"MAN OF MY DREAMS"... Women Left Her Fiancé Once He Got Brain Cancer But WAS SHE WRONG?

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@queenj.shanaye4211 Жыл бұрын

IM DISABLED, HAVE BEEN ALL MY LIFE BUT YOU WOULDN'T KNOW TO LOOK AT ME ANYWAYS IM A GOOD PERSON GUYS LIKE ME BUT BEEN SINGLE OVER 10 YEARS MY LAST RELATIONSHIP. MY BOYFRIENDS FAMILY DISCOURAGED HIM ABOUT DATING ME EVEN THOUGH IM A GOOD PERSON AND WHOLE FAMILY LIKED ME BUT HE TOLD ME THINGS HIS FAMILY WOULD SAY CONCERNING MY HEALTH ONLY BUT HE WOULD BE HONEST WIT ME AND NEVER LET THAT STOP HIM FROM DATING ME. GUYS NOW ASSUME AND ASK ME WHATS WRONG WIT ME WHEN I TELL THEM IM CHILDLESS AND HAVEN'T BEEN IN A RELATIONSHIP IN A LONG TIME. I DONT HAVE KIDS CUZ ILL NEVER HAVE A CHILD OUT OF WEDLOCK AND BE A SINGLE MOTHER. NOT THAT I COULDN'T DO IT; ITD JUST BE EXTREMELY HARD ON ME AND ID HAVE TO BURDEN MY FAMILY FOR A LOT OF HELP WIT NOT JUST ME BUT A CHILD TOO. I HONESTLY DONT KNOW IF ILL EVER GET MARRIED CUZ MEN WANT OR PREFER YOUNG WOMEN AND I MAY NOT LOOK LIKE IT BUT IM ALMOST 40! ID LIKE TO HAVE A COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP THAT LEADS INTO MARRIAGE BUT IM A REALIST I DONT SEE IT HAPPENING IN THIS DATING CLIMATE. IM ALSO VERY RELEGIOUS. SO IT IS HARD HAVING AND MAINTAINING A RELATIONSHIP AS A DISABLED PERSON IF YOU DONT FIND SOMEONE WHO REALLY CARES. NOT ALL DISABLED PPL HAVE MY STORY IM SURE THERES PLENTY OF PPL WITH HAPPY HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS. JUST SPEAKIN ON ME! I DONT BLAME ANYONE THATS HONEST TO SAY I CANT HANDLE YOUR ILLNESS, AS LONG AS YOUR HONEST WIT PARTNER

@juanitojibito6426 Жыл бұрын

why are you screaming?

@lexnight8345 Жыл бұрын

@@InspireFocus245 something like this...

@Lilbitpurp Жыл бұрын

Damn yall couldnt have chosen an easier pin of shame to get through lmfaoo *edit* apologies, its probably not actually a pin of shame. I assumed cause thats what im use to seeing pinned but i realize it probably isnt. I was dead tired when trying to read it so it was just incomprehensible to me and i thought it was just someone ranting. My fault for assuming

@aPeachWhoLovesYeshua Жыл бұрын

What is your religion??

@Spiritbomb88 Жыл бұрын

CALM DOWN AND STOP YELLING!!!!!!!!!!!

@alexrose2778 Жыл бұрын

Been through the same thing when I was dealing with a cancer diagnosis. My fiancée broke things off right after learning about the tumor that was found. I’m cancer free now, doing good in life, and my ex had been blocked from ever contacting me again. They tried to reach out, through family and friends, wanting to talk and get back together again. I have enough respect for myself to never entertain that notion. You didn’t want me at my worst point in life, you don’t deserve me at my best.

@michaelblaes9847 Жыл бұрын

Thumbs up to the 2 posts above. No chance for a reconnect, but I would understand being unable to stay. But never try to come back.

@andrewcruz1931 Жыл бұрын

@Alex Rose EPIC!

@metalsteel5631 Жыл бұрын

might as well not associate with any woman then.

@Tombbistol Жыл бұрын

@@metalsteel5631 Stop the double standard, if the post was done by a woman I’m sure you’d be like “ Yes queen ”and say something like“That’s what normal women do!” You keep saying double standards against women ,but you yourself seems to have double standards against men , you are just super self-unaware,because you believe you are always right ,you are not ! If it was a man leaving woman when she got cancer , I bet you would never comment something like“He is just doing what every man should do !” Quit ur own double standards before you tell others to stop theirs .

@jordanwilkinson7368 Жыл бұрын

Bingo

@nucleargrizzly1776 Жыл бұрын

Eight years ago I was laying in a hospital bed when the doctor gave me a grave prognosis. My fiancé immediately got up and left the room. A few seconds later I received a text saying, "This isn't what I signed up for". Well I'm still here b****. More successful than ever. And you are a cashier at a big box store.

@clutchboi4038 Жыл бұрын

Ain't it sweet?! My dad had his appendix rupture and died but was revived in the hospital. My mom sold his house, all his stuff and started fucking a new man before he even got out of the hospital. Now decades later my dad and I are running a small business doing better than ever and she's rotting away in a shit mobile home somewhere.

@rhondaparr5739 Жыл бұрын

Glad you dodge that asshole and are doing better. Keep doing you.

@sirsurnamethefirstofhisnam7986 Жыл бұрын

Did they forget that part of the marriage vow is “till death do us part” they clearly weren’t fit to be your spouse anyway

@asiammkay Жыл бұрын

Wow! You got lucky she left. 😨

@OneEyedreaper Жыл бұрын

God or something said I like you nigga don’t worry I got your back

@sarab9344 Жыл бұрын

I stayed with my fiancé who was battling and slowly dying of brain cancer, during that time I found out “surprise” I was pregnant. He passed away when our daughter was 5 months old. I knew I would struggle. But 14yrs later, it was the best decision I ever made to stay by his side till the end.

@Bbedkexbe2fu69 Жыл бұрын

So sorry for your loss but glad you got your miracle from the relationship which is your daughter. Love is difficult it's not all about the good times it's the bad times which really teach you about who you are as a person.

@ryanferguson9249 Жыл бұрын

You did the right thing, Sara.

@ragingnoob3603 Жыл бұрын

real ride or die.

@ryanf6651 Жыл бұрын

respect to you sara x

@donovanwilliams5424 Жыл бұрын

That loyalty and love is exactly what honorable men look for in a wife. Lifelong partnership.

@shywolf6451 Жыл бұрын

I had breast cancer 2 years ago. I'm grateful for my husband not leaving and assisted in my healing. Haven't had cancer since then.

@chaostade4087 Жыл бұрын

why would your husband leave you because of the breast cancer? Do I live in a society where not leaving your significant other is something to celebrate about?

@YourGlucoseGuardian Жыл бұрын

Best of health to you, you guys are a great couple

@temposhop8739 Жыл бұрын

@@chaostade4087 You might, sadly. When you haven't had the chance to enjoy years of building and good times with your partner and family, I think it's harder to balance the trauma with a strong bond, or feeling of having had a season of satisfaction in life. I live in a stressed out society where people leave their partners for lots of reasons - financial, physical & emotional stress and poor communication, lack of empathy, weight, looks, and unfortunately intimate violence is not rare. We are made to stress out about having more, and stress levels are pretty insane. Stress can cause lack of empathy, rationality, etc.

@temposhop8739 Жыл бұрын

This makes me happy to hear, both your mutual appreciation for one another, and that you're now cancer free. May it remain that way.

@scardelaro Жыл бұрын

So happy for you! ❤

@DropkickDemon Жыл бұрын

I was diagnosed with a brain tumor the size of a marble behind my right eye in college, and I would have given up without my girlfriend of two years. You can claim that you would make the “strong” decision to not want your SO to have to suffer with you, but you have no idea how lonely it is knowing that you’re sitting alone in the waiting room for death to call. I went under for a surgery at the Cleveland Clinic’s IMRI operating room and have been cancer free since. My girlfriend is now my fiancé ,6 years later, and we are getting married in Florida at my mother’s house this fall.

@xleplayVA Жыл бұрын

Awesome man. Hope it keeps wrokin for you, and that you stay happy together!

@black_horse_lover2655 Жыл бұрын

that’s amazing!! But dang, what took you so long to wife her?

@joanna0988 Жыл бұрын

Congrats 🎉❤

@DropkickDemon Жыл бұрын

@@black_horse_lover2655 Having to drop out of school and pay for the surgery, my finances after the surgery drove me into a guilt that made me feel like an anchor more than my cancer ever did. I worked for years in a job that I was blessed with. I was finally promoted and put on salary in February 2023 and felt stable enough to ask her.

@workwork7022 Жыл бұрын

Awesome man! Not trying to intrude on anything personal but was the tumour in your optic nerve? My friend is going through this currently and don’t do surgery her for it

@voidmayonnaise Жыл бұрын

Courage isn’t not being scared, but doing what’s necessary despite being scared. Some people don’t do courage.

@Nostradevus1 Жыл бұрын

Yet she will still want to be called stunning and brave.

@kennyfnpowers707 Жыл бұрын

Yeah people don’t understand that courage implies you are scared already.

@kencochrane2885 Жыл бұрын

My name Cochrane comes from Galic it means bravery. My name Ken means knowledge and the double edged sword. The double edged sword is a symbol of harm going both ways. Acknowledgement of vulnerability and being brazen enough to face your challenge is bravery. The man who faces off to a man that is bigger, is the brave one simply put. The man that does not raise his hands in contests and opts to prevent violence is the brave one.

@ericapaquette9624 Жыл бұрын

Facts

@AaronChimera Жыл бұрын

Or responsibility.

@BlairEwing Жыл бұрын

One of my best friends wife left him when he was dealing with a brain stem tumor. She f’d around with at least a few dudes, and then came back to him after he recovered. He took her back too. Sad.

@AbaNPreach Жыл бұрын

Ouuuuuuuuuffffffffffffffffffffffffffff

@emad5594 Жыл бұрын

Thats an L

@Mr.man712 Жыл бұрын

Thats a L.

@samrodrigues3199 Жыл бұрын

It's stories like this that give me genuine anxiety for my future

@CMXR Жыл бұрын

gross

@Younghotebony-iw8tc Жыл бұрын

It’s disgusting enough to do what she did but to have the nerve to want to share this story as if there’s some empathy to be had towards her is insane. That’s next level mental acrobatics to try to make yourself feel okay with a poor decision!

@Human_01 Жыл бұрын

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@birdie4263 Жыл бұрын

for me, its the fact that she so openly celebrated splitting from her fiancé exactly bc of his diagnosis and making it about HERSELF that shocked me. of course a devastating diagnosis would have a toll on a loved one (and its fine if you can't go through with it) but she made it all about herself while the fiancé is the one ACTUALLY suffering. that's extremely callous!

@prouddegenerates9056 Жыл бұрын

Yeah, I’d want the woman I loved to be happy, but I’d be bitter if she paraded it around for the YES QUEENS. That’s reason enough to look down the barrel, then kiss a 12g, might as well embrace the quicker way out.

@Chuck_EL Жыл бұрын

That's my issue , she's a clout chasing cunt

@MusMasi Жыл бұрын

"I was so close to having everything I wanted and then, all of a sudden, it had been *snatched away*." That sentence tells you all you need to know about her in this situation.

@coleyboot1 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for this comment

@Пинагод Жыл бұрын

The article was about her side of the story though? She wrote the article to talk about her experience, not his, and if he did, he'd likely say the same about her - That as much as it pained him, he didn't want to see her miserable. This article seemed like a rant, especially for those people who haven't found the partner's side of the story.

@jessycalarson1862 Жыл бұрын

These stories make me sad. I was diagnosed nov 2019 with a rare lymphoma. Had 3 years of chemo and my husband of 13 yrs never once left my side. He did everything while I was treatment, worked, cooked , cleaned , drove me to chemo. Even helped me off the toilet when I was to sick to move. Marriage is in SICKNESS AND HEALTH! This actually made our marriage stronger

@KaseyAngel222 Жыл бұрын

Well to be fair, this couple wasn’t even married yet. So it’s a good thing she got out because she wasn’t meant to marry him.

@CRAgamer Жыл бұрын

@@KaseyAngel222 she's a coward

@thrgg Жыл бұрын

@@KaseyAngel222 To be fair, the woman in this story spilled her ex fiance's medical info across the internet without his consent.

