My Boyfriend Is TORMENTING ME With His DANCING And Isn't Happy I RETALIATED r/AITA

[@OriginalAsherella]

OK, when we got the response from the boyfriend I felt a physical relief to know that he broke up with that soul sucking nag. Being disabled is no excuse for the way she was behaving. He was more than accommodating and deserves so much better. Chick… She is doomed unless her attitude changes.

[@robertx8020]

I fear that she can't live with ANYONE so they should split! Even if it was solved THIS time I feel the next time comming already! And it seems OP is still in denial!

[@DrownedInExile]

After the key-hiding, b/f should have thrown her mooching arse out right then and there! Glad he's out of the FOG now. Hope he can get her out before she trashes the place.

[@juicedieman1052]

I was scared that the boyfriend would have to rent a garage to work in away from the house.

[@roelthas]

I really hope for a further update from the bf to confirm he finally got rid of her.

[@sgm8265]

I wonder how hard she has tried to get assistance. If she has been diagnosed it shouldn't be that difficult. She doesn't mention therapy or medication so how much is she trying to help herself? It sounds like she is basically relying on the kindness of strangers. Well, is expecting others to care for her and pay her way. It is hard for her living with him. Ok. But she doesn't seem to acknowledge the strain on him having to support and live with her.

[@RosesCookiesAndMilk]

“I asked my boyfriend if I am abusive. He said no, so there’s that” Yes cause people who are abused will always call out their abuser. Most victims don’t even realise they are victims till after they have time to process it.

[@jbgra2566]

Yup, exactly what I was thinking. Like an abused person will say "yes" if their abuser asks this question

[@Dani.J.]

My immediate thought. People stuck in abusive relationships dont make a habit out of actively calling out their abuser to their face. I had a cop AND a therapist both ask me within 3 feet of my abusive boyfriend if he was abusive. You mean this man right here that I am going home with, alone? Nope, not abusive at all.

[@l.michelle3497]

Yup 🙏

[@icewolvz6977]

also like... who straight up tells their abuser that they're abusive? 9 times out of 10 that would be INCREDIBLY unsafe. of course he wouldn't say yes to her face even if he WAS aware of the fact that she was abusive.

[@tamsel814]

@@Dani.J. that's such a stupid manner of them to ask you that question. How could you have felt save saying anything but no when your abuser is right next to you. Shaking my head.

[@magicmiya7545]

“My boyfriend won’t light himself on fire to keep me warm” - OP needs to grow the F up.

[@kbf9644]

She just kept trying to reword her post to make people feel the way she wanted but it was just the same awful over and over and over. Between family, fiancé and Reddit, everyone told her the same thing and she STILL wasn’t hearing it and thought she needed to say it all again so we’d see it her way. She’s blinded by herself and by a significant martyr complex.

[@itsjustmaddisen]

@@kbf9644 And she still made herself look like a dickhead lol.

[@nationalsocialism3504]

"My boyfriend lit himself on fire for me and it's not warm enough or bright enough for me... why is he such a piece of shit?" would be an more accurate assessment of her insanity

[@noxiouschocolate9644]

I guess op calling bf dancing and mouthing lyrics, with headphones, by himself while he’s *working* a “party environment” should have been a red flag

[@jessicarichards6796]

If he was eating instant noodles in the kitchen she might call it a “restaurant environment.”

[@thatlycantomboy]

no kidding. i was so ready to be sympathetic and on her side, b/c constant “party” elements (I was expecting lots of alcohol and/or drugs, blasting music, large gatherings, etc) stress me the hell out, but… he is dancing with headphones. i can’t imagine what it’d be like for someone to tell you to stop dancing in your own home

[@JeanyyBee]

Right I was looking for these party elements the whole story

[@davak72]

Yeahhhh. She said “blasting music”, and I was like, ok, that could be painful if you’re really sensitive to sound. But then she said “on his headphones”, and it just hit different

[@Spikey28879]

@@jessicarichards6796 v

[@aikikaname6508]

Also got to make a note that when she sought help she didn’t describe them as ‘jobs I cannot do because of my disability’ but ‘jobs no one would ever want’ - meaning she COULD do them but feels entitled to other people providing for her and being her caretaker. And that big about ‘I’m sorry for the disabled people who have to work through the pain’ about no doubt the disabled commenters who work hard to manage their disabilities and live productive lives as if that shouldn’t apply to her too… ugh!

[@Emily-ck9ji]

Thank you! I caught that in OP's wording and was hoping someone else would notice as well.

[@vanzy01]

👍

[@justaperson4656]

idk, a lot of the time they go hand in hand. I can't work retail because of my anxiety (which is recognized by my government as a disability, ik that isn't the case in some places) mixed with autism. Too many people sets off my anxiety, and the bright lights, constant humming, etc, sets off sensory issues, causing me to scratch/pick at my skin until it bleeds and causes me physical harm. It's both a job I cannot perform without causing myself harm, and a job that nobody really wants/aspires for

[@ArcticFFox]

@@justaperson4656 i am like that too, however I do think that she is being a spoiled "brat" here about this. I worked a grocery store job for a week, it was horrible and i quit. yet I'm still on the job search for other jobs no matter how unpleasant. I create a list of things to avoid and I keep looking for work. She from the looks of it hasn't even tried getting a job once. It sucks, but it's our job to make sure we get a job that meets our specific requirements. If we can't find that, then that's how it goes, but not looking for any jobs because "waaah i'm mentally disabled" is not an excuse. ESPECIALLY with her type of disability.

[@jimbobjones9330]

​@@justaperson4656 Right, but I assume when someone asks about it, you wouldn't immediately frame it as "a job nobody wants". You'd frame it like anyone else as "a job I can't do because of..." Framing it as "a job nobody wants" is just saying "I CAN do it, but I don't want to do it, and who would?"

[@kbf9644]

I have sensory issues. They’re called that because it affects your senses: see, hear, taste, smell, feel. Not because you can “sense” what someone is doing in a room you’re not in when you see, hear, feel or smell not a thing, you “just know they’re doing something” that would affect you IF you were present. 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@jimbobjones9330]

Well, see, I'm sorry that you aren't good enough to have EXTRA-sensory issues! She's like Professor X, but only in the most obnoxious, terrible way.

[@jgw5491]

Yeah. And okay, she has to bear these sensory issues for twenty seconds each way while getting to the bathroom. Waw!!

[@lilianavarela7439]

Or the yard Bc that’s critical to living don’tcha know

[@sargampareek2774]

@@jgw5491 no, she said that she can sense him dancing even when she can't see him. So basically anytime he is in his studio, that's a problem. Another thing she said that I lOvEd is that she is getting jobs that no one would like to do. 😂🤣 She is entitled.

