I Found Secret Messages On My Husband's Phone Detailing His Affair With Our Son's GF r/Relationships

[@lalalachris]

Justifiable how angry Mary was. She is supposed to feel safe around her father, not that bringing her friends around exposed them to a predator. It’s a strong sign she loves her friends. Also all the justification about the old man with a 19yo was so creepy. Just sounds like her parroting what an old creep told her

[@carlrood4457]

She's probably analyzing ever interaction she ever had with her father, not just her friends' interactions. I'd get her talking to someone fast.

[@MrJpaynebb]

He betrayed his entire family for what?! OP is going to divorce him if only so she can have relationships with her kids. He destroyed the bond with his son and daughter. None of them can ever trust him again. The son even if he ever forgives his dad will never trust a future girlfriend or wife with him. The daughter cannot trust him to not seduce her friends. What's the "context" he keeps mentioning for going after his son's girlfriend? Is he going to spin a tale of waiting until she was 18 before developing feelings for her? Flirting with her? Seducing her? It still would mean he went after his son's girlfriend which is a betrayal.

[@ZombieSazza]

@@carlrood4457oh 100% she will be, she won’t ever be able to trust him again and will be scared of ever having friends near her home and father ever again!

[@nightmarefanatic1819]

And this asshole thinks he's getting any custody of her. She's old enough to decide who she wants to be with and I seriously doubt she wants to be around the predator at wll

[@CircusoftheMoon]

“We’re in love!” “Your love has a pretty firm expiration date.”

[@Paige_wonders]

What kind of 'context' could make anything about this situation with a teenager better?

[@LittleMaitea]

Absolutely non But he will try anyways because he can’t accept that he is the bad guy and his kids will hate him forever

[@Gymtoshi]

“Context”: I waited until she was 18! I did nothing wrong. I bet he’s in a world class denial about how badly he groomed her.

[@Ash-op2ql]

It’s the same sort of argument cheaters will use when they’re caught literally in the act “ this isn’t what it looks like!” There’s no explanation that’s makes two people in bed not mean they’re having sex. And there’s absolutely no context that makes f-ing a kid you’ve know most of their life acceptable.

[@a.b.2850]

That’s so typical of narcissistic abusers, so empty but rather full OS. They truly believe they can bend reality to fit them, bend the facts to fit reality he’s comfortable with, reality he thinks he’s in control of, reality he wants to be true and will fight to stay in control of, to suit his image and reputation, a reality that paints him as ‘not that predatory monster’ but rather as normal with ‘understandable man needs’ (he thinks we’d understand if only we’d listen to ‘poor him complaining about suffering so much’) within a ‘context’ [that he can manipulate] that he swears will explain and justifie everything and ‘make it all makes sense’… As if any context imaginable in this world could/would justify in any possible way his choice of actions. Only a crazy or evil person would try to defend themselves like that.

[@ComaLies225]

Jesus crisis that husband in the first story is DISGUSTING. Also, he wants to complain about OPs body but we’re not gonna be out here pretending he’s not wrinkly in his old age lol

[@supergeeky7529]

Right? Grandpa needs to shut his fucking mouth!

[@tacobelle6680]

That scene from Big Daddy pops into mind "loose skin, old b@lls, GROSS!!!"

[@kichikitsu]

ah, but you see, he's attracted to kids, not old women, so he's allowed to be cruel towards OP! (/heavy sarcasm)

[@maniaclaugh]

I wonder if he didn't try his luck with his own daughter...he doesn't seem to have any qualms about going after his son's minor gf, because come on there's no qay he didn't sample the goods before the big 18 even if he didn't have the main course until after.

[@misslauren6798]

The fact that the fiancé thought the OPs problem was "feeling threatened" by the old guy, instead of "disgusted"...🤦🏾‍♀️ Also, that whole thing about having to bang her out in order to relieve frustration whenever he sees the old dude...😖

[@thanos8077]

They should've exposed that creep

[@Rose-yt5hi]

That was such a dumpster fire of a post. Seems like a cross between a porno and a Lifetime movie that ends in murder. Lmao.

