I Accused My Wife Of Cheating After Her Medication Went Missing And It BACKFIRED! r/Relationships

[@DragonflyandTheWolf]

"No one is that ignorant." And yet we have men who think women can control their periods like they control their bladder.

[@fallingawayfromthenorm]

I had an ex who not only thought menstrual blood was urinated out, he also thought the urethra was between the v*gina and an*s. 🤦🏼‍♀️ (Censoring in case YT could flag this comment for being “inappropriate”)

[@arianebolt1575]

@@fallingawayfromthenorm According to my pelvic therapist (turns out that's a thing), most people of any gender cannot easily find the female urethra. There are also a lot of misused/misapplied terms.

[@streamerssaymyname]

​​@@arianebolt1575 a pelvic therapist isn't strange but it's a step in a better direction than the old idea of not beliving women when they say it hurts or explain that the bible dictates they are supposed to be hurt simply for being born female.

[@ndawn90]

​@@arianebolt1575 I work in healthcare, and you would not believe the number of adult women, some of whom have even given birth multiple times, who don't know where their urethra is/that is a separate opening to the vagina. To the point of thinking that having a catheter inserted was somehow going to hurt the baby because they thought the catheter was going into the vagina. I actually find it sad more than anything, because it's really an indictment of the education system and the complete lack of comprehensive sex education. Because sex education is about so much more than having sex, it's also about the anatomy and physiology of the reproductive systems. When people say that sex education should happen in the home and come from the parents, I just think about all of those women who don't even understand their own anatomy and think, How are they supposed to give their daughters the correct information when they clearly don't know it themselves?

[@kasugaifox8571]

Some dudes think that tampons go on the bladder. Like, they think it's the same hole.

[@SiFireHasSpeed]

I’m so incredibly tired of this “don’t speak ill of the dead” thing. OP said he felt bad because he only saw his BIL “for his mistakes”. Those “mistakes” hurt op, his wife, his family. That hurt, that pain, that trauma he inflicted does NOT go away just because he’s gone. If anything it’s worse. Everyone in OP’s life failed him. Edit: HOLY HELL THAT TOOK A TURN FOR THE CLIFF

[@atqmra13]

The problem is kids don’t come out the womb as addicts. They are a child/ adolescent before drugs come in to play. That’s who you get attached to. Then the drugs take over. It’s entirely possible to mourn who the person used to be. The person who may very well still be alive. But is doing the bad things. Been there. Done that. I have a brother who was a terrible addict. The only reason he isn’t on drugs anymore is because he OD’d but didn’t die. He has permanent brain damage.

[@SiFireHasSpeed]

@@atqmra13 So sorry you had to go through that. I still fail to see how the development into the addiction has to do with holding someone to the anguish they’ve caused. My uncle is our resident drug addict. I have countless stories of his duplicitous behavior that have left literal and figurative scars on my entire extended family. He was at once a good person and they already mourned that loss because all that is left of him is someone who hurts them over and over. I see no excuse to “forgive” (forgiveness requires an agent to apologize) the dead. That’s just my perspective.

[@shadowkissed2370]

As I told my husband when his father died, putting the dead on a pedestal does nothing for the dead or the living. He was having a very hard time working through the abuse and everyone was telling him don't speak ill of the dead."

[@thatonearoace]

If the dead don’t want me to speak ill of them, they shouldn’t have done ill.

[@dre1978]

Same. Yeah people aren't 100% bad all the time and addicts were once children/teens but that doesn't mean they weren't a shit person. Addicts do nothing but bring pain and heartache to their families but when they die no one wants to talk about the bad things, only the times they were good because for some reason they feel guilty for pointing out a dead person was an asshole. If you're a recovered addict that's different; if you die an active addict I'm not going to act like you never did anything wrong just because you died due to your addiction

[@helenegrootenboersecondant5474]

Story 2: wife was so focussed on birthing a better version of her brother, she was never able to accept her daughter.

[@EIizabethGrace]

Yes, honestly! It sounds like she wanted a coping mechanism more than a kid. Idk if it was all unresolved grief or if she was naturally selfish enough to do this - I would assume a mix of both - but it does sound like she saw her daughter as a project/tool. My guess is that’s why it was so easy for her to leave, too. By that point, her daughter was probably either to be left behind as part of a failed attempt at a family that hadn’t worked out and now came with a bunch of baggage, _the_ failed experiment - whether the mom had expected the poor kid to take her grief away, bring her happiness or purpose, to reincarnate her brother and live his life as he never could, or whatever else - or the thing keeping her tied to OP and their family, and therefore away from starting a new life - a new coping mechanism or distraction from her grief, or even an opportunity to have a baby with of the right sex and with the right name. All three kinds of mindset are actually sadly common, and they’re perhaps most tragic when it’s parents who think that way about their kids.

[@hannahlovescats91]

@@EIizabethGrace I was thinking it's because she thought it was a boy and was disappointed it was a girl so she didn't get her "brother" back and dissociated from hubby and daughter.

