Making peace with an incurable diagnosis

I've searched for over a decade for an answer - and finally have one. Making peace with that is challenging.
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0:00 - Intro
1:00 - Having An Answer
1:57 - My Diagnosis
3:37 - Some Things Don't Have Solutions
6:20 - Freedom in Knowing
8:41 - What Comes Next
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[@jessicahoward9046]

Welcome to the incurable illness club. We don't love what we have but we love each other

[@Dee-ur1hk]

This is beautiful! We can draw strength and understanding from each other.

[@mollie4094]

This made me cry happy tears 🥺 that should be our motto 🤣

[@meiraloraduncan8953]

We all need the support of this group because dealing with an invisible or chronic or incurable illness is extremely difficult and frustrating, but it also sucks that we need to have a support group so that we know we aren’t alone. Unfortunately there are still doctors and people in the medical field that can’t be bothered to actually listen to their patients and run tests and whatever else is needed to try to discover the diagnosis or underlying causes of the symptoms. Granted the car accident that was the root cause of many of my issues was before the MRI and CT scanner wasn’t invented yet, but my symptoms were a giant red flag that was repeatedly missed leaving me repeatedly misdiagnosed as the spinal cord injuries would suddenly start getting progressively worse during the only pregnancy that I was able to carry to term. When I started having severe pain and troubles standing and walking I was told it was normal for some women during pregnancy and it would go away after giving birth. It didn’t go away. I moved to a different state and had to find a new doctor. He was ok at first,until I went to him because the pain, muscle spasms,trouble walking and standing was getting worse. He would repeatedly tell me that I just needed to lose weight and exercise more. All of which I was trying to do. Because he couldn’t or wouldn’t do anything I started going to a chiropractor who helped a little, but also made it worse. I had to buy a rolling walker for safety reasons especially because I was a teacher who worked with kindergarten and first graders. I couldn’t take it anymore and I was sick and tired of him implying that it was all in my head and I was lazy and was the stereotypical fat person who binged and over ate which is the complete opposite of me. After praying and asking for strength I stood up to him and demanded that he order an MRI which he didn’t want to do and fought me on making the process much harder and embarrassing me by sending me to the local hospital where my weight prevented me from getting the MRI done. I had it done on Friday March 12 and on Tuesday I received a call from his office telling me that I had an appointment with a Neurosurgeon later that week. I was blindsided because I hadn’t heard from my doctor. So I had to ask the staff person what the MRI had shown and she was shocked and angry that he hadn’t called me personally with the results. It definitely showed that it wasn’t all in my head and I wasn’t lying or being lazy. My spinal cord was impinged and being crushed in between my vertebrae in 4 places and the nerves were being crushed and cut off which was causing the numbness and severe pain in my arms, hands, legs, and feet. According to my Neurosurgeon I shouldn’t have been able to stand up let alone walk with the location and the amount of damage shown in the MRI. He couldn’t believe that I was even functioning at the level I was with the amount of damage shown. I had my first spinal surgery days later. After the surgery he told my husband and I that the damage had actually been even worse than what the MRI showed and that I had been one wrong move away from death or becoming a quadriplegic on a respirator for the rest of my life. My ex- doctor tried to make a joke out of it because if I had listened to him I probably wouldn’t be alive. Because the accident happened 20 years prior to the first surgery my Neurosurgeon couldn’t guarantee that the pain would go away completely and I might still have areas of numbness and that I would have full reversal of my symptoms and the damage could still be permanent. I did pretty well for 6 months and then the pain and some other symptoms started returning. More tests and another MRI showed that I was having trouble in the areas above and below the areas he had repaired and it appeared that my spinal canal was too narrow and I essentially had a tethered cord. 2 spinal surgeries done back to back in a 10 hour surgery would correct the problem but it required fusing my vertebrae starting at C2 and going down to T3 in addition to widening my spinal canal and my spine is now fused on 3 sides. And that is only a tiny bit of my crazy journey that is filled with so many crazy and unbelievable diagnosis’s and life threatening health issues one after another.

[@YvonneWilson312]

Well said! That sums it up so perfectly. It's tough belonging to a club that nobody ever asks to join. Reconciling oneself with the situation though is the beginning of finding peace with it, despite the pain. I find that people don't or won't accept that if they have never been there, some even see it as giving up, but fellow 'spoonies' understand. (CFS & Fibro here)

[@dona4him942]

YES! That's a great answer! I think sometimes we're not meant to be all the way healed because God has a plan to bring us together in a particular place, where as we might not otherwise have ever met. Yes!! I love this!😁👍❤

[@sarahbeth124]

“I don’t want to exist in this body” I feel this so hard. I think how it would be so nice to take a vacation from my body. Just not feel all the crap for a little while. Yeah.

[@coastalcaitlin]

My husband has recently developed tinnitus after his 2nd covid shot and I feel this so hard. I have watched him suffer from anxiety and mania and it is terrible. It is like watching a person be tortured by a sound that never goes away. Please don't give up hope. Keep going and take it day by day. If you need to rest then rest. You must be so exhausted. Just the fact that you never gave up and kept searching for an answer is so motivating.

[@analuisa1214]

"take a vacation from my body" I literally said that today, I have a lot of weird symptoms that we have no answer or cause for, and today all of them decided to show up at the same time! It was really awful and I wished I could just get out of my body for a couple of hours but I couldn't, so I had to keep focused, stay calm and manage them one by one, starting by most dangerous and going thru until the only annoying ones. It's exhaustive, but we gotta do what we gotta do to go through today, because tomorrow is unsure lol

[@TamakiVallen]

Im so sorry. I feel that so hard. I suddenly developed tinnitus 5 years ago after waking up from a surgery that had nothing to do with anything near my head. It drove me crazy when I was trying to sleep and all I heard was the ringing, or when it would start out of nowhere and overwhelm my ears. It still does quite often. Now I have to sleep with noise, like rain sounds or anything that will get me to focus on the sounds instead of the ringing. I hope he finds a way of coping with it and I hope it's only temporary cause I know how much it sucks.

[@sneauxone]

@@coastalcaitlin Go to a physical therapist. After years of tinnitus, it "cured" mine. I needed a tweak a year later.

[@canadianmum2040]

I agree so so deep with you. I can’t say it any other way yet now maybe never. I’m so sorry we feel such extreme things and we don’t deserve this. . I Hear you so loud and clear sweet Jo💜 I’m just sorry 😢 we are in this kind of predicament. You are so loved. I hope you have more better moments that not in life. You know you are NOT @ fault here. It Suks! But you are a Good person Jo! 💜xo

[@miashinbrot8388]

Doctors often don't realize that there is a real value, to patients, in having an accurate diagnosis. Partly, of course, it enables us to keep an eye out for new or unknown treatments if we want to -- and partly it's just plain validating to our experience of having discomfort and pain and difficulties in living life.