[@Rose-yt5hi]

That was such a dumpster fire of a post. Seems like a cross between a porno and a Lifetime movie that ends in murder. Lmao.

[@ida6950]

Right? That last part was so gross and unhinged

[@michaelwoods3651]

Story 2- op and his fiancé both sound like toxic red flags!

[@johnlong572]

yeah how dare she insult the pedo that groomed her GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR

[@fallingawayfromthenorm]

Story 2 - That relationship is all sorts of unhealthy from everyone involved. Marriage isn’t going to do anything for OP and his fiancée but give them a bigger mess to sort out when it bites the dust.

[@vanguardangel6912]

Yeah I was just staring at it going “so yall are just gonna keep enabling each other’s shitty behavior”?

[@Mario-SunshineGalaxy64]

JFC, that's all I can say. Husband is nasty and creepy and Amy is messed up in the mind. I feel terrible for OP and her kids, and I’m glad OP took action quickly, but jeeze this is messy as all hell.

[@spencerreidfan101]

The first story had my jaw on the floor at every sentence. Cheating husband, check. cheating with your son’s significant other check. Being with a Minor whose in the same age group as your daughter 😱😱😱😱 I don’t wish that enough revelation on anyone. That mom is a strong lady.

[@PonderingStudent]

I remember the first story - there were more updates. Iirc, Amy refuse to accept that the "husband" didn't love her and it became clearer and clearer that this guy had a thing for young girls, but sadly no way to prove it. Edit: for anyone who's curious , I found a channel that has more updates kzbin.info/www/bejne/boamlZeGoLBnpZY

[@brookeneeley396]

Wait until he dumps her when she turns 25 because "she's now a old maid"

[@muktagogoi8877]

Could you give the update?

[@kichikitsu]

... well, yeah. unfortunately that's the reality of grooming. they make you think you're special, that they love YOU, all so they can prey off of you. learning that all of it was a lie hurts and will take a long time to come to terms with.

[@Mario-SunshineGalaxy64]

I’m glad for the comments on the second post update because they really put things into a more reasonable perspective. Initially I was rooting for OP but realized how none of the people in the post were particularly likable. Fiancé did not have to verbally abuse the guy. OP using sex to “cope” sounds gross, like an animal pissing on its territory. As for the 52 year old guy, yikes.

[@TheRockinDonkey]

Yeah, everyone sucks in that one. OP’s girl was probably groomed though, so she might be a victim. I find it hard to believe that she initiated that relationship. She might think she did, but if that dude spent her teen years grooming her, she might not even realize that he did. Either way, OP sounds gross with the dominant behavior.

[@pippo17173]

The updates makes me think this marriage was a sham from the start and op is reaping what she sows with Amy being in the cross fire.

[@ZombieSazza]

@@TheRockinDonkey​​⁠he is super gross, just the whole “I’ll shag it out of her” attitude is insane, like does he not recognise she was literally groomed? The old guy knew her when she was a literal child and groomed his friends daughter, and he instead has the attitude of “I’ll shag her constantly, that’ll fix the grooming that happened and make me feel less uncomfortable being around the guy.” What’s truly insane to me is hearing him use her as a “coping mechanism”, it’s just beyond gross. Never considered speaking about this properly, or going to couples counselling or her going to therapy, didn’t consider speaking to the guy with a firm “you are not welcome at the wedding”, and didn’t consider speaking to her dad… no, he just wanted to use her body like she was an object.

[@ZombieSazza]

⁠​​⁠he is super gross, just the whole “I’ll shag it out of her” attitude is insane, like does he not recognise she was literally groomed? The old guy knew her when she was a literal child and groomed his friends daughter, and he instead has the attitude of “I’ll shag her constantly, that’ll fix the grooming that happened and make me feel less uncomfortable being around the guy.” What’s truly insane to me is hearing him use her as a “coping mechanism”, it’s just beyond gross. Never considered speaking about this properly, or going to couples counselling or her going to therapy, didn’t consider speaking to the guy with a firm “you are not welcome at the wedding”, and didn’t consider speaking to her dad… no, he just wanted to use her body like she was an object.

