Married To The Law | E1: Social Media Videos, School Safety, and Night Terrors

[@aguy9602]

Long form video! I love them! Also, they straight up look like a movie couple.

[@MikeRafiLawyer]

Like a romcom where the boring guy gets the out of his league girl. I’m not Freddy Prince Jr.

[@aguy9602]

@MikeRafiLawyer Don't downplay yourself Mike. That beard is treating you very well.

[@danielkirienko1701]

I love how this turned into Ashley's podcast. LOL.

[@MikeRafiLawyer]

As it should.

[@xtheory]

Your wife is a fantastic and lovely addition to the podcast. Really interesting takes on so many relevant topics!

[@oxthemoron]

This is refreshing. It’s a good conversation between the two of you as a couple, but the discussion of the reality of preparing for school shootings between a lawyer and a teacher is a calm look at a problem that’s thrown around on the news as a political issue. It’s not. Some problems we just need to fix, regardless of where one falls on the spectrum or identifies politically. Safe schools should be table stakes for a society.

[@saraaaf]

21:48 when I was 7 years old my father was shot in the head, in his front right temple, while at work. He lived and took great care of me but he was never the same man after that incident happened. I lost the man that was my daddy and was left with just a dad. He still took care of me but the joyful goofy aspects of him were gone, they were taken along with his memory, his ability to process stress and hard emotions, his ability to work and fend for himself and a whole host of other things which were replaced which dementia ptsd drug/alcohol addiction anger issues etc. Despite that happening, I still believe we all have a right to own firearms, but it needs to be taken as seriously as it is. You own an item that can mutilate someone for life in a matter of seconds, that's not something to flaunt or take lightly.

[@jew9479]

I'm loving these long form videos Mr Rafi

[@MikeRafiLawyer]

Thanks

[@russellgrant9951]

What a great video! You guys are hilarious! Being from the east coast of Canada, many evenings are just spent sitting at the table, having a cup tea (or something stronger), chatting and telling stories. You guys would fit in like an old sock (which is a very high compliment). Not because your stories are so funny, which they are, but because they are real and relatable. You just seem like good people and it’s refreshing.

[@MikeRafiLawyer]

Old sock… let’s go with old bottle of wine.

[@jagriffin1]

Both of yall are amazing- please make more!!

[@MikeRafiLawyer]

Next Wednesday

[@missknight9]

I loved this. KZbin needs to promote these long form of yours as much as your shorts 💛

[@jameswilson516]

First, I wanna say I loved this. Couldve listened for hours. Your wife definitely completes you. Second, No matter your stance on guns this is something i hope every parent teaches their kids this. My parents made me take gun safety courses before they let me have a gun at 12. First thing we got taught. Only take life to preserve life. I then had to take a required hunting boating safety course was told the same thing. If you shootit make sure you eat it or you feared for life. Military, make damn sure its them or us. They no longer teach that. Life is the biggest blessing on earth. Appreciate it, and i promise you if i ever pull a trigger its to preserve life by either protecting myself or somebody else or to feed my family and i have taught my children this and poundit into them even though they never touched a gun.

[@DaytonCannon-z7m]

The production quality just keeps going up

[@cindydepoule3065]

Love the long form video! So fun! I could never figure out why they are called night terrors, since they're not usually scary. My son has night terrors, just talking usually that doesn't make sense in the middle of the night, and I used to try to explain and overexplain to him what was happening, that he was confused and not awake, etc.... and the next day he wouldn't remember anything. It didn't take long for me to realize I could "solve" his issue and we would be done faster and back to bed... IE: If he said there was a fire, I would just say - Yes, I'm putting it out, don't worry - I got this and he would go right back to sleep! He just needed to know that he didn't have to worry, someone was taking care of it!

[@BeasleyFarmsAR]

Wish I could get my husband to do videos. He's so good and funny, he's just SO SHY... until he's in the courtroom. BTW, someone explain that to me!! This is GREAT! I'm a Real Estate Agent married to an attorney. It's crazy town ALL the time. Really love your vids!

[@creez1]

Great pod! You guys fun, I love your law shorts but this is a nice glimpse into the real Mike! And Ashley (the real star)!

[@jeanjaz]

Great podcast! Fun to meet your beautiful wife.

[@OraeviaYT]

I don’t understand legal stuff but the way you present your content has had me coming back constantly. One suggestion for the podcast: instead of just “episode #” make a title related to a discussion in the podcast that you feel will grab the attention of some people more on the fence about podcasts (me, I’m the one on the fence when it comes to podcasts)

[@tä̇̃]

Dude these aren't night terrors, that's underselling these. This is some next level stuff dude

[@andrewbreiter-wu]

Your wife definitely complements you, I hope this podcast series continues.

