8631]

@@whitneyanders5945America has some of the worst maternal mortality rates in developed nations. It’s gotten better because medicine has gotten better, but there are still huge margins for improvement to be made.

[@MarySunshine25]

Yep, back birth is slower and causes more trauma you know? (Trying to not use specific words and get the comment flagged) It's so messed up.

[@annadrake1774]

Yes!!!!!! I had 2 hospital births and I feel like I had no control of my own body. Poked and prodded and told to stay in bed etc. Pushing for c sections and inductions. I had my last baby at home and it was the most healing experience I didn't know I needed

[@isabellejonason789]

The day I went into labor, my doctor was unavailable due to another delivery (my son had a popular birthday haha). A midwife delivered my son instead - I was upset to learn a doctor wasn’t going to deliver my son but that quickly changed. The midwife was an absolute angel. I couldn’t have asked for a better labor/delivery because of her.

[@404am2]

I had a miscarriage inside of me for 3 weeks and the obgyn didn’t acknowledge my worries enough to give an ultrasound. I had to wait till 12 weeks to confirm it and they let me and my husband go without giving us options on how to pass it. My mom had to demand them to give me options before it caused an infection and become fatal

[@sheilawhitener3819]

Wow in some states today you would DIE

[@ArelimedinaB2]

😢 waooo I'm sorry you went through that!!

[@deathcity4242]

This is perfect timing! I'm 34 weeks pregnant now, preparing for childbirth

[@trinitylace1101]

Me too💗congratulations mama🥰praying for a safe delivery and healthy baby💞

[@kimberlyrenee111]

Same!

[@Im-Perfectly-Imperfect]

I knew when I gave birth in 1974 that my treatment by the hospital, nurses, and doctors was substandard and cruel. I was only a teenager and was treated horribly. The Hispanic lady who spoke no English was also mistreated. I have horrible memories of how the nurses treated me and the awful things they said to me. The nurses were absolutely horrible people. In the early 90s I went to visit my sister-in-law in the hospital and I was so surprised at the kindness with which they treated her when she was giving birth. It was so drastically different.

[@birgitteisabellholven6018]

Thank you so much for this episode, Bailey! 😍 No one tells a story quite like you, and we are forever grateful ✨️❤️ I'm realizing just how lucky we are in Norway and many other places in the world to have midwifes running the show in the delivery rooms 👏👏 Also, definitely trying the squatting or kneeling position next time.

[@annasites7038]

Great episode. I've had a hospital birth and a home birth, and there's no comparison in terms of care. Midwives all the way. Highly recommend the documentary The Business of Being Born for anyone who's interested in this topic.

[@dr.angeliquetrigueros1914]

Yeah, I love how people of the world treat pregnancy like a medical condition until you want to terminate it and then suddenly, it’s no longer a medical condition and you no longer get to choose your medical care or have medical options.

[@ms.donaldson2533]

German Science was brought to America and Called "Medical Science" - practice written by the Brotherhood of Death before Rockefeller Public Health arrived and they crafted "Standards of practice" in Charm City. Today, they are known as "Experts at Johns Hopkins." My father was NATURALLY born on a farm in 1918 before I arrived in Baltimore in 1970. I was born with the National Academy of Medicine and Earth Day..... look what they created in my lifetime . My daughter has a mid-wife in 2015, but she had no opinion with the Doctors arrived to take over. I was the one that spoke up and told them to put the forceps down. She came over to thank me afterward.

[@Jalapenoruffles]

THIS!!!!!!

[@amahsenile]

yeah because it involves infantac*de you dim light bulb

[@Tamendak1]

Letting the men take control...epic fail!

[@hannahvaughn8176]

It’s a medical condition until it affects your ability to work and then you’re just lazy 😢

[@jessicabrandow4304]

While I was giving birth, my baby was literally coming out on his own while I was leaning on the side of the bed and my male doctor told me he would not deliver my baby until I was laying down. I was unbelievably upset but I complied because what else could I do!? When I lied down my baby turned and I tried pushing for 4 hours with him in a position where he couldn’t possibly come out and I had to have a C section 🤬😢

[@christineholmgren2096]

I am an OB Surgical tech & we still use the Delee retractor (aka bladder blade) & Simms retractor in surgery to this day.

