becoming social is easy, actually

[@easyactually]

Use code easyactually at incogni.com/easyactually to get an exclusive 60% off an annual Incogni plan. Take your personal data of the market!

[@Swishy7734]

yuhhh

[@Waterisyummy1]

Wsp bro

[@MalookiSalad]

cool.

[@krishnaghosh2043]

The sup community will overthrow you And i will make sure of it

[@bgstm870]

thanks lot bro :0 :) .....i hope meet u one day

[@sedlife4662]

I think bro read the tutorial of life

[@ashishawasthi9796]

fr man

[@realglutenfree]

Thats why you shouldnt skip the tutorial

[@suikinng4232]

He understands life because getting smart is easy, actually

[@saycap]

wait they give you manuals? Can I pick one up somewhere

[@realglutenfree]

@@saycap Too late, you can only do that at the beginning of the game. Might have to try that next run

[@jlf6235]

the gist of all the apps in the beginning was dangerously accurate

[@suvid9490]

Thats how you know he went under cover

[@jlf6235]

@@suvid9490 haha

[@HeeHeeHawHaw-ts8mt]

Thats why I really only use YT and occasionally Reddit; the rest of the social media apps aren’t going to benefit you in any way

[@atomicaxiom7573]

“Discord messages are from people you don’t wanna know” couldn’t be more accurate

[@kiranthomlinson3056]

@@HeeHeeHawHaw-ts8mt i do the same, but dont be tricked, youtube can be just as bad if it isnt in moderation

[@simelisiphomncube3434]

"so what is it like to be red" 💀

[@Rhejdns]

"so what is it like to be yellow" 💀💀

[@jodzict]

he’s colorblind :(

[@Alosuh28]

Imagine asking about this irl "Omg a black person whats it like to be black "

[@dylanbretzjr.8747]

"sure is nice not being blue, right? haha"

[@TheElectreKid]

Like friendship comrade, WE all get our dues equally xD.

[@codyy77]

theres a book that really helped me out with anxiety its called escape the comfort cage, and i recommend it to anyone with social anxiety

[@jimmyy677]

thanks, gonna check it out

[@sakakaka4064]

bot

[@codyy77]

@@sakakaka4064 bro knows everything

[@rostxslav]

bot 🤡

[@codyy77]

@@rostxslav bot with more knowledge than u

[@wackjallace]

I was gonna comment requesting "Drawing is Easy, Actually" but then I realized the art style of this channel and think I'll search elsewhere

[@akapacool]

well he is drawing, and i don't think it brings him any trouble, its serves its purpose, THIS IS A painter!!!

[@pandawithguns]

thats a violation!

[@n.lasagna]

he is drawing. so it's easy, actually

[@christinmoon823]

a doodler as I like to call it, his drawing are very charming and it brings me great joy. :D

[@alinbot5836]

Some people put much less effort in their drawing when it s made just for the sake of the video, but they can make impressive works when they are taking their time to draw something. Maybe after he learn how to draw, he may make a video like that. :)

[@Mudsson1]

This guy is secretly an immortal who has done literally everything.

[@sashanknrl]

being immortal is easy, actually

[@crix_h3eadshotgg992]

@@sashanknrlI need that video ASAP

[@wincentywilk7511]

​@@crix_h3eadshotgg992 You boutta die?

[@meditationwithtyler]

@@crix_h3eadshotgg992really? Note to self…

[@askredditstudios8055]

Romans 10:9 because, if you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.

[@golaxy110]

Video Suggestion: Quitting addictions (social media) Sleeping is easy (Fixing broken sleep schedules improved sleep) Building confidence (would help a lot of ppl)

[@ferlamer4240]

don't out urself like that

[@whenindoubtgotowikipedia.8292]

Bump

[@airconn--]

we're so chronically online 😭😭

[@nohemicamberos9620]

The only thing that made me quit the social media addiction was uninstalling them one by one. First one was facebook years ago, didn't miss it, second one was tiktok, it gave me fomo but ended up not missing it either. Current one is instagram, it's being harder since I'm losing a tiny part of the lives of people I actually care, plus losing some messages from them (I still access on chrome, tho). After some time now I can't stand the influencers I was following, and ig seems boring after few minutes since it's almost impossible to keep doomscrolling when I'm just trying to reply messages. Hope this helps!

[@adisca2k]

+1 for the sleeping one

[@Picobits]

great tips, i find the hardest part of "making" friends is not talking to them initially but keeping it going, this video is useful for that

[@-TonyaKim-]

Yeah same for me bud. It's like I can get along with people easily if it's for a short time but then it becomes difficult to keep up

[@Akshat_Sinha_]

​​@@-TonyaKim-Yeah and then it feels like you can make friends but can't keep friends lol

[@youarepretty5299]

​@Akshat_Sinha_ literally you said it perfectly! I feel like it's a bad thing to be honest and I just kind of hate talking at this point and gets annoyed with myself and the ppl for not talking to me even tho I'm the one who isn't keep on going with convo

[@killerwithoutcanary]

im also struggling with making friends, but its natural to not talk to the same people irl every single day or even via text, especially if you are relatively new friends, people are busy and most of the time if they don't mind talking to you they won't mind you talking to them a week or 2 later without any in between, it's almost never too late and sometimes what you need most is to excuse your lack of speaking to yourself so that you can send them a message and eventually when things or interests you have in common come closer you might be able to strategize meeting up more and getting to know them better to have more to talk about.