[@MikeRafiLawyer]

Episode two out now. New one every Wednesday. Thanks for watching.

[@andrewbreiter-wu]

@ Keep up the great work!

[@arios-redner5665]

This was so good. I really enjoyed this format. Keep up the good work y’all!

[@Doug-n1p]

I enjoy your genuine & approachable affect

[@chucknewman7076]

Perfectly done!!!

[@Ryan-qk9sw]

You are batting up my friend

[@MikeRafiLawyer]

Agree

[@marcusrobinson1778]

He is aging well. His first videos he looks like a little nerdy kid

[@harrysinclair1852]

@@MikeRafiLawyeras a Brit your (America as a whole not you specifically) attitude to guns is wild I don’t understand why you have so many guns it seems mad that there’s so many in your country with random people. Having so many guns and so little regulations is insane(I also live near an RAF base so I am used to see guards with guns)

[@JustinUrHead]

Love the podcasts, keep it up!

[@josephzarychta5812]

Very enjoyable and interesting conversation!

[@kgaming5427]

“With your night terrors “ 🤣🤣🤣

[@j.d.-alawyerexplains5064]

Punching above your weight class Mike. Great video.

[@MikeRafiLawyer]

Shhh don’t tell her

[@j.d.-alawyerexplains5064]

@ your secret is safe with me.

[@danielkirienko1701]

You should look up night terrors. These sorts of somnambulism are definitely associated with night terrors. There's nothing to be ashamed of.

[@MikeRafiLawyer]

Don’t need to look them up. I live them haha

[@naerbo19]

@@MikeRafiLawyer You do know that as you specialise in your field, personal injury case lawyering, there are sleep doctors who might become invested in your sleep quality. I see that it spices up your everyday life with action, raised pulse and possibly sweat, but if it impedes your life you might want to consider it. Have an otherwise fantastic day, and next week too!

[@remotecontrolledchaos]

Such a lovely couple, yall complement each other so nicely! 🥰 And I have to say I’m a total hermit myself so I get it when you say you never wanna leave the house 😂

[@tiagoramalhais5493]

Love this series of long videos, most people don't have the attention span to watch them but i find time flies when i watch them, you are both so engaging. PS: You know you live in a 3rd world country when you have to worry about guns at schools.

[@MikeRafiLawyer]

Thanks for watching

[@matthightower1570]

That is the best motto I believe I've ever heard.

[@roryregina]

Nicely done. Enjoyed this.

[@alirae3663]

What a gorgeous couple!! Seems like a great personality match as well!

[@jacobside2656]

1) I'd never call anyone outside business hours 2) I had a housemate that sleepwalked and she slept basically naked. 3) There was a time when gun safety was taught in every school. we need to go back to that. There a lot taht was taught in school that needs to be brought back. Basic financial literacy is one

[@gmoney9992]

Love your videos! Keep up the great work!

[@MikeRafiLawyer]

Thank you!

[@womacks8675309]

looking forward to Episode #2

[@trig]

As a married Lawyer whats your opinion of Prenups? From Male and Female perspective.

[@MikeRafiLawyer]

Not sure I have an opinion. Maybe we will talk about that on a future podcast.

[@Jeslik]

based on that story about your mom and figure skating during a sleep-over, i'll bet you'd been active-dreaming long before that. She reacted beautifully - didn't break the scene, didn't freak out, just checked on her baby and let it play out.

[@CobisTaba]

As a European the casual sentence “it was not a full lockdown, there are levels” is absurd…

[@crackerjack010101]

Legit reason not to have a gun. I’d like to think that sleep Mike/night terror Mike wouldn’t be able to access a safe but truly there’s no way to know. Also, if you decide to bring a gun into the home, perhaps only she should have the combo. That would protect from the night concerns. It wouldn’t help if he were home without her and one were needed. But you don’t have one now so maybe that wouldn’t matter. Idk

[@PromotionalNetworking]

You guys are adorable!!!!

[@MikeRafiLawyer]

Her > me

[@PromotionalNetworking]

@MikeRafiLawyer You are both adorable. And likely not susceptible to police misconduct with eachothers knowledge and support. The kids are very adorable as well, congratulations on safeguarding your family well.

[@jewelsbarbie]

Loved this podcast! Your wife is lovely. Can you please enable closed captions on these long form videos? Thank you!

[@MikeRafiLawyer]

Will work on it.

[@therevoman]

I really want the two of you to record a discussion about the video of the mom who's 10 year old went to the store.

[@RruinerR]

I'm a type 1 Diabetic and have had similar night episodes when my bloodsugar gets very low during sleeping. This is because I took more insulin then needed for whatever I had eaten for dinner, etc. Curious of youre having a hypoglycemic event. Just a thought. I am 100% not a Dr.

