Marie Kondo: I have given up on tidying | Vantage with Palki Sharma

[@noops2110]

Very important message in Indian context. Women are made to feel guilty if they can't keep home squicky clean! Some women take this on themselves too without realising they are neglecting personal health and growth as a side effect.

[@brooklyn7853]

if they dont say that they will start living like pigs, dirty everywhere

[@AdmiralBonetoPick]

Define "personal growth"?

[@noops2110]

@@AdmiralBonetoPick personal growth is hampered when ladies give priority to a clean house all the time instead of participating in bigger things like developing a hobby, learning new things, earning or contributing to the society in some way so that they have increased self worth. I see this all the time that they stay just where they are personally for decades and decades and no one encourages them to do otherwise.

[@akhileshbadrinath6537]

Yeah

[@srilathakulkarni5570]

@@AdmiralBonetoPick it's personal

[@chhavibhatt3128]

I love that she’s not rigid with her principles, has accepted and openly acknowledged the change. I think this attribute makes us more human and also makes life much easier. Also, what's important is doing what feels right to you (not at the expense of someone else, obviously) Everyone has their own philosophy, the right to propagate it, as an audience you can keep what makes sense to you and unabashedly let go of what doesn't.

[@cremebrulee4759]

I admire her so much for being honest. She isn't hiding the reality of her life, and in doing so, she's helping others to let go of unrealistically high standards. When you have a family, experiencing that family and having fun and love and joy is much more important than how clean and tidy the house is. Children grow up so quickly, and if you are constantly focused on cleaning and organizing, you can miss out on so much.

[@TangledHues]

I read her article a couple days back and told my husband that see, the tidying guru is messy now as she is busy with kids and letting them live their childhood. That's what I had been doing after I left my career for my kids 12 years back... Now I am walking again the road to a new career as kids are doing the tidying up now for their mess...☺️☺️

[@srilathakulkarni5570]

When my sons were little, my young cousin visiting me commented that the instant someone steps into my home can tell that there're kids in the home. It was messy. I said I take it as a compliment while the aunts would think am lazy and unorganised. With two kids in less than two years tidiness took a back seat

[@rajshreebarik9469]

Love you Palki for this episode. Keeping tidy always is possible when someone only responsible for self.. but when the responsibility is 3 or 4 folds it is always not possible and in a house it is for everyone to do their bit not just lady of the house.. it is absolutely ok not to be tidy all the time.. stay real and breath

[@neerjasrivastava786]

So good to see Palki in action again. A real family house always looks used,should not call it messy. However, it should always be hygienic and healthy. All members of the family should contribute to keeping things reasonably organized.

[@isaacwolowik]

Life is all about flexibility and common sense. Wow!!! Love this.

[@skiranaable]

She is prioritizing her life on what's important & is not ashamed admitting it. I am sure her house is not as messy as we think about. Still love her teaching though, we apply what we can as everyone's journey is different. Sending love ❤️

[@dracharya5037]

The quote by Marie is exactly what Dharma is. Follow what you can be comfortable with. Thus is what makes you in sync with yourself and the universe. Dharanaat Dharma...what you can hold/sustain is called dharma. Kudos to her.

[@dwivediamit12]

Thank God we are not the only ones. Experts, too, are struggling to keep their house organised 😀

[@shalinigupta2735]

I always say my home is organized and clean enough to be healthy and happy. I prefer living in a home and not a museum .....

[@gusmonster59]

Exactly how I feel. I put things away as I go and don't let things pile up, but my home is my HOME. It's for me, not everyone else. Who cares If I didn't make the bed today?

[@jupiter_and_its_moon4130]

A little tidy house and few tricks on tidiness, definitely help us to do things more effectively and save our time... but Obsession should not take over common sense and current situation's need...

[@brooklyn7853]

you are spot on. Follow ethics not religion and bigotry

[@YSL421]

Exactly

[@indhumathi4727]

Marie kondo helped me to get some organisation in place be it kids toys, dresses or kitchen stuffs. This actually made my life easier, but yes agreed i am not obsessive about it.