[@ZombieSazza]

Literally using her as a seggs doll and nothing more, just some extremely gross behaviour!

[@jaylynn8630]

I'm so glad that OP from story 1 decided to confront her STBX over zoom instead of in person. The way she described him getting so angry makes me think she might have been in physical danger had they been having this talk in person.

[@heatherweir8726]

Story one. Op needs to get tested for Sti/Stds. Her son also needs to get tested. If he is cheating with an 18 year old there is a high possibility he is cheating with others.

[@FormCreator]

I mean, he was also on dating apps so more likely than not 😬

[@sovereigncrux]

Story 1: So husband has been diddling a new adult (barely 18), your son's girlfriend, and you have no idea for how long this has been going on except that your husband has had access to this minor for four years. She said she misses sex acts - That implies a history and less likely this has been transpiring only since she turned 18. Your husband is into BDSM and has been grooming this (then underage) girl to be his object of lust (And while BDSM does not denote a person's morality, I think the rest of the situation illustrates how long this could actually have been transpiring). Snapshot everything, give it to your son, your lawyers, and the girl's parents. Divorce, and get both yourself and your son into therapy pronto, you'll both need it.

[@streamerssaymyname]

I wonder if she only turned 18 the past 3 months and that is why their chat history is only 3 months old, removing any evidence while she was under 18.

[@carolynperry7134]

I read the post and OP said the age of consent in her state is 18. She said she’s compiled evidence on her husband that will ruin his life. It’s been turned over to the police.

[@randomusername3873]

Stop pretending all 18 years old are souless monster like this creature

[@b.c.9358]

Man, everyone in story 2 sucked. I think the comments making fun of the guy's inability to calculate the tip on a $20 bill were so cruel. At least he tipped! I got diagnosed with a learning disability in my 20s in college and struggled with math all through high school. The fiancee sucks, OP sucks, and the older guy sucks.

[@E7XEE]

My thoughts exactly, like op has an unhealthy coping mechanism of sex but he then he blames it on his gf for still associating with the ex? Yes she definitely should of cut the ex off ages ago and I think she’s REALLY toxic too but op needs to get therapy for himself, what if she gets a coworker who flirts with her, is he just gonna repeat the same behavior? Yikes all around

[@LadyBern]

Dyscalculia? It's sadly one of those issues that gets dismissed as 'just bad at maths', instead of being looked into like dyslexia might be.

[@supergeeky7529]

Story 2 fiance is mean, op is psycho. I guess they deserve each other

[@tamsel814]

After hearing the ages: Did he cheat or did he groom a teenager?

[@fireknight0146]

Both? Both. He cheated on OP with a teenager he groomed.

[@kaykay8855]

Both

[@belrevan1986]

Both

[@GalliaUchiha]

Definitely both

[@loganjoh1]

Both

[@ashlaraque4135]

She needs to go scorched earth. He is disgusting. I feel horrible for the wife kids and even that 18-year-old that he basically took advantage of. What a horrible human being.

[@yamairad1]

Last story. Fiancé should not get married without therapy.

[@franciebelcher4594]

S2. Ewww. OP NTA. I would also sit gf down and really talk 2 her. If she still wants the old dude there, talk to her Dad, or dump her, or both. And definitely get therapy, should've done that the second he started using his gf as a stress ball🙄

[@league-of-shadows]

It bothers me that OPs fiance doesn’t realize even if she was numerically an adult and went after the guy she was not mature mentally because she allowed someone who had been there through her CHILDHOOD treat her and speak to her the way he had. Like the reason why it angers her NOW is because she matured enough to realize how disrespectful he was being to her. I honestly think she was embarrassed by how naive she had been and took it out on the guy - not that he didn’t deserve it. They both need therapy together and separately.

