Shave Your Head and Get in the Closet: Dark History of Marriage

Hi Friends, happy Thursday!
Welcome to the Dark History podcast. We’re going to the chapel and we’re going to get married! But it’s not all pretty dresses and delicious cake (mmmmmm cake). In fact, a lot of the wedding traditions that we hold near and dear have a pretty dark past. In today’s episode we’ll find out why we kiss the bride, why the father gives the bride away, why bridesmaids exist and what’s with their matching dresses, and why the garter toss is even a thing.
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Chapters:
INTRO - 00:00
BABYLONIANS DID IT FIRST - 04:05
A BRIDAL RETURN POLICY - 10:15
BIG FAT (ANCIENT) GREEK WEDDING - 15:55
THIS IS SPARTA - 19:24
THE ROMAN’S POWER PLAY - 26:48
KISS YOUR BRIDE THEN SMASH CAKE ON HER HEAD - 30:37
LANDLORD=MATCHMAKER - 37:42
A MEDICI MARRIAGE - 43:03
DIAMONDS ARE FOREVER - 47:22
WHAT HAPPENS IN VEGAS - 54:06
CONCLUSION - 56:04
Dark History is an Audioboom Original.
This podcast is Executive Produced by:
Bailey Sarian, Kim Jacobs, Dunia McNeily from 3arts, Kevin Grosch, and Claire Turner From Made In Network
Writers: Katie Burris, Allyson Philobos, Joey Scavuzzo and Bailey Sarian
Research provided by: Regina Dolza and Xander Ellmore
Special thank you to Historical Consultants: Vicki Howard
Shot By: Tafadzwa Nemarundwe
Edited by: Tafadzwa Nemarundwe
Post Supervisor: Kelly Hardin
Production Management: Ross Woodruff
Hair: Angel Gonzalez
Makeup: Jill Powell
I'm your host -- Bailey Sarian

[@freddie488]

I'd love to see Bailey tackle children's stories - Disney, Grimm, Christian Anderson, etc.

[@AN36]

When I was getting my degree to become a teacher I actually took a class about children's literature and the history of it. It was really fascinating!

[@caitlynguthrie5641]

Aesop’s Fables

[@lillibenton9715]

can this comment get more 👍 please!

[@michaelahesketh5719]

That would be awesome!!

[@pri.sci.lla.]

Yes that would be great! Disney has stolen so many of the Grimm stories and changed them to much

[@AlyKat.]

Bailey: "they would chase her around in the pitch black" Me: "yikes, sounds terrifying/traumatizing" Bailey: "yeah, idk. It sounds kinda hot. idk"

[@raveneyes7191]

Shes not wrong 😂

[@mels2702]

“She brokey, no workey.” 😂😂😂 that’s awesome.

[@suzimonkey345]

🤣😂🤣😂🤣

[@kimberlyelliott7933]

🤣🤣🤣

[@keyasday7910]

Same 😅

[@GHOST_BuR]

Still dying 12 minutes after😂😂

[@Gossipbubble]

😂😂😂

[@shanerifficc]

FINALLY someone who feels the same way about the cringey activities at weddings. Why can’t it just be a giant party with everyone we love? 😂

[@Jpev2022]

I'd prefer small intimate weddings with the two families and close friends. I think the cringe-y weddings and activities are due to having too many random ppl there and everyone is nervous. Then it just gets weird and cringe-y. LOL.

[@ohmyquadfpv6648]

The secret is most people think they are cringe. Idk the weird people who keep these going.

[@deisycervantes9092]

Agree 😂😂😂

[@jennagreer2659]

Literally my wedding. We didn’t do any traditions that didn’t mean something personal to us. No garter toss, no bouquet toss, my Dad walked me part way down the aisle, no rice throwing, no cake smashing…. It was just a giant fun party with all our favorite people, food, and games and bounce house for the kids so they wouldn’t get bored! We bounced too though😜

[@laurenkay9292]

Eloped at the courthouse and have 0 regrets lol.

[@frickusernames]

I wanted Bailey to do marriage but figured it was too broad. I am so glad she covered it! Dark History really is the first time I've considered myself to be interested in history!

[@maryjane4432]

Same for me

[@gaiaswildchildtarot]

Same here 🥲

[@meglyda2219]

💯

[@dazanii]

History is fun once you do away with the idea of only paying attention to specific dates and rich white dudes like how they do it school, lol

[@epefania]

“That’s what we do best ladies. Bring in shame to the family.” Amen.

[@ashleyhenderson8613]

You'll probably never see this but as I was scrolling your video to pick my night time routine video, my 10 year old daughter saw the thumbnail for this video and went " mom, what disney princess is that? I've never seen her movie before, she's so pretty". It melted my heart

[@cherylmaden5989]

Bailey is our princess

[@candycanelover101]

Aw that’s so sweet

[@qo4914]

🌚🌚

[@arditasopa1688]

The KZbin princess👑

[@sheliahutcherson168]

This history on weddings just made me feel even better about our choice of just going to the courthouse and getting married 50 years ago😊❤.

