I Want Fiancees Sister Out Of Our Wedding, She's Making Comments On My Body r/Relationships

[@SaphireSalvatore940]

Story one: do not marry a woman who minimalises sexual harassment and thinks it's a joke and the double standards from the fiance, eww.

[@TiffWaffles]

I don't understand anyone who ignores any kind of sexual harassment and assault. Honestly, I don't. It's just so mind boggling that there's no words.

[@SaphireSalvatore940]

@@TiffWaffles certainly is a special breed of person. It's when they start with the "you should take it as a compliment" like WTF get outta here with that shiz!

[@yourneighborhooddeadpool488]

I’m glad they broke up, HUGE bullet dodged. Who would want to marry someone that says that they are more important than their partner?? That fiancée pissed me off

[@somedragonbastard]

@@TiffWaffles it's such a serious problem for male victims of sexual harassment. Since people assume men are naturally dominant and sexual, they see the harassment and assault of men as unimportant or even blame the men for it. It's disgusting.

[@SaphireSalvatore940]

@@yourneighborhooddeadpool488 "I'm a woman so my emotions mean more" umm...pardon?! What kind of backwards mental gymnastics brought her to that one

[@khaavren3]

She gave the ring back with no emotions because she didn't want to be married to someone with a spine anyway. If OP wasn't going to cater to her totally, she didn't want him.

[@BW022]

Or she never wanted to get married in the first place, or she was cheating on him and is hoping he would make a move on his sister so she could blame in the it, or she is so enamored with her family they can't do any wrong, etc. Net result, she says her feeling are more important than his. It's over. He dodged a bullet and should look back.

[@zerobolt9506]

@@BW022 "his" sister 🤨, jk I know you just made a mistake in typing 😂

[@BW022]

@@zerobolt9506 🙂 LOL.

[@amberaseltine3012]

Actually there souldbbe a comment that when she find a guy that would cater to her emotion, will sleep with her sister behind her back.

[@tallyp.7643]

The more I thought about it, the more it felt this way. Ten bucks says her mother rules the house without question and her father is either physically absent, mentally checked out of the marriage, or has the spine of a jellyfish (or all 3) and she thinks that's what marriage should be.

[@GIChiyo]

"I am the woman and my feelings should be more catered to" WOW that is telling, what a toxic woman

[@RockyGems]

I was gonna say, way to throw your entire gender under the bus.

[@LetholdusKaspyr]

Yeah, that won't go away after marriage, either. If a woman thinks that her opinion is worth more because she's a woman, she doesn't love you, doesn't value you. She's using you, and when you finally grow a spine and leave, she'll use the next sucker too.

[@jamestown8398]

@@RockyGems GIChiyo never said all women were toxic, just that this specific one was.

[@harrypotter2700]

@@jamestown8398 I’m pretty sure they were agreeing with GIChiyo and directing the “throwing your gender under the bus” comment to the wife.

[@RockyGems]

@@harrypotter2700 I was, thanks.

[@Arthus850]

The last story honestly pissed me off. Not because of anything OP did, I’m totally on his side. Because of how many people told him to just abandon his step daughter because she’s not blood related. I get that they think OP should parent his daughter, but people actually got angry that he helped his step daughter when she had health issues? They’re practically telling him to abandon his step family just because they’re not blood related. That pisses me off. Family is not determined by blood, it’s determined by who you love, and he clearly loves his step daughter.

[@WobblesandBean]

That's the AITA Mommy Cult for you. They're a bunch of idiot women who think that parenting = abuse, and a child, no matter if they're a legal adult, can NEVER be wrong, and people should bend over backwards to cater to their needs over anyone else, no matter what. They're either teen girls themselves, or mothers who are raising entitled monsters.

[@bryanroy3316]

I completely agree. She’s not 8, she’s 19 goddamn years old. She should be punished as an adult, because she is an adult. Sometimes, Redditors can act completely brain dead.

[@zerofate9669]

It pisses me off to how people can so easily say to throw the victim who is not blood related out as if it's their fault from the start. The problem is his daughter and her attitude and aggression towards the step daughter who did nothing wrong. Why go accuse and do something like this to the victim who is being abused, attacked, mistreated, and targeted? And also it seems like the mother might know why she's like this and flat out refusing to go to counseling is making it more obvious. And she appears to not care what she does at his place, as long as she's out and not in her presence she's fine with it. Maybe the other daughter knows what she's like this or the full root of it since she is allowed to stay. And Luke needs to stay the hell out of this, this has nothing to do with him, he's just a boyfriend, not a father or baby daddy. His words have 0 value in a situation he's not involved or part of.

[@Ambidexter143]

OP treats his stepdaughter as his daughter. He obviously loves her and has become her father. Well done, OP, many stepdads don't take that step.

[@zerofate9669]

@@Ambidexter143 ikr and it's sad we dont see things like this more. Blood shouldn't matter who you decide for yourself on who's family. All children deserve parents, but not all parents deserve children.

[@Emily-ck9ji]

OP from story one definitely did the right things by canceling the wedding and dumping the fiance. Not only did she disregard his concerns about her sister's attempts to assault him, she clearly felt that he was an individual didn't matter at all. She, her sister, her family - they're the only ones who counted. I doubt this woman loved him. I think he was just the doll she wanted to dress up as her husband who would also follow her orders. Nothing he thought or felt seemed to have mattered. The strangely emotionless way she treated his request for the ring made me a little nervous. Lol. I hope he changes his locks. A narcissist who isn't getting their way usually finds a way to "get even".

[@youarehere594]

Not that I agree with what she did in any way, but the emotionless might be shock. Honestly, the wedding was coming up, he seemed to go along with what she wanted, although to her his complaining about her sister was...to her mind...not important, so this may have very well blindsided her. If that is the case, good. She very badly needed that wake up call. The OP should've kept his phone around to record everything that the sister did to prove to the fiance that her sister was out of line, but ultimately, she still would have put family in front of OP so that's a bullet he dodged.

