ObGyn Reacts: She had a baby at work?

[@MamaDoctorJones]

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[@thrgost]

I gave birth at 29 weeks (1.3 kg) to a baby who didn't cry, he gave devastating side eye, sighed, and scowled. Like he was born a 80yo with a tragic backstory. Kid is 12 now and hasn't changed too much.

[@artsysabs]

That's epic 😂

[@gabbyfringette7250]

Oldest 12 year old ever

[@takumi2023]

lol

[@Lunatunanoodle]

My niece was born at 38 weeks. I wasn’t there in the room but I was there shortly after. She was very displeased to have a diaper put on and and wrapped up. Then when I was holding her later she kept stretching her legs and getting mad that she could stretch her legs. She’s 7 and still loud and opinionated lol

[@bdazzld]

😂😂😂

[@rjkbuny]

Can we give props to the guy being like "poor dieting and lifestyle choices WE had made" and not "her poor dieting and her choices" 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

[@catbunfish]

And the fact she was giggling over how much she loved him, even after they'd been together for years? He sounds like a great partner.

[@annakevlin8634]

Yes, wonderful 👍

[@harringt100]

Well, maybe he's aware that the father's health before the pregnancy is conceived can affect the baby's health, too.

[@WouldntULikeToKnow.]

@@harringt100 yep, not enough people realize this

[@fifinoir]

I had the exact same thought

[@Huntongardening]

One of my friends had a baby; right after, they put the baby up on her chest and she said "he doesn't look like me, I don't think he's mine" and the OB was like "he is literally still attached to you" because they hadn't cut the cord yet.

[@theincarnationofboredom207]

I've heard pregnancy brain can do wild things but omg

[@AreeeAsh]

Lmaoo

[@16poetisa]

The dissociation 😬

[@kristinwiebold2433]

Lol... never been pregnant myself but I can't blame some women dissociate from their pregnancy or baby between labor to birth. Depending how their body and mind handles it. Wonder if it is their brain trying to protect itself?

[@adamsdeja127]

Hilarious 😭

[@ericagoehring1089]

I had an unplanned home birth, and I remember my husband saying, "I think you need to take your pants off." Calm as could be. It never crossed my mind! I was occupied. 🤣

[@KarlaO711]

Oh my. :D totally understandable tho. ^^

[@leonoormulder2872]

"I was occupied" 🤣🤣🤣

[@annabees]

that's the kind of calm my partner is too. As a midwife I met said "you found the man that settles you when you need it" 🥰 I wish he could be the one being pregnant sometimes 😂

[@SHARKAST1C]

I went to go pick up my friends daughter because she was in labor and going to the hospital. She kept going up and down the stairs saying things like "I don't want people to think I peed my pants", luckily her husband got her in their car, but I (never having given birth) thought she was pranking me at first.

[@christinamitchell7849]

I also had an unplanned home birth and my husband had to help me out of my pants, but it was my 4th so I knew the drill. 😅

[@harukaru84]

Can we talk about the way the dad speaks and how sweet and supportive he is to his girlfriend? he even said "WE didn't make healthy choices" so sweet. 🥰

[@casie6609]

Sadly it's the bare minimum

[@harukaru84]

@@casie6609 what else do you want him to do, birth the child himself? he was there for his GF all the way?

[@callistamccracken3744]

@@casie6609 what exactly do you mean.... He sounds like he is very caring and supportive. Not to mention in a very short span of time he went from a dude just chilling with his gf to convincing her that they can together raise a human...

[@casie6609]

@@harukaru84 Um no, I don't expect him to birth the child himself. He definitely was there for her all the way and he seems like a great guy.

[@casie6609]

@@callistamccracken3744 Yeah, he seems like a great guy. I wasn't insulting him. What I mean is exactly what I said; him being there for his girlfriend is something that should be expected. Mothers make the choice to raise a human all the time, while men often don't have to make that decision or be there. I'm saying that it's sad if people are surprised he's a good man. And women don't always get the same praise for raising their children alone because they're simply expected to be mothers.

[@tommiegnosis]

I loved that you touched on the "push through it" mentality in the US. It's pretty toxic. Also, as a woman who has seriously bad periods you are expected to work and "a period isn't an excuse" not to (yes, I've been told that and heard female bosses say that about female coworkers). The fact that that mentality spilled over to a woman in labor is just sad. the US needs to do better.

[@bookcat123]

And this is the problem right here. “You should be able to do everything you normally do on your period” + the American push-through-it mindset leads to people ignoring extreme pain rather than going to a doctor - or being told by the doctor that they need to stop complaining because “it’s normal” and “it shouldn’t stop you” They make it about your attitude rather than the pain level.

[@elisharoberts1029]

Omg yes!!!!!!! I was literally miscarrying and my former employer was mad I left early. I worked at a daycare. I left 15 minutes early. We had 6 teachers and 8 kids. I think they handled it just fine.

[@Listrynne]

I've had heavy periods from day one. The cramps increased after high school. Now I'm useless for 1 or 2 days a month, sometimes 3, and it's not something I can "push through". I'm actually considering a hysterectomy at 33, even though I *loved* being pregnant with my daughter. I have enough medical things decreasing my functionality that if I can remove one entirely it might be worth it. I've always planned on foster and adoption anyway.

[@MelanieButera]

As someone who hardly calls off I still get questioned and criticized for calling off. It definitely helps if your work knows your medical history but I shouldn’t have to go into detail or have my coworkers witness my excruciating pain for them to buy why you are calling off. I have “digestive issues” which flare up leaving me in physical pain and physically and mentally exhausted until I can solve the problem which isn’t always an easy thing to do. One time I had no idea what the problem actually, and still don’t, but I was in such much pain I couldn’t stand let alone work. Literally physically standing up straight felt like someone was tearing into my abdomen, it was excruciating to just hobble around. The only thing that helped was lying down with a heating pad. Same thing with my menstrual cycle, most of the time I get through them fine but every couple of months or so it’ll hit me with such pain that nothing cures. I don’t know if anyones ever tried sleeping with intense pain, or pain that comes and goes every five minutes but it sucks and to have to call off because you are so tired because pain refused to let you sleep sucks even more

[@fonjadidi]

Really annoyed me that everyone experienced pain different and had less or more severe pains during periods, so they cannot say oh it's not that bad keep working!! NO you don't know how bad it is!

[@mandlerparr1]

Another possible, maybe is that woman in 1945 knew she was pregnant, but had miscarried and then got pregnant again soon after and just assumed she was pregnant the entire time.

[@victoriakmartin]

Yeah, that was my first thought, two separate pregnancy's close enough together to mistake them as one.

[@marthahawkinson-michau9611]

That sounds way more plausible than one pregnancy lasting over a year. It’s totally possible to get pregnant within a month of losing a pregnancy.

[@JuMiKu]

Or lies. I'm not saying she did that necessarily, but that is always a huge possibility, if something kind of impossible has happened according to one person. (Remember that woman, who claimed she gave birth to bunnies?)

[@marthahawkinson-michau9611]

@@JuMiKu especially if the woman needed to cover up any possible infidelities. I seem to recall there was a war on in 1945. Lots of crazy things happened that year. Including couples separated by the war.

[@BeeWhistler]

@@marthahawkinson-michau9611 I suppose if her husband was shipping out earlier that year… it would make a lot of sense. But ouch…

[@asranamaria]

My sister didn't know she was pregnant. (6 years ago). She called me at 10 PM that she is in pain, I called an ambulance for her, and I went with her boyfriend to the hospital, we found out she was in labor. Her boyfriend was almost fainting, was attended by some nurses, then I called my mother. I told her what is happening, and she fainted as speaking on the phone with me... I run home, I found her in the hallway collapsed. I called my neighbor, she is a nurse, she helped me with her. ... I wasn't sure if I should tell her again the news or she remembers! It was quite a day, funny now, not so much then.

[@ladybuglover4eva52]

Girl, you were holding it down for everyone! 💪🏾

[@ameliarose47]

I'm sure the news is obviously a huge shock, but the fact that BOTH dad and grandma to be fainted is wild.

