Manipulated | A Short Film on Gaslighting

[@PBerning]

Written accounts can also help. When things happen, log it as soon as you can. It really helps to see the patterns.

[@barbarabyers2721]

Lived it for years. I'm 69 and watching this shows me there's deep scar tissue.

[@elcapo8860]

It's sad that's is so short. These films really are educational and should therefore be longer. It's a topic that hasn't been talked about ENOUGH!

[@abbz23]

Ikr I want to know more about them

[@daniel-xt3tp]

@@abbz23do you know about triangulation?

[@daniel-xt3tp]

@ilovepeace-uq2hu I’ll explain narcissism to you.

[@daniel-xt3tp]

@ilovepeace-uq2hu A narcissist, is someone who needs constant attention, compliments(praise). They create something that is called (false self image) When they act like they’re better, they boast, they’re arrogant, that’s just a facade. Deep down, narcissists are traumatized children who feel worthless. Now, not everyone who has these traits are narcissists. Narcissists use manipulation to fuel their ego. This is called narcisssistic supply. Supply, is the admiration, praise attention they need. Kind of like air. We need air like they need praise. Now, here are some manipulation tactics they use. 1.) love bombing: this is were they shower you with gifts, praises, make you feel like a princess or prince. To gain your trust. 2.) gaslighting. This is where they try to make you question your reality, if something really happened or not, if they said something or not etc. here’s an example where a husband could be gaslighting. (Husband: hey, can you please get me a drink? Wife: sure then she proceeds to get him water.(notice how he didn’t specify what drink. Husband: water? 𝖎 asked for a beer don’t you remember? Wife: you didn’t specify! Husband yes 𝖎 did, 𝖎 specifically told you beer. Is your memory that bad or something? Your crazy! See, the husband is trying to convince the wife into doubter her memory. 3.) Triangulation. This is where the narcisist creates a triangle, of three people. The narcissist,person A, then person B, (now, remember, there’s many types of triangulation) The narc will put person A and person B on a pedestal. )this first triangulation trick is called idealize devalue switch) then, they will compare them. Which gives him more supply? Person A, or person B? If person A apparently gives more supply then person b, person A(the person who gave more supply is praised and treated well, while person b (the less supply giver) is devalued. Later on, if person b starts giving more supply then person A, person B will be praised and person A will be devalued. Type 2 triangulation. They will subtly bring a 3rd person to agree with them in an argument that was originally between you and the narc. Before you know it, you’re trying to prove yourself and argue against 2 people. Type 3:the scapegoat gold on child system) The scapegoat goat is someone who sees through the narc and knows what they are or that something is wrong. So, they chose that person. The scapegoat is someone who gets all the blame, criticism, and problems and issues put onto them and make them responsible. (Example the narc could get into a car accident and blame the scapegoat it was their fault) the gold on child is an extension of themselves. They’re the people who gives the narc everything they want. Like a yes man. Then, the scapegoat will be turned against everyone. Including the gold on child. So, in summery, triangulation is a way to keep people in conflict with each other to manipulate them. 4 smear campaigns: when the narc is insulted, called out for what they are, or their self image of being the greatest person ever is damaged, they will talk lies and spread rumors benign their backs to make people turn against them. Example, if is as a narc, and you called me out for lying, behind your back I’ll spread lies and false terrible rumors about you to your friends, family etc. that way, everyone will cast you in a nwgative light. And view the narc better then you, and will believe the narc so they can manipulate further. 5: projection. Imagine your a screen. And the narc is the projection. The narcs will claim you did behaviors they actually did, and put themselves onto other people. And other people onto them 6:play the victim. The narc thinks they’re the person who is abused, they see themselves as innocent, people who are being abused. They will act like you abused them or your wronged them and basically act like they were the victim. Narcissistic abuse has a cycle, of 4 stages. 1.) idealize (love bomb) 2.) devalue and manipulate) 3.) discard 4.) Hoover. The narc will constantly switch between stage 1 and 2. When they feel like you don’t give them want they want or your no longer useful to them, they ‘discard’(cut you out of their life, leave you, etc) Then is hovering. It’s 50% chance fi this happening. It’s when they try to reel you back into the cycle if they realize they need you again. Imagine your a fish swimming away from them. They will bait and hook you and catch you and pull you back towards them. 𝖎 hope this list helped you! And ALWAYS REMEMEBR! NO MATTER WHAT PEOPEL SAY, DISABLILTY IS NOT AN INABILITY. MANY GENIUSES WERE AUTISTIC, LIEK EINSTEIN, YOU ARE SMART DONT LET ANYONE MAKE YOU THINK OTHERWISE!

