My Boyfriend Lied To Me About My Dog But My Neighbor EXPOSED Him r/Relationships

[@phionella7]

Imagine blaming a child for the death of her mother because the mother died during childbirth. That kid did not conceive herself. Some people are completely fucking useless.

[@paden1865able]

He killed his wife by getting her pregnant...

[@iamalbertwesker2]

only on Update 2 but I got this sensation that he was trying to make OP look like their mother for.... THOSE kinds of reasons...

[@Indi_Waffle_Girl]

Literally!! Like dude, YOU helped make her, if anyone should be blamed for her death its not the child you made with her

[@develyntwocentshenderson5739]

kiddy brain. happy childfree here. I grab the popcorn and witness how garbage kids are.. because many of them grow up into garbage adults. and this is why relationships need to be longer than a few weeks or a couple of months. it takes this long for the masks to come off.. so you are now seeing them for what they are.

[@shebakoby]

it's narcissist/Cluster of Bees logic; which isn't logic at all.

[@toxicginger9936]

the scary part is, 100 years ago, those three men would have very successfully had OP involuntarily committed to a mental institution.

[@Passions5555]

Not even 100 years ago. This could have happened as recently as the 1960s and in some cases even beyond that.

[@walkz007]

50

[@yeoreumdaisy]

Yeah even now if she didn't have OVERWHELMING amounts of proof it could have happened.

[@RGisselle]

@@yeoreumdaisyyup. Here in Florida we have what we call the Marchman Act which family members can go to court and have you involuntarily committed. If the dad is friends with the cop and she had zero evidence, she would be committed here in Florida.

[@keijogirl]

The cops were trying to get her to come out. To be escorted back. Ick…

[@Flufferz626]

I am a pet groomer and these situations are unfortunately why we have a primary contact number for pickup, and when owner drops off we ask "are you going to be the one picking Poppy up, or someone else?" Makes us look paranoid but rightfully so.

[@lauragarza7585]

My groomer has three numbers and she tends to call me first even though the account is in my brother-in-law‘s name since he’s usually at work but she will usually ask if I am picking them up or he is. It’s sad that things like this happen.

[@pippo17173]

​@@lauragarza7585 sad yet I hope in every, all the partners took this as a sign and leave them.

[@SteviiLove]

I don't think it makes y'all look paranoid. If anything, it makes you seem more responsible and professional. Even without this story in mind.

[@anniel3305]

Good on you for doing this - shows you care about the pets in your control. If my groomer asked me? I would say THANK YOU, much appreciated! anyone who doesnt appreciate your asking? they are the idiots.

[@technicaldifficulties368]

I can never understand why someone would blame a literal infant for the death of the mother in childbirth

[@thekameru6058]

Story 1 - A literal pack of men freaking out because a woman dares to protect herself, her space and her pets. Miserable.

[@crowdemon_archives]

Beasts in skins of men.

[@twiggytofu]

Also that ass of a cop

[@kateemma22]

It's genuinely impressive how men will emerge from nowhere when a psychotic man shows his psychotic side and all want to let the woman know she's wrong. It's like a siren for them.

[@scarlthesnarl5581]

​@@kateemma22Real talk. All men are not the same but you have no way of knowing if one will do crap like this until the situation arises. Heaven forbid this man not be the center of OP's world. Nevermind the fact that OP has been abused by the men in her life for her entire life. A baby is not responsible for the death of its mother; I am willing to bet he abused OP's mom too given the other pieces of info we get on him.

[@marshawargo7238]

There was an original plan/plot, from before the beginning! OP's brother, who hates her, hooked her up with Mike For A Reason! I can't figure out what it could possibly be, but it's something nefarious😢!!!

[@RayvenLunaNite]

To blame your child for their moms death is one thing, but to basically force them to be their mom?? Ew... creepy

[@foureyedelf6151]

There was some sick shit going on in that father's head for sure.

[@phoof808]

It’s called Covert incest 🤢

[@Nico6th]

And then dad and brother decided that she has to be with the brother's friend because that was the only acceptable option - for them. Disgusting. So glad OP got out of there. I hope OP dyes her hair some crazy colors.

[@Sifya]

The fact op said she has ptst tells everything

[@lucariodx8344]

A very frick up life to live

[@PurpleRanger12]

Holy fluff that brother, dad, and ex are something else. Also that cop who’s friends with the dad should have some sort of consequence. Idk if it’s illegal but it just freaking feels illegal for an officer to give a civilian a heads up when charges/a report is made against them

[@madalice5134]

Never trust a cop or someone who's friends with a cop. Law enforcement and the military have some of the highest rates of DV.

[@twiggytofu]

I don't think it's legal, definitely morally wrong but he's a cop so he can do whatever he wants and will have absolutely 0 consequences.

[@foureyedelf6151]

That wasn't just heads up. My guess is her paperwork kept getting "lost" which is why two further rounds of officers were shocked and amazed by the proof.

[@NiMissNi]

Nothing is illegal when you are the law.

[@MrAbomb234]

Hey, remember those people talking about defund the police? This is why

[@michelledalenaa]

This is a terrifying story. It just goes to show that way too many men out there see women as possessions instead of people. That's the long and the end of it.

[@scarlthesnarl5581]

Absolutely.

[@shebakoby]

All these men who see women as possessions have one thing in common: severe lack of empathy. This can manifest as any of the Cluster B Personality disorders such as Narcissism or Antisocial ("psychopath").

