Sister Wants To Pay For Our Gender Reveal But It Comes With Conditions r/Relationships

[@taylorslade961]

I find it super concerning that the sister is "desperate" for another child and expects to have OPs child every single weekend. That could go to a really really scary place.

[@Davtwan]

After all this, I might start having CPS on speed-dial just for sister. Those poor three kids...

[@paulinadeboer3604]

the moment het said she had a stilbirth i though ahhhh there you have it. Would not surprice me if she calls cps to steal the baby

[@MaryTheresa1986]

​@@paulinadeboer3604OP would be wise to cut sis and mom out of their lives all together. I hope they move and don't share the address.

[@KittenUndercover]

I was thinking the same

[@nataliereeves3594]

I wouldn't be surprised if the sister tries to get op to give her the baby further down the line with the moms backing. The fact that she dosent want girlfriends family involved in any way is concerning. She wants to isolate op and girlfriend and then try to get the baby.

[@AndyyWithAY]

The sister has had an affair, drug issues, and kleptomania?!? She's needs an intervention, not a 4th child. I think mom is a narcissist too. There was so so much DARVO in this story.

[@sonialinsey8083]

Not to mention two of them have “autism” and one has adhd. That’s not an easy situation. Guarantee those kids aren’t getting the support they need.

[@stirrednotshaken4823]

Wonder if the husband even knows she had an affair or if it’s a buried family secret.🤔😡

[@helixxia9320]

100%

[@evavocative6975]

That sister's text from the screenshot is PSYCHOTIC levels of DARVO. The sister claiming she's crying so hard she can't breathe is SO MANIPULATIVE. The son explaining how his mom has treated him is SO SAD. The Mom basically treated OP like CRAP and neglected his school functions and then blamed OP for acting out. Neither Mom or Sister sound sane.

[@MrBrachiatingApe]

Massive Cluster-B vibes from those two.

[@amethystanne4586]

The sister’s life motto seems to be, “It’s my way, or the the highway” when OP chooses the highway, Sister races after him yelling, “How dare(!) you choose the highway. Get. Back. Here. Now. and do what I have instructed you to do. If you do not, I will tell lies to Mom.”

[@poohbear4515]

Wow, those two are just the embodiment of cruelty. Mother and sister are basically demanding OP to do what they want and OP is unfortunately unable to stand up for himself cause of the nasty past abuse they inflicted onto him. What next? Will sister and mother demand what baby clothes they need? The name they want? The hospital? Hell, are they going to demand custody?? I really hope OP can slowly pry himself away from those horrible assholes and keep his family far away from them.

[@marshawargo7238]

Sis is going to be over there All The Time after the baby is born, because She's An Expert‼️ "No No! Not that way, you're always doing everything wrong! I know everything!"😮 Threatening to call CPS on every little thing!😢

[@juliearmfield2634]

Talk about nightmare MIL&SIL. My prayers are going out to that little family because they are going to need it with those two entitled crazy women

[@paulastiles5507]

@@marshawargo7238I know, right? I guess she figures she needs to start early if she's gonna educate the baby properly in how to be a thief, adulterer, drug addict and bad parent.

[@johnbradbury8610]

Op is an AH to himself, his GF, and their future child until he goes NC. I know he's being gaslighted but he knows enough to post. Op knows he lacks backbone, he needs to do something about it. He is an adult parent, his bad childhood is over with. Its time to cut his toxic mother and sister out of his new family's life.

[@johnbradbury8610]

@@marshawargo7238 Exactly, that's why OP is a huge AH until he goes NC. He whines about gaslighting, which is a great reason to go NC.

[@BruinPhD2009]

FWIW, the woman who started the gender reveal trend did so with the best of intentions; she was celebrating the safe arrival of a baby after several heartbreaking losses. After seeing how out of control it's become, she says she wishes it hadn't become so popular, because its turned into something where the baby isn't actually the focus.

[@sonialinsey8083]

Some of them where it’s just like cut into a blue or pink cake, pop a balloon etc. it’s cute. People setting entire wilderness areas on fire with their bs should probably not be having kids at all.

[@user-blob]

Who cares? If these breeders want to show off their selfish decisions then let them.

[@ndawn90]

​@@user-blobI care when their selfishness gets people killed, which seems like a pretty obvious stance to take. Cutting cake, popping a balloon, it's whatever. Go nuts. IDGAF. Setting wildfires, making IEDs, causing plane crashes, those cross the line. That's where everyone should care, because that's when selfishness crosses the line into death and destruction.