[@boomshakarlaka7237]

I just throw a shout out to that very responsible young couple for treating this whole situation as theirs and not as each individual. 🙌🏻🙌🏻 Its a lot more maturity than most 30 year olds I’ve encountered.

[@guttermouthgirl5135]

When you said period pain shouldn’t interfere with your life I felt so sad… I spent two years with pain so severe I would faint at school. You could hear me screaming in pain from outside the building when I was in the Nurse’s office. I couldn’t walk, felt like I couldn’t breathe, and my skin would so grey and sweat and shake like I’m fevering. I would throw up and get the runs. The nurses never said anything but would send me home. My mom refused to take me to the gyn for 2 years because she “didn’t want me on bc” and she knew they would put me on it. Everyone just said I had bad periods. Turned out I had an ovarian cyst the size of a small lime……

[@Zhishan929]

I don’t understand this thought process. Birth control vs seeing your child in pain…..

[@LeBatteur]

It’s terrifying to me that someone would see a person in THAT much pain and think there’s ANYTHING normal about it. Period cramps should be mild to moderately uncomfortable, but otherwise manageable with proper care and/or pain medication. My sister experienced this as well, and she ended up in the emergency room, and they STILL. Let her sit there. For six goddamn hours, even when morphine wasn’t working. Her ovary was dead and had to be removed, but it could have been so much worse if she hadn’t finally gotten treatment. It’s both astonishing and enraging how little people care about women’s pain.

[@beastshawnee]

I had excruciating period pain. I wasn’t allowed by my parents to complain about it or to leave school. I bled like a stick pig for 8 full days each time. When I got to college at age 17-the FIRST thing I did was go to the college clinic and ask for help with the periods. The doctor allowed me the highest dose of ibuprofen which back then was prescription. It helped a TON. It didn’t stop the cramps 100 but dialed them down to a 55 and that was WAY better. (turns out I had fibromyalgia since birth-that made all pain much worse-still does but at least now I know and can mitigate a bit of it with a carnivore diet and avoid humidity.

[@marinam.2293]

GutterMouthGirl: I'm so sorry you had to go through that. What an awful experience. I remember how my ovarian cyst felt, and I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. My mom kept taking me to doctors, to ER, for all kinds of tests - but for almost two years, no one could come up with a diagnosis that made any sense. (I was 11 when it began, my periods hadn't started yet.) I did hear lot of BS along the way, from "she's constipated" to "she's faking, send her back to school". As it turned out, I had a cyst the size of a goose egg on my ovary. Thank goodness one doctor finally had the sense to refer me to a gynecologist. I must say that I really can't understand your mom's attitude, but I hope everything worked out well for you after you were (finally) correctly diagnosed.

[@53mandevilla]

Omg! Uh, sorry, but your Mom kind of lame? Pain like that NOT NORMAL! 😢😢😢

[@dumdumlikespie]

I think the fact that that "year+" pregnancy happened during an overseas war when a lot of husband's were away from home for extended time periods might go a little ways to explain the length of that pregnancy

[@amfla3787]

Ah-ha... That might be that happened

[@Acidfunkish]

It was still legal for men to beat their wives, until around the 90s, iirc. 😬 Given the time, it fits.

[@viveleshistoires4874]

Yeah that makes more sense. x)

[@gimygaming8655]

XD THIS IS SO FUNNY

[@SydneyHendricks]

😂

[@jackriver8385]

Back when I was pregnant with my eldest kiddo, I knew a very sweet girl. She was very excited and told me she would love to help me out with the baby once they're born, and she also told me she wanted to have a baby but couldn't due to some problem with her uterus. Not long after that conversation she went to the doctor for a problem with her foot and found out that she was 8 months pregnant. She ended up giving birth before I did 😅 I haven't really spoken to her since but I hope she and her baby are doing well

[@MollyFC]

@@lynncrf I thought it was going to be an unhealthy obsession with the baby after its born. Moving in next door, checking in on it, playing mom, etc

[@LilFiremaster]

Ya'll my people since you went straight for the True Crime/Tragedy angle, hahaha!

[@andreamalarkey5387]

​@@MollyFCsame.

[@melissacoviello2886]

My goodness I started crying when she said she called her family and “they weren’t having it”. Whew my family is dysfunctional in a million ways, but none of us could ever do that. How heartbreaking. I’m glad his family didn’t react that way, hopefully her family has come around. Such an interesting episode.

[@charlotteinnocent8752]

I know, I wish that I could offer her a hug in that moment! I hope her family later begged for forgiveness from her for judging her like that. I mean, she was working 2 jobs, going to school, steady boyfriend of 2 years... she wasn't a mess or anything! She was great!

[@tinkeramma]

I felt the same. I know families typically have the length of pregnancy to react and adjust to the new small person in their lives, which this family didn't. At the same time, families usually come around to the news when a new little one is actually here.

[@melissacoviello2886]

@@tinkeramma I worked as a special Ed assistant for years, in a k-12 school, one of my former students at 16 found out she was pregnant. Her family practically disowned her. She was desperate and had nothing. I had the pleasure of planning her baby shower and letting her know that while her situation may not be ideal, but welcoming a new baby into the world was a joyous occasion. Thankfully her family came around before her son was born and she didn’t have to do it alone. She is now a special Ed assistant at the same school I worked at. Kindness and decency is never the wrong route. You never know the impact you’ll have.

[@clueless_cutie]

Tbh, depending on the dysfunction. It might be better for everyone if they stay out of their lives

[@Donika691]

I'm not a mother, but if I was and had a daughter get pregnant, I would never treat her like that. I would support, love and help her and her baby. I can't imagine treating my hypothetical kids like that, especially for something like the miracle of birth.

[@SweetGoddess420]

I had a baby that didn't cry. He just looked around all disgruntled and started nursing. All before the cord was cut. He was an incredibly easy baby. He's still an easy kid. He just never shuts up. 😆

[@Savvyrose96]

"just never shuts up" 😂 same lol

[@misseselise3864]

i haven’t had sex in 18 months but this show still makes me worried i’ll have a positive pregnancy test lmfao

[@smithn.wesson495]

18 months….you are smart! Remember, the screwing you wanna get, ain’t worth the screwing your gonna get!!! 😂😂😂😂

[@dianagreene4257]

Nothing pi$$es me off more than a doctor who REFUSES to consider that a pregnancy didn't start 14 days after your last period. Thank you for setting the record straight on that stupid trivia question.

[@rmakids]

A relative was told by her obgyn that it was a failed month if she didn't ovulate at 14 days. I showed her my chart where it wasn't till 22 days.

[@natasjaschoonderbeek4755]

It also depends on how long a cycle normally is for u. Mine is pretty long (about 38 days, sometimes even 40 days) so it means ovulation takes place later too. Some doctors are just.. and the quiz question indeed was ridicilious and i had a hard laugh about it, how it could be 6 pounds when its been in there over a year. Lady u just miscalculated badly lolz

[@EyedocZeller]

I have 28-30 day cycles and ovulate around day 20. We figured out this is why it took almost a year to get pregnant with our first kid. Second and third kids we got pregnant as soon as we started trying, since we now knew when to try.

[@jbean9657]

I had IUI.... on cycle day 22. I do ovulate on my own and have about 28 day cycles, but short luteal phase bordering in luteal phase defect/deficit. So I ovulate usually around like day 17 and then get my period 11 days later. 11 days from ovulation to bleeding, on the dot, no matter when I ovulated. Anyways, my twins were 100% conceived cycle day 22, so they would have been off more than a week by going with the date from my lmp.

[@jbean9657]

@Amanda Zeller Manley if there's a short number of days between ovulation and bleeding it's a luteal phase defect and most people with that need to be on progesterone to stop having chemical pregnancies. Basically you progesterone isn't staying high enough to keep you from bleeding long enough to keep you pregnant.