[@nakar882]

Here something that helped me when you feel the conversation is becoming boring and dry try to end it smoothly at first when talking to new people its difficult to have long conversations but as you get to know them better it comes naturally so in the meantime just have small fun conversations

[@vineballoon]

Holy shit the wall of text about the pressure washing actually gave me a great explanation to why my pressure washer stopped working out of storage, thanks!

[@skeptale]

I've never heard the term "filler friend" but now that you used it I'm having a mini existential crisis wondering if I've been the filler friend in all of my circles

[@zxorizonn_3111]

i have no idea where ur pfp is from but it made me giggle

[@carlosmspk]

I've had a conversation with my group of friends about this and came to the conclusion that all of us save for one have felt this way at one point or another. Just my personal experience, but maybe it's not at all an uncommon feeling

[@jemainmalzahar7577]

I think a way to know is asking yourself if your friends come talking to you without starting the conversation yourself and then see if there is another person your friend could talk to and if there isn't, everytime they talk to you, that mean you are, cause they are talking to you only if there is no one else around and if there is someone else, that mean they really want to talk to you because they enjoy you

[@fuchsia02]

I'm the filler friend in most of my circles, but it helps if you have one or two people you're close with. They don't even have to be a part of your main friend group.

[@leahdavis9434]

Basically the filler friend is the one no one is really close to, but everyone assumes they were invited by someone else in the group, or the one most of the group only talks to because they're close to someone in the group. Fastest way to find out if it's you is to see if you can have actual conversations without being in a group (in school you'll notice you don't speak over breaks, or that you don't actually have a way to contact anyone but the one you're close to), or if the whole friend group disappears should you ever fall out of touch with the one who invited you

[@EvanH2000]

You've been killing it since you started the channel, dude. Like idk how you do it. Every single video is well-researched, a script with just enough humour, and what are basically technical drawings that do just enough to get your point across. It's like a singularity of just the right amount of effort in every discipline

[@fwoop4848]

Yeah, exactly! And because they’re so well thought out and researched, they’re actually useful and practical. I keep referring back to his language learning one cuz I’m trying to relearn my native language and it’s been really helpful, and I have a feeling I’ll keep coming back to this video too.

[@manphan6689]

Because making these videos is easy, actually.

[@MrAaaaazzzzz00009999]

Its not really about research

[@jusatesst]

​@MrAaaaazzzzz00009999 1. Research is 100% part of it. 2. If thats what youu think, then mention what its about in your eyes

[@MrAaaaazzzzz00009999]

@@jusatesst he doesnt cite any sources or books for further reading or to support his claims. He doesnt do interviews, surveys or tests to support his theory. he presents everything as common sense street smarts that he's gained through experience, and indeed thats how most life advice is acquired. You think you can learn to socialize with people by reading up about it, by doing "research"? No, you learn to socialize by socializing.

[@lizardparty2000]

So instead of saying "probably nothing" I should say "trying to find more legal ways to harvest bones for my mantle"?

[@Mazurecki56]

that'd work on me and my girlfriend, we have a collection of (legally obtained) animal bones and skulls

[@lizardparty2000]

@@Mazurecki56 sweet ill try this the next time I talk to a stranger

[@Prod.Dizzy0nz]

Would work for me, and no I don't have a collection of bones

[@lizardparty2000]

@@Prod.Dizzy0nz excellent excellent

[@Skadongle]

Genuinely yes

[@JackLeaks2]

method 5: be the main character method 6: be a side character sounds easy enough

[@carlosmspk]

method 7: be transparent Bro expects me to be a main character, side character, and background character all at the same time PS: I know that's not what he meant with "transparent"

[@thothii6783]

Bruh he said you must choose only one ​@@carlosmspk

[@Akaki1999]

I find it hard to maintain relationships. I just tend to disappear from society whenever I get my "ghosting phases" which can last for months, I just simply don't answer anyone on phone or in social media, there's some barrier stopping me lol

[@maslinolovcherik8387]

Brother 😭 Ooooh brother i feel you on that so much I tried to find how to change "ghost phases" but all people said is "You have Anxious-avoidant attachment, be better bebebe" You are bot alone at this, we are just built different And maybe need a therapist or a good friends that can listen about our problem

[@HumeAnn]

Omh I felt that I literally have no energy to text sometimes and it can last for a really long time. Damn.

[@dreamylittleowl727]

Oof I felt that. Still trying to figure that out

[@Levy-p3y]

And after that phase when almost everybody leaves I am Lonely again

[@ChSasifras]

I'm really glad other people have summarized How to Win Friends and Influence People; I couldn't get through it because it started to make me feel like a sleezy car salesman. Also, it is very American to respond to "how are you/how's it going" more like a greeting than an actual wellness check. About a dozen years ago, a foreign exchange student pointed this out. He stopped and expected a conversation from the other person but they always kept walking by.

