My Sister Is Manipulating My Daughter By Feeding Her Lies About My Wife r/Relationships

[@The.S.M.Evans.91]

Story 1: OP should have pressed charges. Why would you go through the ends of the Earth to defy your brother just because you hate your brother's wife?

[@maxsupernova]

Story 1: Toxic family is toxic. Like, how despicable are they?

[@streamerssaymyname]

Story 3, if you date a misogynist (and it seems OP knew it already because after his "estrogen" comment OP says this wasn't the first of that kind) don't be surprised he is a misogynist. I dumped a guy after he acted better than my friends just because they worked retail and he had an office job, I simply called him, told him I realized he is a dic and that we were over - he tried to act like I needed his consent to break up.

[@MargaritaOnTheRox]

Ha! You need 2 people for a relationship, but only one person to break up.

[@maxsupernova]

Story 2: Who the hell complains about free VIP tickets, unless he feels like she's making him look like less of a man?

[@ihatemegatron216]

At my work we have a saying. "Nobody complains about a positive surprise." If someone complains that they got something more than what they asked for, with a few exceptions, something suspicious is going on.

[@mindyschocolate]

Yeah, he sound like his stupid man card was hurt.

[@forgedinferno5033]

Did you not see the update?

[@Lillypop93]

@@forgedinferno5033 what did it change? Cause he apologized? So what? Continuing the relationship at this point is sketch af. His literal excuse was he was drunk and angry.

[@forgedinferno5033]

@@Lillypop93 well what changed is that he wasn't actually angry about the VIP tickets, he was angry about something else entirely.

[@zachf748]

Story #2 - The fact she stayed with him boggles my mind. One month in and he treats you like that all because you did him a huge favor? Even if his asinine “excuse” was legit, it was still a giant red flag and still way beyond unacceptable. He just showed how he handles fights, and that’s by getting inappropriately angry, not listening to OP to get her side of things, not talking it through, and instead just yelling at her and then giving her the silent treatment. Get out of that relationship.

[@kristinewatson3702]

The mother did not ABANDON her daughter. She is caring for her dying father. This is modeling good family relationships FOR her daughter. Sometimes we sacrifice things for family. It's a temporary situation and OP and mom need to make sure to have that conversation with their daughter and keep the entitled aunt away. My mom cared for her parents and they were close so I helped. When the time came I cared for my parents.

[@wmdkitty]

But she DID abandon her. Period. It doesn't matter how you justify it, that is abandonment.

[@nahbruh2613]

@@wmdkitty sorry nobody loves you but she didn’t. So sorry about your loss.

[@madarawijerathne276]

Yeah in this day and age with all face timing and few months of absence is no biggie.

[@amandacalder6007]

@@wmdkitty she did NOT abandon her, the husband told her to go look after her father in his final moments. They even went and joined her there later on. Abandon would be her leaving and never coming back for her. The mother’s father was dying and she wanted to spend time with him before he goes, also he is the last of her relatives is he expected to just die alone?

[@KE-hr4sb]

S1: Seen this story before, and nope. Someone kidnaps my daughter, they'll be lucky to find themselves still walking, let alone "maybe getting to see her for Thanksgiving." This should have been nipped in the bud the first time your sister made an off remark about your wife. S2: Some people need something to complain about, I guess. NTA, but dump a guy if he can't appreciate you trying to do something nice for him so long as it's not crossing boundaries, and this was so laughably far from that. ETA after update: LOL I did not see that coming! S3: Run, don't walk. He's shallow, disgusting, and not to mention, he's saying she looks 35 (as though that's an insult)? So, close to his own age? He's going to dump you once you "age out."

[@juanhaines7295]

Story 1 nta op should've got her arrested. She kidnapped their child. Don't forgive this.

[@thanos8077]

Agreed

[@sopadumacacoumadelicia5]

Yeah

[@Cassandra765]

Story 1: I think I'd just cut the whole family off if I were OP. If they can still call OP a jerk after Lindsey literally KIDNAPPED his daughter, they are just as toxic as she is and I wouldn't feel comfortable leaving any of them alone with my child. Story 2: Honestly, I think the only red flags are the people on reddit. Yes, the bf acted like a jerk and if he had doubled down on that behavior then, yes, I'd say it would've been a good time to drop him. But he didn't do that. He apologized, took full responsibility for his behavior and explained the situation. I don't see how this one slip up defines who he is. Unless those commentors can say with certainty that they never misread a situation and lashed out because of it, or acted dumbly while under the influence, they need to chill out. Story 3: Eww, OP needs to dump this dude. He's a misogynistic creep.