[@CarrieMK]

“Period cramps should never interfere with your normal day-to-day functioning.” Holy shit, what?????? I’ve been taken out for 2-3 days/month for the last 15 years and I’ve told multiple doctors and they said it was normal. I’ve even been taken to the ER because my cramps were so bad that I collapsed and was hypothermic, but it was always brushed off.

[@momjeans9238]

Same! Mine got much better after having kids but the cramps still can overpower medications.

[@mica8701]

have you looked into endometriosis ?

[@hannah36912]

My labor hurt less than my period cramps...

[@a.schmidt3096]

Me too! For as long as I’ve had my period, I’ve always had insanely painful cramps. In high school I wouldn’t go in at least one day out of every month. Now if I don’t take pain meds I can’t manage to get out of the house or focus or do any work.

[@aurablue368]

yeah it's so sad excruciatingly painful periods that interfere with ur daily life are so common and normalized!! but they're definitely not normal u should look into cycle synching, especially the nutrition part of it! it can make a huuuge difference

[@to41815]

After giving birth in September, I truly understand when you say how scary it must be to go into labor without knowing you’re pregnant. That pain is insane. I would have ABSOLUTELY thought I was dying!

[@smithn.wesson495]

Very well said and you are right. Every birth is different and as we all have heard, sometimes the baby comes faster than we can anticipate or realize. I cannot imagine giving birth at work though, that would not be an experience I would want my co-workers to see and watch. You would think there would be some signs of labor before she arrived at work.

[@RedRoseSeptember22]

@@smithn.wesson495 There was, with the extreme cramping, but she didn't think anything of it.

[@aprilkurtz1589]

Yeah, and now they don't even give you the simple mercy of knocking you out!

[@smithn.wesson495]

@@RedRoseSeptember22 Yes, you are right with the cramping. I was just surprised there weren’t other physical signs.

[@pillowtalk1925]

@@smithn.wesson495 I’ve given birth at work during an unknown pregnancy. Not in front of everyone…

[@marijkecuffe5488]

My daughter was my 3rd baby and first premie. She was born at 33wks and the L&D team prepared me for her not to cry because according to their tests (I guess they were testing the amniotic fluid for lung tissue) her lungs weren't developed. When she was born she was quiet for about 30 seconds then she wailed. She had such a strong cry and it made me cry. She literally only stayed in the hospital for 3 days. She was born a week before Christmas, at first they didn't expect her to come home until after new years, then after Christmas, then she got to come home before Christmas. My mom made a special big stocking baby blanket for us to bring her home in. Best stocking stuffer ever!

[@cyanideburns2744]

Awww, that is so cute!! Tiny baby in a christmas stocking, sounds like she looked like a christmas card haha. Glad your little sweetie is so strong and healthy~!

[@ev8870]

He didn't choose to end the 911 call, he couldn't get a signal in the stock room, so he had to end the call to go back to his girlfriend. He did amazing , all considered.

[@ceilinh6004]

As to the reason he wasn't staying on the call with 911, it mentioned earlier in the video that he didn't have cell reception in the mall. I imagine he didn't want to be on the call any longer than needed, because time on the call was time away from his struggling girlfriend.

[@MichelleHartzPhZ]

I came here to say this.

[@Mothman_In_a_T-Pose]

Re: work culture in the US: I've worked retail for years, and it's definitely sick the way we're treated. I've had managers who refuse to let us call out or take time off, and would retaliate when we did. HR is part of corporate, and rarely investigated deeper into complaints and situations. I used to have crippling periods, to the point of going into shock, and I'd still push myself into at least trying to go to work, and hoping I'd have a more sympathetic manager that day so I could ask to leave. It was wild to me at my last job that when I was found hunched over in pain, my manager offered me pain medication and encouraged me to go home. She straight up told me not to come in again until I felt better and wished me the best. I was fortunate enough to not be in a position where each hour worked mattered, but a lot of people don't have that luxury. Thankfully, my period is mostly sorted (an ablation reduced the pain to mostly normal, but it can still hit a 7/10 and be resistant to pain interventions) and I'm working with my doctor for a total solution. But, it's definitely insane the way work culture is structured here.

[@FrootLoopKicker]

One of the things that I thought of was that, when I worked retail, I would sometimes be tasked with finding my own replacement for a shift if I needed to call out. It was almost easier sometimes to show up really sick, have a manager see how ill you were, and then have them send you home than to give any sort of notice where you'd end up working trying to find someone to cover you. Retail is terrible.

[@kenziehurlock]

I never miss work and the one time I was sick and tried to call out my manager got so mad and I had to come in regardless of how I felt. It really is awful.

[@puli_dreadhead]

I’ve worked at my current retail job for a year and a half and only accumulated two days of sick leave 😑 Their excuse was that it was based on my hours. They’ve cut hours and I can’t even be full time which was their “solution”

[@Kristinapedia]

​@@FrootLoopKicker See,.... You should find your replacement ANYWAY, and find it BEFORE you ask for the time off so then you say, "I would like "may 15 off and I already found a replacement".. Problem solved.

[@Kristinapedia]

@@puli_dreadhead Yes, this is how time off and sick time works in many jobs. You accumulate so much according to hours worked. different states have different labor laws so check your state labor law website for clarification.

[@thepetermullins]

My wife (an awesome doctor) has had a rough day, she'll be so happy that you've posted. Keep being awesome and providing an oasis in the desert for tired doctors!

[@MariaAbrams]

Please tell her we are sorry for her day but we are thankful for her and what she does. She's a hero and should never forget that. She's lucky to have a great husband to care. ❤

[@peachxtaehyung]

Aw I'm so sorry please tell her we are all thankful for what she does. Especially during this time! 💖

[@virginiatruett7115]

Retired nurse here. Tell the Doc we got her back and to hang in there.

[@fishyfishyy]

That's so cute, I hope her days go better

[@thepetermullins]

Thanks all, she had a patient who had presented with extreme “master-race” radicalised views asking to medically change their status to “legally dead” so that they could be begin their new self. The far-far-right is a troubling place! She called me to consult (I’m a social worker) and we figured it out between us. I’m a human rights law expert, and she’s a kind and patient person to treat that person with care and compassion. Some food and hugs did the trick later. Plus a big dose of MDJ!

[@fifinoir]

This has to be the sweetest couple on the show. Both of their reactions to everything that happened is so adorable. Their way of laughing and commenting on the insane situation made me smile. The fact he said “WE weren’t living a heathy lifestyle” by sharing the responsibility is also beautiful to see.

[@Marylind500]

"Period cramps should not interfere with your normal life"...I didnt expect to be called out this badly Mama Jones haha

[@cassandrahepp6445]

As someone who has severe menstrual cramps (nausea, fatigue, body aches) it IS NOT NORMAL! I was 27 before someone took my symptoms seriously and it turned out I had endometriosis.

[@v3ru586]

Iwas told by my gyno, that my pain wasn't that bad and we should worry more about my mental health (I'm asexual) as well as some malformation of my genitalia (I'm a virgin). Took me 15 years to get the courage to go to a gynecologist again

[@cassandrahepp6445]

@@v3ru586 I'm so sorry. That is absolutely horrible. Some people shouldn't be Drs...

[@TheG5ALIve]

i hate that endo takes so long to get diagnosed for multitudes of reasons, including doctors that write women off for playing up their pain... hopefully you both are able to keep on top of things

[@hsihdbssbcjtzksk7426]

I had those symptoms with severe bleeding. I used to bleed through a menstrual cup and one of those XXL maxi pads in just 3-4 hours. Got treated for menorrhagia at 15.

[@v3ru586]

@@hsihdbssbcjtzksk7426 my bleeding was described as "severe", but I didn't bleed nearly that much. Also, while the pill made the objective pain (the pain that I have, according to the doctor), the subjective pain (the pain I feel) got worse. Not to mention my gyno's attempts to treat me like a normal woman (hetero and obsessed with her looks)

[@eph2vv89only1way]

I love that guy for supporting her when he thought it was menstrual cramps. I have heard so many stories of guys telling women to suck it up because menstrual cramps are normal that this guy’s support is refreshing to see

[@thawabalh]

Hey Mama Doctor Jones - Can you react to this show that’s really similar to I Didn’t Know I Was Pregnant it’s called My Crazy Birth Story. Basically these moms have their babies in the most random locations like a supermarket or a movie theater or what have you, The only differences they already know that they’re pregnant and are not expecting themselves to be in labor so it’s a surprise. PLEASE REACT MAMA DOCTOR JONES!!