[@golfgrabu]

Doctors have, in large parts, become drug pushers more than anything so as long as they can prescribe you whatever drugs, they get paid for it so it's in their best interest to have you without a specific diagnoses so that they can keep on prescribing you all kind of medication........

[@fennelmaloney487]

Absolutely. Doctors can’t understand how validating it is as well as the fact that any diagnosis opens the options for accommodations, insurance-covered medical aides and so much more.

[@meredithnavin1358]

Before I was diagnosed with ADHD, someone (not a doctor) asked me why I would want to know what is wrong with me. Why would I want to put myself into a box? Maybe because I wanted to know what has defined my life and impacted me hugely in a negative way? Maybe?

[@celdom856]

I want to give this a thousand loves - It was just such a relief to be believed by a Dr.

[@joewoodchuck3824]

I have less respect and faith in doctors when I hear stories like this. It speaks of not giving a shit about you and/or borderline incompetence.

[@binglemarie42]

Getting my fibromyalgia diagnosis helped me feel good about prioritizing my self care, about rationing my spoons, and about making career choices that were motivated by my health and not my desire to stand out at class reunions. I'm glad to hear you're starting to give yourself grace too. Hang in there!

[@girrrlychild]

The worst is trying to embrace this mindset when many of the most important people in my life still seem to think I just need to try harder.

[@jadeb7367]

You don't know how much this means to so many people. To hear someone talk about these feelings so openly is so validating and so important. Thank you!

[@stephie640]

I completely echo this sentiment. She is an amazing person.

[@madelynsaner6739]

I have EDS and can relate to that feeling of knowing that you’re most likely always going to be in pain one way or another. My grandma also has EDS but wasn’t diagnosed until after me, when she was 76, so I’ve been able to see what undiagnosed and untreated EDS looks like in older age and it’s scary. The constant pain she’s in is so hard to see. I wish I could give you my physical therapist because she works with people with chronic pain and teaches them why it happens. It really helped me when I was first diagnosed. I’m wishing you all the best♥️♥️

[@elaboratelizard]

I have EDS too. My grandma seems to be the farthest back we can trace the symptoms to. I always got yelled at by my grandma for my joints because she didn’t want me ending up like her. Turns out it is me. My dad has it mildly but my one aunt is the type who will herniate at the drop of a hat. My other aunt has fibro but it may be a misdiagnosis after all of the connections my family has made.

[@ItsAMbutyoutubechangedmyname]

My mum and sister have eds too. My mum have been told Al her life until that day it's all in her head to it's because you are a woman yea it have been crazy she thought it was just her then my sister got the diagnosis and the Dr wanted to see our mum and when she got her diagnosis she said it's okay since now she know it's not all in her head

[@elaboratelizard]

@@JS-dv9ji according to my EDS doctor, who is a zebra herself, told me right away when I had said I was diagnosed with fibro that fibromyalgia is the number one misdiagnosis for EDS.

[@kecrn4132]

Me too…. I was only diagnosed really, this year. Last year my doc brought up EDS but I didn’t think I really had it as I have just always thought all my medical issues and pain etc was “just who I am” and I just had to push thru…., ask me how well that has worked….

[@o.o4566]

Another zebra here. For me my granddad was where it prob came from. My dad and two of his sisters have it. My grandad was in a lot of pain but was hyper mobile enough at 80 to put his legs over his shoulders. He lived with so much pain and had issues with the meds affecting his heart. I’m 34 now and it’s been a challenge to have things become so much worse with age.

[@ToEKnee213]

“I’m just tired”. I have said those words so many times myself. Having a chronic illness is eye-opening. I hope that you can find some cadence that keeps you relatively comfortable. Much love

[@insanityisorange8659]

Try rest as much as you can. Warm baths and heat pads will become your new best friend. Good luck and welcome to the fibromyalgia club. X

[@MsMorganThorne]

I bought two electric blankets last fall (one for the bedroom and one for the living room) and it was the best money I've ever spent. A huge heating pad with a fuzzy soft cover! Highly reccommend!!

[@neen42]

Epsom salts may help too. Dr Teals are my favorite. I have RA, not fibro - but joint pain often led to muscle pain. Relieving some of the muscle pain helped quite a bit, even though it was a secondary issue

[@grobanite4ever85]

There is a drug called lirica that can help too

[@summerdais325]

I feel fortunate to have moved into an apartment building where there are several women with fibromyalgia. Two of my besties have fibromyalgia. Most of the time if 1 of us having a high pain day, 6 out of 7 us will be having a high pain day. B and I are one of only a couple 40-something women in a local urologist's practice. B is well read on the subject. I also have lupus (SLE), CRPS, and several other painful conditions. People with FM sometimes get some relief with Lyrica, gabapentin, Savella, or Cymbalta. I am just tired. Sick and tired of being sick and tired. There isn't a support group locally. If there is one near you, I recommend checking it out. Some are better than others and, of course, some will have a better fit for you. Being around others with it on the daily, has been helpful and validating. I was diagnosed 26 years ago.

[@rirdan1]

I know it is unlikely. But in the unlikely case if you are taking omeprazole (or another proton pump inhibitor), discontinue it for a time being and see if it helps. I had a horrid reaction to the medication which was the most textbook fibromyalgia one can ever imagine. Turned out, it was a rare side effect of the medication. Some other medications are also known to cause fibromyalgia like symptoms. If you are on any prescription meds, I would carefully read insert to see if muscle pain is listed as a possible side effect. Additionally, I would search in google scholar to see if there are any documented clinical cases or research (using key words of your medications and muscle pain). That's how I figured out about my omeprazole reaction. This made me wonder whether my reaction was indeed rare or if some people may just not make the connection. I found documented clinical cases of omeprazole causing muscle breakdown. That's how I figured it out about my omeprazole reaction. I would be interested to see how common this might actually be since so many people take proton pump inhibitors as well as some other meds known to cause muscle pain. scholar.google.com/scholar?hl=en&as_sdt=0%2C3&q=omeprazole+rhabdomyolysis&btnG=

[@SassyWitch666]

My oldest daughter has fibromyalgia and when you said "I don't want to exist in this body" she said that's how I she feels often. Incurable illnesses suck and as much as having ones myself sucks it sucks even more knowing my child deals with having incurable illnesses. It's definitely not something I'd wish on anyone else.

[@resourceress7]

I keep telling the people to build me an android body to upload myself into because I do not like this meat prison. Fibro plus a lot of other stuff. If I could get rid of pain and a digestive system, that would definitely be a step up. I still want to be me, so I don't know how to pick and choose the brain stuff to get rid of while keeping myself. But the meat stuff can definitely take a hike. I can't, ha!

