Extreme Bedroom Declutter || ADHD + Homemaking || Confessions of an Emotional Hoarder Part 2

Hello friends! Welcome to part two of this decluttering series. Today we are tackling "my" half of the bedroom, aka the dresser, the shelves, and the side table. I also discuss how ADHD -- and learning more about it -- has helped me shed the shame surrounding homemaking, and how it's improving my ability to keep up with my house. I think many of the things I employ are helpful whether you have ADHD or not; they are also useful simply for long-time collectors, people struggling with energy issues, depression, anxiety, etc. Wherever you are in your home-simplifying journey, I hope this video is encouraging!
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Kristina
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[@WithLoveKristina]

A gentle reminder - I am not making my channel about ADHD however it is part of my life and will show up here and there. If that isn’t to your taste, I don’t need to know. I’m a person sharing selected aspects of my life online, and this happens to be one of them, but it is NOT up for debate or criticism. ❤ neither is what I keep, what I get rid of, how I get rid of things… or how many kids I have. Ok bye love you alllll! 😘😘😘

[@brendabaum6442]

Well said Kristina!

[@AM-bm2xw]

"or how many kids I have", haha, love it!

[@nnylasoR]

AMEN!! ✊♥️ PS- I’m also an ADHD’er (among other things) and I’m here for all the relatable bits that you’ve got to flick at us. 😘👍

[@rachelcluney1014]

I don't have to deal with ADHD but I deal with a lot of similar executive dysfunction issues. Thank you for being so open and sharing with the world. I have been loving your posts. Thank you for sharing your life with us all. I really do feel less alone watching this video.

[@pinkyhotmessx69]

F people lol. At 54 and a lifetime of people pleasing I have had to learn that. It's ok to take care of ourselves. Besides ain't no one else paying your bills lol

[@missnikkiparker3112]

This hit me so very hard, I am an emotional hoarder too. I lost my mum a few years ago, she was one as well and the emotional pain i feel over "things" only got so much more deep. This video truly hit a cord for me. I am waiting to be officially diagnosed currently, and I just know once those appointments are finished it'll be a weight like I am not a failure for not working "normally" . don't know where I was going with this but i just wanted to say thank you so much for sharing and being so very candid. I am a 31 year old women who feels so alone about this shame and guilt of my messes so thank you for making that pain a little softer this morning.

[@WithLoveKristina]

You are not alone my friend. I didn’t discover I had ADHD until I was 32, and wow. Learning something like that is such a huge adjustment and a relief! And no matter what, even without an official diagnosis, you are NOT a failure ❤️❤️❤️ I am so sorry for the loss of your mum, I’ve experienced a lot of sadness/hard-to-let-go feelings around things that were my grandma’s. Things that broke or got lost or just ended up being clutter. It’s so hard to let go of mementos with such emotional weight! If you ever want to read a book or watch TikToks geared toward neurodivergent brains on tidying up, look up KC Davis! I love her.

[@missnikkiparker3112]

@@WithLoveKristina Thank you so much for taking the time to reply, and so very kindly. Truly, it's something that I have been pretending isn't happening and you being so open and kind about it has given me enough to be able to next session with my therapist be a little more honest about the emotional hoarding I am doing. I will pop on over to tiktok and check her out! Any help is always so welcomed in my brain so thats very helpful! Once again, thank you for making such great videos.

[@WithLoveKristina]

Just remember, mess doesn’t make you a failure or a bad person or a “wrong” person. It doesn’t make you lazy, or incompetent, or incapable, or any of the terrible things we tell ourselves about the messes we are ashamed of. ❤️ finding ways to work with my brain instead of against it has been SO helpful, and I hope someday you find yourself in a place of joy around the things you own, whatever you keep with you! Therapy is also an excellent thing to have ❤️❤️❤️ I’m proud of you for going.

[@danireilly5697]

I am sorry for the loss of your mum. I lost mine as a child and my auntie a mum figure dec 21. I recommend "A Hoarders Heart" on youtube. Without her i wouldnt have been able to get through sorting my aunts place who hoardered a lot. Plus the tendencies I have myself to keep a lot, to make use from or have sentimental attachment to things. She has ADHD and works through her hoarding and the reasonings to clear her home. Her first videos are the best to start with to begin the process of working through sentimental attachment, decision fatique and letting go

[@reneecarrier2685]

I’m so grateful for your honesty and openness. I have lived my 58 years undiagnosed. My husband doesn’t understand how I feel “elated” when purchasing something new, and my mother referred to my as “Careless Cora” because I was “messy”, only because I felt overwhelmed. Thank you again!

[@pinkyhotmessx69]

Why do we feel we need people who are practicing, aka Drs to make us feel vindicated with a diagnosis to treat ourselves? We have the ability to improve and heal ourselves especially in this day of information.. we need to be our own advocates and healers of our health because fact is Drs reality don't care at the end of the day. We need to start loving ourselves more❤

[@gemsxgabby2534]

As a woman with a mental disorder that severely impacts all aspects of my life I am sorry that people are being rude to you and don't understand! Thank you for sharing and being vulnerable. For me, focusing on my style is a healthy coping mechanism and a way to relieve stress.

[@chesnilayne3776]

Hobbit meets Outlander?! Sign me up for this journey please! Also, thank you so much for sharing this process. I get so overwhelmed, and yes- I have ADHD but I don't take medication for it. I just want a everyday holistic or organizing method that would be beneficial to me. But a lot of times, I feel like "Omg my house is so chaotic, I bet no one else's house looks like this" so thank you so much for showing your struggle which is very similar to mine. You are a Queen! 💚💚💚

[@WithLoveKristina]

I also do not medicate for it because I’d like to explore ways to manage it before I go through the process of meds IF I end up needing them. I’m all for medicating if that’s what you need or want, but for me… we’re just exploring options. So I’m with you there! You are not alone ❤️❤️❤️

[@stewarer]

Thank you so much for speaking so candidly about how ADHD has affected your ability to start/finish projects and also the compulsion to collect and hold onto pieces. My last partner (now dead) I believe had ADHD and you opened up my eyes to why he lived the way he did. He was a collector of clothes, watches, of interesting objects and art, many of which he didn't display, or were broken and he thought he would fix later and did not. I didn't have a problem with this low-level chaos in the way he lived in his house, and once I moved in I was able to marshal him in the way you describe: Today I'm just going to clean up the packaging on the floor, take out the garbage, wash the dishes, clear a little space on the table so we can have a candlelight dinner in the middle of this amazing collection. Then we tackled the art studio and cleared a space for parties to gather, and even resurfaced the floors. It was one project at a time and it brought him and me a lot of joy before his untimely and sudden death. You have an amazing amount of courage to take on these tasks on your own and to address the shame aspect of showing this to the world. Thank you again for sharing your experience. It helped me. Five stars and a strawberry!

