Friends Said I'm Abusing My Special Needs Privileges That Helps With University AITA

[@tazhienunurbusinezz1703]

1st story: I'm sorry but what? How is she "taking away from others who need the program more"? It's not like these are limited cash benefits or that the school is paying for someone to help so they have less money for someone else. She's getting to record lectures (doesn't cost the school anything). She gets to miss a few extra days (also doesn't really cost the school anything if they are recording the lectures for anyone else & they just send her a copy of them). She gets extra time on exams (also doesn't cost them anything if there is someone else in her class who uses the same benefit as the professor would have to stay for that other person anyway.) These benefits don't sound limited. There doesn't appear to be a set number of openings. Her getting them doesn't take away from someone else. These people sound jelly jelly. NTA

[@daniellediller5070]

Yah I can relate, I have vision perception disorder and most of my elementary school through high school, teachers and students would often tell me that technically speaking that I don't count. Now I've been diagnosed with anxiety, and ptsd so yah lol🙄

[@TheNormExperience]

Thank you! Who the hell are they to decide how sick is sick enough? I’m over people with no knowledge or information going, “Well you don’t LOOK or SEEM disabled so you’re being entitled to say you are.” Instead of idk...just talking to you about your circumstances like a real person to become educated. I get the, “you don’t look sick” all the time and it irritates the crap out of me because that’s not a thing. It’s pretty basic common sense that when I’m doing well people SEE me. When I’m not they don’t because I’m stuck at home so sick and in pain I don’t leave my bed. Pretty simple. But because they don’t live my life, don’t deal with my circumstances, and only care about what they can see, they never think they might not know the whole story. Well it’s not MY job to educate them, and not my job to make them feel better about MY life or illness. I owe explanations to no one but myself. I really hope this situation doesn’t negatively affect OP’s anxiety & depression, and that their therapy helps them deal with this on a healthy way and cut these people out of their life. It’s drama, stress, and ignorance no one needs.

[@wildlifesymphony]

@@TheNormExperience I wear clothes over pretty much all scarring caused by my wreck... I love when someone confronting me points out how healthy I look.... All I do is giggle and lift my shirt and show the scar going down my spine etc... I'm like, but see- I even HAVE physical disabilities and you couldn't tell! That's why you have to have a medical degree in the proper field to be taken seriously! I find it funny when people over step and stick their neck out just to mess with someone... And they have the unfortunate fortune to encounter me lol. Just yeah I've been there. People drive me up a wall.

[@someonesomewhere9115]

Agreed but I don’t think they’d make the Professor stay past the class time. That wouldn’t work if the Professor has another class or a weekly appointment or meeting that started within the student’s accommodated test-taking time. At my school, people who take advantage of their extra test-taking time have to schedule the test through the Disability Services Office and then take the test there instead of with the rest of the class.

[@tazhienunurbusinezz1703]

@@someonesomewhere9115 Depends on the school.

[@janicewilcox8590]

But the balls on stepmom, telling him "doesn't he think it will be crowded." In his house. If he moves in. ... Nah it won't. Cuz y'all won't be there

[@KatrinLittleDevil]

Charcoal (activated) is commonly used as a cure for food poisonings -- it's an absorbent so basically "collects" everything in the stomach and intestines and the poisoning doesn't worsen.

[@SorenPenrose]

I read that comment before Mark asked about it and I was so confused ab why you felt compelled to tell us

[@Tues48]

@@SorenPenrose i haven't even gotten to that part yet so I guess this is for the people who either read comments before watching or skip stories.

[@kamiteague7015]

This is also why you should NOT drink or eat anything with activated charcoal if you're on medication, it'll "collect" your medication and just make it null, this includes birth control (pill)

[@pansprayers]

@@kamiteague7015 yup, milk can do the same thing to a limited extent as well with certain things like antibiotics and vitamins. Why doesn't OP have an emergency kit for the time it takes to get the dog to the vet, regardless?

[@Nerdygoddess]

Fun Fact: it can also be used to clean up "questionable" water sources in emergency/long term camping situations.

[@Nyaneki]

story 1: get some new goddamn friends. i have special accommodations at uni too, for anxiety/depression/adhd and honestly the reason i struggled so damn much in high school is because i didnt get accommodations.

[@siaskies1704]

Same diagnoses!

[@ughicanteven5896]

Story 3: no, it's not Mike's responsibility at all. It's his room. He wasn't even there. You let your dog in that room and didnt watch it.

[@zerobolt9506]

I am curious if it had been a kid that ate a pot cookie or brownie if people would be saying differently. OP is the AH here though

[@ughicanteven5896]

@@zerobolt9506 honestly if the kid had followed op into the room that was previously locked, I'd still say yta since it was someone's private room and the kid wasn't that person's responsibility. Good question though, the general reaction may be really different.