@Aaron-kj8dv Жыл бұрын

My uncle asked for a divorce then a couple months later found out she had cancer so he stopped the divorce, kept her on his insurance, and they lived amicably for a couple years. Once she was cancer free he proceeded with the divorce and this bitch tried to take everything lol she was calling her lawyer so often that the lawyer dropped her as a client. Some people just have a coldness inside of them. They divorced close to 10 years ago and she still does petty shit, like they have a lakehouse that's 50/50 so one has to tell the other when they're going up so they're not there together and everytime he texts her he's going she goes "actually me and my friends are going that day". Even when he goes and doesn't tell her he comes back and it's trashed. She's in her 60's acting like this.

@capo4270 Жыл бұрын

@@Aaron-kj8dv "Women are grown children" TFM

@fredfour0 Жыл бұрын

She's writing articles feeling sorry for herself while bro was literally dying. No matter how terrible something is for someone, rest assured that there's a woman somewhere that thinks she's the worst affected by it.

@cdwexford12 Жыл бұрын

And men to be fair

@manumaster1990 Жыл бұрын

@@cdwexford12 no.

@cdwexford12 Жыл бұрын

@manumaster1990 I'd argue with you but you've been red pilled likely, my sister was there for her ex whilst his dad was dieing of cancer, when time came for him to step up he bailed

@fredfour0 Жыл бұрын

@@cdwexford12 I'm not just talking about illness. There's articles about how men being poor is hurting women's dating prospects and how men dying in war is having negative effects on women at home. Countless example all over media.

@pumkinspiceallthingsnice4051 Жыл бұрын

@@fredfour0men are statistically more likely to leave their sick wife than the other way around. Stop the cap.

@Merik2013 Жыл бұрын

The main thing that struck me about her article is that as much as she went on about how he's her dream man and how good they were together, whenever she talked about the relationship post diagnosis she only ever talked about her own personal happiness and wasn't concerned with how her decision would effect him so long as she no longer had to worry about what SHE had to lose from being in the relationship. If you aren't willing to stick with your significant other through the worst of times, you don't deserve them at the best of times.

@kikimah3899 Жыл бұрын

She never truly was into the relationship or him just what they did.

@amazingaces4389 Жыл бұрын

@@kikimah3899 she proposed when he couldn't before it got worse

@amazingaces4389 Жыл бұрын

💯 this betrayal is unreal

@viscountrainbows2857 Жыл бұрын

Man gets brain cancer, woman most affected. Like damn, she may not have given him the cancer herself, but the fact that her poor widdle emotions take priority over the man who may literally be dying, and still has even the most miniscule chance of fighting back, makes her indeed, "The Worst Person", at least on that particular day in that particular region.

@BURGRKNG Жыл бұрын

it's stunning how much of a man's worth is viewed through the lens of what they can do or provide, and even though I know my partner does not see me this way, she still uses language occasionally which can make it feel that way if I'm in a bad head space. We talk about everything as much as possible. Relationships are work and compromise on both ends, and there are times when things I say can get her upset too. We try to meet in the middle as much as possible, and planning for the future is all about acknowledging and living with those compromises and also calling each other out when we need to. Guys and girls, get therapy and learn to spot abusive people like this woman early. Just because your partner doesn't yell or get violent doesn't mean they don't have some kind of 'master plan' bullshit going on in their head, just like the woman in this video. I would love to hear the story in the video from HIS perspective as I can almost guarantee that he isn't mentally healthy either

@PeinMartyn Жыл бұрын

Took his struggle with cancer and overcoming it, and made it all about herself.

@jasonBGI Жыл бұрын

"Just like a woman!"

@hunnyl0ve Жыл бұрын

narcissist 100%

@felonious_unite Жыл бұрын

men leave their sick partners at higher rates, all the men seething should go speak to cancer oncologists for once, they will tell you that they have therapists specifically for wives to prepare them for their partner to abandon them.

@markdsm-5157 Жыл бұрын

and i love that part if this was someone else I'd think they were being selfish... BUT IM SPECIAL.

@kidplayed Жыл бұрын

@@felonious_unite divorce rates says otherwise. Ill make it simple for you simpletons. A woman is most likely to leave you regardless of your circumstances. I won't be bothered reading the rest of your comments. Good luck out there champ(s).

@echojaxx8550 Жыл бұрын

The feeling of abandonment you get from your partner at your lowest lows is by far one of the most painful pains one can go through. As someone who’s experienced pain like this, I wish this upon no one.

@scouticuss2121 Жыл бұрын

In June 2020, just after the UK went into lockdown, I was diagnosed with cancer. After 4 rounds of chemo and a month of radio I was told by my consultant that the original cancer was gone. Less than 5 minutes later, after casually mentioning something, he said he was fairly certain it had returned elsewhere. Almost immediately i was taken in for a 10+ hour op that has left me alive but disabled. Sometimes the only thing that kept me going was my husbands love and support, and it still is. This woman is so self unaware that i honestly think she thought people were going to say "wow, how nice is she". Well, she's not. If you stop loving someone you leave and that's ok. Other than that you stick around and support them whatever life chucks at you, that's what grownups do.

@Human_01 Жыл бұрын

@sargaa8471 8 ай бұрын

yeah that's what I was thinking even you wanted to left him it's weird to not visit him or something

@MusMasi Жыл бұрын

"I was so close to having everything I wanted and then, all of a sudden, it had been *snatched away*." That sentence tells you all you need to know about her in this situation.

@Aaron-kj8dv Жыл бұрын

Yeah I zeroed in on that too. Didn't she say they met when she was 30? Who's in their 30's still thinking there's a fairytale life waiting for them?

@angeleyes3386 Жыл бұрын

Right like what about him. His entire life is in jeopardy!!

@verilymcarthur9471 Жыл бұрын

People aren't allowed to want things?

@mr.fettesq.7705 Жыл бұрын

@@verilymcarthur9471 of course they are...but this selfish bitch sounds like a nightmare. She making his cancer all about her and what she aint getting now. How sad it is for her. Give me a break....this woman deserves to be alone. She ain't gonna find much in her 30s. She was lucky to find someone as it is.

@aubreysong Жыл бұрын

Tbh, if the guy survived this, he will probably meet the better person for him, rather than stuck with the wrong person.

@drknstodstny4141 Жыл бұрын

My now epileptic wife developed Medulloblastoma in the first 2 months of us dating. She went through surgery which was difficult for her, the family and myself. She made it through a 10 hour surgery and afterwards she lost her ability to walk and balance and her ability to talk as well. We spent 2 years learning how to walk and talk again. We've now been together 11 amazing years. I'm glad I gave everything to her because she gives everything back to me ten fold. If you think things are tough,s stay strong and know that love recognizes love. Stay beautiful my friends.

@berrymckockiner5883 Жыл бұрын

while that story is beautiful and im happy it worked for you, ive heard to many stories of guys donating their kidney to their wife and then she cheats on him. Edit: it's funny that some people are really mad in this thread, when aba and preach literally agree with me. Most people would stab you in the back when you hit their breaking point.

@brandonbjoern9390 Жыл бұрын

@@berrymckockiner5883 thats like 1 story my guy

@drknstodstny4141 Жыл бұрын

@@berrymckockiner5883 i understand how you feel and can definitely see how you would have your reservations. Not everyone gets as lucky as I have been. I'm not saying I'm the norm, probably far from it, but the moment I met my wife I knew she was my soul mate as cheesy as that may sound. I hope you and the rest of the men out there get to experience the life I live and the love I receive every day. Appreciate your comment and input. Take care my friend.

@cali2432 Жыл бұрын

That’s a beautiful story my guy, that “old school love” people be talking about

@moniquevandeplas5210 Жыл бұрын

love recognizes love. Exactly.

@pdannysan13 Жыл бұрын

I will not talk about this woman's decision, but as a radiation oncologist I will only say this: being near your end of life or fighting the battle of your life, and to do it alone...is a hell of a lonely and sad feeling. When a patient would walk in the door and you would see that they are kinda on their own, that would pop out to us, would even influence decisions sometimes. We all have our own stories, think about the stories you want to create about yourselves.

@NotAnotherKuromi Жыл бұрын

What do you mean it would influence your decision sometimes?

@HoneeBear Жыл бұрын

@@NotAnotherKuromiright lmao because I hope it wasn’t ANY medical decisions 👀

@pdannysan13 Жыл бұрын

@@NotAnotherKuromi Some cancer treatments have side-effects that will affect your quality of life and your ability to take care of yourself, meaning somebody will have to step in and shoulder the burden, to help you. Sometimes this can be things that seem trivial to us: washing ourselves, eating etc. If a patient does not have a strong support system around them, we may lean towards less aggressive treatment, with let's say less as good results, but a treatment that we know this patient will be able to bear. These are not easy decisions, usually we take them mutually with the patient. Usually, patients with a good net of family and friends tend to do better, call this effect whatever you want, but let's just look at the practical stuff - supported patients will be better at keeping track of their medication, their appointments, maybe some side effects will be signalled by their partner, spouse or family member and so on. Again, I am not issuing judgement on this lady. In the medical field you see a fair share of variety in people's stories, but chose your own story, cause you will have to live with it.

@PsychoMoFoGaming Жыл бұрын

The people you care about can bring strength. If you feel like you lost everything then you feel like there is no reason to fight. The mind can do amazing things. It can convince your body it is legitimately sick and it can heal the body miraculously. Placebos show this. If the mind believes it, and its within its ability, then it will. When you have no fight. No will to live because no one is around...well...you die faster...the mind has accepted whats to come.

@coupofmentality3417 Жыл бұрын

As a medulloblastoma survivor I thank you for bearing the weight of your occupations emotional stress. The patients who are thinking clearly appreciate you

@AmaniArk Жыл бұрын

When I was diagnosed with cancer the man I was dating left me. I spent one night crying and feeling sorry for myself then moved on to face and fight my own mortality. It's a gift to have a real test in your relationship before you get married.

@mrissues1940 Жыл бұрын

Been married to my wife for 18 years. Before we got married, we talked about kids and what would happen if we couldn't have any. We said we'd adopt. Fast forward 7 years and we found out we couldn't have kids so we immediately switched to adoption. We ultimately went the foster care route and are the proud parents of a great 15 year old. You guys are right, I don't think couples plan for their marriage, just the wedding day. They don't talk about negative things that could come up nor plan for how you're going to handle them.

@Golflegend410 Жыл бұрын

You’re spot on. I really didn’t think of those negative things until my fiancé brought them up while we were dating for a few years. I was uncomfortable about it at first, but I listened because I know it can happen. I’m glad we had those discussions before I proposed to her

@steefan2248 Жыл бұрын

Why are you making me get teary-eyed on a Monday?

@blarab3697 Жыл бұрын

Facts

@hxdcm Жыл бұрын

That's awesome, may your family have a wonderful future together

@Floridamangaming729 Жыл бұрын

@@Golflegend410 probably my autism but thats all i think about when it comes to romantic relationships.

@ah92vi Жыл бұрын

4:00 real talk, this is true. I lost my leg in an accident two years ago and after they got me stable I remember looking at my wife in the hospital and telling her this wasn't what she signed up for and I wouldn't hold it against her if she left. She told me to shut the hell up and I knew she was a real one; we're arguably better than before now.

@giosbizarreart9048 Жыл бұрын

I mean that’s quite literally what yall signed up for when yall got married

@casbarrod1093 Жыл бұрын

And if a guy did this too a women with the same reason would women be as understanding??

@MikeLitirous Жыл бұрын

Congratulations! 🙌🏽. Most men long for a ride or die woman like that so you are one of the very very lucky few so congrats on the rare catch!

@ludapecurka102 Жыл бұрын

@@casbarrod1093 who cares as long as your partner understands

@MiVidaBellisima Жыл бұрын

This is how it’s supposed to be. You don’t abandon ppl you really love for things there’s zero control over. I wouldn’t want to be abandoned at my worst, so I would never do that to my husband. That’s the vows we took. ❤

@lonewolf333 Жыл бұрын

Notice at 2:44 in that little snippet from the article, she speaks so much about her desires and needs instead of his. The way she worded it too, where she says "everything I wanted and then it had been snatched away". She placed more importance on what she wanted and the loss of it than the possible loss of her fiance's life.