[@Snixalin]

Bailey is uncovering the bs and I'm so glad it's all coming to light

[@thegreatteganini6995]

We happily paid to go to a midwife in the USA and had such a beautiful experience.... I'm a huge advocate for it and love this episode! They'll take you to a hospital if you need it, but trust your body ladies! ♡

[@syster3746]

Kneeling during birth was actually the most comfortable for me, and the baby just plopped down into a soft bed. My first birth was on my back in styrups..not as effective.

[@Natlatify]

I've never had a baby but when you think about it, it makes so much sense. Gravity is your friend in birth! If you have a ball in a tube, you wouldn't lay it flat to try and remove the ball, you'd tip it so the ball could fall out. I can only imagine what a help gravity is in child birth that if I ever have a child I will opt for the choices that use gravity to assist (as long as its safe to do so)😊

[@danniballecter7936]

I'm so glad you talked about how WoC often are ignored by their doctors when they are having complications. Implicit bias is very real and can definitely have negative impacts on others. I'd suggest checking out the Harvard Implicit Bias test; it's quite interesting.

[@k8tina]

I was not allowed to deliver my triplets naturally in 2004. I went into labor at 35 weeks and was forced to have a c-section. My son was already starting to crown, but I was yelled at by the delivery nurse for "purposely pushing" because I was "selfish for trying to have my babies naturally". What a horrible experience! That nurse was an older bitter woman who never had children of her own, so it was my fault for having three at the same time. The hospital never did anything to reprimand her for the way she treated me, either. I had no idea that I had choices and could've had her kicked out of the delivery room. Ruined what was supposed to be a happy experience.

[@sayurihannon7363]

Why is it that I'm thinking about Dark history of CONTRACEPTIVES 😬 i hope Bailey would cover this ❤😅

[@Vampirefreak2282]

The woman who is the founder of planned parenthood was a raging racist who practiced eugenics. And birth control was used for sterilization. Including the mass sterilization of Puerto Rican women about 80+ years ago. Many women did it because it was an experiment and they needed the money. While others were forced. But they really just used Puerto Rican women as test monkeys :/

[@bookieworm17]

She does in season 1 of dark history

[@chelseaisneato]

I had both my babies at home in my bathtub! I paid $2,000 for both my midwife and a doula. Both were beautiful experiences and my babies were both healthy happy kids!

[@papabear5506]

Same! First was naturally in the hospital. I said never again! Next two born in my shower with just my husband and midwives arrived minutes after 😅 both great experiences and happy healthy kids! Cost $2k and $500 respectively. In the USA.

[@user-xk6nm8wd1b]

do they take insurance?

[@JetaimeBoricua]

That’s so awesome to hear! ❤ I’ve always said I’d want to have my future babies at home/ water births because the birthing experience looks so much more peaceful and less traumatic than in a hospital . This makes me feel more comfortable in my decision lol

[@papabear5506]

@user-xk6nm8wd1b mine didn't, but they are really willing to work with you. The first go around they just discounted for me. The second time they were able to use a grant 😊

[@makal6232]

I always wonder what happens in case of emergency? For instance , when I gave birth, 10 10 minutes I started bleeding bad…. Apparently At one point there were at least 8 doctors in my room 😅If I was giving birth at home, would I have time to go to the hospital in this case?

[@lirosespurposefullove5422]

My sister almost bled to death because the doctors would not listen when she said my niece was crowning. She stayed with her in the birth canal for 2 hours and when my bro in law moved the blanket, there was blood every where

[@brendabeck334]

I am a Certified Nurse Midwife, and I deliver babies in a hospital setting. It is 100% true that midwives have better outcomes than physicians. Great coverage of this, Bailey! Love you!

[@Gross126]

This is so ignorant. I will never forget the idiotic midwife who pushed with a woman for 24 hours until the woman couldn’t take it anymore and then came to the hospital. Long story short, the baby died. Midwives are supposed to deliver uncomplicated and healthy patients. So of course most midwives will have better outcomes. You aren’t delivering the 500lb woman with HCOM, CHF, and ESRD. Foh. The worst thing about you guys is that you don’t know what you don’t know. Dunning-kruger tricks again.

