Mammoni: The Mama's Boys of Italy | 60 Minutes

[@gilliandaemon1788]

Thats why you're such a mammoni Pesci

[@yohomiechains8881]

r/unexpectedjojoreference

[@ianpb422]

Mammoni: The mamma's boy of Squadra Esecuzioni

[@jabumpofu]

I just divorced my Italian husband of 20 years due this very thing. And he wasted no time running back home to mummy in Milan. I should have divorced him sooner. No more Italians for me because even after the mother’s died they remain traumatised from losing their mother, then another problem begins!

[@Moccalocca100]

I hope everyone is ok

[@jabumpofu]

@@Moccalocca100 yes, it was a very smooth divorce and I’m a lot happier 🤗🌸

[@zwenggy]

0:28 Kira

[@tasertag7513]

PESCI

[@tanyabroniszewski7547]

I married one. After him I will NEVER date another Italian unless the mother’s dead. Believe me, it WAS HORRIBLE. The mothers don’t believe any female is good for their son, they try to dictate your marriage, they criticize you. I first got married then a month later I came down with cancer. He said he thought he married a healthy woman, and ran back to live with his parents. Him or his parent’s never asked me anything about my cancer, how am I doing, if I needed help, etc. I swear on my dog’s life, to this day I believe they were happy I came down with cancer and the son left me. To preevent/dissuade him from trying to work out the marriage, they bought him A KITTEN!!

[@tasertag7513]

Dude, that's tough. Hope you're better.

[@katmusicwhatelse]

dont ever compete with an italian mama. Its a battle you cant win. It was her fanny he came out from, her pasta that made him grow and her life that swallows him whole again. This explains in part the low birthrate, and a group of very angry and bitter young fertile women whos silk stockings and cleavage are far less appealing than the eternal guilt, steaming spagetti and easy life that the girlfriends get chosen over. What power these mamas yield! What tyranny goes on behind those elongated terracotta red italian doors! i feel for you! Not to take that preference personal is vital, because NO woman can measure up, its not about you per say. Ultimately you need to accept that as long as the mother is alive everything will be centered around her, and take your place as a productive part of the system, like worker bees who live and care for the queen bee, or you leave. Or, in some cases, if the Love is strong, it might be that some changes are possible, if the problem is being recognised, and owned up to. But often its much too indoctrinated since childhood, that this bond cannot be loosened. In the more northern countries elderly people have too little power, and almost become invisible to society in many ways, because career and individualisation is such a priority. that is the other extreme.

[@MrOssyMoro]

It was dysfunctional family.

[@yunleung2631]

What the fuck… that man had no independence. I wonder how are the women in Italy treated differently. Because this is the sort of thing that daughters in China are saddled with.

[@teachone2261]

Doubt it !! Learn the culture before you get involved -that goes for ALL cross cultural marriages !! We don’t change our culture or ways for you Northern European selfish cold overly independent icebergs -viva Italia ! Sorry English American women can’t compete or hold a candle to a southern Italian woman

[@vinaydebrou83]

5:20 made me laugh out hard when she introduced the 'Career Mammoni'

[@ligbzd837]

In many cultures of the world, child live and take care of their parents (after they become old) until their death in the same house for hundreds of years. Their parents never have to go to old folks homes. The family stay together rich or poor.

[@home4life505]

But these men arent taking care of their parents. The mothers are babying them.

[@ligbzd837]

@@home4life505 they will when their parents became senile or incapacitated. That's the culture for thousands if years. The young eventually became the care taker of their parents in the same house for generations. In the West like US, the old goes to old folks home if they can afford it Or they live alone because their kids have no time for them; but they sure have time for TV.

