Marriage is hard || HUSBAND & HUSBAND

[@michaeltrapp932]

My husband and I been together for 6 years. Married 4 years. Every day is a new adventure and I couldn't imagine my life without him.

[@affecttheeffect]

Of all the gay married couples on the Internet the two of you stand out in my mind as the most compatible. You’re truly a joy to behold!

[@tstieber]

I have to agree. We've watched a bunch of different couples, and Jonathan and Aaron are by far the most open and genuine. We do watch other vloggers, but a lot of them have something a little phony about them. No pretense with these guys. They're just more open and joke around and poke fun at each other.

[@curt5361]

I agree 💯 love this couple. The other couple I love is Dallas and Blue (sp?). But, there's something very phony about a certain gay couple that I won't mention that have a few kids. Their entire life, home and family are just too perfect and too good to be true.

[@tstieber]

@@curt5361 yeah I wouldn't publicly criticize anyone specific, I just figure not everyone is everyone's cup of tea. Some of the most popular vloggers are really boring to us while some of the less popular ones are much more interesting. But I think it's just how we each relate to people individually. There's a place for everyone!

[@curt5361]

@@tstieber I couldn't have said it any better!✌️

[@nikkilogan7726]

True!! Marriage is very hard. & your absolutely right about the checklist. Checklists dont work & you should remove them. You should love the person from their imperfections & work things out. You guys are an inspiration to all of us. Love you guys Aaron & Jonathan 🥰🏳️‍🌈

[@SuperMitch29]

you guys are fantastic, My Boyfriend and I have been together for 20 years. We met when we were 20, He's my best friend 100%. I love watching your videos, It's nice to have some relatable couples as role models.

[@tstieber]

I love reading comments liked yours. My husband and I have been together forever too, and we're also best friends. We're just playful and funny and flirty with each other all day,. We wish that for everyone, and it's rare to see among any couples, gay or straight, so I just love knowing other people experience the same happiness

[@SuperMitch29]

@@tstieber Definitely, it's very rare to find your best friend and life partner.

[@hotincocoa]

To many gay men search their hearts out looking for mister right but when you give up looking mister right will happen. My husband and I met 28 years ago and dated for three months then I moved in with him and in the first month it almost ended but I just sat and waited and now we are married. Communication is a huge part too. we have been married 8 years as of July 26, 2022.

[@jethrojackson2524]

Dudes, you two have something VERY special together. Just know, you make many gay people feel good about themselves. And I thank you from deep inside me. Love you.

[@storm6158]

May 2023, will be 40 years. You guys are adorable 😍 Thanks for sharing 👍

[@SomeRandomGuy12x]

Someone earlier said you two were a joy to behold. I agree. It's the joy of living, the joy of being yourselves, of being together.

[@brentbraniff]

I see married guys and I think it's light years away from my experience. I grew up in a time where the idea of being with a guy was pure fantasy. I would dream about it but deep down I knew it would probably never be. And lo and behold, that's what happened. I know...never say never...but I've had to face the fact that I will more than likely never have the experience you and so many other couples have. One more thing in the regret bucket. On the other hand, it's great to see what is possible for younger gay people.

[@tstieber]

@@Vivek-nh1vh yes it's important for those of us who live in a free society to remember how lucky we are and how important it is to defend that. I hope your corner of the world gets better and better

[@tstieber]

I'm sorry marriage wasn't in the cards for you but honestly, we know tons of people, gay and straight, who either never married or who did marry but got divorced. It's unfortunately more common than happily ever after, so count your blessings. It's way better to be single than in a bad or mediocre relationship.

[@johnpacheco3291]

Funny I know you grew up in SoCal, so did I went to the school with Buccaneer mascot nearby. Of course many years before you. Lol

[@delibakerytravel]

You Guys Are So Sweet And Fabulous, At 60 plus,😪 I am so jealous. Don't ever leave us. Greetings From San Diego.🌴 Have a Wonderful Holiday Season.🎄

[@dramonmaster222]

You two are just so sweet together. It's always fun watching your videos. And Thanks for sharing your lives and giving advice to help others in their relationship journey.

[@ryanblack3757]

Right now somewhere 2 ppl who will be together forever are meeting for the first time. It's so great to see a couple who's ebb and flow is so natural and easy. Mine is on the rocks!