[@theexplara]

tbf with my worst triggers i can feel it after moving away from them so i believe it’s possible. obv that doesn’t excuse how she’s acting cause dealing with sensory issues like that is wrong and it is the persons responsibility to find better ways to cope.

[@OfficialPixieR]

Story 1: YTA... I have autism, major sensory issues. While i find it hard to work most jobs, I still work so that I can have my own space to avoid being over stimulated. You not liking your partner's work habits is all on you. Stop hyper fixating on them and find healthy coping habits. All hear are excuses. The world doesn't doesn't revolve around us because we're disabled. And no one should ever be manipulated because you can't be bothered. You're entitled! Here are solutions: Move out Wear headset or read a book while he works Get a skill to work in library STOP BEING A B*TCH Update: I'm happy the BF spoke his truth and left. Damn. She wanted everything and gave nothing.

[@l.michelle3497]

Thank you for putting this in much better words than I managed . I flew off in a rant

[@Telenaus]

this! @Genseng thank you

[@debrasedgwick4697]

I have a child with sensory issues, some she has outgrown, some she still has. One is certain textures of food. She used to HATE rice but did not mind the rice in sushi. Now that she is 16, she likes some rice dishes, but I cannot get her to like couscous. But she has never asked me to not cook something just for me, because she can't stand it. Since she has an IEP, when noises are too loud at school, she puts in ear buds and listens to music while doing her schoolwork. The whole class does not have to be quiet to suit her. She works around her sensitivities and does not expect everyone to stop what they are doing. I will admit that when she was younger, it was harder for her; but she would talk to the adults around her, and they helped her with solutions. She worked with other people. It sounds like OP/the girlfriend was not able or just plain refusing to get help.

[@MrJpaynebb]

It sucks that OP's sensory issues are that overwhelming but the boyfriend is right, she's doomed. Either live alone or adapt to live with others. The boyfriend bent over backwards for months to accommodate her but nothing was good enough. It's unfortunate they have to end but this is clearly setting himself on fire to keep her warm and it's still not enough for her.

[@niyablake]

She needs to me in a mental ward then

[@madisonkirkpatrick2618]

I think this person is extremely entitled, and needs to move out. This coming from both a disabled person and one with sensory issues.

[@Taizu314]

As a neurodivergent individual with sensory issues I co-sign this.

[@madisonkirkpatrick2618]

@GuardianDarkness honestly, that’s the BEST question ever! I have 2 jobs, pay rent, have a car, AND am going back to graduate school!

[@niyablake]

If her issues are that severe, she needs to be in institution with every thing tightly controlled

[@madisonkirkpatrick2618]

@@niyablake that’s what I was thinking. Like, if she’s that bad. She shouldn’t be living in an uncontrolled environment.

[@niyablake]

@@madisonkirkpatrick2618 It's also telling that her parents sent her to live with her sister and her sister booted her

[@beansquee2383]

Jfc. The first OP’s boyfriend needs to escape. She “doesn’t feel safe” because he mouths words to music and dances quietly around the room while working??? Then posts again because she didn’t get the answers she wanted the first time. I’m glad Reddit told OP what is what.

[@jimbobjones9330]

I loved the thought process of "Ok. So I'll post again, rewording it so I sound like the total victim asking entirely reasonable things. That'll get people behind me!" I'm surprised we didn't get a third post: "AITA for not wanting to be hit by a car? My boyfriend listens to music and dances silently on his headphones two rooms away from me. This affects me so greatly that I may as well have been hit by a car. AITA for not wanting to be hit by a car that this evil man is driving just for my illness?"

[@formershadow]

JFC indeed! This is the biggest load of crap I’ve ever heard!

[@kitiskitkat]

I have a diagnosed sensory processing disorder and I acted like that towards my brother when I was 8. Past that I learned to cope. She needs therapy. And when she asked her bf "am I abusive?" Ofc he'd say no! Abused don't always know they're abused

[@JSainte17]

Omg listening to Markee with his ridiculous "I DO understand where you're coming from..." Like, did you read a different story? Do you not speak English?

[@videofan1010]

The man has to work. I would put anyone out who prevented me from working.

[@lenax9798]

I am disabled and have sensory issues. I am also someone who dances and sings. I am also a crafter. I work on cosplay and if someone would prevent me from going to my project, I'd kick that person out. Boyfriend should kick OP out.

[@pansprayers]

Yeah, she's got issues, but you also need to remember that you being disabled also means that you know exactly one person with disabilities. I also have disabilities, but expecting someone else to operate at the levels I'm capable of (including you, and I'm in a wheelchair off and on due to two congenital issues that weren't diagnosable until I was into my mid-20's because science wasn't advanced enough until then), raging allergies, a full on cardiac condition (or four) and have raging sensory issues myself, and short term, I'd likely run circles around you) is ableist as hell. OP and the boyfriend need to break up, and you need to stop using, 'as a disabled person' as the lead in a fucking argument, because it immediately nullifies anything else you have to say.

[@BenKonosky]

Well, in the update from the bf, they did break up.

[@JustAnotherBuckyLover]

@@pansprayers Yep this. If her ability to function is as poor as she says, then being in this relationship and living environment isn't tenable, and she needs to find somewhere that is, or get support to help manage her needs. It's so hard for so many disabled people, especially in the US, but I've experienced so many times where other people use their own experiences to decide that my experiences are OTT or I'm exaggerating because they are just as bad as abled people are with their ableism, if not worse sometimes. I don't necessarily think that giving your experience from the perspective of being disabled is bad, but using it to undermine other people's disability without even knowing the true story is harmful AF.

[@JeniKayla]

TBH, if she is so dependent and can’t live on her own and everything bothers her…maybe she should be under a limited guardianship and/or live in a specialized home for individuals with *severe* sensory issues….

[@morphinpink]

True, but there's no social safety net so such services are likely unavailable and inaccessible to her so she's going to move on to someone else.

[@pansprayers]

Apparently you don't know how that works in the US. My cousin's kid will never operate beyond the level of a three year old. She's been on four waiting lists (all that are within a 200 mile drive) to get in 'a specialized home' (it's called assistive care, by the way) since she was two. She's nine now, and maybe, if she's lucky, there *_might_* be a slot before she turns twenty-one. Because these places aren't warehouses, have state and federal laws surrounding staffing, and frankly, are underfunded. Getting on disability, and this gaining access to a whole 15 therapy sessions a year takes an average of 5 years for a visible, physical disability. It took six for this kid, and she gets the bare minimum payment for anyone - 632$USD a month - including what OP looks forward to (before, of course, and care facility takes all but 50$ a month to cover room and board, but not clothing, sundries, and other items). What blessed planet do you live on where you think that this is even an option for 3/5 of Americans who need it? Because I know at least 50 people who want to move there.