[@ericaelgin]

Yeah, because the minute something goes wrong you have to step aside and let a doctor handle it.

[@ColorfulBallerina]

@@Gross126 Did you watch the episode?

[@ChefSarah4104]

I had midwives for my 2 hospital births, they were amazing.

[@sleeplessinscotland9394]

@@Gross126just like doctors can be negligent so can any medical professional. I’ve had 4 kids and only personally came across one absolutely awful midwife who somehow managed to completely mess up putting a drip in my hand and it’s still got a numb patch almost 10 years later. I had high risk pregnancies so there were doctors involved in my pregnancy but a when I was I labour not one appeared until after my first was born and my placenta refused to budge (ended up needing it surgically removed so just as well I had hospital births) - but I absolutely believe midwives listen to the mother more, they are very much open to more natural methods than doctors who will very quickly turn to extreme interventions that may not be necessary. I mean, after my first was born I was told by the doctor if they’d known how big my baby would have been they would’ve strongly pushed me to have a c-section but she was born just fine even with being 10lbs 10, just a stubborn placenta afterwards - but if the doctor had prior knowledge they would’ve cut me open instead - I’m so very thankful they didn’t know and I’ve never needed that! C-sections terrify me.

[@n8vscience842]

You should do a follow up history of child birth in Indigenous communities. As an Indigenous woman, the birth practice is sacred. ❤ love you always!

[@JennAmazed]

I'd love to know more about that

[@lmurphy2203]

I feel like this was just a drop in the bucket regarding the history of child birth. You could totally do a part 2 talking about the way women had to go into confinement for weeks, and then wouldn't be allowed out until they were "churched" and made "clean" again. Watch call the midwife for stuff in the 50s, plus the thalidomide babies scandal, and so much more!

[@cannibalamoebas]

My family is from the east end where call the midwife takes place. My grandmother had her first child in the 1950s, his name was David. He died shortly after birth and she didn't get to see him or say goodbye. She was told to rest and so she did. When she woke up and asked for her baby, they told her he passed away and it's okay, she will just have another baby. She knows what cemetery he was buried at but doesnt know where in the cemetery since they didn't tell her and didn't document which ones the babies were buried in. It was another time and another world. I often wonder if we was a thalidomide baby bc of the times. She did go on to have my uncle and then my dad, but they all knew about David and she was forever traumatized by that. She was only 18 :-(

[@lmurphy2203]

@@cannibalamoebas that is heartbreaking. My grandma had the same happen to her. She delivered prematurely in the 50s and my aunt lived for 45 minutes and in that time my grandma wasn't allowed to see her, my grandpa did but they wouldn't let her, then she had a stillbirth and she felt the baby kicking right up til it was time to push, the Dr looked and told the nurse to "knock her out" and when she woke up she was told the baby was stillborn. She did go on to have 9 more pregnancies and 7 living children including my mom (number 5) but she was definitely tormented the rest of her life for her lost babies.

[@HaileyAngele08]

It’s still like this in some countries

[@MommaSullens]

Call the midwife is amazing

[@HealthyandLovingLife]

The thalidomide babies are so heartbreaking to see.

[@asana_awakening]

I am almost 20 weeks pregnant and just watched that documentary “The Business of Being Born”… when I say you talking about this is PERFECT TIMING, I mean it 🤌🏼

[@JRmidwife]

Home birth midwife here 👋. Looking forward to watching this! Lots of horrific things going on in this day and age!

[@monvlisv]

Bailey, you are the best thing to ever happen to KZbin since its existence. Idk what I even watched before you showed up and bless your soul for being here and giving us CONTENT. Girl. Love you lots

[@hellyeah_ellajane]

YOU DON’T NEED A CERVICAL EXAM. Girl, what you need is time and a calm place to relax when you’re in labor.

[@hellyeah_ellajane]

Also: don’t push on your back. It’s literally the worst option.

[@melxniex]

Yessss ❤❤

[@alexishurricane8759]

@@hellyeah_ellajaneit’s personal choice. During contractions, I couldn’t sit down, was pacing up and down but when it came to pushing, my body wanted to be lying down and 3/4 were pushed out within 10 minutes. Last was a c-section. I don’t think I could’ve pushed with the force I pushed with if I were stood up. Mine were all giants.

