My Husband Was Hiding A Wife And Family From Me But Wants To Leave Them Nowr/Relationships

[@flamiaminu5536]

OP: I can tell usually when he's lying WOMAN. HE HID AN ENTIRE FAMILY FROM YOU. YOU CAN'T TELL HE'S LYING.

[@robertx8020]

Well as long as she believes she can, he can take her money

[@lina9535]

Naïvite is sometimes like a spell for being stupid.

[@untitled-gv3qp]

I can't even feel sorry for her, she's ignoring so many red flags. Everyone is practically screaming at her about how awful the situation is but she refuses to see what's right in front of her. "They're married but they're not MARRIED married so it's okay that he lied to me for our whole relationship" 🤡

[@seahorse82]

This made me laugh 😆

[@hodgeelmwood8677]

Yes! He literally has lied to her from the start of their relationship! She has NO IDEA when he's lying. What's it going to take for her to wake up.

[@megaspit]

"we will have to keep sending money back to her" So, the scam continues. But with OPs willing participation this time 🤡

[@boneymeroney2674]

Story 1. The husband is still lying. Nothing about his explanation makes sense.

[@colleens1107]

I half believe that was the husband who wrote the update and then deleted the account. Or I hope that’s the case because otherwise congratulations we just found the most naive person on the planet

[@aubreymorgan9763]

also look at this way. he still had 2 kids with the 'not real wife' or whatever. and hes abandoning not only the 'fake' marriage but his own children. OP is incredibly naïve, shes acting like a teenager.

[@Tigersaurus]

Agreed. The country he's from is so restrictive that he was strong armed into an arranged "marriage" but both families are ok with him having two children with the "wife" without making it official? He never wanted the wife but had two kids with her and stays with her when he travels? He didn't think OP would mind but never told her and lied to her face for years???? Somehow his family knew not to say anything about the "wife" this whole entire time? F*** this entire situation.

[@ladymorrigan5950]

Agreed.

[@ohnooffwego]

@@colleens1107 Pretty sure it's just a ragebait post.

[@heatherdickau5335]

Story 1 she is not even legally married to him. She is in denial.

[@robertx8020]

This But I guess she will find out in a year when he gets his permit and dumps her and laughs in her face (and with any 'luck', steals all her money too )

[@MrJpaynebb]

​@@robertx8020 1st time I heard this story and update my only thoughts were "You dumb B#$@h!🤷‍♂️🤦‍♂️"

[@pippo17173]

Op said it herself that he should of said it from the start if he is telling truth.

[@moodycrab77]

" he's the kind of guy you feel better about yourself after having a conversation with him."😢😢😢 That's called love bombing. Bring your towel, you're going to need it to dry your tears. Been there done that Holy crap, this is way worse than I actually thought it was before I even put my first text in, before I even knew about the wife and kids oh sweet honey bee run don't walk, oop you were being used. Giving you all the hugs and love❤

[@Mew_Mokuba_Akari]

​@moodycrab77 Sad part is she might end up on Reddit again, this time asking how to win him back. He got his citizenship, brought the wife and kids over. Kicked her to the curb and possibly even take her son. Him the father with a wife and teenage kids. Her well even if she gets a job, depending on the country could argue he has the better home life. Wife would stay at home with the kid. If it's a male dominant country then she can kiss him and her son goodbye.

[@analisaacosta974]

First op is sooooo delusional lol. If his other marriage was "fake" why did he have kids with her ?

[@ilovesports5468]

Same reason he had kids with OP

[@HeiwaTori]

I will say the pressure to have kids in a lot of cultures is extreme, like if you dont have kids as a married couple youre broken...

[@kichikitsu]

there are a ton of holes in his story, but thats not one of them lol sex can and does happen solely for procreation instead of any kind of love, especially in cultures that emphasize arranged marriages at such a young age. kids are kind of the whole point of "joining families" like that.

[@rubymeaddle]

K so Arranged marriages depending on the culture can end up like this You marry someone, make an heir, then have your side pieces

[@HeiwaTori]

@@rubymeaddle yeah like polygamy is NOT illegal in islam...