[@icewolvz6977]

@@pansprayers THANK YOU. all of the people in these comments and the comments in the video have no idea how truly hard it is to be disabled in this awful country. "get help!" they say, but when you try you're shamed for just being lazy, accused of faking, or straight up denied. I empathize with op on that because it's so much harder than it needs to be, but that doesn't make her situation anybody else's problem, unfortunately, especially when they've already tried to work with her on how to make it better.

[@niyablake]

@@icewolvz6977 I lost empathy for her when her response to suggestions is I can't do that my BF just needs to stop dancing . She came off as an abuser / It's also telling that she just kept on making a new post when she did not get the response she wanted. If op does not want help or thinks they need help there is nothing else to be done

[@vanzy01]

@@icewolvz6977 having a hard time getting on disability has nothing to do with how Opie treating her boyfriend in overall self-absorbed behavior and action. It's much easier for her to misuse and abuse her boyfriend as a caretaker than to fight for her rights as a disabled person. And I'm supposed to feel sorry for her because she can't get government benefits when she don't even put in the effort. And before you come at me I know how hard it is to even get the benefits, to fight to keep your benefits, not just me but they're putting other people in my family who are also on government assistance who have to fight to keep them and that was a long journey too.

[@starbird3939]

Boyfriend - NTA He has an entitled, abusive gf. All of her issues are suuuuuuuper important and must be respected-but boyfriend’s anxiety and depression? He has to keep it to himself.

[@wolfwhistlewoowoo6297]

She sounds like a complete nutjob controlling psycho and needs a reality check.

[@hookerhands]

BUT SHE HAS SENSORY ISSUES!!! /s

[@axepagode33626]

WTF! He is silent while he is working and listening to music on his head phones and this is freaking her out? Holy crap! You two are a terrible match. She moved into OP's home and work studio and freaks out when he works. You two should not live together.

[@Symos]

Apparently to her that is a "party environment "

[@HeoBaby24]

And that she can "hear the music" Like bruh your making this man lose money and the fact that the boyfriend made a post JUST LIKE wow

[@marcissmiley3131]

The update to story 2 was so fake like why would he even mention he’s cheating on her if he wanted to plead his case to stay with her or even mention that he wasn’t really allergic to dog. All these things wouldn’t make someone want to stay with a person, and the part about him being a predator where in the comments was that even mentioned and how did she come to that conclusion. This is a classic case of deflection and the part about him finding the post I find it hard to believe that he would be angry she posted it especially since most of the commenters were on his side therefore proving his point. What I really think happened is that op wasn’t being validated and need to make herself look better by making the boyfriend look worse which obviously the commenters noticed and didn’t back down from their opinions that op is the ahole

[@LayfonDragnia]

I think what makes it even more likely is the “pouring a jar of pasta sauce in the sink” comment she made. Like that would spite who, the ex(?) who is concerned with being called a predator or the Redditors telling her she was wasting food.

[@jimbobjones9330]

For sure. I'm sure there was a "predator" comment or two (she was 17 when they started dating, IIRC, and he was 20), because there's ALWAYS someone willing to go to extremes over gender lines.

[@joycec8]

Story 1: "I asked the person I'm abusing if I'm abusing him. He said no, so that's that." LMAO, she's delusional

[@jimbobjones9330]

I asked the person who I hit with a baseball bat a few times if I hit them with a baseball bat. They were unconscious, but I'll take their silence as a "no".

[@lisawhereisthecultjam]

Story 2: dad wasn’t washing those noodles off either.

[@Dusk.EighthLegion]

"I contribute emotionally to the relationship and household." *How does one go about contributing emotionally to a household? When you're cleaning up do you call it a good little house, and scratch it under it's eaves?*

[@RockyGems]

Right? Negative contributions don’t count, OP!

[@vanzy01]

👍

[@ashh4929]

But cleaning doesn't make me feel saaaaaaafe! 🙄

[@aikikaname6508]

Yup, I was expecting her to AT LEAST say she hoovers, mops up, makes salad or SOMETHING. But no, doesn’t do chores and says in her values only things like emotional support should count in a relationship, while meanwhile expecting her partner to feed, clothe, house her and be her caretaker…

[@jgw5491]

@@aikikaname6508 She didn't even mention *love* as one commenter noted, and her boyfriend walks on egg shells and is berated constantly. That doesn't sound particularly emotionally supportive to me.

[@Gale_Storm_]

Story 2 is a clear case of someone being stuck in a way that they grew up in, and they never bothered to think about or question it. "Essence of Tomato?" Just blend a tomato and dip the noodles in the juice then. Don't waste good sauce. Is it even spaghetti at that point? Why bother?

[@MeloraCarabas]

It's homeopathic tomato sauce. The more you dilute it, the stronger the essence becomes. /s

[@susan7775]

@@MeloraCarabas 😂😂😂

[@jimbobjones9330]

Odds are, her dad did this once or twice when she was small (she didn't like the sauce, so he rinsed it off), and then told her that's what he was ALWAYS doing when he made pasta, because when he told her he made her "plain pasta", she whined that it didn't taste right. When in reality, the dad never rinsed anything off, and just lied to her dumb butt.

[@kyriacarica5862]

“I contribute emotionally to the relationship” I’m sorry, I laughed so hard. It just screams “I contribute absolutely nothing so I have to make something up so I don’t look more like a deadbeat than I already do” Anyone else want to bet those “sensory issues” are self-diagnosed?

[@blix_xo]

I asked my screen "what the heck does that mean?" Contribute emotionally. So, nothing? So your issues are so heavy you can't do anything such as cooking, cleaning? Keeping yourself involved. Not once did they ever say anything positive of what they do to make it better, only gripe about what he does. Honestly people are going to burn out fast with this behavior. Sure, they can't help it but there has got to be some way to remedy some things.

[@jimbobjones9330]

You don't know me, but three weeks ago, I saw one of your posts, and thought "I hope that Kyria Carica has a good day today" Since I contributed emotionally then... you're going to need to pay me now. I take Venmo and gift cards.

[@thatonearoace]

@@jimbobjones9330I was amused when I read this, and since I emotionally contributed to the amount of people you’ve made amused you can just give those gift cards to me

[@wraith176]

Holy crap this is the worst type of person. Victim mentality to the max. If they really have sensory issues as bad as they say it’s their responsibility to take care of it. No one else’s!

[@vanzy01]

👍

[@AngryReptileKeeper]

@@Azulakayes An institution.

[@somebody4952]

OP: I contribute emotionally to the relationship and household. Yeah, *negative* emotions!

[@ChefDuJour78]

Oh no, man cannot even dance in his own home while wearing headphones? Nope. Girl, you better learn to live alone because the world doesn’t revolve around you. Making people live on eggshells around you isn’t going to work.

[@Girlsauce333]

Yeah this girl is lazy and is using him to get her needs met and to have somewhere to live. It’s all about her. She is so selfish.

