I agree, Alex! Also, I think that people, (me) put their kids first and made them something in order to ease the discomfort of the unhealthy relationship with their spouse. You know? That was me, 100% I also did that out of fear of my kids feeling rejection like I had felt my entire life. I gave my life back to Christ in 2020 and I can see ALL of my missteps so plainly now. I was operating out of a spirit of rejection, which I am now healed from. Praise the Lord! Anyway, it all goes back to God HAS to be number one in our lives 🙌🏻❤