[@TessuDraws]

Story 1: Denial is one hell of a drug. One day she will have an incredibly rude awakening and wish she had listened to Reddit

[@pippo17173]

Everyone is hoping it's fake because worst case scenario, husband found her account and basically pretended to be her in the update.

[@socketyellow3]

@@pippo17173took her phone is likely, but she’s also part of a real problem in US. Desperate people do stupid things for people that only want papers and will drop them the moment they get it if they aren’t being sugar babies

[@hiroshi7025]

Story 1 : Hahahaha, if you think he wasn't lying, good luck, you sweet summer child. You say you can figure him out while he's been playing you like a fiddle.

[@diamcole]

Sweet summer child, indeed. Hopefully when the lesson hits home she has people around her that can give her support and offer genuine guidance.

[@BrainWitchSiv]

Fiddles are beautiful and hard to master. OP is a cheap kazoo.

[@macylouwho1187]

She believes it because she wants to. She’ll find out soon enough how wrong that path was.

[@shadowkissed2370]

My mother's long-time boyfriend did this. His family wouldn't let him marry my mother because she had two kids by someone else and couldn't have more. She got with him when I was 2, and when I was about 7 he went back to his country because "his dad was sick" and was there for a couple months. When he got back he had to "start sending money to his dad" and a couple years later went back to "visit his family." After he came back he moved in with his "cousin" to "help them out," but every now and then would stay the night with my mom. A year after he came back he started bringing "his cousin's" baby around for my mom to watch. The baby started to call him Poppa and when she started saying my name and my mom's name he immediately stopped the baby from coming around. Even as a child, I knew that was his kid. My whole family tried to tell my mom but she wouldn't listen. He eventually moved my mother to a different state because "his cousin wanted to move there." One day she found a marriage certificate in his glove box, his wife had finally figured out that he had someone on the side. My mom was so dependent on him being in her life by then since she had been with him for 30+ years that she talked herself into believing she didn't see that paper. A few years after she found that marriage certificate he came to her house like normal and all of a sudden two women bang on her door. Turns out his wife and their daughter followed him to my mom's house. The wife demanded a divorce and took him for everything. He moved in with my mom, but she still doesn't believe he was married all those years and the baby she watched was his daughter.

[@muhname6052]

Story 1: was married only because the parents made him and didn't love her. He still had two kids with her, though. The amount of denial.

[@lina9535]

Besides the fact that ceremonial marriages are still legal marriages.

[@ladymorrigan5950]

Right. Two children he’s willing to abandon apparently.

[@aduckofsomesort]

Having children with a married partner is the whole reason for arranged marriages. Having kids with someone Internet arranged marriage is literally you fulfilling the reason of an arranged marriage. So that doesn’t mean he loves his wife or wants to be with her. Though obviously he is a scumbag And a bad person.

[@Swamp_Queen]

Although I do agree she is in denial, I just wanted to point out that people who marry because of their parents end up having kids because their parents want grandchildren, and that's what married people do. It's not proof that he actually loves the first wife.

[@kichikitsu]

i mean... yes. those types of arranged marriages are usually mainly to produce kids. the real "girl how do you believe this bs" moment is the fact he tried to say it's not a "legal marriage" yet but somehow their families were okay with them having two kids out of wedlock like that lmao.

[@someanon1984]

Story 1: Even if the husband's fanfiction were real (he's clearly only with her for a green card, but we're never going to hear that update...), how is OP okay with the fact that he's abandoning his two kids in another country to be with her? How is she okay with the fact that her husband is still committing bigamy (which I would bet is against the law)??

[@Acehigh-Jenkins]

But it’s not a legal marriage (only it is).

[@stanleyphinazee5354]

I asked the same thing. Real or not, those innocent kids are real. The fact she lowkey okay woth him abandoning him make sense considering her mentality in denial

[@cindervox9961]

Story 1; Damn some people will delude themselves to avoid being single. Being a sister wife to avoid loneliness is crazy.