[@fufufuaru]

gee, I wonder WHY op's sister suddenly pushed her out of her home 🙄 edit: AYYYY nice to see an update from the other party. Yeah, NTA, some people need a good dose of reality check. Disabilities don't excuse you from that, especially when she has refused to get help. Good for him for separating from her.

[@videofan1010]

So "sudden" right lol? The sister was through 😂

[@tomfoolery342]

Story 1: I felt drained listening to OP's restrictions, nagging, making excuses, and listing problem after problem with no reasonable solutions for her boyfriend. I was exhausted!!

[@juicedieman1052]

And I feel like I want to peel my face off listening to this. I'm so relieved for the boyfriend that he got out of this relationship.

[@sinbingaming4419]

Also "I asked him if I'm abusive and he said no" of course someone being abused isn't going to tell their abuser that they're an abusive. MY GOD.

[@alexlibby5087]

1st story: YTA So entitled. I have both CPTSD & Chiari’s malformation (plus IIH & PCOS - im in pain from one or the other or a nasty side effect of meds that dont get along) Ya being disabled in the US SUCKS. But as we can all see this is beyond ridiculous - the poor BF sounds like he cant even breath the right way without triggering her undiagnosed and untreated conditions Go get diagnosed, go get what treatment IS available, and get disability if its really that bad (or some of the income some of us have found from home or less triggering) and DONT LIVE WITH A PARTNER. She clearly cant handle living with people. Some people do not want help and just want to be able to abuse others with their difficulties; Every single excuse followed by another

[@vanzy01]

👍

[@nyxx5357]

"I asked him if I'm abusive, and he said no, so there's that." What the hell else was he supposed to say?! "Yeah, actually, you are. ...Wait, what are you doing with my keys?" That reminds me of abusive people that hit someone/scream at them for hours, then scream "WHY ARE YOU CRYING?!"

[@robertx8020]

Or "why are you pointing that gun at me? " ;)

[@Raaslen]

Story 1: YTA, it's one thing to require accommodations, everyone deserves that much, but for OP to want that her BF go as far as not even moving his lips while he listens to music is ludicrous. OP doesn't want her issues to be accommodated, she wants to dictate how her BF lives out of her convenience despite the fact that it affects his life negatively. Accommodating one's issues is finding a middle ground, OP only cares for her issues, OP is just a narcissist.

[@aikikaname6508]

Yeah a reasonable accommodation would be for OP to knock when she needs to go through there and he could stop the motions until she’s out. Honestly I don’t think she’s got her conditions managed well enough to live with anyone

[@vanzy01]

👍

[@creedom5676]

She needs to live ALONE!!!

[@vanzy01]

@@creedom5676 we all know why she don't want to live alone. If she lives alone no one will be there to pay her bills.

[@AngryReptileKeeper]

@@aikikaname6508 "a reasonable accommodation would be for OP to knock when she needs to go through there and he could stop the motions until she’s out." Even that's not reasonable. She can't deal with the unpleasantness long enough to pass through?

[@lesliet8387]

Story 1's OP is a soul sucking vampire (lol Collin Robinson). She's done nothing to better her situation other than expecting everyone else to accommodate her. No therapy, no medication... hell, she hasn't even gotten a diagnosis. The excuses of 'but money, so I can't' are bs. She has no income, she would be provided with state/government care (I know this, I've been there). All we are hearing in this is 'I have a problem, I will do nothing about it, and you must change your life to make this easier for me'. Yuck.

[@vanzy01]

Pour one for the boyfriend's house and dignity 😔

[@potatoempress5731]

Agreed with your 1st take. I can't imagine being with someone who has problems with me doing something that insignificant. World doesn't revolve around OP, she's gotta learn how to adapt bc different people will react differently to her disability. Sounds like she's not learning her lesson by the 2nd story sheesh she sounds exhausting. She's also messing with her BF's livelihood!

[@lilianavarela7439]

Yes it does. Didn’t you hear her update? 😂

[@maxsupernova]

Story 1 is a level of entitlement that even leaves narcissists asking what is wrong with OP.

[@grimlingLennie]

Story 2 :"He didn't like being called a predator and I was starting to think Y'ALL(!?) had a point about that..." "Also, he's not allergic to dogs, he just doesn't like them😤!" Lol, where did those come from? Apparently there's more lore to the plain spaghetti saga.

[@LA-mz1dd]

I was wondering about that. Like he's a predator for lying about not washing pasta. I call BS

[@CandaceDreamer]

Yeah, also I feel like markee would have read at least one comment where someone mentioned him being a predictor since she mentions it in the update. Sense he didn’t, I’m guessing no one did and she’s lying. Markee seems pretty good about finding those kinds of comments. I’ll often be like : was that relevant? And then it actually comes up later somewhere else so I’m like : guess it was.

[@genesisshort3097]

The fact that OP didn't name any specific disabilities except "sensory issues" leads me to believe she has none and everything is in her head.

[@lilianavarela7439]

This. I really in my heart know that she made this whole thing up. She’s stupid as hell too “I feel unsafe when he mouths lyrics” Dumb b.

[@KaileyB616]

100%

[@Ghostcyborg71]

Agreed, also the way she describes it affecting her sound like no other disability I have ever heard

[@zapheil]

@@Ghostcyborg71 It sounds like synesthesia to me, actually. If seeing his motions makes her brain make her feel like she’s doing the same motions, or making her having to resist a compulsion to mimic the motions, I can absolutely understand how that would be exhausting. I think her symptoms are legit, she’s just not taking the steps that she should be taking in order to get it under control - that’s where she crosses into the territory of being a jerk to everybody around her.

[@sandihyperaktiv7460]

It could be autism or ocd honestly. Autistic ppl tend to have those sensory issues and it basically feels like physical pain, but it's hard / impossible to get diagnosed as an adult women. Ocd can come with hallucinations and a strong feeling of something being wrong, which can lead to anxiety and panic attacks. There is also legit a disorder which only focuses diagnosewise on sensory issues. If you don't know what your talking about please inform yourself instead of spreading misinformation! Not excusing her behaivior btw! She needs help from an actual therapist!

[@lydianelson7737]

OP is absolutely TA but the phrase “tormenting me with his dancing” is kind of hilarious

[@jimbobjones9330]

The rhythm... is going... TO GET YOU!!!

[@pixiewixiechu]

"I asked my partner if I was abusive" that's just stupid. People don't typically realize they're being abused in a nonphysical way until the relationship has been over.

[@LadyBern]

Even then with the way she is likely she didn't ask and just said it to validate herself against everyone calling her out when she came looking to be pitied and maybe get a GoFundMe while shaming her ex for not being a good little robotic servant who works and lives just for her.

