Why Dying Costs WAY Too Much! The Dark History of Death & Funerals

[@Ash-hq9vk]

In the US, it is expensive to live and expensive to die. Can't catch a break.

[@maryg3143]

Yes. For these reasons I am considering becoming an expat somewhere. I'm on a fixed income and I just can't afford it here.

[@alexanderboyer7720]

Only two sure things in life… death and taxes.

[@bobbytrevino2066]

❤ I think about the same thing 😂

[@pammyers1982]

So very true. It’s ridiculous. 😢

[@ppenelopee]

its all about the money😔

[@erg9435]

My local funeral home does not charge for cremation for anyone 17 and under and has a major discount for funeral services and burial as well. Huge blessing for anyone who losses their child.

[@erg9435]

They also will collect ashes on the side to help with anyone doing any jewelry (like fill them) or to help send them to people who make memorial pieces. Which is what i did with my son.

[@shannoncampbell7541]

That’s sweet

[@monabeck007]

my stepdaughter was buried in a burial forest in Norwich England 2 years ago. You are not allowed to be embalmed, and your coffin is made of bamboo. We also had a wood carver make a grave marker of a fairy on a sunflower.

[@baybeachbeauty]

That’s really neat. Condolences.

[@daniellemartin9896]

Wow. What a beautiful way to be laid to rest

[@mermaid_at_heart213]

How sweet. I wonder if we have anything like that in the US

[@mrscreepy7986]

California, Colorado and NY have natural burial options, i think Washington does too. ​@mermaid_at_heart213

[@shaec3405]

So sorry for your families loss. But her resting place sounds beautiful.

[@jujuglass111]

I’m a glass artist and have put many different kinds of ashes(canine, feline & human) into glass pendants for necklaces. It’s an honor to get to create memorial pendants for loved ones 🥹

[@ambergriffes6122]

Thank you, I have the ashes of my best friend of 14 1/2 years Daisy, and our sweet cat of 20 years Peachy, in a pendent, and it has helped myself and my children, with their glass eggs and pendants ❤

[@viktoriyasuomalainen5920]

My grandmother had her body donated to a university. They covered her cremation when they were done studying her, and gave her back to us. I had some of her ashes mixed in ink, and got a tattoo with her.

[@kells.bellss]

both my parents want this done to them and they have it already planned out and as the only child that gives me sigh of relief that I won't have to go into debt while grieving

[@lindsayroman5230]

Same for my dad, down to the tattoo with his ashes. And I now have Tats with my dad, brother, and two of my dogs Ashes. Next is my moms who passed not long ago. I’m basically a cemetery at this point.

[@RachelRayV]

Cool

[@devonjazmyn]

Here in Indiana when I worked at IU like 20 years ago 😂 you used to get 5k and sign a contract that you will donate your body to science when you die, I never asked what happened when they were done and I'm going to assume they give it back like they did with parents

[@pinecone1321]

That's what I want

[@emmanuellecossette3736]

I've visited the Paris Catacombes in 2018. First of all, I got there 15 minutes before opening, but still waited 45 minutes to enter. You go down a spiral staircase for forever. I've always been amazed by the human body but seeing such an amount of bones at the same place feels a little uncomfortable. I found the experience quite humbling. I took this opportunity to reflect about my place in this world and the fact that we're all bones in the end. I will go back for sure.

[@cybertenshi]

Lotta bangers lately. We need a Dark History about Princess Diana. I am actually surprised there isn't one yet.

[@alysongimello2944]

I agree

[@latriciamoore8192]

Totally agree

[@bogiesgirl62]

Agreed

[@amybentley793]

She did .

[@alysongimello2944]

@@amybentley793 awesome. What episode is it? I can't find it. Thank you

[@Amberjd11]

My dog passed on Saturday and was cremated Monday. He was 16 years old. They even took an imprint of his paw in clay and put him in a beautiful box. Now he's with me always. And my grandfather passed last year this same time. He was cremated and spread per his wishes. A beautiful spot in the rockies the whole family can visit death is ironically and tragically beautiful ❤

[@laurelp9120]

Just lost both my parents in the last year, I’m fortunate to now be the guardian of my brother who has severe autism (he’s a sweetheart) and we’re losing my parents’ house this week to her bank due to my mom’s gambling addiction. My brother and I have no other family, and we were left nothing by my parents except debt and severe depression. Also my mom’s birthday was yesterday, the first one without her, so I drank a bottle of wine and watched KZbin. Both funerals left my husband and I in massive debt bc it all landed on the two of us. That ALL being said, this episode actually brightened my spirits today, I can’t explain why, but it did. I think mostly it’s your kind and uplifting nature Bailey, so thank you 💜💜 Love you girl.

[@LightBlueVans]

i am so sorry for your continued losses after losses. i know it’s not a major consolation that some random internet person feels for you, but i do. things must be so hard for you and your loved ones right now. please find ways to take care of yourself. 💜

[@loraharriman]

When a person dies of debt they don't have to pay that back unless you got their house then it comes out of their estate but don't pay their bills the government can't take away anything

[@jenniferwilkinson9340]

Praying for you. ❤

[@lillieerismsn8620]

@@loraharrimanvery true

[@PamelaH_HappyVibes]

I’m so sorry for your loss. This really isn’t fair.

[@maryjomaguireconniff6868]

My youngest daughter took her portion of her daddy's ashes, that she'd been carrying around for quite awhile in her backpack in the cardboard box he was in, to Ireland to spread him off the coast. We lived in Arizona. She made it to that perfect place. The breeze was beautiful. She was very excited to be sending her dad to his favorite spot. She went into her bag and realized that the cardboard box had sort of disintegrated......leaving the ashes of papa Tom rolling around. So the only thing she could do was to shake her bag to release the ashes. Many of the ashes were picked up by the beautiful breeze, blowing them right into her mouth! Quite an adventure!