[@genuinelypink3838]

God I hope I never fall into a pit of denial this deep like the first OP has.

[@carlrood4457]

"It wasn't a real marriage". Two kids say otherwise.

[@valgardener7656]

Story 1: "I can tell usually when he's lying" LOL! Yeah, she knows he's lying all right. That's why she won't talk to the wife to confirm anything. She is actively trying to maintain the delusion.

[@maurer3d]

Story 2 (before update): NTA, your sister, was never your "friend". Them rushing this engagement just proves it, I am willing to bet your parents were pushing them to rush it since they met him. Story 2 (update): Can't wait for the next update "I can't believe my sister got engaged at my wedding and parents are mad at me for being mad", no sane person would be talking marriage at 20 to a person they have only known for a few months.

[@lynnw7155]

It doesn't sound like the sister is doing anything to purposely ruin OP's wedding. Jealousy, maybe, and wants to also get married. People DO get engaged/married too quickly, but I don't think it has much to do with OP. Some people need to learn things for themselves. OP's wedding needs to be all about HER and her fiancee, but OP doesn't own the entire year of her wedding

[@jam2727]

@@lynnw7155except you're ignoring the part where the sister talked about it with OP beforehand and AGREED after hearing her reasons originally when they talked way before OP, Sister and STBBIL met the first time to share the news. Do you know how hard it is just suddenly start planning a wedding in less than a year? This was intentional.

[@eph2vv89only1way]

The sister needs to be wary. Rushing a commitment is a common tactic of abusers because they can't keep up the facade of being nice for long

[@averycheesypotato]

Story 1- if you haven’t spoken directly to the wife, she doesn’t know.

[@lalvarez5151]

Story 1- she is the side peice and in a lot of denial. She should be in the circus because her ability to do mental gymnastics is amazing

[@despinasgarden.4100]

Story 1: "I can tell when he is lying" honney, he's been lying to you since day 1 and you couldn't tell he was lying about not being married. "I don't have an income at the moment" well, i guess that's why she is staying, i hope she is at least looking for a job. His first wife is going to show up on their doorstep one day and OP will be shocked when her husband tells her that she and his kids are moving in with them.

[@parislouise1579]

I have seen this before, she’s going to write an update years down the track and go “so you guys were right, his wife came over here and he left me with nothing and never loved me” like come on!

[@colleens1107]

Story one: OH HEY, looks like the husband is making OP write that update. Or. She’s really really really really the most naive person on the planet. She’d buy the Nigerian prince scam

[@socketyellow3]

Just call her stupid that’s what this is

[@bug-in-a-rug]

I’m really hoping that it was just an act and I really hope OP got outta there. Maybe I’m just as naive though 😅

[@VidGirl88]

Story 1: cut to 3 years from now when OP is heartbroken and financially wrecked as her husband leaves her after bankrolling the immigration of his real wife and kids.

[@elizabethescalante8114]

Wow. OP is either in VERY heavy denial in desperation for a spouse, or VERY stupid!

[@philippamarsh8185]

Thick as S**T!! 🤯

[@Bleg94]

both, definitely both

[@LightSage89]

It's so wild that OP thinks she can tell when Jake is lying when their entire relationship is based on a lie. She got fooled by a massive lie about his marital status and why he was going back to his home country every few months, but she thinks she isn't being fooled again by a forced marriage sob story???

[@reneenoriega4524]

About markee's comments on story 2: my parents got engaged 6 months into their relationship, when my mom was 19 and my dad was 28 xd people always assume I'm fine and dandy with young people in short relationships getting married but like, no? I love my parents, they have a solid relationship now but they went through HELL together, and one of the only reasons they're still married at present time is because they are both very stubborn and love each other very much, so I don't think that's really a relationship model for other people. they even told me not to get married fast unless i was ready to put the work when I had my first boyfriend, so 🤷🏼

[@SkyEcho751]

It's not about how long the relationship is. It's about putting in the work to make it last, which most people don't. If you truly wish to marry you'd best be in it for the LONG haul, since common metaphor for love is a fire, a good way to explain this is "When you first fall in love it's like lighting kindling, it will burn hot and fast. But if you don't add some slow burning logs, the fire will die." Your parents did the work, probably because they were stubborn and didn't want to just give up on the marriage. It meant when the "Honeymoon" phase was over, they were able to maintain the relationship.

