Making Relationships Work | Think Out Loud With Jay Shetty

[@aelmore5191]

I work with this really nice guy. He lives with his girlfriend, when you see them together they just look so comfortable together. He and I both got a promotion the same time. When I saw her after that she came up to me, hugged me and congratulated me on my promotion. I was a little shocked that he told her. But after watching your videos I realized that they actually talk to each other, they share their days with each other. They communicate. I realized I've never really had a conversation with a partner. I've almost have had to beg a partner to listen to me about my day or life. So when I see them now, together or apart, I smile because they make me happy.

[@tombowers790]

That's beautiful. Just discovered jays channel from his long distance relationship advice and gave me a lot to think about with mine being uk-tasmania. Knowing he lives his advice is really good to know

[@veesthoughts7613]

Aww!! I'm not even a mushy person, but that's really sweet. I hope you find someone who appreciates what you think/feel and makes you feel important!

[@soblub2243]

This is so cute. And funny for me personaly, because with my husband its the other way around. When I accieve something big, he (just by the way) tells his coworkers about it (i only know them just a little). When i come around his office everyone congratulates me or is happy for me/us. Its such a strong feeling to know, that i am a big part of His answer to the casual question: "and how is everything Going?" For him it Always means how is everything going with us, instead of Just only him.

[@demimiller794]

This is lovely

[@lindatillman5761]

This is such a good true story!

[@kirstafort2043]

To me love looks like holding hands, talking, cuddling, and doing meaningful things together...spending quality time, and gently pushing your partner to be the best version of themselves.

[@jasonlendrose]

This was me and my partner for 2 years. =) ... unfortunately I never learned to share my pain so I masked it and had no defense when depression hit me it and pulled us apart... trying to rebuild that connection now 3 years later.

[@kavithavishnu3782]

This is called Love.

[@braxtonmills1235]

You seem like my type. Single ; ?

[@isabelaguzei8745]

"You can only love another as much as You love yourself..."

[@madhumitapaul3155]

Love is all about understanding, trust and loyalty

[@caitlynvil]

My sister and brother-in-law have the kind of relationship that is wonderful, peaceful, and loving. They’re best friends, let each other be themselves, encourage each other’s differences, communicate and discuss rather than argue, they always have each other’s backs, they don’t ever talk bad about each other, and they just genuinely have a peace-filled relationship. The biggest thing that sticks out to me is that they’re best friends. I genuinely think that is SO important.

[@missks_mymoms_myjourney5349]

To me love is unconditional the way you love a child, it involves setting boundaries, being very patient and very forgiving. Of course everything is upgraded for adults. We all have a history that is packed as baggage. Understanding and being forgiving is vital. Above all would be respect from both parties. I have been listening to videos like this for over a year and I've been married for 5 years this May. My thoughts on love have definitely evolved. Thank you for making this video

[@maggiem4734]

I tell my husband, frequently, that “I thank God for you, EVERYday!!!”

[@gourikarnik3189]

Loving is remembering them in your prayers...

[@toons5567]

What if don't believe in God.

[@kirsyreyes16]

Absolutely I agree

[@donmalo136]

@@toons5567 .even then God exist.

[@veesthoughts7613]

Wow!! So true. I feel like my prayers are often selfish hahah "God help him find me quickly and see how amazing I am." Jk! But for real, this is so important.

[@taylorpresley8602]

Love is action, it's just not a feeling. Love is accepting someone for where they're at in life's journey, love is selfless. No, I never been in love just learning to fully love myself.

[@yeseniaperez5382]

Your voice, your mannerism, and your aura are contagious. I love everything you say. You are truly an inspiring soul. 💙 You make me feel peace within all my chaos. Thank you.

[@CatDuvalNineLivesYoga]

blissful couples look at one another, touch one another and laugh together every day

[@payaltalekar1866]

I notice in blissful couple is that they are the most understanding and respectful to eachother... It is their trust in each other that make them live freely as well as having great feelings for eachother.