[@cchastee0614]

I literally called my dad after watching this and told him "you know how you regret not making out little shindig (courthouse marriage) .. it's OK that you did bc I don't want to be given away as a transaction" 😅😭 So I'm right there with you ! Lol

[@jasminejanelle1228]

Another sad truth is that they had to repopulate that early because their life expectancy was our equivalent to 21 years old…what a world.

[@cherylmaden5989]

U are right

[@baylorsailor]

My husband and I also went to the court house. We had a big party a few months later. Easy peasy.

[@puddin12dt]

You should DEFINITELY do a Dark History of Diamonds, that could be a 3-parter, so much juicy history there. 💎💍

[@katelyns419]

Blood diamond!

[@samanthastikeleather4521]

she has to include jewels coming from a fallen angel ❤

[@TheRumours13]

Diamonds, mica, general slaves and child labour today.

[@nvm5016]

True... I don't want diamond. I want either rose quarts, amethyst, or black tourmaline. My christan grandparents are gonna be shook after my wedding. Nothing is gonna be like the traditional wedding.

[@larenahernandez3995]

@@katelyns419 Came here just to say this!

[@WinewithKadz]

Bailey is honestly the best storyteller to exist. I'm excited whenever she posts.. so happy to see how much this channel has grown too! 🇯🇲❤️

[@anitaramirez4427]

Yes! I've been following since she was around 50k! So crazy!!

[@mariewhoo7616]

Yes!!! She literally makes me laugh out loud the ENTIRE video! And that’s rare for me 😂

[@RedHotMessResell]

Yes she’s my favorite woman storyteller. And Mr. Ballen is the best male one imo. Just comes so easy to them.

[@mercedezz]

Best storyteller and best KZbinr 💯 Infact imma go buy me some merch RIGHT NOW!

[@gray8916]

So true!!

[@Olga-ph3ur]

I was watching this with my husband nearby and when you said "This is Olga, she's beautiful if you squint hard enough, and if you take her you get this cash bonus!" My husband goes, where is my cash bonus? 😭😂

[@xxxKida-Himexxx]

😂😂😂

[@Stephaniefarrah]

🤣

[@jettsetgirl]

😂😂Is he still alive ? My husband half listens & then interrupts and asks me questions- I took his phone & hit subscribe 😂😂 - Let him watch on his time ..and he does cuz now he says That’s Suspish 😂

[@allysondenton.5673]

i was like that’s kinda mean but then i saw your username

[@janaskibo871]

Oh my goodness. Doghouse or couch? LOL

[@hollyadams6252]

The story I heard is that, since Spartan men weren't allowed to live with their wives until they were in their 30s, and started training at about 7, they had only ever really been around men. So some historians think that the hair shaving and men's clothes was supposed to ease the men into heterosexuality.

[@karentalbot5798]

Wow!

[@kassandraanderson6742]

I was looking for this in the comments lol I understood the shaving and clothes was entirely to ease them into heterosexual relationship and homosexual relationship wasn't frowned on, just if you were the femme one. 🤷🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️ History. 🤷🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️

[@malikawatkins30]

10 months late but wow! I never heard this but it makes soooooo much sense.

[@thesacredbombshell]

That's exactly it---- heard this years ago.

[@marywieland795]

would you ever do the dark history of hazing in colleges? it’d be so interesting!

[@lisaswanson7442]

My Fathers brother died at USC due to hazing. The story is really sad. They killed him. The movie Fraternity Row was loosely based on what happened.

[@chanelfitzgerald]

I am not American and have always been fascinated with hazing and why Americans do it.

[@aliigatorwine]

I’ve never known why they do hazing!

[@Vikki_G_]

Hazing??

[@PamelaH_HappyVibes]

@@Vikki_G_ - hazing is done colleges (and other organizations) in the US. It’s were the newest people have to go through an initiation. They have to do humiliating things. It’s very harmful and people get really hurt or die. It needs to be made illegal.

[@mayamiles1130]

"that's what we do best ladies, bringing shame to the family" 😂 a word

[@Buggle7619]

Needs a t shirt with this!

[@tracynorth2275]

😂

[@greengal2063]

I'm getting married at the courthouse next month and I've never been more excited to NOT be doing all of those traditions!

[@TheKayCore]

got married at our equivalent to this, after watching this, kinda happy i did

[@onecuet]

Save the money for a comfy home. You don't want to start out a marriage in huge debt. Congrats on your upcoming nuptials 💒

[@evelinaz1548]

yeah im gonna be having a regular wedding (ceremony & reception with everyone) but also v excited to not be doing all those traditional things haha tbh i havent known anyone in so long to actually do them though, i thin it's very.... boomer-esque?

[@InsaneLaughter01]

…..you are literally getting married. That is THE tradition.

[@tat2mytoes]

5 months later congratulations on the marriage ❤

[@1animefreak4u]

Kinda wish she talked about some of the old pagan wedding traditions! So many cool things and pretty sure it's where "tie the knot" comes from

[@felishatiepner5545]

🙌

[@Synfulz.]

It is because Christianity comes from paganism.