[@reneenoriega4524]

@@SkyEcho751 I actually believe they never had a real honeymoon phase in the first place. They like each other ugly and all. my dad is like, obsessed with my mama, and she adores being with him, even when they annoy the shit out of each other lol they have been through a lot together and I'm convinced most people wouldn't care to put as much work into their relationships. That's a good metaphor you used there, and it describes my problem with most rushed relationships. I've seen a lot of people crash and burn mad fast because they didn't think time was going to catch up with them, and didn't put the work where they had to

[@heatherweir8726]

Story one. Op should not take him back. She should also contact his wife just because he says she knows and supports him does not mean it is true. If she does support him it may mean is hoping to stay with op long enough to bring over his wife and kids. Op should also look into whether or not she is actually legally married. If her ,"husband" never got divorced in his home country the marriage may not be valid.

[@CaptBrightside89]

Story One Update: The delusion and denial is strong in this one 🤦‍♂

[@invisigoth510]

Story one: I hope someone in OP’s family reports Jake He is lying to her. She is the one who isn’t the legal wife & if he’s not from somewhere where he’s allowed to have more than one wife, she’s getting tossed out when the real wife comes over

[@childfreechick2980]

Story 1: Op is the type of woman I lack empathy for when sh*t hits the fan. If it was the truth and the husband was a good person, he would have told her from the beginning. His excuse is a lie, and she is now being willfully ignorant, ignoring the red flags and disregarding people's warnings, so she gets what she gets. Oh well.

[@lina9535]

Story 1: A quick google search would have let OP know that even a "ceremonial wedding" is still very much a legal wedding. Let's give OP a "Most gullible person alive" award 😂

[@miz6229]

S1 - hahahaha... "their relationship wasn't real." Tell that to his 2 sons. Sheesh. OP is delulu.

[@league-of-shadows]

A little over a minute in and he clearly only married her for a green card. I would snitch so fast.

[@lc77713]

Story 1: Sounds like he did a speed run to marry her (probably to secure that citizenship), had children with her to double secure everything, and OP naively went along with everything/is in denial about the whole relationship.

[@jenniferrichards2122]

S1, OP, is just an idiot. Wanting to believe him so badly, everything will all be swept under the table. Wait until the grand idea that the wife and kids need to leave because of some danger. She should contact the right authorities just in case.

[@Girl-Supersonicboy]

S1: we'll probably be hearing from OP in a few years. "My husband betrayed me, left me, and brought his 2nd family over to my country via our marriage."

[@Center-For-I.E.D.Mismanagement]

Story 2: Based upon the info provided, OP needs to cut their losses. They will be better off leaving that "family" far behind.

[@troubleinthevalley5884]

Her

[@Center-For-I.E.D.Mismanagement]

@@troubleinthevalley5884 Don't care. Not the main point here.

[@pippo17173]

I don't get why op is still trying to be in good terms with all of them. After this, I would just leave knowing it will just happen again and again.

[@troubleinthevalley5884]

@Center-For-I.E.D.Mismanagement hey all the wokies think it's their job to go around correcting everyone when they use the so-called wrong pronouns so I'm just doing what I thought we were all supposed to be doing. This girl goes by her, not they. If we have to respect everybody else's pronouns and change our entire vocabulary to suit them then the least y'all could do is do the same. If I "misgendered" someone and said I don't care not the point people would be having a conniption fit lol

[@Center-For-I.E.D.Mismanagement]

@@pippo17173 It's more difficult to get out of an abusive scenario when you've been literally raised in it your whole life.