[@onepieceisking5493]

Unfortunately I had the feeling that one of my middle sister's fiance was like that. He actually tried to tell my dad and brother in law to act as the dictator of the relationship because their men and that's how he believed it should be. My sister told us that's just how he talks and you don't know him like I do. Just found out a week ago they broke up and apparently he actually said "you're too emotional and I can't deal with that". I looked at my sister and said "that's a BOY *NOT* a man and if he's saying that he has no business being in a relationship." Our mom was there and she completely agreed with me. I can honestly say none of our family liked him and especially our youngest sister. And she has the same ability as our late grandma that can tell when a person is good or not therefore she really didn't like him.

[@valivali8104]

​@@onepieceisking5493 could your youngest sister be able to read people's faces and behavior which allows her to unconciously realize when emotion someone shows is fake? And horrible, manipulative people do that more often than showing their true emotions...

[@JeanyyBee]

@@valivali8104I have the same ability and it’s a mix of what you suggested and also a little bit deeper as well. It’s just a feeling the person will give off. Now it’s harder when I know the person. Cause then I gaslight myself into why I’m just making it up in my mind. I always grow to regret that 😅

[@miz6229]

Omg! All 3 men are psychotic and dangerous. What's their end game? Imprison her? Control her? Why do that? To punish her for her mom's death. I'm so sorry for OP. Her friend Aria is the MVP. That's the kind of friend you want in your corner. All the best to OP to leave this all behind her.

[@jamestomlin5525]

Right? I was honestly waiting to hear the other two siblings come into play >> whole family seems crazy

[@hellkitelord8319]

All of the above most likely.

[@kateemma22]

Four psychotic men - don't forget the pig.

[@scarlthesnarl5581]

Listen dudes like this believe in their heart of hearts that the women in their lives BELONG to them, even if they don't think they think that. Actions and behavior speak louder than words. They absolutely meant to get her queer self back under their thumbs.

[@captainfluffypaws7068]

I 100% believe it's all about control for all three of them.

[@gngrblls2thwall]

She needs to look into how Mike knew the dog was at the groomers

[@Doggiemix1]

I'm guessing that if he was allowed or asked to pick up the dog for her in the past, the groomer might have called him to pick the dog up once he's done being groomed. That's what my groomers goes. They call me or my husband to pick up the dogs once they're bathed. OP forgot to take the Ex's name off the contact list at the groomers.

[@eldeano9964]

If it's a regular time/date, then he could have just tried his luck.

[@jenniferhanses]

@@eldeano9964 Could also simply have been on the calendar for a while. I briefly worked at a groomers during COVID to fill in at the front desk. Calendar was filled out months in advance then. I was told it wasn't normally that bad, normally it was more like 2 months notice.

[@serpentmaster1323]

@@eldeano9964 yeah this. Op mentioned booger was due.

[@amelialoyselle2123]

It's fucking horrifying that these three men had the police in their pocket. Like there were some on OP's side but there was a police officer LITERALLY WARNING THE DAD and trying to make sure OP wouldn't press charges against him! And they had the whole "oh she's actually just crazy, poor thing, she's heavily medicated" bullshit...! This is why women choose the bear.

[@vanillablossom]

I read recently a book about women who were put in mental hospital purely based on fact that they weren't submissive, didn't want to obey their fathers, brothers, husbands and for (ofc male) doctors it was enough to keep them there and to treat them as if they were crazy. They didn't even need to be queer (some were, but there were also these who just wanted to be more than a wife, didn't want a relationship / kids etc.). Even female nurses believed the women are there, because they are mentally unstable. This story reminds me a lot of that book. Just... it was describing the past, not the presence!!! How anywhere in the world thing like this can be possible nowadays???

[@funkijote]

Family members of police officers are at least 4x more likely to be the victim of domestic violence (at their hands) than the general population, and as much as 10x by some expert accounts. Police are so notorious for abuse, inaction, non-reporting, mishandling and leaks, that battered women shelters and domestic violence non-profits can't depend on them for security as they are likely to protect their own and minimize the behavior of abusers. If you abuser is a cop or a friend of a cop, nobody will help you. Do not date cops.

[@slytherinlibrarian3501]

While I know that it's unlikely because they planned on turning Booger over to a shelter, OP needs to check Booger's lead, collar, and anything else she came back from the brother's home with for anything with GPS capability. I'm just reminded of the OP whose crazy, estranged sister tracked her family and their father to a hotel by stucking an air tag in her dog's jacket and appeared while dad was walking the dog.

[@captainfluffypaws7068]

Good idea. I didn't even think of that

[@brookeneeley396]

Oh yeah the story with the crazy sister who projected her fantasy of her and her sister marrying brothers

[@winterkind1772]

Yeah I thought about that too. Didn't OP even say there was a chip in the leash or something? In the beginning before all the updates. I would 100% get rid of that one and get a new one.

[@kamicokrolock]

@@winterkind1772 Op mentioned the dog was micro chipped and that the BF tried tracking it but that's not how those micro chips work. It's literally a chip with a serial number that a vet has to scan for and then the serial number can be used to retrieve your info. So Op doesn't have to worry about that plus it would need to be surgically removed.

[@itsjonna5070]

”Blair came out as a homofobe” Made me laugh out loud!!! 😂😂😂

[@zerobolt9506]

Wait so OP said they came out as queer, but she's in a straight relationship or was, but how is that possible?

[@despinasgarden.4100]

​@@zerobolt9506 "Queer" does not mean just homosexual, is an umbrella term for people who are not straight but don't want to level themselves with an specific etiquete. Queer can mean Bisexual, Pansexual, lesbian, asexual, etc. Queer people can be in straight relationships.