[@home4life505]

@@ligbzd837 darling. Stop. Im an American in Europe. Yes, daughters take care of parents. Sons dont. These men dont have wives who typically take care of their in law parents

[@home4life505]

@@ligbzd837 these men are home, in-part, b/c of Italy's poor economy. Recently, Italian courts passed that parent were NO LONGER obligated to financially care for adult children w/o jobs. There were 30,40 year olds demanding financial assistance in Italy b/c the economy is so bad. I dont live for from the Italian border. I know the deal

[@ligbzd837]

@@home4life505 As I said, many cultures in the world traditionally are just like the Italian culture where the unmarried son or daughter live with parents forever with or without jobs. Daughter move to husbands family house after marriage, but the son usually stay after marriage. The new wife moves into the house and yes help care for the elderly parents when they become incapable later. The son becomes the provider and decision maker for the Family until their death. People don't move out unless there is no more space or they aren't getting along...etc But traditionally for thousands of years people all live in the same household to care and protect each other. Nobody is homeless or lives in old folks homes. The modern society changed a lot of that only in the last 150 yrs or so. It's a young (move out at 18) practice to move out and our society suffers financially and mentally in stress for this new practice. Those who follow the new practice have to deal with more financial stress which leads to a lot of societal problems today...including more demand and depletion of natural resources etc...sadly.

[@tommysoprano1441]

LOVE IT !!!!!!!!LOL The guy with the crazy eye brows is funny :)

[@sto59]

Davide Lucchini is 49 , still unmarried but lives in his own apartment and visited his parents often.

[@enod9746]

I am just in shock! A month out of university at 24 years, the change in my dad's body language towards me told me clearly my days in my parent's wonderful house were up.

[@Jacobsen1987]

Are you homeless now?

[@enod9746]

@@Jacobsen1987 Never. Squatted with a friend, saved money, got my own apartment. That was 20 years ago. Never been homeless since and I am grateful to my dad for making me a man, ready to stand up to any challenges.

[@user-hs2hd7wp9g]

@@enod9746 Wait, were you actually homeless because of your dad, if so, that's definitely a dick move. I get that you need to get out of the family home at some point but that's not the way to do it

[@TM-Logic]

Lots of Women would stay home to cook, clean, iron if paid ( social programs for caregiver should be in place)

[@beatalevin7735]

I´ve met so many mammoni iin thier 50's and 60's who still live with mom or very close by. It`s distressing, especially if you´re trying to date. Impossible. Mom and family ALWAYS come first. No matter what.

[@sto59]

Giorgio Boemo married his wife, Federica, on Valentine's Day 2017. He's now 56, and although his parents have passed away, he often sees his siblings.

[@isaiahp.4609]

Giorgio? Sound a bit familiar... Does he have a dream?

[@MetaLNadia]

@@isaiahp.4609 bruh

[@dawnkline1406]

American Otalian Wife & Mother here. I don’t work bc I am a traditional SAHM, but O don’t cook or do wash either. The men in my house do the dishes & do the laundry!

[@henryhill1364]

Well done lads keep it up ! Mother is god remember that !!! ❤️

[@camm8642]

blasphemy...God is God you should love and honor your mother and father but God comes first

[@STALINGRADAVID2012]

I'm 44, 3rd generation italian, and I still live with my mom...

[@gabbyhu1020]

Married ?

[@STALINGRADAVID2012]

@@gabbyhu1020 single

[@MegaJordan691]

Mamon

[@rinnemichelle946]

Uhhhh let your mom live her life. U too old to be living at home. Do i even pay anything towards the house

[@deedee3287]

Damn 😰

[@johnguglielmo1629]

Saw a Mammoni poster (like at 4:39) in Palermo, Sicily in 2005. Too funny !

[@tlynn7043]

I like the family way better than the individualistic way.

[@whynotbrosay]

now that's seems like paradise. No wonder why Italians are so willing to elect good governments to protect this lifestyle.

[@MotherEarth573]

Italian has the same Chinese culture. Mother is the No1 in the family. Not only Live with your mother, welcome to being wife and kids all living together 3 generations in one house if your home fits

[@user-l4y7r04wy6iv]

And the British/Anglo-Saxons always say that Asian/Eastern culture is completely alien and totally different from White/European culture. But now, thanks to globalization, everyone is becoming American.

[@armchairsociologist7721]

Note to Americans commenting on this video by saying it looks like their family: Davide Lucchini and Massimo Malerba were both from Lombardy (though going by their surnames may have a parent or two from outside), Giorgio Boemo is likely 100% Friulian/Venetian being from a rural island in Friuli. Andrea Leofreddi is from Rome, and may be central Italian. This documentary captures a few things: 1) people living with their families into their 40's is more common in Southern Italy or families in the north with southern origin. 2) the demographic decline for Italy, especially the North has been a ticking time bomb for decades - before the 70's--you could say the issue now is not one which can be fixed. Lastly, most Italian-americans have heritage in the southern regions, so the culture they inherited (but let's not pretend italian-americans are in touch with their roots) is very different from these guys. Also the sociologist Franco Ferrarotti is Piedmontese.