[@allisonmcqueen7900]

I was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia over 18 years ago. I KNOW HOW YOU are feeling! I have tried many things over the years. Some work, some do not, but I have some insight and I am here if you EVER want to chat or have questions. Many people do not understand this syndrome so they don’t know how to help or respond. I am here for you, Jo!

[@mollie4094]

As someone who has fibromyalgia, thank you for sharing your story ❤️ it’s a tough diagnosis but just know you aren’t alone

[@CarterParry]

Totally feel this. I was diagnosed with Gastro Paresis in my last video. Not being able to eat enough calories in a day is tough, and knowing there is no real cure is even tougher. Just gotta keep on keeping on. Stay strong!

[@AP-sx4nx]

I also have gastroparesis 💜🙏💜

[@ttmr241]

I also have Gastroparesis …I now have a J tube

[@AP-sx4nx]

@@ttmr241 I also have a j tube 💜

[@goopyfish3275]

I have it too! I finally got off of a liquid diet for a little while hopefully 😌🤌

[@riversrhodell2359]

I have a different condition with some similar symptoms, and it definitely suckssss. I'm glad I was able to finally get on a diet that works for me though.

[@MsMorganThorne]

This is so hard to deal with. I have CRPS and I've learned that grief is cyclical. You have ups and downs. You need to allow yourself to grieve the person you used to be, the future you wanted, and the pain that you will have for the rest of your life. Treat it like the loss that it is. Like pain or energy, we will have good days and bad. A good therapist who specializes in people with chronic pain will help. False hope will lead you down a very dark path. Learn to be realistic about what the future holds. A magical cure that will make you feel 100% better? Unlikely. Some combo of medication, activity, pacing, etc that will get you to a better place than you are now? Totally realistic and doable. When it comes to the pursuit of "getting better" I take breaks. A person can only go to so many fruitless appointments, try so many medications that don't do anything but give horrible side effects for so long. I take a few months off, sometimes even a year at a time (mostly while waiting for specialist appointments) every so often. My GP and therapists have been very supportive of this. I usually will put a time limit on the break - say 3 or 6 months. Both your body and mind need a break every now and then. Best of luck to you, thanks for your content :)

[@beyedoc]

I have CRPS as well. Have you done VECTTOR therapy with Dr. Rhodes? It has truly changed my life with CRPS.

[@bluedeva]

From a fellow crps warrior just sending my best wishes and huge virtual hugs

[@xmorph125]

It's always bitter sweet finding other people with crps. It is nice to not feel alone but I am so sorry you have to go through it also.

[@redfly5937]

I'm learning more about CRPS and am starting to believe I have that in addition to Fibro. It would explain some things that Fibro doesn't. What type of specialist should one see to get any type of testing done for it? tia

[@beyedoc]

@@redfly5937 Usually ortho, podiatrist, pain management. I highly encourage getting in contact with Dr. Rhodes. [e-mail]. Gentle hugs from a fellow warrior 🧡🔥

[@kristaliaastari2856]

Reminds me of how I felt when searching or answers (at 36(F) turns out I have Autism). That I will always be in pain, will always be low energy, will probably never be able to stick with a journal or learning Korean or hold down a job or keep my house clean, will always have anxiety and panic attacks before visiting family etc.. So I’m happy that all the troubles, difficulties, oddities, have a name that I’m “not crazy” I’m hoping that it will be something that will get me to stop beating myself up over things I can’t do. And on the other hand I’m pretty sure that this has solidified my mothers anti-vax views. Thanks for sharing, all the hugs.

[@TheJadezilla]

Yes! I have a piece of my brain missing which often has similar symptoms to ASD so I relate very deeply to your story ♡ thanks for sharing! After years of psychotherapy I'm slowly coming to the realisation I will never be "normal" and that SUCKS but like Jo said, it is forcing me to Prioritise the things I do care about and let go of the rest.

[@RQuinton79]

I will always be on antidepressants for the rest of my life, unless some miracle breakthrough happens. I loathed my medication, often skipping it because that was the only control I thought I had. In response, I ended up in the ER multiple times for suicidal thoughts. I finally realized how lucky I was that I had access to medications that help save my life. I’ve been doing great ever since. I had to give myself permission to accept I wasn’t going to be status quo, and even on meds I have limited abilities at times. I had to give myself permission to not be what everyone, including myself, wanted to be and just accept who I am. And honestly, I’m a pretty good guy and there are days I’m blessed enough for others to see it. Jo, you may not ever be the person you felt destined to be, but give yourself permission to be you to the best of your abilities. Some days may bring more success than others, but to most of us on your channel, we are blessed to see you for who you are.

[@kellybertling4744]

I relate to this so much. I not only have a depression diagnosis but I also have a PMDD diagnosis that exacerbates the depression. I had to hit rock bottom to figure out medication would be a lifetime endeavor

[@hotpotato1898]

@@kellybertling4744 I have a feeling I have PMDD too, and already have a depression diagnosis :,) I've been on birth control for ages now, because I just wanted it to stop (I skip the placebos to manage my symptoms) glad to know I'm not alone

[@hotpotato1898]

@The End Source?

[@itsmarco6340]

@The End Well, depression can be an incurable illness.

[@carlcushmanhybels8159]

@The End antidepressants work. I have multiple chronic soft tissue pains. Each one a known diagnosis. Antidepressants help me since 2014: Combatting "The Pain Drain." Their lift and mental shifting helps. Antidepressants (for me just basic Zoloft and a medically well-known social anxiety reducing good side effect of Tramadol, one of my pain reducers.). They also helped free me from Thinking too much /distrusting my intuition. Basic (generic) Zoloft also helped my mom in her later years and my dad who had Parkinsons.

[@raccoonspirit5369]

Jo, it sounds like, from the outside, that you are processing grief. I am so relieved to hear that you are able to recognize when you need time for yourself. What ever you are feeling is valid and you have to process it in the best way for you. 💜

[@carlcushmanhybels8159]

As you mentioned and have been learning: Chronic conditions can teach us a certain Grace. Chronic pain disability (and shifted abilities) has been teaching me Grace. Parkinson's, as my dad recognized, taught him a certain Grace. He became much more in touch with and expressive of his emotions. He also wanted a different body. When it became difficult for him to get his legs to walk, one time I was about to go to their kitchen, "Dad, can i get you anything?" I offered. "Would you like something?" /"Yeah!" Dad replied, "I'd like a new body!"