[@tourtheworldwithbrandon4763]

I agree my husband is my soulmate and best friend. I can't imagine him not there every day. ❤❤

[@AMJDG]

I've been married for over 28 years and can say that I am still in love with the woman of my dreams. Nothing is ever perfect but we work for each other, dealing with issues that exist with all people. Do we annoy each other at times? Of course. Do we have times when we would rather not deal with each other? Of course. But, after all these years together we know when it is time to take a little time for ourselves - while enjoying each other the rest of the time. I'm sure it is that way for most couples no matter if it's man and woman, man and man or woman and woman...

[@kwimberly007]

I love you guys, peace and love. ❤️ ✌️😊

[@jeffmatlock7143]

I don’t think that Jonathan wanted Aaron to be a doctor. He just wants to play doctor.

[@quintonejantjies680]

I believe that for a relationship to be successful, there must be a shared vision and shared core values. If you don't have those, then there won't be much to hold onto or build with once the romance has worn off. To the singles, for now, rather focus on facing your inner demons, clearing your mind and healing your heart so that you have less baggage to sabotage your next relationship with. Also, if you do this type of clearing you would have stilled the hunger (desperation) in your heart so much that you won't just grab anyone to avoid being alone.

[@ryanblack3757]

Excellent advice I needed to hear. I was single for an embarrassingly long period of time. I latched onto someone who isn't right for me at all. We have different morals and values. There were alarm bells from the beginning but I chose to ignore them. I can't believe I let him treat me like that and put up with what I put up with. I deserve and need better. Time to learn to love myself more and push forward.

[@quintonejantjies680]

@@ryanblack3757 it is beautiful and great that you learned from your past experiences and that you are able to identify your contribution to things not working out between you two. The thing is, you put up with, what you put up with, and what happened, happened. Realize that if you had a different mindset at the time, you would have handled things differently. So forgive yourself and promise yourself that you will take alarm bells more seriously in the future and then do that. Giving ourselves another chance to do things over or better is also self love; it shows how merciful we can be to ourselves.

[@fredsaint-onge7456]

My husband and I lived together for 20 years an have been married now for 5 years.

[@tstieber]

Yay! Mazel tov!

[@HilltopFarmHomestead]

You guys are adorable. Seriously, you have something special.

[@harrycowan5024]

You guys are awesome! Your videos really brighten my day. Thank so much!

[@John_Weiss]

The 3 most important things in any relationship are: Communication Communication, and don't forget Communication. My husband and I are going on 30 years together. The first 5 years were long distance. We've been legally married for 11+ years.

[@tstieber]

I can't believe you survived five years long distance. Mazel tov on thirty years (we're the same, and it's awesome). Wishing you a lifetime of happiness!

[@John_Weiss]

@@tstieber Thank You! 😁 It took a lot of communication. And tbh, we were also open during those 5 years. Kinda helped that hub has a voyeur streak and I didn't mind telling tales of my hookups 😉 But yeah, I'd always joke, "that's 35 on str8 years," to people.

[@himynameisnickolas]

You guys always brighten up my day.

[@dugald56]

You last if you work at it, listen to each other and compromise a bit. And forgive what you can’t compromise on. And LAUGH together. 45 years and counting.

[@barneylopez2513]

Wow,,45 years and counting,,Congratulations,,My Husband and I, 32 years and still counting

[@tstieber]

You guys have us beat! Thirty years here, and it keeps getting more fun every day. Congrats on finding true love! ❤️

[@dugald56]

@@tstieber It’s not a contest; just a great trip!

[@prismo769]

you both remind me of Sol and Robert from grace and frankie haha. you both are really cute i wish i could have a relationship like this with someone

[@LSuter]

You two are very inspiring and are a great example of true love and soul mates. Having common goals and interests helps too and you both have that with each other. 🙂

[@archanaaggarwal5825]

It’s a joy watching you guys together ❤

[@chrisk5651]

Wolverines are cool! The animals not necessarily the students at Jonathan’s high school. Monsoons are not hurricanes or cyclones - those are typhoons. Monsoons are seasonal winds and during the rainy season they bring rain but during the altering dry season they blow towards the sea keeping the rain clouds away. So kinda a lame mascot name.

[@LennyHarold]

" a billion? " lmaooo

[@gerardpritchard657]

You guys are so cute together... i hope to be with someone for 16 years someday!