[@zerobolt9506]

@@ughicanteven5896 yea that's what I was thinking too

[@courtneywoodbury5198]

In story 4, I can understand the idea of 'she was so unhappy in those photos, I want to be certain she really wants to do this,' but that is NOT where he went with that. Holy crap dude!

[@TheNormExperience]

Right? This was literally painful to listen to...what an awful husband. This was only about HIM, not her!

[@beliciapinkrah3919]

I was trying to be like nothing wrong with this than he said I cringed and hoped he could save it but nope

[@moakristenssom936]

Right! Before he got to the part where he said he cringed, I thought it was going to be a NTA. That the wife was actually uncomfortable, bu didn't wan't to say anything or something. This guy really only value her for her looks it sounds like

[@MrJpaynebb]

Wow, I didn't realize those vows had new versions. In sickness or in health, but only if your wife still looks hot enough for OP to be proud of in company photos. YTA and way to kick your wife when she's down. She got up the courage to let herself be photographed, a permanent record of her suffering by the way, for you to help you out OP and instead of thanking her for stepping so far out of her comfort zone, she gets a "nah, I'm good because you still look like shit. Can't have my friends and coworkers think I married a 4 and not a 10." YTA is too gentle a judgment so I am actually going with POS. The wife deserves a better husband and those kids deserve a better father to look up to.

[@FoxyMomma4ever]

@@MrJpaynebb Definitely a POS. Well said!!

[@jenmalcom7654]

Dog is YOUR responsibility...not the roommate's. YOU were supposed to have an eye on her, YOU weren't actually supposed to even be in Mike's room, had it not been for you needing something. That's on YOU, not Mike!

[@cgi2002]

You don't get to complain your dog ate something when it was in a place were it's not supposed to be. You were given permission, your dog wasn't. Your responsible for your dog when it is in other peoples private space.

[@Cecelia021]

Story one: I don't think OP is the idiot (NTA). I have anxiety with mild depression due to my Asperger's Syndrome and/or autism spectrum. So I would need therapy back then to better function into the world as I get older. Don't feel bad for doing this program. Just because you're doing better now, it doesn't mean that you don't need the other anymore. What if something bad happened that brings back all of your anxiety back in the long run? What's going to happen then?

[@HH-ru4bj]

I think it goes to more than that. It sounds like the friend is jealous because they are stressing out over their uni experience, while op is able to get assistance they can't. The idea they put forward as op taking away from someone more deserving, is simply wrong. Even if op wasn't all that bad off, they're not being given something of limited resources like a reserved slot in a program or a handicap parking spot. They are given more time for assignments and are allowed to record lectures. They aren't taking something material, they qualify for additional accomodations. I dont see the problem either as from what horror stories I've heard of college and the trials of being in the workforce for 20 years, if you don't take every opportunity you can, then you're stupid. I won't say op is lucky as I'm sure they'd rather not have severe anxiety and clinical depression, but they have nothing to feel sorry for.

[@AllenTax]

IKR. They are not in no way a doctor to disgnose. They need eduication.

[@WhatALifeSoFar]

activated charcoal absorbs the toxins of the pot! Vets and Hospitals use it on those that OD

[@afatcatfromsweden]

Are you my long lost twin sister?

[@personman8734]

Honestly she just needs a whole new friend group at this point. They just want to drag her down because she has privileges.

[@15oClock]

1. Just because someone uses a wheelchair doesn't mean they aren’t disabled! Those people are jealous they don't apply. 2. Probably shouldn't have offered the house in the first place. They're not family; they're terrible people and OP's already been generous. 3. Mike's responsibility wasn't the dog; that was OP's and she botched it. Sure, it was his joint, but he didn't lead the pup into the room. Side note: I've heard activated charcoal can deactivated medications, so I think it combats chemicals foreign to the host body. 4. If OP didn't want to expose his wife to more harassment, that would be one thing. Instead, he's being shallow and unsupportive.

[@anikanele7958]

Story one: the friends are just stupid. You cant join a program like that while you´re too anxious to do the paperwork or while you cant get out of bed because your depression hits really hard. You´re doing it before, so if you have a bad time, you are prepared. Saying you should only join when you need it, is like saying "only put your seatbelt on during a carcrash"

[@anikanele7958]

@@TS-oz3ec I made the mistake of not getting help when I still could, after 2 years of struggling with anxiety and maybe adhd I finally managed to get a doctors appointment in june and maybe will be able to get help from uni in autumn... If I gotten help earlier I would probably have my degree now...

[@perrymeril]

Totally NOT THE AHOLE. On the ranking of assholes, we have trump, hitler, etc down to racist idiots and then its these friends.