[@GabrielleHayes1921]

I agree, change the locks and put up cameras with night vision and audio everywhere.

[@diarradunlap9337]

​@@GabrielleHayes1921 I would also add to get a firearms license and home/self defense weaponry. If she breaks in and is armed, he'll need to defend himself. If he does, he needs to make sure she NEVER makes a second attempt.

[@Russman67]

The idea that the fiance thought her sister sexually harassing OP was a joke and that her feelings were the only things that matter is a whole red flag factory. This can't be the first time this attitude showed up.

[@marshawargo7238]

I think it's possibly a society thing. If OP were female & sis were the brother EVERYONE would jump on the sexual harassment that it was! Even OP said "technically" then again said it in the update. It is getting there(slowly)but it's still hard for Some People to believe that a man can be sexually or physically harassed\abused. My husband had 2 different friends who were married to physically & verbally abusive women. My husband had dated 1 of them before we met. He said she wasn't like that with him(but they were only in 7th & 8th grades at that time)

[@SkyEcho751]

Story 1: Ah good old Misandry, saying that men should bow to the feelings of the girl they are dating simply because of their sex. Same as Misogyny is when you tell Women to be quiet and listen to men they are in a romantic relationship. Story 2: Wow, she needs therapy because destroying things on impulse isn't normal. And the Ex/mother needs to get slapped upside the head because I 100% believe she is the cause of all these issues at this point.

[@lindaandersen5723]

Wouldn't be surprised if X/mother had said/made up something about the divorce that became the catalyst of the girl's violent tendencies. Is that why X is so reluctant about therapy, because then it would be revealed?

[@SkyEcho751]

@@lindaandersen5723 Something along those lines. I remember one story where the son destroyed a bunch of trees, turns out the mother had been cheating and manipulated him to the point the son couldn't think straight. Said actions only got reveal in guess where... That right, the therapy that the cheating mother was against. Given the level of destructive tendencies match what happened in that story, and the refusal of the mother/the ex matching in both. I expect she is the root cause, and she could lose custody if they went back to court.

[@stephaniewilson3955]

I agree with both verdicts. Particularly the second one. That poor girl's mother is undoubtedly the one behind her behaviour.

[@Pidgeyato]

That one story 2 comment made me angry. "For someone who isn't even your real daughter" a step family is still a family. He cares for that girl like shes her own. She is family. Of course he isn't taking Lian's side, she destroyed the poor girl's belongings! Acting out and yelling is one thing. I'm a moody teenager, I get it. But I couldn't imagine destroying somebody's property. OP is NTA imo

[@zerobolt9506]

Me too

[@simonO712]

I know right?

[@draconicfeline6177]

Plus, biodaughter is 19. That's not fully mature, sure, but it's old enough to not tear someone's fucking clothes to shreds out of weird, petty jealousy.

[@mimiNana-yi4cy]

probably the ex wife, or his daughter, saying that. It was so over the top.

[@tallyp.7643]

Yeah, that comment right there is why stepparents get such a bad rap. If you try to be there and have a relationship, you're "trying to replace the other parent" or "control things." If you don't, it means "you don't love the kids at all" or "you love your real family more." Maybe that's why they call it a "Step" family, because you have to be quick on your feet to dodge the emotional and social traps laid before you and heaven help you if your steps land wrong.

[@owl7072]

Story 2: That YTA comment made me borderline feral. "Maybe she wants you to stand up for her the way you stand up for someone who isn't even your real daughter" She 19 YEARS OLD. That is PLENTY old enough for her to know better than to destroy someone's property whether it's out of petty jealousy or not. Just because Op isn't the bio dad of both girls doesn't mean she gets a free pass to destroy her stepsister's belongings because she's a little uwu baby with hurt feelings (which again, she's _nineteen._ Not a damn baby.) I'm 20, almost 21, and am dumb 75% of the time and yet even I knew better than that at 19.

[@SuperYoshi29]

WELL SAID! I felt the same!!

[@zerobolt9506]

Same, I said the a word in my comment just now calling them (the commenter) that cause of how mad I was, I try not to write out words like that on the internet 😅

[@wmdkitty]

Being 19 doesn't make her feelings invalid. The YTA commenter was right, OP didn't want her "ruining" his shiny new family.

[@renlosee5223]

That comment rubbed me the wrong way because wtf! It was one of those situations where Reddit would have given him hell if he hadn't stood up for Sophie (which by the way, stepping up is the right thing). Double standard much? I feel like a lot of the YTA and ESH people were like that! And then finding out that people calling OP out for supporting the kid in her new hobby while ill... Can I beat them? Please?

[@mimiNana-yi4cy]

@@wmdkitty did you read the story? He took her in, she refused to cooperate on any level. Her own mother did not want her back, that is very telling.

[@sadieann1036]

That last story was rough, personally. My sister got cancer at the age of 14. Non aggressive stage two(because of the size of the tumor, not metastisized). I was 17 and in my senior year of highschool. It forever changed the family dynamic. My mom was not there for me. My highschool counselor and teachers are the ones who helped me get my college applications and scholarships done. I never got to check out any schools. I applied to the only college I knew I could get to myself, about an hour away. I'd never even seen the campus, the weekend my mom was supposed to go with me, she cancelled. Instead of my mom making my senior prom special, my sister got an invite and the money that was supposed to be for me to get a dress was split. Never got to actually go prom dress shopping. We stopped at one store next to my mom's work where there were three dresses in my size. I had gone to prom my freshman year, but I wore a dress found on clearance for $15. I had a lot of my art work make it into shows, my mom never attended a single one. My sister's milestones always overshadowed mine. My mom made sure she had every opportunity. She did so much more for my sister. Helped buy her a nice car that was only a couple years old, co signed for her nice apartment, took her to see universities all over the Western US, went and visited her every month. I lived an hour away and only saw my mom when she needed my help. When I started finding out that I was chronically ill, they both called me a hypochondriac, even though all the conditions I have run in my mom's family. So I had no support from them. Then, they tried to ruin my wedding. I haven't spoke to them since. I'm now married with an amazing baby girl, disabled, moved to a different state, and have more chronic health conditions than years.

