Your Dad is 100% right, I was married/lived with my husband for 45 years and we were always the absolute best of friends, always tried to be kind to each other, also when we got married neither of us expected anything to change, as we'd lived together for 8 years, but it did change, it seemed much more special. We have two children about you and your sister's age and unfortunately my husband died in 2021 after a long illness, during that time I was with him 24/7, it went on for 16 years, but the last year was the worst, I was with him the whole time he was in hospital, even though we were in lockdown because of COVID, I still slept with him every night in a hospital bed in the hospital, I was with him when he took his last breath, and he will forever be a part of me, I love your podcast and think you guys are great.
@bridiesmith51107 ай бұрын
Separate beds as you get older is bliss. My husband has developed a night time routine that drives me up the wall. I get restless and that wakes him up. Doesn’t mean we no longer love each other . It is about getting the best night sleeps.
@GGG-sd9ei7 ай бұрын
I agree, I’ve been married for 46 years and I still adore my husband. But we sleep in different beds. My husband can’t sleep without the television on and I need quiet, plus I snore really badly!
@JaneHarvey-tq2jj6 ай бұрын
In 20-30 years Roman you’ll realise your dad spoke very honest words. In my 50’s divorced but how he talks about friendship and love is something I still live in hope of having again.
@lregwoc27 ай бұрын
Roman, can you do a series with your Mom as well?
@kimrawlings9987 ай бұрын
I am loving these podcasts. What a great open relationship you have with your dad
@nicholedowning83417 ай бұрын
I’ve been married to my husband for 32 years. We were the best of friends for a few years before we ever dated. You absolutely have to stay friends with your spouse. Regardless of what happens with jobs and kids and health….whatever it may be you have to be friends and it’s a nice bonus if they can make you laugh in any situation.
@lisachild60987 ай бұрын
Martin is right again - does not matter if you are married or not if someone strays it is over. I agree I would never be able to trust that person ever again so the relationship would be absolutely over. Could not live with no trust - my life would be miserable so would not allow the person to be in my life any longer - it would be over goodbye.
@dunkbiscuit7 ай бұрын
I love the honesty between them, and the candor of the full conversation. This is pretty special - a memory for the future
@charmainerooney94307 ай бұрын
Friendship love laughter n respect…I’m married 32, together 35 everyday we laugh your dad is so right 💯
@carolinedelaney26377 ай бұрын
Only new to your channel i suffer from anxiety and can i say you both made me forget how bad i was feeling at the moment and also made me laugh i haven't laugh so much in a long time thank you both such an amazing two people you both are dad and son what a fantastic relationship you both have ❤
@leeannemarrey7 ай бұрын
I love this podcast, your chat and banter is just so refreshing, I lost my dad a few weeks ago and it just makes me smile and laugh listening to you guys just having chats and being real. So thank you both
@christinalogan3117 ай бұрын
What a lovely man your dad is and it’s obvious you are a close loving family . ✨
@lorraineshearing307 ай бұрын
Martin is so right! Married for 36 Years this year and I’d say friendship, love, compromise and lots of laughter is definitely the key!
@jolindley97157 ай бұрын
Loved this - thank you!! I'm a psychological therapist and was a maid of honour for my friend's wedding and I gave a speech about what will (hopefully) get you through longevity of a relationship...and that was listening to one another...I mean really listening. Validating, acknowledging, respecting. You don't always need to agree with their point but how it makes them feel, you can validate. See each other, hear each other whilst not losing yourself. Sounds cliche but communicate. Never lose site of that. Invest in each other because when the time comes to make a withdrawal on your relationship (such as life stresses) you both won't be left empty. Be playful. As adults we lose the art of play. Have fun and remember what attracted you about this person. It's still there, it may just because you've lost site of each other. And as Martin says kindness and friendship is the glue. 1. Listen... really listen and take ownership (be self-aware) 2. Validate...Communicate 3. Invest in each other and yourself 4. Play...have fun 5. Remember who you both are and what brought you together 6. Be kind 7. Be each others best friend and cheerleader And remember, how do you get good at anything in life? It takes practice, so be patient with each other and yourself ❤❤
@GGG-sd9ei7 ай бұрын
Martin is a lovely man, he has a lovely relationship with Shirley!❤
@lif97747 ай бұрын
You both made me laugh out loud 😂..totally agree, friendship, respect, and kindness..learning to live with each others quirks and loving them for who they are. Arguments and discussion are only human as we aren't exactly the same person, but it's accepting and listening to someone's opinion or agreeing to disagree . X
@SS-qq7xh7 ай бұрын
Love your podcast . I haven’t proper laughed this much in a long time. Love how you can talk about anything and everything. Love you guy’s.