[@Wander85942]

Story 2- honor what? The brother was an abuser, the baby isn’t his redemption. Even he was a person who lost his way, sure. I don’t believe death absolves abusive people.

[@thanos8077]

Exactly

[@MountainPearls]

If it had been the drug related stuff…I wouldn’t mind. It’s a disease. (Not that it absolves crime). But abuse of children and partners? NOPE. I think naming him after her brother is more about giving the brother a second chance at a good life…a replacement…and not an individual with their own identity. Glad they got a therapist. But the fact she couldn’t communicate that when brother died is telling…the fact it was a girl is kismet! And the next update…WTF! Clearly there is a mental health issue in that family (and she is having some Post Partum Something. He needs to be aware for the daughters’ sake as she grows.

[@ynmonroe]

Thought the same thing. Like what legacy? And he had a kid that isn't even named after him so... But even if he'd lived a differently, I never get why people are so enamored with the idea of creating clones out living, breathing babies that should get to figure out what their own characteristics are as they grow.

[@Mama_Bear_of_3]

She wants to honor her brother's legacy. A legacy of drugs, stealing, and abuse. Yeah, that's not a legacy. No way.

[@Draggonny]

And he had his own son! He has a bloodline. Naming a kid after him is not going to trump having a son and heir. She must have been praying for him to be reincarnated into her baby or something.

[@tinywaterdrinker5136]

Story 1. "We of course had normal fights: [...] Argue about me losing money on sports betting, her spending twice as much as the shops than we agreed to" I've never had these arguments in my entire life.

[@CapnAkira]

Neither have I, but I know it's more common than you think.

[@vampire9545]

You never had friction over needless spending? Weird. Considering money is literally about 40% reasons for divorce (USA)

[@godzillakungfu]

@@vampire9545right.

[@DrinkTeaOrDiePlays]

I'm convinced this story is just bad creative writing.

[@DragonbornMike-ym2er]

Yeah, the more OP described his "happy marriage" the more I was thinking "can I just have the unhappy versions instead?"

[@NoOne-fo1di]

S2- I would have twisted the knife a bit once she said she wanted terminate her rights and told her "wow, and I thought your brother was the pos. Bet your parents are proud batting 0 for 2 in the proud parents category"

[@lostshadows768]

Story 2: I wonder if part of the reason the wife wanted nothing to do with her child was that she got attached to the idea of her son being at least partly a tribute to her brother, then never really adjusted to having a daughter instead.

[@ashassassin]

Honestly I'm leaning more towards she never wanted children, but did as she was told. Once she had what she was told she wanted, she realized she never wanted it for herself. Or even worse, there was abuse that op left out.

[@gaaraxnaru]

​@@ashassassinAs someone who also doesn't want children, I got no sense of that at all. Her attaching her love for her brother to a male baby that could be his redemption is what makes more sense. The baby being a girl caused gender disappointment, most likely, which is very common for a lot of parents. Her family already has a history of mental issues, i.e. the brother. So I can easily see her going down this road and refusing to turn back.

[@kaykay8855]

@@ashassassinI don’t think that’s the case. OP’s wife had her heart set on naming her baby after her brother but instead of the son she was hoping for, they have a daughter. Despite the hell her brother put her and her family, she wanted a son to honor him and her baby was her family’s chance to raise him ‘right’.

[@kaykay8855]

@@gaaraxnaruI also have a theory that the baby was her and her family second chance of ‘raising him right.’

[@gaaraxnaru]

@@kaykay8855 Yeah. Or just her's, since the grandparents don't seem to care it's a girl.

[@Shualee13]

Story 2: After listening to that whole roller coaster ride of a story, I have a theory. I think the wife was slowly checking out of the relationship after OP put his foot down about not naming their son after her brother. She did say that even if they picked a different name, she'd still call him by her brother's name. Maybe she figured she could be okay with using the middle name and all would be well, but then boom a daughter pops out. To OP and even us, the whole argument was irrelevant. We don't need to worry about it any more but maybe to the wife it wasn't irrelevant, she thought this whole time she had a chance to name their child after her brother ( middle name or otherwise) and now she can't do that. So she starts cheating, and get caught. Her marriage is over and that's when I think she fully checked out the relationship, checked out the family. Checked out on everything. I wholeheartedly think that someday she'll get pregnant again and if it turns out to he a boy she'll name him after her brother because that's what she wanted all along. And she won't have to worry about anyone putting their foot down about him being an abuser, because she cut anyone with that relevant information. Hopefully I'm wrong about this and nothing like that will happen but you never know. The possibility is low but never zero.

[@MochiTheAxolotl69]

I think this is the best theory!

[@datmanydocris]

Story 2: The fact that the wife threatened to _call the cops_ on OP if he didn't leave _his own home_ simply because she didn't like that he was disagreeing with her is all I need to know to come to the conclusion that the wife, and by extension likely her whole family, are absolute pieces of crap.

