Brother Expects Me To Watch His Son, Drops Him Off In Carpark & Goes On Holiday AITA

[@MarkNarrations]

Heeeeeeey, how's it going today. Welcome to the weekend! Much love!

[@Amelia-ly9md]

Wooooo Hope you’re having a nice day!

[@sciencenerd218]

Loving the enthusiasm at the start of the videos

[@queen_of_flatulence]

Mark you're beautiful!

[@journey2mee]

Mark is hyped for the weekend. Have a good one everyone.

[@paden1865able]

School canceled due to more snow and ice yesterday, so my son gets to listen with me today. He says hello, by the way.

[@idyllwildchild]

Your family wants what's best for your brother, not his son.

[@BruinPhD2009]

I’ll bet if OP really thinks about it, his family has made him act as “the grown up” for his entire life. It’s about time he breaks out of that role and if that means leaving his entirely family in the past, so be it.

[@mikehilbert9349]

🔨 nailed it

[@Shamazya]

@@BruinPhD2009 I think he's still in the role of the grown-up, they just don't realize that they themselves aren't

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

I'm going to assume that there's either some sort of golden child situation or they just don't want to get involved in deadbeat brother's mess.

[@susanlayton2143]

In story 2: what the husband did by recording his wife's therapy session was a MASSIVE breach of her privacy and depending on where they live could even be ILLEGAL.

[@niueansaiyan09]

exactly. If the husband wanted to help, he should have respected OP's wishes. It seems that people who want to help out often act as if they are entitled to the information at the therapy sessions and act like its no big deal.

[@michaelmorris8302]

No what is her mental state with his baby she's not talking things got out of hand but I understand

[@rebecca4480]

He is controlling her. Not healthy

[@TheNormExperience]

@@michaelmorris8302 “What is her mental state with his baby.” I really hope you mean their baby right? If so, I get what you’re saying, but so long as OP isn’t hurting herself or the fetus really no one gets to override her right to privacy and autonomy. Even IF this guy legitimately panicked and lost his mind for a minute there, that’s only an explanation, not an excuse. There is no justification for this big an infringement. Unfortunately this doesn’t sound like a one-off, it sounds like an escalation when his constant pressuring and forcing his way in didn’t work. Like - it’s one thing to be worried about your SO, it’s quite another to decide you know what they need in spite of their wishes. Especially when, as the first commenter put it, recording someone without their knowledge or consent (especially a professional therapy session) could very well be illegal. What I heard in this story is a guy who needs to be in control so badly that he had to hear what was said. And all I can wonder is if that’s because he’s worried his wife’s therapist may tell her just how worrisome his controlling behaviors are.

[@dougmartin2007]

Husband is clearly looking to control and is gaslighting as well. Generous giving her a few days for her to calm down is just him not accepting any responsibility. It also sounds like the sister is under his spell.

[@JohnSmith-xq1pz]

Title story yeah I'd be calling CPS so fast brothers head would spin

[@janet6421]

OP called anonymously. How did the family know it was him? Hopefully OP gets custody with foster benefits. He might even let unfit father babysit.

[@jessbeingme8155]

@@janet6421 he would be the first thought since he knew what supermarket

[@VR0180]

@@jessbeingme8155 True, but it could’ve been anyone walking in the parking lot

[@KyrieChii]

@@VR0180 But some stranger in the parking lot wouldn't have any way of knowing that the kid wasn't just being dropped off to pick up a few things, or if they were waiting there for someone else to pick them up (particularly as the kid is 12 & not younger). Such public parking lots are a common place for exes to hand off their kids to each other also..

[@ComaLies225]

If this is in the states, CPS would most likely have been notified already if the police were called

[@morganrogue5305]

"No one wants to help or take responsibility" - bro, it's your child, your responsibility

[@Mimiroo]

The therapy one is such a massive red flag! My ex was emotionally abusive and used to either insist on coming with me to my therapy appointments, try to talk me out of going or tell me that only crazy people need it. It took a lot of prying to understand why he felt that way, in his words he “felt as though the therapist would tell me my issues were caused by him and that they would convince me to leave him.” It took another few months of mulling that statement over before realizing how messed up that was. Run girl and stay safe!

[@justaperson4656]

I specifically hate the "only crazy people go" mindset, healthy people have problems too, and healthy people can go to therapy

[@KyrieChii]

@@justaperson4656 Prime gas-lighting at it's most evil.

[@Mimiroo]

@@justaperson4656 how do I hit the like button 20 times 😂 but no I absolutely agree and I’m a massive advocate for the benefits of talk therapy and I’ve personally loved participating in CBT!

[@Dragonemperess]

1: Is he aware of the fact that someone else could have picked up his son before OP even got there if he decided to pick him up? He would never see his son again! How stupid can you be!!! But I'm getting the feeling that he would be okay with that, other than the legal ramifications. Poor kid!