@SilkyCayla Жыл бұрын

I'm with my partner for almost 17 years, if this happened I would stay because he is my life partner, but that is a relationship that was build in almost half our lifetimes. Their relationship was still new, built on the things they were going to do together, so I can't blame her for leaving. One life was fucked because of that disease, it could have been 2... In an ideal world with better health care and support I can blame her for leaving, but the reality is she has the right to want a functional partner and kids...for both of them it's their only life, the only chance to live it.

@cptfwiffo Жыл бұрын

@@SilkyCayla Spot on. And he also wants his partner to be happy. If she knows she cannot be happy, can you, as a loving partner, ask your partner to be unhappy for a long time? And more, since it impacts her *entire life*. Kids are the number one reason to break up. This is that, pure and simple. The ability to have kids and provide for them. Sadly, that is at very high risk in this situation, and it is *always* a reason to break up/divorce.

@finflwr Жыл бұрын

I noticed that too. Everything was framed from her perspective. Didn't hear one thing about her seeing things from his. Adversity builds character. I suppose she didn't want any.

@Brandon-ml2zw Жыл бұрын

It started with how she described him really. That’s all he really was to her, an exotic opportunity.

@bignasty6395 Жыл бұрын

They also ignored the second half of the article where she frames herself as virtuous and the hero of the story for running a marathon in his name.

@lisaperard3262 Жыл бұрын

I was married almost 15 years when I was diagnosed with Early Onset Parkinson’s. I was told many times that I was lucky my husband didn’t leave me. I was appalled because I wouldn’t leave my husband if the roles were reversed. We made commitments to each other as well as could not imagine life without the other. It’s been 10 years and our children are now grown. We’ve had some really scary moments, I’ve had 3 brain surgeries and also some of the best times in our marriage. I’m always grateful to be married to my favorite person and I fight for a better quality of life for him and our family. I’m also grateful it’s me and not him because I can’t imagine how hard it would be to watch him go through what I deal with.

@jessielynn Жыл бұрын

You have a true marriage. Good for you. Idk what people think marriage is but what you’re describing is truth.

@aerickmon3350 Жыл бұрын

Those who told you you were lucky for him not to leave have some problems back door I wouldn’t be trusting their “kind words” too much after remarks like that

@lisaperard3262 Жыл бұрын

@@aerickmon3350 I just assumed that they didn’t understand what commitment means and didn’t take what they said to heart.

@thoughtswithamen8549 Жыл бұрын

@@lisaperard3262 the reason why is because statistically a whopping number of men leave their sick wives. So much so that in the UK, nurses counsel women that their husbands might leave them

@lisaperard3262 Жыл бұрын

@@thoughtswithamen8549 that’s absolutely appalling. At the same time I was going through getting my Parkinson’s diagnosis my long term friend was diagnosed with breast cancer. Her husband was by her side supporting her for 7 years before she died from it . We were both grateful that we chose the men we did but were unaware how rare and they are.

@gutz1982 Жыл бұрын

You can tell by the way she was writing, it was all "Her" centered. "I was happy." "I was stressing." "I found what I had been looking for." There was no "We" in most of that conversation of hers. So you can tell, as much as I respect her honesty, she was always a person looking to serve her own needs in life and not looking to become a shared life, but one where she was more interested in what she could get out of it.

@NotAnotherKuromi Жыл бұрын

Yes, the lack of focus on how the diagnosis him, or how her actojns affected him stands out as a res flag.

@vicegripp Жыл бұрын

You hit the nail on the head with this comment. Self centered point blank period.

@sonnywoods6846 Жыл бұрын

Yeah it seems like there are a lot of selfies people in these comment section

@sonnywoods6846 Жыл бұрын

The fact that she never considered her leaving could have been the one thing that made him give up and die. Moral support from a significant other can help and it could be the reason they survive

@Human_01 Жыл бұрын

@mippyflippy6706 Жыл бұрын

We found out my now husband had severe medical issues that would get worse over time when we had only been dating a few months. He told me he understood if I wanted to leave, but I told him I wasn't going anywhere. He was even told he would be dead by 2016, that was before his strokes, heart attacks, pulmonary embolisms, and more. Somehow he is still here. We have been married 20 years and have 2 sons. Everyone has to make their own choices, but I don't ever regret choosing my husband.

@sukaenacornelius9285 Жыл бұрын

@zombieebunny Love and care is a true medicine. Its very commendable to have stayed by his side. I wish more of us women made happiness and loyalty a moral obligation rather than something you wait for or ditch on bad times. Im glad you’re still together😊

@kikimah3899 Жыл бұрын

Your are the one making him live. When someone is properly cared and loved for they tend to live longer even with a sickness. A lot of ppl have been knocking on deaths door and when they got that love they pushed through longer then expected. May you guys have more beautiful years with each other.

@MohsinAli-jt5rk Жыл бұрын

Look into the carnivore diet for your husband

@issac7787 Жыл бұрын

smh reading this in broad daylight and almost cried reading this.

@manumaster1990 Жыл бұрын

@@MohsinAli-jt5rk you are disgusting! inform yourself better fool!

@slimbocker73 Жыл бұрын

The sad thing about getting a cancer diagnosis is that almost everyone you know will abandon you. Doesn't matter if they are family or friends. This is exactly what happened to my best friend when he got colorectal cancer diagnosed at stage 3. Everyone he knew bailed out and never looked back except a very small handful of people, myself included. I became his caregiver and have been taking care of him since then. I have ceased communicating with any of our old friends, as they proved their fair weathered nature and I have lost all respect for them. It's times like these that separate the wheat from the chaff so to speak. All these people had to do was just call or even text once in a while but that is apparently too much effort to support a friend going through hell. I'll put it this way, if you have a friend that gets really sick and all you can think of is how it will affect you, then you are a garbage human being capable of only loving yourself.

@spk1121 Жыл бұрын

I often think about _Dune_ when I read about these kinds of things. Right at the beginning, a mysterious woman visits the protagonist, Paul. It's been a while & I can't find my copy for some reason, so I am not sure if I'm using the correct terms, but the stranger tells Paul she is there to test him to see if he is a true human, a *person,* or an ordinary "human animal." The person will be able to rise above primal instincts, like fear of pain, will meet challenges in life head-on, and truly be able to _think._ She said there aren't many true humans in the universe and, as I've gotten older, I see what the author meant. Nowadays, it's more common to say most people are sheep. They are not particularly introspective, nor will they rise to most challenges, at least not when it's a matter of sticking their neck out, alone or nearly so. In a way, that's OK. Not everyone is destined for the history books. It's always keenly disappointing, though, when the "human animals" become uncomfortable & seek better grazing territory elsewhere, contentedly chewing their version of cud (usually some form of sports or viewing entertainment) when we *know* they/we could be making a real, positive difference in this universe. I include myself because I know I don't always rise to the challenges either, but at least I try to be mindful of such things! I commend you on rising to the challenge of being a true friend, a genuine _person_ in the best sense.

@mason11198 Жыл бұрын

I feel like this take is lost in this video. Self interested actions are not inherently bad, but they are not worthy of any ounce of respect. She can be humanized in her decision but the decision lacked integrity, maybe she shouldn't have the world fall on her but she isn't owed an ounce of respect. Respect is owed to those who do good when no one is looking and stick to their creed when no one is helping, and she had a moment of weakness and folded, which is wholly human and still not commendable.

@mason11198 Жыл бұрын

@@spk1121 this is a scholarly comment bravo

@renegordonsoccer Жыл бұрын

@@mason11198 spot on my feelings exactly

@yourdaddy762 Жыл бұрын

@@mason11198 nahhhh this type of self-intersted actions, they are bad, we use to call people who do this kind of thing DOUCHEBAGS, oh wait we still do. Also I bet if it was a man who did this, we would be having a completely different tone, this woman is a douchebag, period

@latoyaabulu5980 Жыл бұрын

This is a sad take. With all the struggles in life, to have one of the people who mean the most to you leave you at your lowest moment is such a blow. Difficult things happen in life and no one said it was easy, to just bounce when it happens and say “that’s just how it is because it inconveniences me” shows a low understanding of how humans and loved ones should relate to one another in this already difficult world. P.S. There’s a reason you wouldn’t accept someone back after they left you due to your diagnosis and you then got better. It’s because you know what they did was BS and a stab at you during your most vulnerable moment. How could you trust such a person again?

@oz_jones Жыл бұрын

The worst part about betrayal is that it never comes from your enemies. Pior dude. I hope he gets better

@Epic_Routes Жыл бұрын

Narcism is becoming normal in every aspect of life.... I guess those unresolved trauma smh

@Shmandalf Жыл бұрын

I mean yeah, if they bounced back then, whats to stop them from just doing it again if things get rough a second time? The woman who wrote that article only made herself look extremely fickle from what I can tell. I've felt real love and the thought wouldn't even cross my mind to do something like that, no matter what the illness was.

@RusticRonnie Жыл бұрын

The thing is she would Have the opposite opinion if it happened to her.

@RusticRonnie Жыл бұрын

@@Epic_Routesit’s because it’s encouraged

@immers2410 Жыл бұрын

Her article could have been summarised as “I met the love of my life and then left him when he got cancer, because this wasn’t part of my plan”

@YouKnowMeDuh Жыл бұрын

This is exactly it. That wasn't love, lol. It's hard seeing loved ones go through hardship, but even worse when you're in the dark about how they're doing and knowing that they are hurt so much by your absence.

@fernandogimenez7520 Жыл бұрын

very accurate

@emirnartyzhev2053 Жыл бұрын

If you stay and your partner survives, you had a few miserable years but now you’re good. If you stay and your partner dies, you had a few miserable years and now it’s even worse, on top of that as ugly as it sounds you just wasted a couple years on a dead man. If you leave, no matter if your partner lives or dies, you’re a bad person but you dodged a couple of miserable years and probably already met another “love of your life” and you’re good. You only live once, choose wisely. I choose to be happy

@Scarpia9111 Жыл бұрын

@@emirnartyzhev2053 You are such a lame individual. Even dogs have more compassion than you

@oz_jones Жыл бұрын

@@emirnartyzhev2053 my moral compass wouldnt let meblive with myself if i ditched. In sickness and health

@AbaNPreach Жыл бұрын

Whilst many men may judge, statistically speaking, they are the least likely to stick around if she gets very ill. Studies show men are more likely to call it quits if she gets severely ill so when it comes to not upholding those vows, no group is better than the other. pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/26315504/

@GammaRage Жыл бұрын

Either witch way man or woman it's still fucked up

@waynewayne8419 Жыл бұрын

It’s all fair, people need to stop emotionally guilting people into staying with them. Let them go if they want to and everyone is happy and fine.

@mostblunted_211 Жыл бұрын

It’s a human thing

@mostblunted_211 Жыл бұрын

@@waynewayne8419 in due time yes

@berno8535 Жыл бұрын

@@waynewayne8419 not of you made vows lmao, people are only as valuable as their words. Don't marry and don't make vows that you won't keel.

@orkutfinance Жыл бұрын

How brave. She left him in his time of need and made the whole thing about herself.

@fdadfas6624 Жыл бұрын

An individual has every right to look after and put themselves first. Foh with these perfect internet answers.

@loverofhumanity Жыл бұрын

@@fdadfas6624 exactly 💯. I think so many people in these comments are very weird. Even if I myself had cancer I personally would break up with my wife or fiance and have no grudge or anger towards the fact that she doesn't want to be burdened with having to take care of me. I hate being a burden to others and I hate the idea that is be potentially making someone's life miserable in anyway. People should and can do as they want with their time. They have the right to find a heir source of happiness in this short life that we have. I find so many people acting shocked and it always confuses me. As a man why would I want to be seen looking so weak, sick and on the brink of death in front of the woman I love. Makes no sense

@edbabine Жыл бұрын

@@fdadfas6624 Maybe she wanted to do it already before the situation. it was an opportunity to go.

@nope9698 Жыл бұрын

@@loverofhumanity no you wouldn't. Saying you'd handle it like that is exactly like the people saying they would stay.

@nope9698 Жыл бұрын

@@fdadfas6624 just because you're as self centered as she is doesn't mean you're right.

@Tachyon836 Жыл бұрын

"she's a runner, she's a track star, she's gonna run when things get hard." Never thought that'd actually be an accurate description of something up till now. This is crazy, he was literally suffering from cancer and she could only think of HER life, what SHE wanted. Never mind the fact that it was due to no fault of his own.