[@melindaroop1346]

​@@alexishurricane8759Me too. I had no issues pushing while on my back with my legs up. And I had 3 big babies...one being about 10 pounds. I couldn't have stood up... especially with my oldest and youngest. I was in so much pain.

[@hellyeah_ellajane]

@@alexishurricane8759 obviously it’s a personal choice 😂 when you consider anatomy and gravity, it’s usually the worst choice.

[@annaadams326]

As a 20 year, Labor And Delivery nurse. I find this episode absolutely amazing. And yes, bring back the midwives. While I value our physicians and the resources that they bring to the table, everything that you said in this podcast in my opinion was spot on.

[@allihagen1180]

You should definitely read the book Act Natural by Jennifer Traig for more historical context on child bearing!

[@annaadams326]

@@allihagen1180 I’ll look into it. Thanks! I really enjoyed this Bailey episode!!!

[@tiffanywilliams7133]

I was with my daughter just a month ago, as she was giving birth. She was given so many options on positions, as well as ideas on how to sit during the labor itself. She sat on a Yoga ball for a long time, and then was able to lay on each side to help the baby move down. It was much different then when I was having her 24 years ago. They were so helpful, understanding, encouraging, and thoughtful through the entire process. This made the experience so much less stressful for her, and put the focus back on her and the baby's health and wellbeing.

[@jeanellenosbisch]

My birthing story is a little crazy. I was intimate with my partner's and didn't realize my water broke. I honestly thought I peed on him😂. So hours later he was at his job and I didn't feel right. Called 911 to have them take me to the hospital. The ambulance was full of men who said " we'll have the nurses check you".All while telling my partner what was happening over the phone. By the time I got to the hospital they told me to push 13 minutes later I had my son on the 13th of August. His father ran into the room at the perfect time.He was a premature but just perfect.

[@shaec3405]

I was in labor with a broken water for over three FULL days.... 72+HOURS, COULD NOT DILATE PAST 4. At that point it became an emergency.😮 Time to have a C-section. My baby was sunny side up, and pinching off half my bladder!! Even though I had a catheter!!! I'm one of the rare cases where the C-section was actually done to save my life... Not just the doctors convenience. 🙄 **He had to deliver my bladder and operate on it before they could deliver my baby** 😂😂😂. My midwife and my nurses were awesome and my OBGYN surgeon ended up being awesome too. Every time I look at my scar I realize that if we had been in the hospital even 20 years earlier, But Definitely 50-100 years ago I DEFINITELY would be dead. THANKS DR. G ROD. We appreciate you!

[@KS-zc4jn]

Three days in labor AFTER your water broke. I was told that once your water breaks, you are on the clock and only have 24 hours to birth your baby or a C-section would be done.

[@zoecoote3746]

So much of this happens, it’s extraordinarily serious and yet woman are considered complainers when they have ptsd after childbirth .

[@JennAmazed]

​@@KS-zc4jnthat's the way they do it these days. 24 hours after breaking waters the baby is delivered because of risk of infection.

[@KS-zc4jn]

@@JennAmazed Right. That's exactly what they told me. I was just surprised hearing that poor lady was in labor for that long after her water broke. Yikes!

[@angelgarner1767]

I had my daughter at Lancaster General Hospital and I love the delivery team ! One of the best hospital to deliver a baby

[@graysonsjourney5420]

My great grandma was a midwife back in the early 1900s in their small town on the coast of NC. She went to the farms and delivered babies of most people in my grandma's generation of that town.

[@mariemedina257]

Thanks Bailey😮!! When i had my Daughter in the delivery room back in 1973. I was on the table. and the JACKAS NURSE straps my wrist and ankles down.i fought with them i said i am not going to jump off this f###% table, after this experience i never had any other children.😢

[@mariemedina257]

P.S. I wrote about my delivery and then you said that laid the pregnant women on a table and strapped them. I would tell my friends and family members do not have your baby at this hospital and do not let them strap you down fight. Also my daughter was born with two bottom teeth at Birth

[@desireeadams1261]

I’m so sorry your experience was so horrible 💔

[@checkoutchick9023]

I had a traumatic labour and delivery almost 30 years ago... My Son is an only child!!