[@perrydixon344]

tying the knot... a Celtic tradition... the bride and groom would hold hands.. the person officiating the joining would tie their hands together.. the bound couple would then walk through an arch... signifying a new life together.

[@cdfranklin1599]

"Lets say you're a lady who loves another lady, you love an Arby's sandwich" I about died. 😂🤣😂🤣

[@bagarozzi927]

Me to!!!

[@kelliesaunders4905]

Roast beef 🤣🤣🤣

[@vjquiles147]

I had to pause the video for second. 😂

[@dorindadouglas2847]

Same! 🤣

[@starboggle]

I'm sorry, I don't understand this. Someone please explain it to me.

[@_SerenityBlooms]

The fact that the men thought it was a woman’s fault that they didn’t get pregnant is just mind blowing 😂.

[@Nat-ff9wr]

Right?! I wonder is these men tried to get many women pregnant and they never got knocked up. So they still thought it was the women's fault or did they ever think maybe it was on them? Plus, some people's dna just doesn't mesh.

[@inthelandofmorethansmall7582]

Seriously? That blows your mind? Why? Plenty of women can't get pregnant today. It was far more back then. Infertility is a huge issue for many women. So they weren't wrong. Ntm, many women didn't WANT to get pregnant. The risk of death during childbirth was super high. So ... how does it blow your mind that people believed something that is true in many ways?

[@cheetahlover156]

@@inthelandofmorethansmall7582 they meant that men never considered themselves the problem, like perhaps it was men who were infertile

[@Nat-ff9wr]

@@inthelandofmorethansmall7582 re-read Amanda's comment because you obviously didn't comprehend what was written.

[@inthelandofmorethansmall7582]

@@Nat-ff9wr No... I definitely read it properly. Perhaps she MEANT it in a different way. But she LITERALLY SAID: It blows my mind that men blamed the women for not getting pregnant. Which is exactly what I replied to. Are there other words in her comment that only you can read? Bc my reading comprehension is fantastic.

[@Lauren-7777]

She is proficient in sarcasm I thought it wasn't possible to get this level and I just can resist my ears are beyond happy to hear her.

[@_se3_thru9h_9]

As Monroe from Grimm said: ‘A wedding is SUPPOSED to be overwhelming so you don’t want to do it again!’

[@Diarrheagod]

That must be why people only ever get married once

[@MissMeggarz142]

Bailey seems rejuvenated thanks to her break. I love how she makes you feel like she is your one cool friend that is going to educate AND entertain you. Bailey is MAGIC! 💜💐💐🌈

[@thoahxbzjsn6610]

Yes

[@nyclady27]

I still feel her disappointment. But... 😔🌹☘ I eloped! That, and a couple of other choices I've made, and although a young women of 22, I didn't have a clue about marriage! I still don't and we've been married for decades. 👍 ☮ 😱

[@steffiew6935]

I love when Bailey says ‘exspecially’ because she is so consistent with saying it wrong. It makes me smile. I say ‘excsape’ wrong every time.

[@PiXie232]

It is super cute:)

[@coco-cliveasmrgenealogy6171]

I say yacht wrong and economy wrong

[@adeleennis2255]

I double majored in history and women’s studies because I wanted her story too.

[@sabrinacochran9808]

Love this ❤

[@marielledelaine]

Thank you for saying weddings are Cringe at every corner! That totally explains how I feel about them! I have felt so..... blech, uncomfortable, whatever, about weddings for years now. It's not because I'm single and bitter LOL it's really just.... a huge pointless and expensive performance for WHO?! I have seen a few of these performances and those folks are already divorced so i'm just like..... why...?..... but thanks for the food and drinks!

[@Loralanthalas]

Exactly

[@Diarrheagod]

People have big egos and just wanna live the fantasy of being a celebrity for a day

[@erinhansen614]

It's for your guests silly

[@Dazed.confused]

You know what I’d actually really love to see you do on dark history? The dark stories behind the Disney princesse’s stories! I think that would be a fun episode. A lot of classic Disney princess movies are based off of true stories and most of them are dark, but I’d love to see Bailey cover them because I haven’t looked into them enough my self to have a clue about a single one however I’ve remained very curious 😭

[@berthaschwarze6704]

Oh yes the original stories are grim. No pun intended. But the original mostly Grimm brothers stories are DARK. And they already lighted them up. The little mermaid original has haunted me. My grandma has a book full of the originals and I am traumatised

[@datheamore6395]

Pocahontas, Snow White, Sleeping Beauty, Mulan, Beauty and the Beast... all rather dark origins. Sleeping Beauty and Mulan were always fiction, but the stories have been bastardized over time.

[@AllTheHappySquirrels]

This could be a whole season of episodes! 🤯

[@rachelellis8416]

Yes!!

[@jodeemackenzie]

Yesss!

[@lehannaallen]

My partner and I thought it would be fun to have a "We are each other's Emergency Contact" party.