[@niueansaiyan09]

As a Reddit comment mentioned, it seems that the OPs family are just a bunch of pushovers who allowed the brother to act the way that he is now. It also amazes me how some families refuse to care for a child but like to bully a family member into doing childcare(such as OP in this story). NTA but my god the level of assholery given off by his family.

[@pippo17173]

@@niueansaiyan09 Its basically the golden child syndrome. *Ya he can get away with murder, he is family and didn't mean it.*

[@AaaaNinja]

That's the point. So his brother would be incentivized and guilted into coming get him.

[@Dragonemperess]

@@AaaaNinja Yeah, but what if he called his bluff and didn't. You don't gamble with the lives of your children like that. There are absolute monsters that snatch children even when the parents are nearby. And the fate of those children could be horrendous enough for you to wish them a quick death.

[@bellesmith8925]

“We are more like friends/there is no love in it.... we have 4 kids.” Well THAT doesn’t sound healthy.

[@TsukiKageTora]

Arranged marriages are like that tho. It’s a miracle love develops during the marriage or even more so if there was love before the marriage

[@morganrogue5305]

Arranged marriages hardly ever are

[@missluciddreams3472]

ikr?

[@zerobolt9506]

Love between usually only happens by change or if they knew each other growing up, but even then that's only a 5050 possibility.

[@Skyler_Momoko]

that's what I was going to say - I can't believe people just brushed over that!?!? Like that girl needs to LEAVE

[@Russman67]

Story 1: Wait, the brother dropped him at a car park and told OP to go pick him up and keep him so that he and his girlfriend could go skiing for 2 weeks and no one else in the family thought that was weird? I have no problems with him calling CPS. That's abandonment. His brother's got to get his stuff together. Not even close to being the Asshole.

[@bluedragonfly8139]

Yeah, when I read the title I thought they dropped the kid at his house. Then I read that they dropped the kid at a *supermarket parking lot* and just couldn't!

[@justinjones-smith5168]

Story 1: NTA. A) That's irresponsible. B) Unless the family decide to watch the nephew too, then they have no right to demand OP do it.

[@13thMaiden]

Not to mention the grandparents, his grandma seems to be alive but can't take the kid and rather screech at her other son to care for her grandson? That kid is better off somewhere else (not that the foster system is that kind...)

[@KyrieChii]

@@13thMaiden I wonder if the rest of the family _can't_ watch him, or if they _won't_ watch him. This could be important when considering where the kid might end up if his idiot father drops the ball (more like throwing the ball out the car window into a field then calling & demanding his brother go find it) again.

[@niueansaiyan09]

@@13thMaiden Some families think it's fair to bully someone into the role of caretaker for a different family member's child and let the bio parent off Scott-free. OPs family is very hypocritical as well, not wanting to look after the nephew but is willing to be assholes towards OP because why not? OP doesn't have children. I fucking hate that mentality some families have. Excuse me for my profanity, I'm just really mad at how parents like OPs brother got away with the consequences and the family is trying to blame OP.

[@Ravethecat12]

“You should have explained your brother was special needs” HA you think people like that woman care about that? She still would have been upset about it. The OP could have said way worse things, he’s NTA.

[@owl7072]

Thank you! People shouldn't have to explain medical or personal info in order to receive basic human decency and respect. I doubt that woman would have cared. "She probably felt threatened" so she was rude? Honey if I felt threatened by someone I'm not about to be rude to them 🚶🏻‍♂️

[@untitled-gv3qp]

Agreed. They weren't interacting with the kid or her mom, they were clearly looking at the toys and talking about barbies. They shouldn't have to explain their life story because someone else doesn't like them being in the same aisle.

[@apileofratz4131]

Thank you, that comment left me feeling disgusted. Op needs more empathy? He taking care of his special needs brother, it's the mom who needs more empathy not him

[@rossbarone298]

story 4: ughhhhhh i stim when i get excited or anxious and i am TERRIFIED of someone reacting to it the way that woman did. can’t we just like,,,, not be assholes to people? maybe?

[@niueansaiyan09]

That's a little bit too hard since some people enjoy acting like assholes.

[@maheenahmed6653]

Last story: He isn’t the AH in anyway. That lady must have been really dumb because most adults would be able to pick up on if a person was developmentally limited.

[@ShatoraDragondore]

To the first replay of story 4: I am ASD and I HATE when my family thinks they are "helping" by outing me as disabled to strangers. Or worst making me do it. They don't have a right to know that about me. It sucks that as an Adult Female I can still be in toy isles (even when I lightly stim) it's not seen as a threat or creepy. most will assume that I'm shopping for a child and blow it off.