@jenstone93087 ай бұрын
Roman your dad is so wise, I agree with everything he said and you'd do well to listen to him after being in a happy marriage for so long. 😊 I just found your podcast and love it, love the bond between you both and love listening to your dad's stories...he is awesome! 😁
@1STBUCKLEY7 ай бұрын
Met my hubby aged 23, engaged 10mos later. Married a year on, now 36 years without having lived together first . Yes it was a big learning curve but.... Friendship so important. Even if we were to split we'd never lose each other.
@maeveskelly46867 ай бұрын
I cal offer no advice here as I’ve never been married. Your podcasts popped up randomly on my KZbin feed recently and having watched one I have to comment. I love your relationship with each other. It’s so healthy. And your interaction makes me laugh out loud especially when Roman is squirming and Martin is laughing and happy to ‘go there’. Really interesting subjects you choose to discuss too. Looking forward to the next one. And even more squirming 😆
@anitaswart.7 ай бұрын
You will think this is strange, but I am 73 year old lady and I have such a laugh. You are so lucky to have such a lovely relationship. You remind me of my son. But what makes me so sad, is that my children never had this with their dad. He was an alcoholic and when my boy was 17 and girl 19 he committed suicide. The cruelest thing for children. I'm so thankful that they haven't gone totally off the rails and we have a good relationship and can have a laugh. But it is so important to have it with your dad, you two are blessed. I have my doubts about the glasses 😂
@lyndkent-cl2oe7 ай бұрын
Bless you. x
@DiaryofaDitchWitch7 ай бұрын
This is a great premise for a channel. It's nice to watch a father talk to the son he loves about important things. My Dad didn't like me as much as he liked Guinness. He's dead now, oh well. Hi from Ireland 😅
@jay105337 ай бұрын
You two are hilarious. I love these podcasts. You're great together!
@teresaa34217 ай бұрын
Roman and Martin absolute legends brilliant chats 🤣😅 Roman's face when Martin talks about sex 😂🤣🤣🤣
@geraldinemckeown2837 ай бұрын
I got married the same day same place at the St Lucian hotel on the beach . Sadly my husband passed away 3 years ago . We had to prove we were single before going to the Caribbean
@paulinemoriarty36277 ай бұрын
I look forward to these every week Brilliant
@chriscaban46097 ай бұрын
I've been with my wife for 35 years and I completely understand what you're dad is saying
@pennybunty7 ай бұрын
Me and my husband have been together 27 years, married for 23 and more in love than ever. Our kids say that we’ve given them unrealistic expectations cos they don’t know another couple that’s as happy as we are! 😂. I tell them they should never settle for less ❤
@1STBUCKLEY7 ай бұрын
Roman, love how you get embarrassed asking awkward questions. 🤭
@mychills1237 ай бұрын
Yep separate beds all the way in fact separate bedrooms for me, we both like different things and watch different things it’s bliss
@nicholacarr9697 ай бұрын
I love Martin’s sunglasses!