[@johndoekinnie9467]

OP acts like these issues do not exist outside of her partner's home and that her partner should be a still robot with no enjoyment in life. I would hate to see the abusive behavior she'd have if she dated someone with tics, she would probably tell them to stop their tics when she's around because it affects her disability.

[@justtowatchvids569]

Story 1: YTA. omg the denial and not taking accountability. It's everyone else's fault. She sounds like someone who makes up disabilities and hardships so she can abuse others without worrying about others retaliating because "she can't help it". Sensory issues do exist but yknow what people do that have them with a partner that doesnt? They compromise. I doubt the op has such issues, and just saw trigger words in Disability Bingo to pick and choose from that gave her the most control over people without altering her own abilities. Live alone until you can learn the world doesnt owe you anything.

[@vanzy01]

👍

[@vuyelwancube9538]

Caregiver abuse, by patients especially domestic situations, are the worst.

[@JustAnotherBuckyLover]

Eh, they are shitty AF, but I think abuse of the disabled person by the supposed carers is at least as bad, if not worse. Then again, I'm not really into playing the who-has-it-worse olympics, either. All abuse is messed up.

[@josephtucker7181]

"I contribute emotionally" this made me laugh she is delusional.

[@HomoSapien-z5q]

She does contribute With emotional abuse

[@fiyahquacker2835]

As if it's not something everyone does by definition in an EMOTIONAL and possibly physical realtionship.

[@lasmirandadennsiewillja9435]

It's not an impossible problem without a solution. It would work for Miss Precious McHurtyfeels if he looked for a job outside the house that earns him enough money to keep or improve her desired lifestyle, leaves in the morning after preparing breakfast for her, stays away all day and comes back in the evening to clean and cook for her and give her just the right amount of emotional and physical attention she demands. If not needed, he is free (= obligated) to go into his room and do whatever as long as he doesn't impose on her by making any noise. No friends allowed because it triggers disability #7, going to friends not allowed because it triggers disablility #9 1/2, no arguing or talking back or looking sad because it triggers disabilities #4, #12-26, and the ones whose last digit is a prime number. Sounds like bullshit? Yeah, to reasonable people but for this character, it's probably the dream.

[@rinpaisys]

As someone with severe sensory processing disorder adjacent to ASD on the hyper-sensitive side who shuts down and has panic attacks (that cause me to isolate for days to weeks at a time on a regular basis) from sensory overload VERY easily, OP in story 1 is full of sh*t and needs to accept that they are, in fact, the AH. They should get therapy to help them cope better, not put the burden on everyone else to just stop doing normal things.

[@starbird3939]

Story 1 - YTA x 2 OP’s accomadations are beyond outrageous and her actions can actively affect her bf’s livelihood. Boyfriend NEEDS these clients, as they pay for his apartment that Op is staying in. Also policing what he does in his studio is abusive. OP’s disabilities are being used as a crutch and fuel for her entitlement. She needs to better manage herself or GtFO.

[@grimlingLennie]

1st story: the bf feel so guilty for finally standing up to her, you poor compassionate soul, please get this woman out of your life, she's leaching of your generosity and empathy, yet still isn't satisfied despite you bending over backwards for her pet peeves. Have some respect for yourself and cut her out, otherwise you're just enabling her "helplessness". 2nd story: the father probably lied(joking) to her about rinsing the pasta sauce

[@aluralovell6829]

Yeah I don't think he was joking if he did that her entire life growing up with him. Maybe it was a joke at first, but at a particular point it becomes a lie, especially when you see she believes you, and trust me there is no way he didn't know she believed him after 18 years. My mom was the same way, she'd make a joke about making us cajun chicken when really she just burnt a few pieces (not to the point of being inedible just that they were a little darker than the rest), us being kids and never actually having cajun chicken thought she was serious and when she realized that she told us the truth that is was just burnt. 18 years is not an accident, 18 years is not a joke that is a lie at that point.

[@grimlingLennie]

@Alura Lovell I was just trying to figure the dad's thought process, joking as in they'll figure out it was a lie eventually, but when they didn't he wouldn't admit it, some parents love bamboozling their kids.

[@jimbobjones9330]

@@aluralovell6829 Here's what I think happened. - They made pasta with sauce once day when she was a kid. She didn't like the sauce, so the dad rinsed it off. Maybe did it another time as well. - One time, the dad said he made her plain pasta since she didn't like sauce. The OP whined that she liked it better "the other way -- with the noodles rinsed off". Maybe this happened every time the dad tried to make her plain pasta, because OP seems entitled and spoiled. - So then it became a long-standing lie because OP is _clearly_ unhinged. It just became easier to say "Yes, idiot... I mean OP, I rinsed your noodles" while in fact the dad did no such thing. Can't really fault the dad when this post makes it clear how OP reacts to things. The father probably would have gotten accused of child abuse and CPS called if he didn't lie about rinsing the noodles.

[@cindykq8086]

That woman is so focused on herself that she feels entitled to ruin her boyfriend's home and livelihood. Her disability is utter pathological selfishness.

[@de9722]

Lmaoooo "I contribute emotionally" girl that's all you have to say for how to you contribute to a relationship? And so far you, with what you've written..you have not done that. LOST ME 🤣

[@aikikaname6508]

I mean, she has no job and is around the house all day (complaining). She couldn’t cook some meals, cobble together some sandwiches for lunch?

[@logan64528]

I'm dying at the "I'm contributing EMOTIONALLY to the relationship and household." Like say what? What does that have to do with literally anything? It means she's not contributing in any other way than making her working boyfriend a slave and making it so he can't work since she refuses to get help for her issues.

[@oliverspencer2411]

"To all of the disabled people who commented about work, I'm truly sorry you have to work while suffering through your pain, and that it's made you lack your compassion for others" excuse me what? Thats honestly the most uncompassionate statement I've read

[@linneaandersson6469]

Yeah. Story one is pretty bad on the op’s part. I come from this as a person with ADD and quite severe anxiety. I also struggle with somewhat severe sensory issues. The story is taking that shit too far. I struggle a lot with the sound of electricity. But when I sleep at my boyfriends place I don’t force him to turn all of his electrical items off before sleep(like I would do at home). I wear headphone even though it’s uncomfortable as balls. Because That’s a compromise that I can easily do. The op in the story is taking too much space and giving the boyfriend none. That shit don’t fucking work.

[@corissawhite7616]

You are willing to compromise, which is great, and makes for a healthy relationship. The OP makes demands of others and says nothing of what she is willing to do to accommodate the boyfriend's needs. And frankly, her reported level of functioning is so low that she should be in daily therapies and treatment. If she can do nothing, then she needs to get help.