[@user-blob]

@@ndawn90what a crock! 😂😂😂 EVERY single person who breeds has already ‘crossed the line into death and destruction’ simply by insisting on procreation. At least the douche bags your referring to flaunt their entitlement instead of pretending they actually care about the state of the world their ‘beloved’ children will inherit.

[@ettinakitten5047]

@@sonialinsey8083 Even the tame ones are a bit icky to me with how gender-stereotypical they are.

[@karstenbursak8083]

OP's mum claims to have been in several abusive relationships ? Sorry to say that, but specially after OP's last update I get the strong impression that OP's mum was actually the abuser and not her partners.

[@crisrodriguez5693]

Eh, to be fair, some people are buttholes and also magnets for abusers, even if it seems crazy due to how controlling they are themselves. These are people who can only attack those who are "weaker" than them, and let themselves be walked over by the ones that aren't.

[@doggolovescheese1310]

I mean...*definitely* a possibility Also possible she became the abuser to her son after being abused so much herself. My mother became a monster after finding a man who didn't abuse her but abused her kids. Like should have went to prison level...but if you had known her a few years before she was an abuse victim...I saw the abuse with my own eyes. People can seriously flip. But either I think are strong possibilities. I feel bad for op but I'm happy he is helping build a happy family of his own.

[@aba1design]

I've seen a lot of studies that show that when abuse occurs it tends to be mutual. It's likely both parents were abusive mutually.

[@MrBrachiatingApe]

Physical abuse is typically mutual in heterosexual couples. Interestingly, uni-directional intimate partner violence seems to be female on male at a rate of about 3 to 1, per admittedly old FBI statistics. Yet somehow we consider these options last.

[@Ecclectic_citcelccE]

I wonder what the real story is with OP's dad since his memories may be colored by his mother and sister's manipulations. I'm glad he's got Gf's family and a therapist.

[@YellaBellaReno]

Yeah. He was 5 when they divorced, so I wonder what “signs of abuse” he can actually remember for himself. Based on the way she treats OP, I wouldn’t blame the dad for yelling or slamming doors on his way out, but that can look pretty damning to a 5 year old. Way harder to spot emotion abuse and manipulation when you’re raised with it.

[@paden1865able]

During both of my ultrasounds, the tech offered to find out the genders of my kids. It was free. Both of them turned their butts to the scanner, so no reveal until they were born. OP needs some heavy therapy to be able to cut them out. I hope that he and his new little family thrive despite the idiots he's related to.

[@Nathan_Bookwurm]

Yea, at my 20 weeks scan they offered to find out the gender too. I refused at the first pregnancy. At the second we saw it before they asked, it was very obviously a boy 😂. There's also gender reveal scans at 14+ weeks in my country, but you have to pay for them.

[@Ecclectic_citcelccE]

I'm guessing the extra cost was the dick charge for hosting the narcissists 😂😂

[@mothercabbagepatch3344]

Your babies "turning their butts to the scanner" made me laugh so hard. 😂

[@user-wr3vt8uq4s]

Given this drama, I'd skip the scan altogether (even more so if it costs you money). But if you did do it, only tell GF's family and your dad. The mom and sis are real pieces of work. 3 kids and she's desperate for more? She's got baggage like United Airlines.

[@bunnyslippers191]

@@Nathan_BookwurmThat happened to some friends of mine. They said the tech's eyes got big as saucers because their son showed his gender immediately and there was absolutely no ambiguity about what gender he was. The tech freaked out about it and all they said was something like, "Well, it's certainly a good thing we wanted to know his gender. He's showing it off, that's for sure!"There was no "The doctor says it's a boy" at all. Son was letting it all hang out in plain sight for the world to see (or anyone who saw the scan, anyway.

[@scout2125]

This is the kind of sister who will expect to be in the delivery room. My sister-in-law insisted on going to the delivery room. I told my husband not to call his family until after the birth.

[@Aziara86]

One of the behaviours that lead to no contact with my mother was this. Constant demands for 'fairness' between grandparents... which meant that she had to have a visit for every time I saw my in-laws. If she was there with my in-laws, she would get upset every time they held the baby, I honestly TIMED how much everyone held her and my mother had the baby the most, but not good enough for her. She wanted to be a 3rd parent, while the other grandparents were supposed to be more distant.

[@Davtwan]

Bean-counting but wants it more in her favor. No child needs to learn this is normal behavior.

[@johnbradbury8610]

Op has so many reasons to go NC, he could pick anyone of them. He wants to give himself credit for leaving a stern message. He is putting his mommy and sis above his GF and child.