[@blueashke]

There are only so many of these episodes so I'm hoping when she runs out that this is the next show to replace it.

[@thawabalh]

@@blueashke I’m sure she would love it

[@amaira4651]

@@blueashke how many are there?

[@blueashke]

@@amaira4651 58 episodes but many of the later ones have more than one story to them IIRC.

[@amaira4651]

@@blueashke gotcha

[@michelacambareri6119]

When I had my baby (I knew I was pregnant, I was 40 +3, I was in labour, in a hospital's delivery suite) the midwife caught her then handed her to me. And I said, very surprised: "it's a BABY??" Maybe I thought I was gonna birth a fruit basket, idk. The midwife was so professional and didn't even laugh, just said "you've got a beautiful baby girl"

[@sweetdeath1971]

The negative pregnancy test when actually pregnant happened to me and there was no denying I was pregnant. I was 4 months and already showing and my daughter was moving. The doctors where completely confused and did 5 test and they all came up negative. They made me come back the next day at 7am, I was not to drink anything before hand and finally after 2 more test they got the positive one. Sadly due to me being military I had to have the positive test for paperwork. But for my other kids it popped positive after 3 weeks pregnant.

[@gimygaming8655]

So weird, did they ever tell you why?

[@Floreatmajestus]

Dealing w this rn

[@maryrichardson1318]

I wonder if anyone even considered that the test packets might have been defective. Many clinics use the same type of tests as home pregnancy ones, but supposed to be more accurate. A defective batch could explain a lot.

[@sweetdeath1971]

@@gimygaming8655 they said it could have been a few things from I drank too much water to the hormones where not high enough in me to show up on the test. It happens they said.

[@sweetdeath1971]

@@maryrichardson1318 normally is not the test itself but the level of hormones in your body.

[@catc8927]

Using the date of last period as the first day of pregnancy also fails in the case of traveling spouses. My mom was overseas when she had her last period before coming home and becoming pregnant with me, so she took issue with the suggestion that she became pregnant when she was a few thousand miles away from her husband.

[@Kristinapedia]

Well, OBVIOUSLY she didn't get pregnant when she was overseas... and she would know that because I'm sure she knows when she her your dad ~> 🛏 🚼. lol. She should know exactly when sge got pregnant.. unless she didn't understand how it all worked but then the doctor would have told her, no? That's how they figure the EDD: ESTIMATED due date. It's 40 weeks from LMP, which makes the baby ABOUT 38 weeks gestation.

[@Lucieferreads]

You can't really become pregnant on your period, you can become pregnant around ovulation time, which for a standard cycle of 28 days, would be about two weeks from the date you get your period. The first day of your last period is used because it is the most constant date any woman can give. The age of a pregnancy is calculated in amenorrhea weeks (weeks without period), but the true age of a pregnancy would be two weeks smaller, give or take.

[@Kristinapedia]

@@Lucieferreads i mean, you CAN become pregnant when having a period.

[@Lucieferreads]

@@Kristinapedia if your cycle is very short and your period pretty long, that could happen. To make a baby you'd have to have intercourse in a span of a day before to a day after ovulation, or at least that's what OB-GYN has taught me. (I'm in med school.)

[@Kristinapedia]

@@Lucieferreads not unless you don’t release eggs on a normal schedule. Or you hyper ovulate. These anomalies that “rarely happen” happen way more than you think.

[@dominoreigns8542]

My dad has always told me to take care of my body as if I was pregnant because my sister didn't know she was pregnant until she was 7 months, she looked fit & still had her period until 7 months that's when doctors told her that the baby had a diaphragmic hernia & they had to perform a C-section & do surgery on the baby. She named her daughter Destiny who is now a beautiful young intelligent woman in her 20's.

[@RedRoseSeptember22]

As Doctor Mama says it wasn't her period, it was bleeding from the actual pregnancy.

[@LangkeeLongkee]

I dunno, that's sounds like building paranoia to me.

[@adelest9500]

He might have had good intentions with it but the very thought of pregnancy makes me want to jump out the window so constantly acting as if I might be pregnant would probably break me mentally pretty soon D: of course I don't know your outlook on pregnancy, for some people it is a blessing so this advice makes sense to them

[@dominoreigns8542]

@@adelest9500 He meant it in the sense of eating healthy & taking a multivitamin everyday & not consuming too much alcohol etc.

[@amaira4651]

That's actually good advice.

[@alyssaashford5218]

I remember thinking that when my daughter was born that something was wrong because she wasn't crying right away, but I could literally see her little newborn face scrunch up and her little eyes cracked open slightly before she finally started crying. I guess she just needed a moment to judge the world for five minutes before letting out her disapproval. Lol

[@jessicabuck-daniel2160]

I started using that quote in my every day life “you do the best you can with the information you have.” I love it.

[@EctoBabble]

As someone with Dissociative Identity Disorder and deals with dissociation a lot - the power of dissociation is extremely powerful. I have no doubt they would say 'are you sure that's mine?' or go through something like this and not even believe that it even happened to you... this would be a nightmare scenario for something unexpected... to me, with the things that I've had to go to therapy for - this feels so completely natural. I feel for her. Wow.

[@sivsi6598]

I love these so much! I would heavily recommend the “Baby at a Rest Stop” episode. They get the real 911 call for the ep and it’s the first episode that was genuinely distressing for me to watch. The stakes were super high!

[@ace-of-bats]

That's definitely the best episode IDKIWP has ever done. It's both really harrowing and really heartwarming, and MDJ will definitely fall in love with the sweet parents and the good samaritan who stops to help them.

[@MamaDoctorJones]

@@ace-of-bats better than the boat episode?!? Okay bumping rest stop baby to the top. 😆

[@rosedavin4393]

@@MamaDoctorJones the boat episode 🤣 how did he not hear her?!?!

[@unknownLC]

"We do what we can with the information that we have" is applicable to so many things in life. I try to remind myself of this often! Thank you, MDJ! ❤

[@therealshadykit]

My mother is BPD and has been through the ringer in life, making some questionable choices along the way. A lot of times she looks back at those decisions with regret, so I'm working on hammering this point in. Guilt is a hell of a beast, and there's no changing the past anyway. We do the best we can with the information we have!

[@becci8099]

Yes so true. MDJ you are truly the best, your voice of understanding support is such a pleasure!

[@hailsstorm25]

My menstrual cramping was as bad as described around 7:47. I had 7 OBGYNs tell me it was normal. The pain stopped when I started the Depo shot, which caused my period to stop completely. After so many telling me it’s normal, and seeing so many publicly saying it’s not normal truly concerns me.

[@taylorbarnett1199]

Healthcare is so male centered they don’t take women’s pain seriously. Since medical training is often based on men they aren’t even educated on most menstrual type issues and how severe they can be

[@amaira4651]

@@taylorbarnett1199 seriously?

[@jacquilucquin8206]

Same... i used to have debilitating period pain, 2 days a month i would be off school, in bed with drugs, hot water bottles etc.. and i was told it was normal. Then in my 20s, some doctors tried to ease things by prescribing the pill, hormone tablets, depo etc... After having babies, it improved for a few years, but got bad again. Finally in my 30s i had mirena which stopped my periods all together, which is when i finally got relief.

[@catpoke9557]

@@amaira4651 Yes, almost all medical studies were done almost entirely on men until recently.

[@berlyn1187]

Ugh I took a depo shot hoping it would make my crazy periods stop. It just resulted in me having a light period for three months straight. I wound up with anemia. Never again for me!