[@SodaDjinn]

The book is... problematic to say the least and not a good source anyway. Not only because It's fallen out of time, it was always a little dodgy. And I guess you could question the whole video because it sourced it to some extend. Life isn't that easy, actually.

[@widget5963]

I started actually responding with how I'm doing and why and most people get a bit weirded out (while still understanding that it's their fault since they literally asked me that) but sometimes it leads to fairly normal/interesting conversations. I think it ties in with the rest of the suggestions in the video.

[@frog7863]

OKAY I WONT TELL ANYONE THAT THIS VIDEO IS SPONSORED BY INCOGNI

[@SS801.]

hehe

[@Ayelaeonao]

THIS VIDEO WAS SPONSORED BY INCOGNI?!? NO WAY!1!!!!1

[@francheeze]

rule #1 of incogni: you never talk about invogni

[@Ailaughatmyownjokespewh]

omg hewoo frogiee

[@frog7863]

@@Ailaughatmyownjokespewh good to see u alive :3

[@rookiemonster646]

✨ finding a purpose in life is easy, actually ✨ beating depression is easy, actually ✨ losing weight is easy, actually ✨ avoiding emotional eating is easy, actually thankyou very much

[@inedholp1565]

last 2(debatably 3 depending on which is the main topic) could be grouped into one

[@inedholp1565]

i checked his channel again and completley forgot that losing weight was already a topic he covered

[@peace8311]

would looooove to see him do the first 2

[@Haeyvl]

i need this guy to be my financial advisor next

[@JarmaraL]

I can't say I had to lose too much weight, but I gained a ton of muscle recently. My advice would be to just start, pick any exercise and do it. Also when I went on a cut, eating less was WAYYY easier compared to working out more and also more effective.

[@asta3749]

Me reading: #1 Filter out boring people Me looking at my hobbies: Meditating in silence, reading books alone, looking at boring charts all day long Looking at my social skills: zero friends and finding fun things boring Also me: That's not fair

[@millerrepin4452]

(pulls out gun) never has been

[@King_Ameno]

He said that more in the sense that in a group, you should try to look for people that have hobbies or talk about something that interests you. If you find a book lover, you can ask what are his favourite books and stuff like that

[@sweetgirl070707]

I'm also very boring, and I have boring friends with office jobs and kids. Non-boring people are exhausting in the long run. I need people for love and support. If I want to be entertained I'll just watch youtube or something.

[@jujuoof174]

These don’t sound boring! These sound like you’d find chill people like you!

[@janaeporter3513]

maybe join a book club! you only have to meet up with them every now and again and the thing you do together pertains to your interests.... or start a book club and put a bulletin advertising for it in your local church, library, ice cream shop, or grocery store, and then you can get a bunch of random people to also geek out about your favorite books!

[@hiniewinie]

A couple days ago i faced my social fears and talked to thia old lady with really long nails! I told her that they looked like built knives that she can defend herself with if someone dares mess with her. We arent bffs but it felt good following the desire to speak with her.

[@alsjke786yOwilgq]

<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="34">0:34</a> "Be patient" *Shows person in a hospital bed* yep, about right

[@EtheRenard]

The AI result lmao

[@A-V01D]

0:25

[@ProfessorWoland_]

Are you alive

[@askredditstudios8055]

Romans 10:9 because, if you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.

[@Chapter0724]

A little summary 💞✨ 1. Be your unfiltered self to exclude boring people 2. talk to ppl about your interests (explain so they can understand) 3. Don’t think your thoughts over to much 4. Don’t force to speak with people who don’t care about you 5. Be the main character (simple questions) 6. Be side character (ask ppl about them) 7. Questions out of your comfort zone (transparent) 8. Ask if anything is bothering them recently and not “How are you?” 9. Do a group chat 10. Do them a favor 11. Ask THEM for a favor 12. Ask a question that everybody could answer (pick up line) -> leads into a conversation 13. When you overwhelmed to talk with everyone in a big group only talk to the one for an example at your side who doesn’t talk so much 14. Act like you are already friends 15. Do something with them they always wanted to do, suggest a meeting 16. Write a SMS

[@meow.chinegun.kitties]

Attention span too short lol thanks for the highlights :)

[@nickbecerra9580]

Thank you!

[@sandrafrancis3631]

Thanks for the favour!👍🙏

[@KJelly50]

i tried this and now i have a restraining order :(

[@saraky7743]

bro you are fast

[@Markm8]

I tryed it to and now i’am pregnant

[@dizzyprotos262]

Tried, now have a Rizzstraing order.

[@Aluminiaum]

You weren't supposed to use the discord ss as your method of socialization

[@gadeamolina233]

It just been an hour since the video dropped 😭😭😭 IS an speedrun of being weird ?