[@Phantom-qi8pw]

Love is a choice not something you feel ive learned this the hard way sadly most teens my age and younger dont understand that. you need to choose to love the person even with their flaws because they are still human they will make mistakes and they will make you the maddest person on the face of the earth but if you remain true to your choice into the person then you are fullfilling the true meaning of love

[@AE-kv4lu]

I've always kinda thought about this but you solidified it for me. The first guy I ever liked for real, I feel like I CHOSE to like/love him for whatever reason - that he was polite/respectful/mature. And to this day we are still friends and can maintain that. And the feelings (I think) were mutual, otherwise I guess it'd be over.

[@Bunny11344]

Love is being each other’s safe place where you can be vulnerable

[@johannacerbo4427]

Love is understanding each other's flaws and accepting it..trust and faithfulness.

[@dordil]

Love is an attraction for someone and wanting to be with that person and appreciation for the little things they do for you.

[@aaronline5889]

Love is the complete acceptance for everything a person is. Living life deeply in love with myself and everyone else

[@catsherwin9157]

‘What does love mean to me?’ This really made me think. Which is great! Love has many forms to me & cannot be defined in a box, BUT in the context of romantic/love relationships, true meaningful love is unconditional & something money cannot buy. In today’s society. For me, it is spiritual connection, authentic communication, appreciating, valuing & respecting people for who they are, regardless of differences. Allowing each other freedom (to be your true selves), whilst remaining loyal & committed (to your relationship). Truly wanting to support each other grow, having genuine joy in seeing each other elevate - even if that could mean letting the other person go. Selflessness. And acting with integrity & responsibility in your actions & words that affect your partner. Love the ‘non surface’ dating questions - not currently dating, but thought provoking for when I do! So not in love with a specific person right now, but I love life, I love where I am, I love my family - I have a lot of love in my heart for many things & people in my life.

[@user-cj6uj8zj8k]

Cat Sherwin, love your comment. And you're single , makes sense you're looking for love. Me too

[@ryalat3682]

I love and agree with what you wrote! ♥

[@staceyedwards2617]

J

[@roastsandwichhouse]

Guided meditation

[@milliegoynes3234]

I never follow anything or anyone on purpose till now 😊 I love the messages and the ways Jay's stories make me really think about everything. You are truly a beautiful person Jay! Thank you 😊

[@ATrueLoveOfficial]

Love is everything. Love is the most beautiful thing that happens in our lives. Love is a great feeling that happens to the person we love and care about.

[@ashleigh1811]

I watch your videos daily over and over again and have learned so much. I am grateful for all your knowledge and positive thoughts and advice. It has inspired me to a better more happy person but to also wanting to share it with everyone else. I lost the most amazing man who was positive and happy and showed gratitude towards me, but because of my selfishness and negativity from stress of the future, and other life stressers, I failed to live in the moment, I failed to show my gratitude towards the man I love, I failed in showing him my love I have for him. I pushed him away. I never realized how awful I had treated him until he walked out of my life and never turned back. He did however open my eyes to the person I was, the person I don’t, nor ever want to be, again. He changed me is so many positive ways. Here I had thought I was doing all the things to show him that I loved and appreciated him but boy was I blind! I at first blamed him and others for my behaviors. Today I take full responsibility for the hurt I cause him. I have made many changes in my behaviors and outlook on life. Today I live for the moment, I give thanks to the universe and I project positivity. I want to help others find themselves, teach them how to be happy for the person they are now, and how their happiness will help others to be happy. This will create a more over all happier world and society! Thank you for all your hard work and for helping me become a happier person!😁

[@ciarranwhite3406]

I seem to struggle with the exact same problems but I'm aware of it, I try my best to work on it but I don't know where to start. Do you believe that I can still be in a relationship having these issues while trying to work them out?

[@Kadir_1990]

If I am grateful or showing gratitude I always say it right to their face instead of saying nothing or keep it inside.

[@Kadir_1990]

@Sarah Isaac the problem is i don't have a relationship, but thanks for the offer. 😊

[@mistydake2109]

Love is a decision. You decide you will do everything possible to be honest and kind to this person at all times, regardless of their thoughts, actions or behaviors. Love is saying, "I accept who you are completely, without condition, and I'm dedicated to treating you with respect and compassion."

[@bratty6194]

My definition of love - sharing a bond with someone composed of mutual respect, truthfulness, compromises, supportiveness, and understanding...