[@tironnarexxmorriss2883]

Love this idea

[@elaic19]

Love that lol

[@amy-leacoopertwiggyvonlea8969]

amazing lol

[@candacecasey5222]

Lol

[@Wynter_Heat]

@9:50 after marriage she is no longer “a VEIL able” 🤣🤭 great line 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@verbinrain]

Me over here: “Babylon sounds like OG Handmaid’s Tale.” Bailey: “you know, like Handmaid’s Tale. And if the wife was caught cheating, she and her lover were bound together and thrown in a river.” Me: “ALSO LIKE HANDMAID’S TALE!”

[@ashleyhuze]

“Cringe around every corner..”😂😂😂 lol I’ve never really thought about it but you’re right! me & my husband eloped and didn’t even tell our fam🫣 total cost was $50 to sign our license 🙃

[@bethcraig5206]

Absolutely loving dark history, Bailey really genuinely seems to be enjoying herself now

[@sfspurri]

Agree!! They finally gave Bailey the freedom to be Bailey and haven’t overly produced her. This is the Bailey we all have known and loved and I’m glad they realized there’s more than just her name for why we watch her! 💕

[@chanelfitzgerald]

Really enjoyed this week too. I haven't watched many lately but definitely back on it.

[@constanzaesposito6333]

Feeling the same there was really a time where she did the job was funny but over the top funny and it seemed masked. Now she kinda got over that. I love her!

[@britnysnyder4991]

Was she not enjoying herself at one point? Or what do you mean? Lol

[@constanzaesposito6333]

@@britnysnyder4991 yea I really felt like she was kinda just doing it because that's her job now. Tried to be funny and all but it wasn't really her, some mikro expressions gave that away. And now she really is in the tea having fun looking really destressed and happy

[@kadysousa5678]

I’m dying laughing at the thought of these Spartans chasing each other around a dark room 😂

[@coleenfrancisify]

hahaha ur not the only one!

[@Theivoryparadox]

Bailey! If those are Dark History Jammies go ahead and make those available so you can take my money.😅 So cute

[@britt9861]

"That's what we do best ladies...bring shame to the family" 😂😂

[@berthaschwarze6704]

Female history in one sentence

[@leahflower9924]

True lol

[@angelamurphy4938]

We ate the apple that started it all....

[@karmica7591]

Favorite new quote. We nasty ladies.

[@flyingfig12]

@@angelamurphy4938 what do they expect.. they started off as a man's rib after all.

[@hannahquinteroart]

One historical account that Bailey should look into which is pretty dark is regarding the Pied Piper of Hamlin. At least 100-200 children disappeared under mysterious circumstances.

[@rainbowduck4496]

All of these facts aside, its so much more important to be on the same page as the person you're with. If one of you wants a big wedding but the other couldn't care less and would be happy to elope in a McDonald's you're going to clash badly.

[@LdyJezabel]

You could do a series when it comes to weddings. So many different cultures do different and strange things for weddings. Not mention the ones where they marry the entire family. I did enjoy this episode.

[@stephaniekeeler1924]

I got married in a backyard and handmade everything, from decor to my wedding dress. My mom's husband made all the food, me and my mom made benchs and tables (and sold them after the wedding) and my sister in law did the photography. Cost like $1500 after selling the table sets 🥰 And my ring wasn't a 'wedding ring' it was a black stone (my fav) and like $400 lol.

[@wolfiesasha887]

That's so cute 🥰

[@cjofloorish]

The best wedding!

[@Chefnxss]

That sounds so wonderful!! And way more meaningful

[@b.a.j5168]

Yes!!!!! Mine was definitely a community effort... it was perfect 🥰

[@cassandrarudolph1307]

I seen bench dyi very creative way to make things U thought smart how to save $ So many go out and spend thousands on 1 day of a event. Sure it’s important but I can’t see spending over $10.000 on one day! Those benches must of been upper nice

[@milyorozco1196]

Hahahaha between "the dark room sounds pretty hot" and "nuts to your face", I'm dying. Great dark history video like always ♡

[@PiXie232]

The nuts to the face had me dying too lol😂😂😂

[@katryd9295]

I got married two years ago during COVID and we kept it small. We did the dress, my sisters were bridesmaids, and we had a friend make us cheesecakes rather than a big wedding cake. It was more intimate and personal and we were with our nearest and dearest family members and friends. We even wanted that before COVID. We didn’t want to do the bouquet toss or the garter. We didn’t have a big dance party (just a friend with a speaker set up playing violin versions of popular music). And it was the best day ever. I’m hoping to see more of a trend that direction because for me, a lot of wanting a smaller wedding was because of cost and the icky consumerism of it all. And it ended up being absolutely perfect for us. Also-with what you said about Vegas weddings-I’d say it’s the same case with courthouse weddings too, which is so sad because those weddings can be incredibly sweet and intimate too.

[@waterlily2743]

I literally had a courthouse wedding we got our marriage license and then scheduled an appointment to have a judge sign it off. The judge was actually happy he really loved doing weddings, He said it was a nice break from the divorce proceedings.

[@InsaneLaughter01]

As long as folks treat marriage like a trend, there will always be divorces. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@Synfulz.]