@VidWatcher01 Жыл бұрын

That part that stood out to me was when she said "I was so close to having everything I wanted & then it got snatched away" She didn't say "we" she said "I". That's a huge sign right there she was all about her self. She wasn't upset about him being sick she was upset she wasn't getting the life she wanted for herself all the while claiming he was the love of her life. On top of it she was trying to virtue signal herself by claiming if she had seen anyone doingbthe same thing she was would call them selfish. That seemed like a sort of deflection to me in case anyone called her out. I mean it's true we don't know until we're in that situation but while I was listening to Aba read this article I couldn't help but notice how many times she kept saying "I", "me" & "my" which is very telling on her part. Nownif he pulls through & heals 100% she has no right to try come back to him, especially if he finds someone else. No she hadn't married yet so she had no obligation to in sickness & health part but it will let others know that she will not be a reliable person when it comes to these things & if I was a guy read her article she would not be someone I'd want to get involve with let alone marry.

@godsangel67able Жыл бұрын

Yup!! A whole bunch of me me me

@juliegcrochetandcrafts. Жыл бұрын

As a disabled person, I've been married almost 3yrs and no joke 6months after I got married I was diagnosed with RA ( rheumatoid Arthritis)(fibromialsia) and degenerative joint disease. I've already gotten to the point where I get around with a cane and am looking into a mobility scooter. I'm in constant pain every day so ,I'm glad I have an amazing husband that stands with me and by me, but I understand the reason some people leave. But it's a strong person that walks with you.

@TheCastedone Жыл бұрын

He a strong honorable man. Hats off to him

@michaelaltmeyer Жыл бұрын

Look into pain reprocessing therapy.

@xelaander8429 Жыл бұрын

Exactly, a strong person walks with you. Not going off to "run a race in your honour" and throw themselves a pity parade in a newspaper. Again, I'm not even mad that she left. But she could have definitely raised awareness for his disease by highlighting how a once vibrant person could be undone by such debilitating disease and all his deferred dreams, not her whiny article, selfishness is not a virtue (and I'm saying this as a selfish person who is at least aware that if I ever wanted to do good for another person, I should try to not make it about me) Also, wishing you and your husband the best, hope you get all the help you need with your condition

@Y0utubeIsFuckingHomo Жыл бұрын

Idk man, terminal cancer is a lot different than complications from obesity, which it is a personal choice to be obese. People gonna hate me but, is your husband honorable or on a fool's errand?

@Cbjfg_Cliff Жыл бұрын

@@Y0utubeIsFuckingHomobro you don’t even know her how can you come up with this what the hell. She said her man stayed with her he honorable why make shit up.

@jay-quell-in Жыл бұрын

My best friend’s brother got brain cancer. Both their parents had already passed so there wasn’t much family around for him. My family “adopted” him and did anything we could for him to enjoy what was left. I can’t tell you how much I cried seeing him go down hill. But all I know is I would want someone there for me in the end. It’s not about you, take care of those around you or there will be no one to care for you in the end

@susiex6669 Жыл бұрын

This! Ive worked with the elderly for twenty years and the people who live selfish lives, all self absorbed, do not have a good end. Ive seen it.

@zangrygrapes4571 Жыл бұрын

This is wholesome but so unfortunate at the same time 😢

@bharatsn Жыл бұрын

this, first time i dont agree with aba and preach at all

@vsand9798 Жыл бұрын

@@bharatsn here’s the thing. She did sound selfish. I won’t deny that. But if she was in her 30’s. You don’t have all the time in the world to have kids as a woman. I started trying at 39, Lost pregnancy after pregnancy. Fertility treatments like IVF are so expensive and take multiple tries. She could be giving up having a family which becomes very essential to most women’s happiness as the age. If he lived he’d be disabled. If they could have kids while he was ill it would stress her pregnancy, it would be financially taxing, physically taxing and emotionally as well. Odds would be she would be a single mother eventually and that isn’t fair to a child. There are so many things to consider.

@bharatsn Жыл бұрын

@@vsand9798 ok fair there are many things to consider, but you could spend the last days with the 'love of your life and man/woman of your dreams'. And no one is saying to marry him or have his kids you could just be there for the person going through this incredibly tough time, she left him as soon as he got the diagnosis/started treatment. Have a talk with your partner that you love them and stand by them but if something happens you would not be able to take care of them. And you're probably trying to have a kid with your husband or wife but is she just going to just go out there and find a person to have a child with, it took 3+ years to decide this is the partner I want Also why is it a different conversation when men do it, nowadays I cant even tell someone my preferences without taking flak for it

@AutumnS264 Жыл бұрын

This story frustrates me. To leave someone when they are this down in life. I can't do it to a friend, nevermind a FIANCE?! It's just not love. At the end of the day, she loved what he could offer her, NOT HIM. Because no one NO ONE who LOVES another human being can stand the thought of them suffering in the hospital without your caretaking. The thought of the one you love suffering from illness AND being dumped? Oh dear god, i can't. This woman does not love this man. She loves what he had only. And when that was gone, she was gone. What is love if love is not present when the going gets tough? Who needs someone if they only want to be there when things are good? We crave a life partner because we want someone to be there for us when we can't do much for ourselves. When we are down on our luck, defeated and lost. Hearing stories like these, this world can be cold and it gives me goosebumps. My boyfriend currently has stage 3 cancer. This is his second time as the cancer came back. I love him more because of it, and it hurts me to see him sick. The thought of him suffering in the hospital, or coming home after surgery/chemo sessions LONELY? To an empty home? it breaks my heart. No way. Who's going to make him a comforting meal if I'm not there? Cancer is hard, but leaving someone you love is harder. I now know why we as a culture are obssessed with romantic movies, with love stories on screen (aka the notebook, etc). It's because it's so RARE in life. It sooths us to see it on screen. It gives us hope.

@onmytentoes Жыл бұрын

I watched my wife die of cancer. I was there with her until her last breathe. It was the worst thing I have ever experienced in my life. It broke me on so many levels. We had been together since high school and we share three beautiful children together. I wouldn’t wish this experience on anyone, however, there is no other place I would have rather been then next to her. Supporting her and caring for her. I understand why this woman did what she did. From my perspective, I committed my life to my wife and there was no way I could leave her side. My experience and this young lady’s experiences are different. The other side of the equal sign will be different as well. My prayers go out to the young man and I hope he recovers.

@seizuregirlllll Жыл бұрын

Wow, your an amazing man, I’m so proud of you and hope you all the best. Bless your heart! What you did was not easy but she had you until the end. Beautiful!

@AtheneHolder Жыл бұрын

unfortunately he passed...

@ashleyalexander7388 Жыл бұрын

You are a rare breed these days.

@fucksusan.fuckcensorship.874 Жыл бұрын

@@AtheneHolder wait what? i thought he survived tho they tumor was out? It came back? Bro maybe if he knew someone was going to be there during recovery his body wouldve kept fighting...

@luisalphahernandezomega1704 Жыл бұрын

*YOU WATCHED HER DIE BECAUSE SHE WANTED ALL YOUR MONEY. BLESSING IN DISGUISE.*

@nessabeane8162 Жыл бұрын

been dating my boyfriend for 5 years, recently lost feeling in my legs and hands, i can barely walk...i brought up my concerns and said i wont blame him if he leaves. Ive never seen him so angry/disappointed. "STFU dude, nobody is going anywhere. We'll just go to the dr and figure things out. Im always going to be here"

@hooverboy2747 Жыл бұрын

He's a keeper!

@nessabeane8162 Жыл бұрын

@@hooverboy2747 he 100% is... i dont feel worthy honestly. lost my job, i have 2 kids with another man prior to him... blows my mind honestly. hes proposed multiple times and even asked if he could adopt my kids. There truly are amazing men out there!!

@lorcejay2596 Жыл бұрын

I love to see it ❤

@mayacokie4811 Жыл бұрын

Yes u deserve that kinda love, receive it and make sure he feels the same love from u💖🥰

@xoxsilentrealmxox Жыл бұрын

Aw that's beautiful

@Tolseren Жыл бұрын

After having just lost a family member to cancer, I can't even fathom how it must feel to be potentially dying and having your wife/girlfriend leave you....

@DTreatz Жыл бұрын

just something women do, biology

@cyborg244 Жыл бұрын

💔

@confusedclarinetgirl Жыл бұрын

@@DTreatz that will be why it's men who are 7x more likely to leave a seriously ill spouse/partner than women are, is it?

@hinata1ize Жыл бұрын

@@confusedclarinetgirl These types don't like facts. They just want to blame women.

@artbazement5060 Жыл бұрын

@@confusedclarinetgirl False statistics lol

@michaelgatt7642 Жыл бұрын

I knew my marriage was doomed when I was layed up in my bed from foot reconstruction surgery and my ex-wife told me with a disgusted look on her face that I needed to figure something out if I ever got sick. Man those words cut so deep and it hurt so damn much. Since I couldn't help around the house she couldn't stand me.😊

@silverquis Жыл бұрын

She wasn't the one for you

@xoxsilentrealmxox Жыл бұрын

I hope you left her in the dust and moved on

@yuyevon1698 Жыл бұрын

Women are ruthless

@freetheworld2671 Жыл бұрын

@@silverquis no one is the one for you and the more we stop living for those impossible thing the better our self will be.

@silverquis Жыл бұрын

@@freetheworld2671 There is someone for everybody. That person was clearly not her.

@AngryReptileKeeper Жыл бұрын

This is disgusting and a massive betrayal. I can't fathom abandoning my partner during an illness, especially one that's terminal. Leaving him there to face all of it alone along with the fresh emotional pain caused by the breakup when he's been nothing but good to me, and throwing away what time I have left with him... The thought makes me want to simultaneously cry and vomit. I'd hate myself for the rest of my worthless existence. If you're married to someone, there's even less excuse. If you weren't prepared to take the "in sickness and in health" part of your vows seriously, why did you make them? Why did you even get married? The only way I can understand it is if their illness has caused some kind of extreme personality change such that they become mean, violent, unstable, irresponsible or are otherwise no longer the person you knew, like you sometimes see with traumatic brain injuries. Or if they're in a coma with a poor prognosis.

@JGburneraccount Жыл бұрын

As someone who didnt leave and stayed with her until the last day it ruined me for a very long time, a downward spiral but personally i wouldn't change a thing. The hurt never goes away but it does get better.

@halcyon6034 Жыл бұрын

Hey king, stay strong, you did something so selfless and loving. I'm certain she had unexpreable amounts of gratitude and respect for staying by her side till the. I hope one day you get to reunite with her again 💗

@ThatGuy-sc5rx Жыл бұрын

That's true love and I think it's an honor to be the one who cares for someone while they struggle or pass on. Hard times reveal who's really there for you and bring out the best in some of us even if it hurts. Life here is short and so bitter sweer

@CoryTheRaven Жыл бұрын

The hurt of loss is better than the hurt of being an @$$hole, because if you're an @$$hole you have to live with yourself for the rest of your life. That never goes away.

@ki11aqueen5 Жыл бұрын

You made her happy till the very end just by sticking with her through all that pain. Remember that. You did not make the wrong choice. Don’t listen to Aba and preach on this topic. I strongly disagree with them on this.

@mint_soup9743 Жыл бұрын

As someone diagnosed with breast cancer last year, my partners support has been irreplaceable. Dealing with heartbreak and a devastating diagnosis is not something I'd wish on my worst enemy, let alone someone I love! It's clear to me that woman is a narcissist. Sorry not sorry. My instinct is to stay. Being away from a loved one who needs me is far more painful and worrisome than being there and witnessing their condition.