[@waffles3629]

Accepting my pain has helped me so much. Like I'm not gonna stop trying stuff, but accepting that this is where my life is now is so helpful. I'm not giving up, but pining after a reality that'll never exist is just gonna cause me more pain.

[@jaimelovemac88]

I've got lupus- I feel your pain. Literally. Godspeed and all my love to you! 💜

[@TheArtOfBlossoming]

"Giving myself permission..." Yes! Good for you, I had the same mindset when I finally got and processed my own Fibro & hEDS diagnosis. Allowing yourself to change pace, shift down a gear, learn better self-care. It's important, with or without a diagnosis! (Sidenote: my little 3yr old cat has just become an amputee. Some [expletive] shot her in the leg with an air rifle. So naturally that reminds me to check up on your channel! She's doing well and yes, police have been informed.)

[@basicbadwitch6323]

JUSTICE FOR KITTY! I'm glad she's doing okay.

[@mspears_bobobuddytheseniorcat]

Jo, you've just validated everything I've been trying to understand within myself and have failed to express to others for over the last decade and I know you've gone through so much more on top of it than I ever have! You are a true blessing beyond! ❤️❤️❤️

[@sadworm9538]

I'm sending all my love and support! I have hEDS and finally got a diagnosis in March and while I was pretty sure I was gonna be in pain forever, and my current level of health is likely what will be what I'm like forever... It being confirmed is always a smack in the face. I got to a point where I acknowledged I was fighting a losing battle, and that using accomodations, working part time etc aren't BAD THINGS. It's just a fucking nightmare and there's often no "positive spin" which makes it harder but often it is possible to live in harmony (or at least acceptance) of your body on most days. I hope you find some peace in your situation ♥️

[@saraquill]

I had similar feelings towards my depression. “This sucks, when is this going away?…WILL this go away?” It wasn’t until I saw a certain horror movie that hat I came to terms with permanent mental illness. Thanks, Babadook and your allegorical tale.

[@photostockcanada]

Depression isn't static. Like exercising the body you can learn how to improve things. You have to practice and it takes time. There is no instant fix. Initially you have to accept your situation. Don't blame yourself or punish yourself. There are good days and bad days, but over time you can very much improve your situation. It starts with trying to see the good side of things, not the bad. You have to appreciate the small things that you do well and do right. Reward yourself for doing positive things and being positive and don't turn on yourself when things don't go "right" or how you want. Work on it. It can change.

[@PyrrhusBrin]

@@photostockcanada it depends on the type of depression that you have. For myself my depression was situational and appeared when I was a kid and unfortunately my brains normal is depression so medication is needed all the time to keep me somewhat able to function.

[@TheCanIHelpYou]

I love how you can put things into words that I myself have felt so deep in my soul. I wish that I could express myself these kinds of things to those who love me. The anger comes and goes, some days you'll just be really mad that this is what cards you've been dealt. I hope that you can find something that will help. And thank you for being here and talking with us

[@maddiestanley4647]

You're always so great with the way you put things, Jo. I was diagnosed with fibro at 19 and I'm 25 (nearly 26) now and still processing. It's a long grieving process and definitely comes and goes just like you've described. Periods of time where you just get fed up and try to find a solution, periods of hope, periods of grief and anger and depression. Side note fibro-specific depression is definitely a thing and it took me a few years to notice I had it. It's a tough diagnosis and it takes a long time to come to terms with and I don't know that you ever really do. You just learn to live with it more and enjoy the moments when you're feeling better! Everyone will have an Opinion on what to try but it's your body and sometimes being on nothing/trying nothing feels better than trying stuff because you get off that constant rollercoaster of home vs disappointment. You also get better at reading your own body and knowing the sorts of things that trigger flares. You're not alone in this and it makes me feel less alone too to hear you talk about it ❤️

[@IlivebcuzHelovesme]

I have lived with multiple chronic illnesses and chronic pain for decades. I think your response is typical and normal. The answer is you get through one day at a time. Every morning is a new day, a new challenge, a new blessing. Know you are not alone. We are warriors and we fight each battle as it comes. Sending love and hugs your way.

[@southnacnt]

When you have constant pain it’s horrible. I have a disconnected shin bone and have pain. No where near what you live with but it took docs a long time to figure that out. It’s refreshing to hear someone to talk about their life candidly like this. You are awesome! I love hearing about the things you have to deal with. I love seeing that there are other stubborn people out there who refuse to ask for help sometimes even though we need help. Keep sharing with everyone. It’s helping so many people. You are so amazing and I’m glad I stumbled across your Chanel because your stories are inspiring.

[@Timothy-NH]

You are such a wonderful, sweet and kind human being! My thoughts and prayers are with you as you continue to move through this.

[@homeydoodle]

I felt this in my soul. Gosh dear, it's like hearing myself talk when I heard this. Thankyou for reminding me that I'm not alone. It means so much. 💜💙

[@natalielloyd9200]

Thank you so much for taking the time and emotional energy to verbalize this 💖

[@fredallen7493]

My dear sister has fibro, no cure, fix, etc. She told me it usually is an onset after severe trauma. She was in two car accidents over a few years, that she should not survive, but Hillbilly women are a hearty stock. She survived, but at what cost. I'm really sorry for you.

[@whatamievendoing3416]

YES! In my training for trauma therapy we were given examples of cases where after trauma processing (in a very specific way) symptoms of fibro either resolved or decreased. I'm not saying by any means it's a be all end all and definitely not saying it's in someone's head... Because it's absolutely not! While I haven't been in the field for too long, I have had clients who's pain has reduced through trauma processing. Highly suggest the book The Body Keeps The Score for learning more on how trauma impacts not only the brain, but very much so the body as well.

[@Sarah-Harvey]

Mine was triggered by severe trauma too, only mine was emotional trauma after the loss of my son. It sucks, you think “why me?” but ultimately we have to live with it x

[@monicag1768]

Jo, I resonate so much with this. Last year, I was diagnosed with two incurable condition, and oh boy it has been a rollercoaster of emotions. Knowing that there are words cor what is wrong and treatment options and others experiencing the same issues has been so helpful to me.