[@cgi2002]

The there were some key words in OP's post. "Panic attacks are less frequent" that means they still happen, meaning there is still clearly a mental health issue. Just because it's a condition that is actively been treated doesn't remove it, you don't cure mental health, you manage it. Managed mental health is still mental health. I have diabetes, I take medication for it, its managed, but I am, and always will be, a diabetic. Mental health is the same, managed doesn't mean cured.

[@little_lion_heart9850]

@@TS-oz3ec I did the same thing. I was most of the way through my AA before I found out the program could help me. I though 'well, I am not mentally/physically handicapped, so I guess I just have to struggle on my own.' Fortunately, my school made a point to push disability awareness and what disabilities actually are and who qualifies for the program. Awareness is important for everyone, my perspective of what is a disability was wrong and it hindered me and left me ignorant to other people's problems as well. When I went to Uni for my BA I already knew I qualified for their program and was able to apply for it right away. I am currently taking my last class to graduate and I know I could not have made it this far without the accommodations I received.

[@drewthistlethwaite8909]

1st story: I'm autistic and depression and anxiety are in fact a disadvantage that needs empathy and help. Don't listen to them. They're being dismissive of mental health issues.

[@tsharabrown3719]

I have several disorders including depression, anxiety, ADHD, and autism, and I can honestly say they have been more of a detriment to my life and ability to move forward than anything else I personally face as a member of other minorities. Anyone who thinks they arent legit issues can kiss my ass.

[@FoxyMomma4ever]

@@tsharabrown3719 Damn straight! I’m diagnosed with Depression and Anxiety with a large side of PTSD. Add to that my Asthma, Diabetes, Migraines, and Fibromyalgia (just to name a few), and you get a disabled person. Technically it’s the Asthma that I’m disabled from but the rest of my health issues make it extremely worse. I’m so sorry that you have to deal with people like OP’s “friends” but I’m glad that you’re strong enough to help yourself by programs like these. I myself just started therapy for my PTSD and with only 3 visits under my belt it’s already improving.

[@BigfootWithMemes]

We bigfoots don't get any privileges out here in the forest, they are even talking about making it legal to hunt us in some places

[@convergenceclown2386]

don’t worry, i’ll use my drug empire money to fund protests against this. i will stop bigfoot hunting if it’s the last thing i do.

[@ArmyOfFreaks]

Omg story 4 he just went on and on and on and my heart kept breaking more and more for her😱😢 It actually hurt my heart hearing those things😧💔

[@GonzoHenson]

That university accomodations one is nuts. If a disability accomodation is working, then that is what is SUPPOSED to happen! You don't remove it. The person doesn't have to been in active distress to prove that they need the accomodation -- that is actually more like that the accomdation being provided isn't enough or is the wrong one. Imagine this being done with another disability. For example, I am short sighted, so I wear glasses. I don't say, "Yay! I can see now. Time to take the glasses off and get behind the wheel of a car!" And, if after putting on the glasses, things are fuzzy and I am bumping into things, then I have the wrong prescription and it needs adjusting. That's just the way accomodations work.

[@TsukiKageTora]

Story 4: literally got worse as the story went on. What the hell is wrong with this man?

[@memorysdancer]

My thoughts exactly! And the fact that he is dumb enough to feel compelled to even ask if he is the asshole... I mean 🤦‍♀️ that just shows complete narcissism and lack of empathy!

[@SheenaReine]

Story 4 😒 he really thought he wouldn’t be called out. I know they dragged him for filth. As someone battling a chronic illness and weight gain, if my husband ever did this I would be absolutely crushed. You know what he says when I’m crying bc I don’t recognize myself? “You’re beautiful! How did you get so pretty!” Etc. I hope his wife leaves him in the dust he doesn’t deserve her.

[@piffba]

1st story: OP: *gets help they need, and benefits them* “Friends”: yeah you’re abusing the system

[@anonymousbrooks8194]

Story one: Op's friends are a bunch of haters they mad cuz they can't benefit from the program. They choking on that bottle of haterade. NTA.

[@missluciddreams3472]

Story one: NTA...u qualified for the program for a reason... ignore the friends who take issue with it. Story two: NTA...OP was overly generous and sounds awesome...they knew the plans. Story three: YTA...your dog, your responsibility and the room was locked. Story four: YTA...that hurt my heart...no support at all for his wife...what a jerk!

[@barbarastorball2117]

Definitely agree for story 3. Op knew her dog followed her like her shadow, her roommate left a joint in their Room which was locked and the dog had no access to unless OP let the dog in the Room. OP has no leg to stand on because she let the dog into the Room and did not watch her dog, she's just an irresponsible dog owner.