[@taranehahmadi-parker1412]

😮

[@micaelamorrigan2544]

I just had a feeling that you were going to say that before i got through to the end. 😮

[@nathannate9928]

This same thing happened with my papa. He wanted his ashes spread off his favorite overlook near Cherokee, NC. Well, there were some updrafts, and his ashes didn't taste very pleasant, and certainly didn't feel pleasant in the eyes lol. He was always fooling around and pranking people, so it was only fitting. He honestly probably realized that would happen and made the request to be spread there because of it 😂

[@ChChi-l7i]

🎉😂

[@theadamsfamily1754]

Both my parents passed in 2022.. My dad passed first and wanted to be cremated, and that was around 8k. When my mom passed 8 months later of cancer, she wanted to be buried. That was over 17k for everything, including the headstone. I know that funeral homes have to make a living, but it is ridiculous how expensive it is. We ended up putting my dad's ashes in my mom's coffin with her so they can be together and both have their names on the headstone.

[@iamcoco_yo]

This is the sweetest thing I have ever heard😭🤍

[@daniellewright2773]

@@theadamsfamily1754 I am so sorry for your loss 💔❤️❤️

[@lilmisskiss692003]

very sorry for your loss 😔🩷 my husband's siblings did this too. their mom passed in 2002, and dad kept her in an urn. he passed in 2021 and was buried. they put mom in with him, which ofc made the price go up 🙄 headstone finally was done in 2023. they're just as expensive as the whole thing sometimes. very sad.

[@Bruh_Snek]

As someone in the funeral industry paying $8,000 for cremation and $17,000 for a burial is absolutely insane. The MOST you’d pay for a cremation is $3k-4k and burials r around $8k, the funeral home u went to ABSOLUTELY ripped your family off, I’m so sorry

[@Bruh_Snek]

@@Overly_nourished_entity funeral homes do not charge to put anything of personal value to that person in the casket with them

[@mummajjxx790]

My pop passed recently and he’d already organised everything himself. My mum, aunt and uncles were so worried about the cost and the arrangements but Pop had already sorted it all out himself. He knew it was his time (rightfully so, he was awfully ill and never told anyone) and he had organised it all beautifully. The only thing we had to do was gather photos and some songs for his funeral. It was a lovely send off for a great man that pretty much raised me. I will forever cherish the memories I have of him. Big love to you Bailey, been a silent watcher for the last few years and I feel like we could be awesome friends if we didn’t live on opposite sides of the world 😂💜

[@kenzie1r016]

We put my dad’s ashes in a firework for the one year anniversary of his passing! It was so cool being able to say, “hey that firework is my dad!”, or my other favorite “yeah we blew my dad up” but overall it wasn’t horribly expensive and it was an awesome way to memorialize him because he loved fireworks

[@Olivia-pj6fw]

This made me smile! When I was in my early twenties my husband's best friend unexpectedly died in a tragic work accident. My husband and his friends at the time received some of his best friend's ashes.... His best friend really loved bonfires, so my husband and his friends took his ashes and burned them in a bonfire on the one year anniversary of his death. Of course the whole thing was very tragic and terrible, but I know Cody, the one who died, would have laughed hysterically at his friends who took his ashes and burned them a second time. So I can definitely appreciate you blowing your dad up with fireworks. The friend we lost would have loved that too.

[@Olivia-pj6fw]

Also rest in peace to your dad. 💕

[@susanradford5787]

I had my dog cremated my son asked me I wanted me and him to take her to our favorite walking space and spread her ashes. I appreciated the thought but I spent 12 years keeping her safe I wasn’t about to spread her out and people walk on her. She is safe right next to my bed ❤

[@thesavvyblackbird]

Abraham Lincoln has his son Willie embalmed or something because Lincoln would come visit his son every night for months. Willie died in the autumn when the ground was too frozen for burial. Bodies were kept in cold houses until the ground warmed up. So Willie was kept in a cold house but also put somewhere that was comfortable enough for Lincoln to visit him every night and hold his hand. Bodies do start decomposing in the cold (meat in a refrigerator still goes bad) so the doctors did something to help preserve Willie. It was a hidden thing for years so there’s no documentation of what embalming was done on Willie. If the country knew Lincoln was grieving to that extent they might not be confident in his ability to lead the nation. So it was kept secret. I think grieving over your own dead son would make a leader more cautious about sending other young men to their deaths. Their lives would mean more than just being cannon fodder and pawns in a chess game played by governments who don’t see the soldiers as humans with parents and children.

[@angelakaizer5980]

When my husband died unexpectedly in 2017, I was panicked about finances. I had to decide quickly. Luckily I had a wonderful funeral home and Undertaker who totally understood and didn’t scam me. I just wanted the least expensive cremation (no coffin necessary, sounded like a body bag), no embalming, no wake or burial, not even a fancy urn, it’s like satin covered pressed cardboard. That cost me $1700, which luckily his final SSDI check covered. Note to sensitive empaths, think very hard about opening that urn/box. After a few years I did at my friend’s urging, and it was horrific to me. Not nice dust or sand like on tv…chunky bones looked like broken sidewalk cement, hit me with such powerful vibes of what I was looking at…I was terrified I would see a tooth because I’ve heard it’s possible! All this in like a two second peek. I was very freaked out. Meanwhile I told my daughters they should make me into two diamonds for them; but it’s kinda creepy. Could hang in a sunny window to catch rainbows or hang on Xmas tree 🎄

[@vickieliupakka2975]

Hi…I’m a Hospice RN and death is so difficult with each culture and religion and family…we just go along with what families want ❤ Love your content 🫶🏻

[@lucifursanarchy5202]

My brother had his daughter’s ashes put in a cannon and spread over the grounds at a Renaissance Festival (she loved the local Renaissance Faire, so it was the perfect place for her to end up) It was really unique and very healing for the family. Her little sisters were also excited about it, so it turned into a “in memory” moment instead of a depressing funeral thing. I’m pretty sure she would have loved knowing she got shot out of a cannon 💜

[@Rainy_snc]

awe at least she got to lay to rest at her favorite place

[@PamelaH_HappyVibes]

Sorry for your loss. That it so bad a@@! I love that. ❤ She must have been awesome.