[@soniawithani7586]

How brave of you to share your struggle. You sharing your vulnerability is helping so many others! You are not only being a great example for your viewers but also for your children. One of the miracles of life is that we are constantly learning about ourselves. I wish you the best of luck on your journey. For the one judgmental person out there, there are hundreds of others learning from you.

[@elizabethapplebaum9245]

I'm the organizing queen! I'm constantly decluttering and I've helped others to do the same. Just wanted to let you know you're doing a great, great job. Keep up the good work!

[@WithLoveKristina]

Organizing, I LOVE. Decluttering… well, we’re working on it 😂 thank you Elizabeth!

[@slc1161]

I wish you were nearby. I’m overwhelmed and don’t know where to start. I deal with chronic illness and have a very limited energy level. I have work uniforms and clothes I need to purge but have no energy.

[@elizabethapplebaum9245]

@@slc1161 I'm so sorry! I'm in Detroit; are you anywhere nearby?

[@jannh247]

​@@slc1161 look up Dana K White on KZbin. Her videos have been SO helpful for me, and I have watched a lot of decluttering videos instead of decluttering! 😬

[@pizzacoffeesatan]

I've been working my way through this same process since last year and it's changed my life. Having organized spaces helps so much with my anxiety. Every time I open an uncluttered and organized drawer I just feel so much relief.

[@hellosambryant]

“Hobbit meets Outlander but red” LOVE

[@carriemcginnis]

So, yes, these videos help me. I'm the child of 2 people who lived through the great depression. I'm not properly a hoarder, but I do tend to hang onto things for too long (I can keep that, it's just for working on the house, now), and I think I now know how to attack my dresser of doom. Thank you!

[@janmoline]

Oh my you are so brave and I am so grateful!!! I'm 63, have ADHD, have struggled with depression, been in that place of 4 children, no car, ashamed and ashamed-- and I thank you so so much!!!

[@emmablondeontherocks]

I just wanted you to know that I very much saw myself in this episode. I hold on to far too much because of emotional reasons. The clutter in my space has become so overwhelming that I'm humiliated to have people in my home. I feel like I'm also teaching my 7 yr old daughter that it's okay to live in chaos. I've started clearing out the clutter, throwing things away and releasing myself from the burden of the mess. I never want to live this way again. I want people to be able to stop by and not feel mortified by how my daughter's room looks, or that pile of clothes in my bedroom or whatever clutter there may be. You are certainly not alone in the struggle. I'm getting rid of the internal and external clutter that keeps me from living a full life. Thank you for bravely sharing the mess and your process to shift that in your life. Love your content and your beautiful self! xo Emma

[@WithLoveKristina]

I feel this comment deeply in my soul. This is how I feel. I wish I could reach through the screen and give you a hug, I'm so glad you're here!

[@kandacek63]

I think of it as farm wife style vs suburban wife style. When you’re dressed in your cleaning dresses, it brings fond memories of my grandmothers, who were both small town Iowa farm wives but in different parts of the state. I remember emulating my mom and grandma with my little aprons. I’m a child of the ‘60s and ‘70s. My grandparents grew up in the 20s and 30s.

[@sabrinabeberman180]

Even though these series are a year old, I understand what you are going through. Two years ago, I went through a wardrobe change as well. I went from wearing jeans, leggings, pants with only owning 4 dresses, then I decided to change my wardrobe completely. I went through everything I had, I purged all of my pants, jeans, kept a few pairs of leggings for working out only or for wearing them under a few short dresses that I have. I googled up what colors I need to wear with my winter tone palette, then I started to do some research on what fashion style spoke to me the most. I found out through my research, that I am a Romantic/Ingenue, and I have always loved anything with roses, florals or polka dots. Now I only wear dresses or skirts, I prefer either below the knee or midi or longer style of a dress or a skirt. I find that they are more comfortable than a pair of jeans, and I feel beautiful when I wear these pieces. I think we all go through this some time in our lives, our fashion styles change over the years, especially as we age, or go through pregnancies, or our bodies over time change. Something in our twenties might look great back then but when we hit our 30's, 40's, 50's, and so on, our styles will keep changing and evolving. Enjoy your journey that you are on. You are beautiful no matter what style you choose to wear. I love your channel, as well as Inspired by Nikki, and Lizzie in Lace. All three of you, have inspired me in my own journey, from how I decorate my home, how to become motivated to keep a beautiful clean home, to my style of makeup, and what dresses and styles to look for to fit my apple-shape plus size frame.

[@hexebroomie]

I cannot tell you how much this (you sharing) means to me.... I'm slowly realizing I am not a bad person nor am I alone in having difficulties keeping my house because of mental challenges! Thank you ❤️

[@francesmalzahn9994]

First of all, I am so sorry that someone felt the need to say hurtful things to you. I have always admired your sincerity and your openness and willingness to be genuine. I am so proud of you for your content and I am CERTAIN you are helping many! P.S. Although my struggles aren't the same as yours, right now, your videos always make my day brighter 🌞💖

[@WithLoveKristina]

The helpful thing is, I don’t usually see critical comments till much later and by then I can just ignore them (or occasionally block if a person is being outright terrible!) Thank you for the sweet comment!

[@squiggly7]

Thank you for being authentic; there's no shame that you should feel. Being vulnerable and tackling what areas you choose for improvement is a strength, not a weakness.

[@martelvonc]

I came by your channel to see the decluttering, but I stayed because you are genuine and I enjoy your outlook on your life and how you are you.