[@abstainkoala8000]

Guess I'm glad my parents don't do that to me and my siblings (all three of us are on the spectrum, but we're kind of different in a way) cause I believe they know its not good to do that and its none of those people's businesses anyways. Don't see any problem looking at the toy isles where you are any of the genders. I still do it but for me its usually boy toys. Also sorry that your family does that to you. Also. Did you ever tell your family about how you feel about them "helping" you like that? Do they also still do it? Sorry if this sounds noisy. You don't have to answer if you don't want to

[@ShatoraDragondore]

​@@abstainkoala8000 Depends on the family member but for the most part its a lot less then it use to be. My aunt got the memo after a harsh lash out about her guiding me in to revealing it, where I basically had to ask her if you would make LGBTQIA+ person out them self to a homophbic parent

[@babycakez8070]

As some that work in retail I can tell you tall autistic male get treatment like this quite often especially when there on there own or with a male career. And it because people just see their size rather than the person. People just assume male are aggressive or pedo or someone to fear. Really tall male get the same treatment until they want something of the shelf. *eye roll* it quite annoying actually. The worst thing is pedo 9/10 is someone they know, not some stranger abducted them.

[@scousemouse9566]

Story4, NTA, my brother is mentaly challanged and even back in the 80s some people where better behaved then this woman,

[@albinolucinda]

Yta

[@Yossarian921]

@@albinolucinda Are you calling scouse mouse the a-hole? What an incredibly odd comment.

[@1775LostOne]

Story 2: I'm getting a strong feeling that the husband is not just recording OP's therapy sessions, but sharing them with her toxic family. At the very least, the sister. Either way I wouldn't stay with him

[@charlesrocheleau4142]

Story 4 needs a new judgment, "Justified A-hole". Like Mark said, "Sometimes you need to be one"

[@niueansaiyan09]

yeah. I just use it whenever someone is an asshole for the right reason, hence JA(Justified Asshole). Basically means OP is the AH but it was justified.

[@locusxe1411]

I don’t think Op was an ahole at all IMO.

[@zerobolt9506]

I really should have finished the video first, but wanted to read about story 3, but ok I'll go this too for when I'm finished hearing it. 😞 I'm a baka sometimes... Edit: finally glad I found the sigh emoji, I never knew where it was until now.

[@averagetomfoolery]

the way the big bro talked about his little brother in story 4 was just so wholesome, brought a smile to my face. it makes me happy when i see stuff like that, “you go little dude”! its so sweet. brightened my day a bit :)

[@thecraftycyborg9024]

It cheers me up to no end. That’s how my family has always treated developmentally disabled people but I see so many families where the other kids ignored their disabled sibling. I just don’t understand it at all. One of my fondest memories is sitting next to my baby brother on the floor in the family room, in our footie pjs, while I read kids books to him. We were probably 4 and 6 at the time. He was developmentally not quite 2 (never really got passed that point- he had progressive encephalopathy which means his brain was slowly dying). But I know in some other families I grew up along side, the healthy siblings ignored the disabled one and Othered them. I attended a funeral for a 16yo once where I was more upset than the deceased’s siblings! The parents could figure out why, yet they were the ones who encouraged that distance for their entire lives!

[@torahammas6722]

@@thecraftycyborg9024 While I do see where youre coming from, I dont think you quit grasp how hard having a mentally challenged sibling can sometimes be. I am glad to hear you had a good bond with your brother, because ideally thats how it should be, but for a lot of people it just doesn't work out that way. My best friends little brother was only a year younger than her, but mentally challenged and never got past 2 in his mind. That meant her single parent mother had to spent most of my friends childhood looking after him. Their dad passed away in an accident when she was too little to recall. Due to no fault of anyone my friend essentially had a wery lonely childhood with one overworked parent and a sibling takking all the spare attention. She never could bond with him, and while she never was anything but kind to her brother, she has privately admitted to harboring resentment to him over the situation. When he eventually passed due to a secondary chronic medical issue in his teens she couldn't even bring herself to feel sad. I went with her to his funeral, and she just feelt bad the entire time for not feeling sad, even tough her mum was crying her hearth out. I cant in good consciousness blame my friend for feeling the way she does, the entire situation is just devastating all around. For some families a mentally challenged child/sibling can simply be too much to handle, and I dont think anyone should be blamed for being forced into a bad situation. Personally I would be devastated if anything were to happen to my sibling, but she just never had the change to develop that same bond with her own brother, and I can understand that. Distance isnt necessarily a choice. Sometimes it just happens.

[@averagetomfoolery]

@@thecraftycyborg9024 I do see that a lot, but it's often the fault of the parents for not paying attention to the kids which don't suffer from a disability. It creates resentment and feelings of neglect, and the blame is often placed on the kid with a disability instead of the parents who didn't pay attention to the other kid. it's very sad when i see that happening, so it makes me happy when i see situations where either the sibling can look past the parents mistake and care for their sibling, or where the parents always made time for all kids.

[@cl5470]

Yup. I have a son with some of the same issues as the brother, and that OP made me tear up. What a good sibling.