[@valeriaassis1144]

I hope your marriage is great and that you live happily ever after ❤️❤️

[@malehlohonolomokhele8339]

Jonathan!!!!!!!!!!! So GORGEOUS, you're doing that Italian thing "aging like fine wine" my goodness. Luv you Aaron 😘

[@joseluisfernandez-blanco7498]

So glad for you! I haven't found mine. Of course, dating back at a time when it was illegal in this country, then going through the AIDS crisis, and always fighting for our rights, made it really difficult. Most of my friends, within the same age range, are single. And...ooops...my best friends are women, which...well, just leave it there. Love from the south 💛💛💛

[@randyharrison4065]

You guys are so cute together!! 🤩

[@mikemartinez8784]

Love you guys! My partner and I have been together for 15 years. We’re not married, but maybe one day. 😊 We also met online. We got to really know each other before we actually met face to face. I think a lot of couples rush into a relationship before really getting to know the other person. In our world of “instant” messaging and “real-time” posts, love takes its time. ❤

[@tstieber]

Taking your time builds a foundation of friendship, and that really anchors a relationship. I second that advice!

[@josecordero8741]

Great video. (8:40) “I’ll go get my doctorate tomorrow.” I love it. 🧑‍🎓 (8:57) Our stories are similar. My partner of 24yrs and I moved (kicked out) of our houses and found each other and moved into the smallest place. We had limited funds and having each other made us happy. (11:02) “Save some stuff for the therapist.” A Betterhelp sponsorship plug would have been perfect to insert. 😊 Be well. 💜

[@月風-m4h]

Make sure you love each other and can do anything for each other, because couples love each other enough, try to do it or you won't know the result,Love you guys, great couple,（I know that it is not easy for couples to live together, and many things need to be communicated and coordinated）

[@EphemeralProductions]

Both such cuties. ❤️❤️❤️

[@stephenhawkins1913]

We’d love to see and hear about your wedding , You suit each other so well

[@jameshadley7936]

Love you guys ❤️❤️❤️

[@johniii8147]

I agree 100% don't let roommate situation problems to become a big deal. My husband and I went through that first year we moved in with different habits. Stupid shit like you left your socks on the ground or a brush on the counter. Thanks to some therapy and great friends we moved beyond that nonsense. And yes we are best friends and love coming home to each other. We just had to get over stuff that really doesn't matter. He's a amazing cook but i always have to do the clean up. That's actually become one of bonds. Yeah he's a mess I'm the neat one etc. You just have to figure out a good way to deal with each other on the daily.

[@bryangagel433]

Watching you both makes me so happy. Still looking for Mr. Right. You guys both found that.

[@Js2Jo]

Aaron and Jonathan, I can't believe you're both talking about your marriage is so hard on this video, but it's very important to do that, so I'm proud of you, guys, thanks to your other friends, Darren and Jason including your cat, Merlin and your dog, Bandit, I know you're both miss your best friends, Adam and Bernardo so much, they're from their channel of Stepsof2Foreigners, you're both had a great friendship with them and you're both back in Portland, Oregon from the start!!

[@DannyJ2206]

Aaron apparently wants a doctor and Jonathan says there is temptation and its a miracle... oooooo wheres the popcorn this is better than a soap opera hahahaha you guys are amazing

[@DAPortalatin]

Love you guys so much!!!! Thank you for sharing the real stuff with us! I hope to find someone one day but I definitely hope that they are my best friend too like you guys! Ya'll are seriously the best! Love ya!😀💞

[@roberthammer8890]

Hope you guys have a Happy Thanksgiving this Thursday Aarons and Jonathan.

[@bryangagel433]

Happy Thanksgiving to you all. God bless everyone

[@marcelinadapadap7868]

Love your relationship guys ❤️❤️❤️

[@kdexter2690]

Beautiful video Vote democrats to protect same sex marriage in the USA 🏳️‍🌈🇺🇸

[@bryangagel433]

Amen. I do. God bless the Lgbtq community

[@loom1c]

Cut the drama, save a marriage 👨‍❤️‍👨

[@john7027]

I have followed you from the beginning, bought all of your books, in all of your kickstarts, written you twice, complementing you both,and am disappointed you basically have ghosted me all of these years. The only reason I follow you now is that I enjoy your books, especially Jonathan’s books. This is the last time I will be writing so that you have more time for your favorites. I will be still be looking forward to both of yours books. Happy Thanksgiving 🦃!

[@tstieber]

Aw c'mon, you can't expect complete strangers to take up correspondence with you or anyone, they're busy and have a real life and need to earn a living. It's not personal.

[@rodburket4582]

Happy Thanksgiving Boi’s!