@yourdaddy762 Жыл бұрын

thank you! exactly! some common sense and humanity! I watched a family member struggle with ALS for over 7 years before they passed and it was hard, I put everything on hold to be there because that's my family, you can't just bail on people you love when they are sick, and you can not make this shit about you, it was really hard but I would not imagine being anywhere else at that time, and looking back I still feel the pain but I can't imagine the pain I would feel if I wasn't for whatever reason (let alone a selfish one like this). This video just made me angry, not gonna lie, this crazy that we even have to say this, IF YOU BAIL ON YOUR LOVED ONE , YOU ARE A DOUCHEBAG, it is ok to be a douche bag but don't gaslight us with a whole blog about your narcissist feelings. I hope you recover and get well, imma pray for you

@lastdon6585 Жыл бұрын

Exactly right

@mint_soup9743 Жыл бұрын

@@yourdaddy762 man that sounds so rough! But at the end of the day you get to live with no regrets. ( I'm still sorry you and your loved one had to go through that.) I am praying for your continued healing too 🙏 ❤️ bless you

@lastchild Жыл бұрын

🙏🏽

@alexk6126 Жыл бұрын

I am so sorry about your diagnosis, BC is such an evil thing

@oggy1485 Жыл бұрын

My ex's sister and husband had the exact same thing. She did not leave. She helped him through and then 2 years later they had twins, a year after that.....they had a second set of twins, 4 years after that she got her dream job. Sometimes miracles happen. ❤

@vickym2346 Жыл бұрын

2 set of twins! That's truly miraculous

@preddyshite6342 Жыл бұрын

Miracles don't often happen so that shouldn't be a reason to do what some would consider the right thing.

@natalieshannon7659 Жыл бұрын

i've been married for 27 years. I have no breaking point. Even when we were just dating, I had no breaking point. I knew he was the one. This hits hard. My husband is sick and having major surgery tomorrow. I'm freaking out.

@Shmandalf Жыл бұрын

I hope it went well. I'm the same way, how could you say you love someone just to leave when they need you most? Then write a whole article about how fickle you are? Its shameful

@dianag.8478 Жыл бұрын

I hope the surgery goes well I wish both you and your husband luck

@Andrey-rc6wp Жыл бұрын

My girlfriend had a cancerous growth in her somach. She tried to push me away as, due to it's size, the chances of survival were not ideal. I stuck by her through every doctor's visit, every checkup, every followup, helped her in any way that I could. Dispite the fact that she wanted me to leave, I didn't. She's fine now btw and doing better than ever. I couldn't fathom leaving her, not in that state. She needed someone to be strong for her when she couldn't be. I cried a lot when she wasn't around but I put on a brave face when she was. It's not easy but I couldnt just leave her. At the time we were 5 years in and we're 6 years in now. This woman is disgusting and lower than dirt. Sure she's not married but that's not an excuse. What it does mean is she doesn't have a heart.

@Vampyre.77 Жыл бұрын

Beautiful story and relationship💞

@International-BlackMan Жыл бұрын

Adversity is the ultimate true challenger of love. If you can't love me while I go through struggles, then I don't want you around during success

@Riomasa Жыл бұрын

She’s not disgusting. Selfish yes, but as humans we are that by nature. In this situation I would push my wife away too. If she sticks by me, that’s of her own will. You’re not committed to any one person in this life unless you are caring for a child. Of course, being supportive and there for it all is the best, but not everyone is strong enough. Not everyone is okay to spend years of their life miserable if they don’t have to. In marriage everything is linked. My cancer is her cancer and vice versa. Both suffer, regardless of who’s afflicted. If you love someone, then you care about their happiness, and no matter which way you swing it, being a burden on your partner will not be happiness for either side. It’s a choice left for the persons involved alone, and for no other to judge.

@j.t.1086 Жыл бұрын

You're wonderful

@norcal9706 Жыл бұрын

Good for you brother, whether or not you believe in faith I believe God would be happy for your good deed

@collinkelly2402 Жыл бұрын

My step mom had a stroke in her late 30s. Her and my dad had been married for something like 15 years at that point. My dad stayed with her, 5-6 years ago she got diagnosed with terminal cancer, the doc said there wasn’t anything anyone could do, and at best she had 6 months, she got 3. When my dad came home from the hospice after she passed, we sat in the living room for a while not saying anything. Dad finally looked at me and said, this sucks, more than anything else that’s happened, but son I’m glad it’s over. Not just these last few months but the last 13 years of waiting for the shoe to drop. I’m sad and mad, but I’m also relieved. He was right, spending years looking after the people you love can take a big toll on you without you ever knowing. Nobody is meant to do it, and not everybody can do it.

@UltraGalacticSuperFantastic Жыл бұрын

I totally get this. After 3 strokes in a span of 3 decades, my dad died in 2021. Each stroke left him even more disabled, and the heartache was unbearable. Watching the person you love suffer...nothing is worse. Not even death. So me and my family felt guilty that we felt relief, along with the grief. Of course we would rather have dad back no matter what problems it brought back, but not having the problems allowed us to live our lives again. It's messed up.

@woody4269 Жыл бұрын

U must have been quite young during all this Collin. Sorry for your families loss. Stay strong. ✌️

@thenonexistinghero Жыл бұрын

Doesn't matter if you're meant to do it or can't do it. You just have to do it. And if you don't you'll always be a disgusting piece of crap.

@LeonMortgage Жыл бұрын

We're all meant to do it once we get married. That's the contract

@Kurusua Жыл бұрын

@@LeonMortgage until death do us part

@sentz1239 Жыл бұрын

No one said going through the pain with someone you love is an easy task. But it sure as hell is one of the greatest gifts you can give to someone you truly love, especially when they are at their lowest. Poor guy in this story had to not only deal with cancer, his treatment, the possibility of death, at the same time being abandoned by his "love". Strong guy to overcome all that.

@troybaxter Жыл бұрын

A verse I often remind myself of is John 15:13. It states, "Greater love hath no man than this, that a man may lay down his life for his friends." Giving up your life, whether it be physically dying or sacrificing your desires for another is the greatest love one can demonstrate. Loving during good times is easy. But loving during times where you are hurt, tired, or lost is another, and it truly shows one's character if you can do it through both.

@bbudimanalqodri Жыл бұрын

The reality is hurt. He must accept that the woman is not the love he thought he have. Sometimes we need to get ready for the worst, so it didnt hurt.

@BradleyMullins Жыл бұрын

I'm a therapist a head injury service, including damage from brain tumors. it's a game changer for some people regardless of how long they've been together. Disability, personality and behavioural changes, and increased financial strain are all part the picture. Any one of these can be enough to breakdown a relationship and that's if their fortunate enough to retain the cognitive skills needed to process the situation.

@andai09 Жыл бұрын

Its okay if she couldn't be with him in theses hard times but leaving me and then running a marathon in my "name" is just disrespectful. If you don't have it in you to be with that person in super tough times don't mention them again for the sake of attention. Just move on

@Comeback180 Жыл бұрын

If she can't handle another human being going through disastrous times stay single don't be in a committed relationship. If she was involved with a alcoholic, gambler or drug user it makes sense to leave but cancer for goodness sakes. There's many couples where 1 partner gets cancer and the other one sticks it out.

@NestlaysChaulkolateChips Жыл бұрын

Yea, this was what threw me off. This is a "no win" situation, so I understood leaving the relationship. I can't judge her for that. What I didn't understand was leaving the relationship, running a marathon in "honor" of this person even though they dishonored them, and then writing an article about it. It screams "me me me".

@andai09 Жыл бұрын

@@Comeback180 In total honesty bro as much as it sounds so lame and bitchy to leave your boyfriend in theses super hard times I could understand her as she probably is self aware she can't help him or don't wanna stay with a man who has "cancer" What's weird in this story is her trying to make it about herself and paint herself as the victim, you just disrespected the man, that's enough, don't talk about him make articles or run "marathons" in his name, just move on to your new life

@ambushbob5383 Жыл бұрын

My problem is that she for some reason felt we had to know about this. The fact that she felt the need to do this article makes me think she's trying to make herself feel better. That and she's not just putting her business out there she's putting out his too.

@Notazaku Жыл бұрын

I couldn't even imagine being friends with my ex in this scenario. If you're gonna leave you better be GONE gone. I'd accept that she needs to be able to live her life without me tying her down but there's no way I'm not going to cling to that bitterness.

@insantic2197 Жыл бұрын

He still cared about her. He did not want her to feel incredibly guilty.

@MusMasi Жыл бұрын

@@insantic2197 well he should not of worried about that obviously.

@MysteryInc01 Жыл бұрын

The fact that she made his illness all about her struggles says a lot

@Ambrizo937 Жыл бұрын

My dad stayed with my mom till her last breath when we found out she had brain cancer. One of the strongest men I know. I’d definitely stay but it could be because of the example set before me.

@insantic2197 Жыл бұрын

That's true love right there. He's a real man. May your mother rest in peace❤🕊

@zorlockts5744 Жыл бұрын

Same situation brother

@msairs Жыл бұрын

agreed. some of us had superhero role models.

@elusivemayfly7534 Жыл бұрын

It’s hard for me to be unbiased. I’ve been married 10 years, and I just feel the suffering of leaving would be worse than the suffering of staying. My husband’s suffering is what it would really be about. I judge no one-I don’t know what it’s like to be anyone but me-but I think I would just want every second I could have with my husband, even if he were different. That man is my hero. We made a promise

@11cacoo Жыл бұрын

i dont believe in love but i want to be wrong, how did you guys meet? how do i meet someone who doesnt want to ruin my life lol

@justthatgirl-ct4jo Жыл бұрын

Yeah, I'm judging here. This is awful. I don't care if my husband gave me the pass to go, I'm there all the way. How horrible.

@Snoop_Dugg Жыл бұрын

I think it's just a different generation. Or maybe she's suffering with guilt and that's the reason for the article.

@Thunderbender18830 Жыл бұрын

I think you’re one of the few people who has a right to judge because you’ve actually been through it. The rest of us have no right to say anything.

@DTreatz Жыл бұрын

@@hette457 fantasyland.

@thesuperdingos Жыл бұрын

If he lived and got a gofundme for $4 million, I can easily see her being like “and now I’m ok and I want him back again!”

@jdgoesham5381 Жыл бұрын

I bet she already did.

@CeifadHalk Жыл бұрын

TRUE

@ptolemeeselenion1542 Жыл бұрын

😂😂

@jacobfromallstate4963 Жыл бұрын

"I never realized how strong and amazing he is. To death do us part! No prenup and I hope the cancer comes back!"

@AndrewB23 Жыл бұрын

@Matt big incel energy

@_Watch_Dog_ Жыл бұрын

Coming from a man that's been a paraplegic for almost 14 years, I can say that on the part where you guys said, where people won't stay if something tragic happened to their significant other, men or women wouldn't stay with them. Back 14 years ago when this happened to me, I was 2 years in a relationship and after that we stayed together for about 5 more years. Until she couldn't handle it anymore and not just because of me becoming a paraplegic, we also had our ups and downs. Like any other relationship. Though I did find out by someone that was friends with her, although it's hearsay, but she said that the reasons she did what she did was because me being paralyzed. Now I don't know if that's true, I'll keep it in mind though. A year after we broke up I got with another woman and also had our ups and downs. We last for about, eh I'll say close to 3 years until she ran off with the next dude. After that I was single for 2 years. I had women getting at me a lot of times, did what any other man would do ended up messing around with these women. So saying that is not easy for disabled people to date, although yes and no. I can say that I'm one of the disabled people who has had quite some luck with the ladies. Some women didn't care and some then found out and said to themselves, "you know what this is not for me" then moved on. The ones that were ready to be with me, I just felt like they weren't for me, and it's okay to feel that way. Now again, I'm in a relationship, 3 years and some change and I got to say this time it feels very different from past relationships in a good way too. I guess what I'm trying to say is, that there will be some people that are ready to commit to someone with disabilities, but those chances may vary from disabled person to disabled person. With that being said, don't lose faith people with disabilities. Just gotta wait for that right person to come in to your life. Good luck and God bless.

@hayleymyron9381 Жыл бұрын

When I was a child my father was diagnosed a very aggressive form of brain cancer, giloblastoma. Statistically he should have only lived for 6 months after diagnosis, but he lived for 16 years. My mom was loving and supportive throughout all of the radiation, medicial trials, surgeries and later on disabilites that came with it. If you cant stand by your partner through the worst of times, you don't deserve them. It is exhuasting and heartbreaking loving someone who is suffering through cancer. I can't make a judgement on this woman for leaving. I wish both of them the best in their journeys.

@claff4573 Жыл бұрын

Well statistically the woman usually stays when they find out their partner got sick, but the same can not be said when the woman gets sick.

@salineaddict9850 Жыл бұрын

Your mom is a great woman. She clearly loved her husband, unlike this sad excuse for a woman. How can somebody propose to someone and then like a month later abandon him after a cancer diagnosis? Wild times we are living in.