[@felixortega786]

we say in Puerto Rico mamao lol

[@dannyismanoe6023]

My italian friend : man over 40 but still lives with his parents, he must be abnormal

[@user-l4y7r04wy6iv]

Really. He doesn't want to sleep in a tent on the sidewalk, or enrich the apartment mafia.

[@agent_ninety9]

As a Italian American I can attest to this. I do agree though, we do live in an individualistic society. The professor of sociology is 100% correct on that. People in Europe and other countries especially there, look out for their neighbor. Here we don't even look out so much for our own family and covid has been the example of that. He nailed that one. Plus they are more socialized countries economically.

[@user-l4y7r04wy6iv]

This is the perfect solution for homelessness in the US. Why doesn't anyone think of this, or ever bring it up? Landladies/lords pay off the media to focus elsewhere.

[@agent_ninety9]

@@user-l4y7r04wy6iv because anything that benefits the citizens isn't in the interest of our politicians. Their constituents are not the public rather their private donors. The answer to that is to get money out of politics. They should be paid a regular civil servant annual salary and all of that back door money needs to stop! It all comes down to money lobbyists & donors just like the recent mass shooting in Georgia it doesn't have to be less guns or more guns why not approach the situation logically and put in metal detectors? because there's anti-gun lobbyists and pro gun lobbyists. This country is in a bad place and I don't know what it's going to take for the civilians of this country to take it back.

[@profriday]

The phenomenon of Italian mama won't last long. It will gradually die out if the new generation don't follow the tradition.

[@patbona1963]

The new generation is fleeing Italy in search of real work opportunities. The best goes away and the rest stays.

[@elisabishop5359]

Fingers crossed 🤞

[@user-l4y7r04wy6iv]

@@patbona1963 Not to worry; the Best and the Brightest are being replaced by doctors and engineers coming across the Mediterranean.

[@AperiLife]

Enabling at its finest.

[@ligbzd837]

Well, before the industrial revolution, all families live together for life. There's no such thing as mama's boy or not. All children live with parents and grandparents and relatives.

[@knowgovt]

Why didn't they ask the single Italian women what they think about this phenomenon? I bet you they don't appreciate it either!

[@chcolatyby3753]

I love my mama hhh

[@nihithaa4395]

In India men even don't move out after marriage. Women are expected to move to husband family. They have to live and adjust with in laws. Mamoni problem is extreme here. Domestic violence,dowry deaths,dowry suicides are problems faced by women.

[@badaldas6509]

6:24 I can see the embarrassment.

[@tanjamiller3321]

Over the summer, I ran into a man, a party at our home, who is my oldest brother's age and knew my father very well..my father passed away in 1982! So the guy wanted to see me again, and I gave him my number, he put it in his phone. He wasn't my type, but I thought, maybe it wouldn't hurt just to go out and have coffee or company with him, I was still hesitant bc the man knew my family so long, I felt it was bizarre/strange/incestuous/somewhat uncomfortable - and I thought, "maybe I am just being paranoid". That same night, he got my other brother's phone number and wrote it down. The next morning, this woman phoned my brother asking who it was, saying, "This is Nancy so-and-so...I was at a party last night, drank abit too much and you must have given me your number". It turns out it was HIS MOTHER!!! She wanted to know who gave her son their phone numbe.r A man in his mid-50's still lives with his mother. Then I realized when I went to the barbecue, why he had these love handles and was quite chunky in a bathing suit....he works all day, working behind a computer while he eats everything his mother cooks for him. I could tell he was "a good eater" seeing him in his bathing suit trunks/shorts and understood WHY - many Italian families, they will get insulted if you don't finish everything on your plate.

[@АлександрБелаконь-с7г]

Pesci, pesci, don't be a mammoni

[@sto59]

Massimo Malerba passed away from cancer in August 2005.