[@stampandscrap7494]

So sorry your parents were shit. Make your own family you deserve the best.

[@Streetwisefirst]

Another good set of videos Story 1: OP is sexually harassed in his own home by his soon to be SIL. But OP’s fiancés feelings matter more 🤔 because she’s a woman. Dodged a bullet

[@teresadurham8828]

Right? She was super entitled and I'm very glad OP realized before the wedding. Hopefully he was able to get full refunds on everything wedding related.

[@AndyyWithAY]

This is grossly unfair! Do not marry this woman!! She does not care about you...at all

[@yatzy7510]

Story two: no matter the age, actions have consequences. Given Leanne's age she should understand that what she is doing is wrong and mean. As far as I am concerned it should be enough to explain the reasoning behind the choice of kicking her out and to to tell her that it isn't because op doesn't love her, but because her actions are unacceptable. Therapy is a good choice since the divorce seems to have had a bad affect on op's girls. And also, it definitely sounds like someone has blamed the divorce on op. Might be a good idea to look into that...

[@Rainykitty33]

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[@Rainykitty33]

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[@emmys.8323]

Exactly! I don’t get all those comments who said Op shouldn’t have kicked her out. The comments act like she’s still a teenager, but she’s not. She’s an ADULT, she should get consequences if she can’t behave.

[@Rainykitty33]

omg I'm so sorry I had my phone in my bag lmao

[@yatzy7510]

I mean. She needs a little bit of consideration since she is still a young adult, but by informing and consequences she should be able to understand and take action

[@patronofdragons]

Story 2: It kinda seems like a part of the problem is the mother (and him depending on if she had these issues before the separation). After a real conversation, Leanne was able to be more conscious of her actions and opened up. It makes me question how she was parented.

[@KG-VanityInKnickers]

After hearing that the mother didn't want Leanne back, it made me start to wonder if Leanne really chose to be the one to go live with her father... That part of Leanne's acting out might have had something to do with her mother choosing her sister over her, then getting to her dads' and feeling that her dad is seemingly choosing her stepsisters over her. I'm in no way excusing Leanne' behavior, just trying to find the triggers. Leanne should have been in therapy WAY before it got to the point it did.

[@umbrasunbro2142]

Story 2: man, people on Reddit are just… idk what to say to not sound rude. His daughter is 19 not12, and made the conscious decision to destroy someone’s property. That takes thought and effort to do. He wasn’t just putting her out on the streets but sending her with family in an effort to protect the stepdaughter (the wronged and vulnerable party in the situation). I’m glad that there was what sounds like a positive ending to it all, but I still don’t think he should have been called theA-hole at all

[@JLee-gm6jx]

Yea the bio mom and and the step dad are the ah's. By the time people have reached leannes age, that is already old enough to know what the difference between right and wrong.

[@zerobolt9506]

1000% agree here

[@john-hughboyd233]

I suspect she was actually kicked out of her mom's home - the ex forced OP to "inherit" the problem deceitfully. Her father's immediate reaction to kick her out was a wakeup call to the daughter - she was ignoring what all three of them said, so the only real alternative was kicking her out. Fortunately, the mother refused as it forced daughter to start communicating, actually talking AND listening, to her dad.

[@wmdkitty]

Maybe OP should have stopped favoring the stepdaughter, then. He obviously doesn't even want her there with his shiny new family.

[@brigidtheirish]

Reddit has a tendency to call men assholes by default.

[@immapotato1]

ok story one the fiance was a straight up narcissist who just wants her dream wedding and OP was just the first sucker she found

[@TsukiKageTora]

Second story. OP is not an asshole, those who literally say he is an asshole for not prioritizing her over her stepfamily is wrong. I’m sick of people telling others to coddle adults when they chose to destroy someone else’s things, even out of acting up. That will solve nothing but resentment from the step sister towards stepdad for taking his daughter’s side when she didn’t do anything wrong but literally exist.

[@CatsandDragons7]

I’m glad story 1 OP got out of that relationship. Sounds like the ex was more interested in marrying for marriage as opposed to marrying OP, if that makes sense. I can’t imagine putting my own feelings above my fiancés. I prioritize his feelings over mine, and he prioritizes mine over his own (within reason, of course)

[@paden1865able]

She can keep her sister as maid of honour if she really wants to lose you. You were sexually harassed and she thinks it's acceptable so her core morality is faulty. Is it really worth being with her if this is something you're expected to accept without a qualm? I don't think so. Leave.

[@barbarahenderson9999]

Doesn't a MATRON OF HONOUR have to be a married close friend? Otherwise you are a bridesmaid!

[@paden1865able]

@@barbarahenderson9999 Well, the matron of honour is married, yes, but the maid of honour is not, because supposedly she is still a maiden/maid. That's about the only distinction between the two.

[@andthatsshannii]

Story one: “practically sexually harasses me”. Not practically. It is sexual harassment. That’s it. You should not have to put up with that

[@geekylad8400]

OP dodge a nuclear attack. Dear god he would have gotten himself into a toxic marriage

[@alicewilloughby4318]

Story 1 - 7:04 - "Since she is the woman in the relationship, her emotions should be catered to"??? WTF?! Is this the equality people fought so long and hard for?! I once read where someone asked "If toxic masculinity is a thing, is there such a thing as toxic femininity?" Yup, here it is! Story 2 - Update 1 - 15:49 - Her favorite breakfast as a peace offering? Why the hell should she get treats after her rotten behavior?