@Bawls- Жыл бұрын

I don't judge her for leaving, I judge her for this expose this on the internet in the way she did. It was just weird af

@quinceyb921 Жыл бұрын

I'm sorry your father passed but i am glad he had your mom as well as you to be by his side

@MusMasi Жыл бұрын

@@Bawls- she made it all about herself in a way.

@keyzprogression4539 Жыл бұрын

I think having a breaking point in a relationship is perfectly normal but trying to then gaslight your partner so you don't feel bad about it or pretending or trying to convince yourself like your actions where selfless and noble is what usually anoys me when situations like this happen.

@42billybob Жыл бұрын

I think this is one of the situations where the selfish thing is also the altruistic thing. Everyone wants to be with someone who they can be happy with and is happy with them. You'd have to be a sociopath to get yours at the expense of someone else's misery. If a terminal disease is just too depressing for you to find joy, you're not gonna be the partner THEY want & need either. You can force it for the sake of a promise you made without considering this particular outcome. But at that point you're just hurting each other for the sake of signalling a virtue you don't really have.

@jasonkelley9072 Жыл бұрын

@@42billybob it’s altruistic to abandon the person you supposedly love…….. sounds more selfish than anything

@jujutrini8412 Жыл бұрын

@@jasonkelley9072 She wasn’t helping him though. She was more of a burden to him than a support. It was definitely selfish but I can see the point of view of the person calling it altruistic.

@42billybob Жыл бұрын

@@jasonkelley9072 Is it better to stay with someone for the sake of ego? To endure a relationship that has become completely miserable to you and probably them too as a result of your inability to cope simply because you don't want to be the bad guy and rip off a band-aid that has begun to fester? Love isn't magic, clinging to something that has become toxic isn't virtuous. Maybe it's weak to be unable to find happiness in such a situation. But weak people can still do the right thing when they fail and fall short.

@keyzprogression4539 Жыл бұрын

@@42billybob If it is a selfish thing it can't be Altruistic. That was the whole point of my comment. It's disingenuous to pretend like your making such a decision for the benefit of your terminally I'll partner and not yourself no matter what rational you try to spin.

@Shockguey Жыл бұрын

"We can't judge someone if we're not in their shoes." COPE, yes, we can.

@kt114 Жыл бұрын

This is such an important conversation. The truth is, at some point in our lives we all will have to rely on other people close to us to help us get through something. All of us. The woman in the story will likely at some point have to rely on her own support system. I hope she realizes in that moment just how devastating it is to lose a key piece of your support system in your most difficult moments. We have to be there for each other. It’s just a part of this human experience. It’s hard to see your loved ones suffer but you have to think beyond yourself and be there for the one suffering. It all boils down to treating one another how we want to be treated. So many people seem to have forgotten that lesson we all learned at a very young age.

@umarcga7823 Жыл бұрын

I am loving the comments!

@sydneyradig2589 Жыл бұрын

my grandma was on hospice when I was 8, and my parents told me that she was gonna die and that I didn't have to go visit her as she was dying if I didn't want to remember her that way. I was 8 and death scared me, so I chose to not see her anymore (I would have gone to visits without question if they had never presented that option to me). She passed about a month later. It is still my biggest regret over a decade later. She was on her death bed, and I chose my own comfort over her happiness of seeing her grandchild. So yeah, this girl is in the wrong.

@franciscoreyes7370 Жыл бұрын

You were 8. There's nothing to be regretful of.

@xDarkAngelxc Жыл бұрын

Wow....I can't imagine the pain that caused you. I would struggle living with the thought of me doing something like that.

@Honeybadger5408 Жыл бұрын

I was around the same age when my grandmothers condition worsened to the point she was bed ridden and I completely shut down. I couldn’t and didn’t know how to interact with her. I also was young enough to convince myself she would get better. Then the same thing happened with my grandfather and I shut down again. I still remember my mom telling me that he asked why I wasn’t coming spending time with him like i usually did. It’s been close to 20 years and it still weighs on me so i definitely know the feeling. Maybe people like the woman in the video just have never dealt with something like that before but I know I could never make the same mistake again

@gideonwiley8961 Жыл бұрын

Jeez man I almost cried reading this. Same thing happened with my great grandma and it brought it all back to hear your story. It’s hard to make those kinds of choices especially that young when you don’t quite understand what it means…

@kingcosworth2643 Жыл бұрын

I don't like parents offering that option. I was told the same thing at 9 when my Grandfather died, but I said no, I want to see him. I figured seeing him sick in bed was not going to erase all the other good memories, and of course it didn't. But don't beat yourself up, you were 8.

@zamantshingamtshali4475 Жыл бұрын

That cancer was a blessing to Jelle, He will find someone who truly loves him and deserves his time because the girl that left her was so selfish and self centered going on and on about herself, never once did she talk about her fiance wants/needs, his feeling etc.. she was a whole red flag and Jelle dogged a bullet she never loved him. How do you claim to love someone and then leave them while they are near death. I wish him the best and I can say about her KARMA!!

@0nepotential Жыл бұрын

As someone whose been hospitalized and bedridden near the point of death (a couple of times) I can say every visit counts, and every supportive hand can go a long way to contributing to someone’s mental, physical and even emotional health. You’ll even be amazed to realize hospital staff and nurses treat you better when you have a large supportive group constantly visiting you. Just having a friend come by and dropping me some Wendy’s made me feel better (cuz I was struggling to eat hospital food)

@Sandra.-. Жыл бұрын

I dont think she necessarily cut him off...just stopping being his girlfriend

@kickballfever Жыл бұрын

I've been severely bedridden in the hospital, and you're right, every single visit counts. One time I was in the hospital for a few days, in and out of consciousness. I only remember one of my friends visiting once. Before I left the nurse told me that my friend actually visited me every day. I wasn't even awake for it and it meant a lot to me, still does.

@samiam2088 Жыл бұрын

Hospital staff will treat you better because they are worried that someone will notice if they treat you like crap.

@LH_Vagrant Жыл бұрын

Ugh, the hospital food. That bland, soggy, steamed pile of shit, when you most need to keep your strength up. I managed to work that down for 3 days until the treatment started taking away my appetite. I'm eternally grateful for the home-cooked meals I was brought every single day after that.

@jaysonderrickson9540 Жыл бұрын

I'm a cancer survivor and my girlfriend at the time stayed with me throughout me dealing with it and refused to leave me at my weakest point. Even with all that she was going through at the time, she made it a point to be with me and support me even after I told her I understood if it was too much. I will say there are folks who are strong enough to handle situations like that and will stick with folks they love. Others aren't and will leave. It is what it is. I know for me, I couldn't leave anybody at their lowest point no matter what. If I love them, I'm staying.

@jenpenn22 Жыл бұрын

I got sick a few months after getting married with a lifelong illness, I sat down and offered him an out. Told him we didnt know I was going to drastically change immediately right after getting married, you expect sicknesses and health to be years later. After kids. He chose to stay, the first years were hard as we both learned to deal with the changes in my body and years of treatments. I am glad I gave him chance to walk away with no hard feelings, I know he appreciated it and it helped him decide he wanted to stay, because he never felt pressured or guilted by me.

@CrummyVCR Жыл бұрын

I wish the world had more people like you. I seriously mean that. The level of mature with the "offer" you gave is incredible.

@jenpenn22 Жыл бұрын

@Crummy VCR aww ty! It was hard but the right choice to make. Ended up giving him a beautiful daughter and 20yrs of adventures. Sometimes it's worth it to stay through the scary and hard parts

@j.jbinks9669 Жыл бұрын

I guess this is why there's a whole engagement phase before you sign that contract, a lot of people arent built for the "in sickness and in health" and "til death do you part".

@MichaelRodriguez-jn2ro Жыл бұрын

"In sickness or in health" "Till death do we part" If you want to get engaged, those lines should mean something.

@Kirbystare1992 Жыл бұрын

Yea facts I ain’t tryna hear all that “they technically weren’t married yet” she obviously planned to be lol. Adversity hit and she jumped shipped like aba people needa be honest with themselves. Most people should probably just have boyfriends and girlfriends that way the commitment isn’t too strong and they can jump ship when they no longer serve each other.

@kingkha9363 Жыл бұрын

8:08 do you think everyone who gets married really cares and respects their vows lol, what about all the cheaters and stuff? Maybe to you they mean something but not everyone has those things called respect and so on, does this stuff really have to be explained to people? your version of being married isn't everyone's version, some people just want the title, while others just want the spectacle. the stuff your saying soudns good but be realistic.

@Jaywesterlow Жыл бұрын

I'm a dutch 21yo (m) and this same month 5 years ago I was diagnosed with the exact same brain tumor. Reading all of the symptoms, surgery side effects and chemo- / radiotherapy side effects genuinly makes me nausious. The way he handled it is the exact way I, since it wasn't in my control I just did what I could as efficiently as I could. At the time I wasn't in a relationship but I could definitely see why you'd distance yourself from your SO, since the most painful part of the entire process for me was watching my loved ones hurting because of my condition

@vegbeg9170 8 ай бұрын

That sucks. I hope you're doing well man.

@Zombie_Trooper Жыл бұрын

We can call her a lot of things, but the reality is...Most of you will never know the weight of such a decision until you've been there. I've taken care of people my entire life. Literally wiped my sister's butt in her final months. Cared for my dementia ridden grandmother, refusing to put her in a home, and I saw my mother's decline until her death. All on my shoulders despite being the youngest child and putting a promising career on the back burner. And that's not counting my near decade of caregiving jobs and Hospice work. It takes A LOT out of caregivers and people become so unsympathetic to us when we admit that we're emotionally and physically drained because everyone romanticizes the notion of sticking by family and friends no matter what and forget that we're people too. She knew she wasn't up for it and tipped out the door...and frankly...I can't blame her. I sometimes wonder if I would've done it all again for my mom, sister, and the others. It's so damn easy to think you'd be the bigger person...but that doesn't mean you will be. I just can't demonize someone for that sort of decision.

@crankskinatra6038 Жыл бұрын

She will still be ugly

@DOCTORKHANblog Жыл бұрын

This is BS mindset.

@Shmyrk Жыл бұрын

I can sympathize with this and I appreciate you being up front. We all romanticize how strong we think we are, but pray it’s never tested

@mackdaddypeypey1 Жыл бұрын

Idk man. If you love the person you’re with, this really isn’t even in question and if you don’t love that person…..well then you’re wasting your own damn time 🤷🏾‍♂️

@okosuntom2808 Жыл бұрын

this is a very selfish mindset

@diogocosta3549 Жыл бұрын

My mother battled pancreatic cancer for years and eventually lost the fight before I turned 18. My father went above and beyond and never left her side till her very last day. They showed me what true love really is. Having that type of support makes a huge difference. I can't imagine how lonely the person must feel, how empty and defeated, when their partner leaves in such tough times. I don't judge if you leave, however I know for a fact I never will, and I could be wrong but I think that if you chose to leave your partner in that situation, then it just wasn't true love

@UltraGalacticSuperFantastic Жыл бұрын

Same thing with my parents. My dad was severely disabled, but they were also divorced because my dad cheated on her when he was healthy. She never kicked him out, she said how could she, he is sick. They had many fights and never really got back together, but in the end, in my dad's last five years of life, he showed her and us so much love that I think he realized the mistakes he made to my mom. Although they weren't romantic, they cooked for each other, massaged each other's feet, helped each other with things. I've never seen someone so committed to a person as my mom was to my dad. I think he knew that in the end.

@alexo9840 Жыл бұрын

I’ve had a lesion in my brain (not technically a tumor, but grows like one) since I was 15, and it’s progressively gotten worse and worse. I’m 28 now and I have facial paralysis, weakness in half my body, single sided deafness, double vision, nystagmus… to name a few Dating is pretty much out of the question. Even if I were to find someone who was ok with the level of disability I have, it’s very hard to deal with the fact that things will change in the future, and those changes will inevitably cause heartbreak for both of us. It’s also a very difficult subject to bring up. Its bad enough to bring up a past trauma, but a current one? Yikes. Unfortunately it feels a little catfishy if I don’t Even with non-romantic relationships I usually don’t talk about cause it’s a great way to annihilate the mood

@riotsquirrelz Жыл бұрын

When my boyfriend was diagnosed with glioblastoma in 2015, there was no question I was going to see him through it. He was 46, and I was 36. I knew I wanted every moment I could get with him, no matter what. We got married between the weekend of his biopsy and the craniotomy for the first debulking of the primary tumor site (right frontal lobe). The time between MRIs every 2 months was torture, hoping no new tumor popped up. He survived 19 months, after having 4 craniotomies in under a year. The inoperable tumor finally reared its ugly head, and we did home hospice. It was deeply traumatizing to watch him go, but I absolutely do not regret being there with him. I can't imagine making any other choice. To me, it was an honor to be his wife and hold his hand through his darkest days.