[@jessbeingme8155]

For the husband who was recording his wife's therapy sessions, I wonder if he was just nosey, or if he wanted to use whatever she said against her, or if he's abusive in other ways that he doesn't want her to tell the therapist about

[@보모]

well considering he purposely wanted his teen bride 🏠 pregnant…

[@threeducks157]

Thats what my daughters mom used to do and why cps got involved and I adopted her. She took it a step further by taking her new family in trips and leaving my poor daughter behind alone using her college fund.

[@unluckypuppy13]

Even arranged marriages need respect and proper communication. The fact that this situation happened at all speaks to the lack of respect and communication. And not properly grieving on op's part. It's not healthy but she's held on to these feelings for so long. Probably as a result of the fact that she's forced to hide them.

[@thedestroyasystem]

Exactly. I can't tell whether it's NAH or ESH, both parties have valid grievances, and both parties are handling some thing poorly. But the commenters who are giving a solid YTA or NTA are ignoring the nuance of the situation. You know who's the asshole here? Their culture, where dating is taboo and arranged marriages are the norm. I hope OP can find happiness somehow, whether that means staying in the marriage or leaving (if that's even an option). I honestly don't have a clue where I'd even begin if I were in her shoes :(

[@unluckypuppy13]

@@thedestroyasystem I think you really hit the nail on the head. This isn't a simple situation. Maybe a bit off topic but there are structures and cultures that raise children in the households in non-romantic situations that work out. There's a culture in China where siblings are paired up to raise children and share households. There's a strict taboo against incest honestly probably stricter than anywhere else. So the children are the result of each siblings individual partners but the other biological parent has nothing to do with raising the kids. It's really interesting.

[@thedestroyasystem]

@@unluckypuppy13 Huh, that does sound interesting. Do you know the name of the culture? I'd be interested in learning more

[@Parasolhyena]

@@thedestroyasystem I could be wrong but I know some of the small towns in china do that, though it might have been more to pool income.

[@Fiery_Latina_Goatchan_GF_681]

Doesnt matter

[@Sapphirelily]

Story 1: NTA It takes a lot of courage to call on a family member. But now the nephew can be safe. Story 2: NTA THERAPY SESSIONS ARE SACRED!!! It doesn’t matter if you’re married or not!! BOUNDARIES MATTER! Story 3: NTA But due to her culture, she could be the AH. But she’s hurting and couldn’t tell anyone. I’m keeping my opinion and say NTA. Story 4: I’m gonna say NAH The way I see it, mother was protecting her child, and older brother was protecting his sibling is special needs. There was rudeness on both ends but when one sparks a fire, the other is going to defend

[@TsukiKageTora]

Story 2: “I just couldn’t help it” That is a huge red flag. “Sorry wife, I just couldn’t help breach your trust and listen in on your private conversations with your therapist” Yep, that should give OP the need for divorce or at the very least the insight on possible missed or ignored red flags

[@athenastewart9167]

He is a voyeur and gaslighter. I wouldn't stay another day with someone like that. No wonder she doesn't talk to him!

[@mimiandy1683]

First story: I am being biased, here, when I say this... OP's brother act as if he doesn't want the responsibility of being a father. He has never wanted to be a father and was using others to raise his kid. First, it was his son's mother, then it was the ex-girlfriend, and now, it's the OP.

[@niueansaiyan09]

I feel bad for the nephew because obviously, the only one who is hurting is him. It's devastating to see a parent not only avoid responsibility, but manages to force someone else to look after the son. Parents like OPs brother should'nt dump their onto someone else. CPS would be the best call since neither the brother or OPS family dont seem to care about the nephews wellbeing and mental stability.

[@JSainte17]

“Slightly TA” for telling two adults that they need to go to another aisle, when they were there first? This person’s taking the piss. The other commenter with the “try not to use gendered terms...” Yeah because you definitely want to be as PC as possible when insulting a horrible woman. 🙄 FFS.

[@comajuice]

That whole comment was just "shes sexist and ableist and you need to teach her not to be or you're an asshole"

[@soulreaper1981]

How leaves his son, his child behind on a parking lot, when the one you expect to pick him up said no! This makes me so angry

[@Park-Kim_VMin]

1st story: NTA if my older brother did this whenever he has kids me and our mom both would get on to him, and then I would adopt him or her. Because kids don't deserve that to be going back and forth like that.

[@KyrieChii]

I feel bad for OP in this case, because you know it was a hard decision to do this. He obviously loves his nephew, but may end up being put in a position of having to decide whether to take his nephew in or not, which is incredibly unfair for him, as this is his brother's responsibility.

[@lisanygaard2720]

So the family members who are angry OP didn’t pickup his nephew were texting him to pick him up. So they knew he was there. And they left him there. Not one of them jumped into their car and went for him. They have no right to be angry. The brother does not deserve to be a father. I shudder to think what could have happened to that child. I would go no contact with the entire horrible family. That poor kid is going to be in therapy for years. 😢

[@indiashante1560]

Story 4: Op is the amazing for how he handles his brother. They're blessed to have each other. I personally would have just ignored them in the aisle and continue shopping with my daughter if that was me. Depending on how the situation was going I would probably interact with them. 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@protoskeeper]

Story 2: I would not only divorce, I would nuke this relationship from orbit.