[@AVERAGECROWD]

The best way I have seen being used is to be authentic. People tend to open up when they know you're acting yourself, and that makes them be themselves too

[@SillyRobot]

Remember that generic advice he mentioned at the start? You’ve done it, pal 😭

[@H-zl8jq]

I agree. What are you doing? What do you want? What you looking for? What you can offer? These are questions always in my head when look at people. But. Some people can sense your intention lurking underneath. So it should be natural. If you pretend to be someone else or fake like something just to get someone to like you, well it's obvious to them. They will walk away. So, only talks to someone when you got the same interest, hobby, or job. Something that connects with both sides. Not because you keep googling about them. It's not good for long run.

[@TehSuperHero]

"Don't constantly expect favors from people if you never do anything nice for anyone. Cause that's not friendship. That's networking" omg I am dying

[@thisaintCosmic]

Actually, easy is friends new making.

[@SpoderMenG]

That of thought never I wow

[@luxnatal]

Right I know, thought always was it intimidating.

[@AmariGuy]

Do u want to be my friend ?

[@spaceofgames3489]

For anyone wondering when you grow up especially in high school people care less around junior year and just talk, anxiety really just kinda fades away(sometimes, try not to overthink it)

[@_sandy_]

true its a great way to start because you will (hopefully) take in peoples responses and get better at socialising from that! and when you get exposed to others who are good at socialising, you can watch what they do and mimic it a bit too maybe

[@creashaksorganzine0]

when I started high school, I had a voice but I spoke to a mic that has active noise cancelling for my voice and a speaker that plays silence on full blast... but in my final year of high schol, I befriended a large amount of my batchmates, even a couple of younger years and teachers and the guards of our schol of all things, a lot of my friends pointed out me having many friends in different ways... so yea it kinda fades away and I just showed the possibility of being very social

[@R3strict]

I honestly js struggle just not knowing how to respond to things or what to even say lol

[@danielsmokesmids]

yeah well i never went to high school all 4 years so i didnt make any friends. no idea what to do now, not old enough to go to bars yet

[@creashaksorganzine0]

​@@R3strict there's many ways to respond lol, the simple direct answer is there, you can also be more philosophical and understand their question deeply (like if they ask where's the teacher, you can ask where they last met or even join in finding), or reflect that to them, redirect it to a nearby friend, socratic ignorance et al but I usually include another nearby friend, like if I'm asked if I know where the teacher is, I say I dunno and end with "maybe [nearby friend] knows" and that other guy will be included, I once did it with my teachers when a teacher sneezed a lot, I was like "bless you, then God bless you [teacher who didn't sneeze], and also you too [friend who walked by]"

[@Terminated_Account]

Act like youre already friends is PEAK method to meet people, they instantly know how you are and you also feel more comfortable when meeting them

[@benstoysgames3262]

this guy majored in every subject

[@BananaWasTaken]

Knowing everything about anything is easy, actually.

[@Acubfox]

he made a video about learning lmao

[@TheFlygoniq]

But the first was probably power washing (driveways)

[@BananaWasTaken]

@@TheFlygoniq well I assume the first was cleaning, with power washing being his specialty

[@ello.adib.vaiya143]

Every subject majored in this guy

[@pokeverseinfo9]

Saying hi to a stranger is probably the most difficult thing for me.

[@ianredes]

try to sell pretty painted rocks

[@stuffthatsall]

For English we had an assignment about our “Harmless Vice” basically something that we do often of that kinda is an addiction, one guy sitting next to me said Elden ring, and I told him I just killed the godslay duo, and the moment when I blinked after telling him this, he was already across the room and talking to someone else… did I do good chat?

[@moinmaster64]

hell yeah you did good!! f that godskin duo!!! (godskin duo is actually my favourite fight lol)

[@biasedknowledge]

The ‘act like you're already friends’ tip is so powerful! It's amazing how quickly you can bond with people when you skip the polite phase

[@lillly1188]

My favorite part was <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="213">3:33</a> the whole monologue that yellow makes about being yellow if you stop and read it is actually hilarious

[@althea-io]

This is actually really good advice! Normally, I just make small talk and ask pointless questions with little to no interest to keep the convo going. I'm going to a new school tomorrow, and I'm basically hyping myself up to making more friends and overcoming my anxiety :3 I'll make sure to try these tips out ✨

[@planetnymph8430]

im also starting a new school!! it’s so scary since you don’t know what sort of people you’ll meet or if you’ll even have the courage to initiate a conversation with them, but those r just things to overcome I guess. hope ur first day of school went awesome :)

[@1_TRU3-AM3R1CAN]

How are you doing? I’ve been struggling for the past year or so with a lot of the same issues

[@vedantmankar4434]

Method 1:- Filter out the boring people.... Bro I AM the Boring Person. No wonder I don't have many friends.

[@Sanaa_pio]

‏‪<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="550">9:10</a> I think the only problem with this method is that some people treats you in a mean way that is only okay when you've been a friend with them for a while, you can't be mutually disrespectful if you just met them, it only sounds like you're insulting them.