[@chesbrocrysta]

All of that sucks. I also have fibro and am trying to learn how to go on existing. I on gabapentin muscle relaxers and I use your lidocaine cream a lot that has been extremely helpful! Thank you for showing it to me. But I don't know how to deal with this either. I don't know how to do ok with this. I don't expect you to have any answers. But hearing you talk about all the things that I go through does actually make me feel less alone. I don't know and haven't found anyone else in person or online that makes me feel more heard then you. I will always thank you for sharing. And sorry we are in this shitty life together

[@gymnastic_queen6711]

I also have fibro and after a while you start to accept it. Sometimes you have bad days and you try to reject it. But, it does get easier, not the pain but, acceptance gets easier

[@ZMandoness66]

I pretty much had all the risk factors for developing fibromyalgia and on top of it, I am positive for general joint hypermobility. Now I have to be careful on what work I want to take on. Funnily enough, my old boss from my previous job was not surprised on the fibromyalgia diagnosis. Guess she saw the signs in me because she also had lived experience with fibro. Sometimes I don't notice I am in pain. But then I realize I am always in some degree of discomfort. I mean...I feel like ibuprofen and tylenol are candy to me at this point. However I know it takes the edge off. Only stuff that works decent is Toradol, which is near opiate/opioid level pain control despite being a strong anti-inflammatory in the NSAID family like ibuprofen is.

[@rocio8538]

Thanks for your content. I'm not a disabled person, nor a person with a crónic illness or pain and this chanel help me so much to understand the complicated feelings that goes with those things. It helps me be more empathetic, more likely to be pacient with strangers or even with myself if in the future I would have to deal with any of that. I dont know, It feels like it helps me to grow as person and that makes me happy. I hope that you can get througth this breakdown as fast as posible and that you wont have to confront this ideas too many times more.

[@salo6724]

Sending lots of love. Personally, I'm still in the progress of trying to find an answer, overwhelmed with constant doctor's appointments and referrals. I just want to know as best I can what it is and what I can do about it in fear I would else later find out it "could have been better" if I'd looked into it. This video is a good reminder for me that there may be no answer or even if there is, it may not change much.

[@amyhull754]

I'm SO SO proud of you for saying that you're going to do what you want with your limited energy and time. You DESERVE to choose to do what you CAN and to be gentle with yourself and NOT push. I LOVE hearing you say, "Maybe now I've done enough." **hugs**

[@JuicyPricklePeach]

I am glad everyone is finally on board with you and what you really have. 💜 Rooting for you lady you got this!

[@loraharrison1172]

Hey, welcome to the fibro club! I have felt so many of these feelings and after 10 years of diagnosis (diagnosed at 15) I have found coping skills. CBT has been helpful. Praying for you, internet friend ❤️

[@paulc5333]

End of vlog lots of love and hugs to you. You shine a light on an issue that needs more awareness and support and study.

[@rachelallison6651]

"Hope is programmed into us" I love this! Rest, girl. Just rest and refresh and if you want to search more down the road then do it, but it's not giving up to give yourself a season of resting from searching and doctors. I've been there and I needed that year to just breathe. Just breathe. ❤️

[@sorchajewell4801]

Hi Jo, tysm for making this video. Its so hard to put into words what feels like and means to get this diagnosis. You put it so eloquently

[@heatherrants5881]

I have fibro. It is a lot. Some days I feel normal and capable, and other days it is exhausting to exist. Pain is a daily thing but I've found ways to manage and minimize it. I appreciate how you've phrased so much of this!

[@kristabowers6725]

Wow...thank you! You have so perfectly put into words what I have been going through with CRPS. No one I know has any real idea as to what I deal with on a daily basis,...even though I have tried to explain it to them. I sometimes feel that they don't really believe me. I am going to share your video with them, so that they might better be able to conceive why I am no longer the person they have always known me to be in the past. Getting a diagnosis like this changes a person. I have had to cut out of my life those that were bombarding me with toxic negativity. And also those that were spewing toxic positivity.

[@terimckay4128]

You should know that you can be a voice for anyone dealing with incurable/chronic health issues. You are so in touch with what you are feeling, you can put into words exactly what we struggle with. I thought of this video this morning as I walked my dog, feeling honestly pretty awful while I did it. I thought of the times that I have felt, as you expressed, that maybe it's time to accept my limitations & allow myself to NOT do some things. The picture of me in my comfy chair, sipping tea, reading War and Peace can be very appealing. Then, as I finished my walk by going further than I had planned--my dog insisted!--I felt proud, healthy (and sweaty), so for today I was glad I pushed on. Which is the "right way" to feel?? I think there is a time for both. I do spend a lot of time in that comfy chair, but if something in my mind or body tells me I can do more, I give it a try. Sometimes I get halfway to the park & turn around & go back to my chair, & you are absolutely right about giving yourself permission to do that with no guilt. I wish you & anyone in this situation peace & happiness in whatever you do! Sorry so lengthy, but I guess you sparked something--please, keep it up.

[@kimchurchman9598]

I'm 72 and i've had FM most of that time. You dealing with your amputation has inspired me with my FM.it is workable

[@mandinixx]

Also, I have days I cry because I know this is my life with fibromyalgia. Like you are saying it will never be better. I recently quit my job and left the career I had been working towards for years but I just couldn't do it anymore. I choose to have 1 child because I know I cannot physically handle another. But I try to find happiness. Because this is my one life. Gentle hugs. 🦋🦋

[@EZbeauty]

As someone who has chronic pain, I can definitely say that one of the best things you can do to manage the pain and have MORE good days is to toss out the pressure to live a “normal” life. Do what works for you and don’t give a crap about what anyone else thinks. Showering often makes my body aches worse so I use a lot of dry shampoo and sponge baths if I’m not up to a shower, and never worry about showering daily, and feel SO much better. That’s just one example. Acceptance is scary because it can feel like giving in and wallowing, but the reality is that it will open the door to peace, which is HUGE for managing chronic pain of any kind. The other thing that helps so much is studying the mind-body connection and getting a good therapist who can help with the journey. The medical side of chronic pain is just 50% of the game - managing the toll it takes on your mental health is the other half. When your mental health suffers, the chronic pain gets worse. Strengthening mental health and dealing with any unresolved grief and trauma helps tremendously with chronic pain, and in some cases even put it into remission. 💜💜

[@nevannarence6542]

totally true all of this.

[@mycreativeheart4159]

I reinforce everything you've said. I have sensitivities and reactions to the traditional medical treatments for FM. I've found best results with homeopathy, clean eating, BodyTalk, osteopathy, energy medicine, yoga, meditation, and swimming.

[@HotNerdGlasses]

My reaction to being diagnosed with fibromyalgia was very much "oh yes yes of course I have that but most people don't even treat it like a real illness so I'm not going to either" was my internal monologue, which doesn't make sense as I put a lot of value in treating all illnesses, even if they are nebulous and difficult to understand or very common and "easily" treatable, the same amount of importance. At the same time, I was less concerned with "getting better" and more concerned with...creating a normal for myself. And fibromyalgia makes that hard because it's unpredictable and sometimes even identifying where is a good stopping point before you've completely exhausted yourself is an impossible task. So you're right to take time to process, it's a lot.

[@jillianr3724]

I was recently diagnosed myself. You definitely put in to words a lot of what I felt at that final diagnosis appointment and the days afterwards.