[@mothercabbagepatch3344]

I find it so strange that Op's family are treating the scan as a sideshow. With my first scans the baby's health and development was my first concern. I can't imagine sharing that rather anxious time with anyone other than my partner.

[@bautistalover]

I don’t, it’s probably very likely that both OPs mom and sister probably excluded the paternal side of the families during their own pregnancies and are worried now the shoe is on the other foot they will be left out at every turn.

[@jackwatt8988]

1: "I called my mother for reassurance and it helped. She wasn't happy I told her over a phone call which I understand and am likely an AH for" - no 😕 OP is not an AH for this, somehow OP is having a baby and the mother is trying to make it all about her and how she's been slighted by not getting the news in person.

[@GMAMEC]

Why is OP constantly contacting his sister or mom? It seems like he needs their permission. They are causing quite a bit of anxiety. He keeps second guessing himself. His girlfriend is a saint.

[@eldeano9964]

He's been conditioned that way since childhood.

[@TsukiKageTora]

He was groomed into this type of behavior by constantly being gaslit and manipulated to do what the sister and mom wanted. I mean the doctor said he wasn’t autistic, but they keep continue to say he was autistic. They really wanted him to be like a puppet that they can manipulate and change to what they want in the moment. They really didn’t care about OP at all. I feel so sorry for him. He deserves so much better than having his childhood ruined by narcissistic freaks.

[@TsukiKageTora]

@@eldeano9964 I feel sorry for the sister’s children. If they did that to her brother, God only knows what’s going to happen to those children.

[@johnbradbury8610]

His GF is a saint and her BF is being a spineless AH

[@TsukiKageTora]

@@johnbradbury8610 or he was conditioned to be that way since childhood?? Sounds like youre also an AH yourself if you can’t sympathize with that, but that’s just my take on you, a complete stranger.

[@parisisaprincesss]

the "we'll take the baby every weekend!" kinda sounds like she's trying to create a case for grandparents rights

[@JootjeJ]

Wow! Our 20 week scans were to make sure that our babies didn't have hereditary heart deformations. Seeing the other functional parts like a bean shaped kidney, a foot, etc was just an amazing intimate extra gift. I wouldn't dream of demanding that me or anyone else interfering on that, even if I paid for it.

[@strudel_reviews]

Same here for both of mine I had a harmony test done for #1 (born in 2019). and a NIPT done for #2 (born in 2024). and found out the gender beforehand (same gender). and at my second pregnancy it showed that I had complete Placenta Previa. I also had issues with my first pregnancy where I had such bad morning sickness the entire pregnancy that #1 measured 2.5 weeks behind my gestational age.

[@gelasiakidd8076]

My mother is just like this. I did a doubletake when I saw the "don't argue" thing when OP would try to make a valid point. And the "calm down" thing whenever you have a genuine grievance. And enabling a siblings insane behavior, too. Gratefulness as a choke chain for control. I'm no contact with sibling, low contact with his wife, and info diet on mom. She's old, so she doesn't have many years left, and I don't want to make her suffer more than she has. When mom's gone, I'll probably cut off that chunk of the family.

[@maryclaar4629]

Whoa!!!!! Spidey senses tingling over story one!!!! I would involve the partners medical team to safeguard her; especially as she gets closer to her due date. She won't need this nonsense in the delivery room. The sister sounds like a walker AND a potential kidnapper!!!😬

[@MMKMoore1]

As soon as OP said that his sister is desperate for another child, that explained all the shenanigans to me. Sister is trying to insert doubt about the baby and his partner in OP's head so she can insert herself as the replacement mother. Sister and the mother both are abusive monsters, and OP needs to go full NC with them. Narcissists have to be the victims of everyone else in their stories, so I'm sure OP's dad never abused his mother. I hate it when parents try to force you to be "fair" in your relationship with your inlaws. My MIL insisted that we visited her every weekend because it wasn't "fair" to her that I still lived in my hometown. "She can see her parents any time" - except I couldn't because she took all our free time. Then when we told her we were going to my parents for Christmas Day, she invited herself along ("You're going to have to get here very early to get me so 'we' can be on time.) I had to put my foot down on that one. I was never happier when I heard she was moving across the country to be with a SIL, except for the day my divorce was final.

[@Russman67]

Mom and sister are used to keeping control of everyone around them. And they demanded that OP and his girlfriend bend to that control with their baby. Something tells me mom and sister are going to keep finding ways to get their hooks in this young family.