[@DisneyLuver97]

This was always one of my biggest fears, not knowing I’m pregnant and going into labor. Like suddenly you have a baby, no crib, no car seat, no clothes, no diapers, and very likely not in possession of a few hundred dollars to just drop on baby stuff like that. Heck, I’m 15 weeks right now and I still can’t afford anything 🙃

[@Floreatmajestus]

Pregnancy resource centers

[@loliateurcat666]

And not to mention what if you were drinking/smoking the entire pregnancy because you didn't know!!!!!!

[@maddilong135]

There have been times where I ate something that didn't agree with me and my stomach hurt so much that I was like oh my god what if I'm actually in labor and a baby is about to come out of me even though I hadn't had sex in months and am on birth control

[@edenmartinez783]

I had a friend with very severe endometriosis and she had a home birth. After delivery she said it just felt exactly like her menstrual cycle which is INSANE to me. She just lives with labor pain once a month and often just muscled through it. I’m glad labor was at least familiar though she said bc it was so normal of a feeling for her that she was very calm and it was easier for her to get through.

[@beckypetersen8554]

I can't tell you how much that freaks me out. I had absolutely horrible period pain until I was on BCP. I would be having chills and throwing up, just feeling like I was going to die. Never gave birth so I was shocked to learn endrometrosis feels like labor.

[@maddilong135]

My lord. Your friend is a tank being able to handle all of that. I remember when it came out that period cramps were as painful as a heart attack and the men were like "oh my god that's so painful" and women went "oh then a heart attack isn't as painful as I thought it was".

[@edenmartinez783]

@@beckypetersen8554 it can it’s not always the severe but it definitely can be that bad

[@edenmartinez783]

@@maddilong135 fr when she told me it felt like a flare up I had to do a double take. She used to work full 6-8 hour shifts bartending with me w that kind of pain. A goddamn trooper for sure

[@hanabananarama]

I really appreciate in this episode they cover quiet babies, especially the part where her baby was quiet after he cried. My baby was so quiet those first few days. He only made little fussy noises when he was hungry. Otherwise, he was silent and content. It was so weird lol.

[@diabeticsrule1763]

Really glad you brought up if people are having periods that interfere with their lives, they should probably speak to a doctor. I didn't have bad cramps but my period just made me really dang miserable so I would skip going to class at least one day during that week. My GP didnt want to put me on birth control because I "didnt really need it" (i.e., I didn't need it for birth control purposes) and she said birth control wouldnt really help, so I went a couple more years before speaking to my endocrinologist (for my diabetes care) and he got me on birth control. Man, my periods are so much better. I cant believe I went so long without it and I am kinda salty that I wasn't put on it when I originally went to my GP

[@KayElayempea]

That is a weird GP, I had several friends in high school who were on birth control to help with bad periods or other health reasons other than actually preventing pregnancy.

[@diabeticsrule1763]

@@KayElayempea yeah, she is actually a family friend as well and is a great dr but can be weird about medication. She either doesnt want to give you any to make sure youre not taking it unnecessarily (which i get but can be annoying, like in this case) or in some cases, she jumps to medication before other forms of treatment

[@sethsha7826]

I got on BC at 15 due to severe period cramps. I am almost 30 now and still take the pill. It has saved me so much. I used to miss school at least one day a month because of it, and I'd be sitting on the heating pad in pain all day. I don't know if my natural periods would cause this now, but I am looking to get off of it since I am almost 30 (increase risks clots and strokes). Happy to hear your doing better!

[@helenf.7221]

Yes i agree. I didn’t know that about the cramps until just recently. I have to take 3 advils and there is still a dull pain. I also went on wellbutrin for depression and that cleared up my severe mood swings. Amazing. I just took it to be normal

[@karbear26]

My mom wouldn’t let me go on birth control I had to suffer for 7 years before I was 18 and could go on it! Was night and day!

[@MakeupByJamieJarrozzy]

When I was pregnant with my first son...I felt like I was dying and I had a urine test, and blood test every month for four months....and every month they said it came out negative. At the end of my fourth month I was so sick I went to get checked and they actually found out I was pregnant by listening to my stomach with a stethoscope ...with my second son,they did a different kind of test to see if I was pregnant ....

[@IWantToRideMyBike]

I knew someone who didn’t test positive and they didn’t know she was pregnant until they did an ultrasound at 6 months

[@rloach067]

as someone that does not want to get pregnant anf the mere thought of it feeld traumatic, this is the most terrifying thing ive ever heard. You cannot terminate a pregnancy at that point 💀 i hope there are other tests that would be able to be done earlier on if there are suspicions of pregnancy

[@amentrison2794]

@@rloach067 I'm totally with you. Watching this show is like picking at one of my fears

[@Kaylee-Renee]

My friend is like this she never tests positive until shes around 4-5 months along. All 3 babies shes had have been healthy and full term

[@thatjulsie]

You said first son, so did you ever have a positive pregnancy test with other children? A medical professional once told me she knew a mother and daughter who were unable to get positive pregnancy tests, due to some weirdo hormonal abnormality. They still had successful pregnancies.

[@lynnebucher6537]

I would never have believed it was possible to not know you were pregnant so far into the gestational process until it happened to a friend of mine who already had 3 kids. She said the fetus never moved, she wasn't morning sick. Was still taking BCPs. She said finding out was both a shock and a relief because she went to the doctor thinking the belly bloat was a tumor. Baby was born totally normal.

[@axolotdraws9946]

7:21 My best friend used to have horrible debilitating periods to the point where she’d just end up crying on the floor in the middle of school (which must’ve been super bad since she has high pain tolerance) and so she went to the doctor and now she’s on birth control and she seems SOO much happier now

[@astridmyst]

"You do the best you can with the information you have" has become one of my life mottos. I don't like mottos much because they are typically overly positive but this saying is so realistic and reassuring that I say it all the time now. My mom especially gets upset a lot about the past and how I was mistreated by doctors, how that lead to her not pushing further for diagnoses. I tell her this exact thing and it helps her. It also helps me come to terms with my past.

[@jamieculp8291]

I worked in the Infant and Early Childhood Mental health field as a consultant for about 9 months. Parental guilt is something I have had to address with parents when their children are having issues. A lot of times circumstances that lead to children needing consultation services are not something a parent has control over. In general, the parents I worked with were making the best decisions they could in non-ideal situations. Getting them to let go of that, was in some cases a long process, but it's important because it impacts the parent-child relationship and the parent's ability to be the best parent they can be. One of the things I always used to tell them was that we can't change what happened in the past. They did the best they could given the knowledge at the time and the circumstances. All we can do is move forward. Given that I worked with families with children prenatal to 5 years old, there was a lot of hope for the future, healing, and risk mitigation that could be done.

[@astridmyst]

@@jamieculp8291 I'm so happy to hear that. Someone like you would have really helped my family. It's a long story but I am 22 now, and when I was delivered it is speculated that I was cut with someone's fake nail. That lead to me having an infection in my leg and needing surgery at 3-4months old. Now we know it all caused me to have ME/CFS (what is being called long covid now). All my health struggles started then with something my mom could not control and she felt so awful for it. It's taken 22 years for her to hopefully feel better about it, and I know my own acceptance of being disabled helps that.

[@treefrog1018]

So heartbreaking that her family wasn't supportive. My family is SO unsupportive in SO many ways but if my Teen/YA self brought home a baby I didn't know I was carrying, they would ABSOLUTELY be all over that baby.

[@YT4Me57]

For many families, the present generation represents hope for the future. She was in college and may have been the first of her family to be able to go. A baby before marriage and completion of her education would be a slip back into poverty in their eyes. They probably came around, but it would take her and her boyfriend demonstrating continued responsibility and working on their goals to do so. I try not to judge anybody. The young lady already knew how her parents would react.

[@badratymj9255]

@@YT4Me57 I mean IF that's the case, them not being supportive sure not gonna make the situation better for those kids. I hate the hypocrisy of the older génération, putting this kind of pressur on us to be the futur they never had and always wanted, but they're not willing to help if it doesn't allign with they vision of the life they want for us.

[@caitlynblake2773]

My first pregnancy was just over 43 weeks, and his placenta was calcified and “half dead” according to my OB nurses. They told me we probably had days before it stopped working, so the thought of someone having a healthy baby at more than 52 weeks is…. No.