[@lilaccreeper2005]

I wonder if the wife is going down the same path of her brother due to the unresolved grief. Especially with cutting her parents off as well

[@5thsister]

These were my thoughts, exactly

[@lynnw7155]

And the son would have the EXACT name of the uncle since OP took the wife's name. As someone commented, Google that name and you will get a lot of arrest/court records from the brother. Who wants to saddle their kid with that??

[@redshirt49]

Here's a tinfoil hat theory : Maybe her brother was also her lover?

[@VelcroYuppie]

I have a feeling that it's eventually going to come out that she has a brain tumor. Or mental illness.

[@thomasjoseph5876]

The fact her brother abused and stole from her and she STILL wanted to name her own baby after him tells us she has been mentally compromised for quite some time and the OP either ignored the warning signs or his rose-colored glasses were so dark he missed all of the warning signs. She was obviously still struggling with grief and it was some weird victim grief as well. Then she completely goes off the rails and actually creates an imaginary life and people to hide her affair with a Facebook stranger isn't such a far reach in her life to believe. I bet when his mind actually cleared from the fog of "love" he probably was slapping himself in the head wondering how he missed all of those signs. Granted, after the baby came, he probably was in serious "new dad" mode and most of his time and effort went into the new baby and he thought his wife was doing the same but she wasn't. A friend of a friend had something similar happen to him and after he found out his wife was cheating on him and their newborn twins as well as giving him 2 different STIs, he went full-scorched Earth Nuclear Bomb Destructive. He went so crazy she just up and left with her AP and took nothing with her. She knew the writing was on the wall that she and her AP's lives were about to end, both figuratively and literally and everyone they both knew were against them including their employer who fired them both. The dude went over to the AP's house and just demolished both his wife and her AP. Both were hospitalized and the moment they could safely leave the hospital, they hopped in the AP's car and drove away and no one has heard from them since. The DA can't press charges as none were ever registered by either the wife or her AP and the cops have "closed" the case and have no interest in looking for the dude's wife or AP. Some conspiracy theorists say he ended them and hid the bodies but who knows. The dude can't even get a divorce as no one, including their families, knows where they went. The dude is like a Rockstar in our smaller town and never has to pay for drinks at the bar lol.

[@invisigoth510]

Story one: If she’s taking supplements to offset the symptoms of menopause then she should take them everyday not just when she wants to get busy He thinks she only takes them when she wants to have sex & he’s peeking to see if he’s going to get lucky As to why she just won’t talk to him about it -some women are embarrassed by it & it still is a bit taboo in certain circles to speak openly about it That’s why I belong to a couple of menopause groups do I can learn about it & talk to other women going through it because my female relatives are so close mouthed about it

[@janglesthearsonist5265]

Story 2: OP's ex-wife and her brother both sound like rotten apples that fell from the same seemingly healthy tree! Im glad the in-laws will be around for OP's child.

[@darkmask5933]

Story 2: My headcanon is wife was never actually ok with not naming her son after her drag addict loser of a brother, and when she had a daughter instead it broke something inside her cause she lost that chance to treat her own son as a replacement for her grief. I would not be surprised if her new boyfriend was a friend of her brother, and/or she's on drugs herself.

[@ircillo351]

spot on!

[@maniaclaugh]

Or she's actively working on having another baby, and this time it will be the CORRECT gender to dump all her trauma on, dammit! If she ever has a son, she'll try to turn him into her brother.

[@kirstenornelas881]

Or she just loved her brother and was one of those who never saw him for the bad things he did she only saw the version of her brother she grew up idolizing and listing him in death means she has to come to terms with the fact he’s never going to be a better person than those things he died being known for. Could be she wanted to have a son, name him after her brother, sees him as a way to create a better image and memory (it is far deeper than that) legacy than the one left by her brother. It isn’t sane or an excuse but death of a sibling/parent or child are ones that are much more intense and different than the grief you feel losing even other family members or friends. Basically her son could replace the negative narrative about her brother. Even though that’s not possible her grief is driving her to that because in her mind her brother was always going to get better. Now that he is gone he can’t change and now she’s not wanting to come to terms with that. I hope for the sake of any child she might have and for the daughter’s sake that she gets help because she will continue to go down this road and mentally deteriorate. The only reason I say this and I know I’m explaining this awkwardly but it is because it is hard to explain, I’ve witnessed a former friend go through through this scenario after losing a sibling. It was heartbreaking.