[@H-zl8jq]

True. Some people will be sensitive with certain words. They will be defensive and walk away. Call you with anything. For example, ohh.. you are cute. But like it's genuinely cute. However, some people think different and expect something other than just cute or i was wrong to say it. So awkward.

[@Ikupinni]

Is my yt glitching why is your comment right aligned

[@redseven4040]

Just do a reasonable level of banter that is socially acceptable in your culture. Or just follow up with “lol just kidding brah”

[@GoalChasers-99]

Great tips! I totally relate - the hardest part isn’t starting the conversation, but keeping it going. This video is really helpful for that!

[@Zaya7even]

Do one for "reading books is easy, actually" and "improving self esteem is easy, actually"!!!!

[@tempestandacomputer6951]

Your genuine request for the books one says a lot about the viewership

[@Zaya7even]

@@tempestandacomputer6951 yea his content resonates with certain viewers I believe.

[@_sandy_]

but reading books is easy... 💀

[@Zaya7even]

@@_sandy_ obviously, this goes towards hard text to decipher blud lol

[@inedholp1565]

​@@Zaya7even not quite obvious, that'd be better to say "interpreting hard text is easy, actually". But there's many ways you can interpret your version

[@space_1073]

"with great power comes great potential to be weird." TRUE. I swear if anyone says my name too many times it's pretty obvious they read "how to win friends" and are using the method on me and its so cringe.

[@thatoneguyyouthinkshouldbe2431]

Ima hit you with critiquing people that say your cool name to often is kinda cringe

[@space_1073]

@@thatoneguyyouthinkshouldbe2431 it’s fine but if it’s obvious it’s because they read about it in the book, it comes off as they’re manipulating or trying to win you over or something. That’s all.

[@estrelinhaNove]

I got this friend and she has a very cool name to say and I say it all the time because it just feels good, i am now wondering if she thinks im tryna manipulate her, also im wondering if maybe I succed to manipulate her even tho I didnt mean to? It would be cool

[@GL887]

Ppl should remember how most friendships start,which is not spontaneously. When its visibly evident that people are dogmatically following advice on the internet to be charismatic & co it is cringe n kinda sad.

[@space_1073]

@@GL887 Very true. The internet doesn't just get in the way by distracting people from socializing, but it's remedies and tips on how to be social get in the way as well.

[@Spilzu]

<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="490">8:10</a> Stick City? The lore is getting deeper...

[@happyboy4770]

we also see people talking about their colour

[@magico9895]

@@happyboy4770 racism lore

[@brendanhunter389]

Cooking class one is insane. You get that soooo much and that volunteering

[@1upx_boi452]

I do method 14 a lot but thats because I don't really understand social cues a lot and I just want to get to know everyone. In my experience, I find that if it does get to werid for them, just dial it back but not so much you are withdrawn. Keep being there for them.

[@annarchy.]

this is the lifeskills class that i used to hope for back in school, but the lifeskill subject teachers would never deliver. thank you so much !

[@goofyname3188]

I personally think finding like-minded people is key.

[@someoneelse8295]

covid severely delayed my social development and made me forget how to behave, even tho it ended like a year or 2 ago i still feel affected lmao

[@lemongeth]

What a good time to make this video! I just tried bumble bff, got g-g-ghosted by 8 girls in my area, then started hitting it off much better with 2 coworkers. Wouldn’t say they’re friends yet, but being more confident and excited has definitely been helpful

[@easyactually]

Keep us updated on the coworker storyline

[@sleepysonny3]

I've been shoved into adulthood without any training wheels and you've been helping me so so much. As someone with major social anxiety, I have to thank you a TON for what you do.

[@HoneySugarMoon]

First step "meet new people" THIS IS WHERE I FAIL

[@Somecreacher]

I have a bad habit of waiting for people to approach me 😭 I am so scared of approaching others randomly omg

[@self-improver-A]

I was considering reading a book to improve my social skills but I feel like I learned everything I needed to know in this one video. The content you make is flawless as always, keep it up!! 💪❤

[@keelan270]

Gonna keep coming back to this video. This is the most straightforward, down-to-earth vid I’ve seen on this topic. Overthinking really holds me back in this regard. I’ve recently started a new job where the people are really cool and funny but I’m still being too polite and not saying much. The risky things I say aren’t the same as the risky things they joke about. Not in a mean way, my humor is closer to anti-humor, satire, bad puns and just straight-up making myself out to be deranged (for some reason) whereas their humor is mainly centered around light-moderate banter, and in-jokes.

[@sfpt]

i relate to you with the humor thing thats just the problem with being born autistic or german sadly

[@nonsmarts660]

now if only I weren't deathly scared of people

[@NathanHereford]

relatable

[@sharkie-boo]

So im not the only one??? aAAAAAHHH

[@margaret8775]

me with agoraphobia

[@millerrepin4452]

Overcoming social anxiety is easy, actually.

[@-qi8dt]

I don't have social anxiety, but I fear humans very much. I don't know why

[@rottenapple9588]

"With great power comes great potential to be weird" is soooooo true

[@Zordyn]

I can't wait to instead focus my anxiety on if I'm using these tactics right instead!