[@joeyl9037]

Lol just Person: "Im doing better mentally! My therapy, medication, and lifestyle is improving my mental health! I feel stable!" Rando: "You're better now, you dont need therapy and medication anymore! You're just being selfish! You aren't allowed those things anymore!" Person: "Oh.." Gives up medication, therapy, and lifestyle changes that require the support of others. Person: Has a breakdown and ends up taking a long arduous journey to get back to where they were... With Therapy, medication, and lifestyle changes. -Repeat!-

[@tomorrow4eva]

Isn’t this every mental health policy ever?

[@RosensDragon2140]

Damn, that first one really got Mark upset. And rightly so, those friends are trash.

[@novabrilliant4510]

It's a joy to hear your voice. I appreciate listening while I finish the laundry. Thanks for keeping me company.

[@Damarai_]

Same but I’m doing dishes

[@abbyjackson5288]

@@Damarai_ same and I'm having a midnight snack 🥨

[@jessicapalmer3455]

Laundry here too. It sucks but Mark makes it sooo much better!

[@michellej3140]

Doing the washing up.x

[@lel7841]

Yep yep. Every time I do laundry he's my jam

[@Mewse1203]

Stpry 2: no mention of rent. Were they paying any rent? If not, they should have had PLENTY to use to move on with.

[@Mewse1203]

Stpry 3: OP should have controlled her dog. You walked into his LOCKED room and didn't take responsibility for the dog that YOU KNOW follows YOU.

[@owl7072]

Story 1: Literally if OP was capable like the "friends" claim, the school wouldn't have let them be part of the program, there's a *reason* they had all those steps and requirements

[@hinakiba777]

Story 1 reminded me of my first year of uni. I broke my foot quite intensely on Halloween. I mentioned needing to request some extensions due to this. My "friends", including a girl who received accommodations, told me "You broke your foot, not your hands. You don't need an extension" I missed a bunch of assignments. At the end of semester, my professors asked about the gap and were shocked I didn't ask for an extension at the time. Luckily most gave me a second chance to do the assignments. People can be jerks

[@bunnyblanc2999]

That "yes- *cut to end of video* just made me die..

[@antis0cialtrash553]

Oh boy the last story kept getting worse and worse , I feel bad for his poor wife

[@janet6421]

"I'm going to pause it here YTA" keeps reading "OH, it's getting worse"

[@QueenSunstar]

Story 1. Friend is pissed she couldn’t lie her way into the program so she’s blaming OP for it. That’s the vibe I’m getting.

[@f.ah.c2114]

Story 4: “Oh, this is gonna be terrible... wait, it sounds like maybe he will stand up to his wife’s wishes... nvm, ffs it did suck”

[@starbutterfly7938]

Hey mark this is how the Charcoal works. “Activated charcoal” is basically a purifier for when the human body or animal has a large amount of toxin like drugs in the system. When people are on the verge of an overdose then activated charcoal will be pumped into the body to stabilise the toxins inside the body. It’s a more pleasant way to detox the body than pumping the stomach but sometimes there’s way to much drugs in the system that they’ll need to do both options.

[@hotjanuary]

It only works if the toxin has been ingested recently. Once the toxin has been absorbed into the blood stream through the digestive tract, the charcoal is useless. Basically, it only works while the toxin is in your digestive tract.

[@Casandraelf]

i remember being given activated charcoal when i was a little kid and overdosed on some medication. i was shitting black for a while. for the record, i was trying to be helpful and attempted to take my medicine ahead of time so my mom wouldn't have to worry about it, not trying to kill myself

[@starbutterfly7938]

@Gi Gi Yeh I remember hearing from a friend of mine who owns horse that they physically can't throw up because of the power of the cut-off valve muscle and if a horse did threw up its cuz the stomach ruptured and will soon be dead in a painful way though they don't show pain like us

[@jayc7171]

Story 1: Ops “friends” are the type of people to say someone isn’t this/that because they don’t “show it enough “

[@scarletgoldenthorn]

It’s straight up ableism. It hurts so much when I feel comfortable enough to tell someone I’m autistic and they say I don’t “look” autistic. Like wtf??? It hurts even more when I voice my opinions about autistic rights and ableists who want to suppress autistic voices say I don’t get to have an opinion bc I’m “not autistic enough.”

[@heathermiller5765]

@@scarletgoldenthorn The word "ableist" came to my mind too. A friend of mine has a son who is autistic as well. A friend of hers said the same thing. "He doesn't look autistic." I don't know what she told her, but I said, " How can someone look autistic?" She replied, "Exactly." Your comment reminded me of that

[@oops383]

Story 3: charcoal is to induce vomiting and make it so the dog's body doesn't absorb the pot (i assume). My little brother ate my mom's antidepressants as a kid and the doctor gave him charcoal diluted with chocolate syrup for this reason

[@Nerdygoddess]

Hydrogen peroxide or an injection is used to induce vomitting, charcoal can absorb various toxins (not antifreeze). -source was a trained vet tec that had a few panicked visits due to poor dietary choices on the animal's part.