[@quilaviper]

I remember when Mark used to whisper "Waffle gang" in embarrassment every time, now he yells it with pride lmao

[@zerobolt9506]

I miss that to be honest, I found it a little funny in away.

[@emmemunson8220]

Story 4 You are amazing for raising your brother! I am a single mom with a daughter with multiple special needs. We were once in a long lineup at a store. My daughter was excitedly talking about her upcoming birthday. The mom and daughter ahead of us starting to talk to my daughter because she was so excited. She started telling them about her birthday. When they finished paying for their items, the daughter turned around and gave my daughter $20 for her birthday. I still have a picture of the two of them. There are so many good people on this earth and my daughter wins them over every day!💜💝🌸

[@theprodigaltrue]

"Oh please wont somebody take responsibility for my son!" "Yeah shouldnt you do that?" "Youre so selfish not wanting to take care of my son, just selfish"

[@americanhoney3098]

This was awesome!

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

Ahhh yes.......The timeless entitled parent speech. Classic.

[@belledomnik]

Story 1 NTA. REGARDLESS of what the deal was who leaves a kid in a parking lot? Bro is a POS. Huge streaming pile. He left his kid on the street for some pootytang.

[@user-ij3il1sj1k]

Story 1: If someone is in a situation, but you can't help them out and people get made at you because you were busy, why didn't they help the person in need instead of being mad at someone else for something they could've done as well?

[@simsgirlgem]

Story two wow just wow my therapist waited until I was ready for family members like my father to be in one of my sessions what op husband did was a violation of trust

[@frith.calluna]

Just wanted to say that I love how OP from story 4 talks about his brother. You can just feel that they truly have a special bond

[@flowercrown-eevee]

The first reply for story 4 pisses me off. Im autistic, I stim by hand flapping at times, Im tiny tho so im not seen a 'threat' but NO ONE should HAVE to give out information on someone's disability (your own or someone else's) to get people to treat you with understanding. It can make people feel very self-conscious or like there's something wrong with them. It so rude to expect someone to give out medical information for the comfort of others.

[@heathermcdougall2399]

If it was me, that brother would never get his kid back ever., on the grounds that you abandoned him to me. Want me to call CPS???

[@tricorvus2673]

I'm still riding the high of interacting with one of our regular customers. He's easily 18, his mom says he's autistic. He's non-verbal but makes sounds. I asked her his name and greeted him by name -- something I do rarely with anyone because I'm crap with remembering names to start with. I carried on a one-way conversation with him and he engaged, visually. He offered a fist bump, twice in the transaction. You might make someone's day by interacting with them -- or they might make yours.

[@locusxe1411]

Story 4 NTA. That first ESH comment made me so angry. Op isn’t obligated to tell this random woman anything. She was being an ahole. If you see someone in an aisle who you don’t know and is not associating with you whatsoever then don’t argue with them because you think your in the right

[@babycakez8070]

I would say NAH. Unfortunately the reality is pedo are associated with being male and he appears to be a adult male in the little girl toy isle. Unfortunately people cant look at everyone and straight away know people mental health or medical history, so you have to make a risk assessment on the spot. She entitled to feel the way she done and OP entitled to feel the way he does. Op knows his brother, so can make the correct judgement. The mom has to make a quick judgement based on the information on hand which isn’t at much. I honestly don’t think, this situation would’ve play out a lot different just because of the ages and the fact that OP is a male career not in uniform. It unfortunate that the reality, especially considering most cases of with sexual abuse of a minor happens with someone they know rather than abduction from a stranger.

[@hrhcae4u2u]

MASSIVE breach of trust AND respect!! He has no respect for your feelings.

[@GabrielleHayes1921]

I just listened to the second Story on a different account, and I'm currently arguing with somebody who says it's her fault for not talking to him 🤦🤦🤦🤦

[@보모]

The blame her and think nothing is off with his behaviour AND the fact she is a teen while he is in his 30’s purposely wanting her pregnant

[@diociharesibelli2547]

So he abandoned his son in a parking lot ,super dangerous he could have been kidnapped, and they are blaming you cuz you were at work? Parent of the year

[@ReyK_47]

Thank you for dropping this right when my zoom class starts 😂 needed something to actually pay attention to

[@MarkNarrations]

Hahaha love that :)

[@Davtwan]

“I just couldn’t help myself.” = “I’m too ignorant/incompetent/lazy/scared to be accountable and/or self-improving.” Relationships aren’t made to be fixing people. If he “can’t help himself,” then neither can OP. Run.