[@mermaid_at_heart213]

I'm sorry. I recently had a loss. It's nice to see people get sent off how they would have wanted or in a way they would have thought was cool. ❤❤

[@christyadams9235]

​@mermaid_at_heart213 sorry for your loss, it's never easy and I'm wishing you grace and strength

[@karmakillzyourvibez]

I heard it's illegal to spread a person's ashes. Even though my uncle Ron had his ashes spread in Northern Ontario when he died at 27 in a fire, back in 1978. I guess since then it's become illegal? 🤷🏻‍♀️ Or maybe that's just an Ontario/Canadian law. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@haylee_bo_baylee]

When my grandma passed, she was cremated and pressed into locket necklaces for me, my mom, and sister. So she's always with me ❤

[@KellBellKurtz]

My husband passed away last year. I found you this year. Thank you for the mini break from my grief ❤❤❤

[@Amy-qe7ti]

I’m so sorry for your loss. I pray you are doing ok. I know it’s very hard. Sending you hugs. ❤🙏🏻❤️

[@rachaelb.]

I'm so sorry for your loss... I can't imagine what you're going through, but I can't imagine losing someone intimately close to me to death.

[@Tracywhited2]

Hugs. I lost my husband 7 months ago. Grief is a hard journey to walk ❤n

[@justhereforthevideos2798]

I’m truly sorry for your loss. I want to make sure you know how strong you are ❤ even on the darkest days, you’ve made it through. Even now, in the dark times, you’re making. And you’re doing well. Even if you don’t think so. You’re here and making it. In case no one has told - I’m proud of you. ❤❤❤

[@20sherilynn]

So sorry for your loss🩵💙

[@frogloover7774]

Girl, a black concert tee but with Abraham Lincoln's face on the front with a cool design & all the cities he went on the back would go so hard in your dark history merch store!!!

[@maddie3675]

I was thinking the sameeee

[@wonky_shoebox7514]

You should go to an Irish funeral. We celebrate for 2, 3 days before burial. Loads of food and drink, stories, songs, jokes and the like. We celebrate the life of our loved ones instead of it being sad. At the burial there is a tradition called keening, which is a special sort of cry that sounds super sad. It's dying out slowly, but is still alive in some places. Irish singers have a natural lilt and keen to their voice, and even Irish accents have a lilt. Death is still very intertwined into our culture

[@yts70r135]

❤

[@AM711]

May the road rise up to meet you

[@EithneOwen]

Yes, this is so true.....🎉

[@micaelamorrigan2544]

There's an episode of Xena where she's at the funeral of a loved one/friend and she does the keening song. It's haunting and beautiful.

[@nancygreenfield212]

I only know Chicago Irish …..and parties for days, but after burial, we all have a brunch in a restaurant. Never saw a potluck lunch

[@mojo2821]

My house was built in 1920 and was made with a “death door” due to the Spanish flu! Families were having so many at-home funerals that the door was intended to limit the guests from walking through the whole house just to see the body. Great video!

[@injesusnamewepray46]

That has got to be the origin of "at death's door," the phrase we say when someone is very ill! Now i gotta go look that up!

[@injesusnamewepray46]

I looked it up! Apparently it dates back to 14th century England according to Google 😆. The door was there for ease of moving the dead during funerals. Very cool feature, if somewhat morbid. Thanks for the history lesson! 😂

[@k8tina]

17:00. My bestfriend is a medical examiner so I know a bit more about the autopsy and embalming process than the average person. (I've actually watched a couple of autopsies and because my postgraduate degree is in psychology, my friend let me hold a human brain. Morbid sounding, but for me it was fascinating to hold the part of the body responsible for our thoughts, emotions, personality, basically what makes us who we are in our living lives. Also, I was surprised at how much respect a medical examiner has for the dead body.)

[@k8tina]

As for the cost of a funeral here in the United States, it is rather expensive! When my father died in 2015, it cost around $8,000 for a cremation; when my husband passed away last year, it was about $11,000 for services at the funeral home and cremation. I know people who have paid twice that amount or more for a funeral plus burial (no cremation). And the funeral homes want their payment pretty quickly. Social security bureau will give you a one-time payment of $250 towards the funeral. Many people do not have life insurance and even then, it still takes time for the life insurance payout to come through. Even if you get a quick $5000 advance from the policy, it still takes a week to get that money. I don't know how people here in the USA to afford funeral costs. I wonder if it's the same expensive situation in other countries??

[@kynleechapman7472]

I’d love to hold a brain lol

[@shawnaaustin3396]

In my 20 years of being in the death care profession I have been a funeral director/Embalmer, a Deputy Coroner/Forensic Death Investigator and an Autopsy Technician/Pathologist Assistant. It’s my passion and I love it. However, I loathe the rumors which are spread around to bash the profession and the dedicated employees. When I was a Funeral Director/Embalmer I worked over 90 hours per week. My salary was so low I qualified for SNAP (food stamps). And yes I have a college degree as well. I know the struggle. I have NEVER pressured families into expensive goods and services. This is a huge misconception. The general public does not see how much work it takes to care for decedents. They have no idea how many long hours are put in because they don’t see it.

[@brianlawson1000]

The fact that I watch your show is an enigma. The fact that I love your show is even more crazy. You have the charisma of a goddess and your story telling skill are divine. Your are the ray of sunshine in my day that makes me so so happy thank you Bailey!!