[@dre1978]

My grandparents knew it each other for 3 months before getting married, my parents dated for 6 months before engagement, I'm living with my partner after 6 months. My family likes to speed run things😂

[@heatheraucoin5832]

S2- Why would anyone get married after 6 months of knowing each other? You have to know your partner at least 1 year and then know what it’s like to live with them, so they could see their lifestyle is. I think 20 year old just wants a wedding, not a marriage. She should not go through with it bc it will lead to divorce, that is if no one cheats around the bachelorette/bachelor parties.

[@catlover9078]

There is also that last part about the psycho parents pushing for it ever since the first month of the relationship. Like yikes, way to set your kid up for failure

[@SkyEcho751]

I feel sorry for that first OP, she is so deep in the manipulation that she can't even see an inch in front of her. She's gonna be back in a few years, when the husband moves over his family, and when she posts someone is gonna ask "Hey is this you" and links the post where literally EVERYONE said she needed to leave. I pity her because literally everyone is in agreement and she refuses to see it.

[@franciebelcher4594]

S1. And another woman bites the dust. I can't even finish this story. From the very beginning OP said hubs was "excited for the marriage because it would give him dual citizenship" Umm. ..THAT'S why he was excited to be married?!!! Oh and that gem " we're not actually married" it's just paper?! He was effing her, and had kids. They ARE actually married. I feel sad 4 OP. She's a willing moron. She's in utter denial about this whole mess. She didn't even bother to educate herself, she just " believes" him. I can't. This is too ugly.

[@2Bjaded1]

You can NOT save someone from themself. Give them a heads up and when the fire starts don't go running into a burning building to save someone who wants to take time from escape to water the plants.

[@SabakuNoShuhei69]

Story 1 op next reddit post: "My husband used me and left me for the family I discovered. I am heartbroken."

[@Bleg94]

"I never saw it coming"

[@Mama_Bear_of_3]

When I was 20 I met a 25 year old guy. We went on our first date, and unbeknownst to the other we felt we found the cliché 'love at first sight.' We both felt after our first date that we were meant to spend the rest of our lives together. Against our families objections and concerns, we got married exactly 4 months after our first date. This February 2024 we celebrated our 30th anniversary and we still love each other deeply, we are best friend, and have three wonderful children. Marriages that occur within months of the first date are not alway going to implode and end miserably. It really depends on the couple. Those who love each other can have a long healthy and happy marriage. I think the problem is when the couple is in lust with each other and they mistake it for love, so they marry quickly. Once the lust has fizzled out they realize they really aren't in love and so the marriage ends.

[@TheScaletIbisNW]

Oh op... I feel bad for people being taken advantage by preditors. However , I see these stories and understand how preditors choose their victims. Op has hundreds of people yelling for her to see the light and she just won't listen. So many red flags.

[@teenalot1235]

I don't know who is worse? This OP, the OP who scoffee when her boyfriend of 25 years ish proposed to her proceeded to leave her destitute and tried to apply for office jobs cos she did not really like service jobs or that OP that called her BF creepy for knowing about periods and helping his sister... I could go onnnnnnnnn, but damn..... Damn...

[@msredux]

A 32 yearl old man dating a 20 year old was the first red flag, but op is still too blind to see it

[@hodgeelmwood8677]

OMG it gets worse! OP is not just naive, she's intentionally buying all the extended lies.

[@Davtwan]

An arranged marriage that isn’t legal? Why wouldn’t it be legal if it was required to pay off a “debt?” His story doesn’t fully add up. OP _needs_ to contact the other woman.

[@troubleinthevalley5884]

I can't believe after all that she deleted her account. Well I guess I can believe it but all I can say is I hope to God when Dude ends up leaving her and their child to either go back to his family or bring them over to wherever she is, she makes a new account to tell everybody how right they were.

[@wildblue0]

Story 1: As much as I like the idea of watching his world burn, once he's deported, there's no way to force him to send child support. She should only go that route if she has enough support to go it alone. Story 2: I'm with the jealousy and attention seeking. I don't doubt they'd try to poach their date. Update: Hopefully, he won't propose at the wedding. I wonder whose idea the engagement actually was.