[@oeurydice]

Story 2: I'm not religious, but if I was, I'd say the gods witnessed this couple's arguing over their child's name and used a little divine intervention to change the sex of the baby so they'd stfu lol

[@fallingawayfromthenorm]

Story 1 - I’ll be curious to see the next update if we ever get one. I do think think is an issue of lack of communication and misunderstanding on what these vitamins are for, but am not writing off cheating as a possibility. OP consistently calling them sex drugs does give the impression he thinks that’s the only reason anyone would take them, the way he sat his daughter down to talk about her boyfriend and her having sexual issues specifically adds weight to that impression. I know a lot of women are embarrassed to talk about vaginal dryness, menopause, or just anything to do with the reproductive parts/functions of their bodies. She might have been raised by a mother who taught her to never talk about that even with a partner (think of the parents who shield their sons from learning about periods or teach their kids that periods are disgusting), or maybe she learned that from other people in her life growing up that it’s wrong, gross, inappropriate to tell anyone but a doctor about those issues. For menopause, some women feel really ashamed to be aging and to be no longer able to have babies - even if their kids are all grown up and out of the nest, it can really be upsetting for women. Again I don’t write off cheating as a possibility, but honestly this couple sounds a little exhausting on both ends. I don't understand why he'd bring up concerns about infidelity while on a dinner date, the last place i want to have an argument that serious is at a restaurant.

[@cptfwiffo]

I dont think we'll get an update. But he knows his wife. If they managed to discuss menopause issues, sex life, etc, why not discuss that the stuff was necessary for herself? Why go to extreme lengths to hide their daughter's issues? Why be so defensive? It could be handled so easily if it was all good. This is deflect, deny, dismiss. Im guessing this isn't normal behaviour for her, so he made sure to press it.

[@panicwithcompulsion]

His whole family has a warped sense of sex. And you can tell because they're literally acting like their teenage daughter - taking a helper pill to put out when you are not into it just to please a man. They seem to all think it's normal to create this much pressure around sex and that you NEED to put out for your partner if they want sex (even if you don't). This is basically an abusive relationship imo. These women don't feel free to say no or believe love is attached to being able to put out enough. I think that is why the wife and daughter have been obfuscating. In their world, needing things to put out would be dishonorable, let alone needing to take more over time while your husband keeps checking on your intake like a creep xD

[@aubreymorgan9763]

@@panicwithcompulsion yea, he made sure to point out the lack of sex bothered his wife more than him...yet hes the one monitoring the 'sex drawer' supplies

[@panicwithcompulsion]

@@aubreymorgan9763 Man really needs to learn how to read between the lines. She only cares because she knows he's going to make it into a Thing.. Like he clearly is doing now! Ofc she would rather put out than watch her husband slowly resent her for a medical condition.

[@Cocollyt]

She probably doesn’t want to talk about her dry pussy or whatever other issues. A lot of men that age get disgusted by women’s medical or reproductive issues, and considering how weird he’s being about a drawer full of vitamins that he now calls the “sex drawer” it seems like he’s that way. ETA a lot of women that age are trained by those men to not talk about those issue bc it will make men not find them attractive

[@quilaviper]

Yeesh, that last story definitely sounds like drugs or a mental crisis or something. It's really weird to have such a huge 180 and want to completely abandon your entire old life like that.

[@sherylsnell-massie3801]

I wonder if she has postpartum. Babies only one it is definitely possible that she has been hiding symptoms the entire time. Doesn’t make what she did right.

[@quilaviper]

@@sherylsnell-massie3801 Oh, absolutely agreed, she's trash either way for the way in which she handled it. Postpartum could definitely be a reason, good point-

[@samanthavanscoder9536]

​@@sherylsnell-massie3801 she is post partum. She may have postpartum depression.

[@ashh4929]

Lol Baby straight up went "Nope, not gonna be dealing with this underlying drama for the rest of my damn life, time to turn into an inny." 😂😂😂

[@hiroshi7025]

Now comes one of the few highlights of the day. He now has light in his cell. Thanks, Connor, really cool.

[@throw-to-the-bin]

23:33 Such a wholesome story, (Markee cracking because of 'whiplash') let's hope the next one doesn't leave a bitter aftertaste... Gears slowly clicking in... WHAT DO YOU MEAN '*UPDATE*'?!

[@brandi5126]

S2: Grief can be brutal. I have witnessed it first hand. But, it doesn't justify being a shite person. Some of these updates were just so disrespectful. I'm glad he has evidence. I hope things go in his favor moving forward.

[@fallingawayfromthenorm]

Story 2 - I’m going to need to see a medical professional from the whiplash that story gave me lmao. It definitely sounds like she has a lot of unresolved issues and has now cut off everyone from her life that she knew before the affair to get away from something about her past. Whether that stems from her grief over her dead brother or something else, it’s obviously better for OP and her to no longer be married and for her to not be displaying this behavior in front of their child. Hope OP and his kiddo continue to do well without the ex in their lives.

[@sharonramirez8014]

First story.... he's totally the apple! Lol the way he worded the whole thing indicates he knows he's monitoring the intake and isn't dealing with the lack of bedtime play in a healthy way. He doesn't seem to understand his wife's health issues or how to put himself in shoes he's not walked in himself

[@adyashanayak7958]

Story 2: The sudden escalation!!!