[@jasminekennedy4774]

Fr. Usually doctors induce by 42 wks because the risk of a stillbirth is extremely high after 42 wks

[@aeowrynn7950]

I had x-rays, appointments, tests and everything else. I kept saying I was pregnant. Doctors said no. It was negative. Suddenly a positive in September. He was born November 3rd. I told them I was pregnant in April!!!!! April to September I was 🤪

[@merryprawn]

@17:36 MDJ's reaction made me cry. Empathy is the most beautiful thing a human being can have, and seeing it always makes me tear up

[@elisharoberts1029]

I wish my Dr had ever paid attention to the fact that my sister and I were in the hospital every month at 12 and even the ER didn't recognize we had severe Endometriosis and PCOS! My mom was so furious as she also had both and never got a diagnosis until she was almost 40. I was 21 when I finally got the endometriosis diagnosis. It took 9 more years to get diagnosed with PCOS! The ambulance taking 30+ minutes is ridiculous unless there was a major MVA or natural disaster. Both could've died with a wait that long. Good thing it wasn't any emergency or anything!

[@liznohandle]

EMTs cannot teleport. The ambulance taking 30 minutes is normal. Ambulances are often dispatched from a central location or the hospital and require time to be reset between calls. The first to arrive are usually cops or the fire department's EMS trained personnel. If dispatched to a location where there should already be trained people the ambulance might be the only one sent. The lack of others was probably because the mall security was wrongly listed as trained in the emergency plan.

[@elisharoberts1029]

@@liznohandle I guess I'm just really lucky then, because even on non- emergent calls it has never taken anyone that long to get to me.

[@liznohandle]

@@elisharoberts1029 The more rural the area the longer the wait. If there is only one ambulance station for the county the wait will be terrible for those far away. Working as a dispatcher for a rural area I ran out of ambulances on more than one occasion and just sat at my station praying that one would be cleared before another med call. If I had to call for mutual aid for someone else's it would take even longer. Volunteer EMS trained fire fighters and law enforcement are a godsend that fill the gaps in underfunded areas.

[@Masquaradethewriter]

It can easily take an hour or more in rural areas.

[@jbean9657]

@Liz Vande Wall but they were at a mall. No way it should be normal that a mall is a 30 minute wait. Mass casualty can happen quickly in a setting like that.

[@aimsleynoodle]

This was probably my favourite episode, I love that they had the conversation about their future with the baby and how their families reacted - not something that they usually depict in the show.

[@LillyLou]

MDJ, can I just thank you for your constant assurance that we do the best we can with the knowledge we have? Unrelated to any gynaecological issues, I’ve needed this regularly in the past year. Last year, at the age of 32, I was finally diagnosed with ADHD. I’m learning coping techniques and trying different medications. For years I have blamed myself for not being able to pull my self together like other people do. And now my mother blames herself for not understanding how much I’ve struggled throughout my life. But this is where I take courage in these words. We did the best we could with the information that we had. Twenty years ago, when I would have benefited from a diagnosis, no one really knew anything about the “quiet” ADHD in some girls. It was associated with hysterical boys hanging from the ceiling. Now, we know what I’ve dealt with, and we can work from here. I try to comfort my mum regularly with this. It’s become my little mantra in life. So far, I have no need for “pregnancy test, pregnancy test, pregnancy test”, but “you do what you can with the information that you have” has come to mean so much to me. Thank you! 🙏🏻

[@judith8161]

Similar experience here, though I got my ADHD diagnosis a bit earlier, at around 25. For more than a decade, I wasn't too sure if my mom did the best she could with the information she had, given that she's a teacher who worked with ADHD kids too. Then a couple of weeks ago, I talked to my dad about it, and he explained to me that back in the day, universities didn't even know the term of ADHD, let alone how to diagnose it in girls. Basically, both my parents had the education needed to deal with a child like me, so it didn't get to the point where they just couldn't handle my being different. The fact that I did feel different isn't enough to prove my point that they should have noticed. Also, my mom later found out she too has ADHD, so yeah, I guess it all boils down to "we did the best we could with the information we had." In each case, I know my parents both love me dearly, even though I'm not the perfect daughter I might have been had I been diagnosed in my youth.

[@tsgrandma9837]

@@judith8161 No one is perfect sweetie. My son was diagnosed very early, at 1.5 years old early. He's was very severe. My pregnancy was extremely high risk and went into full blown labor at 4 months. Blessedly my OBGYN specialized in high risk pregnancies and was able to stop my labor and save him. His ADHD steamed from a small amount of brain damage which occured during my pregnancy with him. He was early with everything, he sat up at 2 months, pulled up at 4 months, walked at 6 months, said his first word at 1 month and potty trained himself at 9 months. It's hard to believe but it's true.He couldn't take any of the medications due to major side effects that his little body just couldn't handle so we had to find other ways to help him. He wasn't perfect, but I wouldn't want him any other way. He just turned 30 yesterday and still manages without meds even through I've told him they have came out with new meds that he can try. Don't worry about being perfect, no one is. Just be you and allow your light to shine bright!

[@ingerfaber3411]

I went to doctor after doctor when my son was little, being told that I should be ashamed of myself and there was nothing wrong with him. At 21 he got diagnosed with Autism and at 26 with severe ADHD. It has taken him almost 5 years to get the medication right and get back on track to starting an education again. When I say to him I am so sorry, he says exactly that : you did all you could. You asked for help. I don't blame you. But I am sad for the years he struggled

[@maddilong135]

hold on a minute. You're telling me that you took your son to the doctor because you were worried about him because he wasn't developing the same as other kids his age and wanted to see if there was anything you could do to help him, and multiple doctors told you you should be ashamed of yourself for thinking there was "something wrong" with your son because according to them he's perfectly fine even though I doubt they did any sort of testing to rule anything out? Did they even observe him? Autism and ADHD doesn't mean there's "something wrong" with a person. That is mind boggling to me. I'm glad he finally got the help he needed. @@ingerfaber3411

[@ingerfaber3411]

@@maddilong135 I am autistic myself - diagnosed after my son. Maybe "wrong" is the wrong word. But people with ASD meet challenges and our behaviour can create issues when our condition is not recognised and there is no support - and this is where "wrong" came from :). He was diagnosed at 20 yo - I was 43 when I got my diagnosis

[@Plooji]

I love how you always remind us, that we are doing the best we can with the information we have. 🙏🏻

[@Ghostie_Cat]

You gotta have merch with that, “you do the best you can, with the information that you have”- said by Mama Doctor Jones

[@emmajones8715]

My first baby was very quiet, we had a very quick delivery my poor dad only just got out of the room in time! I think that she and I were in total shock, she hardly made any sound, didn’t open her eyes or anything for about 8 hours. Then she’d did a massive poop! Started to cry and feed properly and was fine! My second baby, head came out covered in 4 inch long hair turned, opened his eyes and started crying before his body was even out! And he hasn’t shut up for the last 10 years!!

[@seqka711]

Working from home has been an absolute blessing for days when I'm sick or have my period. It's so easy to fake "being in the office" by just keeping my computer on and checking my emails, and I can catch up on the work easily when I'm feeling better. These last few weeks I've had the absolute worst case of diarrhea in my entire life, and it would have been so embarrassing in the office, but at home no one even has to know. I never wanna work away from home ever again! But if I ever do have to work in person again, I think more flexible hours and a better work culture would go a long way. My hope is that COVID put the fear of God into people and makes everyone actually respect sick days.

[@HannahLikesGlitter]

Hey friend, having diarrhea for multiple weeks is pretty concerning. Please try to go see your doc soon!