[@santisanti8386]

I love this! She is a star. She helped a lot people around the world tidying up, but she is not making a dogma out of cleaning.

[@klpnaGupta]

How perfectly that sentence captures her brilliance ! Helped without pressuring

[@anubtitus2351]

Thank you so much Palki for deciding to say this. These may seem small things to a few but it does consume most of our time and energy. Yes, TIME and ENERGY, once lost, are lost forever. Many of us may not even realize this. Thank you again for considering it worth enough to bring everyone's attention to.

[@bhargavimanugarra2231]

'Finally, reality has caught up to her!' Bang on! 😆

[@darnneljones6954]

Wow...I can't believe I actually met this family during my time in Japan... WOW! 17

[@sravanisarthub]

Thanks to her for accepting the reality and more than that expressing it publicly so that many can resonate with her💖

[@ushapotluri660]

Hats off to you Palki Sharma..anchor wearing a traditional attire most of the times..that too in an english channel..i admire you for that..and hats off to you ..the way you speak and the news you bring up ...they are always relatable to me.thanq

[@anupamasani1993]

I love your choice of topics. Also this light smile on your face throughout because this news is so relatable

[@falco830]

This take is already miles better than psychotic Wions. Even though a Messi house is not the right message, having a happy family should be the main priority over a messy house, which is what the Queen of clean has embraced against her own preaching and admits it transparently and honestly. While this video acknowledges that aspect, Wion uses that as a weapon against her…

[@anulkaaw]

This is so exaggerated tho. She never admitted her house was "a mess". She just said that she's not as organised as she used to be and prioritises her time with her family over a squeaky clean house. What's spark joy for her now are her children and their well-being and its understandable. She has never been a cleaning tyrant to anyone, she's always been super gentle and kind, and she acts this way towards herself too. I love to see that. ❤️

[@iamkrishhnan]

Well, I am pretty sure her messy house would be a clean house for the people like me. 😁😁😁

[@ushasingh2414]

Palki representing India in her saree, today. Nice

[@Advaya459]

This may not have been the typical Palki revelation, but it is certainly relevant! My generation especially was raised by militant mothers who HAD to have things just so. Discipline and order, timely meals, clean home and kids superseded personal satisfaction and happiness always. By a mile. As I have grown older, I realise they were so wrong. And Kondo is right on the button. Kids do not care if the house is messy - but they DO get deeply affected when their mother is tired, irritable and inattentive. More power to you Marie, that was really brave. And much needed.

[@asra3822]

Golden comment

[@Smithpolly]

There has to be a balance. It's one thing if somebody is going crazy because there is one teddybear on the floor and a few crumbs on the table but most people like living in a clean , tidy home. If you went to a hotel on vacation and you saw the toilet was dirty, the bed wasn't made and the sheets weren't clean, and there was thick layers of dust all over the furniture and the food was served on grubby plates, would you feel happy? Would you feel relaxed? Would you be in a good mood? Probably not.

[@kintsugii4321]

Yeah. True. Allowing children their space is blissful. I too have brought down my bar of perfection. 😊

[@discoverchina1885]

Keeping tidy is difficult, but I always try to do so :) It’s always better to see a clean room

[@canesugar911]

I don't think she is promoting untidiness, just that there are times when things get out hand, and that's okay.

[@SumanSharma-jl4tn]

Finally she knew the truth, legends like me already knew.

[@SH-nv5sp]

It's not only kids who mess up things in the house.Elders also do this.

[@carrad123456]

Functional Organising is good, going to extremes is personality oriented• similarly little mess here or there is fine, or in childrens room is fine but too much mess everywhere gives headache• find your own balance

[@subhashithaks]

Bang on. Anything extreme is bad. We should just maintain balance.

[@mannuanu]

I can't believe I would see this day. Mary Kondo is the one who started me on this journey of decluttering and tidiness.