[@Bala_Niranna]

i am begging people to finish the story before commenting

[@fabulousporcupine3828]

If I was op/fiancé I’d just tell the dude to make an excuse to not come to the wedding or I’d tell dad the truth. Like duh

[@NakaidaBeauzec]

Oh please according to reddit the fiance is still a kid lol

[@ajb7530]

OPs husband should be sent to prison.

[@thenumberoneprincessesinth4950]

S2) How did OP miss the fact that an older man that knew her her whole life, slept with her and made her feel dirty... Like that's definitely some for of grooming.

[@coreymartin6486]

Not every story that involves a girl turning of age and older guy is about grooming. Some girls initiate it without a buildup because it's a confidence booster....and she literally said she did it for that reason.

[@MrJpaynebb]

She said she wanted him. She initiated their sexual relationship. Young adults get horny. Not everyone is an innocent and naive when young. They need couples counseling before getting married because neither seem to have healthy habits with sex or communication.

[@coreymartin6486]

@@MrJpaynebb agreed

[@brandi5126]

S1: This is brutal for Op and the son. Some people just ain't right.

[@carolroberts4614]

And the daughter. Her father is lusting after girls in her own age group, and she's remembering interactions between him and her own friends in a different light too.

[@brandi5126]

​@carolroberts4614 yes, definitely the daughter too. The guy is a creep.

[@crichtonbruce4329]

Story 2... I hope OP and his girl do some pre-marital counseling. OP at least has to get over needing to hate F. her whenever he feels angry. That is in no way healthy!

[@lizartfight9157]

"And now onto our next story" AUGH!!!! AAAUGHH!!! MARKEE!! MARKEE PLEASE STORY 1 WAS TOO BRUTALLY TO MOVE ON LIKE THAT

[@Gymtoshi]

I really hope Amy gets into therapy, she doesn’t realize she was groomed. She’s going to need help understanding what he did and how bad it was.

[@randomusername3873]

Imagine ruining someone's life and having an army of people defending you

[@rockalleanv]

There's more in story 1. Really waiting for the final update. PLEASE KARMA, GET HIM!!

[@MiZZVMN]

The was second OP talks about his fiancé shows that she’s just an object to him. “The only way I cope with it is to rail her.”

[@destanyd604]

Story 2, no way that guy didn't groom ops fiance if he knew her while she grew up.

[@arleneclark6369]

She initiated the relationship, so I doubt it, not all young people that date much older people have been groomed.

[@jasonrustmann7535]

​@@arleneclark6369 idiots just love to say older men getting younger girls are "grooming" them, but have nothing but praise for women who get younger guys.

[@andrewbest-zr9qe]

He betryaed his own son, what a pos

[@loganjoh1]

Story 1: OP’s husband probably a Drake fan

[@TryniaMerin]

Being in a sexual relationship: It's like drinking tea. Just because you liked it at one time doesn't mean you have to keep drinking it. And you don't have to drink it when you're out cold, and you don't have to drink it when you don't want it.

[@coreymartin6486]

Last story.....OP is so gullible that it would ve funny if it wasnt so sad. She sure has him fooled. How convienant that the texts she's saved for years are only now triggering for her.

[@krysallis9673]

Considering she's like years older, it makes sense. I was groomed by an older man from 16-17 and it wasn't until I turned 18-19 that I realized how fucked up it was. It all just clicked for me when I realized that I would never talk to a child the way that man talked to me, and found just the thought repulsive. I gave him a piece of my mind when I had the chance to talk to him again. Every horrible thing that I could say just came spewing out. It probably clicked for her the same way.

[@pippo17173]

Ya I am starting to think that maybe the relationship has never ended at this point. She was an adult when it started and while the possiblity of groom is there, She seems to be firm on what she did back then.

[@coreymartin6486]

@krysallis9673 while sorry you experienced that....not all 18 year olds who sleep with old dudes are groomed. Many do it for the ego boost....and she literally expressed she initiated sex to feel "cool".