[@jimbobjones9330]

Regarding your point #2, I agree totally. I'm pretty sure that none of those people have ever been in a relationship -- or at least not a good one. I've been married for 23 years (in a couple of weeks). At times, I've been an asshole to my wife. At times, she's been an asshole to me. At times, we've both thought "why the hell am I with this person?" But those times are always fleeting, and you honestly and sincerely apologize and move on. Was the boyfriend wrong? Yeah, obviously, and he admitted it, explained the situation, and apologized. His explanation makes sense -- keeping in mind that he'd just seen a situation between two couples, and was in a bad headspace. For every idiot on that thread saying "you've only been dating him for a month", remember... he's only been dating HER for a month, too, and was wondering if maybe she was ultra-controlling person who wanted him and his friends under her thumb (which is an easy mindset to get into given the strip club issue. Keep in mind that the guys in that situation were wrong, but who goes to the strip club and throws a fit, causing the entire bachelor party to get shut down?)

[@WobblesandBean]

OP 2: Uhhh....why, exactly, are you with this guy? Even after the update, he sounds AWFUL. You're only a month in, ffs girl, run!

[@thanos8077]

Story 1: Op should've pressed charges imo Lindsey is POS who doesn't deserve a second chance even if shes on a best behavior op shouldn't have any contact with her at all no holiday visits etc.

[@ixxieangel]

File for a restraining order against the sister for kidnapping a minor child. Go no contact with the sister and any family members who support her.

[@hexgirl29]

For the last story, the first red flag was the age gap. Nearly 40 y.os have 0 business dating anyone under 25.

[@GiordanDiodato]

Why?

[@godking]

A lot of the time with such a huge age difference the older partner is deliberately looking for someone decades younger who they can manipulate and control

[@luciferandassociates9255]

Story 3: I can normally look past the age difference to alot of situations when all parties are consenting adults.... But like he was 15 when you was a baby... I could never.

[@xelectrix]

I'm 33 and the thought of dating someone 25 or younger makes my stomach turn. This dude is almost 40.

[@pickle_pup8187]

He seems like a tool

[@GiordanDiodato]

They're both adults

[@starbird3939]

@@GiordanDiodato he certainly doesn’t act like one. He sounds like a creep

[@MargaritaOnTheRox]

@@xelectrix When I was 35, a guy I worked with was interested in me. He was smart, sweet, great looking with a fantastic body, so I went on a date with him. It was like being on a date with a frat guy. I found out he was 25, and I was like, ok, he practically IS a frat guy.

[@Nikki_81]

Story #3: "I could tolerate it when it was directed at me" ..... WHAT??? Acting like that in regards to ANYONE is not OK EVER. Full Stop! No Excuses! This man is a man child who has probably used and abused younger women because anyone his own age wouldn't put up with it! Out the door he goes!!!

[@mimilapin]

I swear we gotta help fellow ladies value themselves more 😭 insane

[@TiBunCosplay]

Anyone who would "compliment" one person by putting down another is trash. I've been on BOTH sides of the situation. I have been used to hurt another person in a comparison situation. Where one of my at the time friends got compared to me and they were deemed the "ugly one" I was far more insulted than flattered. Likewise I have been deemed the "ugly one" when compared to my younger sister. (I was standing right there when it was said, so it wasn't even behind my back. Ouch. Double ouch that it was said by my at the time crush. Needless to say my teenage crush didn't last after that. In fact because my younger sister wasn't even in high school at the time I deemed him a total creep and made it a mission to keep him away from my sister who was very much too young for that creepy jerkwad)

[@Mama_Bear_of_3]

Story 3. OP, you ask if you should walk away from him. Well, his opinion is his, and I say don't walk away from him, instead RUN away from him!

