Marrying Early

Pastor Kingsley addresses the issue of marrying on time within a certain age range as a man and how it affects you as a lady.
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[@sylviakelechi7698]

I married at 22 and my husband was 32 then. We are happy, we are 13 years in marriage now. Life has no rule, I just recommend praying for your God destined partner.

[@nikhefe16]

Oh, how nice! I totally agree to submit the process to the Lord, but it is also safe to save that you are the exception and not the rule. The exception glorifies Him, but I strongly believe closeness in age to relate and do good work will be more people's portion.

[@remilekuntoluwani3450]

Indeed so it has always been sweet and rosy, u won't talk about the generational differences u both had to adjust to and I am sure it is even u that adjusted

[@sylviakelechi7698]

@@remilekuntoluwani3450 I don’t want to be personal with your reply but I will let you know that peoples choices differs. I had always wanted a man that is that age gap older than me. I need a man I can respect and listen to, I married a friend, a brother, a father and my God ordained destiny helper. We had no age discrepancy issues. In fact it was easier for him to understand things with more matured mind than I do. Also remember age is just a number. I was just 22 then but my elder sisters who were 30th and above comes to me for advice. Wisdom is the gift of God.

[@oluwasusifaith2082]

This is beautiful. I love this. Please ma'am, were you donw the school by the time you got married?

[@sylviakelechi7698]

@@oluwasusifaith2082 We wedded after my B.Engr. graduation then I left for my NYSC few weeks after my wedding. My dear school continued for me 😀 In all humility and to the Glory of God, I have my double masters degree and a PhD all in Engineering here in the United States. We are blessed with three children. Marriage didn’t stop me from achieving my dream rather it helped us run faster and achieve set goals with ease. God Devine plan and discovering your destiny on time with God’s help is key

[@eyrampriscillacudjoe7007]

Married at 20 and my husband was 28 when we got married. We're now 30 and 38 now and were still good together ❤❤❤❤❤ God got us

[@bryanokezie4500]

❤😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 I just got married 1 week ago ..and sir ... I am already seeing the help and God's favor .. I am 32 and my wife is 31 .... We got what we needed....I love God joooor

[@paulzerina]

Marrying early (a good woman) as a man increases your speed. You get to achieve more and conquer much grounds in time.

[@HisPrincess_]

And visa verse ?

[@nikhefe16]

Which is exactly why men who do it end up in the top 5-10% of wealth. Look at all of these millionaires and billionaires. The signs were already there!

[@yvonnemakori9869]

The

[@chiokeozioma3251]

​@@nikhefe16Àql of

[@verokstore4699]

Not exactly true. If a man decides not to be distracted by anything, he will achieve those things. Marriage is financial responsibility if you are not ready for it don't do it. Marry when you are ready.

[@Avola735]

Ain’t nothing like marrying at God’s right time for His purpose. Being it 30, 50, 60 etc. There’s nothing like delay in God’s dictionary. So far as your waiting patiently on Him and obeying Him to get the best your are on the right path and not missing absolutely nothing. Trust me it’s always worth the wait n the best wine is reserved for the latter child of God. Don’t let anyone to put pressure on you to marry early because they did or feel it is the right thing to do. Your peace and mental sanity matters to God a lot to fulfill His purpose for you. Isaiah 60:23 when the time is right i the Lord will make it happen swiftly

[@shally_rose]

Lol. Young ladies can be wise and well mannered. I’m 23 and my husband is 32 and we’re happy.

[@joceital9592]

Exactly 😊 but it not all 😅

[@eddyeffy]

Don't say "I am well mannered" that's not your judgement to make. It's your husband's but all the same I pray that happiness would stand the test of time.

[@thedukeofyewaland]

Why y'all jealous of her. Go and marry your own na 🤷🏽‍♂️🙂

[@user-jf4vt6nb4m]

Married at 32, my wife was 28. If I could go back I'll be married at 24, we were friends all those year. Why would I delay the best thing that ever happened me, for so long. If someone had told me to get married at 24 though, I'd have cursed them out. So I understand when these guys don't hear, they'll get it later.