@@InsaneLaughter01Liturally this!!! I know people who get engaged to every partner and it lasts a year and there ends up being no wedding. I’ve never had that nor would I want anyone to propose so early on it’s just strange and pointless and a desp attempt of commitment. lol 😂” take this ring now u have promised not to cheat” like a ring has stopped someone cheating.

[@bethwadeson9527]

My third marriage, yes my third marriage, was at a county clerk's office and my mother who had severe dementia was my witness 🤣. We are still actually married and four times longer than either of my first two marriages. My advice is wait till you're older to do that stuff. Life is crazy🤗

[@nonniperkl6273]

My parents got married on a whole another continent fron their home with two Chinese dudes as their witnesses. Went to mcdonalds for lunch afterwards. They had their silver anniversary few years ago

[@faylinameir]

I got married at 16 at a court house. Still together almost 20 years later. 😊

[@tammyjoseph2417]

My ten marriage

[@crazedmom23]

My second marriage was in 1999 and we're still hanging on. Lol....We drove to Memphis and got married at Justice of the Peace then went to McDonald's to eat. Lol. I did the whole fancy wedding thing with the first wedding and it lasted 5 years.

[@gigijerrie322]

Agreed

[@katienunez1340]

Joan makes such a beautiful blushing bride! I wish her and Paul all the happiness in the world.

[@nicolebrown1927]

I love me some Joan!💙😁

[@RowanWarren78]

Absolute cutie-patootie!!

[@marinamelo1246]

Hey Bailey just thought I'd let you know the true origin of the word "history", even though His Story fits like a glove, it comes from historía (Ancient Greek: ἱστορία, romanized: historíā) meaning to inquire or to judge 😊 Have a great day and keep teaching us more!

[@dpzamora11]

My brother is getting married next weekend and I’m half tempted to share this with him just for fun 😂😂😂

[@mamallama826]

Did you? 🤣

[@user-rq3yh9ew8l]

Yeah did you?!?!

[@aubedawn2]

Giving a diamond as an engagement ring is also rooted back to medieval times when they believed different stones held different powers of protection (described in their medical textbooks called "lapidaries"). Emeralds, for example, protected against poison, and pearls could prevent heart failure, etc etc. The diamond was believed to be the catch-all, be-all of stones, believing that it was the best overall stone to protect against most myriad of things, so to gift your new bride a diamond was to say that you were trying to protect her from most harm that could come her way.

[@evelinaz1548]

this is so interesting!! literally only thought that came about because of the debeers

[@LadyPictureShowMedia]

i seriously got an awesome one! it may make a pretty necklace one day!!!! jk

[@greeranelson]

Yesssssss how I always have felt: “it’s like a series of unfortunate events…a cringe around every corner”

[@RowanWarren78]

Without the addition of the bride wearing men's attire, it's actually tradition for some Orthodox Jewish women to have their head shaved upon being wedded. Of course, they would proceed to wear a wig, but shaving the head was viewed to be the removal of an element that existed before becoming someone's wife.

[@ShanePodClips]

I always thought the government wanted us to get married so if one of you dies, the other can just assume all your debt. 😳

[@Lady.V]

I love that Dark History is going strong and that the MMM Monday episodes are back too! They are getting me through a very hard time and I love that Bailey is continuing this and just going hard for us all out here 💖

[@chloe5555]

I'm proud to say my wedding costed less than 2k for 2 venues, food, flowers, photographer, dress, husband's tux etc. Everyone thought it was a 20k wedding, but my dress was a closeout for $75, decor came from goodwill, we made the food and cake ourselves, flower arrangements were done by some volunteers from bulk bought flowers etc. Weddings can be done cheaply and still look amazing with creativity and hard work/planning. And a dash of luck 😆

[@ohyesitsjackies]

“Let’s see that back-end Bertha” almost made me spit my coffee out 😂

[@mariannahusztik]

"She brokey, no workey" 🤣

[@packersgirl1978]

Same! 😂

[@stella-kb4tp]

love how bailey has pajamas and a wedding veil on at the same time

[@rhearamkhelawan348]

I sense extra sass in this one - and I am here for IT!

[@emilymonson1]

What about the dark history of funerals? I feel like they are so unnecessarily expensive!

[@cookiemonstersgirl5630]

Agreed!!!

[@susannaj1758]

Yes!! And most funeral homes will prey on the emotions of the family to spend more, "show how much you cared for them" cause you know, the dead will know and care.

[@DarkFire1536]

Great idea. I want to be cremated and then everyone can eat food. The end.

[@emilymonson1]

@@susannaj1758 honestly! It is so crazy and sad how much they prey on innocent people and families!

[@emilymonson1]

@@DarkFire1536 same lol

[@miltoncat]

I told my husband that if he shoved cake in my face, I would turn around, walk out, and go straight to a courthouse to get the marriage annulled.

[@shaec3405]

A men!

[@BABYPINKSUSHI]

I threw the cake at my husbands face soo I’m the dominant being

[@miltoncat]

@@BABYPINKSUSHI ha! To be fair, I didn’t smash cake in his face either. I love cake too much for that.