[@christiana_mandalynn]

You are such a blessing, Kristina. I am getting all emotional because I FELT everything when you sat down and talked about your ADHD, and the unkind comments you have received in the past. I just want to give you the biggest hug, and I wish I could come make you some meals/ watch your kiddos for you while you concentrate on this huge undertaking. There’s a video by Dawn the Minimal Mom on KZbin that I’m afraid to watch about how clutter can make you sick 🙈 It has a huge detrimental affect on ADHD, I know. But it’s so hard to let things go. Seeing you do this is AMAZING and INSPIRING and I know you will keep moving on in the direction of your dreams. I am seriously so amazed you are getting this much done so close to your baby’s arrival! You are a champion!

[@GiGiRenea]

Shame on the shamers!!! Everyone has their own issues. Go within and judge yourself. This brave beautiful woman is blessing me by showing her vulnerabilities. Ty friend for helping me! I can't wait to get started ❤

[@isabellerininger6249]

Well said! Anyone who thinks we are born as “finished works” is mistaken-we all grow and learn about ourselves and how to navigate our unique ships (minds) through a lifetime. Everyone is different with different struggles and successes… no one should be shamed for finding their way, for it takes a lifetime.❤ Lovely video as always-I’m new and catching up.❤

[@shaylahlah8610]

Girl you’re good. I didn’t realize the mental things going on in my brain til I was almost 40 and sober. The people talking ish will wake up one day “not so perfect with a cluttered house” and without kids. And will probably come back to your videos to get some tips on how to deal and listen to your kind words. You’re doing this for you. That’s #1, you even sharing ANY part of YOUR life, YOUR home, YOUR personal stuff is a gift. The audacity of some girls, GIIRRRLLLSSS just blows my mind. Why do we try to bring each other down still? I know I NEED all my real women sisters and friends in my life, we build each other up. I know my family doesn’t do that for me. And no man can replace the support I get from my female friends, there’s things they just don’t get. So why some women still act like assholes is beyond me. I hope you can learn to stop reading into the negative of what miserable people say, they think it makes them look or feel better, it does not-they’re still miserable lol-just know they’re not nearly as brave as you’re the one making multiple videos and sharing YOUR life. You’re sweet for even giving that gift and you have no idea how many others you are helping. Keep being brave, don’t listen to horrible people, sometimes they’re just like that and it’ll never change. You are tho, and all for the bettering of you and your family and helping others that look for it and appreciate it. So thank you from all the women that are receiving the message and the help. Really, this is a gift for others. You’re doing great. I hope you keep creating even more to share💚💚💚

[@ItsTheVibeGuise]

I so appreciate your video. I had a grandmother who was a legitimate hoarder. Two stories packed full with just a path to walk, and usually no place to sit. I currently have a mother in law who has her house packed so full, it has affected the foundation and a mom who is an "organized hoarder", with a basement packed full of well organized totes. I sometimes find myself sliding down that slippery slope, and try to stay very cognizant of what I am prone to in my family. For the people who say "Look at the money you have wasted", trust me, we are well aware, and the guilt doesn't help. I decluttered my walk in closet over the weekend, and immediately thought I should have gotten rid of more. People should live by the standard of "live and let live" and not shame someone, for something that is really none of their business.

[@kristinschneider7980]

Kristina, thank you for being so vulnerable about this part of your life. Your series is hitting home for me. I so glad that not only are you going through the layers of your stuff, but also getting though the layers of yourself. I am happy you are finding your new style and finding yourself at this current stage of your life! I am 10 years older than you and I have to say, it will be a continuous journey of discovery. Enjoy it! There are so many facets of you to discover! I struggle with having too much stuff too and it's so hard to keep under control, especially in a small house. God bless you in this journey and may he help you to continue to share the journey and encourage and inspire others. You are a blessing.🍓❤️

[@mrsb6839]

I absolutely love your channel for the reason that you do it for, I'm not alone ❤️ I can be beautiful as a plus size women and get creative with my style and femininity, my home doesn't have to be spotless to have happy kids and many more things your channel has shown me keep being you, there is no one else as imperfectly perfect as you 😊 I hope the babe's are doing good and are healthy and happy and I hope pippin is growing fabulously. Have an amazing day from your Aussie mum friend surviving amidst the chaos of everything ❤️

[@sevasxtra08]

Big love. I have ADHD (and my oldest child has it) and out of sight out of mind is the truth! Decluttering and being more minimal has helped me so much. It has helped my motherhood and allowed me to keep o with the house better. It took time! Everything now has a home, things are so I can see them or in a clear bin or labeled! Things are in zones to help me remember. They are just easily accessible. I never knew how much clutter made me feel more anxious and shut me down. That ADHD paralyzed state. I'm proud of you, your doing lovely ❤️ Ps some great channels that are full of love and goodness are @ahoardersheart (she has ADHD) & @theMinimalMom ❤️

[@karenstairs8273]

I know you should be proud of your accomplishments! Raising children is a full time job!! Anything you get done is fantastic!! Enjoy the time with your Little Loves...They grow up so fast. You are doing great!!

[@Judy122550]

because of you , I started to declutter my closet & dresser drawers. Our small town also opened up a new consignment shop where I can take a lot of my clothing.Thank you for changing,because you are changing me ! I am beginning to feel so free so different & how I am beginning to love the new me thank you ! Have a lovely day Kristina !

[@WithLoveKristina]

Hearing that you’re beginning to feel free makes me so happy. I’ve started to feel that, too!

[@k-lani5364]

Amen sister! We ALL have a root cause of why things are the way it is. Medical or not. Thank you for sharing a journey so many of us are planning to or taking in our lives❤. I walk alongside you in the spirit of hope and possibilities! Take care and congratulations on your 5th baby!

[@taraelyse6989]

Thank you for sharing your challenges. As the grown daughter of a mom with undiagnosed ADHD, your insights help me understand my mom and the beauty of her mind.

[@aimee-made]

I recently discovered your channel. You seems like such a nice person. 🥰 I don't have a diagnosis, but it wouldn't surprise me if I have ADHD as well. When I dive into a new craft or area of knowledge, I am ALL IN... and I end up with a LOT of belongings. I got really "into" vintage sewing machines during the pandemic, and although I've successfully sold quite a few, I still have WAY more than is reasonable for the space that I live in. I also have a LOT of fabric now. (I already had a lot of yarn, as I am a lifelong knitter.) I basically have more craft supplies than space or time. I'm feeling a bit overwhelmed. Sometimes I WANT to work on a project but I'm overstimulated by all the options. Watching your videos is helping me. You inspired me to declutter three different "clutter zones" in my home just this week. I'm going to keep at it!