[@GLoLChibs]

She has no income so nope.

[@maurer3d]

Story 1: Child support is enforceable internationally between most countries. There are only a few countries that do not accept child support judgments from other countries.

[@wildblue0]

I stand corrected. But I'm guessing a country that has arranged marriage is probably one that doesn't.

[@DragonflyandTheWolf]

"We will have to send money to his wife for the foreseeable future." GIRL, THIS IS LITERALLY PART OF THE CON!!!

[@kr0gan105]

8:41 emotional destruction 😂😂😂

[@carlrood4457]

Met on Tinder. He's from another country. Yeah, not red flags there.

[@BonnieThebunny7051]

3:19 if the Husband thought OP wouldn't mind it than why hide it? The Husband is definitely lying.

[@allu3096]

Markee, please read this!! I noticed that you pretty much only selected advice that is aligned with your opinion on this story (I can't remember if you did this in other videos as well); I usually agree with you, so this is not me trying to get validation on my views or anything. I don't think you do this on purpose btw. So, I'd like to ask you to include opposite opinions too, and even bad advice sometimes. It gets us more entertained (at least I do), because we have no way of knowing what the OP will do. Also, it would show that someone actually encouraged OP to take stupid actions. Bc the way it is now, it implies that EVERYBODY told OP to do the right thing, but they decided to take the worst route anyway, which is usually not the case. Ty and I love your channel a lot!! Keep up the good work!

[@PrincessLioness]

I think he usually just reads the top comments. On stories like this where there is an obvious good and bad guy the top advice is the same. He had another story about a break up and trip payments and the comments were mixed. It also depends on where he got the comments from and how early. If he got it from a sub that compiles long running stories the comments are already picked. If it’s early the comments negative comments are still there but if it’s later they might be gone or deleted especially if it’s from an old story.

[@allu3096]

@@PrincessLioness makes sense! Ty for replying :)

[@squash6497]

Depending on which country this dude is from, some countries have a provision for a "temporary second marriage" which is exactly what it sounds like, which is why the wife is okay with it. According to the laws and customs of Jake's country of origin, they don't believe he's doing anything wrong. OP is so naive.

[@SCUBASUEReynard]

Who the heck finds a dude and gets engaged with in 6 months? I would have said it are you pregnant? So you need to get married? That should shame them.

[@ChefDuJour78]

Personally I think ANYONE saying “can I have one year be about me?” Is ridiculous. An entire year about you? This absurd obsession with weddings needs to die. Maybe if people actually focused on the MARRIAGE, there would be fewer divorces.

[@totitelevisionshow]

why are you acting like it’s a whole year.. she wants like 4 months after her wedding.. that’s not that long, and if you take out holidays (thanksgiving, and with christmas i’d just delete december lmao) that’s 3 months after her wedding. she wants THREE months of attention.

[@ChefDuJour78]

@@totitelevisionshow she literally asked if she can have one year about herself

[@lalvarez5151]

​normally I would agree but the sister sounds like an AH. It's not like if her bf proposed to her. NO...SHE said he WOULD propose in 2-3 weeks. It sounds staged as heck. He doesn't even have the ring and she wants to get married months away from the sister.

[@totitelevisionshow]

@@ChefDuJour78 yeah, and assuming that means the rest of the year. that’s 3-4 months.

[@lkayh]

Girl, jeez! You’re still believing this guy after your whole marriage was a lie!! Get a lawyer. And yes, I hope you do at least have couple’s therapy because SOMEONE needs to help you think more sensibly.

[@randalthor741]

I can't really judge people for getting engaged after only dating for 6 months or say that they're definitely making a mistake getting married that quickly. My parents only knew each other for 3 months by the time they got married (not engaged: married), and over 50 years later they're still together. Wasn't an arranged marriage or anything like that either, they just met through mutual friends in college and decided to get married.

[@bettynolo23]

Story 1, this girl is so naive its terrifying!