[@tinaday5232]

My family is of Irish decent . We celebrate the life they lived.......it's sad , you will cry, you will be different from that day forward, but you celebrate happiness and gratitude for whatever stamp they made on you to enjoy your time on earth.....we all will die but what we did before we died has an affect on each individual to live differently than what😢 was expected.

[@kaylas8910]

My dad got cremated. Same for my mom when she goes. Probably doing a potluck for her. She's got it ALL planned out and I'm so grateful! The lists, songs to play, videos, etc. One thing I'm glad she's doing (and ties into death) is she's giving away her possessions (Swedish Death Cleaning anyone??!). She tells me that i can take anything i want now, and she's set aside stuff that is sentimental.

[@Coffeedrinker291]

My mom died before my dad so when she was cremated he kept her in the free plastic container right next to him on the end table. Then when he died and was cremated they wanted to be mixed together. Since he was a veteran she got to be buried with him in a nice (but not super expensive) urn in the free veterans cemetery. Their ashes together didn’t all fit which worked out because then I was able to keep the rest myself. I ordered this really beautiful wooden urn off of Etsy that was hand carved and fit them both, which sits on my mantle. I saved out some for jewelry too. Before the people at the crematory mixed them I asked them to keep out a tiny little bit of just my mom and I have a ring that’s just her, but a necklace that’s both of them. My kids have little memorial rocks that are made from their ashes that say ‘grandma and pap’ on one side and their names on the other. Neither of the urns I bought were more than a few hundred dollars.

[@shaec3405]

That's sweet

[@vanita-]

I’m tearing up that’s so beautiful wow

[@mistermunch]

Even though cremation is still expensive, I decided I want to go that route after I found how how much my moms burial cost. The casket alone was more than a total cremation and it wasn’t even anything fancy. It’s so incredibly expensive to die. I always tell people to do two things while they’re alive, save for your funeral and make a will. You don’t know how much stress that will save your loved ones later on. It’s indescribably important.

[@whitney2042]

I’ve been to the Paris Catacombs. Apparently people try to steal the bones because they check your bags on the way out. It was very cool. I highly recommend it. Make sure to buy tickets before you go because they sell out.

[@melissamorgan3145]

So I went to the catacombs years ago. All I have to say is if you have the opportunity to go again Bailey, you have to! I am extremely claustrophobic and I did not have any issues. It was fascinating and saddle at the same time. It is so cool how they actually arranged everything. And then you have to head over to the cemetery, and check out all the gravesites there.

[@ladyangelheart25]

It is ridiculously expensive to lay someone to rest. When my husband passed almost 3 years ago, one place wanted almost $7k for cremation, the other place that we went with was just under $5k. And some people working in the industry are heartless. Thanks for this, now I have to start planning mine, wrote a will last year when I got really sick.

[@jessicadecker5213]

That is insane! In Wichita Kansas you can get a cremation for like 800$ . Maybe 900 with death certificate .

[@Beefareeno]

Oh my gosh.. I’m so sorry! I feel this same sentiment in my bones, because I’ve been there before.. / am there right now.. long story short, yes - ALWAYS have a will - no matter how simple. Always. Have. A. Will. Let me know if you need any help ❤️

[@dominiquechristine]

IT'S THAT EXPENSIVE TO CREMATE SOMEONE??? Sorry for.the Caps, but that's ridiculous and so awful that you went through that when your husband passed...I imagined it made things that more incredibly difficult and that much harder for you and his loved ones. I'm so sorry that you had to go through this after your husband passed

[@ladyangelheart25]

@@dominiquechristine thank you. And yeah, I hadn't thought it would be that much. Thank goodness for my in-laws, they covered it. There were cheaper places; however they said I might not only receive my husband's remains.

[@DeathKnowledge82]

@@ladyangelheart25 Okay, I'm going to touch on this because I'm a licensed funeral director and I worked in a crematory as well. The way a cremation chamber (retort) is constructed, the floor is usually concrete or brick. That being said, when someone is cremated, the crematory operator is not going to be able to retrieve all of the ashes that are left. This is because brick and concrete are porous and will retain a very small amount of ashes from each person that is cremated. So yes, in a way, those funeral homes that told you that were correct and the clause that cremated remains are going to be commingled is a requirement on any cremation authorization form. Obviously, I don't know how they presented it to you but it sounds like it was in an unprofessional manner. Of course, I wasn't there, so I can't attest to that. I hope that clears up the cremated remains part a little bit as I know when death happens, it's the last thing you want to think about. And also, no, crematories do not cremate more than one body at a time unless they are allowed to by law and are given express written permission by the authorizing agent.

[@nicolerubertelli187]

I work for a privately owned jewelry store aka not Kays or Zales. Anyway, we just did a custom order for a couple that lost one of their sons. He had bought his mom a ring prior to his passing. They took that ring and had us add cremains/ashes to the actual shank (round part) of the ring. The other surviving son is paying for it too. It was awesome. ❤

[@cupofcozy708]

I just want to thank you for all the content you've given us over the years! Appreciate you so much, Bailey❤ love to Joan and Paul, too!

[@LuckyLyrica]

My Grandmother passed away this past April. She was an amazing human who lived to help others especially her family. She did her research on how to save her family the most cost on her after death costs. She found out that if she donated her body to science that her family's cost would be nothing since they pay for the cremation when they get done with the body. There are criteria for donation which she luckily met. So, we ended up not having to pay anything for a funeral. My Grandmother died the way she lived, putting others needs before her own and also helping our local doctors. My grandmother was and always will be a very special human.

[@chelseaGriesbaum]

I put my brothers in a nice bottle with a photo and a letter and dropped them off a pier into the Atlantic . They have found 3 times on their adventure ! I miss them ...