[@katrose8696]

You're decluttering videos have definitely given me motivation to declutter myself! In fact, while watching the first video, I was going through all of my clothes and ended up filling two trash bags for donating!

[@Lamdennison]

I think you are amazing, and I think that people who don't have something helpful and supportive to say, should STFU. People like that act like we don't all see and judge ourselves more harshly in our own mirrors or photos. I want to say more about what your "confessional" means to me, but I have to sit with it awhile and maybe just journal it...but know that it hit deep. Also, watching you (ostensibly a stranger but someone I've at least gotten to know over years of watching your channel), I am so proud of you.

[@raye5072]

Sweet Kristina thanks again for taking the time to inspire and encourage all of us with mental health issues such as adhd. I am much older than you and have had struggled with this for many years. I admire your bravery, but you don't owe an explanation to anyone who judges. Go gentle with you.

[@lightlove4244]

Thanks st much for sharing! New Sub here! ADHD here too! Just got to know that I have it 2 years ago.... Always felt wrong for my struggles and people telling me they can not understand now I am even capable of doing a quite good job (masking!) but having a crowded chaotic home , being late und so on .. My Mum is an ernational hoarder... I have been surrounded by a ton of stuff... felt overwhelmed... I started minimizing my stuff 10 years ago by the help of 11 full rounds of konmari declutterrings... Now I'm in a state where 5×5 minutes mini declutterrings keep my home in a good / ok - state 😊👍. What helped me the most: Everything has a home! Having guests over regularly 😂 , embracing my ADHD energy outbreaks for random organizing and cleaning . I kept for myself one area where I'm allowed to hoard and enjoy the overflow: pens paper and all kind of stationary☺️. love& hugs from Germany!

[@nickiclarke4304]

Hi Kristina, I just found your channel over the weekend, and I just want to say thank you - thank you so much. I also have ADHD (newly diagnosed at 56) and so much of what you said about clutter and routines and hanging onto things really resonates with me too. Thank you for sharing it - it is challenging, and painful, and I have lived with a lot of shame, but I am beginning to change that. Thank you for giving me hope and making me feel less alone with it all, and certianly less overwhelmed. With love from Nicki in Brisbane, Australia. PS I have been cleaning out some shelves in my wardrobe while I watch this - thank you for keeping me company while I do it and making an unpleasant chore manageable.

[@freyadelling3876]

I think it is a blessing that you are sharing and there are people out there that need to see this and maybe it help and encourage them in their life. Your videos and your honesty helps and motivates me. My daughter tells me that I have Adult ADHD, I know how it is hard for you to be sharing this and taking us along for the journey. I am so proud of you and I am praying that by you taking the step to declutter is one step of many to help you and to help you grow. If I was there I would give you a big hug and say good job girl!! You got this! ❤ You did a great job, it looks so nice!

[@glendajorde9062]

Your house won't feel like it is closing in on you when you declutter. You are doing soooooooo awesome. I just found your channel. ♥

[@marjoriethompson3790]

10:17 I had to pause to comment. This is the section about adhd. While I don’t have a diagnosis I relate hard to this. I have internalized mess as a shortcoming and I also get very easily overwhelmed and don’t have the energy to go through it because it overwhelms me. THANK YOU for reminding me I’m neither alone nor a moral failure.

[@emilyglass6625]

As far as feeling bad about buying things I maybe shouldn't have, I just want to put this out there: I'm pretty sure I hold onto things I might be able to pass on to another human who would be able to use them better than me precisely because I haven't used them as much as I expected or hoped to. As long as I still have the thing, it's possible my purchase of the thing may turn out to be vindicated. I think there's a certain extent to which this thinking is perfectly fair. I've been in a bit of a slump lately and I don't necessarily think my best wardrobe is just my slump-wardrobe. I'm pretty confident I really *can* get more use out of some nicer things if I just get through this rough period. But there comes a point where you're holding onto things you could let go of, because donating or selling them means you never needed to buy them in the first place, and you don't want to have been wrong. Pressure from external judgment really doesn't help you sort this out! I also want to state for the record that in my experience I haven't always been able to judge at time of purchase what will turn out to be practical. My wardrobe history is full of guilty impulse buys I've worn constantly and carefully considered investments that made all the sense in the world - in theory - and then just didn't get worn. That's not an excuse, exactly, for impulse shopping, but in the moment, it can be hard to discern. You do kind of find out after the fact how your wardrobe pieces actually make you feel. One thing I've noticed in this series of videos and which I have realized I'm going to have to really grapple with in the long run if I want to reduce the volume of my wardrobe - and if I'm honest, that's not going to happen right away - is the relationship between clothes and stories or paradigms that we want to live out. Over the last 15 years, I've basically always had some secret aesthetic paradigm on my mind that influences what I feel like wearing. These paradigms can last several years at a time fortunately, but then they usually rotate without my being wholly conscious of it right away. And after 15 years I can now say with a fair degree of confidence that they do rotate. It's almost a kind of emotional/imaginative crop rotation. Fortunately, many items in my wardrobe work for more than one paradigm, so it's not exactly like I have 3-5 discrete wardrobes. But I can often feel like keeping the currently-out-of-favor items is actually a defense against possible future shopping. What if I go mad for Governess Chic again overnight and next thing I know I'm buying things? Especially as someone who wears a larger size than Kristina, every piece in my wardrobe that's interesting enough to speak to my imagination feels like it was hard work to come by and I may not ever come by something just like it again. As long as I stay about the same size and have this psychological propensity to shapeshift between versions of myself, storing clothes can feel safer (budget-wise) than letting them go.