[@grecia3146]

Gosh Op is lying to herself and everyone can tell that. I hope she realizes that but it looks like it will take a while or it will downright not happen.

[@AngryReptileKeeper]

Oh man, OP fell for this dude's BS hook, line and sinker. And even after he was proven to be harboring an enormous lie all this time, she _still_ took his word for it when he "explained" himself. Her pretend husband is taking her for a ride and she refuses to see it. I agree that this is a ploy to get citizenship and then bring his real family over, then kick OP to the curb to live as a single mother. OP deserves what she gets at this point. I can only hear about people making these kinds of f*ck-ups so many times before I stop feeling sorry for them. There does come a point where you're the architect of your own misery, after all. The truly sad part of all this is that there's an innocent child involved. They're the one who's really gonna suffer for the actions of these two.

[@michamocha]

S1: She's so naive that it's painful. If it was that easy, why didn't he do this before he "married" her lmao? The dude is playing her for a fool and she's happy to remain blissfully ignorant. For her sake, I genuinely hope this does end in her favor.

[@Lithiel]

Story 1: OP got duped….. I feel so bad for them… 😞 but most especially the child.

[@babamoeensam7.1.14]

Oh, so are the kids not real as well?? OMG

[@stellamccoy5259]

S1. OP needs help. How come he has kids with this woman and this fake woman? S2. NTA. Your sister is an evil person. She knows what her announcement will do to your marriage. I would go nc with OP and her family if I were her.

[@KE-hr4sb]

S1: Gullible, party of one, your table at Areyoufuckingseriousrightnow is ready.

[@philippamarsh8185]

Story 1 - my god, OP is so thick. She’s wilfully blind to the facts here. I feel really sorry for the children in this sorry tale. She’s in for a horrible life with this vile bloke. 🤮

[@TheLamrose]

Story 1: None are as blind as those that will not see. SMH

[@pris1378]

i have a bridge i can sell to op1...

[@shripleypibbles]

It’s like if you’re ok with polygamy just be ok with it, but lying to yourself is crazy. He could have said from the start that he had a previous marriage if there was nothing to hide.

[@thebhome]

My cousin's ex husband did this: marrying her to get a green card (was raised in US, so basically a citizen but without the card) then after getting married, gets a "spectacular" job in a state over, and begins cheating on her asap. Legit would leave toothbrushes or the hair brush of the other woman out because he was too stupid to hide it... My family works in law/government so his green card was easily, and swiftly voided and he lost his wonderful job. divorce and court hearing for the green card was started and wrapped up in about 2 months. My family came swooping in the moment we suspected of cheating.

[@mireyarinna171]

I’m SOOO grateful that there’s no music in this. Background music is distracting, drives me crazy, and doesn’t add anything good to the experience. Granted, I am autistic. The background music is redundant and exhausting. This makes the experience so much more delightful. Thank you.

[@jeneden3492]

S1: "but we're still gonna send money to the wife" "i'm glad to be back with Jake" "I can usually tell when he's lying" the suffering she gets she deserves at this point

[@SadWorm030]

Story 1 just has me worry for that poor woman just ahhhhhhhhhhhhhh.

[@heatheraucoin5832]

S1- Op is a naive pick me lost cause. I believe SHE WANTS believe him and doesn’t want to LOSE. I bet if the 1st wife got pregnant today, she would write it off as, “This was before I knew he lied to me, but it’s ok bc he’s leaving her/ children to be with me. That’s the most important thing, is that he chose me.” Lost cause.

[@koffeetechshow]

Dear God, OP is delusional

[@lalvarez5151]

Story 2-NTA. The guy did NOT propose, he made his intentions know and hadnt even bought a ring. Its not like if he proposed and the sister accepted. Doing that and so close to the sister's wedding makes the little sister an uber AH

[@potatoempress5731]

Story 1 OP is such the perfect victim, holy basket. As soon as I saw the age gap I was like "yep"

[@aduckofsomesort]

Obviously the date is a piece of crap, but having children with an arranged wife isn’t a reason to say that he really wanted to be married to his wife. That’s the whole point of arranged marriages for religious reasons you get married and make children.