[@deadseven3474]

I was listening to the second story like "How is this dude the asshole?" She doesn't even want to listen to him (prior to the first update), is rude to the whole household, and acted with vitriol and spite by destroying her stepsister's things. I'm glad he decided to take the high road, but I feel like at her age you aught to know better than to act like that, no matter how upset you are. I wouldn't have blamed him for just dropping her off, but this is definitely a healthier outcome.

[@squirrel670]

She hadn't been getting proper parenting or a good environment at the other place. Unfortunately an upbringing definitely has an effect on how someone will turn out. He's not an ahole, and he just didn't realize she still could be parented. His options were opened to him and he chose to do the right thing. I dont think they mean he was an ahole but just sucked for not realizing he could attempt to parent her instead of immediately kicking her out, which I dont blame him for at all. Its hard to think when you're that upset

[@wmdkitty]

Because he clearly abandoned her and doesn't want her "ruining" his shiny new family. That's why he's TA.

[@chyme2465]

You could clearly see it in the tone in which he wrote it. He hadn't been a good father to his bio kids. Should have taken them to therapy the moment they started talking about divorce imo. He clearly hadn't taken his kids into account

[@LGshine0007]

@@chyme2465 No, no you can't all you can read in his tone is frustration which a reasonable reaction to how she acted. Young or not, there's is no excuse to use your pain as an excuse at to why you're causing confrontation. Also, there's no basis for you saying he hasn't been a good father to his bio-kids. It's not just up to him to take his kids into account, it's also up to the mother. A mother who is so far as we're aware is unwilling to go to therapy, which tells me she most likely didn't care to take her to therapy either. For whatever reason, her mother was either unwilling or unable to parent her anymore and she either left willingly or not so willingly. Honestly, if he suffers from anything is the same tragic failing that the majority of most relationships suffer from, a lack of communication. Things got better when they both calmed down and started communicating more but you can only start reasonably communicating when you stop treating everyone else around you poorly.

[@Azulakayes]

Story 1: I am sorry for being one of those 'dump her' people but yes, dump her!

[@goawayleavemealone2880]

Sometimes the answer really is staring you right in the face.

[@kimsvisualdiary]

Story 1: so had her sister succeeded in seducing him, would she blame them both or just him?

[@tallyp.7643]

If she's that dismissive of her sister's behavior, she'd put 100% of the blame on him. Sister would probably cry and lie that he tried to seduce her or some such crap like that. Yeah, dodge that tactical nuke coming for your head, OP. There's some sick crap on the women's side going on here.

[@fcold9402]

2. Maybe your daughter leaving your exes house was not as voluntary as you were lead to believe. It seems like that woman has some behavior issues that need to be addressed. You and dear old mom can address it or law enforcement will. Edit NTA especially not for coming to the defense of the actual victim over your biological daughter who was the peratrator of the willful destruction of property.

[@MiraTheWarlock]

The hell was with the first reply for story two? 1. I'm autistic, that doesn't suddenly justify me ruining other peoples things to hurt them, that's called sadism 2. I'd not put this aside and throw her in therapy to 'figure out why she's being cruel to other people', she'd still have to go, therapy would be a condition for her ever returning 3. Oh so he's supposed to let that slide just because the victim's not biologically related to him? What is this, r/stepparents?!

[@zerobolt9506]

Some of that was from the second reply I believe, the part about not being blood. I too have autism as well and agree, I'm also curious, OP said her Bio dad is "thankfully" not aloud to see her, I wonder why, something we're never know, but still curious nonetheless 🤔

[@deamondemelza]

Story 2 Iam SO glad the dad didnt toss her out. Whilst her behaviour is bad ,no question, it sounded alot like repressed jealousy towards the fathers "new family". I am surprized that no one seemed to pick up on something menchioned, the step daughters illness. Whilst a horrible thing to go through and it being an amazing and wonderfull thing that her step father was so supportive whilst she did go throught it, think about how that must have felt from Leanne's percpetive. Her father leaves her and her mother and sister. Stops spending time with her leaves her in what sounds to be a bad enviroment (noisey and messy where she feels the need to be agressive to get what she wants) and what little interaction they do have is loaded with disaproval from him. Then with his step daughter he is loving and caring helps her decorate her room is mindful towards her mental health by knowing what behaviors she shows when stressed (the new outfit), when on the other hand when Leanne was stressed and struggling causing her to drop out of uni rather than understanding and patience she got yelled at. It actually makes sense she'd destroy the outfit as it being linked to something that calms Sophie down towards her schooling where Leanne never got that. It also sounds like Sophie has always gotton alot of love and support from those around her, Leanne didnt. This all sounded to me like a child acting out in a desperate attempt to be PARENTED instead of passed off as "someoneles problem". Look how quickely she improved when he actually tried with her. Thank god he did. Better late than never.

[@PrincessLioness]

Yeah, I’m surprised that more people didn’t point out how how from his tone he seems to favor Sophie over both his daughters. Whether intentional or not he neglected her. I think he should have acknowledged that more tbh and he needs to do things with Leanne one on one without the step family.

[@Swbossdestroyer]

Andd she isnt even one bit an asshole? I dont care if shes trying to get parented shes 19 for gods sake. You cant just act like a toddler and expect to get everything you want. And destroying something that isnt even yours, is extremely expensive and means a lot when shes stressed out? Thats extremely childish and needs to get punished. She isnt a teenager , shes an adult now and she needs to learn some respect and she could get in a lot of trouble if she did that again

[@cnow82]

I think it is crap that men get a double standard. If it was a brother-in-law being inappropriate with the wife, no one would think he should stay there. But so many stories of the sister-in-law being inappropriate with the husband, not that big of a deal. Either wife blows it off. Or family blames wife for being insecure and jealous. Men have a right to feel safe in their own home. And to not have a girl invading more of their space than they are comfortable with. He really needs to communicate how uncomfortable he was.he dodged a huge bullet.