[@KatieRae_AmidCrisis]

Bravo, Kristina! For your honesty and forthrightness. Your first decluttering video did indeed nudge me to have a little session bringing some order to my growing jewellery stash... I spent years feeling very weighed-down by the 'stuff' in my house. Some of which was un-dealt-with inherited (by myself and my then-10-year-old-son) possessions from a traumatic bereavement. What spurred me, finally, to tackle the clutter - the summer before last - was my son's imminent departure to university. The feeling of a weight having been lifted was palpable. But it wasn't easy. And I wasn't ready any sooner. That's just the way it was. I can relate to the shame that keeps you from having people over to your house. (Although part of that, for me, is natural introversion, and the desire to just 'pull up the drawbridge', once I am home.) Being human is a complicated thing. Having a neurodivergent brain is an additional layer of complexity. Sometimes life can feel like wading through molasses. You are doing a grand job, and deserve all the self-kindness you can muster. Your captions about ADHD were a great addition to the video. Thank you for sharing your decluttering journey ❤️

[@cindyjenkins1784]

I have been looking for videos of decluttering where the people are not already "minimalists" (not me, lol!, does not compute!), and was happy to have fallen on yours. How to purge stuff you love is hard, and some of your comments show that honesty helps. Keep up the good work! I imagine once you finish the first go-around, you will let go of more on a second review. So nice to see you able to display your beautiful things.

[@cheyennesutton2055]

Kristina, I recently discovered your channel. Don't let negative people who live to shame others get you down. You have a beautiful spirit and I look forward to watching more of your videos.

[@rachgeorgia9993]

I'm not sure if it will help people with ADHD but you can set a limit for items to stop overwhelm. For example with jewellery set the limit to your jewellery box, or a shelf, or a drawer (you set the limit that works for you). When buying something new if it won't fit within your limit you either don't buy it or something has to be decluttered so it will fit. This can also help with finding things and not buying multiples because it gives items a home. Thank-you for sharing information about ADHD, especially the text on screen. I found it very insightful. I think people need to spend less time judging others.

[@kansascitian2009]

I think you've always done an amazing job, but to do this on top of being heavily pregnant, caring for children, the husband and a home is monumental! God bless.

[@andreabrown797]

Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing your real life and knowing that you are not alone in your struggles. You daughters ponytail is absolutely precious.

[@WithLoveKristina]

❤️❤️❤️ she has the best curly little ponytails! Thank you b

[@donnashapleigh4863]

Hi this series of 3 videos is my first visit with you. THANK YOU! I 2 have ADHD ( as does my husband) clutter is also very prevent in our home. You have encouraged me (us) to do some purging! I (we) have a lot 2 go, but I can't tell you how much your comments about living with ADHD hit home and what a comfort to know that we are not alone and that others struggle with the same problems. Thanks again!

[@franpatzcraig6713]

I identify strongly with all you said about shame. I am 80 yrs old and it's only in the last year that I have realized that what I call my ping pong brain has a medically accepted name! I self diagnosed and later confirmed with a counselor that I have inattentive ADHD. Thank you for being vulnerable enough that others will see themselves and not be ashamed... And at a lot younger age than I.

[@WithLoveKristina]

I am so glad you finally discovered that you have inattentive ADHD! I needed to see this comment today. Thank you.

[@springnicole]

You said your video wasn’t aesthetic, but while I was watching I kept thinking, “She has so many pretty things!” Thank you for sharing. I was Decluttering along with you. Still going.

[@EnchantedMermaidGrove]

My husband and I are really bad emotional hoarders. We are both autistic and maybe have ADHD. These videos you have posted have helped me motivate us into donating and getting rid of stuff that was cluttering our house

[@clarkbar8509]

I get it, as a mother of a daughter who has struggled 😢 for over 50 years, she never feels good enough.......you are doing a great job! Hugs

[@bonniehickey9978]

Thanks so much for this! As a fellow emotional hoarder I appreciate your honesty about all this. Ignore the negative comments. You’re doing a great job and helping so many people. I’m so glad I found your channel.

[@WithLoveKristina]

hahaha oh I ignore them for the most part, after the first day I don't really read comments on videos any more unless I happen to catch a random one! Mostly for the preservation of my sanity. But these videos have produced overwhelmingly positive comments and I'm so thankful!

[@woodenkat8971]

I do appreciate your openness. I struggle with a messy and sometimes properly dirty house too. And it does weigh on your mind. You have encouraged me to tackle my flat spaces. No drawers, shelves or closets yet. I have to start on the floor. But, it is such a relief to see someone to whom cleaning and decluttering isn't a joy, do it anyway. Thank you.

[@WithLoveKristina]

Flat spaces are a great space to start! Those are usually the easiest to declutter for me since they just tend to gather papers 😂 I hope it goes well!

[@marionlacey1986]

Kristina, this is a great video - you are a beautiful human inside and out and reading through the comments from others and your replies to them tells me you are a great therapist yourself with your compassion and encouragement. Your children and as yet unborn baby boy have the best mother possible and your husband is so fortunate to have you! (I am sure he knows that) I love how you go about your decluttering and I also must say that I adore the dress you are wearing, it suits you so well and I am pretty sure I have seen you in different colours of the same style? My warmest wishes, looking forward to the next instalment! 🐾🥰

[@TrishisFlabbergasted]

As someone who also has ADHD, and currently working on decluttering, I understand. Also, I know it's hard, but don't give those people with negative comments any attention. Focus on the positive comments. The ones leaving negative comments have their own demons to deal with and will project that onto others. At the end of the day, we're all human trying to do the best we can.

[@PHXRichard]

You are just so fun to watch. I know where your coming from. My boyfriend is trying very hard to do decluttering and trying to be a minimalist and passes along videos of ppl showing how to organize 12 different ways and it just doesn’t make since to be minimalist. I watched one of your videos and you taught me a new word “Maximalist” It’s ok to have things you want to keep and show off or a project that you want to start soon or you have a unique items you like to show off. I do watch hoarders every now and then and my house no where near theirs but it does give me motivation to go through things, short and trash. Like my kitchen has a lot of items and I do my best to short and judge if I have future use.. there are things that don’t get used for a while like my pasta maker that I may use every 4 to 6 months. I do buy pasta at the store still but but every so often I just love the old world charm of being able to make things with my hands. I just believe my kitchen is ready for any task. Can’t wait to see house the rest of the house is coming long!!!!