[@mahalakshmikaruppiah2904]

Very important message. I hava a 8 month old. My house is messy and unorganized. My child is my priority and healthy food prep. Tidying up take a backseat for some period. I don t regret about it. Though my husband complains abour it.

[@HereIAm247]

She legitimately never said that it was a mess. She said that her house after the 3rd child (along with 2 tv-shows and several books), is not always spotless. She never said that it is always messy. And 'messy' by her standards har probably pretty tidy by western standards.

[@able8803]

Her tidying techniques helped. A house does not have to be impeccably clean, just organise things to declutter.

[@unknownauthor417]

I didn’t even imagine, one day Palki madam come up with this kind of stuff with her implacable vocabulary and story telling skills.. 😅

[@shwetabapat430]

Thank God she is being real. When many of us said the same things much earlier we would just be classified as lazy! The double standards of this society are ridiculous! When a tidying up /organising guru says this it's applauded, welcomed but when ordinary women said this they were ostracized! So ladies don't give a damn..do what you feel is right..Kuch toh log kahenge, logon ka kaam hain kehna.. Become immune to the toxicity around you if you want peace of mind.

[@Smithpolly]

I'm guessing Marie Kondo's idea of a messy house is still pretty tidy. Yes, it's a good idea not to get stressed out because there are a few toys on the floor or a few fingerprint marks on the window but most people don't find it peaceful to live in a very messy house. It makes it hard to find things. It just makes life difficult.

[@anshlalwani69]

Palki is the best in what she does!

[@lilly473]

Font of vantage can change it's too bold and not suiting the blue shade background. Please do more work orthe visual design. There is some dullness

[@gayathrijayakumar5238]

Palki is back with more intriguing content.

[@kajaljain1234]

Oh, I love this article. This is the real peace of mind to watch it

[@smitathite4066]

Superb topic.very creatively ralatable!!!

[@googleuser5120]

Her 3rd baby is a blessing to mankind. Turning homes to hotels should never be the aim, esp with kids. We're putting in them the habit of being organized and never ready for any random situation. When one travels these habits never let you enjoy life. The kids inwardly feel scared and guilty for being kids. I love Kon Mari, but not the stress of tidying up.

[@Smithpolly]

I don't think it makes life very enjoyable if you're having a panic attack that you're going to miss your plane because you can't find your passport.

[@Innerexplorer67]

I would suggest that occasionally one must clear out unwanted items from the house. Organizing becomes unmanageable when we hoard items we don’t need. “A place for everything , everything in place” Then a few items out of place are fine. My mind personally feels more relaxed if atleast one area of my house is tidy…

[@neoarya580]

After messing up with people's mind she wants different rules for herself. Even those people had kids and they spent endless time and energy in following her advice

[@annam1818]

Thank you for keeping it real. And welcome back !

[@santhisreeni]

Same with the kitchen .. I always observed good cooks kitchens are little messy .. opposite is also true.. if we are so much bothered about organized kitchens then we can never become good cooks ... little mess is good because cooking needs it 😃

[@steelmainthing369]

Really close to reality..... another example of the saying one should not try to be perfectionist in all walk of life to stay more happy, calm and free of anxiety... thank for this wonderful sharing😃😇🙏

[@raviprani]

When I read this book , I certainly felt it is not applicable for everyone! Finally she accepted it and great of her

[@YouCanCookYum]

Work thieves have now Marie Condo on their side 😂😂😂😂 earlier she was on other side for best seller

[@vr5663]

Seems like Palki was stressed looking at Marie Kondo how she managed kids, career and a neat house but now she is happy and relaxed and she can say look even Marie's house is messy so now she has an excuse 😂

[@SJ-zo3lz]

Every woman is stressed with this lofty gender role expectation!