[@SCOOBYGD]

​Women are always victims ​@@coreymartin6486

[@krysallis9673]

@@coreymartin6486 Okay well I'm not saying she was groomed, I'm sharing my personal experience of being groomed and how when you're younger things don't seem as deep as they are. Just trying to share another perspective.

[@You_said_what1]

Markee - you don’t usually mess up this badly. Multiple updates missing.

[@coreymartin6486]

From which story?

[@b.c.9358]

Iirc, he said he was posting from a backlog. He's been pretty busy recently, maybe you can ask for an update video on his lives.

[@ShilohFae]

He mentioned in a live he was going on vacation. I'm sure he'll update when he gets back.

[@loganjoh1]

Story 2: OP and his fiancée still need to to go to couples counseling the whole coping having that creep around by screwing her brains out while a party was going on isn’t healthy. They need better communication also she should have told the guy in no uncertain terms that he was not invited to her wedding like seriously having some guy who you were sleeping with up until right before dating your future husband at your wedding is not a good look on your part.

[@coreymartin6486]

How convienant thst the texts she's kept for years are only now triggering for her.....

[@loganjoh1]

@@coreymartin6486 yeah that kinda made me go "interesting" as well seemed like damage control to me

[@pippo17173]

@@loganjoh1 She didn't end it. That is way to convenient.

[@littlestrawberryfaery]

Story 2: none of these people are good people. Ops fiance is just terrible, toxic, abusive and she definitely sounds unhinged... The old man is a creeper Op is also a unhinged weirdo but the least NTA out of all of them.

[@mgen278]

Someone needs to tell Amy that if he was so in love with her he wouldn’t have a million dating profiles & nor would he be sexting a bunch of other people.

[@joeyjojojrshabadoo7462]

Or married, with children, one of which is her boyfriend.

[@colleens1107]

I agree the whole thing in the second story could have been fixed by telling gross old man, we’re inviting you for appearances sake because of your relationship with fiancés dad but you WILL say you have something planned that weekend so I’m RSVPing no. WHY DID THIS NEVER OCCUR TO OP OR FIANCÉ???

[@CyndiRoberts-m4s]

Hey Markee still here after years listening take care my friend from down under!

[@DragonflyandTheWolf]

Story 2: why are people acting all sympathetic to the "old guy" after OP's fiancee threatened to out their past affair? Yes she was a legal adult, yes she was 19, but she was also his old friend's daughter who he watched growing up. He is disgusting for that. He is not an innocent victim. He deserves to lose her father's trust and friendship because he betrayed that friendship by sleeping with his friend's daughter.

[@BruceWayne-ys4iq]

yeah i thought i was tripping too. like yeah OP and his girl sound fucking weird but not people saying “she went too far” with the insults are fucking delusional.

[@DragonflyandTheWolf]

@@BruceWayne-ys4iq the crazy thing is, if this had been told from her FATHER'S point of view, people would be encouraging him to warn all their other friends with daughters. They would be telling him to out him to as many people as possible so their own daughters don't end up sleeping with him, because from a FATHER'S point of view, finding out an old family friend slept with your daughter, a girl he's known since before puberty, they'd be out for blood on the father's behalf. But told from the woman's point of view or her fiance's point of view? Oh she was legal, so what? Don't ruin the "poor man" over her choice. *vomit*

[@Olivia-hx5co]

S2 reads like fanfiction

[@cdelapaz5]

The “figuring out the tip thing” is hilarious to me. 1 dollar per every 5 dollars spent, I normally round up to the next dollar!!! Easy

[@jakemarie828]

The first story was such a mind eff that I tuned out on story 2 until the copium seggs part 😮. Starting again take 4

[@masterq134]

Story 2 that marriage isn’t going to last. She said all that mean shit at the end but she still slept with him multiple times for years. So you couldn’t have hated it that much. You’re just putting on a show for your fiancé.