[@ilikecereal__]

Totally choked on my coffee in front of all of my coworkers when I heard baileys rhyme for Aristotles theory 😂

[@ShannonWaitas]

My cousin was paralyzed from the neck down from my aunt's doctor using forceps. My Dad's face was partially paralyzed for the same reason. When I had my children, I refused to let my doctor use them.

[@MsAleje4]

That's still something that they do?

[@jartisteobscure3992]

​@@MsAleje4Yes...you may have the option to refuse depending on where you live

[@ShannonWaitas]

As of my last child being born in 2016, yes. I refuse to let anyone use them. But without knowing how dangerous they can be, it's not something that's thought about.

[@lirosespurposefullove5422]

I know a few people who were messed up by forceps.

[@strawberrycherrybaby]

@@jartisteobscure3992you can refuse regardless of location. They can’t force it.

[@abbers9542]

I gave birth in a hosptial in 2021. I had a truamatic experience, and later when reviewing my medical records learned the doctor lied about what occurred during my birth in my records. After this discovery, I decided for my second pregnancy I would give birth in a birthing center with midwives. Those women were so incredible. They cared about my birth experience so much. My second delivery was everything I could have wanted and more. I urge any pregnant woman to at least tour their local birthing center and consider it for your delivery.

[@kairahjones6889]

as a labor and delivery nurse I have never clicked on a video so fast!!! thank you for doing this QUEEN

[@Mellief]

I almost died after having my son from a postpartum haemorrhage and ended up having an emergency hysterectomy

[@amberrose111]

I'm 28yo and 18 weeks pregnant right now with my first child... I am super scared of child birth. But more scared of American hospitals and doctors. I hired a group of midwives and am planning a home birth this August.

[@bridgetthenry7795]

You got this!!!! Wishing you the best and fast labor!

[@rachelbrzoznowski4816]

You got this. I just had a home birth.

[@Seiko__o-]

I’m considering this for my future, I’m in Japan and I’m sure I don’t need to explain the misogyny within hospitals here, I’m so worried I’ll have no freedom in a hospital.

[@Silver-cl2bd]

You had that kid yet?

[@axolotl195]

I hope it went well it went well and you have a healthy baby!

[@danielleschoenberger2948]

Hi Bailey, I just wanted to say I've been a huge fan of yours for a couple years now. I just got cochlear implant on my right ear so I been listening to your voice to train my brain to understand speech. Love you B! ❤❤❤

[@petraegri8636]

Hi Bailey a few fact checks quickly. Queen Charlotte was actually the one who brought Christmas tree into the UK. And you accidently said the middel ages while you where talking bout Queen Viktoria that is almost 500 years later! Great video keep bringing us dark history stories please!

[@RehanaRehana-o4p]

The quality of your True Crime KZbin series is unparalleled, weaving compelling narratives with insightful analysis effortlessly. Your unwavering dedication and professionalism establish a benchmark within the genre. Heartfelt appreciation for your exceptional contributions, eagerly anticipating your next captivating installment.

[@larissababbitt1902]

I almost died giving birth with my second. I went to the hospital 5 days in a row saying something was wrong. On the 5th day i went in and told them I am going to die. I feel it. I probably had 20 minutes left. And they finally tool me seriously and performing an emergency c-section. I was in the hospital for 7 days afterward because i got a staf infection from a bi-weekly check. So, yeah it's not great every time.

[@Sakura71390]

Infection from a cervical check?

[@coriarose3811]

​@@Sakura71390commenting to see what else to be scared of 👀

[@kimdunn3402]

Midwife birth here! Through our local university program. Still had a hospital birth, with the midwife present, guiding my husband through the process. So he delivered our daughter under their supervision. Nurses were present in case we needed anything, I also had a Doula at home that was hustling for me all evening. massage, aroma therapy, and just monitoring me until we got to the hospital and delivered.