[@TheBlueDsc]

I always love when abusers pull the "You'll never find someone like me" as if that's some kind of threat. Like "Yeah, that's the point. I DON'T want someone like you"

[@nathansheldahl]

Like duh who wants to date a psychotic narcissist like you anyways. Maybe another narcissist or macosic but that’s it.

[@alexnightray3204]

I'm filing this away for future use.

[@anonymouslee2083]

“You’ll never find someone like me again.” “I pray every night that you’re right about that.”

[@alexnightray3204]

@@anonymouslee2083 "Put it out in the Universe for me!" "Thank you for manifesting that!"

[@slick8086]

You'll never find someone like me again!!! OMFG I hope that's true, you're fucking terrible!!!

[@kimberlyterasaki4843]

Freaking creepy; it almost seems like brother set up OP with his friend as a means of controlling her and bringing her back under his and his dad’s control. Thank goodness that OP had a strong spine and a good friend.

[@AnnMegFair]

story 1 OP surrounded by men who are not over their mommy issues. "Should I go to therapy? No, no I will project all my issues onto this woman, that will fix me!"

[@marisaJ1]

It seems like each of the men were awful individually but together they're just feeding each other's delusions & they've just completely lost the plot. All OP wants to do is live her life safely with her dog & they can't handle it. I hope these people leave her alone.

[@foureyedelf6151]

They won't. All three of them are obsessed with her. They'll all end up in jail in the end.

[@AutumnFire1414]

@@foureyedelf6151 I agree. They all sound dangerously psychotic. If OP stays away it'll be some other poor woman who will likely end up dead at their hands.

[@lalalachris]

That bf intentionally turned the dog out with no tag to get rid of her. Wtf is next? He burns some important things of Op’s and gets away with it because “you love your [insert important thing] more than me” He doesn’t love dogs. He’s a lying liar He does sound like a personality disorder on feet. The kind that would intentionally kill a dog (in a way that doesn’t incriminate him of course) for control and attention

[@carlrood4457]

My only question is did the brother and dad gaslight him into being crazy or did the crazies just find each other? TBH, the fact that the brother approved of the relationship should have been a red flag for OP from the beginning.

[@kai7526]

Or what if they had kids together is he just going to abandon them in the middle of nowhere and hope “they find their way back” / our neighbors know our kids they’ll bring the kids back”

[@captainfluffypaws7068]

​@@carlrood4457I think it's both

[@ChrisA100]

I would have answered the father: “I’m sorry, Dad, but you’ll never be reunited with Mom. Angels like her don’t live in the bad place, and that’s where you’re guaranteed to end up.”

[@whitemoonwolf13]

also. does he think his wife REALLY wouldn't kill him again in the next life for abusing her daughter? like... my guy. this was never going to end well for you.

[@jenniferhanses]

What I think is going on: 1) OP identifies as queer, but she's a woman and her partner is a man. So either she's a trans woman (which is possible, but I don't think is correct), or she's bi (this is my best guess for her queerness). I'm reviewing this fact because I think it's the pivot point of the whole story from the villains' side of things. 2) OP's father and brother do not accept her queerness. Until one day, brother introduces her to his friend and they hit it off. OP may claim to be queer, but in their mind, she's not really if she's dating a man. And so her relationships with her family start to improve. They've "corrected" her. 3) Because Mike (the BF) being with OP is not about being mutually in love, but is about him correcting a bi woman, he's lied about a few things here and there that he was coached to say by the brother to get into her good graces. One of them is that he does not like dogs. 4) Dog ran away/ran out in the past, if I understand OP's post. And whether or not Mike kicked her out or just let her out and didn't pay attention to her, the dog got away, and Mike saw an opportunity to get rid of the dog he didn't like. 5) Mike lied to the neighbor when she came to the door. But the neighbor was very responsible and took the dog to the vet, where the microchip was discovered. Neighbor returns the dog, and neighbor is a good person, or maybe she has experience with abusers, and she knows something is not right because Mike didn't claim the dog when she came by. So she warns OP that something's up. 6) The whole story ensues because Mike F-ed up and let his mask drop too soon, before they were married and he had more control of OP. And ultimately, this is a story of "corrective r-pe" done in a less direct way. And just to be clear, even if it was enthusiastic consent at the time, it is still the R-Word if you're lying about who you are, and Mike has been lying this whole time. ETA: Oh, yes. And the dog wasn't with Mike for the proposed dinner at the end because it was a hostage to OP's good (straight, submissive woman) behavior. Possibly he only wanted his fantasy fulfilled. Possibly he was going to force her to marry him. Precise intention unknown, but it wasn't good.

[@bessieburnet9816]

Bisexual, definitely. She was clearly female from birth, her father making her look like the mum who died giving birth to her.

[@jenniferhanses]

@@bessieburnet9816 You're right. I blanked on the beginning of the story when I came to writing it out. Got distracted over worrying about the dog. Based on that, certainly bi.

[@anyjen]

I wouldn't be surprised if this was right on the money, especially because of all the claims of OP being mentally unstable. There are waaaay too many people who think any queer person has issues simply because they're queer. I'm glad OP had her friend and her lawyer to help her.

[@sternenblumen]

@@jenniferhanses She could also be pansexual or asexual (the latter does not preclude relationships) or simply identify as queer, that's also possible. Not that the brother and presumably also the father would be able to grasp any of that beyond "she's one of those gays now", I guess.