[@koolkittykat04]

Charcoal is not used to induce vomiting. Activated charcoal binds to the toxins in the stomach, meaning that any leftover toxins in the dog’s stomach after vomiting should be “trapped” in the charcoal. This means that there should be minimal toxin absorption by the body after charcoal ingestion.

[@Chelsea_Stringer]

1st Story: NTA. I have dyslexia and have had a lot of accommodations throughout high-school and university including 2x time in exams, access to computers for the exams to type answers, writing the exam in a private room so there are no outside destractions, access to spellcheck, access to software that reads exam questions to me, recoding of lectures, notes provided beforehand by the professors, software that reads textbooks to me, etc. Without these accommodations I likely would not have graduated, let alone thrived in University. People have told me I am "lucky" I get these accommodations and they wish they could have them too. I am lucky in the sense that academia is more inclusive than it was for past generations, but these accommodations are there to level the playing field, nothing more. The person from the first story needs their accommodations too and I'm glad to hear they can get them!

[@MEGalomaniac6829]

Not sure if anyone answered this, but the charcoal they speak of is this medical, and nasty tasting, substance one needs to drink if they overdose on pills, swallow something they shouldn't, etc.

[@daorignaldumbucket]

The reason activated charcoal is used to absorb ingested toxins because it's so porous and stops the stomach from absorbing said toxins. It doesn't work for everything though.

[@badkitty4922]

I knew this but, thanks for posting!

[@toni3548]

First story, they aren't your friends OP, TATS.

[@maheenahmed6653]

Story 1: They’re only providing it because it’s needed for those it applies to. NTA. Story 2: Why did OPs dad and step mom and the kid move in their house in the first place? Did they not have their own place?? OP was more than generous to people they owe nothing to

[@musicallydisneyamvs6731]

Story 1) NTA! I have depression & anxiety. An ex-friend has medical problems that makes her cancel plans sometimes. The one time I canceled due to depression she flipped out. A total hypocrite. I confronted her. I deserved better & told her so, and moved on.

[@cheskydivision]

As a parent of a child with special needs that missed out on so many things because of it, I'm happy if ppl who need help can get it.

[@81babyruthluv]

Story 3: who remembers the movie Up in Smoke? "Man, what is in this shit, man? You mean we are smokin dog shit?" LOL LOL LFMAO Charcoal is commonly used to help an upset stomach, or with food poisoning. My grandmother would always make us take charcoal when we had an upset stomach..

[@bobbyjay205]

i think the charoal is used to absorb the toxins and get flushed out instead of going into the bloodstream.

[@YoZakuraStore]

I love mark being more emotional during reading 🤣 this is exactly how I feel listening to all these stories

[@andyanderson7149]

Story 1: 1000000000% NTA, im currently in university and apart of the disability support service i didn't apply till one of my professors pushed me for it during my 2nd year of school. And it's made my experience so much better

[@Gloria-ro4vn]

YOU entered his room; YOU'RE responsible to keep an eye on YOUR animal.

[@HighPhoenix1754]

1:53 Holy shit. That scared the piss out of me. You okay mate? Need a drink?

[@bukakali2970]

I got excited. Lol

[@catte.]

Hahaha the narration is kinda spicy today

[@chickennuggets12345]

It surprised me too

[@HighPhoenix1754]

Bruh.. story 4 made me cringe so hard. Hell yeah he's the asshole. That's your WIFE. Through sickness and health man. That particular verse is there for a REASON.

[@bgcorporation]

15:47 I had to pause because I laughed so hard lol. Hell at that point I even asked myself "Should I listen to more? We already know the answer." lmfao thank you.

[@saltytoshiro3685]

Day 26, video 2 of reminding Mark that he's amazing and that his work is appreciated ❤️

[@chickennuggets12345]

This is a cause I can get behind :)

[@karendaniel620]

Last Story: I honestly have no words. Thankfully, you and the Redditors did. Giant YTA.

[@carolynbam8434]

Story 1- if people didn't use the program, they might decide it's not worth it and cancel it. It is there- use it.

[@MewsSister]

Story 2, OP should take an inventory and damage report. The so called wear and tear might get increasingly worse.