@ngonimandizha7738 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your story, it really touched me to see your love for him!! It took a lot of courage, and you should be proud of yourself the rest of your life.

@riotsquirrelz Жыл бұрын

@@ngonimandizha7738 Thank you so much 😭 Your comment means more to me than you could know! Sometimes I beat myself up thinking about the times I made mistakes caring for him. Your words bring me some peace. 💜

@randylahey8207 Жыл бұрын

Sometimes, being a good human is so very hard. Thank you for having the strength to see someone through their darkest time and reinforce to those who read this what it means to stand strong no matter what..

@vicegripp Жыл бұрын

People want weddings, not to be married. When you recite the vows "in sickness & in health, for richer or poorer, until death do us part" that isn't a formality; that is the entire point. A marriage is a commitment. Bless you for being there for your husband & RIP to him.

@riotsquirrelz Жыл бұрын

@@randylahey8207 Thank you 💛 It was the hardest thing I've ever done. I feel lucky that I was able to do it.

@daveblackman816 Жыл бұрын

“My fiancé was going thru the worst time in his life. But *I* was not happy. What about *me* ?? So I left him, and now I’m gonna run and gain clout in his name. Oh yeah, *ME*!”

@TCR2025 Жыл бұрын

It was the running the race in his name part that got to me. Cmon.

@LalienX Жыл бұрын

Everything was fine until the marathon. Like fuck off

@oag2167 Жыл бұрын

I hope her future boyfriend doesn't leave her during the most vulnerable time of her life because HE'S stressed out.

@swordofbored7018 Жыл бұрын

Aye. That's the part that pisses me off. You can't handle the stress and want out? Fine. You can't handle it but want to use it for your gain? Oh you piece of dogshit motherfucker. I wish nothing but more stress upon her.

@haselbasil2488 Жыл бұрын

To be fair, if she wants children she does not have a lot of time left.

@WolfHowl71 Жыл бұрын

Now that's love right there. Real love where loyalties are deep. Super deep. No one gives a s**t about the plight of the dude who's got to live his life every day the new way. This woman claimed she wanted to spend the rest of her life with this guy up until his life was going to change for the worst. HE dodged a bullet. Not her.

@shabba7829 Жыл бұрын

That’s not even the worst bit. Yeah she left him whilst he’s going through cancer but they weren’t married as far as I know. The worst part is her running a marathon in his “honour”. Like wtf is that going to do? That’s a slap in the face.

@BabalonNuit Жыл бұрын

LOTS of women who get sick are ROUTINELY dumped by their husbands. It happens so much that nurses WARN sick women that it will likely happen. that's how much respect men have for their wives and marriage vows. "In sickness and in health" apparently doesn't mean anything, yet listen to men nowadays screaming about "wanting loyalty" in a woman. But when it comes to THEM 'showing loyalty" they show it all righty: to THEMSELVES. It's no mystery to me why more and more women are choosing to stay SINGLE.

@j.t.1086 Жыл бұрын

@@shabba7829 I think the worst part is dumping him while he's still in hospital recovering. That can have a real physical impact on his recovery. Being in good spirits aids healing, being in bad spirits inhibits healing.

@CoryTheRaven Жыл бұрын

Not cancer, but I was dumped at the lowest point in my life by a woman I spent 3 years with, through all of her low points. It took me a long time to understand that yes, I was the one who ultimately dodged the bullet there.

@MusMasi Жыл бұрын

@@shabba7829 If I was him I would say go, and never come back please, 0 contact, don't even talk about me, go live your life whatever just let me get what peace I can going through this. If it sounds harsh, tough in that case *I* am the one going through a deadly sickness, at least respect that.

@ripple329 Жыл бұрын

I read this study this morning about how we connect with people who have suffered traumatic brain injuries and how they view themselves after an injury, and through all the interviews they found that even in egocentric societies like America peoples sense of identity is mostly affected by how others treat them (in comparison to how they feel about themselves deep down). They found that most people can live with the personal limitations after rehabilitation, especially if they have support, but their sense of self becomes fractured into them "before accident" and them "after accident" due to their spouses and kids leaving, losing jobs, their friends treating them differently, society labeling them damaged etc.

@timmyteehee9490 Жыл бұрын

@hasslfoot It's scary to think about the type of person you could become if you bump your head one day.

@LeesaLysa Жыл бұрын

I've realised I'm extremely lucky. My boyfriend stuck with me (and still is) whilst I was fighting breastcancer. I did give him the opportunity to leave, he refused. Allmost two years later, our relationship is stronger than ever 😃

@TheSigmaGooner Жыл бұрын

My grandmother was like that, she left my two grandfathers in their worst moments and then tried to get back to them, since the moment she made that first betrayal her life went downhill on disgrace, and died alone, miserable and hated by every single person around her. People can say whatever they want about their calm or "peace", but that kind of person is the one that ends up a geriatric abandoned by everyone because they just couldn't keep an effort for someone. If your man is dying slowly, why don't you give him company before leaving this world? Why don't you give him that happiness and then you can move on with your life when he's gone? Free will doesn't hide how much of a trash or good person you are, only gives you more chance to prove it to others. if you don't give effort, don't expect everyone else to do what you didn't do, life is a bi*** and will give the lesson in the last and most painful moment P. S: if you don't want to do effort, don't start doing it and regret later, leave and be sincere, you will still be an selfish asshol* but at least an honest one.

@KalyElizabeth Жыл бұрын

Couldn’t agree more! 👆

@icecell Жыл бұрын

@Kaelan K You can leave if you can't take it. That's perfectly understandable. Just don't go crawling back to them, like OP's gran did. Make new connections instead, and perhaps this time around, you won't need to make the same decision.

@zorlockts5744 Жыл бұрын

@Kaelan K my dad was there for my mother when she was battling cancer till her death , idk man I get that it’s your perspective but if my dad had left my mother to die alone without company I feel I would’ve instantly cut ties with him ..

@TheSigmaGooner Жыл бұрын

@Kaelan K yeah, I don't know about you but if I'm dying and my GF dumps me because of that she can be sure not be ever in my life again, instant ban

@VidWatcher01 Жыл бұрын

That part!!! That lady in the article only thought of herself & HER breaking point.

@bobby_c07 Жыл бұрын

My dad was in a really bad accident years ago that left him a quadriplegic. He still has his mind but his body is done. My mother has stayed with him, is his care giver and they are partners until the end. It's amazing. I can't even imagine finding someone with that much love and respect for me.

@phalanx8437 Жыл бұрын

That’s beautiful, the reason you can’t imagine it is because it’s 1 in 10 million, especially nowadays 😂

@nkc4530 Жыл бұрын

How long were they married prior to the accident

@bobby_c07 Жыл бұрын

@@nkc4530 I believe 26 years.

@DTreatz Жыл бұрын

good luck finding females like that today, even if they might just be sneaking behind your back.

@MyDearChannel Жыл бұрын

I had the exact same opinion as you, until I met my now boyfriend. I always told people that I had a breaking point (e.g: if my partner couldn't have kids), but after knowing this man, I tell you truthfully that despite any circumstances, I would be with him until the end. My love for him is bigger than any other occasional event that could happen and change my whole life upside down. I completely understand your point, but when you meet the right person it's different ❤

@povang Жыл бұрын

Wow...she victimized herself with his cancer. Dude is dying and she's like ME ME ME ME ME, "im the victim here, CANT YOU SEE?!". Never underestimate a womans ability to avoid accountability and responsiblity. Had a man done this, society would have shunned him and called him a dirtbag. Double standards of society is BS.

@jujutrini8412 Жыл бұрын

Nonsense.

@laylamare9743 Жыл бұрын

Lol but men do this all the time. Statistically men leave their sick wives at a much high rate. So no double standards, most women expect this from men. Men even leave after breast cancer even though the woman is cured they leave because she no longer has breast

@thewitch2810 Жыл бұрын

I don’t think this is a gendered issue, just general scumbag behavior

@rawrostar Жыл бұрын

You’ll be surprised to know that studies show that men are 6 times more likely to leave their partner when they’re sick. So your misogynistic narrative won’t work here. It has nothing to do with accountability or whatever, I’m not accountable, I didn’t make that person sick. Lots of weirdos in society who think that putting your needs first is a bad thing. Males do it all the time but when women do it it’s evil. It’s just stupid of course when you stop performing and you can no longer give what you were hired to give you get fired

@RusticRonnie Жыл бұрын

Most people are shitting on her also, this is just a narcissist, not a woman.

@samiam2088 Жыл бұрын

My soon to be ex-husband abandoned me during a health crisis. I fit the stereotype of a “woman initiating a divorce” but honestly, if I can’t count on a person “in sickness and in health” then it’s just not salvageable.

@Mac_Raymond Жыл бұрын

💯

@Ai82655 Жыл бұрын

Women initiating divorce intimate for a reason.

@emma2370 Жыл бұрын

@@Ai82655 eh not always. Women are not saints. There are plenty of terrible women like there are terrible men.

@natalieshannon7659 Жыл бұрын

All this is facts.

@CuarentaZ40 Жыл бұрын

This right here. I was once told I was being Hella selfish because I wouldn’t marry someone who wouldn’t go through hell with me . But I can’t imagine any other situation where it’s more valid to be selfish then picking the person I’m gonna wake up and go to sleep next to for the rest of my life.

@pacosith Жыл бұрын

Another "men are not loved unconditionally, and only loved if they can provide. Thrown away like trash." I have cancer. My feelings are that I get Preach. I would push people away from me. On the other hand, after I lost my 1st wife to diabetes. I didn't know how hard being alone would hit, but I lost my parents the next year, and had no family. I died on the inside, while waiting to die from my own cancer. I never expected that anyone would ever have anything to do with me. I was told I had 1 to 3 years to live. Here I am, 6 years later, 😂and I got married to my caregiver. I would be crushed if she left, but she's still here! ❤ I totally get it. I still want her to be happy and not bummed from me. 😢

@D_McGeezacks Жыл бұрын

That's so sweet! Happy to read that you found someone who truly cares for you in every sense of the word. Best wishes to you both ❤

@BabalonNuit Жыл бұрын

Men throw their sick wives away like trash in HUGE numbers. But we don't hear THOSE stories, now, do we? Apparently "in sickness and in health" only applies to WOMEN; men feel free to look out for #1.

@_TDS_ Жыл бұрын

@@BabalonNuit Exactly. Pulling the "men are not loved unconditionnally" card when statistics have shown that men are more likely than women to leave their spouse when they suffer illnesses....disgusting.

@notoriousj_ Жыл бұрын

@@_TDS_ and women are more likely to file for divorce

@nevswain478 Жыл бұрын

@@BabalonNuit I call bs. if this were true, feminists wouldn't shut up about it.

@slackerboy3003 Жыл бұрын

slightly different perspective, my friend at the time was diagnosed with blood cancer. Thank God she survived & recovered well however as her friend I wanted to almost "suffer" with her, be by her side, check in regularly etc. She pushed me away at the time and rarely let me in to her life. I was confused because surely you don't want to feel alone at a time like that right? wrong. Everyone copes differently and that's what I had to learn. After she recovered, she apologised for pushing me away knowing how hard it could've been to be there for a friend that simply won't let you.

@TCR2025 Жыл бұрын

Was she wrong…yes, for using his name to gain sympathy points but still left him.

@db1777 Жыл бұрын

Why does the media even give her attention in the first place. Is she stunning and brave?

@WarGhoulKharas Жыл бұрын

Ragebait clicks. They know people will read the article to see what a horrible person she is.

@fsh_outta_wtr Жыл бұрын

@WarGhoulKharas lol so are aba and preach horrible ppl too

@swordofbored7018 Жыл бұрын

@@fsh_outta_wtr Probably. As the quote goes "I've been cruel; it's a cruel world."