[@linneaandersson6469]

@@corissawhite7616 yeah exactly, compromise is what drives relationships in most healthy ones at least XP. And yeah the op would definitely need some serious therapy if the function levels are that low. I know I did. Therapy helps a lot with that type of stuff even if it isn’t the direct thing you talk about. At least that’s how it was for me. Me and my therapist talked a lot about how to deal with my anxiety in very stressful situations. And the sensory issues and issues that would come because of them(chronic headaches) lessened to such an incredible degree. The op really just needs to get serious help. Because abusing people you supposedly love is not the way to deal with your issues.

[@KaileyB616]

For some reason I can't stand having the TV on when I'm trying to fall asleep, especially at a loud volume - but my boyfriend is the exact opposite. So I either wear earplugs or earbuds to bed (for some weird reason I'm fine listening to these kind of videos as I fall to asleep). I used to wear headphones but as you said, it's horribly uncomfortable. I can't recommend enough getting a pair of earbuds instead, or they even sell sleep headbands with little speakers sewed inside that go over your ears. You should definitely check them out.

[@linneaandersson6469]

@@KaileyB616 hell yeah I will! Thanks for the advice! I’m similar with the tv lol. Can’t stand the light of it lol

[@justine8387]

She doesn't want a boyfriend she wants a carer and person to support her.

[@KE-hr4sb]

S1: Sorry, but YTA. I get it: my three kids are autistic, and they each have very different things that bother them. However, their therapist told me something that I still remember to this day. For a little backstory, my first two (boys) were non-verbal until they were four. My oldest and I worked SO HARD to break the language barrier for him, and finally, finally, finally, we got to where we could communicate and understand each other. Instead of praising me for our hard work, the therapist looked at me and said, "You've taught him to communicate *with you.* Now you need to teach him to communicate with the rest of the world." OP, you need to learn ways to cope with your sensory issues in a way that does not control the people around you and take away their freedom. If a stranger on the bus has headphones in and is mouthing to the music, are you going to demand that they stop? You need to learn to refocus somewhere else: Maybe look away (I know I hate people that say "Just don't look," but really, that's kind of the easy fix, here), or start watching Netflix, distract yourself from the thing he is doing that sets you off. Side note, Markee, I think she said he *bluffed* that she was going to make him lose a commission, which means he lied about it to manipulate her. The manipulation and lying aren't cool, but the possibility stands that it could happen if she keeps stealing his keys. OP's second post: YS(till)TA. It's not "your house" just because you live there. You don't work, he owned it before you moved in, he still pays the bills. "You contribute *emotionally* to the household?!" Omg, that one really set me off. You are extremely entitled, controlling, manipulative, and abusive. He can get a damn dog for probably a lot cheaper and less work than you! You're a leech that gives disabled people a bad rep. My aunt was born without hip sockets (among other issues), and still managed to work even though walking (and driving) were incredibly painful for her. I'm Aspergers, dyslexic, and ADD (or ASD as it's all called now), and I worked since I was eight. There are things you can do from home (especially in this day and age), but you've just thrown your hands up and said "I can't, cause I'm disabled." Bf's update: NTA/JustifiedAH. She needed to hear that harsh reality, because she has been taking advantage of every single person she's lived with, and made you walk on eggshells *in your own home.* She's also attempting to guilt trip you into taking care of her for the rest of her life, both with the "you caused deep trauma" and the "I'll be left homeless if you don't let me live here!" bs. Is she getting therapy for her issues and "trauma?" Because you can't help those that refuse to help themselves. Or, set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm. Run fast and far, BF, and don't look back.

[@tamsel814]

That therapist may have been tough but it's a very valid point. A parents needs to prepare a kid for the world they will face as an adult. That will include communication with more then a single person. That said establishing successful communication even if its just between the two of you is a big step and should be celebrated.

[@KE-hr4sb]

@@tamsel814 You know, it definitely hit my pride a little bit lol because we worked so hard, to the point of tears trying to understand each other. But I took a step back because, in the end, both the therapist and I want what is best for my kids. Thank you. :)

[@Aulern]

In the most bluntness of ways for 1st OP, it's literally put up and shut up or be homeless. Which does OP prefer? If OP's bf doesn't get clients, who’s going to pay rent? Bills? Food? OP's gonna make them both homeless.

[@jessicarichards6796]

The op in the first story doesn’t say she was ever formally diagnosed with any conditions. Than the update from her boyfriend is just really telling. She would always find something wrong, no matter what changes he made. I feel bad for him. He was trying to take care of her and he was abused. He was at his breaking point. She’s been emotionally manipulating him the whole time.

[@vanzy01]

She doesn't know what she wants.

[@Callimo]

Sounds like a covert narc to meeee 8D

[@NavyWavy69]

Both of these OP are wildly unbelievable. Can't imagine dealing with either of em!

[@Dani.J.]

I half wondered if the woman from story 1 found herself a new boyfriend and a new 'issue' and moved on to man/post number 2. ..I mean.. being able to *sense* someone dancing in another room, AND essence o' sauce on your noodles? If they are 2 separate people, they should date each other.

[@WobblesandBean]

"My boyfriend says I'm not abusive, SO THERE." Omg, OP 1 is _insufferable._ Typical self-diagnosed fragile little Tumblrina who is always the victim and expects the world to bend to her every whim. I really hope that poor man wises up and dumps her.

[@holly3102]

Story 1 reminds me of the story about the women that lives in an apartment and the women living below her works from home and she becomes obsessive about how the woman had the audacity to work when she is home lol

[@ergotempusvernum]

What made it worse was that the woman complaining about the woman using the apartment as a studio for her business was also running a business (mlm) from her apartment.

[@Mama_Bear_of_3]

Sensitivity is definitely an issue with people. Those who suffer from it, it can be debilitating. My son has audio sensitivity. So after trial-and-error we found a solution. He wears headphones when things are too loud, the type of headphone that 1 might use when they're mowing the lawn. OP needs to find a way to to work on Her issues. It's not fair that she is trying to turn her boyfriend's life upside down because of her disability.

[@jimbobjones9330]

According to the OP, what your son _should_ do is tell the entire world to be quiet. Problem solved!

[@amandasunshine2]

Wow story two they are both horrible and deserve each other 😂 I was legit expecting her to talk to her father and him to tell her the truth "yeah I just never put sauce on your noodles"

[@fiyahquacker2835]

I wouldn't be surprised if she lied and the ex actually initiated the breakup and she decided to make up typical responses of an op that got roasted but never brining up the original issue and how wrong they were.

[@CandaceDreamer]

@@fiyahquacker2835 def what I was thinking too

[@elizabethvalenzuela4425]

The second story….holy crap! Lmao!!! Went from he didn’t rinse the noodles, to “he cheated and lied about being a pharmacist who can’t afford the apartment!” Wtf?! Man, this is some high school bull crap! Fake soap opera drama. Wow!