[@pianocrisante90]

Where did you get this news from?

[@doconfriends]

I’m happy I’m Serbian hahahahah...LoL

[@mikewizoski7593]

It doesn’t look like daughters have this problem

[@user-l4y7r04wy6iv]

They do; but it's more fun to focus on grown, middle-aged men.

[@scarletshield009]

Fresh orange juice?? FRESH AS IN TRULY FRESH??

[@halifaxx55]

I am from the land of iconoclastic and clash of cultures, Mexico. There are those in the north that are more "americanized" (my family) , those that are more Mediterranean European and those that are more native american. Just within my extended family you see a large variety of ways of life. My dad was from a few hours from America border and left home at age 17 and never moved back in. An uncle lived on and off with his family, my grandmother doing his laundry until 40s etc. And then I have family that moved away but not too far away. Within the same city actually (More of a Native American tradition). I moved a few hours away from my parents so more Americanized but my brother still lives at home at 29. It's interesting seeing such a variety, but I kind of like it. You can decide on what is best for you within my family and think that's the reality for a lot. Do what is for you.

[@user-l4y7r04wy6iv]

The main, important thing is that nobody is sleeping in a tent on the sidewalk.

[@patwattersjr7090]

I’m Italian/Finnish hmm my mom fucks up all my relationships.

[@MrOssyMoro]

I live in Milan and I don't know anyone living with parents at 30 and it's not accepted at all. Maybe in the poorest part of Italy. I'll live with my parents when they will need help, I really can't accept people who threat their parents like servants. Maybe that's why so many people vote rightwing parties.

[@sto59]

Andrea Leofreddi died suddenly in 2011 after undergoing minor heart surgery.

[@sto59]

60 min update

[@anastasia10017]

dont know why this is news. this is how it has always been. italians stay home until they marry. One of the good things is that they dont pay rent so they can save all their money. Beware -- the sons tell their mother EVERYTHING.

[@sf8638]

Ohhl no I had to move out when I was 21

[@randomanon2999]

9:47 Based and true!

[@0missis]

💩👋🏻🇮🇹

[@MegaJordan691]

I moved out at 19. I wanted the challenge of making it on my own. I started and finished my studies while on my own and am very proud of myself. I am an ADULT. These mamonis won’t be able to fight their way out of a paper bag after their parents die.

[@pianocrisante90]

Lowest birth rate and an ageing population. Men are not getting married and women are not having babies. 10:21.

[@rdu239]

They will not make babies unless they are married due to the strong family values of Italy, though there are cases of italian men having babies out of pre marital sex or accidental pregnancies but usually they disappear and runaway from responsibility and just keep it a secret out of fear of being scorn by their family and neigborhood

[@RKM514]

There is nothing wrong with living with your parents, as long as you're contributing. Parents need to stay out of their adult kids' relationships. I and my boyfriend had to move in with my mother, as caregivers for a year.

[@KitKat-cm8rf]

Depends on the kind of parents. If they're good, you're good, if not, you're screwed😬

[@necessaryvolitio]

Pretty sure Leslie just wanted to take a vacation to Italy.

[@user-l4y7r04wy6iv]

9:24 Leslie wants to be a Mammona.

[@rdu239]

Do Italian "mahs" follow a code of honor in which that they would want to get their kids to be married and give them grandchild rather than having a grandchild out of premarital sex or accidental pregnancy?

[@TM-Logic]

Women would cook, iron, clean if a paid

[@kasandramendoza4764]

I suppose George will never get marry. It is terrible.

[@darksith7282]

Haha Pesci haha

[@kasandramendoza4764]

Good that Italian moms don't say to their sons to have kids together. It is horrible.

[@rdu239]

Well the thing is, you will get constantly berated by your mom to get married already so that she can have grandchild or berate you again to make more babies so that she can play more of her grandchild

[@nathanmerritt1581]

You must have a really demented mind to come up with this comment.

[@yorusuyasoul69420]

Oi pesci

[@yunleung2631]

Probably similar to China. The girls there cannot separate themselves from their families.

[@manfioviolas]

Queste cose sono considerate normale.... These are normal things, just a different society.

[@0missis]

I Love italians mammoni ❤️💩👍🏻