[@GeorgiaOutdoorGuy]

I will get my dogs barking to get off the phone!! "sorry I need to feed my dogs, so will talk to you later"

[@MikeRafiLawyer]

Adding that to my list

[@yosefweiss54]

I have one question, personal jurisdiction, and a franchise company, where would you file a lawsuit? If a company runs through the Internet, where would you file the lawsuit?

[@Macgolden10]

fire more podcast

[@tavaunhinds5188]

Bro scored a baddie

[@winglessrayven4294]

I'm a school custodian in a school in Michigan and I'm also a military vet. You don't want teachers having guns, killing someone is something you don't want to put on someone who educates your kids. Also, there are tons of precautions we have in our school to keep a person out, but they can only do so much to stop someone trying to get in. I agree we need stricter gun laws, I know people who own 50+ guns, a single person doesn't need that many guns.

[@GALAXIE262]

Mike, watch what you eat before bed, certain foods can make sleeping walking worse or trigger it. Look up Celina spooky boo videos on sleep walking.

[@AshleyRafi]

I love her videos! I haven’t figured out how to record and capitalize on his night terrors yet. 😂

[@marcusrobinson1778]

They are called hypnagogic hallucinations. I get them too.

[@Applecompuser]

Let work calls go to VM after a certain time.

[@maasvanloon5604]

18:25 How are you so casual about practising for this? it sounds horrifying.

[@thatjeff7550]

So lawyer and teacher. Hmmmm.... How about a podcast on the legal hurdles teachers go through to be certified? I seem to recall a decade or two ago, the Atlanta school board was rocked by a scandal where teachers were filling in test answers for children because their tenure was tied to student passing rates. Might be something to cover. What else? How about what kind of education hurdles lawyers go through to become a lawyer? I know it's more than LOTS of reading. I seem to recall lawyers are expected to pick up the etiquette of the court by attending court and watching. I never thought that was a good idea because what if the lawyers you're watching that day are doing something wrong? How about what parents need to know about their child's legal rights in school? Just spitballing here. As for gun rights, I too am from the South and have been around various types of firearms. While I like shooting, I don't own a sidearm because I know I'll do something stupid. For that reason, I believe that obtaining a license for owning a firearm should be a little more rigorous. Here in TN, a friend of mine told me his instruction was merely, "Treat every gun as if it was loaded, don't point it at anything you don't intend to shoot, and if you shoot be sure to check what's behind your target. NOW LET'S GET OUT THERE AND SHOOT SOME TARGETS!!!" and that was about it. To be fair, another friend told me her experience and it was more aligned with how I thought it should go so the message here is I think gun safety courses/registration classes should be uniform.

[@Sympatico4u]

I really enjoy these podcasts. To the folks in comments that are horrified at how casually it appears Americans discuss lockdowns, degrees of lockdowns, there is probably very little casualness in that topic. I was born in the 1950's, our version of this was practising drills for being bombed from threat of war. I suspect children of Europe had to do the same during WWII years. My kids discuss this issue with me as their children will be in schools in a few years. We all know something is broken in this country, somehow it became acceptable to be violent and harm others because your own life was a mess. Used to be kids and parents would be ashamed of violent behavior, would move from a town to start new somewhere else. Cannot do that with the internet. I am not smart enough to have the answers, I really wish I was. I sincerely hope that folks who are horrified by this reality will offer a solution, a way to fix people who are broken. We can start with better mental health care, but first you need people to be willing to even see they need help and then seek it. This is not a simple problem with a simple solution.

[@compunurse]

I am pretty sure that you have outkicked your coverage.

[@MikeRafiLawyer]

Amen

[@DoctorWho14615]

The next night terror Mike is going to have is doing a podcast episode with his wife again and being embarrassed even more.

[@MikeRafiLawyer]

Shhhh. She’s lying next to me now. Stay tuned for next week.

[@lilnbigman]

Mike No CC on video 😔

[@xdrachel]

My children were born in Atlanta. So grateful we ended up moving to Canada. Cannot imagine sending my kids to school knowing gun violence is so likely. There is just no need for people to have guns.

[@smallbluechicken6818]

Great video, thanks! 1. Guns. I have never been more grateful that I live in Canada than I am these days. 2. Night terrors? Nope, waking dreams and it is really a cool thing, scientifically. Some of your brain comes awake, powers up if you will, but some circuits DON'T. Those parts that haven't powered up yet, dream stuff. The parts of your brain that HAVE powered up let you see and here and move about. And the two get mashed together and you experience both at the SAME TIME, so you have a waking dream. It is why you are often somewhat aware of what you have been up to while wake dreaming. Then something triggers it, or it just happens naturally, those sleeping circuits power up and come on line, bringing you fully awake and wondering why you are standing on the coffee table 🙂

[@susanheld]

ALL of the research agrees that having a gun in your home is more likely to harm your family than to protect them. Keep your family safe. Keep guns away.