[@charlieoscar2339]

Story 1. NTA. I was diagnosed with clinical depression and PTSD in my early 20’s. I’m now in my 50’s. Where did time go? The OP in this story does not have to justify anything to anyone. Mark is right when he said “Find new friends.” That type of toxic “friendship” can toss you into a frightening rabbit hole drowning you in the “I’m no good” places. Getting out of that is almost impossible. The reason schools offer these programs is so that you can function throughout the day. I will give you a private example. When I go grocery shopping, getting my items, putting my card in my wallet, putting wallet in purse is enough to throw me in a full fledge panic attack. Once it got so bad that the manager got me a chair, water and shut down the lane until I could continue. He then took my groceries and loaded them in the car for me. Just because you are doing well now, does not mean that you don’t have serious struggles. Ignore your “friends” as real friends would sympathize and be happy that there are programs in place to aid you. Good luck OP.

[@Evie_Jeebies]

I just got home from picking up my sister. It's snowing, which made it harder to drive. I'm listening to the playlist to calm myself down.

[@Tammohawk1]

First Story: NTA Who do these so-called friends think they are? They clearly are not mental health experts. "You're 'stable', you don't need this program.' Really? And they know this how? People really burn me up. If the school didn't think OP belonged in this program, they wouldn't have been let in. Period. Anxiety alone can be very crippling. So can depression. Combine the two? Not a good combo. I think I would show this person this Reddit thread too. Maybe give her another perspective. Grr... This one really burned me up! Second Story: NTA Things are going to end up getting very ugly before they are over. I just have a feeling. That stepmom is going to start nonsense after dad passes. Third Story: YTA It's definitely not the roommates fault what happened to your dog. The door was locked for crying out loud! You know the dog follows you, so are responsible. Charcoal, or ipecac, works on animals and people to make you vomit when you have ingested something. Don't use it on just anything though, that can also be harmful. And how big was that joint? And what quality of weed was it? That could have been an expensive joint. You might have to repay it. Fourth Story: YTA Why bother to ask, you KNOW you are!! Yikes...

[@animatorstanley]

Dog story, I have a Maltese mix and one day she was shaking, swaying, looked spaced out and I was worried she ate a plum pit as we had plum trees and she liked eating the fruit. My brother and I took her to the emergency vet, also a weekend. They told me she was stoned. She must have eaten some that fell as my brother was breaking it up. We opted out of the expensive treatment and let her ride it out. As a dog owner YOU are responsible for your dog, roommates door was locked and it was HIS private space. My dog has not eaten any weed since.

[@riceracm]

_Be still my beating heart_ that last story! I can’t even fathom the amount of work it will take to undo the damage done by that jerk of a husband with the sick wife! 🤯😱😬

[@mbyerly9680]

Pet owners should keep medicinal human-grade charcoal as part of their dog first aid kit in case of some types of poisonings and stomach issues. In the US, most health food stores have it. I've used it on myself to ease food poisoning.

[@janicevango5791]

First story: It’s amazing the amount of people who don’t accept that not all disabilities are those that can be seen. Guess what? Some are psychological and felt internally and therefore can still affect a person’s ability to function effectively. OP’s so-called ‘friends’ need to mind their own business.

[@briansmaller7443]

Stoned Dog story - The OP is the AH totally. Mike is justified to say no to her demand for him paying part of the bill. He gave permission for HER to enter his room while he was away, not HER dog. She is 100% responsible. I have experienced this. When I was at Uni my dog (that was in my home I owned) got into a flatmate's room and chewed up his AD&D Players Handbook AND a brilliant map he had painted on a pigskin parchment. I could reimburse the players handbook - which was a lot of money for a student in 1981 but could not reimburse the effort he put into the map. I gave him some free rent in exchange and nearly forty years later I still feel shite about it.

[@19WolfGirl74]

This is sad but I just figured out that you’re Daddy Cringe 😂😂 I’ve listened to you since the start. This channel has really evolved and you’ve gotten so much more comfortable! I love it! You’re awesome 😎

[@scarletgoldenthorn]

The first one infuriates me, and I’m not even finished with it yet. I am an honors student with a perfect GPA, but my severe ADHD and autism cause me to struggle. So my college gives me accommodations. There isn’t a fucking limit on them. People who get accommodations NEED them. We need them because while we might excel or do just fine in school, the way it is structured isn’t exactly fair for us. For example, I need written copies of any and all instructions, as well as subtitles on all videos and such, otherwise I’d be a disorganized mess who wouldn’t process anything I hear. Her friends sound like ableists who doubt the legitimacy of her disorder, and are jealous bc they don’t get what they view as “special privileges.” They aren’t cheating bonuses, they are basic accommodations that help make things fair for us.

[@teetimedolls807]

ending my birthday with listing to your video, perfect!! 💕💕

[@catte.]

Happy Birthday!

[@teetimedolls807]

@@catte. thank you!! :D 💕💕

[@little_lion_heart9850]

Story one is so horrible, as someone in college who has Generalized Anxiety Disorder and Clinical Depression as well as Dyslexia I know what a difference those accommodations can make. I would not have been able to make it through a lot of my classes without the time extension for exams. But with that extra time I was able to show that I did understand the material and pass my classes. It is hard enough having an 'invisible disability', sometimes you have some good days and they make you think 'maybe I am faking it, maybe I am just lazy?' and you doubt yourself. Then those bad days hit and you remember how real your problem is. You don't need other people invalidating you too.