[@Tammohawk1]

1st Story: NTA Who in their right mind just drops a kid off at a store to go on vacation? Our kids went with us, we didn't trust anyone! 2nd Story: NTA That guy has some major problems. "I just can't help myself," is the lousiest excuse I have ever heard. 3rd Story: This entire situation is strange to me. The idea of an arranged marriage is so foreign to me. The mind set, the culture, everything. 4th Story: NTA Who did that woman think she was anyway? I think she could have recognized that OP's brother had special needs. Geeze. I would have called her a hag also. Bench.

[@Dan_Hazard]

I think the husband who recorded wanted her to stay at the sisters so he can have time to install recording devices for future sessions, depending on if she returns

[@tricorvus2673]

"... no one wants to help or TAKE RESPONSIBILITY..." Responsibility for that which is not their responsibility?! YOUR child is YOUR responsibility. Did you not know that?!

[@zachf748]

Story #2 - Recording _private_ therapist sessions, after they know you don’t want them to hear them, is beyond despicable.

[@thedestroyasystem]

Thank god it's friday! Still in school atm, but on break :)

[@MarkNarrations]

Nearly there Destroya!

[@trudolph]

Same

[@itjustmemanning8441]

How dare op's husband record her therapy 😤. She needs to divorce him, trust is a large part of a marriage.

[@laica01]

Gee... wonder why the first Gf left the brother. what a nice guy

[@zachf748]

Story #3 - Naming your kid after an ex, without the father knowing, is one of the most disrespectful things you can ever do to a spouse.

[@serendipitysirens]

That is not a spouse. It is a friend she has kids with.

[@susanlayton2143]

In story 1: OP is NTA but his brother is for just dropping his son off in a supermarket parking lot then texting his brother that he needs to go pick him up, thinking that his brother will just suck it up and take in the boy for a week or 2 when he has already said that he can't. If the gf knew and did nothing to try and stop this...she is too and the rest of the family that were willing to do NOTHING to help but called OP an A for calling the police and getting the brother in trouble can kick rocks.

[@tazhienunurbusinezz1703]

Say the brother did leave to go pick him up but got into a car accident on the way there that either made him incapable of explaining that someone needed to pick up the kid or the brother died. What then? That is just SO incredibly irresponsible. Idk why his family is co-signing on that nonsense but the dad absolutely deserves everything he gets from the justice system. Being a parent isn't always fun but holy crud is that a gross decision by that child's only remaining parent.

[@orchidoxs126]

Story 4: NTA at all. She could have waited till you guys left the isle or ask nicely. she didn't there are many ways she could have gone about it and she didn't. If you are rude don't expect kindness back. Because it isn't what you deserve. And I really hope her daughter turns out better then she does,because her mother is setting her up for failure with a attitude like that.

[@wiknap54]

What a beautiful lady to take care of her brother,you made me cry to have to deal with a oxygen thief like that woman

[@digit5465]

Story 3: id say nta, because it wasnt an ex. It was a late bf. And like all the NTA replies, we dunno the culture is like

[@thedestroyasystem]

I'd say NAH or ESH. They're both doing some things poorly (bc a late bf is still an ex bf, and OP shouldn't have gone behind her husband's back, while some of hubby's comments were out of line). They also both have valid grievances. If I were the husband I'd be upset, too. The real asshole is the culture that forced them both into this situation in the first place.

[@f.t.cnation9999]

@@thedestroyasystem Arranged marriage and forced marriage are 2 different things. Op was not forced she wrote that. Please before you judge a custom actually look into it. Lets say a mother knows her son wants to settle down find a wife. She says something to a friend that her son is ready to marry. Friend knows a mother that has a daughter that is also ready to settle down. Friend tells both mothers about the others child and then the mothers tell their child. To see if they are interested. The son and daughter are interested meet get to know each other and date then decide to marry. Sounds pretty normal right. Most of us have friends or family that like to play match maker. This is actually how most arranged marriages happen now days. Except the friend in the story is actually a match maker. Yes their are still forced arranged marriages but in most cases the children actually choose if they want to marry the person or not.

[@thedestroyasystem]

@@f.t.cnation9999 You're totally right, I misspoke. I meant in regards to not only the marriage, but in regards to OP hiding the fact that she was dating, she was pretty much forced to hide her relationship, which led to the situation she is currently in. If she were able to deal with her grief openly this likely wouldn't have happened. I'm not trying to judge willing arranged marriage. Sorry if that was unclear. :)

[@f.t.cnation9999]

@@thedestroyasystem Thats ok it just sounded to me like you were judging arranged marriages from the way you worded your comment. And assuming they are all forced. It is common for a lot of people not from a culture that has arranged marriage to not understand what is actually involved. I was one of them until i was older and actually made friends with people who are in arranged marriages. When you actually look into them it is actually pretty interesting and effective. You have a match maker that has profiles on many single people that are interested in getting married. Sort of like a human dating app except you cant use a fake picture and its harder to lie in your profile. And you know that pretty much everyone is actually interested in settling down not just hooking up.