[@oliviapasquarelli99]

This is so interesting! Is there info for the people that found them to contact you? I’ve never heard of this message in a bottle type burial but I love it.

[@chelseaGriesbaum]

@@oliviapasquarelli99 yes I put all of my social media contact and phone number in the letter.

[@Laura-qy6nk]

Sorry for your loss. Great idea tho, is there a way for people to contact you when they come across your brother? Such an interesting idea 😊

[@chelseaGriesbaum]

I'm sorry I thought I had already replied ... Yes , All of my social media contact as well as my phone number was included with the letter .

[@chelseaGriesbaum]

I also took photos of the letter and a video of them being sent off ... Ot was very emotional . I really miss them 😞

[@briggsiej]

Oof - this is why everyone needs life insurance! As an insurance agent, it hurts my heart to hear people not having this conversation. If you love the people around you - life insurance! After you’re gone it pays: L- loans and debts I- income replacement F- family needs E- expenses of burial No one explained any of this to me until I was in my late 30’s, and when I learned it was less per month than my phone insurance I was like - how did I not know this?!

[@shawnaaustin3396]

They quoted me $180 per month so I can’t afford life insurance.

[@rachaelwatson9399]

Can’t stress this enough! Everyone always complains about everything costing so much, yet people don’t want to face the fact that they’ll eventually die and they don’t get life insurance

[@rachaelwatson9399]

@@shawnaaustin3396for term or whole?

[@faithcolpitts301]

Opps...accidentally marked a thumbs up. Wasn't gonna say anything. I can't afford life insurance , I can barely afford living

[@csailer2353]

Can’t afford it. Recently forced to stop working, hoping to get on disability (which won’t be much as I’m only in my 40s). But even when I was working, I was living paycheck to paycheck. Unless it is $5 a month, it is out of my budget, and even then it would probably be tight.

[@JessicaJellyfish]

Yes! I've always lived with that thought. You die twice. First time physically and finally when your name is spoken for the last time. I make a point of speaking my relatives names for this reason ❤

[@PixieCadet]

I was thinking the same. I still talk to my deceased Grandparents And I do use their names ❤⭐❤️

[@JessicaJellyfish]

@@PixieCadet I'm sure they're listening ❤️

[@astarte66]

A friend of mine who has since passed said you die twice. First your mind/awareness goes then the body follows. I always thought that was interesting. I like what Bailey quoted better though.

[@AM711]

They said it in the movie Coco too

[@samanthaprice-zk9qg]

Every episode is great, but I’m very interested to listen to this episode!! I work at a cemetery in Miami. My job description is literally to advise people on preplanning options, so they can secure their cemetery plots and funeral packages before the time of need. Historically speaking, the cost doubles every 7-12 years.

[@katiemechenbier4172]

My mom was aquamated. She wanted something simple done with her remains, but cremation seemed too...violent i guess? I wish aquamation was available to more people. The company we we took mom to was so kind. She lived in Colorado but we took her remains back home to Lake Erie cause she loved the water. It's been a little over two years now and I still miss her every day.

[@ladyesylvermoon]

I want terramation, but it's only available in about a dozen states at this time.

[@CRYSLUNA]

Well, I just saw people are doing a" burial at Sea " ....... dropping the coffin in the ocean..... Does anyone else see video or hear of this?

[@mustluvdogs7]

I had my childhood dog (and best friend) of 18 1/2 years cremated. His loss was beyond devastating for me. I ended up having his ashes mixed into tattoo ink and had a marking that he had on his back tattooed onto my wrist so I can have him with me forever. I miss you, Bobos.

[@bogiesgirl62]

I’ve been through the catacombs! It was really interesting. I saw the catacombs as being a respectful way to “store” (for lack of a better term) the bones.

[@apple071489]

Please make a Dark History episode on Frida Khalo and her family. It’s truly amazing. Thank you for doing this Bailey! Love from Latin America to everyone here ❤️

[@barbarabell8674]

My parents prepaid for their funerals. They got interest on it every year. It was legit. Mom was frugal, cremation, no bells and whistles! Probably spent more on the lunch afterwards! ❤️ mom and dad!

[@marylhere]

My mother did the same and the new manager drained the accounts and fled.

[@snoopy5405]

@@marylherethat is so wrong and heartbreaking!!!! 💔

[@daniellemartin9896]

They planned and paid in advance? That's so incredibly thoughtful. The kindest thing we can do for our loved ones is make our plans known and to pay for it in advance is just above and beyond

[@michelledml3162]

Pre planning and paying for a funeral and making sure you have a legit will is the best gift you can give your loved ones. Make sure everyone who would be involved in the decision making process knows your wishes so there is no drama or uncertainty because handling that while you are grieving is torture and people are not in a great position mentally to make rational decisions.

[@kareng9024]

My mom and dad prepaid for their funeral in the 1980’s. When my mom passed in 2015 we were left with her headstone. Funeral home wanted $10k for the stone. We bought it from a different company and it was $3k amazing difference. We were lucky there was life insurance. It covered all the final expenses and still left Dad with a nice cushion. Cemetery still wanted $100 to place the headstones. Just my story.

[@marionapina]

I’d like to see a Caitlin Doughty (the mortician)/ BS crossover episode - maybe you could do her make up

[@ReflectKindness]

I ~literally~ only came to the comments to see if someone else mentioned Caitlin Doughty. Yes please do a cross over! Bailey would have so much fun learning from her! Bailey read her books! Or listen, they’re on Audible.

[@beckywatt2263]

Yes!!! Me too!

[@ai-shiki]

hi bailey! i've been listening to your stories ever since the 'personalized intro' and i even sang it with EVERY TIME. I loove your makeup everytime but for some reason, I find your makeup today very cute and pretty! ♥ Lots of love from Philippines!