[@cornfedwyteboy2]

One of his best videos is called “whatever your relationship status is watch this” it opens your eyes

[@quintanahoyne]

Blissful couples look like smiling more, and they accept each other as they are and build each other up and let little things go.

[@sundaymorning9666]

I’ll write what love is to me before I finish the video. I’m currently in love with a beautiful person, we’re both 23 and have never felt so passionately for another person. I think to me love is when I find joy in the small things he does, childish nature. Or when feel at home in each other’s arms. Love, is so indescribable and so joy full, love washes our anger away quicker and quicker everyday.

[@See-if_I_care]

Then the same thing your find "joy" in from him is the same thing that will irritate you in future.

[@anavieira3488]

Love in a relashionship is a daily connection of awareness of what is going on in between 2 people and our days. Its a support from me i will give or the attention to the other to acknowledge i can see something is bothering him but im here ... and vice versa... its the comprehension we need to give for diferentes way of seeing things and after a conversation and points of view doesnt match , we need to respect the other one feelings... love its a constante knowledge to make the other see or feel i can see you and you matter... love is trust no matter what happen or in words or actions or just knowing no master what , i will have a sensire reaction of my actions or a construtive way for me to see things... love is not being affraid to talk anything to act silly , love is the confort you have from that person , any other person could give you... best friends... love is sharing good and bad and still be there. Love is see the beauty without the eyes... love is feeling safe around that person. Love makes you please the other , pleasing you with the pleasing is shared without being taken for granted... love is feeling growing as a person each day you together regardles if you are learning that day or if you just look and see how much you guys come along way... love is silence or sharing friends on a laude place. Love is a constante wanting to work together. Each day its a different challenge who needs to be adressed... they can be a drop of water separated or a ocean together

[@soniahussain73]

Love means respect,understanding,care

[@AshuPal]

To me love is a mutual respect for each others.. feelings, boundaries, emotions, perspectives, friendships, parents, time, job.. more

[@marlanynaidoo8199]

Physical, emotional, causal understanding. Positive, grateful attitude for everyday and each other.

[@ksealy]

I once read somewhere that love is a verb which made the most sense to me, its what we are really willing to do for that other person my personal take is what limits are we are willing go for the right reasons, true love is unconditional, no games, no lies, no need for pretending, no hidden surprises and loads of support and most of all communicating to hell and back, sticking through the rough and hard hard patches and not run for the hills each time an obstacle shows up but join hands and say let us do this. you know its worth it when people can't break your bond for the sake of it.

[@JOVI08]

Love is when you care more about how much you can give to the person rather than what you can get.

[@triptikumari2504]

For me love is a deep connection of great understanding. When you feel happy with your partner's happiness and sad with their sorrow n pain. Because if you cannot feel the pain you won't act to reduce it

[@CarlosDias-oh8ko]

To me the reason we FALL IN LOVE.. just like the season it's when we let go of our ego like the leaves leaving a tree.. (that's probably why their called leaves) but we also FALL IN LOVE.. how vulnerable we seem to be when we FALL.. and they except you and you except them for their FALLts or faults that some1 else might not except.. FALLING can be embarrassing to many but beautiful to a very few.. if we're watching every little step we take it's highly likely we won't FALL.. but if we learn to let go and skip or walk our way to the future enjoying all the small things we see.. maybe we'd be so lucky to FALL .. only type of FALL .. we never want to get back up from.. Love you and thank you Jay..

[@toons5567]

Love is all about caring.A person being in love become conscious when his/her partner come closer,it feels like the time slows down when talking to her.

[@luciejobin8677]

Respect is key. Thanks for your time, Jay.

[@undisclosed8307]

LOVE IS LOVE ONLY WHEN IT'S UNCONDITIONAL ❤️

[@makethebestofit-cf4sd]

I just love watching Jay Shetty it doesn't get more motivational than him he's like the next best thing since peanut butter LOL now if all men and women would think like this the world would be a much better place. Thank you Jay for shedding light in dark areas somehow you have a way of breaking through two people you are a special gifted person may God bless and keep you always. Thank you you've helped me through many rough times. Thank God for people like you!

[@babypaesh]

I am in love and love to me is wanting to grow and support and cherish someone. Love is accepting their flaws and embracing all their attributes and wanting to care for them unconditionally.