[@Jp_codes]

Hmmm

[@verokstore4699]

You are saying it because you married a good one. If your wife showed you wotowoto, you won't be saying this by now

[@user-jf4vt6nb4m]

@@verokstore4699 that's true but how old you are when you marry doesn't determine whether you'll get wotowoto or not.

[@WtfVidss]

Nice story… but at 24 did you have a source of income ? ( I don’t mean this offensively)

[@dimma2509]

We would appreciate a response to your take concerning source of income...

[@fitfanatic4928]

Married according to God will DONT RUSH

[@doreennassuuna857]

There's no standard formula to this. There are a lot of factors that would lead someone to decide to either marry early or late. We are living different lives and facing different waves. Marrying early doesnt guarantee a rosy future and Marrying late doesn't mean we'll have problems awaiting us . I think the best thing to pray for is getting a good person who will also be there no matter what.

[@feyiblend]

Pastors, thank you. You just busted my ego and blessed me with wisdom. God bless you.

[@victorgibaopauljohnny5347]

Every man wants to have a woman and marry as early as possible. The condition you mentioned severally "Good woman" "who would not stress you" is what makes the delay.

[@championstv8272]

I now understand why you elaborately explained a short clip briefly on Instagram even though what you posted what a short clip..

[@Geoffrey205]

Wonderful.... Knowledge is power

[@oluwatosinevelyn4165]

Planned to marry at age 25 buh here i am yet to be married and i am past that age. God is on my matter ,i am not shaken.

[@Global-voice]

Wonderful interested still learning

[@user-ku7gd1bu6s]

Thank God i came across these video

[@durosaroglory9222]

God bless you for this sir

[@Jenken297]

Pastor K, very raw

[@safianosani]

Pst K spoke powerfully about some grey areas i've been pondering on regarding singles in their late 30's & early 40's. Like PK said, one thing i've also observed with ladies who are financially stable and in their mid/late 30's is, they tend to prefer men who earn at a similar level with them or men who earn more. they tend to a bit suspicious or cautious when a suitor earns lesser than them.

[@neloannchineloann1422]

I feel it's God who brings people to their rightful partners, because I've heard a story of a man of 42 who married a young lady of 22 and they both lived happily, note it was not that the man was chasing women but because he tried getting married so many times but it didn't work ,after a prayer he made according to him God ask him to wait till he shows him whom to marry and meanwhile it was not his initial plan to marry a younger girl because of his age but because he was instructed by God so he had to obey. So I feel marriage is not by age especially when u are being directed by God.

[@Avola735]

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@StarlystarTv]

Good teaching

[@njabulompofu406]

Key word "good woman".

[@GodownJess]

Very true about the men looking to marry 10,7,5,3..yrs younger. So sad most of them end up sadly or with much complains..

[@Borkstar7]

“School fee is not bride price” 😂

[@sonofdodong]

Thank you sir

[@beautymaniabraidedwig7091]

Hello sir , please what about a lady that is 40years that is not married yet . What do you think

[@njumesnowl1328]

Work according to your plans. Follow your visions and dreams.

[@emmanuelhelen4181]

this is the key thing. well said.

[@adegokeoluwaferanmi1776]

Full message please

[@peterstouch8403]

marrying early is the best thing to do, because you will have time to have fun with your childrens, when you are about 40 or 50 years, you wont have enough energy to have fun with your children and you will have less memories with your children. so marry early and enjoy all your moments...and when you marry early you get attached to your partner more as you grow old together, but when you marry when you are old its a bit trick because you from having fun with other girls so for you to adjust it will take you some time... i have many reason to marry early but thats it for now

[@OgbukaChidi]

You are right

[@Avola735]