[@sovereigncrux]

I was really confused by the queerness and pride involvement when she identified herself as cis female and was involved with a man (from point of birth she was groomed to be a clone of her mother). If her father and brother are homophobes, they never would have raised another son as a replacement for their mother, and there is zero reference of being trans. Like you, bisexuality was the only conclusion I could draw where 'queerness' is part of the equation, but OP never alludes to this, either. It's not my business ultimately, but as a reader it really confuses when someone puts so much emphasis on a fact about themselves and then abandons it for the rest of the story, and also has a partner they are possibly considering marriage to who is not queer like them... I am hoping this is AI due to the inconsistency, and not actuality because that is such a devastating trauma to live through, and it sounds like OP is trying to survive a lifetime of trauma from her brother and father already.

[@c.mrammul9991]

Jesus, when in the update Mike said to come to his place for dinner and doggo and when police came there and Mike said that doggo wasnt with him at the moment... I genuinely thought that he had cooked the dog for dinner

[@charityquill4965]

I was afraid he dumped the dog at a kill shelter 😭

[@gmun2248]

I thought maybe he'd poisoned the dog... and thought that was a paranoid thought. 🤔

[@charityquill4965]

@@gmun2248 i wouldn't say it was paranoid, given how batshit crazy he and the dad and brother were acting. who knows what lengths they would have gone to get what they want. the ex sent OP a text like "come see me at dinner, love you :)))" like he wasn't just recently being absolutely insane and hostile

[@FlamesofJagger]

Why do they always say that the person who ended the relationship will never find someone better? That's usually a low bar in these stories and finding someone better is a good thing

[@AdmiralBlackstar]

It's a scare tactic they use on someone in the hopes that their low-self esteem will trigger a fear response to drive them back into the relationship. Unfortunately, it does work on a lot of people. In fact some partners will systematically tear down their partner's self-esteem specifically for that reason.

[@Indi_Waffle_Girl]

​@@AdmiralBlackstarwell said!

[@catandrobbyflores]

The bar is in hell, it won't exactly be hard to find anything better

[@holographicwing]

Same reason why washed up older men tell women when they hit 30 their life is over. Women settling for terrible men keeps the world turning and keeps terrible men out of the headlines/their mom's basement.

[@paulman34340]

Their like the Fox from the story of the sour grapes! Once they KNOW their not getting what they want, they just assume it was sour grapes and would be bad anyway instead of just accepting they can't have them! It's a show of maturity. That and they're losers who know it's the EXACT OPPOSITE and it will be THEM who can't find anyone better! At best the only one they'll find that will STAY are themselves "toxic" to others and "the best THEY will ever get" because others are FINISHED with their bad behavior, so "Off to the Losers table with ya!"

[@harleyreddragon2394]

8 is old for a dog? My old man is 13! Keep the pup and ditch the child your dating!!

[@carlrood4457]

Depends on the breed. Typically, smaller dogs live longer than older ones. Also, many purebreeds have congenital medical issues that affect lifespan.

[@harleyreddragon2394]

@@carlrood4457 true. But my old man is a 110 lb black lab. Even the breeder (our neighbor) we got him from was surprised he's still with us.

[@TH-hy9kr]

One of mine is 9 and he is a wild and playful fellow. He has no concept of age.

[@Pepperjack1986]

My bossy Chihuahua is 16 and as full of vinegar as ever, lol

[@terramarini6880]

The only dog I've had that didn't make it to 16yrs + was a purebred Irish Wolfhound and she maxed out her life expectancy at 11 years. 8 is not old.

[@BraveryWing26]

"My brother says IATAH" "My brother doesnt like me anyway" I am with OP.

[@Shirl_E]

To be safe, I'd have both hers and Aria's car checked for a tracker and when she moves she should put up several cameras again and make sure her neighbors, employer, etc. knows the situation so they can report anything suspicious. Who knows what else those 3 will pull. Their behavior is scary and if they are given a chance their behavior will probably get even scarier.

[@RichTgg]

Anyone who could treat a dog badly is just the worst kind of person.

[@ComaLies225]

I’m not much of a pet person but I do like animals and yea, totally agree

[@mayfields5092]

idk man the way he treated her was worse

[@madambutterfly1997]

His mother walking out on him is neither an explanation nor an excuse.

[@gabriellemeche992]

I know. What does the dog have to do with that?

[@ayemad]

It was simply a manipulation tactic.

[@madambutterfly1997]

@@gabriellemeche992 especially when the dog facilitated them being in a relationship to begin with the relationship is the effect the dog is the cause why get rid of the cause to the effect.

[@abelink9229]

@@madambutterfly1997 He just used the dog as a prop to "meet-cute" OP, because her brother gave him all the info to charm her.

[@monteverdi1567]

The correct response to “you’ll never find someone like me!” Is ALWAYS “that’s rather the idea.”

[@Cherrycherrylady1479]

That final cop, thank God. The first cop friend to the dad was the reason this person went through so much he'll without help... So, so happy Booger is safe and happy...

[@MizMorgue1]

Geez! It must have been terrifying for OP to realize that the 3 closest males in her life were THIS dangerous and untrustworthy! What an awful, horrible trio they make! I wish OP all the best, I'm glad she is safe, and that she has her bestie looking out 4 her.

[@foureyedelf6151]

It was only a realization for one of them. She knew the others were abusive her whole life.

[@MizMorgue1]

@@foureyedelf6151 sigh. Semantics. 🙄 My comment stands.