[@lexinorris9611]

As a healthcare worker, I’ve heard a Dr (not OBGYN, but still a Dr ) blame their patient for something that is in their control to fix. (A fixable complication) “Preventable deaths due to diabetes, etc….” I heard “not my fault, they weren’t perfectly healthy.” 😡

[@NCollins86]

Glad I'm not the only one who has NO DESIRE to have kids!! "I'll get a puppy." 😂

[@jazmineedwards6791]

Love that you covered this topic and the way you did it 🔥🔥

[@AmbitiouslyVicious]

The way Bailey read the mothers wills had me cracking tf up. 😂❤ the voice over was PERFECT! Really set the mood.

[@o0BlackSand0o]

Midwives are the norm here in Australia. Most of the gyno doctors are male but the midwives are all female. With my first both he and I nearly died. I came to to find 3 midwives, two female gynos, and 4 male paediatricians in the room. All of this because no one listened when at 16 weeks I said I was getting pain in my ribs on one side. I still had the pain a month post birth and my gp, who I hadn't brought the pain up to, instantly worked out I had gallstones from where I put my hand. He couldn't believe that 6 midwives, 4 (male) gynos, and 5 ultrasound techs didn't question it

[@samanthasilver3186]

In the UK we do have midwives, the doctors are usually for high risk pregnancy's only. We are also told to listen to our instincts and bodies and to go to the hospital if we have any concerns.

[@stephanietracey6721]

As a birth center midwife, I really appreciate this video! Thank you!

[@Chickennuggetdoody_]

As someone who is doing medicine history as a gcse at the moment, hearing barber surgeons actually brings me joy. Then medicine topic is so interesting to me. I literally went on a hour rant to my mam about it because she mentioned penicillin 💔

[@Lisa-sq3zl]

This episode is gold. Bravo. I've been saying "boooo" audibly to these dudes 😆.

[@samnslider]

I think the big reason that you still give birth on your back is because of epidurals. When you have an epidural you cant bare weight on your legs. When i was in birthing class, that the hospital provided for free, they said that being on all fours or squatting was the most comfortable. But if you get an epidural you have to remain on your back. Anyways..... LOVE YOU BAILEY!!! Always look forward to your videos

[@MessageViolation]

You'd think if you couldn't stand, they'd have a special squatting station chair. In ancient times, two people would hold you up while squatting. You'd think someone would have invented a special padded chair that could freefall your legs and apply body weight elsewhere. I mean, we have massage tables and what-not. Maybe a chair that has padded armpits and straps. Maybe an inventor will come up with one and change the course of history.

[@zoecoote3746]

If that’s the case why do they get women to lay on their backs that aren’t having epidurals?

[@samnslider]

@@zoecoote3746 🤷‍♀ dont know that they can lay another way? All I can comment on is my personal experience.

[@nataliemcd9318]

I was actually able to get on my hands and knees while I had my epidural. My midwife and a nurse said they would have to roll me and hold me up, and before they could even finish speaking I was doing it myself. She said "OH, alright then!"

[@tiffanietaylor9128]

I had a Dr. during my first pregnancy who neglected my worries and concerns. Well I ended up having a full placental abruption at 36 weeks. I almost died and it was so traumatic. This all happened in 2021. I now see the dr who saved me and my son for my second baby. Always listen to yourself and do not let your dr neglect your worries and needs because it can be deadly!

[@destininewby8837]

Ive had 4 c sections and my arms were strapped to the be every time. Being numb from half your back down and arms strapped talk about clostapobic.

[@melissafriel5311]

I needed surgery 3x because my GA obgyn was incompetent. Insisted I give birth laying down, tore all of my muscle and flesh. Then I bled all my blood. Couldn’t sue because baby was fine. So no lawyer would take my case.

[@PathologicallyIncurious]

I’m so sorry 😢

[@professionalinsomniac8338]

What does the baby’s condition have to do with your own? Warped logic…

[@kathernandez6682]

When I had my first baby at 19 I had THE WORST experience. My daughter is 16 now but it was wild the way that man doctor talked to me and even threatened me. I was just a kid myself and he made it so traumatizing and hard. He even threatened to cut me open with no anesthesia. Awful awful time!