[@johnnyhall9154]

It's insane that after 25 years vaginal health would be this secretive. I've had casual relationships talk about similar issues more freely than this wife did

[@NathanielTavington]

She's Gen X, they were literally brainwashed as a generation into believing that all natural bodily functions are shameful. My own Gen X dad threw a hissy fit if he so much as saw a napkin wrapper in the garbage, and my Gen X mom didn't tell me about periods until I woke up one morning with stomach pain and blood in my underwear and begged her to take me to the hospital because I thought I was "bleeding internally".

[@muhname6052]

Brothers name: i hate to be that guy but op should probably get his daughter tested too. It is possible to spread it from kissing.

[@aubreymorgan9763]

not just kissing, i heard about at least once story of a baby contracting it during birth, no one knew mom had it. baby died after a few weeks (it got into their lungs). it was on a true crime show, originally they thought mom smothered the baby until the autopsy showed herpes in their lungs. i also had a co woker who has a baby touched someone's cold sore then rubbed her eye, she can't see out of her left eye since a baby.

[@TheVeggiekat]

Story 1 the way that guy is so determined to make a case that his wife is cheating because she’s taking supplements commonly used by perimenopausal women reminds me of my ex-husband. He was determined to make a case that I was cheating because I was playing Animal Crossing with my kids. I tried explaining the game to him and showed him the game and told him it was something I was doing with our kids. He went to the kids and started with the same sort of “I won’t be mad” but ended up accusing them of helping me hide my lovers. He insisted the villagers were actually lovers I was chatting with online. He refused to believe the game didn’t have a chat room function. There was no convincing him we weren’t up to anything and he ended up ruining the game for me and our kids. Turns out he was the one having an affair. His whole attack on me and our kids was all about him feeling like he wasn’t doing anything wrong and nothing anyone said could convince him he was completely wrong and should have felt guilty, not just for the cheating but for accusing me and our kids of wrong doing when we were all innocent.

[@driversuz44]

Story2: When the ex comes back, begging and crying (and probably addicted) I hope OP has the guts to say no to her, "Can't we put this little mistake behind us?"

[@DominosAndHearts]

Story 1, why bring up the sex life and the pills at a RESTAURANT?! why not at home in privacy of their own home

[@JaneDoe1812]

They were both drinking. Not a smart idea but hey it happened.

[@hazeltulip]

Probably because they finally had time to sit down together.

[@DominosAndHearts]

Still shouldn't be bringing up personal info in a public place plus of it was the first time they sat dien together in a while why not do a dinner at home then at least orivate info remains private ​@hazeltulip

[@DominosAndHearts]

​@@JaneDoe1812alcohol isn't an excuse for shit behaviour

[@ajzephyros7454]

a dumbass

[@sleepingkirby]

Story 2: I'm not an expert on this and I'm going off of vague memories as a kid. But I think it's some Chinese superstition that when you name a kid after someone that's died, you're inviting their karma and/or ghost onto that kid. i.e. Don't name kids after dead relatives. Especially ones that had a horrible/tragic life.

[@Chlober_Official]

"Ahh, I see here on your background check that you were arrested for drug possession in 2012." Yeah... I definitely did that before I was born in 2024.

[@maurer3d]

Story 2 (before updates): NTA, naming a child is a two yeses situation. You should never name a child after an abuser, no matter if they are alive or dead. Children named after other people often suffer from being compared to them, or being pushed to be like them.

[@Whooachannel]

Im betting its because she wanted so badly to have her replacement brother in a son that when she got a baby girl instead she had an immediate disconnect that she just hid from everyone.

[@uncle0eric]

Story 2: The poor baby girl is going to need therapy when she gets older.

[@Vikabro]

The second story was a roller coaster. For a moment I thought I was hearing two separate stories.

[@Sclasspsycho]

Why the hell does the baby have night time videos?! Read a book to your baby!

[@EluneAnzu]

Story 2: good grief the whiplash between the first and second update! I knew *something* had to have happened since there were more updates but I was expecting the (ex-)wife's family to be causing drama over something given they wanted the kid to be named after the BIL.

[@juliearmfield2634]

Story 2. Wow i didn't see that coming. Im so glad O.P and his daughter is doing so well. As for that pathetic egg donor, well she is going to realize one of these days exactly how badly she really messed up and how much she lost out on. Then it will be too late for her

[@maniaclaugh]

I think she'll keep popping out kids until she gets one with the right equipment to turn into brother's mini me. I hope I'm wrong, because she's not in any way capable of being a decent parent right now.

[@keepdancingmaria]

The brother was broken, and I'll bet anything that whatever broke him also broke his sister, OP's wife. Just stands to reason since they had the same upbringing. Different effect, but same result.... self destruction. IMO, the baby daughter was LUCKY she wasn't born a boy.... She'd've broken her son.

[@meghaffer]

Story 2: Holy shit! She went from wanting control over the baby to wanting nothing to do with her. I'm flabbergasted!

[@darsalome]

Story 2: The whiplash was so strong my neck physically hurts.