[@melosidhe779]

You should probably make an appointment with at least your family doctor if not directly with a gastroenterologist. Diarrhea that lasts for days is likely a sign of an underlying problem

[@seqka711]

@@melosidhe779 Thanks for the concern, but I’ve been working on it! I’ve definitely figured out that it’s either dairy, or raw broccoli that’s triggering these… episodes. So a little more experimenting and I should have it figured out and I’ll know what to avoid. :3 Although to be perfectly frank, I’ve been losing weight these last eight months, and the flushing out the last couple weeks was helping the scale. So even though I know in my head that it’s good it stopped, my heart is like “noooo but I liked being skinnier”. LOL

[@Dogandtoddlermum]

Strange stuff DEFINITELY comes out of your mouth post birth. I asked my husband 'who said we can have a baby?!' While holding him 😂

[@ashleyshotwell3452]

This couple seems so wonderful together, so supportive of each other, and that gives me so much hope. I'm so glad that everything worked out well for them and I wish them happiness!

[@cortlynnelliott1797]

I feel like thank God that man found her because she seems very childish and naive... like she wouldn't be able to take care of herself alone

[@alexstarker9435]

I love how he reacted like a Sims 4 dad!!

[@shierrinflae]

Accurate description. Freak out, then disappear. 😂

[@jessicafoster6420]

If I hadn’t known that I was pregnant when I gave birth I probably would have asked if the baby was mine as well. I didn’t have a traumatic birth but I dissociated pretty bad for a while. So I can totally see how she didn’t understand completely.

[@everythingrebekahlorraine]

My male doctor told me when I was in high school that it was normal to have periods so bad that I could hardly move and that there was no way to test for a hormone imbalance. It wasn't until the end of college when I got on birth control that I finally had some relief

[@sarahjenkins3056]

Mama Doctor Jones I loved your comment about how periods and menstrual pain shouldn't be affecting your life in a negative way, I just wish more doctors were like you. I've been trying to get answers since I was 15 about my painful periods. It took until I was 30 to get a suspected diagnosis of bowel endometriosis, and I'm still waiting for surgery and treatment. I got every pill thrown at me, comments like, "It's all in your head", "You're just unlucky", "Once you have a baby things will improve". I spend every day of my life in some kind of pain, whether it's back pain, ovary pain, pelvic pain so bad that I can't sit normally or walk without crutches. And I've spoken to hundreds of women who have had very similar experiences. I wish we weren't dismissed just because we're women.

[@gabriellagalli8564]

My mom had those periods, she said that she would be bedridden for about a week and she said that like it was normal for her.

[@sistakia33]

Yeah, I know how awful it is to know you're going to be alone in that type of experience. I did it at sixteen but what got me through it was 1) The housemother at the home for unwed girls, 2) Other girls in my situation. Thanks to them I was able to build a family. Thirty five years ago and we're still family!

[@amandagermany5933]

I really hope her family came to terms with it and are offering more support. No mom should have to go through that without love and support. At least she has a loving partner and his family. Respect to all single mothers out there who are doing it alone, you are champions.

[@Beaverthing]

When coming off the pill (because I wanted to get pregnant) it took a while for my hormones to settle, which resulted in some rather long cycles. So if I was to calculate the length of my pregnancy from the latest period I would have been pregnant for more than 11 months. It resulted in a few very interesting days, when I found out that I was pregnant but had no idea HOW pregnant.

[@laartje24]

I regularly miss two or three periods in a row due to just being extremely irregular with my periods (yes my doctor is aware, it's nothing serious). If I would miss my first three periods before getting pregnant I would be on the 12 month mark by those calculations XD

[@KayElayempea]

I think that is one of the reasons that they do dating ultrasounds in the first trimester these days. Using the first day of the last menstrual cycle is too inexact.

[@calamity0.o]

When I stopped the pill my cycles would go anywhere from 28days to 42 days. That 42 day was a disappointing end, lol. Once I stopped stressing about tracking my ovulation and babies I got pregnant.

[@katem2411]

This is a brilliant episode and a lovely couple. Wow - I cant even imagine processing that kind of event immediately. In my country 911 operators stay on the call and talk people through medical issues and give people advice - even about delivering babies - I know because I was with my sister when she went into labour in a blizzard and it took the ambulance over an hour to arrive. This may not be the case in regions that have different liability laws, but here it's difficult to impossible to sue anyone who is making good faith efforts to assist. Thankfully the paramedics from the fire department arrived before the main event.

[@ca7842]

Great episode, great that they considered adoption, and so sweet when he said "we can do it"

[@tiffanynicole5920]

I woke up in excruciating pain one morning a couple years ago and still went to work. I worked 2 hours and I couldn’t handle the pain plus I started bleeding REALLY bad. I left work and went straight to the hospital where they told me I was about 13 weeks pregnant. Then come to find out I had a tubal rupture and had been bleeding internally for hours. I went straight to emergency surgery where they had to remove the ruptured tube and ovary, since the rupture destroyed my tube too. The scariest and most painful moment of my life!!

[@nerotheenby]

omg that kitten blooper 😂 as an owner of a 8 month old kitten, I can say with confidence that they will learn not to pee on random things eventually lol. But if they do, they always get away with it by being as cute as can be 😂

[@paxguino]

Advice on the cat, as i raised like 20 orphan kittens during my life: put the paper in the litter box, check if they hate the litter and stuff. They recognize and go to the smell of their urine. Also use color activator to clean the places where he did the deed and shouldn't have.

[@ruthgallant6047]

I love watching your reviews of this show. Kinda funny at the same time as WHAT!? It must be strange finding out you’re pregnant when in labour. Keep up the awesomeness. 🇨🇦

[@lilacrabbit4746]

“period cramps should never interfere with your day to day life” i think i might have to go to the doc xD love the content Dr. Jones, you inspire me to be a OBGYN one day too! ❤️

[@tanyarichards7605]

I had 6 false negative pregnancy tests when I was pregnant with my son. Barely had a clinical positive.

[@MariaAbrams]

I have 2 boys, one born a week over due, the 2nd was 5wks premature. They were both perfectly healthy when they were born (weighed 6lbs 13oz & 4lbs 13oz) lungs developed well, nothing wrong, and neither one cried when they were born lol. Each made a Lil squeak at first but after that, hardly anything for the whole day even! The 1st is I think because I had demerol during labor and he came FAST (4HRS), idk about the youngest. I think they were both just ready to see the world and very curious. They were content and happy and felt safe. They were VERY aware and STRONG, they'd lift their heads and look everywhere... Also, my heart hurts for her. To be so young, go thru a scary traumatic event, to make a heartbreaking, life changing decision and to have your family not support you...I'm sorry 😢 She has her own family now tho. ❤

[@jacquelinemanton553]

MDJ, my hubby walked by when I was watching this and said she looks much happier and healthier. NZ definitely agreeing with you xxx

[@CC3193]

I can confirm as its neighbour (an Aussie) that New Zealand has that effect on most people. Love it there, I've been four times so far :) I hope Mama Doctor Jones visits here too though.

[@paadoxal]

this episode was really resourceful :) the fact it included their thought process and dilema of keeping the baby made it so much better

[@CurlyAndCurvy]

Oh my goodness, I'm crying from emotion but also laughing at "Oh snap--we're having a baby." 💗

[@beetee4865]

My periods have always interfered with my life and no one took it seriously until a year and a half ago when I started having (what we now suspect to be) endometriosis pain. I wish all doctors were like you. This was an interesting episode for sure!

[@cguyre]

When I was a teenager my period pain WAS like this, I felt a contraction-pushing feeling, it was completely debilitating and I’d never had sex so I couldn’t have been pregnant lol, the periods were just that extreme

[@Mel.H_]

I love these so much😂Thank you MDJ my new mantra has been "Did the best that you could with the information at the time" it helps in every way possible!

[@hazelrolands5712]

May I just say that you've taught me to be kinder with your words like "we do what we think is best with the information we have at the time" might be a slight misquote but ily your content. It's so informative, scary but like kind doctors (like you) and nurses are just some of the best/coolest people on earth.

[@fayre19]

I'm so happy to watch this because I found out I was pregnant today 😁 only took 8 months of trying

[@c.endersen9621]

I absolutely love that after delivering so many babies you still get choked up about how cute each baby is! (My firstborn was in NICU and one of the nurses commented that she was a really sweet baby. “You say that about all the babies,” I joked. “No!” she said, “Some of them are real pickles!” We still laugh about that 30 years later.