[@cjhernandez1983]

I’ve very very glad you finally got a diagnosis 👍 also very proud of you for continuing to be open and honest even in this hard time We are with you 😘 sending all the love and positive vibes

[@douglaslester6812]

Gentle hugs and good wishes headed your way. May peace be with you.

[@isabellegoncalves7187]

I can feel the sadness, the (maybe) anger, the lack of hope and I can ABSOLUTELY understand and know exactly how you’re feeling. And know that there is nothing one can say to change that, to take all that bad stuff out of our minds. But know that you’re existence have been bringing a lot of good to some people. I understand you, you’re not alone. Lots of love for you 💕

[@Sarah-Harvey]

Your journey to diagnosis is so much like my own. I actually mentioned fibromyalgia in one of your previous vlogs about your hospital appointments. Thank you for speaking so openly about how you feel, there is a stigma associated with fibromyalgia because so many people are still unaware it exists, or don’t understand the severity of it. Much love to you, from one fibro warrior to another 💜 xx

[@michellel4304]

I completely understand this whole thing. I also got diagnosed with fibromyalgia a couple years ago and I felt and still do feel all of this. It’s also really hard for the people around me who understand but also don’t because they don’t have this constant pain. Sending love and spoons 💕

[@breannamarie2860]

Thank you for making this video I have fibro too and seeing other people talk about it makes me feel so heard, I got diagnosed at 19. I had the same experience with doctors telling me that it probably won’t get better. I was misdiagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis due to symptoms presenting in a similar way and received treatment for it and had terrible side effects from medications used for RA because I didn’t have the condition. I’m 21 now and I am feeling very frustrated and stuck as well. Give yourself compassion because as hard as it is, over exerting yourself won’t help. Take one day at a time. I had to leave my original career path because of fibro as it was a very physically demanding job but you can learn to live with this and adapt to the changes you may have make because of it. My life is different than I expected but that doesn’t make it any less full or happy. Fibro is hard to live with at times but I have learnt to make the most of the good days I get and really value them. Thank you for talking about fibromyalgia there are more of us with you than you know

[@RadioJunkie04]

👋🏻 Fibromyalgia here, too. My symptoms started at a similar age to you and I was diagnosed at 32. I’m 40 now. I’m glad to hear you able to just be with your emotional responses. FWIW, I think that beginning your thinking in this way - how can you pace yourself and prioritise what is actually important to your well-being - is exactly the right thing to do. The truth is that whatever medications and therapies you choose (or not), you will still need skill in pacing, boundaries, and self care. If and when you get to the point of considering treatments, I’m happy to share my experiences.

[@blueicequeen19]

I'm sorry you are going through all this, but what a relief to have a diagnosis. I know it's a blessing and a curse, it's a relief to have a name for what's going on, but to have no definitive course of treatment is hard. I have been dealing with chronic back pain for 25 years since I was 12 years old. I have been to so many dr's I have lost count, I have done at least 12 rounds of physical therapy over 25 years. I've had countless x-ray's, MRI's, injections, ultrasounds, and one surgery. I've been to the two main hospitals in my state and Dartmouth-Hitchcock Medical Center. I've seen multiple spine specialists and have 7 different diagnoses to "explain" my chronic pain. Two years ago I was told by a spine specialist "you will always be in pain". It was a relief and devastating. I'd spent 25 years collecting diagnoses, seeing dr's, chiropractors, PT...etc and it was a relief to know that I could stop if I wanted. I am now on the journey of pain management if I'm going to be in some form of pain forever I want it to be managed. I want to have tools or medications or some regiment that will decrease my pain when I have a flair, when the pain is so bad I can't move. Acceptance didn't happen in a vacuum, like you said, I always had a category for being in pain forever, but I had hope that I was wrong. I've had two years to sit with that statement, and I've accepted it but I am still moving forward. I'm not going to sit back and be in pain, I will do what I can do to lessen it. Take the time you need and be gentle with yourself.

[@MissGVS]

So many hugs and much love. I'm happy you finally got a diagnosis even if it isn't a temporary one. Its anticlimactic to win one battle to find you're in a whole other war. Be kind to yourself and please do allow yourself grace.

[@eden9036]

I've had a similar experience with a series of diagnoses of chronic mental issues, that also have a huge effect on my energy levels and depression etc. It's been rough, and it still is on some days, but the only thing that I can give to you is the idea that even this has gotten more easy. The understanding of what is going on has really helped me to calm down over the times. To lower or adapt my expectations and design my life in a way that works better for me. I wish you a similar growth with this new diagnosis. Lots of love

[@hmkory]

Thank you for being so open and honest with all of this. These are things I struggle with as well, and it's really tough. And I have to remind myself that I'm not giving up, on myself of anything or anyone, I just need to do things a little bit different. Wanting to make the pain stop never goes away, even when you've accepted it, but I've found it turns into things you can do on your own in your life. And maybe it even becomes doing more things that make you happy, like you said.

[@marikotrue3488]

Amazing that Jo is processing this diagnosis and still can help others. More often than I would like to admit, I become overwhelmed during medical consults. I do not absorb the data being dispensed. Yet I am too embarrassed to ask for any repetition. Having an app, as was mentioned above, to record and highlight items would be invaluable to me. So a huge THANK YOU to Jo ❤️

[@Jnieass]

You've expressed this so well and it resonates on more than one level for me. Most notably when one of my mental health diagnoses went from (possibly) temporary and curable depression to definitely incurable, life long bipolar. I feel you and I hear you and I send warm cyber hugs ❤

[@SandraEKitchen]

This video is so validating and I completely understand. As someone who only got some level of a diagnosis 3 years ago after 15 years of dealing with issues, I have accepted that there is no "cure". I may very well feel this way "forever" and my friends and family may have to continue to worry about me. I may have to spend a lot of time laying down or in a "comfortable position." I may have to see specialists and take pain management medication "forever." And I have accepted it. I wish you peace as the waves of grief continue as time goes on. You have to choose to make peace multiple times and you will.

[@erinmichaud3332]

I don't know if you've ever heard of the Spoon Theory but that may be a helpful way to remind yourself not to push yourself too hard. My mom was diagnosed with Lupus almost 30 years ago so I understand every emotion and thought you had in your video. Just remember to be kind to yourself.