[@martinabest5801]

Story 2 - The new dude has gotten her into drugs, which could explain the sudden switch in her personality and/ OR the new beau wants nothing to do with her child and has told her that if she wants to be with him, she has to terminate her rights and cut off all contact with anyone associated with her past, including her parents, siblings, relatives, friends, everyone.

[@TheThyckVixen]

What legacy? Drug addiction? Wtf. That’s insane honestly and your kid is his own person. Just awful

[@RobertCampsall]

I'm astounded how ignorant so many people are coming down on OP in the first post. Talk about astounding ignorance!

[@mandalorianhunter1]

Dang story 2 I heard about last year or in 2022 and was waiting to hear a update, but that family is just insane.

[@Trollololbrooke]

Finally a better camera angle Markee

[@Markee]

Thank you Brooke I’m glad you like the new camera angle :)

[@michaelmedrala3614]

Okay the first story makes no sense to me. You’re telling me that these people think that to improve their sex life, they just need to take some vitamins and supplements beforehand to get in the mood? That’s not how vitamins work, it’s not viagra. Even the other stuff like lubracil, you’re supposed to take it daily, none of it is a one and done.

[@short-circuitedsynapses3228]

The angle and the distance where you are sitting right now is quite good. It makes you look better

[@rochellecrampton9559]

Gday Markee! Bloody good to see ya! Thought I’d pop in for a quick cuppa and to let you know how much you have grown! You are speaking stronger, more comfortable infront of the camera and I love hearing your Aussie voice, it’s a thankful break from all the AI read stories. ❤❤ ❤

[@browhattheactualfu-2659]

I thought the update was she wanted to change the name to the girl version of her brother but not that what the hell 😭

[@nadirimyers6643]

“Good day good day and how’s it going “ 🎶 gave me a Mr Rodger’s vibe that I liked. It made me smile

[@Munthegun]

The not Sueing is the worst possible outcome I could have hoped for. I’d be in court until 2150 if I had to just to bury my ex.

[@eri-chan1943]

So close to 100k!!! Will this coming week be the week??

[@Markee]

I think it will yes haha

[@amandab8433]

​@@MarkeeHi, I keep getting unsubscribed from your channel, do you know what's happening? It's happened seven times over the last three weeks 😐

[@TheScaletIbisNW]

One of the peek times for cheating is when someone close to you is dying or has died. READ THAT AGAIN. Death and also resurfacing past trauma can put you in a head space to just escape. For this woman a new baby puts the cherry on top. She needed serious individual counseling before this point.

[@ayanaatthrivebewhole]

That's terrible and took a crazy turn! Sending op love and support!

[@ErisstheGoddessofmanhwas]

Nothing is simple with menopause. My mother was so much afraid and ashamed of it .We her daughters didn't know that for 5 whole years .

[@valentinanoccioli8116]

40:04 She did't want to be a mother, she just wanted a replacement for her brother. When she realised that she can't get her brother back in any ways, and she had to take responsibilities for growing a child, she just flew from her life. Simply that IMHO.

[@MountainPearls]

I thought the conversation. Went somewhere entirely different when he said “sex drawer.” I actually said aloud: “IN THE KITCHEN?!” Then the doorbell rang and I didn’t hear about it being supplements until AFTER I heard: “Our daughter took things.” I was highly disturbed and disgusted for a few moments, then re-listened. Whew…the RELIEF!

[@de9722]

Story 2: I would go to therapy with the wife. When people die, their loved ones like to only remember the positive, as if the negative wasn't a big part of that person, SO big that they died because of it. The "legacy" she wants to honor is one of abuse and pain. Why would she want to do that?

[@Sensansenkai]

Holy SHIT what a roller coaster ride of a story.

[@kecward78]

Story 2 - I suspect, with all the past trauma, that the wife is on the same drugs as the dead brother OR it's post partem and she's acting out. Netiher is an excuse for her acting out, but may explain why.

[@mikef2811]

S2: Never trust anyone FULLY. Trust but verified. One day, she will come crawling back wanting to be a mom again. I know it, we all know it. He would be a fool not to ask for child support, do it for his daughter, not for him. And if he doesn't, his ex will only waste away that money anyway. Put it towards her college fund.

[@NeloBladeOfRanni]

If your not willing to fully trust anyone then you shouldn't be in a relationship period

[@AmandaGeyerSnobahr]

Story 1. I'm in my 50s, and menopause is *FINALLY* kicking in. Almost 40 years of this monthly bullpucky, I am *so* done with it. But it really screws with a woman's view of herself, and that severity can be impacted by how she sees her role as a wife and mother. The body chemistry is getting so screwed with, it can lead to bouts of /severe/ depression, and every person reacts to their depression differently.

[@dejang2115]

Love the tune markee 😊 you’re looking good lately!!!

[@pombilhopombo6057]

that last story really sounds like PPD... that amount of emotional instability is NOT normal

[@nadirimyers6643]

That foolish woman is gonna look back and regret everything. She letting grief for a brother that probably would barely shed a tear for her if he was here today ruin her whole life and that’s sad for her. Op and the daughter gonna be good with time they gonna be happy and have a good life but she’s just fing up hers smh.