[@famalt8226]

I really appreciate the walls of text you place in these videos, it's like a flood of funny aimless thoughts

[@AlexDings]

So the thing for me is that I generally don't have much of an urge to make friends, but once in a blue moon (think every few years) someone comes along who I _really_ want to befriend. That happened a few months ago. Watching this was very interesting now because I basically did _all_ of the things mentioned here with that particular person 😅 But I did them intuitively, or because these things seemed obvious. I always felt like I was terrible at making friends, but apparently I know the whole playbook lol. I just rarely have the impulse to do these things because I don't tend to feel lonely. But this one person I really wanted to get to know. (And it did work, we quickly became close friends)

[@Vanity0666]

Step 1. Don't be neurodivergent Step 2. Do not be neurodivergent

[@kisukisubE]

LMAOO

[@davidzy4924]

Step 3. If you're neurodivergent, find other neurodivergent people

[@Jancel705]

yup

[@GL887]

What struggles to you have specifically with being neurodivergent?And perhaps can u specify the specific category you fall into?

[@skrulgrills]

LMAOOOOO

[@emilyr8668]

I always get stuck in the “ask them questions to make sure they’re comfortable and learn about them” but I feel like I never have the reverse :(

[@e_theonly2758]

<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="26">0:26</a> I’ve watched that skin theory video twice

[@haRdiko9bm]

the 16th( the fastest way possible) method is really the fastest. tried and trusted by me!

[@lizwilliams2097]

"just talk to people" is already hard enough

[@Supershadow301]

All these points legit sounds like pretty sound advice, I did do "the Iso-play" more or less subconsciously with people and it works well. I think the main issue people have with making friends is finding a reason or a way to encounter new people without looking creepy or weird, rather than solidifying a relationship from acquaintance to friends.

[@S.y567]

The thing is, i can get to know people really easily. Sometimes just making the first move is really hard. Like if someone started a conversation on the road out of the blue to me, I'd be talking to them for hours! But i dont want to go and start a conversation out of the blue of course. One day my mom's friend's cousin's children (my age) were over. My mom's friend introduced me to them and we had a solid time together, because we were kindof forced to talk ro eachother, so initiating conversation wasn't a problem. I need to meet people that aren't complete strangers to me, but we have some kindof title in common, like a colleague, a student, a guy who lives in the same apartment i do, etc. and we'd have to also see eachother often so that conversations can actually start. Often times, i struggle to find friends because my interests are pretty niche and i don't think they'd vibe with it. So maybe starting a conversation about it and getting to know more would help. I already know all the kids at my school, whether it means i have a bad or good relationship w them. And i don't go to work, bc well i have to study n shi. Thank you for listening to my ted talk

[@mishavarsanyi5946]

I loved your ted talk n shi dawg, thank u fir sharing

[@S.y567]

@@mishavarsanyi5946 my names not ted but sure😃

[@bunniesEri]

see finding people who have the same interests as you is easy but maintaining that relationship is the hardest part imo. Especially if you're a socially awkard bastard like me, like it genuinely feels like im begging and clinging onto them, it feels very pathetic lmao. It also doesnt help in my case where i get randomly sad and isolate myself into not texting anyone. Im also just bad at texting in general lmao, like idk what to talk about

[@Dachusttin]

-Puedes dejar una conversación si quieres, no todas tienen que tener éxito y está bien dejarla si es muy incómoda y poco interesante (yo solo haría esto después de probar las otras estrategias en el video) -Haga preguntas, especialmente aquellas que tengan una conexión emocional con la otra persona (es importante mencionar que si acaba de conocer a esta persona, no se ponga vulnerable (como en el caso de un trauma), ya que es posible que no quiera hablar de ello y se sienta incómodo). ) -Intentar conectarse a través de intereses compartidos o preguntarle a alguien sobre sus intereses (me resulta más fácil hacer esto cuando les haces preguntas en un entorno compartido, por ejemplo, si ambos están en un equipo deportivo, pregúntales qué les gusta de él o cómo Hace mucho que han estado jugando) -¡Está bien hacer pausas! No son tan incómodos como cree y puede darle una buena cantidad de tiempo para hacer preguntas de forma natural. No puedes esperar que cada encuentro social sea todo lo que esperabas que fuera, pero es importante seguir adelante, ya que así te acostumbrarás y desarrollarás toneladas de habilidades sociales.

[@-book]

<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="156">2:36</a> Tip for this is to keep a couple fun facts ready about your hobbies so you don't automatically start reciting a wikipedia page.

[@fiddleriddlediddlediddle]

I already knew all of this. What I lack isn't social skills, I lack any realistic means of finding people to begin with. What good is knowing exactly how to make friends when you can't even find people to befriend in the first place?

[@thekage100]

....wanna be friends? 😂

[@reya..4668]

Yeah ​@@thekage100

[@DeadziMonn]

Maybe clubs related to your hobbies

[@DeadziMonn]

Or maybe a pub

[@LateNightHam]

I feel you. I live in buttfuck nowhere. Granted I'm looking for a female partner and not a friend but like dude I gotta drive an hour and a half just to go out on the town.