[@debbiedensham3583]

I love you guys, I’m feeling so down today and this video just made me laugh and feel better 💙

[@samuelwict]

Why couples are always looking alike , you guys look so alike

[@tstieber]

I think that's because whatever each of us finds attractive is what we're drawn to and also how we try to present ourselves. So we end up looking like what we want the other person to look like. I guess that doesn't work so well for straight couples though, until they're 80, then they become identical twins

[@Kevinmc66]

jonathan, where did aaron go between 6:16-6:19? happy native american heritage day! oh, and how is merlin?

[@royyork2546]

WONDERFULL, COUPLE,,LOVE YOUR SHOWS..SINCERELY, ROY LEONARDO, DUKE YORK 2ND...

[@pigpjy]

Love you all

[@queenbutterfly7519]

I love y'all so much 💗 you two just get cuter and cuter each video 🥰 the look on Jonathan's face when Aaron said billionaire 😍 😄 you two are relationship goals 💝 happy Thanksgiving and stay well 💗

[@Joel-lq5gl]

Aaron, you must be a doctor. You have given Jonathan so many physicals.

[@eddiemarcos6327]

Anyone else notice Aarons face from 06:10 - 06:22

[@sueh3649]

Hi it’s Twosday title had me scared but knew love would win out Always with you two great vlog Always make me laugh 👬

[@RobertLavalamp]

Great videos boys!!😊

[@bryangagel433]

Johnathon and Aaron. Happy Thanksgiving. God bless you both and Merlin and Bandit ❤🙏🐱🦮🐶🐕🐱🐈

[@darriontunstall3708]

Great marriage advice, I agree get rid of the check list, and marry your best friend, I can’t wait to find a husband that’s gonna help me with my cerebral palsy! I’m 32, communication is good in a marriage too! I love y’all much! Y’all are my boys! Happy early thanksgiving!

[@johniii8147]

I've already said this, but you're setting up yourself for failure looking for someone to help you deal with your issue. Sucks I'm sure to have CP, but you don't get a good relationship looking for a caretaker. If you need help you will have to pay for that.

[@tstieber]

@@johniii8147 that's a good point. I will say though, my husband has Cystic Fibrosis, which is not a mobility issue obviously but a chronic health issue nevertheless, and when you love someone, you do take care of them when they need you, it's just understood. But I agree with your point, it's not a premise for a relationship.

[@johniii8147]

@@tstieber Yeah agreed. You take care of those you love ( well good people anyway). But looking for a partner on the premise of someone to take care of you is an entirely different thing. That's a care takerer not your partner.

[@rickwalter8032]

You make me so jealous like you boys

[@AvronChristopher]

Been watching you guys for a few months and have to say you are the cutest most fun gay couple I have ever seen. I take that back. Cutest couple I have ever seen. Yeah you are gay but I haven't seen a straight couple so cute and perfect for each other. Always look forward to your Tuesday videos. I'm a confirmed bachelor unless I find someone I could get along as well with as you two do. You give us hope that it does exist.

[@tstieber]

Good for you -- don't waste your time on a so-so relationship, better to be single than that. Hold out for true compatibility.

[@michaelmurphy5916]

Love you guys.

[@kellydulin3796]

Love you guys too and have a happy thanksgiving 🦃🍽

[@gregorioeduardo]

That was a good question, where is Merlin?

[@gebuhay]

Great video… by the way…. HOWS MERLIN?? Lol hugs to you both

[@jamesjr2006]

😅 Y'all finding each other back when MySpace was hot was kinda cute! 🥰😂😄 I think finding somebody who knows you better than you know yourself and still wants to be with you through all your BS is a beautiful thing. Me and my guy met on Facebook, and I immediately started thinking he was up to no good. 😔I was at a point where I didn't want anything to do with anybody, and I shut myself off from allowing myself to feel. 🤷🏻‍♂️ After about three months, I gave in and took a chance on him, and to say it was a slow process would be an understatement. We DEFINITELY have our ups and downs, too, and no matter how much we get on each other's nerves, we still love each other. 🏳️‍🌈🥰🥹🥲😄

[@VivaSuga]

That's lovely, I'm glad you're both happy together 😊

[@tstieber]

Taking it slow is good, keep focusing on making each other happy, and you'll keep going in the right direction!

[@shawnkelley3695]

Aaron and Jonathan, Happy Thanksgiving ♥️🔥

[@scottsaunders5087]

Ok thinking ahead what will you do for your 500th vlog !🤔

[@RBS_]

***HEY, HUBBIES!!*** ...y'know, between "StepsOf2Foreigners" and "H&H", It's interesting to see the (late-30's) shifting(s) of both Couples' relationships, deepening into settled, Married UNIONS, and still keeping the Love alive...(CONT.) ...Sir Adam & 'Nardo are finding the trust within themselves, to blossom their union, while H&H keep the FRIENDSHIP alive, to be true to THEIR union....and, BOTH couples are 'seasoning' quite nicely...Aaron's thighs are DIVINE (amongst other 'things' 2:01), & Johnathan's facial features are maturing, to be One DEVASTATING, Handsome Man.... ...So, stay blessed, that you BEAT the Odds...Paddle INCLUDED!! (1:31) ..ha-HAA!! ..Toodles!