[@pickle_pup8187]

Story 1 - the sister attempted parental alienation. This isn’t a typical one like you would see between parents or a grandparent and a DIL/SIL. The sister needs to be slapped with a restraining order if the sister presses it. She in a sense kidnapped the daughter. She did not have permission. Tell that to the flying monkeys

[@mizuria]

OP from 1st story really needs to sit down with his daughter and have a conversation about why Auntie is not a safe person to be with and why the things Auntie did have put Auntie on time out. Kid shouldn’t feel like she’s the one being punished because it will only driver her to seek the aunt later. It could possibly poison her in the future and make her resent her parents

[@icantchange.youtubesaysine7338]

Story 2 before update: I could love it if my partner gave me VIP upgrade. I freak and love it. Don’t know why he overreacted. Meeting the band would be awesome!

[@cgi2002]

Tbh his excuse would have gotten him barred from entry were I live. He was "already drunk and annoyed", you turn up and are noticably drunk, your not coming in. Hell its technically illegal (not many places actually enforce this rule) to serve/sell anyone alcohol to anyone who is drunk/visibly impaired. Infact that law is as far as I am aware, the case in large parts of the world. Also as he was drunk, it's not a good appearance for OP with her boss having drunks in the VIP area. Especially since drunk people can be very annoying, and allowing drunks to annoy the band is not a good move by a venue.

[@luckyassassin1]

He complained about getting free VIP passes? What the hell is wrong with that dude?

[@drkatbun8566]

Story two, I’m not gonna like group them all together, but if two of the guys didn’t tell their gfs about the strip club, and then got annoyed that “they were keeping watch”, wouldn’t it have been like fun teasing for the other friends who actually told their gfs, like “lol your grounded” and also even if op was keeping watch, it’s a vip arena and she’s a bartender not a server ??? Idk I feel like that one comment had the right idea and there were plans for something else.

[@damien678]

When it comes to kidnapping, blood relations matters as most kidnappings happen within families 🙃

[@TarynBell]

Story 2: Wtf is wrong with her boyfriend? Wow! He must hate you looking good in front of his friends.

[@gracecookie4604]

Story 3 let me go ahead and tell you your future having seen this first hand when my crap stain of a father at 49 married my 24 year old mother ya she was actually younger than his two oldest children they had me a year later. It was awful and I'm all sorts of messed up because of it. Here's your future he gets more and more controlling verbally/emotionally abusive will get you to have his kid so you feel trapped will turn psychically abusive till your so broken down and he has wasted all your best years isolating you all the while. Infact he's trying to now ripping on your sister is the start it's wasn't till I grew up and he tried to hit me. me calling the cops and mom telling them the truth he tried to get her to lie that she broke out of it. That she was free when he realized we more like me really weren't going to take his crap anymore he sent divorce papers. This will be you dump his ass and do better for yourself.

[@Lillypop93]

I'm furious for op in STORY 2 AND 3 even the STORY 2 update is unacceptable I hope she wake up soon and not years from now when he's telling her what he "will and will not deal with" Story 3 I'd have hit him the moment he insulted my sister but to each their own just glad she left

[@WobblesandBean]

OP 1: WHY ON EARTH DIDN'T YOU PRESS CHARGES?! She _kidnapped your daughter!_

[@nightdweller6446]

S2. Nta..the BF is off his rocker...not accepting VIP tickets as a gift? And going the angry phone call route? Yeah, nah...that is a relationship ender. S3. Dump the 38yr old manchild who is dating a 23 yr old. That age gap is telling. Women his own age recognise his true character and have hit the avoid . And he thinks he's soooo awesome for having a much younger girlfriend. She's an ego prop.

[@CanonSkyrissian]

story 3: dump him dump him dump him dump him dump him dump him honestly if that was my so calling my sister ugly I'd be facing murder charges

[@cianap.281]

"Eeew, I don't want VIP tickets to the band I love w/ all my friends, if it means YOU'RE going to be there!" I mean... if you don't want your girlfriend around, maybe don't have the bachelor party where she works? The explanation doesn't actually make sense (except being drunk and already pissed off causing irrational behavior, that checks out). I might give this guy a second chance, but I'd be side-eyeing him pretty hard.