[@joeyjojojrshabadoo7462]

I disagree. I think they both have got the right ingredients for a lifelong toxic co-dependency.

[@MH-ku5kn]

Oh my gosh, the only way to not to see him again is to put him so he gets fired and Lea es in shame. He deserves the shame. OP and the fiancée deserve leave. Dad deserves to know the true character of someone he’s hired. Simple.

[@gailoakley1748]

2nd story fiancée is a piece of work. A 19 year old initializing sex with a 45 year old is on her. A few years later in a different place in her life is no excuse for now trying to blame him. She is more to blame then anyone and if I were op would be very careful in the future.

[@crawdaddy2004]

0:21 I’m already creeped out

[@k3upikachu]

Story 2: I had "relationships" with grown men when I was 15. They got me drunk and pressured me into sex. I thought I was so cool for hanging out with older guys and thought I was just mature for my age. In my mid-20s - the age they were when I was 15 - I got a message from one of them "reminiscing" about it and felt sick. I realized that I was just a kid and that I, as a 25 year old, would never EVER consider any kind of sexual contact with a high schooler. You'd have to be sick to pursue someone so young, and 19 is very much still a kid in a lot of ways too - especially since most 19 year olds are dependent on their parents and not fully moved out of the house. I wish I'd had that realization when I was 15, but that's why those men go for girls/women who are so young - we didn't know better

[@youwereboringd59]

"My husband works in finance" Welp mistake No. 1

[@Tree-House69]

I feel so bad for the wife and mother, by about every angle possible, she was with her husband for 20 years, of course she was completely caught unaware, I hope she leaves him ASAP for her sake, her sons sake, and even for the 18 yr Olds sake. She also needs to be ready to call the cops, have friends around, I've heard about men like him snapping violently. I hope that she, and her son, are safe.

[@anniedeedrix6732]

AMY IS NOT UNSAFE , she is a willing participant

[@randomusername3873]

The people defending the girlfriend are disgusting

[@dm9078]

She turned a blind eye to it not because she was naive but because as a housewife for the last 20 years she has no power. It is his wedding too. If OP doesn’t want this creep at his wedding don’t have him. Be a man and stand up for himself. Talk about a group of toxic people

[@garthrogers2269]

Wedding story. Fiancée may have realised that she could gave been groomed.

[@markanthony1004]

The title 👀 “Our son’s lover” and I’ve heard this one recently but it’s a good one

[@a.b.2850]

S2: Op needs to man up and talk 1/1 with that man himself in private to make him understand he needs to find a reason to not attend. If the man is good, he’ll understand and will comply with his demand without making a big story out of it, maybe he feels stuck himself and would actually appreciate an out.

[@LT_Fates4228]

That my last story smh.. everyone sucks

[@LT_Fates4228]

The real question is has he shown any attention to his Daughters friends..

[@godbearxd]

If he was so gross & stupid then why did she initiate intimacy with him and continue it for multiple summers? If you not only have ex with someone but you're the one that initiated it and kept doing it putting them down is only dunking on yourself. I don't understand how women think this is a flex.

[@ObsidianFaux]

Op should just break up with the girl if he’s that bothered God she’s the one that was all up on that old guy, abusing elders

[@kissedbypalefirex]

Story 1: op is NTA...the husband is terrible...cheating with HIS SON'S GF....that is just a line you do not cross. I'm glad Shes leaving. Story 2: TEAM NO ONE!I don't like anyone in this story, op & his fiancée seem too immature to be married, i think they should put off getting married. She seems quite horrible...SHE went after the guy, got with him (I'm not sure she's telling the complete truth) & then just ghosted him. Girl could have shut that down hard, she could have been an adult & told the dude "sorry I'm not interested & block"...USE YOUR WORDS. she mocks him about the "member size" like a teenager,. SHE CHASED HIM,SHE PICKED HIM, SLEPT WITH HIM. The "going soft", That kind of stuff happens when you get older. She isn't in "a different headspace", its "damage control", THE only reason she's offended is because you're upset about this, at 1st she felt like a "badass". Then mocking because the leaving a tip, SO WHAT! lots of people aren't good at math. GF's Daddy must be rich. op ,you & and your fiancée are not ready for marriage, you both have a lot of growing up to do.