[@AndyyWithAY]

Autism, ADHD, any ND anything else may be a reason, but it's not an excuse. Sorry I'd have to insist OP go NC with his POS mom. The fact that she apologized to OP, but not the GF. She didn't wrong OP. I think people put too much stock in apologies, but she couldn't even try to be genuine

[@srideout91]

I am scared for the OP.. I think OP sister wants their baby. Her actions are very alarming. If I were OP I would make sure to let the nurses know who is in isn’t allowed in the delivery room so that the sister cannot try to sneak in. I would not leave that baby alone with that sister or mother. I think those two have, some twisted ice tea of that oh piece baby is going to be their baby or something something is just not right with those two. And I would not put a pass Opie‘s mother or sister to try and kidnap that child if I were OP, I would look into a straining order if it goes any further with a boundary crossing.

[@9999plato]

Good, the sister wrote herself out of the picture. What a winner, the mother too. Unbelievable.

[@dm9078]

Back in my day we had gender reveals , they were called births . But mom is angry because he told her over the phone. Geez! His entire family sounds exhausting. NTA! They are not getting him to understand their reasoning. They are bullying him. Edit: the more I listened to this the worse I felt for this guy. He’s been beat down by these two Arseholes his entire life. Sad AF!

[@stirrednotshaken4823]

They should move further away from these 2 loonies! I would say across the country but girlfriend is taking care of her dementia ridden mother. Maybe they should take her with them.

[@naturalPaths]

Re: baby scan. If it were possible, OPs sister would not permit OP’s wife to be there at all. As it is, she suggested pregnant mom simply present her body twice.

[@Vivi_LaRue]

Omg…. The whole family, including OP sound exhausting.

[@user-blob]

Yep.

[@milescoburn1845]

1) There is no such thing as a "gender reveal scan". It's an ultrasound, usually done in conjunction with normal, scheduled checkups, at the 20-week follow up appointment for the mother. At that stage of the fetus' development, it MIGHT be possible to ascertain the baby's sex. It's not a sure thing. 2) Even if there was such a thing, it's a medical procedure, not a party. Only the mother and father (and medical professionals, of course) should be there. 3) It's best to stay away from the "golden child" sister and the enabling mother. Put them on a strict information diet.

[@debl3063]

His mom was the first person he phoned about the baby for support when he felt overwhelmed at the thought of a baby that wasn't planned. He needed her and she made it all about herself and not getting a special announcement. She was probably the first person OP told and her reaction is to be salty about it and keep bringing it up like he's some awful person.

[@fear_bees]

OP needed support in a vulnerable time and all his mom could think of was "I can't believe you told me about this over the phone." PSA: If you ever go to someone in a vulnerable moment where you need support and that person turns the attention towards how they're feeling, they're narcissistic.

[@stirrednotshaken4823]

Unexpected pregnancy…I am getting the vibe that the sister mess with girlfriend’s birth control to make sure there was another baby for her to try to steal since her husband denied her another one! Might be off base, but with mom asking if girlfriend was on the pill and the baby trapping nonsense, the idea popped into my head. 🤷🏼‍♀️

[@Raggmopp-xl7yf]

Sister saying this is where we part ways is probably the best outcome for OP. She probably expects him to chase after her and beg for reconciliation, but if he just replies with, Ok sis! Have a great life," she'd probably FREAK! Now if they can just get mum to go NC (in solidarity with sis, maybe?) he'd be set for his own "Happily Ever After!"

[@warpthumr47]

I'm a mom to 4 boys. I've never even considered having more than myself & my husband at any ultrasound that could show us what the gender of our baby was. Which was only with the last 2 kids anyway. OP needs to go low contact.

[@stirrednotshaken4823]

The only exception I could see to having another person in the room would be the girlfriend’s mom. And I only say that because she would want to build some memories with her mother since they said she had dementia. I don’t know how far progressed it is but not so far in the future she won’t remember. 🤷🏼‍♀️

[@lorrainemontagnon1537]

Hey everyone! I just love mornings😮! So nice to be able to spend it with the awesome waffle gang! Take care guys, much love Mark!

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

🤗🤗💜💜🧇🧇

[@JootjeJ]

I'll never really get used to how small the world is these days, no matter how old I get. I'm about to get ready for my evening shift. 🤣

[@catsncrows]

It's amazing how a new baby ramps up familial crazy. It's like throwing a rock at a hornet's nest. Edit: I wonder if this whole no gf's family is trying to isolate them away from her family. Controlling emotionally dependent people don't like outsiders

[@stirrednotshaken4823]

It just occurred to me that girlfriend’s mom has dementia and I can definitely understand why she would want her mother involved in her pregnancy.

[@SCP01986]

It's almost like the addition of a baby is like the addition of a new victim and the crazies are like dogs licking their chops over the prospect of getting to inflict more pain and trauma.