[@daniel-xt3tp]

@ilovepeace-uq2hu Golden*

[@ThePecanTan]

Sadly this abuse has been the norm for so many couples.

[@jenf6489]

And many years

[@dianabecker9568]

Exactly what my fiance does.Tell me something and then its my fault, i forget it and so on.Thwre's something qrong with my brain.Sad thing is,i have noone to talk to,because my parents are dead and i dont have any friends.i cant leave him alone because of his anxisty and panic disease.or maybe its just another way of control?omg i was so blind

[@ancientsage1969]

I would have been like no, I'm recording me cause I keep forgetting so much stuff and I keep getting so mixed up sometimes I'm trying to see what's wrong with me.

[@maggyf3932]

Classic gaslighting, ending every abusive incident with "I was just kidding", "I love you", and "you know that, right?" (that he's nice, or that she loves him too, and e.t. he does is out of love...)

[@Corymeg9]

Warning ⚠ please READ as someone expreiencing this. Do not ger cautht recording them

[@jenf6489]

In memos on i[hone, don’t have your decides connected, nerve use Bluetooth/ don’t share modem, just use satellite,. Please tell someone, if only one person,

[@LeahIsHereNow]

This is exactly what true gaslighting is. They will tell you they didn’t say it, and then somehow make you feel guilty or ashamed, even though your memory is crystal clear. The people around me do it about silly stuff all the time. My father told me my uncle owed back taxes when he died, then he said he didn’t say that. He did… he accidentally sent me a text message meant for my stepmother gleefully, exclaiming that they were getting my deceased uncle’s tax refund. My ex-husband said that he didn’t tell me that Jennifer Aniston was always hotter than Angelina Jolie, but he definitely said that. (see, I told you it was about silly petty stuff, but I think they do that to see how much more they can get away with). He also used to look at stuff on the computer and then swear to God that the computer must be malfunctioning. His gaslighting started at the very beginning. My ex-boyfriend tried to tell me that he locked me in a room for several hours and beat me senseless bc he was trying to keep me from killing myself, that is completely fabricated. You have to be a very strong person to handle this kind of nonstop psyop BS from the people who are supposed to love you, but I think a lot of people in my life feel very guilty about some of the things they’ve done so the only way out for them is to make me believe that I’m either crazy, forgetful or otherwise misremembering. I’m not. I’m 100% about that. If they want to live in their crazy little pretend world in which they never did anything horrible to me and everything was always my fault and they didn’t say what they said and blah, blah blah blah blah blah, that’s fine. I’m not gonna argue with crazy people. I’m peachy keen over here. 😂 That reminds me, we used to live on Peachtree Street. It’s just a matter of time before they tell me it was actually Pineapple Street. 😂😂😂

[@empress9857]

Yep that’s them the main ones saying otrs need meds when mine was on it ya I’m adhd but it’s not as bad as what they got damn going on not tryna be messy Ijs they love mentally diagnosing Otr people

[@Aurora-qn2dx]

My husbands entire family does this.

[@emiliaescobar7652]

Omg, saying sorry. When she shouldnt have!!!!

[@DanZhukovin]

Pretty incomplete