[@klh4194]

Sometimes family just shouldn’t live together. Years ago I lived with my sister and her husband. They always made me babysit and cook. It was so lame. We have no relationship after all of it. Kinda sad but it was so much drama for no reason

[@squirrel670]

Thats not family, you were free labor to them

[@klh4194]

@@squirrel670 Yeah I agree! My whole family has nothing to do with her anymore. Each of us have our own reasons. She burns every bridge.

[@BurningheartofSILVER]

Omg story 2 had such a sweet update ❤ Obviously there’s a lot of work still to be done, but the fact that OP and Leanne are working towards building back their father daughter relationship, and OP is showing her that he’s there for her despite how hectic her emotions and mental state maybe at that time. It’s just heart warming. As someone who never had that sort of support (my Dad’s a CSA’er), I’m probably overly optimistic about that update, but it’s really healing to see others healing in a way I can’t experience myself

[@karincollins265]

Lee Ann IS feeling angry. That is why she destroyed her step sister things. She believes nobody wants her.And she is not wrong. I think she should pay for what she destroyed and a good conversation should be held. She might need some loving. It looks like nobody wants to ask her whats going on ..

[@ivymerritt7577]

Story 1: I HATE it when someone dismisses bad behavior because it's "just a joke"! If the target of the "joke" isn't laughing, then It's. Not. Funny!

[@brigidtheirish]

1. OP should've dumped her back when the sister was staying with them and it became clear she didn't care that he was being sexually harassed. He *definitely* shouldn't have proposed. "That's just how she is?" So she makes a *habit out of sexually harassing men? And that somehow makes her behavior *okay?* Bet she's the sort of person who doesn't believe men *can* be sexually harassed. 2. OP's the asshole when his daughter is the one who vandalized the stepdaughter's property, has been disrespectful to everyone, and a general nightmare? Hell no. He's also *not* "kicking her out," he's trying to send her back to her mom. That no one else wants her is telling. Update: It's nice that things are improving, but I still stand by what I said above. I have anger issues and even at almost 40 I have tantrums sometimes because of my learning and developmental disorders. What I have *never* done is intentionally destroy someone else's property. I say intentionally because I *did* slam the front door of my parents' house hard enough for the (very old and brittle) glass to shatter one time. I *may* have knocked something over while flailing as a small child and don't remember. Point is, I don't break stuff often and it's *accidental* and, honestly, usually when I'm calm and just trying to clean or otherwise be helpful because I'm a total klutz. OP's daughter *deliberately* destroyed *more than one* personal item. Consequences are a *must* and OP was *not* wrong for wanting to remove a bully from his home.

[@damoeman6004]

Story 1. I'm not surprised when he stated she took the ring off and handed it to him with no emotion. On the first post when he said he was leaving, all she said to him as he left was that he is an AH. She couldn't think of anything better to say than to add insult? That struck me as an odd response since they were not in a heated argument based on the story. If she was able to just hand the ring over with no problem, she clearly wasn't marrying him for love because that seemed way too easy for her to do. Maybe he is ultra good looking and she just wanted him as a trophy but didn't really feel much. He states why her sister makes him uncomfortable and she mentions she doesn't like his brother either for absolutely no reason at all. As if the two equaled the same thing. Could you imagine his brother walking into the bathroom while she was showering? She would file a restraining order on him. Most people have glass doors so I'm assuming since the sister made comments about liking his body, that she managed to get a good look at it during those incidents. She's been watching too many soaps if spilling something on his shirt will give her a slow motion scene of him removing his shirt. She was a creep. But when women do it, it's not considered creepy as if it were a regular guy. Glad he started thinking of previous occasions where she never took his side on things important to him. She'll learn her lesson when her sister manages to seduce her next boyfriend.

[@robertx8020]

story 2 :NTA He did right for planning to kicking her out! And mind you, He didn't plan to kick her out onto the street as she could go back to mommy YES she needed therapy but the other family members deserve feeling/being safe in their house and it takes time for the therapy to have effect! Luckily in this case the daughter has seen that she was wrong The YTA and ESH commenters are free to take the daughter in! His ex is an AH though!

[@kerribottriell-baxter7345]

Why do women like this woman in story 1 believe their emotions are more important than their male partner's? He dodged a bullet.

[@Drezha3]

Story 2: NTA. She’s 19 not 9

[@donnainzeo1162]

What the h#'ll is wrong with people today, she is 19 years old not two she knows right from wrong and the mind set of people today that you have to stop living because of your adult kids that's b.s.

[@MsBELLE7]

I hate when people say that a step parent isn't a real parent. They are choosing to step up and love a child that isn't theirs. I think that's pretty awesome.

[@Undomaranel]

Editing clothes XD is called altering. If done by a professional it's called tailoring, derived from fitting coat tails to the proper length and whatnot. A tailor is someone who does alterations, a seamster/seamstress is someone who sews garments together, not necessarily focused on making them fit. Historically mothers did both, shortened as just sewing and fitting. If someone thrifts clothes and sews them to fit they are altering the garments. If someone thrifts clothes and completely changes them, it's called upcycling, a combination of glow up and recycling. If they do any for a client, they are tailoring. Vocab test is on Monday, spelling counts.

[@faeriefire78]

Redditors are so contrary. In one post involving step-kids they want the step-parent to treat the child as their own, in and in the next after that they want the parent to sacrifice the well-being of the child for sadistic adult bio kids. Not saying it's that cut and dry in story 2, but still common enough. Same with romantic relationships, which are sometimes skewed in favor of one gender.

[@duketha5286]

I do not understand the comments on the 2nd story do these people know college not a fucking child he can't discipline her he literally cannot she is a grown adult

[@Mewse1203]

Story 1: NTA but you'd be the asshole if you marry this woman. There is an absolute double standard and she doesn't care about how hebis being treated. Edit: holy shit.. I'm glad he bounced.

[@beccaf262]

All I could think is that the big question in story 2 was why does she resort to breaking things when she’s upset/angry? Glad OP moved toward helping figure it out instead of acting out of anger.