[@SomeoneOnlyWeKnow.]

Watching as a non-American, the discussion about safety at school is so f***ing bleak.

[@borabora4480]

I suggest you research guns in schools during the founding. YOUNG children were not allowed to bring guns, but teachers were expected to. In locus parents. Older students can bring guns. Regulating for safety in the home by a parent is very different from government regulations. Experience with hunting guns is very different than self defense experience. Sleep Mike has no business around firearms. Awake Mike should consider personal training around firearms for self- defense, even if you would never conceal carry. Buy a firearm and teach everyone safety but lock it up away from Mike for sure. When the kids are older, they can have access, but never sleep Mike. My son's K-12 school (Denver metro area) had armed teachers who went through more training than police. It worked out great. Mike's concerns with firearms are like fear of flying.

[@CatrionaCharles]

So with the nighttime illustrated animated movies *cough* when you realise that the scenario isnt real, are you awake at that point?

[@ribbke]

Shoulda called it “legally married” lol

[@MikeRafiLawyer]

Ashley actually suggested that. We struggled with a name. I was on team no name.

[@compunurse]

OK. What kind of dogs?

[@MikeRafiLawyer]

Check out my latest short.

[@compunurse]

@ And by the way, you aren’t lying about the 1/8th slice of the bed. The other night my wife said, “can you scoot over a little more?” So I got up.

[@aguy9602]

18:50 it's absolutely wild that a child has to even consider these things in their daily life. They should be being taught not to eat rocks, not hiding from an active shooter. The fact that there is place where fearing for your life has to be taught so early is saddening.

[@djbray7]

Yeah. Guns laws have stayed the same the last 60 years but we've had a sudden uptick in shootings. I wonder what changed?

[@mattgilson1405]

@@djbray7 Sudden? Columbine was 25 years ago

[@hot_sauce_jake]

@@mattgilson1405 Around the same time as Gun-Free School Zones in 1990 and 1994

[@billalberkerky7069]

​@hot_sauce_jake Are you trying to imply that labeling a school as gun-free magically caused school shootings to happen?

[@hot_sauce_jake]

@@billalberkerky7069 no I'm not suggesting causation, merely correlation. There was a time when kids brought guns to school because they had a class with them, or were hunting early in the morning. If I had to point out causation, I'd say mental health decline, or a shift in culture. Look at cities with the strictest gun laws and gun violence vs cities without strict gun laws. It's not the guns themselves. Therefore, removing guns (from teachers or authorities) makes for an easy target in gun-free zones for someone with ill intentions. What the media doesn't report, because it's not sensational, is the number of shootings that were stopped by armed civilians - which is close to 40% - and 60% if you exclude gun free zones. We've had a decline in culture.

[@ShadoYuri]

Just call sleep walking dude 😂. Not a big deal

[@nicorosch3188]

It is so terrible to hear your kid talk about the lockdown practice

[@GH-bi2uz]

Nothing to do with this video, but how is making videos on YT not currently or how won't it become a conflict of interests? Think about it, people who are on these apps become essentially celebrites in a way. If you were a fan of Mike or say, Ugo Lord, would you not be able to be more easily persuaded by them? There would definately be some bias if I saw Mike as a juror, becuase he ceases being some D***head in a suit and becomes someome I feel like I know, especially after watching a video like this.

[@MikeRafiLawyer]

Liking a lawyer is not “unfair” bias. If a juror can’t / won’t follow the law or doesn’t start the 2 sides off evenly… that’s when they can’t be a juror on that case.

[@lucashenry6281]

We protect banks and politicians with good guys armed with guns, but that’s too dangerous for kids. It’s not because the government cares about kids, it’s about control.

[@MikeRafiLawyer]

The government does not protect banks. They are private institutions protected by themselves… just like jewelry stores with armed guards. The scary thought is that schools are now targets, like banks and jewelry stores.

[@lucashenry6281]

@ except no one is being slaughtered at banks and jewelry stores. Keeping vulnerable people vulnerable ensures a very predictable outcome.

[@eddie1975utube]

Cute.

[@MariaSmith-vy4hn]

19:15

[@simeonsnow6742]

You should get on BlueSky! Would love to see more of your takes

[@henrycollins2478]

What’s bluesky

[@simeonsnow6742]

@henrycollins2478 It's a much more customizable version of Twitter that's really taking off these days.

[@dsjadenvarghese5157]

@@henrycollins2478its a new competitor of twitter

[@henrycollins2478]

@ the sequel is never better than the original

[@dsjadenvarghese5157]

@@henrycollins2478 untrue, the dark knight is vastly superior that batman begins