[@abbynormal3068]

@@miltoncat 😄

[@datheamore6395]

We just lightly put icing on each other's noses and handed each other a napkin. The photographer got a picture of us making funny faces as we went to wipe our noses. It is one of my favorite pictures of us.😊

[@ingemoers420]

Okay, this episode was so interesting to me. I loved to learn about the history of marriage, I am getting married in May 2023 to my boyfriend, on our 10th anniversary. I am from the Netherlands so my dream was to have my wedding the "American way", because the traditions in the Netherlands are quite different. You see, my fiance is going to get me from my parents place, Where I will be sleeping the evening and night before the wedding, and that is where he Will see me for the first time in my dress and all. I never really liked that idea, because I always thought that me and my dad walking down the aisle was more of a "blessing" to my dad, since I am a real big daddy's girl. Now I'm thinking, this, the Dutch way, is really sweet too. Because it's a blessing for my parents to see my husband to be, taking me to our wedding location from their house, the house I grew up in, it has something special now i think about it. Idk, I normally don't comment because I feel like I have nothing interesting to say, but now I wanted to make an exception. I litteraly cannot wait to be wedded to him, because I always thought it was an honor to be able to carry his last name, although I'm not sure if that is also done the same way I'm America? 🤔 anyways thank you Bailey for helping me see the beauty in my own county's traditions. Now I see and understand not anything, including wedding traditions, have to be the American way,! I love you so much Bailey, thanks for everything and all your hard work!!!❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏

[@MistaMaine.]

I wish you and ur boyfriend all the best. Nothing but happiness and joy🌼 This was beautiful to read.

[@krisy-in-italy]

Inge, the Dutch way sounds lovely. I’d go for that. Wishing you the very best! 💜

[@ingemoers420]

@@krisy-in-italy thankyou so much for your sweet and kind words! 🥺🌹 so sweet of you to comment! I am indeed going to do it "the dutch way!"✨️✨️

[@ingemoers420]

@@MistaMaine. thankyou so so much for your sweet comment!! Brought me Joy! 😊⚘️🥰 same goes to you tho, nothing but happiness, bliss, and joy to you too!!

[@joanodom2104]

Well, in less than three months, you shall be marrying your love of ten years! I don't even know you, but I am so very happy for you and your future husband. I actually love the tradition of your country and I definitely think you should have him retrieve you from your parent's home, in your wedding dress. I think it is sweet and more private and meaningful. I wish you every happiness life can offer! PS your English is excellent.

[@conciouscleo1880]

His-Story... This feels like the time I realised Rapidash was a play on rapid-dash. I sat there doing nothing but thinking about how silly I felt for not seeing it sooner, about what other Pokémon puns I could be missing out on. The world is our oyster, and these puns are the beauties that are pearls.

[@courtneytuten9587]

" I say some because I know some of you get tired and just go to bed. " Way to call me out bailey 😂😂

[@EleniKouvelou]

As a Greek..I laughed a bit too much " bragging ouu my daughter is getting married to the olive oil family " 🤣🤣🤣

[@KhaleesiDelRey]

That lip is PERFECTION! I need to find a color that blends with my skin like that.

[@therealzahyra]

Can I just say: You should open a school for the neurodiverse. You're THE ONLY person that I can listen to for hours without needing to speed up the video and can keep my ADHD brain focused and pay attention and actually learn stuff about history. You are a goddess.

[@cathychase663]

same

[@carryemetcalf8216]

I could not agree more!! I would go to that school all year round! I listen to her literally all the time. Vacuuming, shower, driving, just sitting there watching her videos. She keeps my mind distracted and personally, I LOVE that way she tells us about these people and/or events.

[@Synfulz.]

Can assure you it’s not an ADHD thing.

[@FoxRogers]

Same

[@andreawhite6585]

I’m 36, never been married, I’d be fine if it never happens. Especially having been in not one but TWO abusive relationships, freedom is glorious! I never fantasized about any dream weddings as a child like they do in the movies lol. But even if I had money to spend I still would never want a big expensive wedding. Literally go to the courthouse and have a fun party afterwards with loved ones.

[@angelac141]

I could have wrote this only difference I'm 38 haha

[@ohyesitsjackies]

Totally agree about not spending tons and going totally over the top! Both my siblings had big grand weddings, and although they were beautiful my fiancé and I are going a totally different route. Exactly what you said, we’re going to go to the courthouse and then have a party after with just family and close friends (not every person we’ve ever met lol). We want it to be about our love for each other and not about putting on a spectacle for everyone else.

[@lisaverzosa9586]

My husband and I agreed not to shove cake in each other's faces, he got all dressed up and I spent like 2 hours on my makeup

[@laughingcorrpseholly4136]

Right?! Lol

[@mariaharrington8708]

Same! Such disrespect

[@derryceanderson2371]

She killed me with ladies who like an "Arby's Sandwich" she has the most hilarious descriptions for both female and male genitalia. I love her to pieces. 💞

[@RNslayer22]

Watching this after already being opposed to rushing into marriage and having a wedding , solidifies my choices and I feel so blessed to be woken on this money making traditions that so many fall into. Thank you Bailey for educating us on this topic, it was very much needed when being pressured at a young age. 🙏🏽❤️

[@JH-we7xf]

Bailey's hair always looks so perfect.. can we get some product plugs for your hair too? 👀

[@mizzprettyhuston]

"Let's say you're a lady that loves another lady, you love an Arby's sandwich" Girl you're hilarious!