[@sonofhell98]

Im confused about the comments on story 2. How is op the AH for kicking his ADULT daughter out after she ruined the stepdaughters new belongings?? Sounds like leanne's mother is encouraging the bad behavior as well

[@TheMimiSard]

Story 2 - "A girl who is not even your daughter!" That is a seriously shitty thing to say. If I understand second marriages right (not havign experienced it myself) a person who marries someone with children are agreeing to be some sort of parental unit to any children that come with them, especially if they are under-age. Sophie is OP's daughter, maybe not by blood, but OP has agreed to be some sort of father-figure to her.

[@MaryTheresa1986]

Story 1. I'm so glad OP saw the light and noped out of that situation before a marriage license, kids, and a mortgage were involved. He'll find better eventually. As for his ex, she should just marry her sister since that's the only person she cares about. They deserve each other.

[@someonebored0100]

Just because someone is the “woman” in the relationship, doesn’t mean their feelings are to be catered to while the other partner’s emotions are ignored is ridiculous, sexist, dated, and narcissistic.

[@RokoFireFox]

Story 1. Op dodged a big ass bullet.

[@katiesmith2031]

Mark thanks for the video hope you and poppy are having a wonderful day

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

You too m8 much love 🤗🤗💜💜

[@runawayfromtoads674]

Yo, hollup, what the hell did the story 2 commentors have for breakfast??? I had to pause this video to check if we're hearing the same story. I hate the excuse of 'she's 19', 'she's going through a rough time'. You can be 6 years old, and the moment you start being a bully, you need to be disciplined accordingly.

[@Lilian620.]

I’m still mixed with the second story honestly, like we don’t really know the fully details of the separation but even then, did the daughter try and talk with her dad? Talk with her mom at all? Plus it seemed like she only destroyed thing when she was with him, and why isn’t the mother involved more with trying to help the daughter heal, it seems like the daughter was being told things and was taking out her anger on the dad

[@M3GPie]

The last story made me so angry. Even if the 19 year old is acting out because of trauma or something, she’s an adult. I have childhood trauma, and I’ve never gone around destroying people’s belongings. People don’t get a free pass to make everyone around them miserable because they’ve endured trauma. I also think it’s great that this man is so protective of his stepdaughter. To me, this shows that he has a lot of character and is a good person.

[@jjbud3124]

My blended family story. I married my present husband as a widow with two children ages 6 and 7. He never tried to take over as a parent. He was polite to them. They were polite right back. Their ages were about 9 and 10 years when we had our own child together. It was never anything but a normal family. My two kids eventually fell into calling my new husband Dad and still do as adults. We just got along. All kids grew up great with good professions. We're all close. It can be done. We didn't even plan how it was to be done. We just did it.

[@Kinsfire]

With the second story, I'm glad that Leanne was willing to listen. It gives hope for the future with her that she's willing to listen and think about what's happening. I suspect she's also looking at OP as far more of a parent that Sharon ever will be for her.

[@Paxchi]

Story 1 in a nutshell. OP: "Your sister has done things that make me uncomfortable, and I'm not sure I want her in the wedding party." Fiance: "Well, I don't think what she did to you was that bad. Besides, having her there would make ME happy." OP: "Okay, but if you said you didn't want my brother in the wedding, you'd want me to take that into account right?" Fiance: "Well sure, but my not wanting your brother in the wedding would make more sense." OP: "Why? Has he done something to you like your sister did to me?" Fiance: "No, I just don't like the guy. Besides, it would be about making me happy." So she minimizes sexual harassment if it's female-on-male, and everything boils down to whether it makes her happy. Yeah dude, RUN.

[@gelasiakidd8076]

With story 2, I get the feeling that Leanne is neurodivurgent. It doesn't excuse the malicious actions, but the situation with the ornament and her immediate horror and apologies sounds like she's had untreated meltdowns her whole life. That would explain the mess, noise, and self hate, and how she can't stand being in close quarters at her mom's house. I feel like this might be the first time Leanne got help for those issues, and honestly, good on OP for parenting. I hope things go well for her future.

[@Cel3ere5]

Pretty much. I say undiagnosed ADD, with some probable ODD features as she has a history of throwing and destroying stuff. Cookies for you for getting it right. 🍪🍪🍪

[@angelajaime5155]

@@Cel3ere5 I'm not sure about that, it may be just the stress of the divorced, or in case she is ND, it may be autism. I have ADHD, ODC and Misophonia, I wasn't diagnosed until I was 20, and never have I thrown or destroyed things, in fact, the noise and the mess I'll be making would make me very uncomfortable.

[@gelasiakidd8076]

@@angelajaime5155 I'm autistic with a late diagnosis and this reminded me of my meltdowns as a kid. I was immediately sorry about it and hated the lack of control. If I hadn't gotten some help then I could have easily continued carrying that into my adult life. 'Course I was misdiagnosed as bipolar because "girls don't get autism" back then but it still helped me get some control over that. That's what I was thinking when I saw her catching herself with horror, and also how much she struggles with noise levels. Then you have the messiness and college reading like a bad case of executive dysfunction, and it all just made seperated building blocks to my decision

[@john-hughboyd233]

​@@gelasiakidd8076 or it could be due the toxicity of her relationship with her mom. If the marriage breakdown was due to a narcissist mother, I can see it happening (no, I won't tell you why I know other than "Experience")

[@gelasiakidd8076]

@@john-hughboyd233 oh mood. Gaslighting sucks. I think it's probably a mix of things tho. You are right, Sharon's refusal to go to family therapy and help her daughter says a lot about her as a mom. But whether it's habits ingrained by c-ptsd or other things, or both, there's probably more layers than we can really tell

[@honniah]

I can't help but think the reason why OP in story 2 got so much hate from the comments is because he's a man. I've seen so many posts from the woman's side, where a male son or stepson is acting out aggressively and breaking things. Almost all the responses are very supportive, mainly saying how the woman needs to put her safety and the safety of the other children in the household first and her son or stepson is old enough to know better. But with this male OP suddenly everyone is like "well did you cheat?!" Or "the divorce is hard on her, you should try being a better dad." No thought for how her poor step sister is living with this constant abuse and destruction of her belongings.