[@pippo17173]

Well her brother ain't really close to begin with and brought that red flag into her life. No way boyfriend didn't knew about the dynamics and abuse before. He had to know and the dog was probably not like well before this.

[@vrsalcedo7245]

I really hope none of those men get involved with another woman. The three of them are psychopaths.

[@veezopolis]

​@MizMorgue1 your comment doesn't stand because it's based on two abusers being the closest people in her life. It's almost like the entire thing you said was wrong

[@jojocandy2025]

This poor poor girl. I thought the bf was bad, but that family!! The dad and brother! Disgusting

[@KuroAlis]

Story 1: Aria is a real one. OP is strong and I hope she gets a fresh start away from these three crazies. Edit: don't know my numbers

[@Louves192]

That story is terrifying. If any of those men ever get her in a vulnerable state, they will 100% hurt her, maybe worse. Hope she will get away from them forever, they are dangerous.

[@Raggmopp-xl7yf]

I actually think her collapsing into a puddle of goo at the groomers helped her out immensely. It connected so many dots for the police I think it moved her case along into a positive direction. I wish her the best in her new location & new life. And God Bless Aria! What a rockstar!

[@gmun2248]

It's a full on flight-fight-freeze type response which is something we cannot control. Police should be able to recognise that and respond appropriately to someone in severe shock, fear, & having a panic attack as a result. She also clearly had messages that counted as evidence on her phone, but I think you are right. As long as her response was identified correctly (& it sounds like it was), the incident should be handled appropriately.

[@carlrood4457]

Dog owner here who doesn't put dogs over people generally. No way OP is an AH. If one of our dogs got out, the family would be scouring the neighborhood no matter what.

[@BrennanCh06]

Yeah I can't stand my wife's dog but I'm always out there immediately when the goofy bugger gets out

[@TH-hy9kr]

My spouse doesn't like our dogs, but he still helps care for them because he knows that they are important to me and kiddo.

[@Suguri]

Yup, a pet trusts you with their safety and it's paramount to honor that trust to the best of your ability.

[@mikef2811]

Not going to lie, after my wife...My dog is the most important thing to me. I have cried more for my dog when she passed than all my relatives combine.

[@Frostfern94]

I always put my cats first. Sorry, my love, but they’re like my children. They need me, she doesn’t.

[@jeanninelockridge5235]

My sister and her husband came and took my dogs when I was at the hospital for chemo treatments. I hadn't asked them to do that. Th❤ey were my everything. I get back feeling like crap and needing to cuddle with them and they're gone. Sister called and told me she had taken them to the shelter because they were too much for me anymore. I flipped and didn't even hang up and went straight to the shelter. Fortunately they were chipped and it took some doing but I got my boys back. That happened 10 years ago and I still won't have anything to do with her. Her husband has since passed. I can understand OPs fear. So sorry she went through that.

[@tomatosoup4618]

The audacity of your sister and her husband. I'm glad you got your doggos back

[@jeanninelockridge5235]

@@tomatosoup4618 Thank you

[@ComaLies225]

Your sis would have gotten these hands ngl

[@Indi_Waffle_Girl]

Goodness, I'm so sorry. That's terrifying!!!!!! I would freak out so bad if my pets were kidnapped like that. I'm so glad you got them back❤

[@SteviiLove]

I'm so sorry you and your boys had to endure that but so happy you were able to be reunited.

[@paulclay4229]

Story 1: it will die soon anyway? Nope, dropped the minute that stupidity left thier lips. Im not even a dog person and that would be an instant goodbye

[@whitneybennett4857]

My little shih tzu passed away a couple of months ago. She was FIFTEEN, so yeah, that was total bs.

[@daisymay6505]

​i used to have a pug that passed at 15

[@paulastiles5507]

"I won't wait for you forever, you know." "Is that a promise? Can I get that in writing?"

[@RJ-sb5qr]

This is beyond insane. How are those 3 idiots still walking the streets? They've harassed, destroyed property, threatened OP, stole her dog, defamed her character, and who knows what else? OP has a God send in Aria. Run OP Run far and fast.

[@veezopolis]

Because the dad is friends with the police lol

[@janedoe885]

The ex, brother, and father are all completely unhinged ofc. But also the stuff the ex said in his plea to get OP back disqualifies him from being anyone's partner at this point. 'I felt so threatened by you loving your dog as someone who is not me because of my childhood trauma, I had to get rid of your dog so you would only have space for me in your heart and you would never think of leaving me' like ????? Absolutely not. That does not generate sympathy. The dude needs to be committed.

[@TsukiKageTora]

Update 2: the dad saying how he missed his passed away wife and how it’s time to go reunite with her. A couple things 1) how dare you use that as manipulation 2) and she will not want you. After the way you treated her child and how you’ve allowed her child’s brother to treat her, you’d be lucky if she ever even looks in your general direction

[@marshawargo7238]

@@TsukiKageTora For a hot second there, I thought that he was suggesting that OP cancel herself or warning her that she would be going to be with her mom as his next course of action! Anyways... OP should have told him, that would benefit everyone who knew him!!!

[@kaykay8855]

There’s a special place in Hell for men like OP’s dad, brother and ex

[@Eirilyn]

An in person conversation is not required for a break up.

[@AvyFerg]

Omg that last chunk of the story 😢. This poor woman and her dog. This is the kind of thing that traumatizes someone for life. The amount of work it'll take for her to trust anyone again. Insanity

[@TopazFire15]

There’s a very scary thought that the father was grooming OP to not just to stand in for the mother, but to become his new wife. I’m so glad OP got out before anything like that could have happened.