[@ninacastillo1963]

I was in a relationship for 17 years and didn't realize for years after I left that I was never even in love with him because I didn't love myself. Honestly I didn't even know myself, but now I'm in a great relationship that is amazing and allows me to be me and it feels so damn good.

[@shaunafosher9963]

love is from the heart and soul nothing more

[@BS-zk9cc]

"Love is gratitude for another's existence." --Hannah Arendt Also, come host an event in Chicago!

[@kellyherron5114]

Love is what you bring into someone else's life. That you find necessary to have and cherish; Someone to protect and care for, an opportunity to love and be faithful...

[@thebodyprojectbygretamikan6496]

Jay Shetty, THANK YOU!!! Thank you for your love for mankind! THANK YOU for sharing your wisdoms!!! MORE PLEASE!!! Please, let's set the world on fire with Love, kindness, respect, self awareness, selflessness and WISDOM!!! I have the same burning desire and would love to mentor from you!

[@Sweetgirl420]

My definition of love... is what you go through with a person, the person that stands by you through thick and thin.

[@aasd9462tw]

I think I’m in love. It is a devotion just wanting her to be a better her, and help her to fulfill what she want. And I can also grow up during this process making both of us a better us.

[@gabriellelowe7422]

Jay , you always enlighten me and I am very grateful that you share your experience and wisdom with your followers and the humanity who want to become more spiritually mature.. I want to see love and compassion spread faster than entertainment and we will have a better world for many future generations to come. . yes, I am a giver and sometimes it was not for the best, but I always want to see others happy. In my youth I always made people laugh. I am learning something new everyday, so that I can become a better person to make the world a better place as I once remembered it to be. I needed to hear this. As I am learning to love myself and stop beating myself up for my past mistakes...and make amends with those I have hurt. Namaste my dear friend and brother.

[@nailnisingh9601]

True love has no expectations it's a commitment it's a high order it's caring it's an act of a will it's Divine it's pure and true it's a choice Thank you Jay to invest so I can be a blessing Love and Peace

[@madhavagarwal3967]

Love is setting ur loved ones free and not setting boundaries for them and controlling them

[@meganmarkville9128]

I have neither fallen in love nor in love. But to me love is; a special thing that comes from the heavenly world above. Love is like a precious treasure, the happiness in it , nobody can measure. Once it reaches someone's heart, from there it doesn't depart. In love, for everybody we care Love is found in these we share. It makes you feel bright and joyful all the way. Love in life is very significant for it makes the whole world and wide.

[@chenedwards9720]

Love to me is loyalty, love to me is when you have a bad day just by seeing are earing that one person who just light up your whole world, love to me is understanding each other.

[@millicentevans9232]

LOVE means careing sharing and being loyal to just one person and being totally truthful. 100% on both sides. Jay you are opening up the right issues that does matter and should be talk about and really seek deep inside your soul to know how you feel about love. And are you really happy with your patner .

[@beljones4549]

This guy always brightens my days with his words of wisdom ! Definately resets my thoughts ❤️

[@AdmirK1]

Love is deeper than ourselves, love is bigger than ourselves, love is magical and beautiful, love is creative and powerful, love is a journey to our true nature, we are love in our purest form of beeing.

[@iqraimtiaz1031]

The definition of love keeps on changing with time. there isn't one single definition to it. Love is different to different people. Love doesn't define itself, your conditions define love.

[@kasandravargas5983]

Perfect day for me would be to go hiking and birding with a loved one, then coming home and just enjoying each other's company while we make dinner and talk about whatever is on our minds. Then we laugh maybe play a board game then go to bed.

[@lubhaniattwal89]

Love is a eternal connection of souls

[@mikefitchNYC1971]

Love is making one the center of your life .

[@vivdelice9041]

Thank you so much for your generosity and for allowing us to genuinely work on ourselves!! Your advices are priceless 🙌🏽🙏🏽

[@swathi5773]

Couples are Blissful when 1. Woman was slimmer or better looking than the man. 2. both noticed positive things. 3. Expressed gratitude face to face. 4. Both shared house chores. 5. Smiled more in childhood photographs. 6. Selfishly selfless. Loving oneself to love others. 7. Don't win an Oscar. 8. Don't watch romantic comedies. 9. Don't drink alcohol. 10. Divorce is contagious. Associating with ppl who are breaking up not good idea. 11. Try 36 questions for love.