[@Gingerycarrotkitten]

Story 1: Exactly as you said Mark, That isn't taking anything away from anyone. Its just extra time of tests.... lawl

[@maxamillion26093]

If they thought that you weren’t eligible for the program you wouldn’t be getting the benefits, and you provided adequate proof of need of the program so you’re more than entitled to what the program offers.

[@davidavallone9416]

story 4: for some reason I was expecting to hear OP say they were worried they had been TA when relaying the wife's request not to include a picture to the folks at work. another little bit of my hope for humanity flakes away as it turns out it was OP's idea rather than his wife's.

[@terrey7768]

The zoom you did on the first story had me cracking up 😂 also I really love the blooming flowers background it’s my favorite 🌸

[@vexerthegachatuber5333]

"Grief changes shape, but it never ends" - Keanu Reeves For story 1 the "friend" believes just because op is ok now so they'll no longer require the program. What she doesn't realize is that it only changed for now. It could go for better or for worse at any moment.

[@louellacharlton4425]

Thanks Mark. Always gladdens my heart when you lose it on behalf of OP' S problems. Sometimes I laugh and sometimes I cry! Just know that this is a wonderful thing! Many blessings to you and yours my friend.

[@mykie.y]

I'm gonna say something people don't comment much about, but I really like how the channel's been slowly progressing towards a more cheerful positive vibe. There's a nice balance of smooth music, there's a bit of humor mixed in at the end of readings, and there's always the rich insightful feedback that most reddit channels don't do. I think you're really doing a good Job Mark and although I do sometimes miss the non AITA readings, I still very much enjoy this channel!

[@kenshinhimura2322]

I think everyone should be able to record their classes. But that’s the only thing.

[@amygarcia3729]

17:22 I can imagine Mark standing up with his arms reaching towards the sky. Yelling at op.

[@zoid5911]

I work in disability services at a college, and that person has nothing to fee guilty about. They got those services because they need them, and the ADA would have serious problems with the school having a cap on how many students they help. Additionally none of the accommodations they described are limited resources depending on how the school handles them. At most the student might need to take their tests at a weird time because of the extended time and the school might need to buy a recorder if the student isn’t using a smart phone and the school runs out of the recorders they have.

[@kailiek2402]

"It could go to people who really need it" is such a slippery slope. They set the guidlines for who they accept and the OP fit the criteria. People have to stop gatekeeping mental illness and what is and isnt allowed to recieve help.

[@the_classy_crackhead]

Story 1:Those "friends" need to take several seats, OP's condition,or conditions, are none of their business.

[@gregjayonnaise8314]

Story 1: I wish people would realize that using resources provided to you for the sake of your health isn’t “being selfish”. It’s like if someone’s leg is broken but their friend tells them not to go to the hospital because someone could be bleeding out and needs the hospital bed more. NTA Story 4: At first it didn’t seem so bad, but as it went on it got worse. No comfort for his wife, no “fuck what others think about us”. All he did was validate her insecurities. “Boo hoo, my wife has a disease and is insecure, but what really matters is how other people see ME.”

[@LadyCheshire95]

Story 1 NTA I was made to feel like this in uni due to a physical illness. I had to get an extension on a piece of work one time and a girl in my class got pissy saying she was tired and didn't get "special treatment" I shouldn't take advantage. Thing is I had doctors notes and used the same channels as she could to get the extension. She got pissy again when I needed my own room on a residential trip due to my illness one of the teacher accidently let slip that a government program paid for the extra. She turned others against me. Thankful I had one friend left that understood. I would much rather be able to hand my work in on time and staying on your own in a hotel room is not as fun as it sounds.

[@ajwinberg]

In story one, NTA. I have Dyslexia and if I could have had something like this in college, maybe I would have stayed in college.

[@kimmmerkim5811]

Joining these programs is the only reason some people with issues even make it. And WHY do "friends" think they are qualified to make these judgements.

[@TheZombifiedFairy]

Story 1: NTA, it took a lot for me to come to terms with using my accommodations. I failed classes and was almost kicked out because I was so scared that it would be seen as abusing the system. I use them now and I made President's Honor Roll, got inducted into a honor society, and am on track to graduate with special honors. Please don't see that as a brag, but I use my own story to motivate those like me. Don't fail yourself to make others happy. You got those accommodation because they thought you'd need them. So use them and flourish

[@crisrodriguez5693]

Thanks! It will be easier to request them knowing there can be such a difference

[@z0mb1egutzz]

Story 1: NTA. I am severely ill with many invisible illnesses. I need a lot of accommodations. If the school didnt see you fit then they’d deny you flat out. I’ve been told the same thing or even that i am “too young to be sick” or “have too many illnesses”. I didnt choose to have the conditions i do, it’s just where life got me. Story 2: NTA. They’re basically strangers. Story 3: YTA. Your dog, your responsibility. It was his private room, he can leave whatever he wants out in his own room. Story 4: YTA. Hope your wife finds a better partner. If my xoyfriend said something like this to my insecurities id be in jail for murder.