[@thedestroyasystem]

@@f.t.cnation9999 That's fair. I'm not here to harsh on anyone else's culture, just cuz I don't understand it doesn't mean it doesn't work. As long as all the participants are willing, I don't care what other people do in their relationships :)

[@silverstarmoon5802]

That's neglecting and abandonment of what his brother did. I feel sorry for OP's nephew. That's family are nothing but hypocrites and selfish, op is the only one who's care about the kid.

[@Zaners82123]

That is an amazing brother i seriously need this person in my life. Thats so wonderful to dovand shows what type of person you are

[@CouncilEstateRach]

ABANDONING A CHILD LIKE THIS OVER AND OVER IS HOW BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER IS MADE.... carry on treating this kid like this and he wl push every single person he knows and comes into contact with as he will be terrified of abandonment so he has to do it first. You knkw oeople have to leave but you also know yr gonna have to make them leave as you cannot take the anticipation.

[@Mapache095]

Last story I absolutely say NTA. His response was reactional to her extremely rude behaviour. It’s not OPs responsibility to “approach the situation with empathy” if the other adult is being a turd!

[@Sapphirelily]

*gets blown away from Mark’s greeting* 😃 happy weekend!

[@MarkNarrations]

Haha! Much love Sapphire!

[@melissareid640]

Illegal. and violating. Divorce him he has no boundaries.

[@19WolfGirl74]

It’s official. I’ve watched so many of your videos that my account has now made me a Mark Narrations mix playlist 😂

[@carolrondou6161]

First story glad OP called the Cops. Tell the family to step up or step aside. Anything could've happened to that poor kid. OP I would contact the Mother's family and let them know what's going on. NTA

[@JBond-hw5nj]

op should tell her therapist about what he did

[@Acidfunkish]

Story #3: In cultures like this one, men have all of the power, in everything. There are definite hints of his controlling side, too. I can't believe how many people are calling her TA. Men get all of the benefit, in these relationships, and women are lucky if they don't end up with a partner who is physically and sexually abusive. However, he still doesn't sound like a gem. It's very unlikely she was, in any way, sexually active with her young boyfriend, so he would likely be considered more of a good friend, who died prematurely, than a boyfriend. She named her son after a good friend, and her "husband" saw that as a moment he failed to control the situation. Feck everybody else, here. NTA. Story #4: What's with people setting their standards wayyyy higher for the non-a holes, in these kinds of stories? Sure, he could have been totally respectful and explained his diagnoses, in detail, and gave her a lesson in empathy. But that gets so fecking exhausting, because people stare and make inappropriate comments and use derogatory terms to describe people who are in any way different, EVERY SINGLE DAY. You really think it's his responsibility to fix every asshat he encounters, on a daily basis? Screw off. It's obvious some of these people have 0 clue what it's really like. They're blessed, but their judgement is way off.

[@fobija1378]

Story#3: 15 girls gets very attracted by those who shows interest and interest he did. So it isn't cool to name after ex the kid

[@ghuttsmckenzie4269]

@@fobija1378 but she was never able to properly mourn over him, like it or not but she loved the guy and this was most likely one of the only ways to mourn the guy.

[@fobija1378]

@@ghuttsmckenzie4269 That is not an excuse for basically destroying kids life.

[@ghuttsmckenzie4269]

@@fobija1378 how is that destroying a kid's life? That name is only as important as the meaning they gave it. I don't see how it would justify any abuse towards the kid and if there were she didn't cause it but SO's insecurity might have. Its a name and if you think that's any reason to bring hate upon a person then that is extremely shallow.

[@fobija1378]

@@ghuttsmckenzie4269 Same as naming kid as Dick. Naming child after ex is disrespectful for kid.

[@Droptheworldghost]

Thanks for the perfect timing mark have a great day

[@MarkNarrations]

A pleasure as always duke, how are you?

[@Droptheworldghost]

@@MarkNarrations been very good sir just busy which i know you know first hand good sir I hope things are well

[@AlexJReil]

Little know fact (according to brother from story one): You can date someone without going on long elaborate holidays. You could, I don't know, go to a cafe, or on a walk. It comes with the bonus of being able to stay a part of your son's life.

[@chanterelle483]

And not being tried for child abandonment and negligence.

[@connienelson1515]

The family is embarrassed, they don't care for the child. Ignore them. Poor boy.

[@nukerwolf7788]

Story 2) "I'm sorry I couldn't help it" wow yeah that works on any other crime. He is controlling as F.

[@kaname4ever]

Enjoying listening to the stories after work and a nap woo

[@maxrobertson2834]

I work with kids with autism, and I have had bad reactions like that. Sometimes he puts his hand in his pants and some parents ask him to stop, which is completely understandable. I use that moment to teach people that he can’t control it, but you have a right to feel uncomfortable since he is an adult. Only one time someone screamed at him for being “dumb”. He was literally just stuttering. I stutter to.