[@catsncrows]

@@SCP01986 exactly!

[@lugenewhittenberger1983]

​@@stirrednotshaken4823 It's not her mother who has dementia, it's her grandma. It said the GF's mother comes down every weekend to take care of her mother, who has dementia.

[@stirrednotshaken4823]

@@lugenewhittenberger1983 ok, my mistake...was listening while doing something else, but still, I can see where she would want those memories with mom and grandma. After all, she is the one pregnant, so her mom means more to her than a snippy future MIL and controlling SIL.

[@ZoeAlleyne]

Story 1: so he calls his mum for comfort and she is pissed that she found out thqy way? But graciously forgave him? ...what a hero mum.

[@jedimasters1462]

I'm betting that the sister wanted to be there more to find out the gender because she wants a certain gender, like a girl if she has all boys. Then, once the baby was born, she would convince op and his gf to give her the baby because she would take better care of it. Then she gets the fourth baby she wants (and possibly the gender she wants) and her husband can't really stop her. Op needs to go low contact with his mother and sister, especially the sister, for a while to establish his family without their control.

[@stirrednotshaken4823]

I wouldn’t be surprised if she messed with the girlfriend’s birth control either!

[@impishrebel5969]

"She works for an Autism Charity" Dollars to donuts it's Autism Speaks, which is one of the *worst*.

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

That what i was thinking too

[@justine8387]

As an autistic woman, I felt icky when this part. Even if he is autistic, who cares, unless autism is getting in the way for him it doesn't really matter. A diagnosis can help us know ourselves and our needs, or get help but it doesn't help if not. A diagnosis is always for YOU not others

[@jacearmor5274]

I think OP was right about the family trying to help him out with his ex only as a narcissist to trying to get rid of another narcissist

[@charmzee8749]

I love this channel , r/ got me into reddit stories and i always wanted long , updated stories. Thanks man ! The content is great and the quality is near perfection cuz you can’t always find that long and great stories but the production and polishing is really in a worthy top 3 .

[@Daaaanielle]

Op is exhausting. It’s like he likes being the victim with his family

[@user-blob]

Yeah, I got that vibe too.

[@courtneymaxwell4652]

Mark- your words were PERFECTION “that’s not what support looks like” that family is awful! They aren’t supportive they’re intrusive and abusive and try to disguise it as support!

[@Deedoof]

Abusers are narcissists and narcissists hate being wrong. This is their kryptonite. When an abuser tells you you should part ways, ACCEPT THE GIFT! It's an attempt to emotionally blackmail you but the abuser is "giving permission" meaning they can't accuse you of abandonment since THEY brought it up first. And if they do backtrack you say "I'm respectfully honoring your wishes to go no/low contact as my family, lifestyle, etc. causes your life stress." Assuming they aren't mentally unhinged this kind of grey-rocking should shut them up.

[@sandeesandwich2180]

S1: WAIT. OP's mom got in a snit because OP told her about the pregnancy over the phone??? I haven't even listened to the rest of the story and I am sure this guy needs help. Sounds like the tip of the controlling iceberg. Not getting any better with more listening. "THIS isn't what support looks like." You hit the nail on the head, Mark. Final thought. If this is a 20 week ultrasound, then that is used (by the med team) primarily to diagnose health problems with the fetus -- e.g. heart issues. I can't imagine having a circus in the room for this. Plus with that drama, it would be distracting for the techs as well as for OP and his partner. I'm sure OP's life will be amazingly calmer without that side of his family in the picture.

[@Silence-1170]

Hi waffles hope you are all doing well today! Stay safe and stay positive during this spooky month waffles!

[@MarkNarrations]

Hey hey Silence!!

[@Silence-1170]

@@MarkNarrations Hey mark! Hope everything is going well!

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@Silence-1170 🤗🤗💜💜

[@ceeshnia]

Love listening to Mark while I eat breakfast :) Hope everyone is well!

[@crossedwires2629]

me toooo! :)

[@K.Esmerelda-zy7cf]

I'm cooking mine and brewing coffee.

[@atsuikoneko1]

I usually listen to this when I have to do house chores or farm work. Just listened this by driving home, in the radio there is same old stuff all the time.

[@CharlesGriswold]

"This is where we part ways." When the trash takes itself out.

[@mbyerly9680]

The sister is after OP's baby and keeping the mother-to-be isolated from her family is part of that. I hope OP takes care with his toxic family.

[@amberkelly3187]

I just remembered a friend of mine’s two year old playing with her mum and I in the garden when she yelled “Leave me alone you silly buggers!” Her mum and I were shocked. But after I questioned her it turned out she was talking to the bugs flying around her in the garden. So innocent.