@BabalonNuit Жыл бұрын

Probably because it's more uncommon for the women to leave a sick man than it is for a man to stick around to support his sick wife. It's so common for a man to dump his sick wife that nurses routinely WARN women of the possibility. It's no mystery to me why so many women are choosing singlehood these days!

@Pengboycarti Жыл бұрын

@@BabalonNuit Who fooled you with this narrative?

@crafttimepainting Жыл бұрын

If you love someone then you should be there for them especially during the worst time in their life. I feel this story because something similar happened to me. I had colon cancer in my first year of marriage. Without my husband by my side i don't think i could have stayed strong enough to go through everything. Unfortunately soon after I got better I found out that he had been cheating on me the whole time I was sick. I don't think he was expecting me to get better so he was planning his new life with his new wife the whole time I was sick. He was a very good liar because I had no idea for years. Once i got better we bought our first home together soon after we moved in he started becoming very abusive. He was always a kind and loving person before so it was very out of character for him. He said that me being sick for so long negativity effected him and that I couldn't understand what he was going through. I tried getting him into therapy but he refused. It was my fault for getting cancer that it made him go crazy. That was his excuse for push me into walls and "accidentally" smashing my hand in the car window. The night I found out about the cheating and told him i knew, he pushed me down the stairs. After that I asked him to leave because i was afraid of him. He left and never came back. I was pregnant at the time with our first child and i had a miscarriage from the stress of it all. Soon after he left I found out he hadn't been paying our mortgage since the day we moved into our house, he never made a single payment on it! He had been pocketing my half of the money every month to save up to move to Florida to be with the other woman. A few weeks after he left the police came to my door telling me to vacate our house because it was in foreclosure. I lost everything because of him. Looking back I wish he would have just divorced me right after I got through the cancer stuff instead of putting me through hell on earth wishing I had died of cancer. I think he was upset that me living had ruined his plans. I decided to file for divorce after almost two years of having no contact with him and finding out he had married the other women even though he was still married to me. The jerk had the audacity to try to come after me for alimony! This guy in the clip might have gotten off easy if his fiance was so unhappy that she was becoming mentally unstable helping him dealing with his health issues. It's not real love if you decide to runaway or cheat if your partner isn't able to make you happy anymore because they are sick. Relationships are not one sided, they are a partnership. If you can't handle staying together through challenges in a relationship then don't get married. All i can say is that things happen for a reason. I pray that this guy is doing much better and that he finds a woman who really loves him, no matter what challenges he has to face.

@damonestephens8722 Жыл бұрын

What’s funny is I’ve seen the article on Facebook and most of the comments were women supporting here and saying it’s hard to deal with that. Had that been a man do you know how much hate he would get lol

@Moonlite57 Жыл бұрын

Had that been a man the men would be agreeing with the man let’s be real. Stop the victim “men have it so hard” bs

@torachan23 Жыл бұрын

Women will always support women, regardless of their actions, as long as it’s for a woman’s benefit against a man’s

@justaw2982 Жыл бұрын

@@Moonlite57 Men are more likely to hold their peers accountable. That's why we roast our fat friends, that's why we call out simp behavior, that's why we are direct in friend groups. In this case, a bunch of married men would be telling him why propose if you're going to leave even in sickness. Both genders have it hard in their own ways. Stop downplaying mens experiences.

@dembi2770 Жыл бұрын

@@Moonlite57 You know thats BS. The guy would have been fucked over by other men.

@damonestephens8722 Жыл бұрын

@@Moonlite57 not true. Most men hold each other accountable. And just by saying men who have it hard bs just tells me what kind of person you are. Men have problems too. Get the hell out my comment section with your bs

@runawayrick2461 Жыл бұрын

This is what happens when you say you "love" someone to easily. If you can be selfish and bounce because of how you feel over how they're suffering, thats not love. She never loved him.

@DTreatz Жыл бұрын

just something women do, biology

@30stmcalli Жыл бұрын

@@DTreatz Do some research before you try to justify your misogyny. Studies have proven that men tend to leave their sick partners more than women do.

@susiex6669 Жыл бұрын

@@DTreatz Get help.

@Ai82655 Жыл бұрын

@@DTreatz Statistically men are more likely to do this than women. Guess that’s just male nature, what’s your excuse now? Now if women looked at that info and started living accordingly you’d call them misandrist.

@yunggalactus9945 Жыл бұрын

I have three brothers. My youngest brother passed of brain cancer when he was a child, my oldest has a psychotic disorder (outbursts of aggressions, delusions, hallucinations, etc.), and my other brother is disabled to the point where he cannot speak, feed or dress himself, etc. I also struggle with a mental illness, but it is not as extreme as that of my siblings. It has been over 30 years since my parents started having kids. They have, miraculously, stayed together the whole time and have shown all of their children continuous, unconditional love. There is another side to this. Some people do stay together despite the odds. That's not a knock on anyone who met hardship and wasn't able to make it. It's just a reminder that it is possible, despite hard circumstances. Whatever your path in life, I hope you find people whom you can serve and call family.

@Mannsy83 Жыл бұрын

I'm sorry to hear that...I have a lot of issues too...stay strong..you are doing the most important and morally righteous thing..you will be rewarded

@BU_IDo Жыл бұрын

A person's breaking point rests on how well they understand themselves. She claimed this guy was the love of her life but she was just being delusional and didn't know it. What she loves more is the type of life she wanted for herself. Her decision to leave him is a moment of brutal honesty. She clearly doesn't have the capacity to cope with certain hardships. At least she has now gained perspective about herself. Lets hope she carries this into the next relationship and share what she truly values most.

@MusMasi Жыл бұрын

"I was so close to having everything I wanted and then, all of a sudden, it had been *snatched away*." That sentence tells you all you need to know about her in this situation.

@omzy8700 Жыл бұрын

I doubt she would tell the next guy that she would leave if he get sick , she won’t say anything until something happens to him and then she would leave him .

@Brby1 Жыл бұрын

I am one of the people that would say I would sacrifice anything for my significant other. Part of the reason may be loyalty, religion and commitment, but a huge part is my dad. My dad took care of my mom for 12 years while she was suffering from a failed spine surgery, and was bedridden. Her attitude changed over the years, from a kind and nurturing mother to an angry person with a short fuse, and it was understandable considering the circumstances she was in. My dad would never say anything negative about her and would always do everything in his power to make her life a little bit easier.

@jayr.7209 Жыл бұрын

Sounds like my dad when my mom was dying from brain cancer in her 40s. She couldn't bathe or even feed herself, my dad would carry her to the bathtub, bath her, get her dressed, spoon feed her and then he would go to work. Everyday for a year til she died. My mother was lucky to have him. These men are saints.

@crappyaccount Жыл бұрын

i respect him for taking care of her. that being said, if someone you love gets sick and becomes abusive or something, that's a justifiable reason to leave.

@realsouthernmamayall8711 Жыл бұрын

First time I’ve disagreed with my boys. I completely understand where you both are coming from though. My issue is making a post/blog about this. This should’ve been an extremely private situation.

@arnocrabbe1924 Жыл бұрын

‘Do you promise to support each other through the good times and the bad times?’ “Yes!” *partner gets cancer* “Well I didn’t expect the bad times to come so soon, so goodbye”

@jujubeanzzz5413 Жыл бұрын

She wan't married to him.

@Phantazmay Жыл бұрын

@@jujubeanzzz5413 she was engaged so it's basically the same. You're just waiting at that point.

@jujubeanzzz5413 Жыл бұрын

@@Phantazmay No, its not. Ppl break off engagements for smaller things.

@arnocrabbe1924 Жыл бұрын

@@jujubeanzzz5413🤓

@emilymynarski6122 Жыл бұрын

Being chronically ill and in pain for almost a decade, I would rather someone walk then be there and despise me for no longer being who I was before being sick. There are things that I can never give to partner because I am sick. So I get it, it's painful when you are left but it is better than that person sticking around and hating you while you are at your most vulnerable time. In the support groups I am in, these situations are very common and we support each other through them.

@ferzinhaN Жыл бұрын

Unless they're not hating you in your vulnerable moment?

@psibug565 Жыл бұрын

@@ferzinhaN Is there a point in that statement? If you love someone let them be free. If you are a controlling A-hole force them to be with you no matter what. OP is right, in a situation where you are going to suffer a long term illness and need a carer make sure anyone else that is going to be with you is there because they want to be.

@emilymynarski6122 Жыл бұрын

@ferzinhaN of course, I'm referring to people who have significant others who aren't willing to be patient with their partner. Not saying everyone will do that but there are always going to be people who will grow frustrated with the sick person. As a sick person, I don't want that kind of stress. Added stress contributes to prolonging recovery or even making the symptoms worse.

@emilymynarski6122 Жыл бұрын

@psibug565 A lot of people who haven't experienced being sick like that don't understand what people go through when their significant other gets sick. The sick person may not be able to work, have kids, have sex, and they may get very depressed. It's more than being sick. That kind of illness changes you, and you stop being who you were before. It's more than bringing the person their meds or soup to help them get better. I would never let my significant other feel trapped. If they are there, then they should want to be there, not because they feel they are forced to.

@erikwalsh1545 Жыл бұрын

I believe in the oath I swore to my wife. Maybe I'm old fashioned but we've been through more worse than we have better and leaving her never occurred to me, but maybe I just haven't reached that point yet.

@traceycurtis1005 Жыл бұрын

Agreed I made a vow to my husband. I will honor it.

@rhondaparr5739 Жыл бұрын

Vows mean something until you break them.

@thatdellgirl14 Жыл бұрын

Yeah. I think it's mostly because people don't really belive in their vows anymore. They do stuff like this but not remembering the age for sickness is lower than it use to be. So even though she did this, one day she will have to be the sick person and she would have to hope whoever she chooses is a good person.

@cashkitty3472 Жыл бұрын

They aren't married though

@Onelovebeautie Жыл бұрын

That’s all good and gravy but they weren’t married so that doesn’t apply to this situation. It may sound harsh but if she wants children she would be forfeiting that decision plus spending the next few years taking care of someone who may/may not live another 5 years. If they were married I could see your point but that task is to much for a girlfriend/boyfriend

@reaper117nobody7 Жыл бұрын

the point she lost me was "we are still friends". imagine how much it destroyed that man inside to have her walk away when he finally got out of surgery and thought he and things would be ok. i would never talk to or even want to see that person ever again. even if you thought it was better for her in the long run.

@melissabee5845 Жыл бұрын

I used to work in healthcare (thankfully not anymore) and you would be surprised how often people are abandoned after falling critically ill. I’m not saying whether that’s the case here. But it’s more common than you’d think. Some people can just not mentally handle seeing their loved ones like that. It’s a really terrible thing to do to someone. I think there’s just people who are extremely uncomfortable with the fact that we are all going to die some day.

@dabble7021 Жыл бұрын

My dad recently had a heart transplant. It was probably the hardest time we had as a family. My mom stayed by his side the entire time. We also got a chance to get to know other couples there. Some thrived, others crumbled. Sometimes the possibility of death or even the possibility of a strenuous recovery is enough to tear apart a relationship. I guess the one thing I can applaud her for is knowing herself well enough to realize she couldn’t handle it. Now the greatest grace she can give him is to stay away.

@claff4573 Жыл бұрын

Well i hope if that happened to her, he would have stayed. But statistically that's not the case

@AtheneHolder Жыл бұрын

million percent agree with this sentiment. I respect that she knew she wasn't cut out for it. But I hope if things turn around for him she does him the honour and shows enough care and respect to stay out of his life romantically

@sirninjaraiden Жыл бұрын

@@claff4573 Dont do that. Don't put your hopes on other people.

@moniquevandeplas5210 Жыл бұрын

I am confused because at the beginning of this comment you say she stayed by your dad's side the entire time but by the end you say the biggest grace she can give him is to stay away.

@dabble7021 Жыл бұрын

@@moniquevandeplas5210 The first half is referenced to my mom. The second half is about the couple in the video.

@sweetrolldealer Жыл бұрын

nah if my wife leaves me, in sickness n all that other shit it shows me she wasn't committed in the first place. If the woman I truly love is dying, I'm not leaving her side out of selfishness. Live your life virtuously, not sinfully. But I don't know I'm not at that point yet. But one thing I do know is that I take commitment seriously.