[@Taty-i9l]

Perfect day for me is wake up in the morning, feeling rested, happy, grateful for the new day, look at the window and smell fresh air, birds are singing, sun is raising, I feel it is going to be new wonderful day and I am so happy to be part of it. I want to be loved, I want to love, and I want to be with a man that will appreciate me and deeply care about me, and I don't care about dinner with anyone but him. I want to be able experience Love in my every cell and feel loved too.

[@cocochanel1393]

i Love myself . Not in a relationship. You hit the nail on the head with every topic what makes a successful relationship

[@nallelip.7634]

Love is choosing to be with them versus needing to be with them.

[@ginagreene7800]

Jay shetty is awesome !!!! How did I ever get along without him in the past? He is my go to person to gain meaning and knowledge in my spare time..lol

[@mariarusselll5908]

Love to me is when you feel this is the only person I want to be with, have your own life, freedom, when you look in their eyes it lifts your soul, you don’t own someone, every needs their space, I’ve never truly been in love but in my soul, I believe it does exist. If your energy’s don’t match it’s not going to work. There are different levels of love, different types, ie romance, family, grandchildren, all different types levels love.

[@tawannaedwards8467]

The highest form of love is respect....If each partner in a relationship feel equal and fulfilled in ones self that is the key.

[@EFTHEMIA]

Everyday Jay. That is the movement of Happy Everyday. Happy Today, Happy Everyday

[@bafakyiivan4696]

Love is unconditional feeling, one has for his or her partner

[@gracejasinthpriyadarsini2489]

I love his speech very much my favourite speaker Jay genius

[@AvrilBabb]

The reason I believe that when you are around couples who have broken up, when any problems arise in your relationship,it encourages you to quickly and easily make the decision to separate from your partner, it's like the situation surrounding you becomes contagious

[@jennysanchez822]

I love the Notebook!

[@andyzmuda7552]

My high school sweetheart and I reconnected years after high school and realize we really love each other and are going to get married. Intimate love to me is having a person who no matter what will be there for you, especially at times when you are down/broke/depressed. Someone to laugh with and who you can trust.It’s also someone that you can share a life with because life would be pointless if you didn’t share it with anyone.

[@andyzmuda7552]

Also what really helped me in my life is what I read once from Tony Robbins... “a relationship is a place you go to give, not to get”

[@Speedway619]

Love fades over time. It never last.

[@Meow-ks3dj]

That’s true! So relatable to people, although most can if they keep a healthy relationship with the other person

[@Speedway619]

@@Meow-ks3dj Some love stories never end. Some of us have experienced likes, which we have interpret as love. Love and like are 2 different things. The journey of love never ends.

[@ariellivesonevoice]

Jay, I so do love your words and work.. it is my go to daily.. i am so grateful! And all parts of our lives need to be in complete mindfulness and transparency...

[@zubaidakhan3122]

Hello, I’m not sure why this topic particularly caught my attention but I thought about the Rom Coms a lot. I believe, one of the reasons couples end up watching Rom Coms is because usually of the two, one of the partners may be trying to portray how their relationship should look like & all the romance and love - hoping that the partner will understand and change the negative patterns associated in the relationship, or whatever they may be lacking to provide. To our disappointment, that relationship & live saving “knight in shining armor”/“goddess” does not emerge or even understand that something needs to change.... And we watch Rom Com after Rom Com, hoping & praying subconsciously. Another perspective on why successful and happy couple don’t watch Rom Coms is because they actually live it, happily in love. They don’t have interest to live in fantasy. Thank you Jay Shetty for all the love you spread. Much Respect, Zubaida Khan NYC

[@loridowdy5785]

He draws me the most beautiful pictures it’s just so many small things

[@debapriyaAshwin20219]

Love is doing things that will make them happy.. Sacrifice is Love. Help them as much as possible

[@kellymay5714]

it’s in the forgiveness it’s seems to be much more acceptable in forgiving each other when the love is genuine it’s natural it just happens

[@peeterthegreat6710]

Lov is unconditional caring from one another;)

[@marieladumitrescu5835]

Love is that home feeling for me. When i look at my boyfriend and i know he sees someone who he can trust. Love is also the fear of not having enough time to show him how much i love him and appreciate him for every single thing he‘s doing. I love it, when i can make him feel happy and appreciated and beautiful. It just makes me feel happy. And i am soooo freakin greatful for every single second we get to spend together.🙏🏼❤️ may god bless you all!