[@FatimaKhan-ln3xe]

😂😂

[@manikaghosh9372]

I admired her & at the same time I was overcome with guilt everytime there was mess around me. What a relief to find her human after all

[@ww_4776]

Anchor is one of the best.. kudos to writer as well!! Every word, story telling and her facial expressions are engaging . I would love to have such English teacher 🖖

[@divyakaul88]

Cheers, Palki! You are the best!

[@aborgeshonorato]

This is relevant to me. Today I came home after an exhaustive day of work and my mother in law was complaining about how untied was the house. Detail: she stays at home all day ...

[@mehmood7776]

We are in good company 😀, Wel come to the club It is reality

[@shradhapant3764]

This was a news and at the same time heart warming too. Completely relatable. Happy to see Palki 🌼

[@vaidhyanathanrajagopalan7257]

In India, for such a long time this was followed by Homemakers our moms, and Sisters. But people always come and comment about the Un organized houses. But in the end, MOM will win what she wants to prioritize. Now happy to see that Marie Kondo admitted that it is a just matter of priority in our life who we loved a lot and no need to priority for shooting house.

[@jyatimali2033]

Messy is fine but unclean is unhygienic. That's my mantra !

[@jaichabria83]

Good choice of topic. It's always good...to see hear watch experience soak in the unveiling of reality... rather than always 'making (up) news'

[@claireylanan1307]

when i have two child everytime i go home after work it is messy but i realized why should it affect. i rather take some rest than getting stresses out.. i organize whenever i have free time but i know how to stay chill even everything is so messy due to my children

[@shvetasabundancekids3410]

Actually I was prioritizing always to clean home, organized can be an option but clean and cleanliness must be priority, if house is clean, don't worry about unorganized things, bathroom kitchen bedroom should be neat and clean drawing room must be dusted mopped, dust free, hygienic condition of a home, leave it scented that is all organizing, can be dumped... Energy what she is decided now to put it on kids is really needed part undeniable...

[@rachanadev5855]

Love you Palki, what a greatly relevant topic this is.

[@goswamigeeta]

The talk was very interesting.

[@sherrymustapha]

Sometimes sparks joy is one messy house. I love it.

[@nirmala.lifecoach]

very informative, thank you for sharing this

[@ashwinikulkarni2314]

It's just she made enough money, it was not about tidying up your house, it was a business idea on how to make money...!

[@sarahpeart6500]

She simply said it was no longer her priority because she has 3 children. I doubt her house is "messy" by any normal standard.

[@SwiftlyScrumptious]

I create beautiful memories by spending time with my loved ones, not by organizing my pantry:)) Well, who knows, someday organizing my pantry might be the highlight of my day, but not at this stage of my life 🙂

[@preetirath8774]

Thank you for this episode

[@priyankautharadhi821]

Palki love to you especially post babyur inspiration 🙏to many women ...and topics u choose matters most 💯💯💯❤️❤️❤️

[@ushasingh2414]

She encourages "donation", because she probably owns a thift shop $$$, ( surprised to see my neighbor Salvation Army store now owned by Chinese * yes they are making $$ on donated stuff, long lines witnessed at cashier)

[@isurugallage4444]

Simply the entropy.

[@talentday1972]

Glad to hear

[@GeethaNaido]

She just Mari Kondo’d her time. Since time with her children sparks joy…she spends more time with her children.

[@nikitamattikop2301]

It's good that Marie kondo is not obsessed with cleaning like OCD person and is giving time for her kids. This time is not going to come back in her life so she's really enjoying it!

[@decodingmyroot]

Organize but it should happen organically. 80% of things should have a place & 20% can be here & there. Plus if there is a gathering \ guests \ family visiting. Don't get anxious about the mess they have created. Let them be. You can always bring it in order once they leave.

[@dikku1609]

Actually some time we are wasting time to organizing so many things on daily basis but when I am not doing feel guilty , and my husband needed everything should be perfect. What can I do ,my helth issue increased I can't 5ake care my baby properly 🤔

[@sujathaontheweb3740]

This IS newsworthy!