[@lauriedmills7581]

Bailey, could you do an episode on adoption, please? This episode was fascinating and no doubt it only scratched the surface. Xo

[@emmat5267]

Loved this video Bailey, great content as usual. Maybe you could do a video on the Vikings sometime in the future? They really did a lot of interesting stuff and I haven’t found many videos about them on here. Thanks again to you and your team for posting these videos, they are the highlight of my week ☺️

[@sarahhall8406]

Watched this while getting ready for our Valentine's Day elopement at the courthouse! Completely agree, it's about you and that person.❤

[@kristiblankenship3033]

Watching this AS I do my makeup for my wedding today 😅💍

[@neemaj15]

Congratulations!

[@maresdreams8731]

Congrats some of us wishhhh

[@elizabethhayward8238]

Hope you are both very happy and that you had an amazing day. LOL.

[@cam20118]

I’ve always rejected the idea of being married since I was a girl. Always thought it was so misogynistic and patriarchal and I would have an extremely non-traditional wedding if anything. But the idea itself I don’t like the history of and what it has always meant. This just further confirmed everything I believed and felt. Thank you for doing a video on this! You had me cracking up the whole time.

[@mollya4772]

Great episode! And I LOVE Joan Crowford's veil 😂❤

[@feveneddy]

Love your videos. I got married at a courthouse and I didn’t regret anything. My uncle spent over $75,000 and got divorced in one year. Marriage has nothing to do with the wedding ring or the party ( it’s nice to have) ❤

[@jay-ux7ps]

I always look forward to seeing Joan’s dress for each episode

[@andrijana5723]

i always looked up to my great grandma 'cause she got married at 28 in times where girls still usually got married at a very young age (15-18) and she agreed to give birth to only one kid and that's it, lived like a lady

[@menmykrazycat8129]

👏👏👏👏👏

[@jacquihesher5424]

She sounds smart

[@RB-rd9lq]

My grandma was the same! Lived her best life and got married at 29 🤩

[@mariadacosta7264]

She sounds like a smart lady! My grandmother married at 28, thinking she'd be a spinster forever, because her beau was forced to take over the family business when his brother eloped and left him in the lurch. But they eventually were able to marry. Had 5 kids (because they didn't know a thing about birth control) and were very happy together. Raised their kids in a Bristol, UK, during WWII.

[@carolynknapp6625]

I saw the title of this video. Bailey you deserve an award for this one 😂 New Yorks best time seller or something 😂😂😂😂

[@jojodiaz75]

I love love this!! I am looking for a simple “backyard” feel wedding and I was doubting myself but you have literally reassured my process! lol 🙏🏼

[@kaykatt]

Hope everyone who sees this comment knows they are amazing and I'm rooting for you in all you do! Stay strong my perfects

[@harmdizzle1979]

You too! We love a positivity queen!!

[@seandersg]

You don't know everyone here... what if you are rooting for someone to be amazing at family annihilation or something? 😂

[@avshay24]

Thank you Kay for the amazing positive comment. And YES, I totally agree with you and I too am rooting for all out there. I love a major positive attitude. It’s hard to find one lately, and it’s super sad.

[@Jane-Doe.1126]

Thank you no one ever says that to me.

[@amberyoung4425]

You have no idea how much I needed to hear this today! Thank you! 💜

[@brianaparker7742]

The way dark history has evolved in less than a year is everything, go team!!! Love you and your content soo much Bailey 🖤

[@LifewithChinaJade]

This is educational AF! Got me rethinking future wedding plans. Whenever that's gonna be.

[@tonybabb3525]

Excellent!!! People don't stop to think how often & how much we are manipulated to want what we want or where & why "traditions" came about I love your content & your delivery.👍

[@jordanb.6675]

Petition for a series where Bailey deep dives into Disney stories and other fairy tales!!! 📝✍️😆

[@shalinitiwariscorner5210]

Same ! She needs to dissect into those lores.

[@leahgathoni3730]

I conquer 😂

[@daisflowers99]

I'd sign

[@2Madre]

Toooo dark 🙈

[@hayliemarie1281]

YESSS

[@Evehjm]

I had my wedding in my husband’s grandparents backyard…super small, cute, intimate, classy! Not stressful at all!! I think we spent $600 and that was just on the catering. It was absolutely perfect🥺❤️

[@BreeValerie]

Props to you for doing it so lowkey with such a small budget. Hopefully more people choose this type of parties

[@evelyonbyrd758]

Me and my husband did the exact same thing it was his family, another Evelyon j in the world

[@Evehjm]

@@evelyonbyrd758 love that for us ❤️

[@staceyjaneway4000]

I love seeing you @BaileySarian 56:48 you always keep and hold my attention. Thank you for always uploading and giving credit where credit is due. You are so beautiful, inside and out! 57:30

[@JanetBirdFuller]

Such thorough & utterly entertaining history. Wish history was taught like this in schools. You rock big time. Keep up the great work.