Hahahaha that’s so not true. My parent gave birth to us late and I have so much amazing memories I share with my friends. Even they who had younger parent don’t. Their parent were busy chasing money and never home. Pension babies were are so blessed and thank God for older fathers they are so sweet. I thank God my parent didn’t have us early coz it was such perfect time they brought us to the world not for us to go through unnecessary hustle

[@ebun_omolade]

​@@Avola735 thanks for your comment I will also add that children are blessings and gifts from God let us see them and treat them as such and priorities living a fulfilled personal life especially with our partners. It irks me when people talk about growing with their children and bla bla bla many atimes older parents raise children better in my not so long life experiences. So please marrying early because of kids isn't a good enough reason for marrying early or even getting married at all. Some married early and 10, 20 yrs into the marriage are childless. My prayer is that at the end of our lives we look back and in surrenderedness to God grateful that we fulfilled our God ordained purposes. Our concerns at old age is to be with our partners healthy and fine and our children managing their own lives too.

[@ugadewumi]

PK is so funny 😅 He said “it’s what Davido bought for Chioma she’s thinking”. PK will not kill somebody with laughter 😂😂

[@LoveSpeaks.]

😂😂😂

[@KeketsoN01]

I think it was so nice and refreshing to hear that YOU MUST DATE AND MARRY YOUR PEERS

[@sportingarenatv7495]

SIR I CAN RELATE WITH WHAT YOU ARE SAYING FROM EXPERIENCE A 23-YEAR-OLD LADY NOWADAYS IS NOT CONSIDERING OR PREPARING TO MARY IN FOUR OR FIVE YEARS SAYING SHE STILL AS TIME WHAT IS RESPONSIBLE FOR THIS? THANK YOU FOR SHARING.

[@laeloisecakesandevents819]

People marry when God gives them partners. Saying a lady is 42 and at child bearing risk sounds off. Some have married early without lids. It is God that gives kids. Abi should the ladies go and force themselves on men to marry them? A lot have married only to run out because of incompatibility.

[@Avola735]

This marry early thing from the church hmm the depression n desperation it’s causing the young ones errn. The mental stress they are going through after receiving the marriage? Lemme just end here.

[@laeloisecakesandevents819]

Nigerian pastors chant marry early. I keep saying the Bible is a very correct book. Have we ever sat down to ask why the ages weren't mentioned as to when Sarah married Abraham? What age did Mary get bethrothed to be married to Joseph? Esther to the King? Rebekkah to Isaac? Or at what age did Ruth remarry? I'm sure you understand me and all who will read my comments in years to come under this video. They only chant, marry early, so you born babies early. This is the desperation they preach on pulpit that is making ladies get pregnant once a man shows interest and leading to the rise of baby mamas and single moms now. The same people who preach about family unit should be careful not to make people do it wrongly. I watched a video of the same Pastor Mildred who married early saying she had delay in conceiving. Yet she married early abi? Abeg everybody has their timing and our times are in God's hand.

[@11Dreams]

@QueenEbach, but when she is older and unmarried, it may also lead to depression and desperation and even compromise e.g. getting pregnant while unmarried or having a baby for a married man. That is the thing.

[@janaleokesho8374]

Pregnancy risks become higher with age.its according to research and reports from doctors.They don't say one can't get pregnant or give birth

[@Avola735]

@@11Dreams compared to rushing into it wrongly and trade their peace n happiness for life or even get abused. The whole point is stay in tune with God n marry at God’s right timing regardless of your age whether 18 or 50. Don’t succumb to societal pressure. Early marriage is good when the time is right also late marriage is good when it’s the right time with God

[@ulrichassonzia4748]

Incredible talk

[@isaiahkumuyi5108]

That Facebook and Tik-Tok differentiation got me laughing hard. Choi!🤣🤣

[@stevongordon212]

Very informative.... However, it is quite a broad statement to make concerning marrying a younger woman. A younger woman, let's say 10 years, can have a mature mindset as a woman a little older. Also it is not every older man wanting to 'control' a younger woman, either. This is like painting a picture that does not fit all circumstances.