[@DominosAndHearts]

Story 1- umm what the actual 😮😅

[@Akemi.24-45]

こんばんは～、Markee! Have a good night. ♥️🤗

[@Shortypants1215]

Damnit! There’s no further update on Story 1?!

[@hanoh2904]

Why isn't nobody blaming the gf? Groom or not. It's a choice she made as an 18 year old . Both of them are worst than each other

[@user-dw3ke4cs2w]

200 people away from 100K!!, also story 1 was a repost right?

[@dejang2115]

Markee it’s midnight go to bed

[@Markee]

I would but I had something come up

[@cniknik9863]

It's morning where I am

[@dragonwing4153]

Love your videos

[@NakaidaBeauzec]

Omg redditors are giving the girl a pass? They start young and she is not blameless. At 18 she is an adult.

[@totitelevisionshow]

story 1 or2?

[@mickyminnickys]

It was almost hard to hear about the husband’s reaction to getting caught. My dad groomed and raped a 15-16 year old girl when he was 50 years old, I was 9 at the time and it broke my family apart. Unfortunately I was also assaulted by my dad’s friend’s son, and though my dad himself had nothing to do with that, I’ve never been able to forgive my dad. It’s so hard to think that he did to another girl what someone else did to me. He blamed my mom for everything, would yell “don’t out words in my mouth” when she pointed out his behavior, and insisted that “ANYTHING could be considered sexual assault these days” as though DNA evidence wasn’t found on used condoms. My dad has always been a loving, supportive, carefree father to me, and I know he feels shame about what he’s done, deep down. And I do love him. But every time I’m around him, I’m reminded of the guy who touched me, and how he probably has people in his life who love him too, and maybe even forgive him for what he did. And because of that I can never forgive my dad. Not when all he did was make excuses and refuse to take responsibility for the lives he ruined.

[@kaylalaster1038]

Story 1 literally made me sick to my stomach. I cannot imagine. I really hope OP, and her kids heal and move on from this. Also I know Amy is a victim too, but its really hard to feel bad for her. The husband is absolutely disgusting. The only good thing is that with him being as predatory as he is, Amy wont be enough of a supply and he’s going to prey again. Heck Amy will be too old in a few years if he was setting his dating limit age from 18-22. Just absolutely disgusting, he belongs in jail. I hate to say this, but OP really should expose her husband. And if I was Mary I wouldve exposed Amy on social media. Sometimes you need society to tell you youre disgusting for it to click.

[@maurer3d]

Story 2: WTF, is he even invited to the wedding? NTA.

[@LightSage89]

Did OP or Amy's parents give her the information that OP's husband (I can't remember the fake name she gave the husband and I don't care enough to look back) is on dating websites and actively pursuing other women while they are supposedly "in love". Besides, someone needs to teach Amy that if you upgrade from mistress to the main girl, you have opened up a job opportunity.

[@jay2thaudy]

Story 3 is some backwoods shiii ESH

[@tinamelton6491]

Take to the guy. I don't think you should come.

[@carlissaneumann8133]

WHAT DOES CHUCK UP FOR ONE OF THE BARBIE MEAN PLEASE TELL ME BEFORE I LOSE IT

[@macylouwho1187]

“Daddy issues”. Man. Everyone in that story has them now :(

[@potatoempress5731]

Story 2 : Eww to both fiancee & old creep. What the hell? Old creep known her since kidhood and I bet if fiancee's father knew he will destroy him for that. Fiancee is mean as hell after the fact, and disregards OP's feelings just because it's *normal* for her. Also what's with this one commenter on this video defending the creepy relationship in every reply? You know who you are.