[@TheSlong123]

Usually when a groom smashes the cake into the bride's face, when she specifically asks him not to, and she gets upset as well afterward, it's a sure sign that it won't last. There's animosity disguised as something fun and cute mixed with disrespect. A million wedding photographers and planners can't be wrong. And as for the burning bush...there's a cream for that.

[@The_Cherokee_Gypsy]

I tell you what. I know my husband wouldn’t smash it in my face, cause your right, it wouldn’t last. It’s disrespectful if you ask me. To each their own though lol

[@summer-xt1gg]

I read a comment from a wedding photographer saying it’s a somewhat reliable litmus test to predict which couples break up too!

[@butterbeanqueen8148]

To me it’s always been a power play from the groom. Expressing dominance immediately after getting married. Like I don’t have to respect my wife. So it makes sense that it’s a predictor of the marriages viability.

[@lesliecall2923]

I've always heard it's bad luck to smash cake in the face. Definitely makes sense that there is some underlying psychology type of stuff to it too.

[@marandadavis9412]

@@The_Cherokee_Gypsy same here. I specifically told him that if he did, there would be a fight and he wouldn't win

[@kellydiane03]

i love how happy bailey seems 🖤

[@thatgirlnamedcarol8268]

How beautiful is Bailey look during the promo’s? No one can deny this!!! But even better is that her personality shines just as beautiful!!

[@BrandiXo]

Bailey please do history in general. You make history understandable. Would love preteen friendly history and Disney,Grimm,fairytales, anything history we need to know. Love your videos.

[@MsKnowitall]

Let’s get into marriage…my favorite 😂 as a divorcée I love this woman and her humor

[@nataliechavira3288]

I can’t wait until my kids are old enough to use Dark History as social studies supplementary learning. I swear I’d remember so much more in school with Bailey as teacher 🤩

[@lizamcilwee4774]

This was great!! I didn't realize the diamond engagement ring idea was so recent!

[@isabelorbe8195]

Oh my gosh Bailey you are too funny I just love watching your show. You keep me on my toes very interested as well as at the edge of my seat and then you pop us with a sweet joke. That’s so funny.😂

[@Genie2386]

Ahhh, something tells me this is the episode I can send my family to get them off my case about getting married 😆

[@ericlawson8155]

Might work!

[@ally24688]

I literally just sent this to my mom😂

[@anosjc]

my whole family, relatives, distant family are after me to get married and I have no interest

[@ouwebrood497]

Everage woman: Marriage is about LOVE! Bailey looking at history: Marriage is about procreation, submission, social control and spending money.

[@user-bx8sj6qm3w]

Based bailey

[@maryg3143]

@@user-bx8sj6qm3w Bailey is correct.

[@lilyt18]

She’s RIGHT and I’m here for it. 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽❤️

[@Kese157]

Many cultures still utilize the same practice

[@tironnarexxmorriss2883]

Totally agree with Bailey

[@keirra6327]

And this is why I eloped out in the Colorado mountains. Lol. Just the 2 of us and a photographer out on a hike. It was a wonderful experience and we just focused on our love for each other. Not all the other BS. Great video Bailey!

[@TheRumours13]

Your storytelling never fails. You're awesome.

[@Slytherin88]

I bought my sister one of your 'Suspish' hoodies for her birthday and she loved it! Thanks for the amazing content and the cool merch 🥰

[@angeniquehopkins5246]

My daughters were 9&10 when they started their menstrual, my oldest baby only cried cuz she wanted to go bac to the park and play! I couldn't imagine marrying them off at that age!!!🤦🏽‍♀️

[@BaileySarian]

so wild, right?

[@MelissaThompson432]

They put growth hormone in vegetables now: kids enter puberty years sooner now, and they grow to be 6+ feet tall....

[@reginamushi6582]

@@BaileySarian Thank Bailey for doing this, you are doing an incredible job!

[@RowanWarren78]

I was only 11. It's scary to think that, if that occured in this era, instead of 1989, and I had become impregnated at that age because of SA, I would now be required to carry and give birth to my attackers baby. Furthermore, if I couldn't prove the assault on court, he could ask for shared custody.

[@dawnlilymc]

Definitely not trying to justify the tradition (it's horrifying!) but ancient women often started their cycles much later than modern women due to poor nutrition and other health issues. So there probably weren't any 9 & 10 year old brides outside of possibly nobility. Lots of early to late teens, of course, but not often before that.

[@confucius2833]

My husband and I both agreed no cake smashing. He doesn’t like his face being played with, and I didn’t want the makeup ruined. Especially since I don’t really wear makeup, I wanted to enjoy having it on at least that day

[@Leeohlin89]

I’m here always for the stories and bailey’s antics. 😂