[@PassiveSmoking]

OP's entire family is beyond awful, as is the ex. Get a restraining order. As for the cop who's OP's father's friend, if that wasn't gross misconduct that endangered OP, it's skirting dangerously close to it. Report the cop.

[@carlrood4457]

The title was, "Am I the AH for not trusting my boyfriend after he lied to me?" No. Next question. Admittedly there are levels (e.g. lying in response to "Do I look fat in this" vs. trusting someone to take you to the hospital when ill/injured) but by definition you can't 100% trust someone you know will lie to you.

[@owl7072]

Op's brother siding with bf and going "Why couldn't you just shut up and celebrate his birthday" really seems to be failing at grasping the fact that Op could've done so _had boyfriend not deliberately prevented Op from getting her dog back._ He knew she was upset about the dog being missing, knew she couldn't focus as a result, had the opportunity to fix it, and _actively refused._

[@sarahstardust]

I get the feeling that the ex deliberately set the dog loose without the collar on his birthday as a test to see if she'd choose him (by celebrating his birthday) or her dog (by looking for Booger).

[@rayneookami4355]

You just knew the cop was dirty when he claimed to be following up on a missing persons report. They wait 48 before giving a rat's ass, but surprise surprise! They reacted in record time. What a joke...

[@cherrytree91]

Pretty sure he said it was a welfare check.

[@JuniperJadePR]

I kept expecting an update where OP did something to change her hair & got attacked by her dad for it. But wow, OP's family & her ex are a special level of awful people. It's as bad as the "We're having an intervention for you due to not marrying my husband's brother" story. The "I made you dinner" text...made my blood run cold. Cannot imagine the fear that OP felt at that moment.

[@salomerodriguez5145]

Imagine having three adult men plotting against you just because you dare to be alive. How pathetic. I wish OP nothing but healing and joy.

[@eddieque]

Honestly, Aria is such a MVP in this! So glad OP has a amazing friend like her

[@shebakoby]

"YOu will never find anyone like me" - Parting Shot of the (covert) Narcissist "Promise?" - OP

[@kateajurors8640]

When you microchip a dog, it doesn't allow you to track the dog.That's literally a number that just pops up.When you scan them it's like a under their skin social security number if you will

[@Boundwithflame23]

I think the way they work is when you scan it you can search the number on a database or something and it helps you find the owner My cat is microchipped and it’s linked to a website that has me as the registered owner and his microchip is also registered with the city with me as the owner I also have a card with the chip number on it

[@stephjovi]

I thought I heads they do tracking chips for dogs now? Ah damn googled it it's only for putting it on not in the dog. I wish I could get tracking chips for cats, without having to wear collars

[@laurag502]

yep, someone has to capture them and bring them to a shelter or vet to be scanned- i used to work in a vet clinic and it wasn’t abnormal for people to lie about how they came across the dog and then magically we find a microchip that they have noooOoo idea how they got

[@thebosshouse]

I thought OP said there's a tracking tag on the collar and they couldn't track the dog because ex didn't put the collar on the pup.

[@Boundwithflame23]

@@thebosshouse I think it was microchip and tracking chip on the collar

[@Argendriel]

Looking at the history with the father, I'm just glad it didn't get to the point where she was forced to replace her mom in other ways as well because that sounds like something the father would have been unhinged enough to force as well... yikes.

[@foureyedelf6151]

My thoughts exactly. Probably the only reason he didn't go that far was because he hated her so much.

[@pippo17173]

​@@foureyedelf6151 ya that is honestly a blessing there.

[@AJDRAGON01]

OP should have contacted 911 after her father sent the message about offing himself along with the messages from her brother, that alone would have been enough to get a 72 hour psych evaluation done on her father.

[@wildfyah]

He's been trying to get rid of her dog. Say that and clear up his lies.

[@LilAngelPrincess95]

I think OP in story 1 is in legitimize danger for her safety. Her father, brother, and ex need to be kept far away from her. This one actually made me scared for OP!

[@juliearmfield2634]

The real MVP of this story is Aria.

[@BrianD.Steger-zf7tx]

The notion of a flawless marriage or relationship is a myth. There's no set formula for success; what works for one couple may not work for another. Yet, I've discovered that there's always a way forward, even in the most challenging times. Five years ago, my wife and I encountered significant hurdles in our marriage that nearly led to divorce. Despite the adversity, we managed to weather the storm and emerge from it with our bond renewed and revitalised

[@beverlystephens6]

There is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I can't live without him, I love him so much. wish I can get him back I can do anything to have him back, we have tried therapy amongst other things

[@BrianD.Steger-zf7tx]

It's always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is shelly renee white

[@beverlystephens6]

This is helpful, I will look her up online right now...Thanks.

[@BrianD.Steger-zf7tx]

You won't regret it

[@christopherjones8448]

That whole stealing the dog thing is a pretty common tactic from abusers. Just take something your victim can't live with out (Usually some sort of heirloom, but pets work just as well) and force them to be around you so you can work your "magic" Bet he didn't expect it to be the cops that knocked on his door first

[@Dragonemperess]

Aria is an absolutely awesome friend!

[@Philsh12]

Nope. Nope. Nope. Dog is more important than bf.

[@fred_derf]

"and he just snapped and told them to f*** off and left". And right there you have your answer on whether you should dump this guy or not. And just to be clear, you should dump this guy. This is a clear sign of anger management issues and a solid indicator that he will be abusive (to you and your dog) in the future.