[@jkwellness1639]

Ooooh! 😠 😡 This makes me so mad for you. If you are in nj my family is in law. I'd love to help you get justice.

[@kathernandez6682]

@@jkwellness1639 thank you so much I appreciate the support I’m in North Carolina!

[@jkwellness1639]

@kathernandez6682 I'm in New Jersey. Thank you for sharing your experience I'm so sorry you had to go through that

[@kelleydeclue4100]

I am so sorry for your experience, if they have no ability to help patients, why they become doctors?$$$$$ that's what it all comes down too!

[@kelleydeclue4100]

@@kathernandez6682 really? I used to live in North Carolina with my former husband. What part of North Carolina are you from? I lived in Trinity North Carolina

[@candacelfuller]

I am American and have had lovely deliveries in Malaysia and Paraguay. I would NEVER give birth in the USA. So many horror stories even from my friends there.

[@ceara253]

I was one of those women who almost died during childbirth. I was 15 when I gave birth to my first kid, and I had preeclampsia, and I lost so much blood that they told my mom that she had to choose between me and her grandchild and because we were black like my mom like was not having that like she put her foot down and said you’re going to say both both of them and I will say I was lucky that with my other children, I had midwives and a delivery room in the hospital, and the experience was so much nicer, with my last kid, I laid on my side and pushed out instead of laying on my back and it was so peaceful and it was better than the actual doctor

[@El-aitch]

The AMA did a smear campaign on chiropractic care as well. I wonder how dark the history is on chiropractic practicing.

[@alexahumphreys3126]

Come to Portugal Bailey! I am from the US and immigrated here almost 5 years ago. Best decision ever. Happy to help you get set up ☺️

[@blondee0784]

Sweet Bailey, I can tell by your voice that you are sick. I wanted to thank you for still putting in the work and giving us wonderful videos every week! I listen to you every Friday while I do my bill pay for the week at my job. Not sure I could get through all that without you! ❤

[@jkwellness1639]

My friend had severe dental problems during her pregnancies. Something with the baby taking the calcium and other vitamins nutrients etc. Yeah, pregnancy is super dangerous. The antichoice people be like "just push it out for someone else." But what if you and the baby don't even survive?

[@lilmisskiss692003]

friend of mine has dentures in her 30s because of pregnancy

[@nataliemcd9318]

Yup, your body sends all of those nutrients to the fetus in order for them to develop. I became extremely anemic during my pregnancy, and had constant low BP issues. That's why prenatal vitamins and extra supplements are so important during pregnancy.

[@sunflower-gj7jk]

Exactly! It can mean death still for us.

[@louiseinglis2509]

In Scotland here, its free, you get a baby box with essentials for the new baby, the box can be used as a cot too. Also it's fully midwife led, you get assigned a midwife when you find out your pregnant and they follow you all the way through to birth and after ❤

[@JessicaCheape]

Hypnobirthing really helped me on my birthing journey and the stories of how ancestors used gravity to help a natural process. 🙏

[@siljenordas7793]

I live in Norway, and here the midwives are employed by the hospital. Doctors and surgeons only come in during emergencies. The only thing I paid for? Parking

[@emic3536]

LMy birthing experience in 2018 was difficult. I refused the male doctor's invasive approach, which made me uncomfortable. Moving forward, I plan to work with a midwife and reconsider the necessity of hospital check-ups and meetings that may not align with my preferences.

[@jessicarizzo227]

Actually, barbershop quartets originated during this time. They would sing in the waiting room to mask the screaming of the people being operated on in the next room and help calm the nerves of the people waiting to be operated on next.

[@jj118.]

As a student midwife, this was honestly fascinating. I learnt so much! I’m in awe of the amount of research you had to do for this episode. Thank you!