[@tinybitof]

The spoon theory is relatively simple: living with chronic pain is very different from living a pain-free lifestyle. Those living pain-free theoretically have an unlimited number of spoons-whereas those living with a chronic illness have a very limited number of spoons available for each day. Each action may cost one or more of them, depending on what the action requires. If a person living with chronic pain must endure a pretty demanding task, he or she will figuratively need to give up more spoons. the theory originated from www.butyoudontlooksick.com/articles/written-by-christine/the-spoon-theory/

[@alexisflory6496]

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[@Houseofloyalty]

I was just diagnosed with Lupus at the beginning of June and when I say, you put into words exactly what I've been feeling--ESPECIALLY about the part of saying No...I want to be done feeling obligated to going to things when I just can't. I know it's going to take work, but I need to not go to these functions especially when they could trigger a flare.

[@AllLateForTea]

I am on this journey with you! I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia in April and am struggling so hard with this lifelong illness. Thank you so much for sharing and making me feel less alone.

[@anikaboelhouwer4196]

This hits home very hard. Thank you for talking about it.

[@msklvr5078]

You are a brave and obviously intelligent young woman. I hope you’re able to learn how to manage your disease. I have a friend who has it, and when she realizes she has done too much she just stops and withdraws from whatever she has on her calendar. I hope you’re able to do that. Thank you SSSSOOOO much for telling us about Abridge. I never heard of it, but what a great app!!! My husband and I are in our 70’s and it’s going to be so valuable when we go to doctor appointments. Bless you, dear. Take care.

[@kaydickerson1229]

I have an incurable illness. For now, it’s on the shoulder of the road. I’m so grateful to be there now. One day, the pain & fatigue will be right in the middle of the intersection of my life. I enjoy each day & will fight it fiercely until it’s time for a change.

[@ElectiveAmputation]

I sincerely hope you find relief and feel better. Chronic pain is no joke. Sending love your way.

[@laurad3107]

Hi Jo Thanks for your post. You are always so open and sincere I feel like your talking directly to me. I'm so sorry you have Fibromyalgia but at least you have a diagnosis even though there's no cure. It may help to at least have a name for all those symptoms. I have been dealing with chronic abdominal pain for two years with no diagnosis and in the midst of more tests. It really does make you feel crazy when they can't find a reason for it. I wish the very best for you each day and just know youre not alone with your pain struggles. Thank you so much for sharing your experiences with the youtube world. Love and Hugs!

[@jasminefairy91]

I'm glad that you're letting yourself feel your feelings

[@deutsch-arabisch-englischp1465]

Jo, that is the right mindset. Please try to follow being compassionate with yourself. I am so proud of you for what you said there because I know the struggle of being gentle with yourself. You can do this, girl!

[@Haghenveien]

When I was diagnosed with MS, I forced myself so much to be "positive" that I didn't adress what my actual feelings were. I remember being so proud that I hadn't cry one single time. And you know what? I should have let me cry, because if you don't cry when you're diagnosed with an uncurable neurodegerative condition, then when are you supposed to do it? There are moments when is ok to be sad. It hasn't been until this year, three years after the diagnosis, that I have started to work with a psychologist in actually adressing what was going on (I was in treatment briefly after the diagnosis, but the moment things got a little intense I quit) and only because the suicidal thoughts started to get pretty scary

[@nicolabannister3582]

I know how you feel. I was diagnosed with axial spondyloarthritis 6 years ago. The first thing I felt was relief. Relief that I have a name for what's going on. I imagine you initially felt the same. After that I went through the grieving process, and from what you've said it sounds like you're going through similar. It's a lot to process! Glad you are taking the time and have the awareness to process it all properly. So proud of you ❤

[@crustyrash]

Thanks for putting it all out there--the emotional and physical pain in all its ugliness. There are so many parts of your story that I relate to and listening to you when you are being so honest allows me to acknowledge and not push away my pain. I wish I could say something positive like it'll get better or, there's always research and hope for a cure. At least know that you do have your internet friends and we are out here listening.

[@lisacook1074]

I have MS so understand. Lots of pain meds later, I found ginger tea to be some much help. Momming with migraine in Canada turned me onto it. It helps with pain and focus. Invisible chronic syndromes is our community. Energy is a high priority for us. It does teach us to take care of us as a high priority.

[@jennifers.7037]

I have chronic migraines and fibro as well. I know your pain. I know your mental anguish during those days when you want your body to be able to do what a "normal" person can do, and how it is especially difficult as a formerly active and athletic person. I feel you girl! Im right beside you on your journey. Lookimg forward to more videos from you regarding this...I've been dealing with fibro since I was 22ish....I'm now 37 and I still am learning about it!

[@niknoks6387]

I have fibromyalgia too. Mine started with chronic pain too after a back operation that really didn’t work. If you need someone to talk to, I don’t mind.

[@MegaSchneeleopard]

Totally my story, too.

[@rosario1690]

i’ve also been given a fibro dx- while i’m still searching for a second opinion, i know how much things have to suck before it’s even considered. so much love to you, and here’s hoping that the fibro clinic near you can help ❤️

[@LittleEmm1979]

Thank you for sharing this. I'm so sorry I it took so many years to get your diagnosis. My advice to you would be to listen to your body, learn to pace if you aren't already, rest when you can and just be kind to yourself. This illness is a hard adjustment, even day to day. I was fortunate to get a diagnosis quickly, but at just 18 I didn't really grasp what 'forever' meant and at the time much less was known about it. 23 years later life is so different to how I imagined. I didn't know that it is often degenerative or all the illnesses many of us get alongside it. I accepted it was incurable many years ago, but the reality of that is so much harder now than back then. After living with it most of my life I don't remember what a day without pain is and the idea of 40-50 more years of this when I'm already housebound and on very strong meds is terrifying and exhausting. When you said you didn't want to exist in this body, I felt that so hard. What I wouldn't give for a break from feeling like this. I live in hope of a treatment or cure and have faith that one day it will happen. Preferably while I'm still young enough to benefit from it.

[@maryc6189]

I've had systemic lupus for 26 years and fibromyalgia for 10 plus a list of others. Acceptance is a hard thing. Losing your health is a grief. You go through the same stages. Every new diagnosis added comes with grief. It never gets easy.

[@macsjourney07]

I relate to so much of what you said in this video. I have no formal diagnosis for the multitude of problems that I have with pain and discomfort, but I find it helpful when friendly reminders are given that you're not alone in living with it everyday potentially for the rest of our lives

[@ku4ap]

I’ve been at it over 20years dealing with this. The aggravation for me is each day is different because parts of your body hurt differently at any time day or night. It’s a struggle no one except another person with it would understand. I understand your whole perspective.

[@abilevitt3334]

I hear you, Jo. I'm in a similar place with CFS, I got diagnosed quickly but spent eight years believing I would get better and following various programs promoting that idea and have this past year realised I need to actually deal with what is happening and with the possibility that it could be permanent or at least go on a good deal longer and its a totally different thing, even though I've been dealing with the illness all this time. It's rough but hopefully moving me forwards in many ways. Glad I found your channel today. Wishing you well.