[@benbraden9133]

Broooo his last Hail Mary to get the whole family in on her being an ‘alcoholic’ that needs a full time carer, mixed in with the fact that her dad is friends with members of the police force in the area… that’s fucking terrifying. He was straight up setting her up to be legally enslaved to him on the grounds that she wasn’t competent on her own. If she was even slightly less independent or have that friend that convinced her that her brother was lying… she could be in HUGE danger

[@sea_dog172]

God, these people are absolutely monsters. The amount of mental conditioning you have to go through to believe treating someone so horribly is justified is crazy

[@SteviiLove]

OP is not at fault for her mom's passing and she sure as heck isn't a failure because she "couldn't get things done and cried like a child". Freezing, panicking, and crying while being abused so excessively is a perfectly normal reaction. I feel so sorry that she has such awful people for the only blood family she has left but relieved she has such amazing support in Aria. I hope she is able to find more people like Aria to make her chosen family.

[@yasminaraks]

As my mom would say “Good Lord and Bacon!” What a messed up family! Poor OP having to deal with so many awful people. Thankfully she has great friends and her awesome little booger. That’s really an impressive amount of fucked up assholes to deal with at the same time. I know OP blamed herself for not “keeping it together” but I can’t imagine anyone growing up in that kind of dysfunction and being manipulated by her SO that much would be able to maintain a clear head in those circumstances. Sending the OP love and healing.

[@NopeScope14]

It's just a morbid pattern on partners seeing a red flag circus in front of them, and then asking what they themselves did wrong. No honey, just dump him and find somebody who'll respect you. Gray-rock the other AHs while you're at it

[@kaykay8855]

Op grew up in an abusive household, of course she didn’t immediately see the red flags.

[@jbgra2566]

Aria is a total champ! I would love to have a friend like her. Also, anyone else wanted to know why the other sister was disowned?

[@LightSage89]

Story 1: Person: I have abandonment issues, so I am going to pull cruel tests on the people I know to see if they abandon me. Person: (Gets abandoned) Person: Why does everyone keep leaving me?

[@destmichael]

❤ It's got a name, borderline personality disorder (BPD). There are books on the subject: "I Hate You, Don't Leave Me" and "Walking on Eggshells".

[@emcustard]

This poor woman! I can’t wait for her to move out. I hope she's able to avoid those controlling creeps for the rest of her life.

[@Globbronglobgr0d]

Mans insecure about a dog, treating it like its a ex partner or something.

[@Frazzled_Chameleon]

Omg, I just about had a sympathy panic attack along with OP when the part about Booger getting picked up from the groomer's by her Ex came up. The utter despair she must have felt. Ex is lucky to be alive. NO ONE messes with my furbabies.

[@TwozySauce27]

Same and it went level 2 when the cops got to his house and the dog wasn't their either. I was so scared for that pup and OP.

[@carlrood4457]

First thing in the morning and I've seen videos about the terrible treatment of two dogs. There's no way Mike didn't let the dog out on purpose. Never take the dog's collar and id off except for a bath and put it back on as soon as they're dry. This would have put the lie to one excuse

[@kerribottriell-baxter7345]

I will NEVER, EVER, understand why people ever want to place blame on a literal baby for the mother passing away during birth. It's been that way since the dawn of time, and still is one of the most dangerous times a woman can ever go through. Babies are innocent, and any who want to do what OP's father and brothers have done are complete sick freaks who shouldn't have families, if that is how they are going to view things that way.

[@AvyFerg]

After looking at the doorbell cam to confirm what Josie said, I wouldn't have even asked him. He would've been kicked out instantly. When you have a pet, that pet is your child. No it's not a human baby but it is completely dependent on you. Lets be honest, he suggested the dog be killed by suggesting an elderly dog be turned over to animal control.

[@Clyde-S-Wilcox]

Story 1: That wasn't a "mistake." It was a deliberate act of cruelty.

[@caseyp3447]

Her dad made a vieled death threat and the cops did nothing. A text saying she should meet up with her mum. Her mum is dead! He threatened to end her and they did nothing!?

[@Feynix4]

It’s cause that one cop is besties with dear old dad. Probably dripped poison into the ears of everyone else

[@sternenblumen]

No, he said it was time for him to be with her mum again. Heavy guilt-tripping and still abuse but not a threat (to her physically).

[@caseyp3447]

Ok, you're right. I went back through the story, and he said he should be reunited with their mother. Thank you ​@sternenblumen

[@TheRoseAlchemist]

The only reason he's "crying" is BF knows he's about to lose a cushy meal ticket. I'm glad she didn't fall for his theatrics, but I would definitely suggest she up her security.

[@lillithherondale1972]

The fuck? Im only about 4 and a half minutes in. My cat is almost 15 and one of my dogs is nearly 9. Having the pet go missing isn't "easier" than having them pass on with you beside them. I was there for my old girl in her final moments. I held her in my arms and she was purring as she went to sleep. I was so grateful to be there with her and hold her as she passed on. That bf is psycho. I hope she leaves him.

[@SaturnSenshi3105]

1:15 if my dog was missing that long I’d be in the hospital from stress

[@badkitty4922]

YES!! And I would be needing bail money! ETA, I just noticed that we stopped at the same time to comment. 1:15! 😂😂😂😉👍😘💖🫂🫂🐾🩵

[@lauragarza7585]

This story is just horrifying, and literally the fact that the dad is friends with a cop and the fact that two of them are related to her is why they won’t take this seriously. Most victims have to fight so hard to be believed and I hope she put in a report against that specific officer as well.