[@amyyaku5022]

S1: Definitely YTA even after the update since he still didn't have any prove of cheating. He made a mountain out of a mole hill and instead of respecting his wife and daughter's boundaries, he just thought about himself and getting his questions answered, even kept pressing his wife in a public setting and accuses her of cheating. What a nightmare husband. If he thinks his wife was "cheating" over this, then who knows what else he could accuse his wife of?

[@katie6731]

Story 1: " . . .my daughter didn't want her telling anyone. Which I get but come on, I buy the things to fill the drawer." 3:38 _This_ is hugely problematic. OP thinks he's entitled to invade his wife's and daughter's privacy because he pays for things. If he was saying crap like this when he accused his wife of cheating, then, no wonder she started "basically screaming" at him.

[@Chanel31113]

The biggest placebo effect ever to take those right before they are intimate

[@kevinclark495]

don't blame the guy in story 2, who'd want to name their son named after a pos junkie who abuses their parnters, kids and stole from their family?

[@carac8577]

That last story 😵‍💫 whiplash, makes me think of the story where OPs wife released a bunny in front of the kids that got nabbed by a hawk & then it came out she was cheating

[@kaitlynwillard8720]

All of the stuff in the s3x drawer goes missing. Wife refuses to talk about it. Husband was not out of line to ask if she was cheating.

[@sapphicgeek24]

Lubracil is for vaginal dryness. Black cohosh is for stuff like hot flashes. She probably didn't want to say "hey my vaginal dryness has been really bad as of late and I'm uncomfortable during the day" in public. They're not "sex drugs."

[@ohboy-zi1yf]

the drugs going missing are for menopause, not for sex. and its completely out of line to interrogate her about the sex drawer in public at a restaurant

[@nightstarstar1]

That was hardly a sex drawer, it’s a drawer of vitamins.

[@notaseal7864]

@@ohboy-zi1yfWhy would she possibly be so defensive. It’s pretty obvious she is a cheating 304

[@notaseal7864]

@@ohboy-zi1yf25 years and she just wanted some Johnnie on the side

[@someonewho]

Story 2- I was named after someone’s abusive mom…who they had already cut contact with…yeah it’s not fun to mention lol

[@nekolalia3389]

Story 2: The weasel that interfered in OP’s marriage deserves one gift; a warning as to what the ex’ll try to burden their firstborn son with.

[@radish6740]

Naming a baby after a pos dead junkie is cruelly setting it up for failure

[@spriken]

I'm not saying they should name the kid after the brother but a name is just a name and unless it's something crazy it won't set anyone up for failure(This lady came into my work her name was "Felony") I'm sure the wife was always hoping he would change and now that can never happen. Remember junkies weren't always junkies, they were the person that heard the secrets, watched scary movies with, protected them from bullies, shared all trials and thrills of childhood with.

[@ja-cm2de]

Story 2- I think most people missed one main bit OP mentioned within the first few updates, "last name will be the same anyways since I took hers when we got married", so with T's first name, middle name and their last name, technically its T Jr. I think ex-wife was planning on making up for failing her brother and wanted a second chance, so when she knew OP wont give in and gave birth to a girl, all plan was out the window and started drifting apart.

[@MrsGump]

Gday gday, hows it going, whaddayaknow & how ya been? Great song Markee, its right up there with "goodnight cats & possums, kookaburra kangaroo" theres a few things that still stay in our heads after living in Oz (we're kiwis who lived in WA for 5 years but been back home for yonks now) & we still sing along to the aussie national anthem!!

[@roarkkariyama]

16:43 Her brother was an abuser, alcoholic, drug addict, criminal and overall bad person. What "legacy" is there to honor?!

[@Jessidafennecfox]

Listening to you while congested as heck laughing makes me cough but worth it. Hope ya get 100k soon.

[@DirtyUncleSAL]

Story 2: one of the last comments was someone hoping that op will get child support from the ex, but based off my understanding is that with the signing away of parental rights of a child, absolves the person from having to pay child support. I may be absolutely wrong, but, just thought I'd toss it in the bucket...

[@carolynperry7134]

No she still has to pay child support.

[@HarryVibes36]

Why’s everyone ignoring the fact the Wife in story 1 was literally caught lying? Not to mention that her reactions ARE sus

[@invisible123-l9d]

He accused her of sleeping around. Even when she told him what had taken place, he still accused her of cheating. HE is in the wrong, but he does not have the balls to acknowledge that. Just as you do not have the balls to reply respectfully, or even in a civil manner.

[@Parasolhyena]

Wait what was she caught lying on? she said her daughter was using "some of the stuff" from the draw. He specifically asked her about the softgels and the tablets, which the daughter did use, never the other two that aren't even sex things. Then he goes to the daughter and askes her about the softgets, tablets AND the black cohosh and lubracil. So yeah the daughter wasn't taking the two specific things not for sex but to help with hot flushes, dryness and menopause that he never even asked his wife about. You don't use moistures for sex you use them daily to help with pain. Note the Lubracil is not lube like some people think from the name it's a moisturizer.