[@rbrown6476]

Thank you for another inspiring video. I always love seeing all your colourful things - whatever you decide to do with them! It’s a joy to see interesting things and colourful artistic stuff. It’s wonderful to see your little ones just pottering about and enjoying life. I’ve watched a few ‘how to declutter’ videos where there is an empty apartment with the barest minimum of furniture and everything is GREY! It doesn’t inspire me one bit - it looks soulless and sterile, like a magazine shot. I don’t identify with that sort of life, because I’m not sure what you do when there’s nothing around that’s interesting. 😂😂😂 Please accept my thanks and thanks from all of us who really enjoy your wonderful honest videos. And it’s shocking that anyone would tell you negative things about how you live your life - it’s like going up to a complete stranger in the street, and without being asked, to tell them harsh criticism about the way they dress or do their hair. A suitable response is, “Don’t watch if you don’t like, and go and make your own video where you can show what you do”!!! Anyway, rant over - I’m looking forward to more of your journey and it really helps me to watch and hear you expressing things I feel myself. Bless you Kristina, and your family ❤

[@charlenetorres1202]

Kristina, what you are doing takes strength. Your honesty is commendable. Do not fear comments from persons who do not live in your skin or know the depth of your heart. We are there with you. We are proud of you. God bless you always.

[@crocheh]

What I have come to learn is so many times our external world is a macrocosm and visual representation of our inner mind. It looks cluttered, busy and perhaps messy around us because we feel that way, or our bran is functioning that way! Keeping that in your back pocket can go a long way in being kind to others. It takes massive mental effort to go through this, and I commend your bravery and how well you're doing.

[@WithLoveKristina]

It's absolutely important to understand that, and such a good perspective to have! Thank you!

[@user-os6ye1ul7u]

Hey krista I am from America you have given me a starting point. I realized afterwards watching your videos I am an emotionally hoarder too. Taking everything out of the closet or drawer and putting it on the bench is such a great idea. You going to start clean my rooms just like that. Also thank you for sharing your story it’s really nice to know that somebody else has walked in my shoes and has some of the same feeling that I do. You have inspired me Thanks again😂😘

[@emilysullivan4031]

Don't listen to the haters. You are doing what you can, and that's enough. There is another channel that might resonate with you - A Hoarder's Heart. She has been very real and honest in her journey of being a hoarder, dealing with emotional baggage, and getting diagnosed with ADHD as an adult. Just keep working at it, and eventually your space will look the way you want!

[@RLiberty94]

This was a wonderful video and I definitely this series! I just want to say thank you for being willing to share be vulnerable. There are just people out there that don't get it and unfortunately, some, now matter how hard they try, they will not get it because empathy isn't something that everyone is capable of. I grew up with several people who are great people, but just not capable of empathizing with things or situations that they have not experienced personally. Plus, some people just really get a kick out of judging and criticizing others while their own lives are unfortunately in shambles. You are beautiful inside and out and are doing an amazing job learning and growing with yourself. 🥰

[@emiscozycottagelife]

I have an ADHD tip for you. Have a “catch all” basket next to your bed and couch or wherever you sit most and make a habit first thing in the morning to empty it. It’s helped me keep my drawers clear of junk!

[@WithLoveKristina]

To be honest, I've tried this! But with little kids it quickly becomes filled or spilled or scattered through the day so it hasn't quite worked the way I would have wanted it to. It's such a good idea though!

[@emiscozycottagelife]

@@WithLoveKristina I’ll keep that in mind for when ours is older I’ll have to stick my baskets up higher 🤣

[@jeannenabozny5675]

I saved several generations of stuff most of my life. Losing family objects kept them close. Now I live tiny! I dont need tons of stuff just whats functional and makes me happy. Memories of family are worth more than the baggage of stuff. Raised a big family so let them take what they wanted as I went through the clear out which took years. But so glad I did.

[@WithLoveKristina]

I came to the realization that I’ll always have the memories even if the THINGS are gone. That’s helped!

[@CaseyMaura]

I really admire your vulnerability and bravery; sending virtual hugs! I don’t have ADHD, but have used “stuff” as a bandaid in the past for when I’m depressed or going through a chaotic and emotionally draining period of my life. It’s a fine line I find, between having beautiful things that breathe inspiration and joy into my daily existence, and boxes of things weighing me down mentally (with all the guilt that comes along with that too…). Just want to say I’m enjoying seeing how you approach this, your self discovery, and yes: this is prompting me to do a bit of New Years decluttering too!

[@diaphanouswaffle]

This is the first of your videos I'd ever watched, bc I was hunting for decluttering + ADHD videos. I'm dx'd with autism & relate to many of the challenges described as being hallmarks of ADHD, and I find the techniques/advice in such videos useful. When it's a particularly good (relevant for me) video, I scroll down and read a bunch of the comments, too-bc those offer me solidarity & camaraderie within our shared difficult circumstance. Thank you :)

[@msamios.321]

I basically went through the same process with my clutter in my home, oh, gee, back when I was still on LiveJournal -- 2009, maybe? Yeah. Round about there. It was life changing. I called it the "place for everything and everything in its place" project. I had to get rid of alot of things, because there just weren't enough places. The first run through the house took about 6 weeks (one week per room). That doesn't mean that I don't still make messes, or start collecting too much stuff. I still do, from time to time. But now when it happens, I'm aware of when I'm running out places to put things, and that means I have too many things. It is a continual process of being aware of inventory, and removing inventory as needed. It's not easy, but it is doable. And yeah, it's totally and ADHD thing...I'm finally getting around to getting that verified. I have an appointment for next week to be assessed. At age 57. My heart is with you as you go through this! And yeah, you and your channel with always be more than just ADHD. It's a part, but not the whole. I totally understand that, and appreciate your openness. You did beautiful work. I'm proud of you.

[@saragreen2502]

I don’t know if I’d classify myself as an emotional hoarder, but it’s definitely hard to get rid of certain things. Just today I got rid of an old broken laptop that I have had since high school. It was one of the last expensive things my parents got for me while they were alive. I also cleaned out my nightstand and got rid of newborn care packets I got when my son, who is now 5, was born. Thank you for being so open on your channel and also for being so kind. I can’t wait to watch the rest of the series. Wishing you peace and happiness ♥️

[@WithLoveKristina]

Oooh it took me so long to get rid of my old broken laptop! It had so many memories on it, I can definitely relate to that!