[@mr.monotone1908]

i swear to god each time someones spouse does 1 tiny thing. Its RED FLAG DUMP HIM/ HER OP RED FLAG! Except story 3 that was just wrong.

[@taylorslade961]

Last Story: Thank the gods OP left that piece of shit. As soon as I heard the age gap it was a hard pass from me.

[@stephaniewilson3955]

You always round off the stories so we know what happened. That is so satisfying, even if some of the results are not great.

[@shells500tutubo]

Yeah, I just read story 2 on another chanel and it did not have any follow up and neither did the others when I know that they do have them on reddit. Lost Genre always has complete stories too.

[@nahbruh2613]

Have the sister arrested for kidnapping.

[@videofan1010]

Story#3: Ok but you're dating a predator. On top of dating a 23 year old he said that "looking 35" is an insult.

[@4Just1Girl]

First off, on the first story where OP's Sister manipulated the 1o year old to Sneak out of her home to go meet up with her....When OP found where his MINOR aged Daughter was--Where ever his Sister either Took her or they arranged to meet....When OP found them both together,.... First thing he should have said to his sister was, You Know because of your little "Trick," I can actually file a police report on you for KIDNAPPING MY 10 Year old DAUGHTER, RIGHT?? and then, Before she could answer, place a VERY QUICK 911 call to police and tell them HIS Sister ACTUALLY KIDNAPPED HIS 10 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER AND HE IS KEEPING HER SETTLED UNTIL THEY ARRIVE TO ESCORT HER TO JAIL!!!! Lindsey, seems to not have a damn Single working brain cell in her head!! You DON'T JUST TELL YOUR BROTHER OR SISTER'S UNDER AGED CHILD TO SNEAK OUT OF THEIR HOUSE AND TAKE THEM WHERE EVER YOU WANT!!!! AND IT DOES NOT MATTER IF YOU ARE THE CHILD'S AUNT OR UNCLE.... THAT CHILD IS NOT YOUR CHILD! YOU ARE COMMITTING THE FELONY CRIME OF KIDNAPPING AND CAN BE IMPRISONED IN FEDERAL PRISON FOR THAT!!!!

[@OneInAMillion31]

This is why I cut my sil out of mine and my children's lives. And though one will never know her, my oldest did know her but knows why she will never be their or their siblings "aunt" she's not family and has made it clear no matter how long I've been with her brother I will never be her family, but forces her boyfriends on everyone like they are family because she's dating them 🥴

[@owl7072]

Story 1: "You're choosing your _wife_ over _fAmIlY."_ yeah that's kinda how marriage works. Your spouse comes before everything, within reason of course, but you ma'am are nowhere near reason. I'm pretty sure you don't even know what "reason" even means.

[@HodajuciParadoks]

3. I hate those "compliments" that bring other people down to say someone else is better. That is the lowest of the low. I would not be even in friend relationship, not even saying hello, ignore ill mannered asshole.

[@WobblesandBean]

Story 3: Of course it's an age gap relationship. 🙄

[@toxicdotaep2890]

"Feministy Estrogen" is my next drag name

[@Lillypop93]

Lmao I had my gamer name as "feminist_trash" for a year after someone called me that online 🤣🤣

[@amandacalder6007]

Oo that sounds fun, what kind of clothing style would you use with it? I have only seen a drag show in person once and on tv many times (in person so much more fun) and I love all the outfits and creativity.

[@lasmirandadennsiewillja9435]

VIP Story Reddit:"NTA and you really need to communicate and if he doesn't have an explanation and doesn't apologize, that's a red flag" (or MaRiNaRa flag, as the so witty aita-parrots like to giddily say these days) OOP:"Update! We talked it out, he was really sorry, apologized, acknowledged what exactly he did wrong and why it isn't okay, he also gave an explanation on how things looked from his side, like, just one month in and it looked like I was controlling and stalking him, but he still said his reaction was wrong, so basically, a textbook apology and I decided to not break it off yet over one misunderstanding on both sides." Reddit:"Yeah, nah, he sucks, he is lying, has evil anger issues, he didn't rrrreally do this because things looked iffy from his point of view, he's just a bad abusive abuser who constantly abuses, his friend group also experienced one conflict which means they're full of drama (unlike us, we hate drama!!!!), well, if I were you, I'd break up forever!!!!" AITA commenters really hate it when people communicate and figure out things were a stupid misunderstanding, especially once they have already completely dehumanized and declared one of the involved as an irredeemable villain, don't they?