[@jessieBird96]

Story 2: nah, Leanne is toxic AF and went out of her way to destroy someone else's property in their own home. Yeah, she needs to go back to her Mom's. I truly don't understand all the comments that are acting like Opie hasn't done anything for his daughter just because he is taking the right steps to protect his other daughter. Too many people are too willing to brush up quote unquote step family for birth family even when the birth family is acting atrociously. She went out of her way to hurt her stepsister in a way that she knew would hurt her the most. Sophie deserves to be protected to.

[@alyzu4755]

Yeah, sister 's behavior is WAAAAAY beyond inappropriate (yes, sexual harassment). And fiancee is throwing up bushels of red flags. OP needs to get away from both of them.

[@katiebaker9877]

Wow Mark, I have been listening to you for a few years now (Daddy Cringe times etc) you have got me though a lot of bad times in the last few years . Don't stop being you, you have really helped me 👍

[@MarkNarrations]

Aww Katie thank you for sticking with me for so long!

[@renee0_0]

I'm surprised that I can still be surprised at how awful people can be to the chronically ill. I've experienced horrific discrimination because of my chronic conditions and countless people have said that my life doesn't matter because I can't work anymore. We get harassed on a daily basis and so many people go without motility aids, braces, handicapped parking, etc. because it increase the chances of it happening. The people that crapped on the father for making his step daughter happy are heartless. I'm glad that girl has a father figure in her life that is there for her.

[@britnicox3929]

I don’t understand why someone would want to have a wedding where the person they’re *going to marry* is unhappy and has actively told them so! It makes me wonder how much she dismisses his feelings for her convenience.

[@tallyp.7643]

I think you answered yourself already: she wants a WEDDING, not a marriage. Probably why she gave the ring back so fast--he wasn't going to just lay down and let her do all she wanted. I despise weddings so I don't get that whole "be a princess for a day" schtick, anyway, or even worse "it's the bride's day." Uh, no. There's two people involved, the groom gets a say (unless he delegates "his" decisions to his own mother, in which case, no point). Women who've spent their whole lives planning their perfect wedding creep me out, and those seem to be a good chunk of the reddit "bridezilla" stories we hear about. Scary how they put so much thought into one big party and not into the post-honeymoon reality.

[@devchekhov7512]

Who tf spits on someone and gets away with it?! That should be an eviction notice effective immediately

[@AdamaGeist]

So, did nobody else notice the part in story one where her comment was 'Well, that'd be different, I don't like your brother.' The red flags were already flying high there.

[@kazzuo32]

#1 She said her feeling matter more, ohh boy that was going to be a nightmare, thank god he broke that mês. #2 ohh boy... Stepbrother, S sister, Sfather,S mother and all this relationships are a Nightmare.

[@Silence-1170]

Have a happy Wednesday all of ya happy to wish all of you well! I got the day right this time been resting because been feeling under the weather.

[@carolroberts4614]

Sorry to hear that! Hope you feel better soon!

[@heathercontois4501]

Story 2-It sounds like she was doing the same crap at her mom's and they had enough, too. She needs to be on her own, handling her own therapy and paying to replace the items she destroyed.

[@kmaguire7161]

If someone says "the woman in the relationship should be catered to" as if somehow a woman's feelings are more important that is a sign her parents raised her wrong and no good will come of marrying her.

[@msredux]

Good on op, that relationship was doomed, you are better single than with a partner that doesn't respect you.

[@karab7626]

Hi Mark! I hope you're having g a good day! I was given a couple of paid days off this week because my boss called me to rescue her from a concert late last night. Not a bad trade-off.

[@minacat7929]

First story, sister IS sexually harassing him and his fiancee doesn't care. He should ditch the fiancee.

[@BraveryWing26]

So glad things are improving in the second story.

[@DragonicGamer32]

"My feelings matter more because I am the female in the relationship..." the narcissism here. Basically saying "Oh I understand you're being harassed but as long as I'm happy it's OKAY! Like...why can't you get that my feelings are the only things that matter here." And the way she handed the ring back without emotion is telling as well. That first story really just pissed me off the whole while. Her only shock was finding out her behavior being exposed on Reddit revealed her true colors to her fiance. But she was not sorry or apologetic and couldn't even come up with a reply about why things didn't matter for OP in the reverse uno card moment when he asked "Why doesn't my feelings matter when it comes to MY Family." Really what irked me most was when she said brother not being in the wedding would totally be fine with her just for the fact she didn't like him but her sister as MOH is non-negotiable even if she's sexually harassing her fiance. OP really dodged a bullet there. She's going to make a real good first wife for SOMEONE.

[@tallyp.7643]

She must've been fed a constant diet of "happy wife, happy life" since puberty. OP would've been broke off his ass within a couple of years because she would've probably quit her job (if she even works) and spend her days shopping and pampering herself (and likely an affair partner) while berating him for not making more money. Bonus round would've been tattling to mommy and daddy and sister that hubby's not making her happy and they'd come over to berate the hell out of him a dozen times. He dodged a few tactical nukes by getting rid of her and I hope he's doing much better now.

[@lfriasurzua]

Wow, imagine the difference actually parenting your child makes! Sad it took him 19 years, but glad he got there

[@Forced2DoThis1]

1st OP: MTA - Have you considered that your Fiance and her sister may want to share you in some ways in the end? Also it's her sister and only one day or two. Just roll with it and see what happens. Yes I know THIS could also be seen as a double standard but.....😏 2nd OP: NTA - Your Bio Daughter IS A CLEAR AND PRESENT DANGER!!!! She's only likely to escalate and end up causing an instance were The Authorities would have to be called! You can't help her if she's going to be in such close proximity at the same time. She's a GROWN woman! Sophie is as much your daughter as Leanne and needs to also be protected.