[@maxel499]

Ok I am failing the very first point “filter out boring people” cuz with severity of my alcoholism everyone is beyond boring

[@c.harlotte]

W vid, I’m actively a hermit and haven’t seen the light of day in years. (For real though I have trouble making friends so thanks for this!)

[@maryn4150]

The fact you open up your comment with “W vid” makes me chuckle, you really not lying when you say you a hermit 😂❤ all jokes aside

[@c.harlotte]

@@maryn4150 ❤️

[@KeenBulldozer]

All great advice. He forgot the most most important thing. Regular showers. Showers = Friends

[@bingbong740]

Watching this I realized i've been unintentionally doing method 16 all along!

[@clementemunoz9915]

Very well done video! My biggest problem is feeling a strong connection with someone, only for them to ghost me, which makes me question myself and wonder what I did wrong. It makes me scared to be my real self next time, fearing rejection again. I agree with putting yourself out there, but it still hurts when it ends like that.

[@Serling]

<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="457">7:37</a> "That's not friendship, that's just networking" Yup, totally me unemployed

[@OneTest123]

Being outside of my head also helps when doing tasks, I'm always so clumsy when I'm stuck in my head.

[@peace8311]

GENUINELY a video i NEEDED in my life right now. thanks man. seriously. actually!!!!

[@zerrrp]

<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="468">7:48</a> This concept is really good for me, since i'm more quiet than everyone else in my friend groups, it's easier to talk with people who don't talk ask much like me and engage them (which engages you to into a conversation) and then ease in into the actual conversation after we become comfortable with each-other and get what i call "talk flow" (a flow like state that makes it easier for you to talk with other people by making you less stressed and clearing your mind). You'll basically have a teammate to help you! They'll also probably notice and become friends with you sooner than usual.

[@zurcarak]

method #13 was natural to me and what i have always done unconsciously

[@fwoop4848]

yeahh I do this too, it really helps in finding other people who are also more quiet at first

[@idk-wc5fs]

Thanks, after this i went from having one best friend and the people around me hating me(oh yea i was introverted too) to, Multiple friends and pretty social (still introverted. Jokes aside, i was a pretty introverted person a while ago and barely had friends, the ppl around me were toxic and stuff so i could never even imagine talking to new ppl but i moved and went to a new school, suprisingly i talked to multiple ppl (and i initiated the conversations first) and made like 3+ friends in a small amount of time and had ppl talking to me all the time. My personal tip is: 1. Talk first and ask stuff like their name, ,maybe talk about the weather that day 2. Have a relaxed and comfortable body language, ppl will half of the time think your chill- Unless you mess up or smth idk 3.Having good first impressions are good and all but the important part is having an actual personality that attracts ppl, dont be toxic or a drama queeen cus thatll bite you in the ass later

[@plateoffrogs4709]

as someone who is starting uni in september this is incredibly helpful

[@zepelimopensador2305]

Man, I thank God every day to understand all of your videos. It's very helpful to understand some things that are in our heads it seems to be difficult, but in the end, it's actually easy. Hug from 🇧🇷

[@randomwhisperer3228]

I LOVE THIS CHANNEL SO SO MUCH! You actually sum up all the garbage advice out there and step away from it. You yourself could have stooped that low and made cheap "Charisma on Command" or "Stare at the side of their nose for 5 seconds to show interest" content farm trollop. But no, you decided to be a major help to millions of people by giving actual advice that isn't behind some scummy paywall. Thanks so much, man.

[@inedholp1565]

I don't think those channels are lying, but they just aren't helpful for the types of people who they attract because they're high level concepts that don't really matter to people who don't know where to actually start improvement

[@randomwhisperer3228]

@@inedholp1565 Yeah they don't lie per se but it's just worthless advice

[@sunmongrel1109]

Think the underlying principle behind all these methods is not to go out making friends solely cuz you want friends, but if you can foster a genuine sense of curiosity about other people, it goes a long way. That way failures, successes, and the process as a whole are enjoyable because it is interesting

[@pasalasaga]

The thing is. Is that there is no people of my age anywhere I go. It's either people way older than me, or way younger than me. Aside, I'm scared of the people of my age.

[@Akaki1999]

How old are you? I am guessing mid 20s?

[@pasalasaga]

@@Akaki1999 21

[@Akaki1999]

​@@pasalasaga Oh, I see, yeah early-mid 20s is weird time period... No longer in late teens, so teens look at you as "old" but older adults still look at you as "young." I'm about to become 25 and kinda feel the same way.

[@pasalasaga]

@@Akaki1999 But the thing is, that I don't see people around my age.

[@dinosaurguts14]

i saw your other video on how to be smart and you said to remember stuff you have to practice so im gonna practice these today at work and see where that takes me.

[@c.mirashi]

it's like everyone wants to make friends fr I mean, but when it actually is the case of making in real life no one wants to put the effort so, where are those people?