[@jessielee3187]

She is lying lol

[@icewolvz6977]

story 2: this story is so funny I'm sorry. she has no right to be mad at him, he was obviously right. and he IS allowed to make things easier on him and also not waste food. she was still enjoying it so... ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ also kind of off topic, but that first comment lamenting about wasting food is going wayyy overboard. i hate this 'there's starving children in Africa!' type thought. food is wasted by the tons every day. use your energy getting mad at those big companies that actually have an impact rather than somebody wasting something as simple as pasta sauce every once in a while 😭

[@aluralovell6829]

I don't know I feel she does have a right to be mad at him. It's not exactly her fault she didn't know that she was eating plain noodles all this time, that's her dad's fault. Also I don't really see this as much different as any other story where you tell someone you don't like something and they lie to you about what they fed you to prove point which in any other situation they would be the AH for that, it's not so much about rather she enjoyed it or not to me it's about the lying and the mocking. I mean rather he was right or not, who would want to be with someone who treats them like their stupid instead of just saying "Hey, I think your dad has been lying to you this entire time, try these plain noodles" Now admittedly she did lose me in the updates, but you have every right to be mad when someone lies to and mocks you.

[@jessielee3187]

@@aluralovell6829 she isn’t a reliable narrator. Keep this in mind and listen to the story again. I don’t believe her and I think she is saving face.

[@sophdog2564]

Okay so for the boyfriend's post, I think it's funny that he said that none of his friends are neutral enough to judge, when clearly none of AITA is neutral enough either after the girlfriends posts

[@TheLugiaSong]

Sensory issues are a _bitch_ , I can relate on that. Reasonable accommodation should be expected, but she is very unreasonable. If you're that bothered by other people existing, live alone. The boyfriend sounded super nice, I have audio sensory issues and I wouldn't even ask people to use headphones (just keep volume fairly quiet) so he went above and beyond!

[@julias2855]

I’m listening to this playing the worlds smallest violin. Wa wa wa. My husband has lots of sensory issues. We compromised. He helped me pick perfumes we both like. We use captions on TV if it’s too loud. He understands I like scents in my home so he picks up the candles he likes. His preference is NO smells but he understands its soothing to me. I use headsets a lot too. This helps at work so I can jam there too. Compromise. Edit: I choose to compromise. He adores me & so so sweet. I could not lose him because of some things I feel I could change.

[@Loganstillman]

Story 1- I went through 9 years of being mentally manipulated by my ex wife. This story triggered some of my own trauma. The poor me I need you to do this for me mentality does a lot of harm in the long run.

[@kateemma22]

I hope that boyfriend dances his way to safety. Post update: oh good, he did. Dance on, king.

[@Conimon]

Story 2: after the update I have a feeling that the original post had lies in it as well I believe that the boyfriend let it slip instead of exposed it like it was some major exposed moment

[@shadowkissed2370]

The fact that no one realized that it was not about the sauce in itself is disheartening.

[@TheSignGuy1234]

Story 1: ex girlfriend is TA To quote the famous saying "Don't lite yourself on fire to keep others warm" Theres a line between making accommodations and being abused. At somepoint she needs to actually try to take steps to control and manage her disability, not shove that task onto everyone else

[@itzlexxii]

First OP- entitlement at its finest. I hope the bf got her out of his house and life. You deserve so much better than this woman. She brings nothing but stress, entitlement to your life.

[@krystencabbage1032]

Imagine being so bad that redditors comment about you on unrelated posts

[@tuxedopenguin8953]

I laughed when I read that comment comparing her to the OP in the first story. 🤣

[@incineroar9933]

Music Girl x Pasta Girl = OTP. They deserve eachother.

[@gcarr1089]

Story 1 - OP needs to get therapy. OP needs to get their own place and move out of boyfriends. As far as her boyfriend goes he should get her out, OP is only interested in herself and is using him.

[@toshi9742]

Bruh I have sensory issues and someone else dancing/mouthing along to music has NEVER bothered me- I even do it myself. I know everyone’s different but this just sounds like OP is micromanaging and ‘needs’ to be in control. They can’t seriously make us think they never discussed the living arrangements before moving in. That and the fact that they’ve gone into someone else’s home and feels entitled to own his home. It’s disgusting and perhaps OP should stop making excuses and actually do something- I mean if they’re so unwell that they cannot work or handle someone else working they should not be in a relationship. The way they said ‘I asked him if I’m abusive and he said no’ was disgusting. As if they’d admit it to you or even perhaps not understand themselves what is going on because OP has them hostage when it comes to holding him responsible for her wellbeing. Like yikes.

[@vanzy01]

👍

[@jgw5491]

I'm sure there are kinds of sensory issues that could include active motions and floor vibrations being troublesome. BUT. An adult gets the professional support to function and not expect the other person to do all the adjusting. The boyfriend is well out of that relationship. If she has been in three living situations that failed the problem is HER.

[@toshi9742]

@@jgw5491 exactly.

[@JustAnotherBuckyLover]

@@jgw5491 To be fair, it's not always easy at ALL to get the support and help to function as an adult, it's difficult, expensive, and very often (especially as an autistic adult) almost impossible to get. The US as a whole is woefully bad about supporting people, especially those who are diagnosed later in life, and it can be almost impossible to access the care and support you need. That said, she's still in the wrong for expecting the impossible. I'm autistic and I absolutely find some other autistic people's stims overwhelming. But that's where you either find a compromise or understand that you have to change your situation. Nobody should be asking contradictory, impossible standards and then getting emotionally abusive or manipulative when the other person inevitably fails to live up to them.

[@HoneyBakedHamlet]

Story 1: As someone who also has autism and sensory issues just like the OP, I can relate when it comes to strangers in my home. BUT The OP is being super controlling and uncompromising. She made another post because she doesn't want to be wrong. She made those AITA posts not asking if she's wrong, but so she could find people to validate her instead. She knew what he did for a living. She knew that he had clients come to his home, before she moved in. She's definitely TA. And it's a bit much that she doesn't want him dancing around while she's not even there. I get triggered by knocking, tapping and whistling. Does that mean that my husband can't do any of those things ever? Does that mean that our kids can't do any of those things ever? NO. Because that's controlling and extremely unreasonable. I recognise my own issues and that when someone does those things, it's ME that has the problem with someone else's harness behaviour and I need to get a grip on myself. Yeah, sometimes I will say 'hey, can you stop that?' But I don't try to force anyone to live how I want them to just because I have sensory issues.

[@MizTameRumors]

2nd OP is being a child. He's been giving her plain noodles and she didn't even notice. Her dad probably didn't do this nonsense all the time either.

[@anitastafford6617]

OP can't have pasta anymore. Her father probably didn't put sauce on her noodles for her either. I'm skeptical of the update.