[@sportingarenatv7495]

SIR THIS IS MY SECOND QUUESTION FROM EXPERIENCE A LADY WHO IS OVER 30 YEARS WITHOUT MARRIAGE IN VIEW SHE IS TOO FOCUSED ON WORK I ALWAYS CALLED HER EXCEPT I ASKED TO CALL ME BEFORE I OPTED OUT BECAUSE IT WAS WAS ONE SIDED.I FEEL MATURITY IS WHAT IS MISSING AND SOME PARENTS ARE NOT TEACHING THEIR CHILDREN CORRECTLY.

[@ifeomaanyanwu7592]

U r right Sir

[@RutendoPreciousManyonganise]

How can we get the books

[@emyokalla3236]

But you didn't mention that the women go for older/richer guys and ignore their age mates when they are at their peak. Lets see things in both perspective.

[@ceeclariffcorner5896]

We are waiting for the Episode 2 of Just Us Girls Series

[@joceital9592]

It season 2 😅

[@ceeclariffcorner5896]

@@joceital9592 😂

[@Glo_Menz]

I think there shouldn’t be any age limits for ladies and gentlemen to marry but rather in their own right time. You meeting your right partner at 24 doesn’t mean it will work for everyone.

[@idachabameshach8833]

Please I need your advise, my fiancé is older than me by 4yrs. And she is also a Muslim. But she’s willing to convert to my religion. Please what should I do?

[@11Dreams]

We don’t like to hear these things but it’s *generally* true. This means that older couples (or couples where one partner is much older than them) do have great experiences as well. As long as you have some level of maturity, it is better to marry a good partner when you’re younger and have more options. It may be a little bit more complicated (but not impossible) when older- that is what Pst. Kingsley is saying and he is right. Having a 20-year old age gap can work. However, sometimes a woman who was quite young when married to a much older man, may feel the man cheated her out of her youth “when her eyes 👀 open”. What works for one person may not work for another but these are some things to keep in mind.

[@danieltosin4335]

There's no manual in relationship or marriage what works for A might not work for B... What if you are 24 or 21 and you are not mature for marriage 🙄

[@reimandmike7550]

MAARRING EARLY IS NOT THE ISSUE, BUT GETTING THE GOOD WOMAN IS THE ISSUE . THIS DAYS HAVING A GOOD WOMAN IS VERY VERY DIFFICULT

[@anitaadimas7357]

Are you a good man? Focus on being a good man first, you attract your kind.

[@ojukwuchiamakadeborah2783]

Good Evening. Pls how do we get those books for our uplifting. or is there a PDF stuff like that

[@QAwithPkPm]

You can get the books from our website www.LDMWITHPK.org

[@fabianokeke6366]

Men needs helpers. I had this notion of I have to do everything myself but seeing this now, changed everything Thank youuu

[@joceital9592]

No way you left in suspense on the just us girls series😢 that i keep checking if my notifications is on or not😅

[@joceital9592]

Regarding the video I agree to disagree, I am 12 years younger then my husband and you will be surprised how serious I am about my marriage but my husband still want and go to night clubs and has singles friends who are about that life . This get be true for other but not all 😊

[@rebeccadamilola7374]

I don checked tire

[@joceital9592]

​@@rebeccadamilola7374😂😂

[@therhema9728]

This man sabi this thing 😂😂

[@usunusun2691]

Good evening, How can I get your books Sir?

[@QAwithPkPm]

Go to www.ldmwithpk.org

[@christophernzima8335]

Everything has advantages and disadvantages, we all live different stories.

[@AhenePrince1]

Life has no rule. 😅😅😂😂

[@GoodDays-wh4fe]

Thank i really appreciate your words but it is never should be advisable for you to marry your age mate. just imagine God created man in everything like him(All His Dimension) how do you think men will feel and begin to move upon the earth surface>?