[@susancheveralllong7694]

You are brave and have inner strength that shines through so lovely this in time will give your children a worthy role model, you give many the strength to tackle their homes too. I was told "the best way to learn something is to teach it!" 😊

[@jlwalrus1]

I have constant clutter. I love watching you because I find it so real. I don't know where to put stuff. I don't get help from hubby or kids. I'm finally somewhere mentally where I feel like I'm getting somewhere. I retired last year & yea I think it's about being...getting to a happier place. ❤❤❤

[@WithLoveKristina]

Giving yourself lots of grace and time to find the mental space to do what you wish with your home is SO important. Despite external pressure, I always told myself that it was ok to just do little things. We all go through seasons where we have more or less energy, and that's ok.

[@jenniferwells2291]

I'm loving these videos, they really resonate with me and have been super helpful. I also have ADHD and it's comforting to watch someone who understands and can relate to how difficult things like keeping the house up can be. It might sound silly but you inspired me to put the dishes in the dishwasher and put away the Amazon deliveries after watching this through the first time. I'll be saving this one for rewatching in the future. Side note, I'm also plus size and it's so nice to see you enjoying fashion and seeing how yours evolves over time.

[@TGIFEveryDay]

I see you and I totally understand how you feel about being an emotional hoarder I think you said. Everything I own has a memory attached to it. I have ADHD too and I just finished up doing the month long The Minimalist Challenge where on the first day you get rid of one thing, second day, two things, every day up to the 31st or whatever and you get rid of 31 things!!! It’s a lot for one month, but I feel better about the things I donated or got rid of. Now I’m doing a no buy July (except for groceries, gas, and other boring crap 🙄) So good luck with everything!! My wife and I love your channel!! ❤

[@skyedouglas7109]

I love your channel a lot of vintage inspired woman on KZbin are either single or not moms and I can only relate so much because they don’t have children. ❤thank you for sharing your life with us ❤

[@WithLoveKristina]

I’m so glad you can relate! 🥰

[@susangridley8354]

You are absolutely glowing in this video. You're brave and beautiful and I admire and appreciate your honesty. I have been diagnosed bipolar disorder, seasonal affective disorder, PTSD, and anxiety disorder. Recently the interim therapist I am seeing while my regular one is on maternity leave said "Has anyone ever discussed ADHD with you?" I instantly shut her down because the last thing I really want is another label. I am going to rethink that now. Thank you for the information. 💗

[@WithLoveKristina]

Oh, Susan, that's so much all at once! I totally understand wanting to shut down yet another thing you might have to think about and adjust to, it's totally ok to take it at your own pace. Personally, I've found understanding more about my own mental health to be helpful *eventually* but at first it's always overwhelming. Hugs!

[@sandradee8880]

I wanted to comment how beautiful you look. Your hair color and red look so beautiful together. And I have the same problem and older I get some days I feel like I'm drowning in it. I used love hobbies be super focused on them. Now I have many unfinished things. But when I clean home I been trying to stay in one room and fill laundry basket put the item away and go fill it up again.

[@pinkyhotmessx69]

Lol the storage bins!! Whoa that one literally struck a nerve with me. I'm both ocd and ADD and s compulsive buyer.i blame the thrift stores lol. It's literally an addiction because we don't create enough dopamine and it's a dopamine hit every time we buy. I've gotten so much better when I got proper medications. And I HATE meds but that lack of dopamine for 44 years was the cause of my migraines as well. Awareness is a good thing and a good start because many never get that chance. Congrats

[@MissPennyLaFreak]

Thank you for these videos, Kristina. I haven't seen your videos for a while and I'm so glad I'm back. I too have (not officially diagnosed) ADHD, and struggle a lot with keeping the house organised, and I don't even have kids! I have spent the last 6 months really struggling, in a job that I hates and that kept me busy from 9 to 9 basically. Now that I am home I keep postponing starting to use my time again. I blame it on the heat, I blame ir on taking some days off before "starting a new life". But in the end it's allmthe same problem. I am also in between styles. We all seem to start on the 50s and gradually getting tired or disenchanted by it. I look ar all my clothes, which doesn't fit anymore, or that I've worn many times and don't know if I still liked them... But I cannot find it in me to decide what should go and what not... Anyway, thank you again.

[@acciopris]

So inspiring! Currently avoiding some areas but going to use this video as motivation to start! You’ve got this! P.S. you are glowing! ❤

[@jeannenabozny5675]

Your brave to have come to this point it’s a new season in life! There are more people today going through this than not. Your an encouragement to thousands! ADHD is hard. People dont understand how hard it is with ADHD to even start a clear out or clean up. Just start with one corner at a time. Mentally block off spaces attack one blocked area at a time not thinking of the other spaces till one space is done. The closet was one space. The dresser was one space and so on! Your doing great.

[@WithLoveKristina]

Yes! Mentally blocking off areas has helped so much. Originally I felt like I had to do the WHOLE room at once but realizing I could just divide it up was a game changer!

[@kendapitetti2075]

You’re awesome. Been here three years and I’m so proud of your bravery! ❤

[@TheIntuitiveActress]

This also hit me very hard. In the middle of a move. My stuff is a point of contention with my husband. I don’t think he really understands the ADHD part of things. I’m ready to purge quite a bit but I’m in tears. It’s nice to know I’m not alone in it. I also am going to ask and demand more help in maintaining order. It shouldn’t fall to me because I’m a woman. It isn’t fair.

[@asilverfoxintasmania9940]

Its taken me time but I too have learnt that less things in my space means I am less anxious and less depressed. I still have one room full of stuff though, but we can shut that door, however it is on the list to be done in the first quarter of the year. Its never easy reaching this point and even harder to say good bye to some things, but they too need to move on and be the things they should be, and not stuck in a cupboard in the dark.

[@kbmkj]

Good job! Thanks for inspiring me to be honest and declutter myself. I always think of myself as a collector..... Just trapped in a too small space. Smile* So I'm working on letting someone else enjoy my collection by passing it on. It feels so much more restful and relaxing. My greatest weakness however is books 📚 I just can't! Love your videos. You are such a beautiful mama. Keep up the good work. I hope these videos do so well that you get that new paint to cover the green spots (wherever they are) that bug you. Love.