[@QuanaBaby85]

Every Monday and Thursday, I get ready for work while listening to you!! It's one of my fav parts of the day 😊💚

[@charaelias6687]

That zoc doc ad made me cry laugh! So relatable, Bailey! Great episode. Not sure how you made such a depressing subject delightfully interesting. Appreciate you!

[@mackixu]

Gotta shout out the channel Ask A Mortician!!! I learned sooooooo much about funerals and the like from her. For those of you asking about options, there are many!

[@cutelatina00508]

A fellow deathling!!❤💀

[@Forgiven313]

This episode makes me think of her too! Seriously, I want my family to just straight up bury my body somewhere. Wrapped in cloth or something, no box, no embalming, nothing. I told them to just dig a hole somewhere. 😂 the funeral industry is so horrible.

[@charmainecano1617]

I love her!! Got a couple of her books too, haven't read them yet though. She has some great ideas for funerals of all kinds and she's funny❤

[@kynleechapman7472]

From what I’ve heard, (allegedly) a lot of morticians do not like her channel because she spews a lot of false information

[@robintimpone2214]

I love her! Her books are great. I miss her KZbin channel

[@RosieIfYouKnowMe]

My grandpa passed a few months ago and since my grandma (Linda lol) left us years ago, the bill fell to the kids. We used a small town funeral service that was really cheap and they've been here forever (I triple checked). I don't always love small town life but sometimes I don't know if I could live without it!

[@sealed_kitsu9233]

Should DEFINITELY do a dark history on Necromancy and resurrection, and bring Paul back from second death during the episode. Keep the narrative going for the lols

[@kynleechapman7472]

I second this 🎉🙌

[@katiecosford2564]

We planted a silver birch tree for our sister and buried her ashes with it, I think it's a nice way to remember her as well as helping the environment ❤️❤️❤️

[@ConnieBrumley-e4v]

I lost my son when he was a baby and have always wanted to make his ashes into a diamond. It is extremely expensive!! Maybe one day but we are talkin 1000.00s of dollars for a tiny stone. Also, I read somewhere that certain states allow you to bury your family on your property and then you are tax exempt like a cemetery?! I would be buried in my back yard in a plastic bag if it meant not allowing the government to tax. What do I care. I'm dead! hehe! I believe funerals are for the living. LOVE your channels!

[@mischamichele4557]

Gurl! I’m hysterical Bailey😂 Your sense of humor is Top Tier 👏🏼 If… When you turn the Lincoln tour T-Shirt into a reality, I’m 💯 going to buy one. No one else would understand it but that’s what would make it so great. Total conversation starter & advert for your channel 🫶🏼

[@GothicCzarina]

I live in WA. Our elderly neighbor passed and was turned into fertilizer. "He" was just delivered to his wife last week, spread over the ground around a newly planted tree on the property.

[@DeirdreM20]

I have been to the Paris catacombs and I have slight claustrophobia. I was okay. I went with my dad and they don’t let a lot of people down at one time. My curiosity was more engaged than any fear. 😊

[@jeansbeans123]

Perfect timing! I work as a decedent transfer driver, I listened to this episode on the drive from a hospital in my city to a funeral home an hour away :)

[@shawnaaustin3396]

Yeah and it’s mostly BS. I’ve been a mortician for 20 years and most of this comes from ignorant personal opinions and rumors.

[@thcusandsunny]

Loved the episode as always, but I can't help loving the idea of you discussing this topic with Caitlin Doughty.

[@StarGroomer88]

So I just jumped on the Bailey bandwagon and I've never been so late to a party but IM FINALLY HERE and love being able to binge all your videos now ❤

[@touchedbyyou4698]

Welcome 🎉

[@CarmenBrakenberry]

Welcome in!! You will just love her!! And you get to binge a ton of great content!!

[@dontworryaboutit450]

@@CarmenBrakenberry!!!

[@pinecone1321]

Life has never been the same since finding Bailey 3 years ago. Welcome

[@jenniferwilkinson9340]

Bailey, I was at Supercuts today. I needed some pampering. Anyway, one of the stylists and I were talking about true crime channels and we both agree that you are the best. You're way of finding humor is also very tasteful. ❤❤❤

[@christiemoore7858]

We found a company to pack my great grandfathers ashes mixed with soil and packed around a tree we then planted the tree with a plaque. I have my best friends ashes in a necklace urn so I can leave a little of him in the places he loved. Those are currently my favorite my great grandfather is there to shade everyone. And my best friend will never have to go without his favorite places ever again!!!!

[@mollywilliams5530]

My grandma is actually in the passing away process right now how ironic that this episode came out..

[@stellathomson1904]

When I was in middle school, I read The American Way of Death by Jessica Mitford. What an eye opener to my little 12/13 year old self!

[@christinaeilert240]

This is a great, and absolutely devastating read. Highly recommend it.

[@williamvasquez1677]

She changed the entire funeral industry

[@SabrinaJones-yr1ow]

So when my cousin passed away a few years ago from Covid, we decided to do cremation since it was cheaper and his wife was already cremated. The hospital helped us sign up for the state help and the VA help since he was in the Vietnam war, and we never got a penny from them despite them promising us help. His cremation was about 2000 and the state was supposed to give us 225, and the VA 300 but it could’ve took up to 2 months to get it. So we had to put up a go fund me and have our family help out and then we still never received anything from the VA or the state. We were so disappointed.

[@RyneKlym]

Please do a Dark History on Marion Stokes. She recorded literally 35 years straight of news, in the belief of access to knowledge.

[@SweetChild019860]

I went to the catacombs in Paris in 2014. I had to keep reminding myself the skulls I was seeing were actual people. It was intense but our tour guide was so nice. You should go Bailey!

[@SorryDuplexAsmr]

I’ve had the worst couple days. I searched up Bailey’s name to just zone out and watch a video or two and was so happy seeing I was blessed with a whole hour long new video 😩💞 bless.