[@bluecarnallove7851]

I'm so glad OP mentioned she was leaving for the safety of her AND her dog at the start of the last update because my first thought when Mike showed the police the meal he made and later said he didn't have Booger anymore was that he literally cooked her dog and planned on serving Booger to her. Which is a really messed up thing to do, but it's happened before and I was horrified for a moment.

[@booklover5238]

The f you mean it's happened before?!? That's horrifying! I thought he was going to pressure her to get back together and sleep with him to get the dog back (and probably still wouldn't have gotten her back).

[@bluecarnallove7851]

@@booklover5238 I'm genuinely so sorry I just ruined your life with this information, but yes; there are actual documented cases that involve this situation, and it's not always an animal.

[@booklover5238]

@@bluecarnallove7851 It's okay. I'm going to go hug my fur babies and block that info out of my mind.

[@itsjustmaddisen]

In my country there was a woman that klled her ex, skinned and cooked part of him and wanted to feed him to his children but they weren't home at the time thank God but there were meals waiting for them in the kitchen/dining area.

[@DDs878]

F*cking 8? that's grown not old. Mine is 11. And id lose my crap if she was taken. That guys a psycho.

[@minaqzs]

This is terrifying. I'm so scared for OP. She needs to move states

[@Senko_The_Fox]

3:15 8 years old for a dog is not that old. I just recently had one that lived to 20 years old.

[@HoneyBakedHamlet]

My baby lived until she was 20 as well!

[@wolfinadogsuit]

One of mine just turned 10 the other is 18, and they're both happy, loving, and loved❤

[@MorganVsTheInternet]

1- HE’S NOT A LOVING DAD HE’S A MONSTER who was willing to strong-arm HIS DAUGHTER into staying in a shty relationship! Go NC!

[@callalily5404]

This had me seething. 😡 like my husband and I both have agreed our dog’s lives are more valuable than most humans in our opinion. Like touch my dogs and see what happens. Call it “mental illness l” okay whatever. Those dogs have more innocence and love and devotion and any human I’ve ever met. Watch what happens bro. Like insane.

[@kaykay8855]

Story 1: Why do people get jealous over their partner’s pets?

[@foureyedelf6151]

Narcissists believe that the world is made for them and only them. They do not have the mental capacity to feel empathy, only to fake emotions and mirror and manipulate their targets to get what they want. So if course anyone or anything getting more attention than them is the enemy.

[@mztweety1374]

Tell him to direct his issues at his mother where they belong. Because if he can’t get a hold of himself at that big age, he never will.

[@CristinaFrank]

OP of story 1: "She's my best friend, she's my pal. She's my homegirl, my rotten soldier. She's my sweet cheese. My good-time girl."

[@StephBer1]

Where was Mike's brother, the Vet, in all this? Where was his family? I would have rung his brother and told him how cruel Mike was to Booger and to get his psycho brother off her back. He, of all people, should understand her feelings and that Mike is unhinged.

[@onepieceisking5493]

Gotta love psychopaths, bigotry and narcissists. Poor op just had rotten luck in dealing with all three. If anyone tried to treat my cats like that they would be finding out the hard way what my dad means when he says, " you can't prove murder without the body". Honestly, he took the ring cam as an attempt to intimidate op and an attempt to remove any evidence of his actions and threats. I also feel like he's trying to take op's dog to punish op for not going along with their psycho intervention and kicking him out. Why am I not surprised that her psycho family is desperate to keep their narrative/delusions that op is mentally unstable. Plus trying so hard to punish op for refusing their psycho intervention and so on. Yeah if it was bad enough to get an immediate restraining order then psycho brother apparently made a BUNCH of insane threats to op and her dog and showed how insane he is. Typical that sperm donor lost his mind over the restraining order because now he can't abuse the kid he blames for his wife's death. Of course the abusive ex is trying to lie and manipulate the cops about what actually happened. Watch him get upset that it won't work because of all the evidence. So glad op has amazing friend as Aria. She's truly an MVP for taking care of op like ahe has and going so far to protect her friend. Watch those bastards tear the town up looking for op because abusers can't stand not having their punching bag.

[@janglesthearsonist5265]

OP is like a citizen grade version of John Wick, except the dog gets a happier ending. When OP said "Booger is a road dog" I lost my mind laughing!

[@joeschmo622]

_"yOu'LL nEvER fINd aNYoNe eLsE LiKe mE!!!"_ Uhh, yeah, that's kinda the point.

[@nekorei2023]

Story 1: wow, the username is 🤣 Op's bf is a selfish person, it could have ended badly with somrthing happening to the poor dog. And i wouldn't trust my bf too if he did that.

[@moonlightwolf]

Op needs to get her car thoroughly checked for a tracker

[@TsukiKageTora]

There should be repercussions for people lying about someone being in the hospital to manipulate someone to get someone there… like 4 weeks in jail? When are we going to hold those who use medical services/police services to manipulate/lie to someone accountable for those actions?

[@captainfluffypaws7068]

Story 1: Hell NAH you're not the asshole. Leave all the of them behind. Go no contact with all of them, and slap a restraining order if you can. They ALL want to control you, and the fact all the showed up together to your house proves that. Stay with your friend and move out if you can.

[@JSainte17]

He didn’t put the tracking collar on her because she’s “just going outside”. I mean that’s the most important time for you to put it on! Especially if she digs and you’re not watching!

[@veezopolis]

"The officer told me that if anything else happens to call them" Why? So that the OP can yo over the same information that shes provided several times over again? So they can give more informstion to her dad? So they can do nothing again?