[@Acehigh-Jenkins]

First op needs to watch Reesa Teesa’s series coz she’s got one like him on her hands!

[@habituallearner7680]

Story 1: as soon as he has obtained permanent residency, he'll bring his real wife and kids over and then it will be hasta la vista baby to OP and her child.

[@moodycrab77]

Yeah Markee, you're not wrong! I got married knowing my EX husband for 5 months when he moved to my country temporarily, now we are broken up after three children and many seen and unseen bruises, horrible, especially after move to his home country and he had all the power all the money, because I was stay at home mom. It's taken me a really long time to make friends, but that's not the same as having family. edit grammar ❤

[@Letha-AnnCooper]

Don’t do it OP. This is crazy. He had kids with her. You couldn’t tell he was lying in the past! Wow. This is a crappy situation. Please rethink this reunion

[@sarahbauer5593]

I met my husband on 10/31/72, got engaged 12/23/72 and got married 4/73. My older sister got married 7/73 because her husband had to either marry her immediately or he would have to go back to jail as he had been found guilty of rape. My sister got devorced within 7 years. I am still happily married 51 years later.

[@quartzskull8772]

Why would she marry that?

[@catalinacaro8183]

1# even if my partner told me "don't worry my other partner already knows" I would STILL contact them to verify, if they answer with anything other than "yes, is true, I know and I'm okay with it" I'm guessing they didn't know (like for example if the partner managed to convince the other the person claiming cheating just wants to ruin the relationship, resulting them in calling you a liar or just blocking)

[@macylouwho1187]

My mother and father in law married after one month of dating (not joking) and are still married 30 years later. My husband and I married right out of high school and we are still happily married (seriously in love and we hold hands wherever we go) 27 years later. I was 19 when we married. We had been engaged while I was still in my last year of high school. Our youngest is leaving for her university town this year. We won’t be having midlife crises and cheating and breaking up when she does. We’re lifers. It really depends on the people and how much they do love each other. Some make it, some don’t. But I honestly know a ton of people where I live who have married young and die together and are so happy together. The love was real, it lasted. Some people can’t stick it out without wandering off to sleep with someone else, but a ton of marriages do make it without incident. My husband takes me everywhere but work because he genuinely wants me with him, and he works with guys in a male dominated field. So no cheating. And I sure as heck haven’t. I can’t stay off that boy, he’s my everything.

[@SCOOBYGD]

Hiding a wife??? Im intrigued.

[@jess-bo98]

Man, my half siblings are the favourites and their is no amount of therapy in the world that would make me trust them 😂

[@evees1346]

I would like to see an update on both stories

[@TheCointreaux]

Why does he still have to send them money? Can they come over to OP's country and get the guy?

[@azuill1126]

32 year old dating a 20 year old I'm already throwing some side eye

[@aniko7125]

Story 1: He’s still lying to you. OP: “I can tell when he’s lying.” Also OP: Can’t tell when he was lying and had a secret wife and family the entire time…… 🤨 Some people just can’t be saved. 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@MsElla415]

This might be the only situation where I support reporting someone to immigration..

[@stephjovi]

Story 1 searched reddit. The story is one month old as off may 2024. User deleted.. Feels like the story is real. But op is so naiv downright dumb. So sad

[@hodgeelmwood8677]

A minute and a half in and I can see the red flags from a mile away.

[@PlasticBluVentRabbit]

I dunno if OP’s a dumbass, or just in the deepest denial i’ve seen in a while :/ it’s not often you see ALL THE PROBLEMS and still say “haha sure i’m in”

[@analisaacosta974]

Good morning from the US!

[@CarlosBristol1663]

Story 1: the level of stupididty and denial is asotunding...and Jake's level of lying is ridiculous as well...sure, a county and culture where arranged marriages are still done will not ensure that the marriages are within legal standards...sureeeeee