[@poojagangwar9338]

Wow!! Palki is back

[@ABhattacharya]

For me, tidiness sparks joy. Nothing wrong in trying to be stay neat...

[@cleigh3796]

Honestly, I feel like if she can't stay tidy, there's no hope for me. I never did the thing where you take all your clothes or books in a pile and see if each one sparks joy, so I can't say I followed her method, but her books did teach me 3 things: realistically, if you own something and intend to get around to reading it wearing it, you won't. So throw it out. I also now fold my clothes vertically so I can see everything. And if something doesn't make you happy, just throw it out because realistically, you're never going to wear/use it (unless it's something boring that you need. I'm talking about clothes that I buy for the person I want to be, but that I'm not).

[@aparnaroy8814]

Children would have been traumatised if she practiced what she preached. It’s great to know that motherhood changed her so much . Also as long as one declutters regularly things will seldom get out of hand

[@ASmith-jn7kf]

They would have been traumatized by having a clean home??

[@aparnaroy8814]

@@ASmith-jn7kf not that but the process. Small children love to create a mess. My nephew would just fling everything from his toy crate . If my sister immediately put it back or reprimanded him I am sure he wouldn’t have liked it at all and thrown a tantrum. You cannot reason with small children

[@Smithpolly]

@@aparnaroy8814 Except there is a big difference between a child who has ten things in his toy crate throwing everything in it on the floor and a child who has a room packed to the rafters with toys throwing everything over the floor. A lot of people could make life a lot easier for themselves by reducing the amount of stuff they have.

[@AlphaSierra380]

Nice short topic. Loving the new avatar.

[@shyamalganguly3598]

Happy valentine's day to all of you and your acquaintances!

[@darnneljones6954]

Kondo... that's a prestigious family in Japan. 17

[@manashig1383]

She's made her money by hyping the idea anyways, it's like celebrities endorsing fitness ... So goblin mode forever 🤣

[@hunedmotiwalla5713]

Family comes First💕

[@JuhiShukla]

Her dirtiest home will be better than our cleanest! Marie kondo is a different level of cleanliness and tidying 🙏🏻🙏🏻😅😅

[@misssujakannan]

Welcome back sister!

[@shailajajambaulikar1558]

Palkiji you are good.

[@thedudewithvideos4899]

Dear First post, please change to Yellow color in the background or atleast keep thumbnail as Yellow. Blue is Gloom Yellow is Mellow

[@sudhak.r6243]

Definitely need at this point of time in the world where people are breaking their heads to be PERFECT in everything!

[@tinasindhu9358]

Hold your horses :))) her messy may still be super clean for many

[@amnahaque9058]

Need to share this with my husband who keeps demanding perfection. With my autoimmune condition, my energy levels aren't always 100%. Sometimes I am very clean , sometimes not.

[@LBINLONDON2010]

There is difference between impeccably clean house and unhygienic house. I feel people confuse both and use kids, life as an excuse. Having said that, keeping house tidy and clean is difficult when it is one person’s responsibility. It is the responsibility of every individual living in the house - even the kids.

[@prishaaneha]

So true....thank god I have a maid to take care of this mess..happy with my baby!

[@phackdaphish]

It's not realistic to keep a home neat and tidy with children. But her book is great and helpful to make your life easier.

[@appsups]

As a fan of Palki, I'm disappointed here. The way she let it all slip and not mention even once how influencer+media combo plays with people vulnerability on the both "ends". First this celebrity became a guru of tidying up and she is becoming a guru on "letting go". While we might not not no if this time also she is trying to play with people instead to being truthful. Instagram or othe app, they both are the sides of same coin. Keep people hooked. Take their time away. And once time is gone, what else is left. Why did Palki missed it?

[@kgomathireddy9051]

I've been on Goblin mode for quite a long time now. But, I didn't know that I must get prepared for social gatekeepers and preachers hating you to the hilt. Ah? As if you care. 😊 I used to follow the prim lady and I always liked her work and the way she is now... In India we just call it "acceptance." 😊