[@ShamzDontCare]

Morning Markkkkk...looking forward to this xxx

[@bruh_68]

Have a great day everyone

[@itjustmemanning8441]

Story one NTA Story two NTA stories three and four YTA. I couldn't even get through story four! I got so passed off that I just had to end it. WTF !!!

[@Sbranch412]

I could understand him being upset for her because how bad she feels and support her of she didn't want to but if she did I would be glad your horrible everyone she put herself down yoy was suppose to pick her up

[@chickennuggets12345]

Reminding mark that he’s a wonderful person and is appreciated :D

[@DragonflyandTheWolf]

I had this co-worker who was very open to the fact that she sees a psychiatrist and takes a lot of meds for a mental condition. This co-worker was wonderful and always seemed down to earth. Her and I put together at work were the dream team. But like. . .she absolutely IS mentally ill. Just because she does well when on her meds and at work, does not mean she doesn't struggle, or that she has fully recovered from her condition. She mentioned once how a mix up with her insurance would only pay for one of her medications that month and she couldn't afford to get the other and she was a wreck. OP's friends are assholes. They aren't medical professionals, nor are they HER personal doctor. This program was created to help OP and her mental health, and it clearly is helping. They want her to cut herself off from the help she's getting because what. . .they're jealous?

[@lunabelle01]

To answer Mark's question. Charcoal is used to make animals and people throw up/ purge. If the dog was given charcoal it was to make the animal throw up the contents of their stomach.

[@theamazingimptini]

Activated charcoal binds to compounds so when given to the dog it binds to the toxins it has ingested and prevents it from being absorbed into the system.

[@isabellehonorato7442]

Story 1: NTA Those people are not good friends, op. Specially because OP is still on medication, while it's essential for recovery and definitely better then not treating the depression, that stuff still make your brain foggy and slow, bad anxiety makes you freeze and panic and freak out during the exams, that extra time is needed. I wish my university had this kind of accommodation, might have saved me a lot of stress and re-taken exams.

[@jemase7931]

The pot dog owner. You are a grown butt adult and your dog is 100% your responsibility.

[@jennstewart3003]

Story 3: WATCH YOUR OWN DAMN DOG. You knew they would follow you. Just like how my neighbors not controlling their dog that chases cars and as a result it getting hit in our shared driveway.

[@sadslug8394]

can i just say how much the outro fake outs crack me up? brought me from a bad mood right to laughing. thank you so much for these amazing videos

[@victoriatube159]

Lissoning while watering my orchids and looking them over found a flower spike starting up :)

[@daintylivinglarge968]

Story 1 As someone with special needs others who don't have them and jealous because they can't have the same benefits as you want to bring you to their level. You were investigated and approved they are the Ah here.

[@Nevertoleave]

I was in a special needs group in middle school. I got an extra class to help with my spelling and help during exams where someone would read the question out loud for me and explain what they were looking for in an answer because I wasn’t giving complete answers and didn’t understand what they wanted. My marks drastically improved. My friends and I started competing on the spelling sheets who could get them right and who could get them done first. We got so far ahead of the rest of the class that the teacher didn’t have those worksheets printed out yet. And with a teacher going, okay, now explain your answer I started getting full marks because I wasn’t understanding that the question was implying I needed to support my answer and not just list everything out. People shouldn’t be made to feel bad about needing extra help. First OP’s so called friends are just jerks. The kind of people that make everything worse for someone

[@annachronistic]

It’s effed up they are calling it special privileges when it’s an accommodation to level the playing field. It’s like when people bitch about handicapped parking spots being unfair. I volunteer to trade my spinal cord injury so they can have my “ privileges “.

[@angie3609]

Mark had no patience for BS in this round of stories, and I am HERE for it!

[@Sbranch412]

Stepmother and father be gone in 60 from that moment

[@Suilimani]

1st. Story that program would’ve helped so much when I was in college but didn’t have any diagnosis so wasn’t able to utilize my colleges help. Screw those friends tell them to mind their own business.

[@somedude685]

Story 2 is very in the middle for me, step mom and the dad are being entitled, but he is not just kicking out the step mom and dad, but also there son

[@blackroseinbloom]

Story three: how tf does someone forget they have weed?