@bridiewright15197 ай бұрын
Just had to binge the 1st few episodes to catch up 😂 I'm 54 Tuesday literally can't believe it was 40 yrs ago saw spandau at Wembley arena, god I feel old, love your relationship ❤😊
@lregwoc27 ай бұрын
You're not alone! I'm 55 and saw them in California in 1985. I really like Martin and Roman's relationship.
@lregwoc27 ай бұрын
Roman, I hope you find a great wife and have a great marriage.
@bridiewright15197 ай бұрын
They get on so well@@lregwoc2
@suehamlet82957 ай бұрын
Love your relationship guys. Thanks for sharing ❤❤
@rachelsirett88097 ай бұрын
I have been married 25 years, celebrated last month xxx
@eratog46047 ай бұрын
Roman, that's your dad's opinion - everyone has their own views. Maybe bring mom in for an episode to see her views. Love your podcast especially all the laughs. Makes my day, thank you both ♡♡♡
@TheOceanbreeze237 ай бұрын
This is the funniest podcast ever! 😂 Hope it goes from strength to strength .❤
@MayDillon-e6f7 ай бұрын
Martin kemp is still absolutely gorgeous!!!
@bridiesmith51107 ай бұрын
Like to hear Shirley’s view on if you are legally married. We married months after my mil passed away as we found out first hand the legal problems once one partner has passed away. No such thing legally as common law relationship. We never go to sleep on a row. Might start again in the morning .
@kerriethorne18877 ай бұрын
Roman, loving these episodes but would love you to either on one, have your mum and dad on or just your mum. It would be interesting to.see her take as well ❤
@van_vinos667 ай бұрын
You two are hilarious! 😂🤣
@bobblebec127 ай бұрын
❤ just love Martin 😊what a great dad…❤ OMG at times hilarious and felt Roman uncomfortable conversation 😂😂
@PaulaBeauchamp-nu4vf7 ай бұрын
Marriage is about finding a compromise to things, especially those you cannot agree on.
@linzirainbow65777 ай бұрын
The first time I saw Spandau Ballet was London Weekend tv on show called 20th Century Box, if I remember correctly it was hosted by Danny Baker and was shot in black and white. OMG I dread to think how long ago that was. 😂😂😂
@Sandra-A7 ай бұрын
A good partnership is a give n‘ take ❤️
@lisachild60987 ай бұрын
Marton is so right about being married. Roman says about putting it down on paper - but it makes no difference. It does not stop divorce.
@dee2022uk7 ай бұрын
You two.. hilarious 😅
@jennymatthews49017 ай бұрын
Love thease podcasts
@kimrawlings9987 ай бұрын
You should do a one off special with your mum
@liesamanneh31637 ай бұрын
Been married 30 years ,having Covid ,we slept in diff rooms ,and loved it ,we visit lol
@lyndkent-cl2oe7 ай бұрын
Respect!.......love it! x
@lenarobinson6 ай бұрын
Re marriage: Roman, your Dad is so right. You need to listen to him on this one. You seem dismissive. He’s literally telling you the answers to your question, but you are not listening. One day you will realise he was 100% right.
@leerichards1637 ай бұрын
You two should do a TV series together, abit like gino gordan and Fred that will be a great watch .
@jenwilson94697 ай бұрын
Been married 45 years 53 years together be kind loving and a little shag Evey now and then 🇨🇦❤️🇬🇧
@nickyhalliday98527 ай бұрын
Definitely women's sunglasses 😎 😂😂. Thirty years in optics here lol.
@user-qq9wz9sl1z7 ай бұрын
😂😂, Martin is so funny!
@dawn52277 ай бұрын
Talking about the man who marrued himself when my eldest brother got married it was the funniest thing but my brother mixed up his wife name with his own because my brother is called Andrew and he married an Angela and they both already had the same surname. so during repeating the vows he says I Andrew take you Andrew, 😂😂😂 we could help but laugh at him.
@craiggilchrist42237 ай бұрын
Count how many times Roman says the words Like and Right.
@lregwoc27 ай бұрын
Didn't they have to register back in Britain?