[@thejaneymac6385]

The new year is a great time to start decluttering. I’ve began working on my own home and it’s made me feel much lighter and happier having less stuff.

[@aileentoomey9627]

You have a lot of courage. You are refining your great taste in your artistic style. Relaxing to watch the transformation. Thank you for sharing with us.

[@lisastjohn3056]

My aunt inherited a lot of costume jewelry and this year made a picture of a Xmas tree with the jewelry, very beautiful ❤️

[@WithLoveKristina]

The lot of jewelry I got rid of is going to someone who is going to do the same! I’m excited to see it happen ❤️❤️❤️

[@chlo_gems]

I only came across your channel today as I have been attempting to declutter (what I am slowly admitting is a hoard of things) from my small one bedroom flat in the UK 😅 I don't usually comment and will try very hard to not ramble (also am aware this declutter of your bedroom series are old videos now but I am excited to check out more of your videos) but I wanted to say that I really appreciate you sharing about your ADHD... I have noticed a lot of my symptoms recently may indicate that I too have ADHD... I have not been diagnosed as I have not spoken to a doctor about this... I have felt very alone and I resonate with everything you spoke about regarding ADHD. I don't have kids but I am a 24 year old living alone and recently ended a relationship with an ex so I am feeling a lot of emotions trying to declutter and let go of things not only from that relationship but also throughout my whole life. I have many creative products I have wanted to do and also a love for fashion and vintage/retro/old things in general.... This video has been super helpful to me and I just wanted to comment to say that I am very grateful for your video ❤🫶🏻✨

[@countessa222]

I am also currently working on purging and reorganizing my house but I do like to think of my adhd collection like I am a dragon and it is my treasure hoard 😅 however it does feel wonderful when I go threw and reorganize it its almost like rediscovering all of my things I especially love the ones that carry particularly good memories 🥰 the hardest part for me personally is just finding the balance between hoarding and collecting 😅 especially with clothing items because I always find myself justifying things that I could possibly use one day and then I never end up using it

[@WithLoveKristina]

Clothes and accessories are the HARDEST thing to let go of, I feel you! Finding the balance of “keep or declutter” when you’re not really into minimalism is definitely a journey. I’ve told myself with jewelry, if I haven’t worn it in 2 years - unless it’s a keepsake - I need to let it go.

[@weasleyhobbit]

The amount of work you have done is mind blowing!! Seriously WAY TO GO!! AND doing it all with kids in the house?! Amazing! I’m so honored you’ve included us in this journey. I cannot wait to see the end result. If possible, could you talk about how you intend to KEEP and maintain the organization? I’ve decluttered so many times, but I’ve never managed to keep it. The dopamine from shopping is REAL. Thank you Kristina!!

[@hawthorngrove3629]

Thank you for sharing this. I have an emotional attachment to many things, partly due to depression and loss of loved ones. I op shop to feel joy and when I get home I freak out because there's nowhere to put my new things. On top of that I'm a Crafter so I have endless supplies of crafty items. I also own far too many clothes and just last night I went to go to bed and wore a huge stack of clothes and jewellery (It fell on me) haha

[@SoMagicalMichele]

What many people don't realize is that OCD can manifest itself in extreme messes. That need for things to be perfect can be so overwhelming that they can't do anything and then they become the opposite of the extreme clean they desperately crave. What many people don't understand is depression and other things that affect the hormones have effects on the home. It's so hard to keep a house in order when you have a lot of little kids, especially when pregnant. When your hormones are all over the place it can feel impossible to do all the things. It'll probably be around when your youngest is around two that your hormones get back to normal unless you end up with one of the many autoimmune illnesses. I lived in a 2 bedroom apartment with my ex and 5 kids, the 6th came after we moved. My kids had enough toys to fill a storage bin. I was criticized for my kids having too many toys because they were in the living room. We had a 3 month supply of food in boxes all around the dining room. We had dressers in the front room because there wasn't room for them in the bedrooms. We were crammed into that tiny apartment and I was criticized for having too much stuff. I didn't even have a week's worth of clothes because I was trying to make myself take up as little space as possible. It's so annoying when people criticize. It's so annoying that so many people feel like they need to judge your life when they have never lived in it. I wish the words on the internet were all kind to you.

[@SoMagicalMichele]

BTW I'm amazed that you were able to do such massive things. It would have taken me way longer to declutter what you did. I can't do the big dump it all out thing. I have to do smaller sections. Also, have you taken the Clutterbug quiz? I think it's super helpful. I want everyone to know their style.

[@RadCenter]

I love your bedroom furniture and your jewelry collection!

[@alinacampbell8406]

🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷 I have ADHD and this video hits how I feel on the head. My husband calls me a squirrel cause I'm constantly shoving things away out of sight, then getting overwhelmed when I have to deal with it.

[@WithLoveKristina]

Ah we are squirrels. We see nuts (fun things), we stuff them into our cheeks (pockets) and then we bury them forever never to be found again. LOL

[@barbaraweber3084]

Good job! It's a lot, I know, but eventually it will be done and then guess what???? You'll want to do it again!!! Here's a suggestion for you. Use a mounted towel bar for necklaces , works great for me.....

[@fotochikyo]

My top drawers are exactly the same! The top of my dresser is piled even higher. This is very inspiring

[@938quilt]

every time I decide to pile stuff on the bed to sort I end up getting overwhelmed and tired and want a nap - and my bed is too clluttered - arrghh! LOL!

[@marytwiggs7473]

Congrats on tackling those piles! I'm currently avoiding many of my own, and it's good to know I'm not alone in struggling with mess

[@lear635]

A new subscriber to your channel. I am captivated by your style & wide range of content. This particular video was extremely helpful. I have immediate family members with ADHD. Your insights gave me such a helpful perspective to further understand. I admire your transparency & bravery in taking your viewers along on this series. Thank you !!

[@cambriasvintagehobby8123]

I remember being a mom with young children, a demanding job and a husband who was not a healthy person for me. And I remember also feeling overwhelmed and embarrassed about my home for a variety of reasons (I think all parents have those times). I was able to make decisions that helped me, but I also realized that my kids just remember love and being happy. You are a wonderful mother and a strong woman. Make the changes that help you, but never worry that you are the only one or be ashamed.😁