[@NathanielTavington]

She wasn't caught lying, and the supplements she's taking have nothing to do with sex. Lubricel helps mucous membranes produce mucus, black cohosh helps hot flashes. And her reactions aren't "sus", they're emotional. The woman is going through menopause. Go back to high school and finish sex ed before you speak.

[@monzer0172]

Maybe she was more like her brother than they thought. Actually I think she might be worse.

[@Ace_AloneWolf]

Some women cannot accept or speak about menopause. It’s sad

[@DragonflyandTheWolf]

Story 2: NTA. When it comes to naming a child, if its not two yeses then its a no. I hate when I find reddit stories where one parent decides to take authority on naming a child. I even ran across one recently where the mother argued she has a right to name the child because she carried it. I believe in mother's rights, especially when they are the ones risking their health to bring that child into the world and think they should always have autonomy over their bodies, how the delivery and recovery go, but when it comes to parenting its NOT a one parent show. If you have an active co parent, you need to share the decisions, even if that means you can't fully realize all your hopes and dreams you had for the baby. Your partner has hopes and dreams too. You can't both get what you want. You need to compromise with each other.

[@marynichols1398]

Damn you Markee. Now that song is stuck in my head while I am trying to sleep.

[@Mark-g7h]

Love the little sing song at the start.

[@sophdog2564]

I think probably the reason the wife was not communicating well in the first one is because she didn't want to talk about it in the restaurant, got emotional because of menopause, and then he starts accusing her of cheating. So she throws out the least embarrassing reason for the vitamins to be going down, but now isn't talking to him because she's upset about the fact he went straight for cheating

[@Ospyro3em]

Story 2- holy hell what a ride!!! Op's ex is a monster, especially wanting nothing more to do with her daughter. This is just my theory and I could be reaching, but I don't think she fully accepted not being able to name her child after her brother. When it became clear that it wasn't possible, she completely disassociated from her daughter as she could never be the replacement for her brother. I'm glad OP is doing better now, and screw his ex.

[@chelseasalmonstiles9471]

I'm wondering if she so strongly connected her baby boy to her dead brother that when it turned out to be a girl, she just began to spiral

[@lalalachris]

S1: I def can imagine the wife can’t fathom sharing her VJ issues with her husband. She is most likely the reason the daughter didn’t share such things with her father. When he said she could she was fine with it. I think the mother created the “girl things are for the girls only” atmosphere. She can’t bring herself to talk to him about it and probably pushed it onto their kid from teen years onward.

[@SCP01986]

I don't think the wife is to blame, it's a pretty common consensus in many families. I wouldn't talk to my father about any feminine health or hygiene issues I have, I'll go to my mother, same as my brother going to our father about his.

[@AWildJirachi]

I mean… my mom was never like that when we were growing up, but I still wouldn’t really want to talk about my intimacy issues with my dad 😅😂

[@tamsel814]

If i ran into vj issues I would prefer to speak to my mom over my dad. Mainly cause my mom has a vj herself and this likely able to give better advise. Perhaps she has experienced the same issue. I also dont see why I would need to speak to both of my parents about this.

[@LucyLerma]

I feel absolutely horrible for everyone involved in story 1. About story 2 I wasn't expecting that either. She's definitely not okay but OP is doing well in focusing on himself and his daughter. You can't help someone who doesn't want to be helped and he doesn't *have* to help her.

[@teddychu1177]

Looking so cozy there!! ❤❤❤

[@jennifersilves4195]

"I spotts bet, forget to clean, harrangue my wife about shopping, bully my wife into discussing their daughter's sex life, and accuse my wife of cheating. Is my marriage in trouble?"

[@bridgetdebourgh5698]

Hey Markee! Hope you had a great weekend and have a wonderful week ahead 👍 Have a great day/night everyone 👋🤗

[@carolynehrensberger2162]

Maybe became involved in people associated with her brothers life as a way to cope with/ understand his death?

[@someanon1984]

Story 2: I genuinely wonder if OP's ex would still have left the family if her daughter had ended up being a boy named T...

[@NinjaNanya]

That intro! Loved it!

[@photoflo78]

You know we enjoy every bloody episode baby ❤❤❤❤

[@juliejohansen2078]

Ohh perfect timing i just woke up 😁

[@mazzame6480]

Me 2. But its 1pm here...😂😂😎🏴󠁧󠁢󠁷󠁬󠁳󠁿

[@RobertCampsall]

2nd story: frankly, it's likely T's family contributed to his death by enabling him, thus allowing him to continue to use until he OD'd. It wouldn't be the first time a "loving" family contributed in some way by not removing all support, even though it's very hard to do so. And to saddle a kid with the name of someone who - at the time of his death - was an unrepentant thief and drug addict seems like a terrible burden to put on a child. eta: Whelp - the wife is a POS.