[@jezebelover]

A couple of years ago my best friends brother passed, he was cremated. The family always has a bonfire on November 5th (Guy Fawkes day). My friend had put a little of her brother's ashes in the little paper bags with a little of the fire colour changing powder, and each person got a bag and threw it into the fire and said a memory they had of her brother. As the night went on you could see the colours, it was like he was there.

[@cynthiabombarger9152]

I love your work and your vibe, Bailey Sarian. I've been watching you for several years now and try to never miss a MM&M or Dark History. I'm so glad that you've become so popular because you definitely deserve it. Blessings, peace and love. ❤

[@Toothsleuth420]

My mom was taken away by my dad in 2017...I never got to see her body after to say goodbye but I feel her with me everyday

[@angelocolletti2708]

Lost my right leg while working. In order to get it back, i needed a death certificate for the leg, then $5,000.00 to have the leg cremated. That didn't include a service for the leg. Needless to say, i didn't get the leg back. Although i believe it would have made a cool lamp.

[@ciaociara]

Oh! You get a death certificate for body parts? I would want to preserve mine, honestly. I grew it LOL

[@kellymay8208]

Would you have to cremate it? Or could you have it embalmed or taxidermied? I love the lamp idea! 😂

[@angelocolletti2708]

@kellymay8208 Had to be cremated or buried. The entire leg was tattooed. I believe there's a service now that allows tattoos to be removed, the skin tanned, and they frame it for loved ones. It would be an interesting conversation piece.

[@angelocolletti2708]

@@ciaociara Agreed, but here in Maryland, it has to be cremated or buried.

[@morgantinker1459]

I’d love Bailey to start a conspiracy pod. I could listen to her talk for ever.

[@tdsollog]

My mother’s father served in the Navy in WWII as a medic and became a funeral director when he got out. He passed in the 90s. It was a wild way for me to grow up.

[@dannidannidan]

Masshole here! Ive unfortunately had to deal with a handful of funerals in the past decade, most recently my dad last December, he was cremated, we held a lil service in a funeral home, ordered some flowers, a lot were gifted. Just that was around $7k, which, thankfully, my brother, whose an elecrician footed it. In 2016, my older brother who'd passed was embalmed for an open casket service, however he was cremated afterwards. If I remember correctly that one was about $10-15k, and paying for that was only made possible thru gofundme fundraiser. Both of their ashes are home with us. Most people bring them home, some intern them in a cemetery or something but that costs even more. When Bailey said dying will make you bankrupt, she meant it.

[@artwithsprinkles3892]

My grandma's name is Linda, and she would deserve a coffin made of love and gold, and diamonds and silk and angel dust. My head popped up from my activity when I heard the name ♥ Love my grandma so so much. And love to you Bailey, thanks for another great episode.

[@winx251]

My family talks about death semi-regularly, specifically what we want done to us after we die. The most common ones are "float me down the river", "chuck me over the hill", and "put me in a box somewhere" so we're all pretty chill about it 😂 I want a natural burial, no coffin. Giving back to the earth is my last job as a living thing and I can't do that if I'm in a casket

[@bridiewilliams994]

I've done ashes mixed in resin either with a picture of them for display (done this for pets a lot with their name tag or collar) or mixed with the resin and used to make jewellery. I have my daughter's ashes in a urn with the roots of a rose bush growing around her❤

[@TalkForALiving]

Thank you for sharing such a relevant and interesting topic.

[@hellokristi]

I highly recommend the Paris Catacombs! The spaces are no tighter than a narrow hallway at the tightest. My daughter I traveled to London and Paris instead of having a graduation party (her selection) and the two favorites of the trip were Highgate Cemetery in London and the Paris Catacombs!!

[@motomotochico]

I love watching your videos so much! Can you please do a dark history of hair extensions?? :)

[@Calmasaurus]

My best friend got her mom's ashes turned into beads. They are these blue and white swirled glass beads she wears on a necklace. Along with the beads, the woman who made them also added a handwritten letter about the general vibes and the aura she felt while doing this process, similar to a psychic reading. It was a beautiful letter about my friend's mom's spirit/soul.

[@heathermcfarland9366]

Wow this is awesome

[@heidibates-guay]

I live in Canada and it’s expensive to die here too. I used to work in a funeral home and my whole family too. My dad still worked there so we are really aware of the downsides of the industry. Thanks for the video Bailey!

[@MoriahCastillo]

The way I listen to this while doing my makeup 😍 also girl what happened to the dark history book 😂

[@kristinmaguireDeadhead65]

We lost my 24 year old niece ten years ago to an overdose, and we didn't even know what happened and having to face the predatory creeps at the funeral home was a slap in the face. It's disgusting.

[@courtlyndunn5294]

I’ve never been so earlyyyy!!!

[@ch_pattie]

same!

[@cassiehamiltonpaisy2893]

Same

[@kristiana8219]

Same!! I came in with only 19 views 🤣😂

[@ajawalker7192]

ME EITHER!!! 🎉🙌🏾

[@angiemurphy5393]

Me neither 778

[@snowwygirl]

My aunt died from mad cow about a decade ago and she wasn't able to be embalmed. It was freaky because they had to discard every tool they used after checking her out.

[@breathedeep2060]

My mother passed on 8-6-24, only 2 days have gone by. It’s uncanny that this is the video that got uploaded this week. We called multiple cremation companies and funeral homes and the price difference was shocking. One state over (20 minute drive) was half the price and much more friendly than the ones 5 minutes from our house (that our family had used for decades). Mom didn’t want any funeral service, just a meaningful family gathering at some point in time. My sister and I will actually be able to afford to take care of mom and no worry about going broke to do it. We will miss her forever.