[@robwilliams2410]

Wow. This is so dark, but also uplifting at the same time. Jo recently showed up as a suggestion for me on KZbin, and I have been watching loads of videos ever since. I love Jo’s ability to articulate what she’s going through, and she has such an awesome mix of serious and light hearted content. My wife has a bunch of health issues that are incurable, often leaving both her and me exhausted, so I can relate on so many levels. Jo: should you ever be interested in visiting Germany, please get in touch!

[@rubytuesdayism]

I know from my own experience with an incurable disease, I have been set free by ceasing to fight & accept my life as it is-not that it always will be that way, but that it’s that way right now..it’s given me tremendous emotional, physical & mental space I didn’t know was being consumed by constantly fighting & rejecting what my body has told me is our lot right now. Sending you so much love & strength & liberation through letting go..for now❤️

[@kenjinks5465]

I've been dealing with un-diagnosed ankle pain for four years now, after many tests and scans... still nothing. Glad to have found you, thank you.

[@TheBlondeNinjaXD]

I'm so glad this has helped you feel more compassion for yourself

[@mrtequus1]

My wife has been dealing with chronic illness secondary to Lyme disease for years. So many tests, so many procedures, so many specialists, so many treatments and diets and exercises and meditation and and and… Coming to grips with “making peace” with a chronic illness, especially one that’s “invisible” ( how many times can one hear “but you don’t look sick”) is a never-ending journey. You’re entitled to feel all those emotions, and never forget that “no” is a complete sentence. Listening to you is soooo similar to the conversations between my wife and I. Thanks for the honesty and the reminder of the vital importance of advocating for yourself in your health care.

[@Kurosakicorner]

I was diagnosed at 18 with Fibromyalgia, I completely blanked it out, refused to believe it. Unfortunately the doctors and specialists were no help at all. I was told to keep seeing pain specialists only to constantly be told there is no solution or cure. I gave up by the time I was 22. I felt like I was fighting a loosing battle. Even with being diagnosed doctors didn’t believe in that diagnosis, I felt like I was constantly talking to a brick wall. I’m now 25, have been living with chronic pain for 15 years and finally this last year I have been coming to terms with how my body functions, I’m starting to fight again, try to get help and finally, finally trying to live life again to the best of my ability. It’s hard, but I’m determined to get whatever help I need but at my own pace. Thank you Jo for putting this all into words. Showed a few friends this video and I think finally they understand me just that little bit more!

[@starchb0mb]

I am 31 and have dealt with my body taking things/ability away from me since I was 13. I knew I had some form of arthritis, but I finally got my diagnoses of spondyloarthritis and fibromyalgia only two years ago. I am literally sobbing watching your video because this is how I felt when I got my answers. And I still feel this way. My partner is encouraging me to apply for handicap parking and it's so hard to verbalize why I am so vehemently against it, I don't want my illnesses to take another thing from me. Thank you for verbalized how I feel.

[@jdmmg4904]

I don't want to compare my mental issues to your struggles with a nd restrictions you have due to your body but listening to you really helped me with my mental issues right now and for this I want to thank you. Just 3 weeks ago I learned I have ADHD (the inattentive type) and besides having c-ptsd I still struggle a lot with lots of things in daily life. Being almost 40 and finally having a diagnoses and explanation for so many things I know also feel like I can stop fighting against myself and finally learn how to work with those things as they are here to stay (whether I like it or not). Until now I always thought there might be something I can do be more "normal". Now I realized that my brain has all these reasons why it functions differently and I will try to be more kind to myself instead of always pushing, apologizing, being ashamed etc Wishing you all the best!

[@KayleeVanTilburg]

Managing my fibromyalgia is a constant struggle but since knowing I have it it has helped me to accept more aids like using a wheelchair when having to walk long distances or needing more time to rest. It's hard to know that it will possibly never go away but I do feel like I can allow myself to have hard days and knowing does also allow me to look into how I can have a better life with the pain. I hope you will find your own way to manage this in a way that works for you!

[@kristophjj17]

Fibro is literally so hard on you not just physically but mentally too. My mom got her diagnosis about a decade ago and I got my about two years ago now. Didn't think it was supposed to be genetic but its really just a double whammy after already having chronic migraines. I'm sorry you're having to deal with this too, Jo.

[@kristenhanning1654]

It seems to actually run in my dad’s family. My grandmother had it, my dad struggles with it as do several of my aunts and my cousins and me. If I remember the research there is a genetic component to it, the doctor who diagnosed me certainly thought there was. ❤️ it is certainly a rough journey, I hope yours is going well

[@KS-jf2jf]

You are beautiful the way you are, so honest and wise. What you are saying resonates with me so much. Don't have fibro, but chiari and syringomyelia like you. A lot of people with chiari are misdiagnosed with fibromyalgia. It is soooo hard with all of this. Thank you for sharing - you are helping more people than you know 🙏

[@garthrogers2269]

Totally understand how you're feeling. I have family members who have fibromyalgia and I have trigenial neuralgia (plus other issues) myself. It's hard to hear that you have something that is permanent, incurable and will only get worse. It's also a relief that they can finally put a name to the issue that is causing so many problems. Stay strong and know we love you.

[@redfly5937]

Garth, I am so sorry. My dad has had Trigeminal Neuralgia for many many years. I can't imagine what you both go through on a daily basis. Having fibro is pretty horrendous but having TN, I cant even begin to imagine what life is like. 😭 Sending you love and light. 💙💙

[@razorcatshark3223]

Thank you for sharing and I hope for peace for you in whatever form brings some relief. As someone with chronic challenges, I am finding that aging features many frustrations with one of the primary being that the hope of a (stereotypical?) healthier future has necessarily diminished and needs to be continually substituted with grace for whatever my body (and mind) can best handle today. It sometimes feel like we are in a race where the finish line keeps morphing to a different dimension that widely varies from previous expectations. Doing the best I can with where I am at right now, without too much effort expended on contemplating either the past or the future, seems to be the best I can do for myself 🕊

[@lornawood3260]

I’ve known for over 30 years that I have fibromyalgia. Thank you for your brave honesty in sharing your story. Please know you’re not alone.... I wish I could fix it for you. 🙏 Bless.

[@SummerzSpoonz]

Being someone who was also diagnosed with fibromyalgia, I can totally relate! As I listen to you talk about the idea of accepting that this is you life and you may always feel like this and coming to peace with that, reminds me of how many people in my life are extremely resistant and bothered by this concept. They see it as giving up and giving in and not wanting to feel better. It’s a hard journey when the people around you do their best to stop you from moving forward in the best way for you.