[@LayfonDragnia]

This par for the course with Reddit. Since the update wasn’t relationship ending, they gotta try and stir the pot best they can.

[@Cnichal]

His anger would have been the biggest issue for me. I don’t like people yelling at me and I don’t tolerate that shit, because I don’t yell at others. He would be out the door so fast, his head would spin. Especially getting yelled at, fueled by alcohol. That’s a slippery slope. Next he’ll only be hitting you, well because of the alcohol. It’s always something or someone else’s fault.

[@HackiePuffs]

Kinda makes me wonder what their love lives look like

[@yamairad1]

The thing is, they are in the lust stage where everything is perfect. If he is losing his temper now, over a gift, this could easily escalate to violence within a year. So, there is more reason to be worried about the red flag than happy she's ok with it now.

[@sfsin3380]

Except most of the comment on the first post are saying that he reacted was way too strong for what she did and it's a red flag. Your also confusing a explanation with a good explanation. His explanation was not good enough for how badly he reacted. What happened here It comes off as I was mad at someone else so I misinterpreted a harmless nice thing OP did and used it as an excuse to vent my anger at you. Like even with what he claims was he was told his jumping to OP a controlling stalker is a major overreaction to what he claimed he believed was happening.

[@yaqbulyakkerbat4190]

I really don't understand story 2. "How dare you give me an incredibly thoughtful and awesome gift!" His excuse still sucks

[@ComaLies225]

Is bf in story 2 serious????? If my SO got me VIP tickets to my favorite band I’d marry that person.

[@chicken7805]

Did u even stay for the update

[@Lillypop93]

@@chicken7805 "I was drunk and angry" is a pitiful excuse.

[@starbird3939]

@@chicken7805 yup and he still sucks.

[@datumzinememories]

Story 2 stag party. I always wonder why people get shocked their significant others get maid about strip clubs. If you dont do strip clubs typically or occasionally there is definitely not reason not to expect them to get maid when your do it for a stag and definitely fi you dont inform them. Also just because your friends got in trouble dont take it out on your girlfriend too.

[@loisfrancis7896]

Markee imagine all that toxic things we told to that child in front of the extended family and they said nothing and was angry at the Father for leaving so the family feel the same that is why they allowed the aunt to get away with it OP should have called the cops and make a complain against her some people need to be put in checked because they can be very distractive OP is very passive i would have read her her own dirty book . i do not play games that was so wrong of the aunt NC with her and if the family open their mouth NC with them also they do not like your wife either

[@notconvincedgranny6573]

Whew chile! Anybody who talked shit about my mom would get the Pokemon hands - catch 'em all!

[@shebakoby]

"Can be sweet but also acts like a douche" = I smell love-bombing narcissist behavior. OP should RUN, not walk away from that relationship.

[@heatherweir8726]

Drinking is fine but don't get so drunk you can't control yourself.

[@CroobieLetter]

Story 1: I kinda wonder what Lindsey told the family that they react like this.

[@amandacalder6007]

I wonder that too because it didn’t sound like they had a problem till after this incident occurred. Probably failed to mention the part where she lied to her niece that she was being abandoned

[@theroyalbugness]

OMG two videos from Markee??? How did I get so blessed?? 😎😎😎😎💜💜💜💜

[@powellmountainmike8853]

As regards int backstage pass and the drunk boyfriend... OP should ditch him... "IN VINO VERITAS."

[@mweathers79]

S3: OP must be really insecure if she’s dating a guy 15 years her senior. Very insecure and controlling.

[@Dira7411]

I got one word for story 2 “BYE”

[@Spgzay]

I'm scared to sneeze the wrong way It may be a red flag

[@jenniferg2771]

Same about the sweet little children.

[@candiebarr6745]

Op should have called the cops to go with him.

[@Shyrden1]

Story 2 - just throw out the whole boyfriend girl, it’s gone rotten!!!!!