[@Jeezieparcheezi]

This family does nothing but armchair diagnose each other. 🙄

[@juliemcgugan1244]

Most Mothers, when hearing the news over the phone, would think, "Awww, he thought of me first and needed the support of his Mum! I feel so priveliged to be the first to hear this news!" OP's Mom...Not so much. I think it suspicious that she is fine at the time, yet starts to find ways to get offended later.

[@Vipre-]

Jesus, just listening to 7 minutes of OP's life with his family and I'M exhausted already. Also the more info we get about his mother the more I doubt everything she's ever told him about her past relationships.

[@maddy4362]

I hope all is well with you Mark! Thanks like always for uploading so consistently, you make my day 🤗

[@EndThisNow13]

My mom is a narcissist. She also did everything in her power to convince everyone around that i was autistic. To the point i was often pulled from classes and forced to my class work in separate rooms and was spoken to as though i had the capacity of a young child. Im still working through the trauma and issues.

[@svevo]

Great as always, just one note: you can't "make" someone feel guilty; guilt is always self inflicted. Sometimes is a mechanism used to avoid criticism and having to change behavior; something like: "don't be mad at me! I'm already punishing myself with guilt!'

[@jessilynallendilla5014]

OP was conditioned to be their emotional punching bag hope he goes NC and moves far by the time the baby arrives because I guarantee they'll play the same song and dance with his kid

[@scholarcat101]

I swear "let's go our separate way" is like THE narcissist's go-to phrase when they don't get what they want.

[@ScooterBond1970]

And the go-to response should always be "Your terms are acceptable."

[@jameslyons6655]

A gift that comes with conditions is not a gift it’s a thinly disguised control mechanism. Turn them down every time they are offered.

[@littlegreycat]

4:18 the Mom having such a fit over being told over the phone. Sheesh

[@TheVeggiekat]

An ultrasound is a medical procedure. This is so gross that they are actually arguing over who goes to the ultrasound like the girlfriend has no body autonomy and no right to make decisions regarding her own medical procedures

[@tracicolvis7382]

If they did 2 scans (which I agree is ridiculous), I guarantee op's sister and mom would throw a fit if theirs wasn't first. If he doesn't cut them off (probably even if he does) they're going to insist they meet the baby first before gf's family or that they get to be in the delivery room.

[@AndyyWithAY]

If you ever see me in the wild, on another channel on these YT streets be sure to say hi 👋🏾 Actually had someone do exactly this the other day and it was so wholesome. I've seen a few people from Waffle Gang on other channels and it's always like WHAAAT?! You're here too. Absolutely love it. 🥰🥳 Just an FYI there's supposed to be some broadcast test today on all cell phones between 2:20 and 2:50 ET. Not sure if it's only in the U.S. Don't know much about it, but I know it would freak me out if it just randomly happened if I didn't know.

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Oh yeah i saw magg one another channel it was nice

[@Nathan_Bookwurm]

I saw your reactions on a few OKOP show videos not long ago 😊 forgot to say hi though 🙈

[@Nathan_Bookwurm]

Oh, and good luck with the test! Had to google what that was, it says just US. We have a similar test system in the Netherlands too the first Monday of every month. Always shocks me to death when the air sounds go off (we live right next to one of these loud alarms) and when the phones start making hella noice.

[@errantwinds-up8uu]

My MIL always says "stop playing silly buggers" 😂

[@juliemcgugan1244]

It is not a gift when it comes with strings attached. Therefore, you don't need to accept it gracefully.

[@TsukiKageTora]

I feel extremely sorry for the sister’s children. They probably don’t ever feel loved enough if she’s so obsessed enough to try to take their baby cousin away from their uncle and aunt. I hope those children grow up to be good people and don’t pick up any bad habits that their grandmother and their mother have. I also hope they go no contact whenever they can.

[@slick8086]

Story 1 seems like the OP and partner would be better off without the "support" of their family. OP still has a lot more spine they need to grow, and that might be easier if they had less contact with their controlling family.

[@ettinakitten5047]

OP, you should make your sister's fears come true. She and your mom should *not* be involved in your child's life. What if they mess up your kid like they did you?

[@bonniehuh]

6:56 - So there are elements about his description of his mother that are similar to me. I'm not on the spectrum, but I have sensory issues and obsess over things and I really really struggle being around people that I don't know well. I have six sibling-in-laws and from them I have 17 niblings who have their own set of aunts, uncles, and grandparents. There have been plenty of activities and events where their families were invited; weddings, baptisms, birthdays, graduations, etc. Sometimes I'm brave enough to attend and if I get overwhelmed or feel too awkward, I either leave or take a private break. Sometimes, I just don't go and explain I can't handle it that day. I would NEVER expect the other family not to go. I'M the one with the issue, not the rest of them. The Mom and Sister are being pretty selfish. If its that important to them, they need to grin and bare it and leave quickly after.