[@chrisvossler8795]

The look when TLC said the answer was "true" was pretty amazing!

[@kittikat4124]

My grandmother was pregnant for 10 months (1967) she was huge, my uncle was 19 pounds at birth, the doctors were 100% positive he was twins, when she reached her delivery date, the doctors just assumed they messed up her date and let her keep going until the babies were ready lol. But she was convinced her due date was already a late date, so when she was told to keep going, she was pretty pissed because she was done carrying him around lol. I know they kept her in hospital for 2 weeks even though there werent any complications. She had DID and that ended up being another traumatic experience, so they never really found out exactly what happened because her husband and other two kids werent allowed in there, but we do know they did a (potentially non consensual) tubal ligation…

[@tinkeramma]

MDJ, your comments about quiet babies are so perfect here, including that it is a common presentation for babies to come quietly into the world. My second daughter was quiet at birth. I wish I'd known that could be a healthy normal even though she was not healthy at birth. The trauma of those first moments would have been a different experience for me if I hadn't jumped straight to panic. My sweet baby girl had Apgar scores of 0, 0, 1, 3, and eventually 5 at 20 minutes old. At 5 minutes old, the veteran L&D nurse was rushing her out to the nursery and baby girl gave the tiniest "eh" at the doorway, telling me she was alive. I later learned my body did everything she needed and hers did not take over with cord clamping. Between her traumatic birth and genetic conditions we didn't know I carried, my little girl was never a healthy child. She was incredibly loved and spent an amazing 6 1/2 years with us. There are no words for my gratitude that you've shared this normal with us that other parents may not experience my same trauma at their healthy delivery. P.S. Her baby sister was born 6 years later, overseen by maternal fetal medicine care with the best access to neonate care in my multi-state area... and the resus team in the room.

[@Reesy2002]

Working in law enforcement myself you are correct. The 911 dispatcher would give instructions over the phone and try desperately to keep him on the phone. But he may have hung up because he has no signal in the storage room.

[@aubreenash3838]

I love that you left in the interruption! It's so relatable to parent life. I'm in grad school with two young kids and have moments like this all the time.

[@miikayla]

I'd love to see MDJ react to Maddie Lambert's story of her being pregnant at 13

[@maddiejoy6619]

You get into a weird mindset when you're in labor. I didn't know who my baby was when they first lifted him up and I knew I was pregnant! My first thought when I saw him was "Who is that?". For some reason, I didn't connect that this tiny, slightly blue person they lifted up was my child. I figured it out very quickly, though!

[@courtneycrystian5483]

I knew I was pregnant at 6 weeks. When I gave birth and they handed me my baby, I also thought "Whose baby is this?!" I don't know why but that was my first thought.

[@ryanc473]

I think I've said this before, but as someone who works in a lab I urge anyone relying on lab test results to always be skeptical of lab error. It's not common, but it does happen. I've even encountered errors (that I or a coworker (during my shift) caught) that were potentially deadly (and one in particular from my memory involved a labor and delivery patient). These errors are typically in the form of a mislabeled specimen, but can result in SIGNIFICANT damage if not caught/confirmed by repeating the analysis (say, a wrong blood type, or a critically high glucose level, etc). This is especially important in cases where the results don't match the clinical symptoms. As an extreme example, I actually once was involved with the care of a patient whose potassium level came back as high enough that their heart probably shouldn't still be beating. The problem? The patient had zero EKG changes/cardiac symptoms, and was in the hospital for a totally unrelated reason (think like, a broken bone). I believe the test was ordered for surgical clearance, and as soon as the physician saw the result, they immediately suspected something was wrong (and thankfully stopped the care team from initiating a hyperkaleamia treatment order set (I'm talking oral kyexolate AND intravenous insulin/glucose because of how high the result was, and likely an emergency dialysis consult) before verifying the result). Turns out, the patient just had a weird little quirk that resulted in the measurements of plasma potassium levels vs serum potassium levels to be wildly different (with the wildly high number being an artifact of the testing methodology rather than a true case of hyperkaleamia). The patient was utterly normal (save for the broken appendage), it was the lab measurement that was errant. And thank goodness the physician had the neccessary acumen to suspect something was up before jumping to simply treat a number. For those curious, I changed a bunch of identifying info for the particular case for obvious reasons but search "pseudohyperkalemia" for an interesting read with the relevant information regarding the issue I mentioned. There's also "reverse pseudohyperkalemia," which is a less common cousin with different proposed underlying mechanisms where instead of serum potassium being incorrectly measured as extremely high (while plasma levels are normal) plasma potassium is errantly measured as extremely high (while serum is normal)

[@mustangrose]

I knew I was pregnant, had a planned c-section, and still, when I heard my son cry for the first time I was like "oh someone just had a baby thats cool birthday twins" and then they showed me my son and it took me awhile to really grasp he was mine. It's crazy how your brain can respond to anxious situations 😅 Edit: I would like to add for those who don't know c-sections are done in like 5 minutes flat, I had gotten in the OR at 8:07 am and the had gotten the anesthetic in my back and did the cutting into me to get him out for him to be born at 8:15 am like no time to process at all and I was shaking with anxiety

[@tiryaclearsong421]

There's a little wonkyness in the editing a couple minutes in. It seems like the show's box doesn't show up and you react before it appears. Dennis and Yanil are adorable.

[@RedRoseSeptember22]

They are :)

[@susrose]

My whole episode isn't in sync

[@gloglo7134]

Thank god I found your comment. I thought I was trippin 😅

[@mxgeeTV]

Man I'm so glad you said this. I kept scrolling to see if anyone mentioned the audio being out of sync but there wasn't anything for quite a while.

[@starwarsgeek3339]

It did that for me too until I closed KZbin and reopened it. Worked fine after that so no clue what was going on

[@PaullaWells]

🤣🤣🤣 The interruption at the end was just priceless! In a way my mother was pregnant for over a year but, technically she was not. She had a c-section with my older sister and 2 weeks later after her checkup in which the doc told my parents they could resume normal marital relations she fell pregnant with me. So, 10 months and 2 days after my older sister was born I came into the world. Could you imagine?

[@esperanzarobertson4823]

Oh hell no!!! 😮😆

[@PaullaWells]

@@esperanzarobertson4823 - iknowright?!? When I had my two 22 months apart I apologized to my mom for the difficulty she would have had to have gone through. She actually told me she had it easier compared to me because at least both of hers weren't mobile. 🤣🤦‍♀

[@wendymoyer782]

My ex and his older brother were under 11 months apart...so yeah, it happens. Glad it didn't happen to me, but then...I made DAMN sure it didn't!

[@ivanajovanovic2337]

Your mom was probably like "Ah shit, here we go again"

[@PaullaWells]

@@wendymoyer782 - 😂 Funny enough my parents tried to prevent it. I grew being called the rubber and foam baby. Later when she didn’t get a period after my sister the gyno told them it was normal after c-section. He gave her a pill twice to bring her period on but that didn’t work. 9 months later I came along. 🤣

[@sopyleecrypt6899]

I took a pregnancy test when my period was like a day late, and it was negative. Still no period 3 days later, so I took another one, and it was a faint positive :)

[@skeelatheskink8724]

Do you have a baby?

[@sarahbeauvais8573]

The Dad was so wonderful! That "We can do it!" made me cry this might have been the most difficult situation ever for them. But they both decided together to pivot for the sake of the baby. It shows real maturity and love and sacrifice. What a beautiful family!

[@beetlejamie8065]

A very strong & admirable couple, wow! The love between them is palpable. After reading many of your comments, I’m so heartbroken. The fact that so many of you have experienced endometriosis, PCOS(polycystic ovarian syndrome) or just awful periods & you have had your experience invalidated & denied by peers, family, AND medical professionals is just horrendous! I’m so sorry you guys have been treated this way. You deserve so much better. Sending love & light to all of you courageous individuals! ❤️‍🩹