[@valeriew4833]

I feel bad for the old guy lol but hopefully he likes his new life in Florida

[@supergeeky7529]

Story 1 makes me wanna puke!

[@jasonrustmann7535]

Nice

[@KadeStringer2.0]

To the commenter who said that op should work with his fiancée obviously needs to shut up because they made progress .

[@jakeand9020]

Sorry, everyone in that last story is f-d up. OP, at least recognizes ge has a problem. Girlfriend, seriously can't understand why seeing someone she "used" to hookup with everyday would make OP uncomfortable, then claiming it's crazy to consider him a threat when she pursued him in the first place. What, was he just much hotter a year ago or something? That guy for hooking up with a girl he's known since she was a child, regardless of who initiated it, is just gross.

[@robert4657]

Op i would not marry this woman. If she is still that close to him its not over between the 2. Id tell father in law. It doesnt matter if she started it. The father should actually leave dude 6 feet under.

[@piratsnygg]

Story 2: "WhAt DiD tHe oLd GuY dO wRoNg? 🤡" Spoken like a true predator and groomer.

[@coreymartin6486]

Not every story of a young girl and old guy involves grooming. Some girls do it as confidence boosters AND SHE LITERALLY said as much for her reason. Plus, the texts she's kept for years are only triggering now? How convienant.

[@BruceWayne-ys4iq]

@@coreymartin6486are you fucking stupid? it makes sense that obviously she grew as a person and saw how gross the texts were. Haven’t you read your former texts and realized “i should’ve done x” or “y was bad”?

[@johnlong572]

I don't know if it's funny or scary how reddit got so angry and butthurt at the op and so defensive over a man who clearly groomed the ops wife I've seen stories where people where being abused and attacked have divided replies but the one where there's a clear groomer no divide here all defend the pedo but that's reddit for you

[@mweathers79]

S1: groomer S2: it’s her choice? Why doesn’t that apply to story one? Hypocrisy is Reddits breath and blood.

[@switzer_no_switzing]

Because it's the son's gf my guy! Come on now!

[@NeloBladeOfRanni]

Because in the case of the second one she pretty much admitted she went after him for a confidence boost. Speaking for myself I used to do that sane shit when I was 18-21 go after way older men purely for the ego trip/confidence boost

[@Monsterbunnych]

Op and his fiancé are.. weird ? I can’t imagine not talking to someone I used to hook up with 3 years ago and they call me insulting everything about me because they’re mad they wanted to sleep with me and their soon to be husband can’t cope with seeing me in public to the point he was to have sex with her at that moment ..

[@BruceWayne-ys4iq]

i mean if the context of the hookup was a father’s work friend who was sending creepy texts to a barely legal kid was ignored, sure it would be weird.

[@anniedeedrix6732]

She is not a victim , 18 year old is wise enough to know what is wrong and what is not .. she is not a victim

[@blix_xo]

I dislike that often. Everytime something goes wrong with an 18 yr old ~ they are a child. Another time they are an adult. Which is it?

[@damien678]

He'd been grooming her since before she was 18

[@happilyevernever4289]

​@@blix_xo I think it's because this could've started via grooming. So this could've started way before she was a legal adult. Doesn't absolve her of her bad actions. But we also need to see reality and realize that she too was a victim. The main villain was the father. And people choose to focus on that coz he was always the adult in all this, committing adultery and statutory rape.

[@Fakenghey]

Wow pfft the whole cast in story 2 sucks. Borderline impossible to root for anybody on this one.

[@brandygiovinazzi3460]

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[@modernsisyphus]

Honestly? I feel bad for the fiancé in the second story It sounds like both of the men in her life just see her an object rather than a person Idc what op said, that guy screwing her after she became legal is straight up grooming

[@dream6562]

The dads a real chad

[@happilyevernever4289]

Shut up

[@Nemesis7293]

Story 1 - Blah, blah, blah. She's legal and I couldn't give a rusty fuck.

[@totitelevisionshow]

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