[@dianaibarra]

Your voice is so soothing, I love it 💕

[@manxiefeathermoon9888]

Story two: if you need to go to a strip club, stay single. That's not right and disrespectful towards your partner. It means you need to look at other naked bodies. My husband and I don't go to strip clubs. I don't look at naked men and he doesn't look at naked women. We have respect for each other and the concept of monogamy

[@Taecoconut]

Story 2 - red flag still. The guys are so much drama. It basically shows that the guy group is known for cheating

[@spacelady4935]

That very last comment. 💯

[@poohbear4515]

The last one got to me. I’m by no means “pretty”. My lil sister had all the looks and practically had several guys around her in school. I barely had anyone, I did have two friends, but I think they tolerated me cause I have autism and didn’t know how to understand then. I had a crush on a guy in high school and he said no cause I wasn’t as interesting and was too old for him. He was around seventeen and I was sixteen. I didn’t know that she actually heard him and said nothing. But I found out he actually tried to ask her out. She told him “Sorry, I don’t date insensitive jerks who see girls outside than inside.”. We didn’t get a long well, but I’m glad she had my back behind the fights.

[@javajoe5479]

Love that Golden Girls episode.

[@boi1796]

Last story: not gonna lie I used his line before but I simply said it differently in a joking manor. Till this day I say it and sometimes I’ll tease the sister but they know its all in good fun. However, I would never say “your feminist estrogen” or whatever bs he tried to pull.

[@manxiefeathermoon9888]

What is with man dating woman a decade plus younger? Because women his age won't put up with his shit.

[@patriciaalastre2546]

Story 3: boyfriend is a groomer

[@damon19751]

Story 3: when he was 20, she was 5. He was 30 she was 15, creepy

[@mriddley]

Story 3: (hears title) sorry op I think your mistaken you mean ex-boyfriend right

[@peterasbjrnhansen2834]

Cougars are trippel creepy

[@cynicalminion]

yeah, if the "stag do" was a multiple night thing, i FULLY understand them just trying to "get on with it" and then being told that yet ANOTHER girlfriend is going to be "taking care of everything" if they go backstage... dude overreacted, but it sounds like this is WAY less of a red-flag situation than it's being made out to be. and i can't even put THAT much blame on the friend that talked to them... i know that i'm (more often than not) guilty of "that sounded SOOOOoooo much better in my head"... granted, communication is good, but they're arriving at the venue and the gf is at work, one or both aren't going to have the time or ability to talk... btw- arguing over text is just BEGGING to misinterpret the nuances and make it worse than it needs to be... hindsight being 20/20- text the bf, saying your boss has extra VIP passes for them, and your friend from work is gonna find them and let them know about the upgrade...

[@bridgetdebourgh5698]

Hey Markee have a good night 👍 Have a great day/night everyone 👋🤗

[@margaritap.9459]

Is 3rd OP dating one of those alpha man podcasters? Because it sure sounds like it...

[@josepherhardt164]

19:48 "Should I walk away from this relationship?" Walk? Get a frikking motorcycle. Jesus. 23:45 Yeah. You need to be at least 40 to be able to have an intelligent conversation. Sex doesn't supply all needs. (only semi-sarcasm, folks!)

[@starbird3939]

Story 2 Do you really want to date a guy with AH friends?

[@axepagode33626]

LOL! Dump the Leonardo DiCaprio wannabe before he dumps you? Or .... recognize your value and get what you can. If you don't get paid, some other woman will. You've already spent the time and gave him what he wanted. It's time to get paid.

[@wmdkitty]

S1: Are they really lies, though? Wife _did_ abandon her. Wife is clearly not prioritizing Daughter's needs. Her father could, and should, have been moved to a care facility.

[@shells500tutubo]

Why should he have been moved toa care facility when his daughter wanted to take care of him? The only thing I would fault the parents for would be mot temporarily moving there like they ended up doing.

[@amandacalder6007]

@@shells500tutubo right?! Like this has to be a troll comment no one in their right mind would call a mother visiting her dying father in his final moments “abandoning” her child. Like did she miss the part where the husband told her to go be with him in his final moments, that this is the last of her relatives? This person sounds cruel and heartless to think that the father should be left to die alone, goodness forbid her parents get sick apparently she will cut them out of her life. Also what “needs” is she not prioritizing? Think we found Aunt Lindsey.