[@angrazero8296]

For anyone scrolling on the comments looking for more advice, here's what I learned through my experiences: 1: This video is spitting facts, and I've tried many of these methods before I even came across this video 2: The book "How To Win Friend And Influence People" will NOT teach you how to make friends, as much as it will teach you how to fit in society and build connections. 3: "Similar interests and similar values" is what you should try to spot the most when seeking friends, because these are the subjects you will engage in the most (unless the friend has no passions) 4: Don't focus too much on judging character, focus on your dynamic with the friend. quiet people aren't inherently bad, and big talkers aren't inherently good. It depends on the dynamic you have with the person. Someone who talks a lot and always have new life experiences to share, might benefit from listeners. While someone who's laid back, might enjoy listening to people's new stories. (If anyone has more to add, I'd love to hear it.)

[@seiteki4672]

Literally go to a pub or a club and start talking getting to know how people react to things you will become a master of socializing and start networking fast

[@HenryShoemaker-be4dd]

Cringe

[@seiteki4672]

@@HenryShoemaker-be4dd how is that cringe it's literally the best thing to do

[@Idamensional]

​@@HenryShoemaker-be4ddPpl rlly be calling socializing cringe now 😭

[@blackhartz0]

@@Idamensional theyre the ones who struggle to talk to people as well

[@satanwithinternet2753]

@@HenryShoemaker-be4dd found the no lifer

[@badouceesay4468]

I think method three is going to help me A LOT. Thank you. I always find myself drifting out of conversations and then overthinking about what i want to say.

[@ivanawyy272]

Hey dude, just a video idea here, "How to learn an instrument". I really wanna see out you would explain this topic

[@enriquegabriel7708]

Buy the instrument and watch a bunch of KZbin videos. I learned Piano, Bass and Drums by myself with this approach. Let me know if you need assistance.

[@dazza2350]

Make yourself practice for like 5 minutes a day It might seem small but after 5 minutes you might find that you're enjoying yourself and won't want to stop

[@maryn4150]

it’s literally like how you learn anything else, it’s hard at first then it gets easier. Buy or rent the instrument, learn music theory, practice 30 minutes at least once a week or whenever you have the time, you could do it everyday for all I care, and soon you’ll get the hang of it!

[@WhoIsDisMan15]

There's a certain skill curve when it comes to learning your first instrument which will take quite a while to overcome, but generally, constant practice is key, because knowing your instrument and its quirks its gonna be a life saver, and you need to know how to work around problems IF they come at at a time where you can't exactly fix it.

[@ja5664]

now i want all your content in a book🙇🏻‍♀️🙇🏻‍♀️

[@Dachusttin]

Bout to see the vid, I wonder if its gonna work with relationships too (and/or my volley club.. and church.. and upcoming animecon... man I need this)

[@easyactually]

Method 15 definitely

[@Jokes_Aside122]

Dude I’ve got to say that all of your videos are like a great guide to becoming your best self I love your content

[@haleysettembre]

Nice video. There is just one problem: I am introverted, and I get social anxiety even when ordering at the restaurant

[@thepleb5652]

Just expose yourself constantly to social situations. At one moment in my life couldn't even look at people's eyes. It's just error and practice

[@CookieCoolest]

@@thepleb5652how tho

[@SunManMoonFan-v3s]

Oh you to?

[@CrayCrayclauds]

Thanks for the video! I’ll try to implement these. I think something that would help me socializing so much more is to be naturally funnier, is there any chance you’d make a video on that?😅

[@nerdError0XF]

Fastest click on the video in my life 💀

[@agil6555]

same

[@Barby.K]

Swear, the moment I saw it was easy, actually...

[@thekage100]

Awww....😂

[@carmenEsposito-s4y]

thank you this has helped me quite a bit. I appreciate it

[@ThePogfather906]

this is just what i've been needing thank you

[@ibisskb]

Here goes a tip. If there's something you like doing, chances are that in your vicinity, there's other people that do it, and possibly a group. If there is no group, try advertising it around. For some niche stuff you may end up having to go far from home, but this leads to a good excuse to have friends you don't have to hang around with more often because they are aware of the logistics required. Also, the Internet ain't that bad if you are good at filtering people. Unfortunate as it is, people are more likely to join a online community about something they like doing rather than a local one. Plus if you make good friends there over a long period, you'll end up seeing them in person if the distance isn't absurd. Don't shy from this if the first paragraph doesn't bring you results, but always keep trying until you get results.

[@Rasm_9]

Problem is i cant really find any groups of people, discord really works though!

[@coffee-is-power]

Discord is not inherently bad, you have to know how to filter the people you talk to. In real life it's not much different, you still have to filter out the "bad" people

[@Rasm_9]

@@coffee-is-power yes i never said anything bad about it

[@theguyshetellsunottoworryabout]

I used to do the method 14 but with people I was kind of sure to never meet again, in a bus or something like that, it's a very interesting activity actually, yeah I'm a professional cringe person, but something interesting when you do that is, firstly you're not afraid of being cringe because people will forget you pretty soon, or not care about after we talked, and secondly you're training your socials skills without risks

[@waffithamid3283]

"living alone with no friends is easy actually" video please!