[@amandadunning8701]

What a great video!! I'm in Canada and both of my births were great, but also very different. My first (born in 2006) I had a OB/GYN and delivered in the hospital, it went well but I actually had a nurse deliver my baby because the doctor was busy with a forceps delivery. The nurse brought me a mirror so I could see my baby coming out and a bar to use as leverage so I could push in a squatting position and yes it is much easier when using a gravity assist. We stayed in the hospital for a couple of days before going home, I had to drive to my doctors office (with a newborn) for the well checks. My second (2013) I went with a Midwife because attitudes had changed. It went so fast that we had to call the ambulance and the paramedics delivered him in my house. Again, I was able to push in whatever position was the most comfortable for me. We went to the hospital to meet up with my Midwife to do the well checks and then went home about an hour later. For the next 6 weeks one of my Midwives would come to my house to check on us. All of this care cost me nothing! I love Canada so much. If you're thinking of somewhere to go with better care for women I would highly suggest Canada, it's not perfect but we're doing alright in that department. :D

[@cassandraolivarez]

A mom here...childbirth was scary. Oh the pain and frustration. I had a scheduled c section and went in with no worries and as soon as I saw the nurses and the doctors I lost it. I was so nervous. Idk if I would do it again. The pain after and scar you're left with is wild.

[@strawberrycherrybaby]

The fact that they have to cut the scar open for another c section, I decided I wouldn’t have additional kids if I had a c section previously. Through sheer dumb luck I got two uncomplicated vaginal deliveries. I recovery for a c section is insane too, and I definitely think it’s harder than an average vaginal birth recovery.

[@barbaraaly6186]

I had a C-section 9 months ago. The incision site is numb sometimes then extremely painful at other times.

[@naomiboard6783]

It's evem more traumatizing when they don't warn you that they will strap your arms and legs down for a c-section. And the pain afterwards... I learned through tests that my body only metabolizes 10% of medications like ibuprofen, so when I said I was still in pain - I really was!

[@cassandraolivarez]

@@naomiboard6783 I remember the nurses put heavy blankets on my arms cause I was moving them when I was on the epidural and they were in my stomach getting my son out. 😨

[@nataliemcd9318]

​@@cassandraolivarez I was still wiggling my feet and toes and borderline panicking right before they began to cut me open.

[@marydonaldson347]

I can’t believe America doesn’t have midwives! Australia has hospitals filled with them.

[@jenniferdixon7647]

I love that you say birth isn’t an illness. On my medical records for all my pregnancy’s it says “resolved” after I give birth. Like what do you mean resolved??? 🤣

[@kimebopper]

I’ve had 4 safe births in hospital; One came so fast that the dr had to catch him and he spent a day in the nic unit: he’s 20 today! Do whatever you feel best about but if things go south a hospital has a lot more options than home

[@cannibalamoebas]

I am someone who had two high risk births and would have died 100 y3ars ago. My first child was frank breech so we would have both died had it not been for a c section. My second child I labored for 14 hours and physically tried pushing for 4 hours. I was hemorrhaging and went on oxygen multiple times, and had to sign documents that said if I had to go into emergency c section I was looking at a mortality risk of around 80%. I grabbed the back of my delivery bed and squatted and got him out. I would have died if I tried to deliver at home or in ancient times. Child birth is still very high risk and dangerous, which is just another great reason that birth control and abortion should be accessible to any woman. Period

[@TEDOGIRL02]

@@cannibalamoebasI’m glad you got through all that. Breech is a variation of normal tho, and midwives are trained in them. Drs aren’t, so they turn to cesarean. One of the midwives/doulas I learned from had 11 home births. Her very 1st child was a breech baby and she wasn’t about to go to a hospital for it. She said it’s her most memorable and the others after were smooth and easy. I really hope more drs learn breech delivery. Were you medicated and on your back for your other births? I’m glad you squatted that one baby out. Spinning babies helps with those advanced positions and techniques.

[@courtneyreneeharris1264]

I had my baby in June in a birthing center with midwives and a doula with no meds and it was a beautiful, empowering experience. I feel awful about all of these mothers who experience traumatic births.

[@zoecoote3746]

You were very lucky. Birth is not beautiful for many people. I hope all your births are blessed like this ❤️

[@cortney8493]

Must be nice. 🙄

[@zoeywilliams8945]

While having mine I tried all different positions. My baby was facing the wrong way(she faced my back), so labor was painful, and all in my back. All fours helped with pain, but I couldn't push. Sitting like a chair helped a lot, but ultimately, on my back in a diagonal, I got her out

[@AnneMolly56]

Bailey, please make an episode about Funerals, wakes, graveyards, and cremation??