[@co7314]

So..... I........ Wow. You're a real asshole.

[@pippo17173]

I'm legit wondering if the sister have a brother complex. I am legit worry that people like this are ignored and never got therapy for it.

[@pyro014]

Reddit doing Reddit, come on not everything is a dump worthy red flag. Also they communicated and resolved the issue, why is Reddit still saying it is a red flag. AITA commenters really be out here trying to stir the pot for more drama reads

[@starbird3939]

Story 1 Take Rebecca to a therapist.

[@amandacalder6007]

@Gi Gi It’s possible that maybe a therapist will be able to explain the situation better while also helping her see that none of it is her fault. I saw one when I was a kid for an event that happened and she was helpful in explaining that nothing that was going on was my fault and would talk with me all while playing a game or coloring a picture so that it was helpful but also comfortable and I could speak freely about how I felt without worrying about hurting anyone’s feelings, it made me feel a lot better. Also sometimes parents have trouble finding the right words to say and in this situation all the adults are angry and she is caught in the middle, having that safe space and an impartial ear might be helpful to let her express her own feelings.

[@amandacalder6007]

@Gi Gi wait which story are we talking about? Rebecca was the name of the 10 yr old daughter in the title story were we not referring to that one?

[@amandacalder6007]

@Gi Gi oh no worries I had to go back and listen again too just to be sure lol

[@gloriaknight4098]

She would be able to anyway.

[@darkage1524]

Story 2 feels wrong even after the update i have cheater vibes from all the guys including the boyfriend sure his response sounds natural not wanting interruption to his day with friends but you don't blow up that badly he was likely cheating and didn't want to be caught

[@shells500tutubo]

He is just like his friends. If you really don't like your SO's friends, especially their best friend, you need to look at that, because they likely have the same moral compass, or lack of one. Your SO is just hiding his behavior better.

[@c.d.4319]

Story 1: I feel like we're missing information between the wife and sister. There's a reason she hates her. It doesn't come from nothing. The wife probably sucks, but that is just me speaking from my own experience.

[@amandacalder6007]

I have had some experience with my siblings having awful SOs too. However, there isn’t always a good reason sometimes family members just don’t approve or like their relatives SOs. There are lots of stories about it where they just don’t like them or want them with another specific person or they don’t agree with things like lifestyle,looks,views, job..etc. There are some who do have good reasons but it sounded like only the sister had an issue and the family shrugged her behavior off. No one tells a child to their face that their mom abandoned them when really she only went to go see her dying father.

[@c.d.4319]

@@amandacalder6007 I'm not saying that the child should have been told that her mother abandoned her, but I still feel like op was painting his wife in the best light possible while putting his sister down. No one has to agree with me, but seriously, who is going to say the wife is a ah when she's off caring for her dying father? He couldn't have drawn a sharper contrast if he tried. "My wife is a saint. My sister's the devil.. a-am I the ah?" 🥺

[@amandacalder6007]

@@c.d.4319 seems like quite a lot of stories are like that lately I could be wrong but feels that way

[@jessicadias5014]

Story 1 ESH. Not for going no contact with the sister, but by acting in such a way with the 10 year old that she probably thinks it's her fault when it's anything of the sort. OP handled it in an extremely poor way when it came to talking to his daughter.

[@PrincessLioness]

That’s what I thought as well, but op said they explained it (simplified for children) to their daughter, but their relationship was strong. As the commenters said op should have never allowed them to bond, so this wouldn’t have happened.

[@jessicadias5014]

@@PrincessLioness This has the potential to turn really bad when the daughter turns 18. I hope this doesn't come back to bite OP and his wife.

[@PrincessLioness]

@@jessicadias5014 Agreed. But op said they are going yo give more details when she gets older, so I hope that doesn’t happen.

[@Dohyden2]

That rebellious rocker persona is so annoying where they shun everything nice because it's something they don't normally have "If we wanted to be boring VIPs"... seriously? grow up and take some initiative and don't throw away a good thing.

[@Warbles_]

Yayy Markee!! :DD

[@candiebarr6745]

Are strip clubs like, brothels or something?

[@brandygiovinazzi3460]

👋👋👋

[@princess__blueberry1775]

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