[@melissareid640]

Why can't the rest of this poor kids family help. Your brother was never going to be responsible calling the cops was the right thing to do. Hope the kids adopted out for the safety of the child.

[@maemae527]

Perfect timing! I needed someone to eat lunch with. Thanks :-) have a great day

[@BingoBangoBong0]

It's really cool how mark gets more and more energetic every video :D

[@kerribottriell-baxter7345]

Story 1: I am livid at this family toward of OP. Like... what the heck? That poor kid! Just... 😡🤬

Story 1: NTA he abandoned his kid. Cps is the only alternative.

[@AllenTax]

That is sad. It shows character of the whole family. Granted they could take child in,but of course we don't know if that is better than CPS. As kid will most likely loose everything. Although that might jot be much,but it can mess him up.

[@janet6421]

Unfit father played chicken with his brother over poor kid's safety. I'm not turning around, if you care about him then you go get him. Better hurry before he gets hit by a car. How dare you call CPS to make sure my son is safe

[@rebecca4480]

That poor kid. I wish op would take that kid (get custody) and take him away from those AH family.

[@runawayfromtoads674]

SO I JUST GOT TO LOOKING AT YOUR VIDEOS AGAIN AND OH MY GOD THE HAND WAVED

[@runawayfromtoads674]

omg the transition afterwards fits so well with the waffle theme-- it looks like maple syrup and now im hungry at 3 am

[@benry007]

The only thing I'd do differently in the first story was to not be anonymous in my report to the police. I'd have given my name and explain that my brother abandoned his child without arranging childcare. Then I'd message the family to say I've got the police involved due to the brothers negligence.

[@louellacharlton4425]

Tyvm Mark. Great stories. B safe

[@fcold9402]

1. NTA. This was the consequences of your brothers actions. If the family's mad, ask why they did not pick up the kid.

[@skippiefritz]

As someone who stims by hand flapping, the fourth story hurt a lot

[@boooo13]

story 1 - god I would be so scared to be left in a parking lot as a kid in a pandemic!

[@AlmightyCRJ]

Story 2 'It's not a big deal' Literally Article 12 of the UN Universal Declaration of Human Rights

[@taetannim3581]

I'd absolutely beat the brakes off my brother for abandoning his kid!! God, how infuriating!

[@Cheycartoongirl8]

It's time for another fantastic video Waffle Gang! And now for an equally fantastic Life Hack! Life Hack: When moving homes, make sure the toolbox is always the last thing you pack, and the first thing you take off the truck.

[@bunnyslippers191]

And make sure you have a box (or two, depending on how big your family is) that goes with you in your car with some paper towels, some toilet paper, some paper plates, cups/glasses, and sheets, blankets, and pillows along with everyone's medications. If you have pets put pet food and food and water dishes in there as well. In another box put the cat litter and the litter if you have cats.

[@Cheycartoongirl8]

@@bunnyslippers191 This as well!

[@laurenmentink7401]

Hi Mark, much love to you, your dad, and other family members you have. There was a recent KZbin video of a woman who insisted that others leave the aisle she was in just because she wanted to shop there. I think it was in a Trader Joe's. The moment that anyone tells me that I have to "fill in the blank" is the moment that I don't care about that person at all. That woman talked garbage in front of OP's brother, all bets are off. Smallest violin playing the saddest song.

[@HannaFardew]

Story 1: bad father, BAD!!!

[@tabithadearth7507]

Story 1 makes me beyond enraged that 12 year old deserves so much better than his "Father" I would have called the police as well. I hope and pray that he loses custody of his son. If I were in a good place I'd take him myself.

[@julieeverett7442]

I think that was actually the point, brother didnt want responsibility for the child

[@kerribottriell-baxter7345]

Story 4: NTA! Okay, could have used better wording, but good on him for standing up for his brother.

[@MikkosFree]

1) OP should have called CPS directly. NTA 2) Husband may be well-meaning, but severely misguided. Give him hell OP. NTA

[@nadiaoneill3570]

Haha I have only just heard the first 8 seconds, but I'm sitting on the bus, tipsy and heading home, and Marc just comes on "what is up WAFFLE GAAA AAA ANG!" And I'm busting out laughing in a (fortunately) near empty bus 😂

[@saltytoshiro3685]

Day 36 of reminding Mark that he's amazing and that his work is appreciated ❤️

[@GabrielleHayes1921]

All I can think about in the second Story is what happens if they have a daughter and she's feeling a little down and not talkative because she's on her period and it's causing hormone issues (like it so often does), and he decides well there's something going on so I'm going to read her journal. It's just completely wrong.

[@terrybeasley5931]

If brother can afford vacations and parties, he can afford nanny. You did the right thing.

[@jacksparrowismydaddy]

in today's episode of "how you know you're not the favorite" abandoned children!

[@thenecroticraptor8338]

Story 4: NTA. Brother of the Year Award.