[@stevendanielsteven264]

❤🏳‍🌈👑🎀

[@chrisproctor2726]

Guys love your videos every week ❤️ love to you both❤️ and Happy Thanksgiving for Thursday guys 🦃

[@jacinthebeauregard4253]

Vous semblez être en symbiose, c’est important, je vous souhaite longue vie ensemble

[@turkandeniz3593]

merhaba sizi cok seviyorum bir ömür hep birlikte kalın cok yakisıyosunuz size büyuk saygi duyuyorum❤

[@StarkidPhil]

I like how Aaron looks like a floating head

[@alextorrio3557]

I wish this video was made sooner than later and maybe I could have changed things in my relationship. After 12 years my boyfriend and I decided to separate from each other. I want him back in my life so bad cause I can’t see myself without him. I don’t know how to tell him that without him thinking I can’t do things without him.

[@DemonsSister]

Anyone else enjoy these videos and then find yourself insanely jealous? Of course, the comments from giddily happy guys only make it worse. 😕🥺😭 One of the best days in this country that made this chick proud to be American was the day gay marriage became law. LONG OVERDUE!

[@annanogueira6117]

💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜

[@dylanbuchman8128]

4:16 hot 🤣🤣🤣

[@jeffmatlock7143]

Omg Jon is a groomer? 😂

[@igisim]

👍🌞💯❤❤❤

[@SebastienFortin07]

So Aaron is not his real first name?

[@dashone15]

That's the first thing I was thinking? I wonder why his name is a secret?

[@SebastienFortin07]

@@dashone15 it's quite odd.

[@tstieber]

They've talked about that before, I think Aaron might have been his middle name, and his first name was super embarrassing or something. It's not that weird. Both my grandmothers went by their middle names for the same reason. Funny thing though, one of their middle names was the other one's first name. I actually don't care for my middle name and will probably change that one day. It's just a name

[@patryksalemsteam5984]

# Poland forever

[@kenyadarobinson9138]

👨‍❤️‍👨🌈

[@paulhall9817]

sorry guys, i hit the thumbs down by mistake, then switched to thumbs up..........sorry

[@EfHaichDee]

First of all, where tf was Merlin in this video? No. This is unacceptable guys. Seriously. Anyway, I realised since the previous video that I am an idiot and all your books are available as e-books on amazon. I'm a little wary of buying stuff off amazon because I wonder how much people are being ripped off when they sell their stuff on such a big powerful platform like that, so do you guys get a fair percentage? If not, I'll buy the physical books but I'm trying really hard to avoid that. My library is becoming sentient I'm sure of it. Finally, this was an awesome video (like any of them aren't), but I have to say you guys have been *extremely* lucky. I've been doing all of the things you advised for years (standards? checklist? I'm considering homeless ex-con junkies at this point - I wish that were an exaggeration), I make reasonably good money, I'm smart, educated, reasonably attractive (nobody runs away scared, and I don't have that much trouble getting hookups), I'm a warm, decent, non-judgemental, kind person - but *still* single. I honestly have no idea what more I can possibly do but keep working on myself and waiting. Maybe some of us have to wait until we're too old to enjoy being in love to finally find it?

[@tstieber]

Life is part effort and part dumb luck. Whatever comes your way, embrace all the blessings and make life fun for yourself, and don't waste too much time dwelling on what-ifs. We know tons of happy unmarried people. There's no pressure to be married or not.

[@EfHaichDee]

@@tstieber No one is dwelling, I just wanted to point out that there is a very real luck hurdle that needs to be surmounted over which you have no control.

[@alexanderhunter6034]

🤔 Promo SM!!!

[@brentbraniff]

I see married guys and I think it's light years away from my experience. I grew up in a time where the idea of being with a guy was pure fantasy. I would dream about it but deep down I knew it would probably never be. And lo and behold, that's what happened. I know...never say never...but I've had to face the fact that I will more than likely never have the experience you and so many other couples have. One more thing in the regret bucket. On the other hand, it's great to see what is possible for younger gay people.

[@dannyrowland9805]

Love you guys.