[@mom2kleeandemma]

That lady in that relationship is insane... she is crazy man couldn't even breath in his own home

[@DarkwaveMistress]

Story 1: I feel sad for him, he did a lot to accommodate her and they couldn't reach an agreement. His reaction is understandable. She is still disabled, and it's also sad that she can't be as well as possible in every sense. She definitely needs to help herself before she anyone can help her.

[@pansprayers]

She needs to be allowed access to services to make this manageable so she can help herself (even then, she's only going to get a max 700$ a month and 15 therapy sessions per year if lucky, after at least a five plus year fight). She's not in the right here, by any means, but the people who think getting on disability with even a blatantly obvious physical disability in the US is as simple as asking are extremely naive.

[@DarkwaveMistress]

@@pansprayers Not American so I really don't know how it works in the US, thanks for explaining! Here disable people get around the same amount but I believe it's trimestral. Sucks. And yeah, I'm not saying that she has it easy, she definitely needs resources and care. I meant more that unless she sees she was in the wrong, people will keep walking away from her. I can definitely understand that she must be frustrated and angry, but dumping that on people who are trying to help isn't right. But, as a poor person I know that sometimes you KNOW you need therapy and you just can't afford it and it's super frustrating. If you don't even accept you need therapy, you just make everything even harder.

[@incineroar9933]

Ah yes, the abuser asking the abused if they feel abused and trying to pass off being told 'no' by their victim is actual evidence.

[@whimsicaltitan]

Story 1: YTA. I understand her condition but her bf was using a headphone and just mouthing the lyrics. Losing commission because of her cause "I wanted peace" what a prick.

[@troubleinthevalley5884]

When they said party atmosphere and then started on with that story I totally thought that the party atmosphere story wasn't coming until later. That is so ridiculous. It is absolutely not the same as having to hear somebody listen to music first of all, second of all you don't have to watch, third of all aside from going to use the bathroom why do you need to have her around there when he's working? Why can't you be in another part of the house when you're not using the bathroom? This just sounds so spoiled and entitled and childish. Then you have the gall to take his key so he loses money by not being able to work? Who's going to pay for that house you live in if he continues to lose money?

[@brat8360]

Story 2- definitely esh. If you're that insistent on having it done a certain way, stop being lazy & do it yourself. Your bf has a point. You didn't notice, so obviously it's all in your head. The bf should have been upfront from the start. As someone who struggles paycheck to paycheck to make sure my kids & I have food in the house daily, you are rediculous

[@parkerpenafiel9014]

I love that instead of pointing out there are much more reasonable accommodations (like headphones) people jumped to “you’re faking”. The problem is that op is insisting on being accommodated over their boyfriend, not that they need accommodations.

[@RedCharizar]

But the boyfriend was using headphones

[@Alissandre_Iskander]

Story 2: ... I almost feel like she made that up to deflect from her embarrassment of really eating plain noodles.

[@smh4960]

That last story updates made me think that my brain shut off for a whole other post

[@SutapaBhattacharyaKolkata]

I feel so sorry for the sculptor boyfriend 😞

[@mewlover2482]

I've never seen someone so dramatic enough that they'd call lip singing and slight dancing as a "party house". Pathetic.

[@dorothyj1304]

- fantastic story's- thanks for the deep dive research to find boyfriend's question. I had a friend who weaponized their disabilities thus becoming victum of the world until .. they actually have to do something then poof - suddenly the impossible is done .. very frustrating as you really want to help or be helpful and they become a giant black hole of "new needs" that forever guils you and sucks out the life force out of everyone they meet .

[@97scarletwitch]

"Mmmmm, bland, flavourless noodles. Delicious!" 🤮 She's probably one of those people that eats chicken with no seasoning. Gross.

[@wmdkitty]

OP is not disabled, she's just entitled and controlling.

[@theunknownone5663]

🙀 op is disabled she suffers from Karentisum.She was born with the mental illness of "everybody owe her something" and "get me your manager " syndrome. It is very real. Her delusions is at a very high level. She is high functioning entitlement. She won't stfu until she gets her way.

[@Reality_TV]

Story#1 - Everyone needs to leave SEPARATELY! They should NOT live together! OP = YTA! The guy is just living his life, but she is not able to live comfortably with him. I've never seen anything like that. I would be so incredibly mad if she took the keys to my workspace! There would be no peace if someone did that! She has to go! That studio pays his rent and living expenses! PERIOD!

[@ErdriedDeirdre]

The 1st story is an incompatible couple. They probably won't last.

[@kmbaldwin5325]

So, OP has sensory issues to the point where she is bothered by someone wearing headphones and silently singing along, can “sense” when someone is silently dancing around in another room, doesn’t feel safe having other people in the house, but also can’t live alone due to these same “sensory issues”??? I’m calling BS. She sounds more like a control freak who needs to have everything her way. Someone her age with legitimate sensory issues would have learned how to cope or would be in some serious therapy.

[@T_P_W_ThachoZenjuan]

1st story- YTA... can you be any more entitled? Just because you have sensory issues does not mean the world has to bubble wrap for your comfort, including the people you live with. There are plenty things that we can do to cushion ourselves to the sensory issues instead of making everyone else around us mold to our needs, making their life miserable too. Control freak much? -ASD/Neuro Divergent

[@BlondeEyes7]

This all reminds me so much of my former roommate. When someone needs this level of accommodation, they need to be cared for by professionals. Living with someone who expects you to accommodate extreme sensory needs constantly while they contribute nothing is incredibly draining.

[@renaeodonnell4558]

I was waiting to see someone link the gfs post to the bf in the first story

[@mellodees3663]

S1: This person doesn't sound like she has sensory issues. She has control issues. It sounds like she cannot tolerate not controlling everything and everyone around her.

[@brittaniharold1880]

She made up her diagnosis.

[@dmikewilcox]

Sensory Issues: These are very, very real and can cause issues every single day. You can not just medicate all of them away, though the right meds can help you cope. I am autistic and have dealt with sensory issues my entire life. Yes I work, but it took me decades to be able to handle working without having breakdowns. Overstimulation is horrible. Someone with it can not just turn it off, and more than you could turn off being gay. Still she is the a-hole big time. I live with a neurological wife. She accommodates me, but if I pull shit like this she tears into me. If I don't accommodate her when she needs it (being a lazy spouse because I the neckbeard is strong in this one) then she tears into me. She has made me a better man by not putting up with my shit.

[@RealengoPrimordialDemon]

Poor boyfriend, he's such a simp, she wouldn't last a week with me.

[@AJ-qe5xj]

#2… why can’t she rinse her own noodles if she needs them prepared so specifically

[@simac8396]

So is OPs Boyfriend supposed to sit in the corner 24/7 completely silent and motionless? You do realize that his art studio is how he earns his money to pay for your lifestyle.