[@mordecaimusa2609]

School fees are not bride price😮

[@blessingmiracle8051]

I completely disagree with this message. It's better a man is matured both in age and in the mindset. You can't tell a man of 24to dive into marriage except he is matured enough for it, both in thinking and in attitude. Some of them lack respect and are insensitive. Same with some women. Let God lead you and not your own wisdom. You can Marry at any age of maturity, as long as you are capable and mentally stable to handle things. Just erring my own perspective on this topic.

[@samk6417]

You seam not to understand the message. He never said u should go ahead and marry early even when you’re not matured. He’s just referring to “not waiting for too long before marrying”. Because that has disadvantages

[@energeticmary-jane9405]

You may need to rewatch and get the message, you are misquoting... Listen he actually clarified what you are disagreeing with. Watch to learn, don't watch to disagree. ✌️

[@williamsokpu1010]

I don't think you actually watched this video, if you do, you'd understand better

[@thepraisearimoro]

Did you even watch the video?

[@lalasng8643]

As a woman in her very late 30s(almost 40) , I find this teaching a tad bit insensitive-calling an older woman "child bearing risk is not fun"...or laughing at her age, making jokes

[@user-vx3gy2ok8o]

How can I get a copy of pastor Kingsley

[@QAwithPkPm]

www.ldmwithpk.org

[@piliranichasukusa2296]

❤

[@Utibe-Abasi]

Can Nkechi still return his money after watching this video ?😭

[@tafarapaul]

24 is just too early😅

[@TenacityTrades]

Is it advisable to marry a lady older than you.

[@joanatorress2235]

Joke wisely, people are going through alot, minimise what you listen to on this internet, too many distractions

[@matildahcphiri2780]

I agree. Some people will miss it just cos of these jokes.

[@o_z_b]

Nonsense topics....in terms bible they even married as young as 12 years, and they had it good. As well as some old enough. So marry when your time is ready and not because someone tells you it's the right time or early is best. Lots of rubbish going on in this world, and lots of normalised divorce all over. Just marry to be happy. Society shouldn't determine your needs, wants and likes.

[@sanjahmichael3830]

Not in Ghanaian economy

[@richmondsarfo9806]

😂😂

[@uchennaeze3314]

😂school fees is not bride price

[@emmanuelsamuel2283]

School fees is not bride price...word The older you get the more tolerable you should be..worrd

[@okoronkwo.]

❤❤❤❤❤❤😂😂

[@thedukeofyewaland]

Yes, school fees is not bride price but by the time a girl is collecting all that, she better be ready to marry him. If not, she's a golddigger. What you won't eat, don't smell.

[@ruthmorgan2333]

Pastor K 😂😂😂😂😂

[@ataghomateddy2896]

I disagree with him.

[@niioboe]

These bloggers😂

[@prosperprogress4138]

Upon all the marital counselings, orientation etc, the worse marriages are found nowadays. Damn!!!!

[@biodunwisdom577]

Marry early at ur own peril in Nigeria economy

[@iuseyoutubealot]

lmAo

[@EgedeChinyereGoodness-sz2jx]

If a girl of 18years get married to 45years Man is it a good thing

[@abaowusu-biney7072]

no it is not, watch the video again!

[@michelleandrews3291]

A "girl" shouldn't be getting married in my opinion. Marriage is between mature people. A man and a woman. I understand age doesn't determine maturity but...

[@abaowusu-biney7072]

@@michelleandrews3291 this is a fact, at 18, marriage is not a big priority and definitely not to a 45 year old and not your agemate. I think if you do want to marry, ask yourself why can't I vibe with someone closer to my age. Why do I want a grown man who is very likely to groom you at that age

[@sophiaerhabor4424]

I don’t think it is. An 18 yr old girl doesn’t have the mental maturity to match a 45 yr old man. An 18 yr old girl doesn’t even know what to look for in a man for marriage.At that age,she shouldn’t have anything to do with a man 27 years older than her. She’s too young.

[@chukwuchizaram5064]

❤

[@championstv8272]

I now understand why you elaborately explained a short clip briefly on Instagram even though what you posted what a short clip..