[@anndownsouth5070]

Mark, I had the same thought about the "silly buggers" comment.

[@yamairad1]

This is exactly how my soon to be Il's were with us. Now, I'm getting a divorce soon. These people will try to be so involved in that they will assume they own the child. Eg. we had a super small covid wedding. There was like 16 people MIL just started inviting people I have never met because she assumed my family wouldn't come. They kept saying how they are going to stay with the kid overnight. You cannot imagine that I have not let that happen. Now I am getting a divorce. Fix this OP or you will lose everything. She is only passive now because her mama bear hasn't revealed itself yet.

[@juliemcgugan1244]

Anyone else think that OP's Mom and Sis aren't going to go separate ways? They've going to keep coming back to OP, uninvited, to take sniping shots at Op and GF, both separately and together, as they ramp up their abuse to put more and more pressure on them. Then they'll call OP the bad guy, for not doing enough to repair their relationship and say they are purposely depriving them of their Grandchild/nephew/niece.

[@kamicokrolock]

There is something seriously wrong with OP's family. Like how is going to get coffee with the in laws as a way to first meet too FORMAL? Have I been going to coffee shops severely underdressed all this time?! Guess it's full length gowns and opera gloves next time I meet someone for coffee. but in all seriousness OP needs to go LC at the very least and see a therapist to work through the BS his family has been putting him through his entire life.

[@kmechwarrior1684]

S1: Sister had some severe issues and needs to see a professional... same with mom.... S1-Update: Go NC with your family, they sound AWFUL, don't give them ANY info about the kid

[@VidGirl88]

The controlling one upmanship is real

[@carlrood4457]

Two separate scans? Like OP's wife wants to be smeared with gel and have the cold sensor moved across her belly twice?

[@justine8387]

It is such a vulnerable and invasive thing to ask.

[@Davtwan]

“They think meeting my girlfriend’s mom at the scan will be awkward.” Then arrange to meet her before the scan? These flimsy excuses lol.

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Hey can you take care of yourself? Just do one small thing that will make yourself happy. And if you feel like you can do more, please stretch, drink some water, and eat something. You matter so much. I send all the virtual love. 💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗

[@brittlebonesghost1226]

Love you lots broken! You Never fail to make me smile!

[@JootjeJ]

💜💜💜

[@jessicapalmer3455]

You're such a sweetie! But yours better be taking care of yourself, too...💙💙

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

​​@@jessicapalmer3455💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

​@@JootjeJ💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗

[@madcatlady]

show towels, I have heard of this, how crazy having towels you cannot use. Some people even have a show kitchen and cook their meals in a pokey lean to, I cannot fathom living like that, that's not living, that's being a curator to a museum

[@eileenhathaway1674]

I remember finally, finally, cutting a toxic person out of my life and how everything got better. I don't even think about them anymore and it helped me recognize and cut out, any new toxic people who briefly manage to get in. Life is SO much more relaxing now. Health has improved, sleep is easier, and temper is much more serene. Now I look back and wish I had done it so much sooner!

[@impagain]

I get op 1's mom not feeling special cuz she didn't get some sort of fancy surprise, but she's overlooking that she was the MOST special in the baby announcement cuz she was the very first person OP called and wanted support from. She got THE MOST special treatment from him, being the first person thought of, and told without hesitation. But, obviously by the rest of the story, she doesn't care about the grandbaby, she cares about being the main character. 🙄

[@DoritoBot9000]

The person pregnant comes first, always!! She is the one going through things, and she isn’t supposed to have her own mom on her baby’s gender reveal? What?

[@aethertoast4320]

In Story 1 I find it horrifying that the sister is involved in dealing with people with Autism.

[@sandracox4341]

As soon as you set boundaries and told your sister how it was going to be she tells you your relationship with her is over. The trash took itself out.

[@abelink9229]

51 seconds in, what the hell? His mother isn't happy to learn urgent happy news over the phone? What the hell she thinks the damn phones were invented for?

[@OZARKMOON1960]

#2 - Agree that best thing for OP is to just go sep. ways from mom and sis. Hey, at least he won't have to worry about sister taking off with his baby - she wants another so badly it is concerning. And his mom has a whole damn 3-ring circus going on in her personal life. OP and his love wife just need to stay away from all that nonsense and cling to her mom (who seems lovely) and his dad. Neither of those two are going to insult OP/the wife or fight over the baby.