[@wearegonnatalkaboutbruno6694]

Story2: ESH imo because he was not trying to parent her (even if she is 19) Lenana for obvious reasons and bio mom for letting her get away with this bevhior

[@TheAlphaDingo]

Fiancee was toxic af. OP did well to dodge that narcisstic psycho and avoid a lifetime of stress and abuse

[@madisonl3401]

Almost to 81k! We'll be at 100k in the next month I think! Woohoo!

[@rylashadow18]

S1) I'm glad the OP left that toxic relationship. If your partners not 1) Sticking up for you when you need it 2) Defending you when you're not in the wrong 3) Allowing other to abuse you and treat it like nothing They aren't relationship material. S2) I have concerns for the OP's daughter as to why she keeps doing this and why it was never nipped in the bud at the start? That update really has me hopeful that they continue on to heal.

[@yaqbulyakkerbat4190]

HAH. The second she said "Women's feelings will always trump a man's" that was your cue to dump her and hard. I feel sorry for any boys she might have in the future, thier mom telling them their feelings and existence don't matter. tragic.

[@jamestown8398]

STORY #1 NTA. Future SIL is sexually harassing OP, and I fear she'll try to rape him. Fiancé doesn't value OP's safety, let alone his feelings, and that's not a good foundation for a relationship. UPDATE OP dodged a bullet. I hope he finds someone who isn't a misandrist. STORY #2 NTA. Leanne is an adult; she chose to be a bully Sophie and to deliberately destroy her property as a ploy to damage Sophie's mental state. Kicking her out was not only deserved but was also the only way Sophie or Rebecca would feel safe in the house. It's disturbing how much Reddit infantilizes youths. No, adulthood does not begin at 30, nor should a 19 year old be absolved of guilt on the basis of "she's just a kid". That's past legal adulthood and well past being able to understand that actions have consequences. UPDATE I'm ambivalent about this. OP didn't do wrong by kicking Leanne out, but she seems to be reigning things in. People gave OP a hard time for taking care of his stepdaughter? Reddit really is a cesspool. UPDATE 2 I'm glad to hear Leanne is going to individual therapy, and that she's opening up to OP and Rebecca. If she has anger-issues then she needs to deal with them before she ends up ruining her life.

[@Mewse1203]

Be kind, be safe and take care of yourself. Have a great day.

[@lunahix4815]

Story 1: To the fiancee, OP was an object. Maybe she thought if other women wanted him, then she would be the best because she had him. To her, he was nothing more than a pretty accessory for her pride.

[@davidjacobi3522]

Story one . Countless red flags. You have to dodge that bullet. Your fiancé dismissive of your feelings means you mean nothing to her.

[@jacearmor5274]

Never marry someone who makes a joke out of sexual harassment.

[@Girl-Supersonicboy]

19 is still relatively young if you think about it. Yes, legally, people are conicdered adults at that age, but the brain/person is still maturing and growing. I'm 26 rn and I can assure you i was no where near mature at 19. You never stop being a parent too. Sometimes you have to parent a little bit longer to help your children grow into strong adults

[@louellacharlton4425]

Tyvm Mark. Stay safe please. PEACE

[@lovelywolv]

HAPPY BIRTHDAY MARK !

[@MarkNarrations]

Aww thank you wolv!

[@pasalking7760]

Story 1 Im glad op got out of that relationship. It was a bullet dodged

[@ciderxera4963]

What's everyone eating for breakfast/whatever time of day it is 😂 I need some inspiration

[@tinkrebelle]

if you're not vegetarian I had linguine with alfredo sauce for lunch

[@Azulakayes]

I am having dinner- Grilled fish fillet, coconut rice & collard greens.

[@jacksongreen1319]

Yesterday I had breakfast quesadilla

[@skeltonslay8er781]

3 pieces of cheese Texas toast

[@craftyink70]

Evening time here but i had porridge with blueberries and pears for mine 😊

[@brecht-W]

Hope everyone is doing absolutely wonderfully!

[@WobblesandBean]

OP 1: You did the right thing dumping her. Double standards are BS, and she didn't take your s-harassment seriously.

[@TheRealVenna]

Story 1: Was OPs fiance's name Marinara? Because she was a WALKING RED FLAG! That woman is suffering from toxic femininity. Also, she's probably a narcissist, otherwise she would care more. Op, you deserve someone who loves, cares for, and respects you as a human being, first and foremost.

[@lnaph]

Story 1. She seems very entitled and lacks empathy.

[@magnarcreed3801]

Story one: my family jokes around like this and I love my sister. BUT the second some is uncomfortable we stop. If you don’t stop and everyone’s not laughing at the joke and you do it again, it’s sexual assault. And like I said, I love and trust my sister but if my wife or husband or partner asked her to stop and she didn’t, that’s not going no contact, that’s an ass beating. Seriously, the fuck is wrong with these women?

[@OZARKMOON1960]

#1 - OP dodged a bullet there, as not only was this a bridezilla but a woman who feels she gets to call the shots in their relationship 100% of the time with no regard for OP ever. Sounds like she was more enamored of the idea of a wedding than actually in love with anyone but herself. Good riddance!

[@fyoutube9410]

Bullet? Goddamn ICBM dodged!

[@Alecswelms]

Leanne sounds like a true redditor. No wonder she has so many fans there.

[@bonniehuh]

Story 2 - The comments saying YTA are wrong. I am the youngest of five sisters. We haven't always gotten along and have had some serious fights. I can't imagine ANY of us destroying each others belongings, especially things of emotional importance. That was aggressive and could be the prelude to physical violence. She SHOULD be kicked out. Doesn't matter if she's his biological daughter. She's awful. If I were the stepsister (victim) I'd never trust her or be around her again.