@Jane-h1j7 ай бұрын
Please can you bring Shirley on, I think it would be lovely to have you all together for one show. Xx
@user-zz7uk8ee6d7 ай бұрын
Your sunglasses are cool !!
@jdooris837 ай бұрын
A second wedding might be on the way
@SolibelAparició3 ай бұрын
Que Dios te bendiga siempre 🇻🇪
@TheLeopardGirl7 ай бұрын
Martin where's your wedding ring?🤔
@Tracy-do9pl7 ай бұрын
Martin kemp fit lovely guy love Shirley to great couple
@katewalsh64176 ай бұрын
Not sure what's happened
@jeanblyth63057 ай бұрын
That was “Hilarious such an open podcast 😅
@GGG-sd9ei7 ай бұрын
Your dad has a more mature outlook to life!
@1STBUCKLEY7 ай бұрын
Martin Islington town hall registry office awaits 👰🤵💒
@katewalsh64176 ай бұрын
Someday I'll tell my own story thank you reporting didn't work
@juliebates33187 ай бұрын
See if you have a marriage certificate if not your in trouble lol
@deeelliott15745 ай бұрын
So what no big deal🇬🇧🇬🇧
@katewalsh64176 ай бұрын
Let him wear them
@rachelsirett88097 ай бұрын
I wouldn't have a separate bed from my husband, like your Dad don't think it's right
@miabeckwith88247 ай бұрын
You look like you're both on gear mate 😂
@robertholden127 ай бұрын
Roman is embarrassed by his dad's sex stories mind you I think I would be 😂
@Millennial_Manc7 ай бұрын
I can’t bear him referring to his wife as “mum”.
@charmainerooney94307 ай бұрын
Why ?..He is speaking to his son ..it’s his sons mum
@saraatkinson80237 ай бұрын
Why? It’s perfectly normal. When my husband and I are chatting to our 3 adult children, we refer to each other as Mum and Dad. Obviously we use each other’s names at all other times.
@Millennial_Manc7 ай бұрын
@@charmainerooney9430 I can’t choose my triggers.
@suzannejane10357 ай бұрын
It'd be weird him talking about 'Shirlie' to his son. Roman doesn't call her Shirlie.
@gailssimpson7 ай бұрын
Absolutely brilliant podcast, made me laugh so much. What a wonderful relationship you both have. I am going to recommend my friends listen to it too.
@margaretmacdonald65277 ай бұрын
Get your mum on we would love it
@sarac26096 ай бұрын
I love how dismissive Roman is of Martin's opinions and advice! Personally, I agree with Martin, but I'm about 15 years older than Roman, so I'm at a totally different stage of life.
@jeanhopman56597 ай бұрын
Because the inanimate object cannot CONSENT.
@lesleysmith83007 ай бұрын
He needs to fess up 🤣🤣🤣😵💫
@katebarker86106 ай бұрын
Oh God ONLINE MARRIAGE RENEWAL
@dunkbiscuit7 ай бұрын
Roman comes across as really young here. Just full of embarrassment
@PureMischiefAliCarter7 ай бұрын
Stop arguing with everything your dad says cheeky
@karenstephenson68687 ай бұрын
Don't like the way you put your dad down. You don't get what he's saying because you haven't yet matured.
@1STBUCKLEY7 ай бұрын
Marriage to an inanimate object ffs
@maxinesmith12587 ай бұрын
Roman you ruined this one for me. You talk over your dad and seem to belittle his views. The how “much” sex talk was annoying at how long it took to get out. Sorry, I look forward to the next one.
@brightlozlauralenihan68537 ай бұрын
He’s not married trust
@1STBUCKLEY7 ай бұрын
One week u should have a camera on your mum, so we can her reaction
@loricameron42307 ай бұрын
Roman, can you stop rubbing your hand up your nose as it is so annoying. It’s may be acceptable if you are a 2 year old but you are an adult so just stop it!