[@louellacharlton4425]

Tyvm Mark stay safe please, peace.

[@salomerodriguez5145]

Well that was exhausting.

[@lostshadows768]

Meeting for coffee is "too formal"? Tell me you're refusing to meet someone without telling me you're refusing to meet someone.

[@narliehs1648]

Whackadoo mom and sis absolutely want to steal that baby. OP seriously needs to go NC with them. Very low contact at the very least. And ngl, the accusation that the dad was abusive is sus af. OP was really young at the time, and very impressionable by his own admission (emotional manipulation has that effect), so it's likely the mom and sis spun a story for him to keep him under their control. The dqd is the only one of his family acrually supporting him. The mom and sis are the abusive ones, full stop.

[@orionspero560]

This is very much more a low contact than no contact situation.

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Hey you yes you, take a deep breath let it out slowly, and lower your shoulders. Know that you are important to someone even if you feel like no one loves you, guess what I do. I'm so proud of you being here. Thank you. Now make sure you take care of yourself and drink some water, eat something and take a stretch break.💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗

[@MarkNarrations]

You take care too Broken

[@FlamesofJagger]

Take care Broken. Stay safe and positive. Much love

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@MarkNarrations you too m8🤗🤗💜💜

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@FlamesofJagger 🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜

[@hausofphid3966]

💜💜😊😊

[@rirmgigs]

Loving the creepy October / Halloween theme this month btw 😂❤

[@sevendorton5505]

Good lord. Stop diagnosing others and just deal with your own boundaries. It does not matter what they have or don't have. You can't fix them, you can only fix you. Do that.

[@Nicholem718-1]

I wish OP would read Ayn Rand’s essay on The Virtue of Selfishness. Selfishness means to look after one’s own interests. As long as it’s not by abusing others, there is nothing wrong with looking out for one’s own interests. A simple “no” to the sister and mother is sufficient. No further discussion is necessary.

[@cmsxcb]

Pregnancy is not a spectator sport. Nor is it a form on entertainment. That goes for the birth obviously - but it also applies to everything before that as well. Would you invite your family to the conception? Would they consider it appropriate if you did? So why is everything after conception a family event in their eyes? This is about the 2 (3) of you and nobody else. Anybody else is included BY INVITATION ONLY.

[@leaflet1686]

Story 1: Oh my... The entire family needs therapy and OP needs to cut them out!

[@MrBizteck]

What would I do if I was OP ? Fking RUN !

[@GBunnyG]

You know, my family dynamic is so weird and toxic (I'm the commenter always referencing raising my great nephew). I've never had a solid one story reason for posting on Reddit, but I've always wondered what the commenters would say about our bat dropping crazy stories. Maybe one day.

[@BruinPhD2009]

I think more of us have bat crap crazy family stories than would like to admit (I know I do). Perhaps we'd be kinder to each other if we understood that shared misery.

[@GBunnyG]

@@BruinPhD2009 Agreed agreed agreed.

[@catsncrows]

I've been no contact with my family for so long that I don't have pressing issues but I've gotten to the point of healing where my dark sense of humor has kicked in and I'm laughing at some of their antics. I've considered posting it. If you have the stomach for dysfunction humor they're a goldmine

[@GBunnyG]

@@catsncrows Well, see, now, I LOVE posting dysfunctional family tales to my social media, because most of my friends have been with me so long they know all the players. So I don't have to explain who my sister is and her back story before saying she's currently waiting to go to court for yet more dealing charges and also our father dropped her 6-year old son off with family 6 hours away without anyone's permission. And NO ONE needs back story! They just giggle along with me at her karma and rage with me about my nephew. It is GLORIOUS. I feel like everyone should have a group of people to enjoy the Dysfunction Soap Opera.

[@catsncrows]

@@GBunnyG oof! That's a lot😶. My sister basically had to toss my nephew at my mother and high tail it to another continent to get away from her, basically offering him up as a sacrifice to mommy goddess of hell. Evil? Yes. I can kind of almost understand her desperation even if I despise her for it. She's not okay, she's constructed a false reality to keep all her sprockets from springing. I gave up on her. Nephew says I was his mother. I was 12. That made me sad

[@floraposteschild4184]

S1: NTA. I wonder how much of this family history of anxiety is a reaction to a family history of asshole behaviour.

[@OmneyasWISH]

His family is exhausting. They made him feel like he was the problem as a kid and he still believes that he was. Go no contact with mom & sister and move on with your GF