[@kynleechapman7472]

I’m so sorry for your loss. Sending love and hugs to you and your family

[@rebekahdane5382]

I'm so sorry for your loss ❤ I do hope that family gathering is an absolute blessing for you all, packed with shared memories and love.

[@heathermcfarland9366]

I am so sorry for your loss.I lost my Mom on Aug 1 and she is waiting to be cremated 😢😢😢.it's just so sureal

[@mckennygay2819]

As someone that has been in the funeral industry for nearly 10 years, this video had a lot of important information into the practices that have shaped the industry today! I will always recommend families to "shop" local aka actual family owned funeral homes (SCI isn't the only corporation out there, but they are definitely the largest). Our cost is always lower, the staff are more personable since you are working directly family (the funeral home) to family (our at-need clients), and we truly want to help those we can and we aren't salesmen trying to make your bill as high as possible. I personally love helping families with keepsakes of their loved ones via thumbprint jewelry, paper memorial cards, and glass jewelry / sculptures that incorporate cremated remains. I myself actually have multiple pieces of memorial jewelry of family members with their thumbprints and even locks of hair. There are so many options out there like Bailey mentioned!

[@AprilOvershares]

Usually the county will cover the cost of a basic burial or cremation. Not embalming or anything like that. Simple . Also most Funeral Homes will either put "cremains" in whatever you would like them in as long as it seals up. My uncle was put into a crank case and my Mammy wanted to be in a "big old Folgers can" so she is. Women are taking over the industry and locally it's resulting in amazing changes . So don't be afraid to ask for what you need . They can likely accommodate your needs and do want to help where they are able.

[@sarahzahn0]

Hi Bailey!! 🖤 I’ve been to the catacombs in Rome and WOW it’s crazy! They shut all the lights off so we could get a feel of how dark it is down there! Super creepy but kind of awesome lol

[@cassiehamiltonpaisy2893]

It’s like you read my mind. A few weeks ago you covered calamity Jane and I was working in Princeton, MO that day. You also, in the same episode spoke about a woman who robbed stage coaches and on my way home from Princeton I go through an Amish town named Jamesport with lots of horse buggy’s being driven on the side of the highways. Today, I literally started planning my funeral. I’m convinced your in my mind. 😂 Thank you for all of your episodes Bailey… you make me look forward to Mondays and Thursdays. Have a beautiful weekend gorgeous! (Yes, your more than welcome to read my comment on a future episode) 😂😂😂

[@brian-d-berentsen]

Bravo! The depth and expanse of your esoteric knowledge and 'electric'ally charged presentation is of ... extraordinary magnitude.

[@kbirdie64]

I wish you had collaborated with Caitlin Doughty, “Ask A Mortician”. Who is an expert on this and is an advocate for green(and affordable) death.

[@WildeMermaid]

When my grandpa passed they also bought the grave plot next to him so my grandma could be with him when her time came. She passed ~10yrs later, but they had "accidently" buried someone else in her plot (we had a receipt & everything for)! Unfortunately she is a few rows away. It makes me sad everytime i think about it because they wanted to be together (married 50+ yrs).

[@kim-md1mp]

recently saw something that said Al Capone is the reason for expiration dates on food... I'm surprised Bailey hasnt covered his life yet😅

[@8604babyd]

Thank you for sharing the history that no one else is ready to talk about. I love history now!!

[@jmichellehall]

Both my parents passed of cancer in 2003. My Mom was cremated and everything was under $4k but my stepmother wanted to use all my Dad's burial insurance so buried him against his wishes. That cost $20k and I paid the $1700 for his grave marker myself (long family drama story) . It is insanely expensive. I bought my niche below my Mom's so my family will not have that expense at least. My brother died of cancer in 1995 and did not want to be embalmed so we had to bury him within 72 hours. They charged extra to prepare his grave on a Sunday. My sister used the aquamation for her dog. Fun Fact: My Aunt actually lived over a funeral home most of my life. Yes she worked there also.

[@shawnaaustin3396]

Why wouldn’t they charge you extra on a Sunday?

[@jmichellehall]

@@shawnaaustin3396 I have no idea, it was in 1996

[@DeathKnowledge82]

@@shawnaaustin3396 Some cemeteries have shorter hours on the weekend, so depending on the time of day the burial takes places, the staff may have had to be there later. Or maybe this particular cemetery didn't usually have staff on Sundays, so they had to charge extra for the necessary people to be there. It's also not just the cemetery that needs to be paid. It's also the vault company who brings the container that the casket will go in to to keep the above ground from sinking, and unless the funeral home owns the cemetery, those charges are outside of the funeral home's control.

[@igobacktoblack2382]

We had my mum cremated, and then we rented a day cruise and scattered her ashes in the ocean. We tossed all kinds of beautiful flowers. It was touching and so beautiful to see the ashes and flowers flowing through the waves.

[@digitalrose13]

Toured the catacombs during a study trip to Paris. Honestly the scariest part was the spiral staircase to climb back out 😅

[@ClaudiaandKarina2024]

When I die, I always wanted to have a tree planted in my remains to become one with nature when I die, preferably a flowering tree

[@kacheekyy]

not a person.. but i have my cat's ashes in a ceramic sculpture that looks like her :) it's nice to have a physical thing that I can have/see to remember her.

[@injesusnamewepray46]

I buried mine curled up in the garden. I couldn't afford all of that. But even my daughters go say hi occasionally. Its nice to have her there. Im sorry you lost your furbaby. 😭

[@kacheekyy]

@@injesusnamewepray46 same to you. losing a pet is tough. she was my first cat that was fully mine, i adopted her when i was 17 and she kicked it with me for a decade. felt like i lost a child tbh

[@_korepsyche_]

This is fun to watch as someone who works in the Deathcare industry, this video would have been helpful in my first semester of mortuary school.