[@mindfullymeraki]

I would like Jay Shetty to be as my dinner guest -:))

[@alexalviary7820]

My is CR7

[@sambee7440]

What's love but a second hand emotion! Go on, Tina.

[@loridowdy5785]

You hang with positive people

[@rajaarani788]

ive been grateful so many timesbut i think of this time when i thought i will never get back to school nd continue my education but i did eventually, i thank you God for that

[@natashalalu9345]

jay shetty i listen to u everyday an u motivate me i thank u

[@Kiana-Michelle]

Love is when you can think "would I do anything for that person?". Of course not going past your boundaries but doing anything as to make them happy and going out of your way for them.

[@taracraig5771]

The difference that I have seen is that there are times that are set aside to talk. Understanding the boundaries of agreed upon respect.

[@maqsudaquoreshi6612]

"We need to be selfishly selfless..."YES

[@BrotherTree1]

I pretty much hung on every single word from Jay here. Absolutely eye-opening and insightful. Thank you, thank you, thank you!

[@mhretgebreab5187]

To love means to have some one can give us unconditional love

[@aleksanderjan2417]

Love should be seen not as a feeling but as an enacted emotion.

[@liammorningstar4970]

I am in love...love is kind Love is caring Love is nurturing Love is giving

[@Cat.c300]

Love is trustworthy one who stand for everything and every time even they not there still feels with them

[@troyhagen587]

Been struggling with my self improvement and Peaceful with SOUL and MIND. Working on ME finding out want makes me HAPPY. SAME time fighting for my health of PARKINSON at same time. WOW. Been married #'s times no more. Happy by my self with my DOG. HAPPYNESS by myself. THANKS

[@rideetarahman7481]

Troy Hagen how? I’m trying to do the same

[@rebeccalarson7688]

Clearly now it’s a give and take with raw emotional energy connecting

[@RicardoGonzalez-tm3xi]

Love to me is something unconditional once you love someone you can't unlove them you can only love them as much as that person let's you other than my family I love 4 people non of wich I'm with presently

[@pixie89]

Ricardo Gonzalez i hope you get loved too. Wishing you the best. 😊

[@nhrarock]

Ricardo Gonzalez It is unconditional but I found myself in relationship where I put everything into it but when they broke that bond that was there the love was no longer there.And yes you can In love someone who takes u for granted .

[@joanlee921]

yes, love is unconditional...somehow he does not understand it..

[@michellezheng9881]

@@nhrarock Agree, I felt the moment he said so, something between us broke.

[@stanwalkerlover23]

@@nhrarock well there is a difference between being in love and love . There are of the same root but love is a verb and has its own limits but being in love is limitless and is unconditional it’s why when your in love you love every part of that person and it’s why you are in love with your own kids because there are as much a part of you and you love every part of them because you nurtured them and you grew with them . I also feel like love is like energy you can’t create it is all around and sometimes it changes or becomes better but either you never really loose love it just becomes a different experience

[@anam289]

What is love? Baby don't hurt me...

[@emilyfouquettehoffman7886]

No more....

[@mariortiz7971]

Love is sacrifice, putting others before yourself, the time you put into for someone to make them feel special, loved or cared for. It’s unconditional. Jesus is an example of that love for us.

[@leloupsolitaire29]

Bahahahahaaa....I sang what is love as I read it....then I saw and sang baby don't hurt me.

[@therealsandraweise]

Healthy relationships are conditional but love is not. Real love is care and concern for another being whether you are involved or not.

[@arianagrimaldo8674]

I fell in love. I'm still in love with that person. We recently broke up but now we are taking the time to enlight each other. See how much we have changed. Actually communicate & trust each other. It's coming along so well.. we are more in love than ever now.. ❤️

[@freeviebee]

Ariana Grimaldo are you guys back together? Did it work? :)